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Hi Neha, hope all is well. I'm sure you must be very busy atm but if possible could you make a blog on your call/take on INTROVERT? Thanks in advance 🙂

Sure. But I'll be taking my very own sweet time. Sorry for that. 😇

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Learn to say no the question, not the person.

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Stop leaping and start walking and here's the good news,

Today is a very good day to start walking 🌸

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The Greater Good

I started going for a walk, early in the morning, in a ground nearby, a few days ago. Except for the walking path and the area inscribed in it, there’s garbage all around.

At the sight of it, my dad made a remark, “this is the situation of our country in the 21st century and we expect to become a developed country in the near future” and sighed.

His remark lingered on my mind for the whole day and I couldn’t understand why people are so ok with littering. What would I do if I were drinking from a water packet while walking there? Will I care to carry it home and throw it in a dustbin? Or will I just throw it in the pile lying there, saying one more wouldn’t matter!? 

It may sound cliché but yes, I’ll do the former action since its the GREATER GOOD!

So, what is this Greater Good? And how did we miss it in our education?

To define in a line, Greater Good is placing the rightful and better interests above our selfish ones and acting on them without fail.

Throwing a water package into a pile of thousand is easy but if the person who first threw had restrained doing it, the other 999 maynot have! Maybe!! 🤷

The interest of the people littering can be, "why work so hard taking the garbage home, while there's a pile right here, infront of me?" 😏

The better interest is obviously that of the planet's. I don't need to start on the problems that arise from waste mismanagement 🙂

This is what the concept of Greater Good is! Choosing the better interests over and over the useless ones 😇

Anyway, littering is still a less serious problem when compared to the ones I'm going to quote later in this post. Just a pile of water packets, tomorrow or day after tomorrow a cleaner can take it out.

But the problem is not the type of problem. Problems can be trivial sometimes. It's the mentality behind the action which is a serious problem. Throwing a wrapper on the road looks trivial but the reckless mentality behind it is grave 😑

As a person practises this reckless attitude, it grows stronger and stronger via these trivial practices and later becomes a part of his character.

As the time passes, his brain ceases to see the Greater Good in anything and everything he does. All he continues to look at is his own benefit!

When a politician forgoes the request of an eminent leader to contest from his party, over the money offered by a rowdy sheeter, Greater Good is burnt to ashes.

When a dedicated employee is kept from promotion because he can occupy his boss's chair with his unmatched skillset, Greater Good is dumped into the garbage bin.

When a deserving contestant loses his chance of appointment, since he failed to bribe the recruiting authority like his fellow candidate, Greater Good sobs in a shut dark room.

When a boy with a bat in his hands and dreams in his eyes is sent back home just because he comes from a distant part of the country and has no recommendation from the influential guys, the country fails to lift the world cup 🙁

All of this continues to happen because we are so addicted to the instantaneous results that we turn a blind eye to the long term ones... Just like in the following case:

Suresh happens to be an employee at Defence Research Center. A group of interns at the headquarters are expected to deliver their best and after a week, one of them will be inducted into the organisation.

The final selection is overseen by Mr.Suresh. After the tense week of giving their bests, Suresh conveniently picks Ramesh, his son, over Rajesh who is the brightest in the lot.

Ramesh gets inducted but fails to cater to the country's needs at the best possible level. Country's defence grows vulnerable due to lack of innovation from the Defence Research Center. Neighbouring countries keep threatening of war. Government sees that Research Center has no extraordinary capability in producing new technologies and steps into the world market to buy weapons 😞

Buying your protection cover from somebody else is the same as selling your defense strategies, since all the information of your weapons is known to the selling country. And the Research guys watch all this happening helplessly...

And people like Suresh keep jeopardising the future of the country.

Will Suresh not face the consequences? Of course he will! Every action of yours will fetch back it's consequences.

If an enemy country throws a bomb, Suresh will die too! His body is not made of steel!!! It's just that, just like Mr.Suresh, we all are addicted to instantaneous results so much that we drop curtains over "Greater Good".

While Ramesh getting salary is a near result, country growing weak takes time, hence is a long term result and more often it is blamed on the government 🤷

Ok, now what happens to Rajesh, the bright one?

It's his second rejection in the Research area and this disappointment sent his dreams crumbling to pieces. Yet he has to earn a living. So he settles with a small occupation. He teaches his children to do the same and not to chase after their unrealistic dreams because he is not influential enough to get them into big organisations even if they're talented.

He fails to teach his children that Greater Good exists and they should give their best shot in what they aspire to become "since he never experienced it himself".

This is what the whole point behind the narration is!

"What happens to you in your life is the education you receive outside a school"

If Greater Good doesn't happen to you, you miss it in your character, your heart and your life!!!

That's how we missed it in our education. And henceforth we grow to believe that it doesn't exist. But it's out there! Waiting for us to grab and put it in our minds and hearts!! It's never late! It's never late to do better things and to have better perceptions😊! The only next responsibility is to make sure our coming generations not miss the 'Greater Good" as we have 😇

I say it's time. It's time we look at "Greater Good" as an accessory, a weapon, a pledge and a mindset ✊🏻.

It's no more a better alternative but a necessity that we take a moment before every action we perform to identify the "Greater Good" of it, do it and grow that muscle of our brains stronger and healthier everyday 💪

Good luck and good day ☺️

To choosing "Greater Good" 🥂

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Good morning 🌅 and good day!

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Morning Neha garu, yes miru cheppina concept, under grad comparison anni naku clear cut ga artham ayyayi but the one word where im missing my hold is "ONLY".

And yes sorry project lo disqualify aithe inko chance undadhu life lo antunnaru so this I'll accept but mee actual Sorry project lo oka line chudandi

"You're disqualified. Only this time, in Life"

idhe kada miru cheppindhi... but naku artham kanidhi enti ante only this time ante idhokkasare ani kada so dani prakaram chusthe idokkasari disqualify aina inko chance untundhi ane kada but sorry project lo inko chance undadhu kada alantappudu Only this time ante meaning maaripotundhi kada idhi naa question Neha garu...

simple ga cheppali ante Under grad lo disqualify avthe inko chance untundhi so Only this time ikkada vadithe it makes sense as only this time you're disqualified but in next attempt you may qualify ani but life lo Only this time disqualify avvataniki chances undavu kada as there will be no attempt and it should be disqualified, not Only this time but completely disqualified and there are no ny other chances.

So idhe andi naa question on "ONLY"

ippudu artham ayyindhi anukunta and guess my doubt will be clarified now easily.

Thanks a lot for your time.

Have a great day ahead🙂

Hiii ☺️. Hope you had a great day.

Word to word clear ga explain chestu question adiginanduku chaala thanks. Not many people cling onto one thing until they get it right! I truly appreciate your enthusiasm 🙌🏻. It's a boon! Never lose it 😇.

Now, English is a really tricky language. "Only" word ki too many uses unnaai. "But" place lo Kuda "only" ni use cheyachu. Prathi "but" place lo use cheyyalem. Konni exceptional cases lo matrame "but" ni "only" tho replace cheyyagalam. For example, ikkada nenu use chesinattu. Rendu situations ni compare chestunnaappudu, "only" ni "but" place lo use cheyachu. Ikkada nenu under graduation lo fail avvadam and life lo fail avvadam ni compare chestunna. Oka dantlo chances untaai fail aina, inkoka daantlo undavu ani cheptunna. Alaantappudu "only this time" ane phrase ki meaning, "aithe ee sari" ani vastundi. "Ee sari matrame" ani raadu.

"You're disqualified. But this time, in life" ani cheppachu. Everybody has a style of writing. This is mine. I chose to write "only" in place of "but". Endukante ade sentence lo "only" place lo "but" use cheste, "nv disqualify aipotaav. Kani e sari, life lo" ani meaning vastundi.

Nenu "nv disqualify aipotaav. Aithe ee sari, life lo" ani cheppaalankunna. Anduke "only" use chesa.

I hope I succeeded in making this clear to you. Awaiting your response.

I wish you a good night and sound sleep 😊

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Aww, my bad may be I should weak understanding complicate words😅.

I'm from Andhra, so guess now i can understand even better🙂

Hey that's super nice. We share the same mother tongue. So good to know.☺️

Undergraduate final year project చేసేడప్పుడు ఒక్క step miss అయినా నువ్వు disqualify అయిపోతావ్. అలాగే sorry అనే project ని నువ్వు చేస్తున్నప్పుడు ఒక్క step ని miss అయినా నువ్వు disqualify అయిపోతావ్. కానీ ఈ సారి మాత్రం life లో అవతావ్. Undergraduate final year లో disqualify అయినా నువ్వు మళ్ళీ pass అవ్వగలవు కానీ life తిరిగి రాదు. పోయిన మనుషులు తిరిగి రారు.

అది నేను చెప్పాలనుకున్నది. 😇

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Hello Neha,

I'm not sure if you received my question or not..

if not please let me know I'll ask the question again

Thank you

I received your question loud and clear. Thanks for your time 😊. I just posted my answer. Please let me know whether I catered to your question or not.

Thanks a lot 💛

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Hey Neha,

Thanks for the clarification.

I'm sorry to ask this as i got the point you mentioned, but which struck in my mind is "Only this time, in LIFE"

What part confusing me is 'only this time'.

I'm really sorry, I was occupied with some work so I didn't check your texts. Even if I did miss I'll not take more than a day. 😊

Only this time means, it's referring to the last time I mentioned 'disqualified'. I mentioned it for undergrad final year project example for the first time. So I'm quoting it as 'if you miss on any of these three steps, you're disqualified. "Only this time, in life"'.

Please share your mother tongue if you still think you're not getting it, may it be any language. I'm more than happy to reach out 😊. Thanks again!

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Hi Neha, Thank you! this is brilliant but after reading the below mentioned line again the thought started from first.

"No. You’re disqualified. Only this time, in LIFE"

It will be great if you clarify on this for me.

Thanks once again for this excellent writing.

Have a great day🙂

Cheers.

Helloo! Thanks for the message ☺️. I'm more than happy to clarify this line.

I'd ask you to again read the paragraph exactly below the three steps that you need to go through for a successful project : sorry.

I was saying that you cannot miss even one of the steps. If you miss feeling sorry or saying sorry or not doing the hurtful thing again, you cannot expect the other person to forgive you. "No." This no is for saying you cannot expect. "No. You're disqualified." Just like in your under grad, you get disqualified in your final year if you miss even on one of the steps involved in the technical project.

So if you miss one of the steps in the project : sorry "this time you're disqualified in life!" That was the exact meaning of that line.

Now read those 3 steps and the paragraph below it once more you'll get it right away 😇

Thanks for the compliments, good day and much love ☺️🌞

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Sorry : A Project

Writing is something I always wanted to do. I used to dream of writing the most intriguing novels. I'll develop the story, the dialogues and everything but just the beginning. I never mastered the art of introduction 😅. So without chasing away you all, my dearest audience, I'll jump straight into what I've to say...

Have you ever said sorry to someone? Do you remember when was the last time you said sorry? When was the last time you were apologized to? How do you react to sorry when told...?

I hope you've answers to all these questions but I have answer for only the last question

I still clearly remember how I used to react to sorries. I used to believe that the person saying sorry to me was feeling bad that he/she had hurt me and that the person will never do that hurtful thing again ☺️. Funny, isn't it, going by the way what "sorry" has become today!

I'm sure we all were naive when small and believed that sorry is as it is defined in the dictionary. But then life happened! 😅 We realised that there's more to sorry and it has way more uses than what dictionary says, like using it to escape a punishment or using it for some of our own advantage, etc... (Let's not remember all those times we faked sorry 🙈🙊. There'll be countless and they need a whole night and day to recollect 😅)

Anyway. With this realisation, we started faking sorry, we mastered faking it and we believed, eventually, that sorries, no matter who say it, are fake! We let go of its true sense a long time ago...

Sometimes even if we mean sorry when we say it, we tend to repeat the same hurtful thing again and again.

This happens mostly when you're saying it to an inferior as in an officer saying sorry to a peon. The officer scolds him, says sorry, scolds him again, and the history repeats! Peon finds the officer fake, as he hears more sorries, and also all the other officers 🤦🏻‍♀️

Slowly he loses the capability to identify real feelings and also his forgiveness muscle!! He tends to punish real people with his fake sorries and helps them turn into vicious people just like the officer did to him and the chain reaction continues! What a disaster!!!

So, it all comes down to one question, How do you practise sorry?

I'm sure you all remember when we were doing our under grad, we had to do a project in the final year which involved many steps like

Decide on an idea

Write an abstract for it

Get it approved by your guide

Build it

Present a slideshow

Get your observations documented

Attend Viva Voce and voilà! You've passed!!

You cannot, by any means, dare skip any of these steps or else you're disqualified. "Sorry" is very much the same...

It's not just a word. No. It's a project!

It involves a few steps, like

You feel sorry

You say sorry

You don't do the same hurtful thing you did that has brought you to feel and say sorry

As you can see, it's a project of 3 steps. You can't miss out on one of these steps and claim to have said sorry. No. You're disqualified. Only this time, in LIFE 🤷

So guys, stop faking sorry. Tell people that you did or said what you had because you felt like. Because by faking a sorry you lose your people, sweetheart!

Your mind starts doubting every sorry that's been said to you and all those sorries that are going to be said to you. You stop forgiving people cause you think they're fake. You start destroying your very own inner peace. You develop trust issues and eventually you'll end up feeling lonely!

So, henceforth, I shout out to you all to not be a coward and stand by your heart

You can give your under grad final year exams again if you disqualify but you can't bring back people you lose 🙂

I hope you all will find courage and heart to carry out the project : SORRY and keep your munchkins up, close and tight for the rest of your lives!!!

Good day 😊...

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Saving Money - An Illusion

Once there was a couple. The husband was an alcoholic. The wife tried, tried and finally gave up making him stop taking alcohol. One day they went out shopping and as they were just coming out of parking area they saw a Lamborghini go into the lot.

Wife turned to the husband and said, "According to the statistics, if a person can save the money he spends on buying drinks, he can buy a Lamborghini by the time he's 50!"

Husband didn't say anything for the next two hours of shopping. They came back and the husband slid behind the wheel. As the wife took the seat beside him. He exclaimed, "Hey wifey! You're getting into my car? Where's your Lamborghini!!?"

😄

Disclaimer : This post is not at all intended to encourage alcoholics 🙏🏻. Drinking is indeed injurious to health!

So what's with saving money? Are you really saving money. Let me pop this bubble.

You're just postponing your expenses 😉

What you do with the saved money? You spend it on something else! Or are you just using it to make a beach mat!?

😅 I hope not!

To all the misers out there, Perceptions are reality! Change them to change your reality. Let's live life the large size!! 🥂 We only got one. Only two things to do with money : reserve some for health or invest. Keep it flowing and keep flowing...

Good day!!

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The Art of Letting Go

Hi people! It's been so long since I talked to you. Hope you all are doing your best to stay safe and sound with your loved ones around ☺️

This pandemic taught us how fragile our lives are and how silly it is to fight with those few people who look out for us. Of course! Reverting back is something we all do when we realise our mistake or even if it's the other one's mistake, we forgive and forget if it's within the family, those we share our blood with 🤗.

But we choose people that we meet by chance at different times in life. We have friends, just friends, hi hello friends, best friends all together in one place. We tend to choose the ones we gel the most with to continue the relationship after school or college or a workplace etc. We grow the relationship stronger each passing day.

One day comes in life when we have to see the less nicer side of the people we chose. Less nicer side of the person you love. The bad mood of your best friend. What do you do? Or what did you do?

I remember clearly what I used to do when I was small. Let go! Just let go cause they didn't give me a pencil or took and broke my slate pencil 😅. Sounds cute, isn't it? We all did this when we were small or at some point even after growing big.

Let us flip ourselves upside down for being stupid 😂 unknowingly...

As we grow, our reasons for letting go change. Breaking pencil changes to breaking hearts. New things add up. Bad mood, stress, anxiety, bad experiences take birth inside of you. And when your friend is being held hostage by one of them, you crack a joke. Alas! They lash out! There ends the relationship!

Days pass by and your good memories keep haunting you but you can't revert back cause both sides are reasonable. They expected you to understand their mental status and you expected them not to lash out ever! And letting go ends in a heartbreak 💔.

Guys! Stop! What are you doing? Letting go a person who shared the beautiful times of your life!? Stop and think! What are your parameters to let go of a relationship? Ask this yourself right now! Set standards! If you're afraid of just some shouts and cries better not enter a new relationship cause you'll end up in the same place again! Put yourself in the person's shoes whom you're letting go.

The reasons you choose for yourself to let go or end relationships decide the kind of people you've around. Remember it can be you too tomorrow that people will let go for shouting at them. All you or anybody else need is love when under stress and anger or any negative emotion for that matter. Or else we all will end up suppressing our volcanic eruptions of emotions and end up with a psychiatrist very soon.

Let's continue to be each other's therapist 🥰

I believe you'll choose the best of the best reasons to LET GO your loved ones and apparently not just some loud shouts. Cheers and good luck!! 🤗

Let me know in the comments section below what you chose. Happy summer ☀️ ❤️ 😊

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Why did I start this blog?

I always wondered why TedTalks are a hit! What's so great about telling that you overcame something difficult. The most important thing, why are so many people listening to it so attentively! 😱 I never understood when I was happy. I never understood the whole point behind it when I was young and naive. Now I do. So, now I share.

We all have a story to tell. In the last post where I shared how I found myself again, people texted me thanks and told me that they too went through something that shook them from roots. So why did they respond to it? How did a small instance from my life moved the strings of their hearts?

While going through the bad phases of life we often consume ourselves. We tend to avoid socialising because we think no one will understand us or they won't respect us for what we are. And the most cruel blow to a person in a bad phase is the thought that everyone else is happy and only he/she is alone in the darkness. Which later pushes the person into depression, if weak hearted, into suicide!!

But is this true? Are we alone in the darkness?

No. Absolutely no! We all go through different paths but the truth is that no path comes with only flower beds. So what do we do? How do we successfully cross the thorny bushes?

The answer is simple.

Share!

Share your story!

Share how you conquered the beasts of your life!

Tell people that they're not alone!

Tell them that they can make it through!!

Tell your next generation that they're not alone!

Tell the world that it's a shame to keep hiding in the darkness!! Come out and start a 🔥

That's the reason I started this blog. I'm here to share mine and to know yours ! ❤️

A Single stone in the dark remains in the dark, it is two stones that strike and make 🔥

Let me strike you!

Let me be striked by you!!

Don't worry about the similarities between our darknesses. We've populated the world enough to not be similar once in a million atleast 😉

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Things that haunt me :

Phrase : This time will not be forever

Phrase : I'll attract what I think

Self made rule book which says everything I think and do are faulty 😌

What could possibly go wrong 😅 and in how many ways!

My hormones ☺️

But the moment I put it out here they stopped haunting me. Try for yourself, talk about your fears, end their life! Start yours 🥰

Good day ❤️

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Results start showing up when the perceptions are on point! - Me

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Talent and Intelligence are such companions that can turn into ugly enemies anytime if you don't make yourself acquaint with them soon enough!

I was young, talented and intelligent. No one could beat me while in school. They spent hours understanding a concept and I covered whole textbook in minutes. People avoided me for me being me which directly translates into jealousy, of course ! 😊 It never bothered me because I'd my two best friends, TALENT AND INTELLIGENCE.

In 2017, I stepped out of my shell called home and joined a coaching institute in another city. I outwitted my classmates but the results from the exam were of no use. My first setback! Now my best friends turned into enemies without me given a single clue... Just from that one failure, I denied my talent, my intelligence. I totally agreed with the thought that they're part of my arrogance but not my talent or intelligence and so I told myself that I'll have to study like all others around me for hours and hours to reach where I want to. I lived in denial for so long. And all along I couldn't bring myself to sit for such long durations. My body wasn't supporting me and I couldn't understand why. I took pressure, mere pressure and stress, a whole lot of it. Out of which I achieved nothing!

March 30, 2021: For the first time I talked to my parents about my mental status and how I had lost all my confidence. I told them that I can't chase after employment anymore cause I've no ammunition required. After listening to all this, mom said, "You were a talented student all along, you don't need to study for hours to get things into your mind and so my advice is not to give up on yourself". That was it! That's what I forgot! That's brought me back to me! I understood that I forgot myself in the process of reaching greater heights. Thank you mama! It's true that moms know everything about their children!! 🥰

Many of us lost ourselves somewhere only because we were blind to our potential. Believe you can and you're halfway there! Self confidence is the key! Don't deny your talent! God loves all of us and blessed each one of us with something no one can be better at! Failures are neither final nor fatal!!! To many more successful stories like this, cheers and good day!!!!

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