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btw when a person tells you they usually don’t cum or have a hard time with it, pushing them to cum (“come on, baby, cum for me!” “are you close?” “i want to make you cum” etc) makes it less likely for them to cum and will in fact make them feel very pressured and have less fun because they now feel like you’re not going to have fun if they don’t cum.

the goal for sex isn’t to cum. the goal of sex is to enjoy yourselves. you can have fun without orgasms. orgasms are a bonus. stop treating sex like it’s not good enough if your partner doesn’t climax.

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the life of Remus Lupin is just so goddamn tragic

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ok but like… Dramione makes way more sense than Drarry and idc what anyone says. like yeah yeah enemies to lovers blah blah, but w/ dramione there’s actual room for character growth?? hermione would force draco to face his bs, and draco’s the type who needs that kind of intellectual/emotional check. it’s spicy and smart. plus, she wouldn’t let him get away w/ anything. not the blood purity stuff, not the fake bravado. and draco would have to grow the hell up to even deserve her. that dynamic is ripe for something meaningful. now drarry? nah. it’s just rivals and trauma-bonding vibes but like… where’s the actual connection?? harry barely pays attention to draco unless he’s doing something shady and draco is mostly just being annoying or petty. it’s not tension, it’s just background noise. also let’s be real, if draco wasn’t a pale sad boi with daddy issues, would people still ship it?? or is it just the redemption kink + gay enemies aesthetic combo. anyway, w/ dramione you get real conversations, moral tension, mutual challenge, and the chance for earned redemption. drarry is just vibes and no foundation lol.

Alright. No bellamort now. Dramione shippers can entertain me more than that Bellamort shipper.

First of all: yes, enemies to lovers is a tired trope unless it’s two traumatized, morally gray disaster boys staring at each other across a war they didn’t ask for, both one snide comment away from either a duel or a kiss. That’s not just enemies to lovers. That’s rivals with unresolved tension, layered resentment, and “I know you better than anyone because I’ve been obsessing over you since I was 11.” That’s intimacy through hatred. That’s poetry.

Drarry isn’t about “fixing” Draco — Harry’s not Hermione with her clipboard and her moral high ground. Harry is a deeply tired, complex person who’s been used as a weapon his whole life, and Draco is someone who’s spent years trying to prove himself in a system that ultimately used him too. These are two people with actual parallels in their trauma, their isolation, and their need for someone who sees past the masks. Hermione would therapize Draco. Harry would understand him, even if he doesn't forgive him immediately. There’s no savior complex. Just real, raw, “I see you because you’re broken in the same places I am” energy.

And don’t even get me started on the chemistry. Every scene they have is charged. There’s nothing background noise about it. Their eye contact could cause power outages. The obsession is mutual. The tension is practically radioactive. Even the “petty” moments are just foreplay. Like, who do you think was watching the other brood across the Great Hall like a gothic Victorian ghost with a crush? Yeah. That’s right.

And look. Yes. People love a good redemption kink. But Drarry isn’t just about Draco getting redeemed. It’s about Harry finding softness in unexpected places. It’s about letting go of the binary of hero vs. villain. It’s about nuance. Mutual healing. Mutual pining. Not to mention the insane amount of emotional repression that needs to be unpacked with a kiss and a half-accidental hand graze.

Meanwhile, Dramione? It's fine. But it’s giving...debate club romance. It’s giving “You should read this book I annotated for you.” Cute. Structured. But lacking the sheer feral energy of two boys who would rather fight to the death than admit they’re in love.

Drarry isn’t just vibes. It’s vibes backed by unspoken longing, years of built-up tension, and enough emotional repression to power the British Empire. That’s storytelling.

So yeah. Drarry supremacy. Dramione can proofread their essays while Drarry’s busy healing generational trauma and redefining masculinity. Let the sad boys smooch in peace.

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find a Taylor Swift Wolfstar playlist that isn’t just an atyd playlist challenge level fucking impossible

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trans!regulus x james makes me feel Feral

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nsfw?? tmi??

I know that exploring the BDSM community might be for me when I read The Bloody Chamber and yeah I’m disgusted by the old man…but ethically being collared by someone?? being a price or display for someone?? being used for someone else’s gain?? my heart is racing. anyways couldn’t say that in my class discussion so I’m dropping it here

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sue sylvester is a Byronic hero and I will not elaborate

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wait oh my god NO!!! Jegulus fic in which Regulus is the shadow and James is the sun fuck fuck fuck

The Lady of the House of Love except it’s a Wolfstar short in which Sirius is the lady and Remus is the traveler

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The Lady of the House of Love except it’s a Wolfstar short in which Sirius is the lady and Remus is the traveler

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I am 21 years old why am I kicking my feet and giggling over omega!remus nesting😭 I don’t even read a/b/o like that 😭😭😭

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tn I’m soppy over wpp all just deciding to take in remus

no tags just sop

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about 31 chapters into disintegration and DSTG sirius might just be my favorite sirius. ever. he handles remus and his mental health with so much grace and love it makes my heart ache

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yeah October 31st is hard for a marauders fan but no one talks about how painful remembering Christmas season 1981 is.

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sirius is definitely putting werewolf remus on the hear me out cake

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ok ok but he hit with: “you may fancy yourself safe and think yourself strong. But a chance tone of colour in a room or a morning sky, a particular perfume that you had once loved and that brings subtle memories with it, a line from a forgotten poem that you had come across again, a cadence from a piece of music that you had ceased to play— I tell, Dorian, that it is on things like these that our lives depend.”

this is so beautiful because truly it’s these little reminders of what it means to have lived, to be human, to experience love and happiness and joy that drive our lives, or at least a fulfilling one.

also: LH’s comparison of art and crime in the same chapter. Both art and crime truly are expressions of the human expression and “sensations.”

also: LH’s, “the books that the world calls immoral are books that show the world its own shame.”

the way this continues to be true even today. you see it in banned books and discourse surrounding what it’s okay to teach.

The switch in corruption levels between LH and DG are very interesting and very apparent in this chapter.

i was going to defend one of my positions on morality with one of Lord Henry’s and then realized perhaps that maybe I am wrong and also the problem

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yearning for 2010s pop culture so hard tonight

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the boggart scene in PoA really is the greatest scene in the entire series