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Why I Named My Starter Alpha-Hole

“I want to lay in a beanbag and eat snacks and cry over TV, and I don’t understand why that’s not a viable adult lifestyle.” –Samantha Irby, Meaty   My interpretation: Samantha Irby gets it. Sometimes “adulting” looks less like taxes & kale, & more like naming your sourdough starter after your ex so you can passive-aggressively punch gluten instead of people. Welcome to emotional regulation –…

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Things I Do Instead of Falling Apart (Usually)

✨Things I Do Instead of Falling Apart (Usually) “It’s okay to be the person who cries in the work bathroom. It’s okay to be the person who lies on the floor and lets the dog walk on your back like a bridge.” -Anne T. Donahue My Interpretation: I am not okay every day. & I do not always have time to fall apart properly. Not everything has to be healthy. Or profound. Or fucking graceful.…

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How Many Times Do I Have To Say No? - Trigger Warnings!! - Part 4 of 4

“No is a complete sentence.” – Anne Lamontt + “Anything other than a clear, enthusiastic yes is a no.” –Chanel Miller My Interpretation: You should not have to explain. You should not have to plead. You should not have to say it ten times or in a perfect tone. No is enough. & when it is ignored, it is not your failure – it is their choice. I did not know how many times I would have to say no…

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You Can’t Wash Off What Wasn’t Yours To Begin With - TRIGGER WARNINGS!! - Part 3 of 4

“You know there’s many different ways that you can kill the one you love. The slowest way is never loving them enough.” -Taylor Swift, High Infidelity My Interpretation: Not all harm looks like rage. Sometimes it is the slow, quiet kind – the kind that comes from being ignored, minimized, or used while someone claims to love you. The kind that lingers in your body long after it has happened.…

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Cast of This Chaos - Updated 6/4/25

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It Wasn’t Violent, But It Wasn’t Okay - Trigger Warnings! Part 2 of 4.

“Just because someone doesn’t hit you doesn’t mean they aren’t hurting you.” –Lundy Bancroft My interpretation: We have been taught to measure abuse in bruises. But harm does not always leave fingerprints. Sometimes, it shows up in silence, in control, in the way your boundaries are ignored with a smile. It still counts. It is still real. People are going to talk regardless of if they knew your…

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I Said No… He Did It Anyways - Trigger Warnings! - Part One of Four

“Consent isn’t just about saying yes. It’s about being heard when you say no.” – Chanel Miller My interpretation: You can say it out loud. You can say it with silence. You can say it with your tears, your body, your shaking hands, or the way your voice cracks in the dark. If they do not listen – it is not miscommunication. It is a choice. There is no bruising. No police report. No broken…

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When You Love A Kid But Do Not Love Motherhood Every Day

“You can love something and still be exhausted by it.” — Glennon Doyle (This quote found me when I needed to admit to it fundamentally but yet felt like I was fitting into said “bad stereotype” of “bad mom” for saying it aloud.) There are days I look at my son & feel nothing but awe. He is magic. He is loud. He is sticky. He is mine & I could not be more grateful or happier for his…

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Ride-Or-Die To Read Receipts

When Your Bestie Becomes a Stranger “I didn’t lose you like a lover. I lost you like a limb.” —attributed to Nayyirah Waheed [How I interpreted this: There was no breakup playlist, no closure. Just… absence. & yet the physical pain can become disorienting. Because losing someone you have chosen; someone who knew your history & still stayed for the chapters after – that is not a clean page…

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I will Tell You What Happened, But Not All at Once

“Last year, I started realizing that I can’t please others for the benefit of their comfort and at the expense of my discomfort.” -Meghan Quinn (So This Is War)   (My interpretation: I stayed quiet for years. Not because I had nothing to say; but because it was safer than being dismissed or being made the butt end of the joke. Turns out – the joke is not funny.) I used to believe that if I…