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Do any other agender people conceptualize their gender as just… themself? I’m not a man, I’m not a woman, I’m not a combination of either, I’m not a third different thing that belongs to a recognizable social group, etc. Like I don’t fuckin know man. I’m having a Me Party.

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"why cant they just be friends" not in a homophobic way but in an aromantic way

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Remember when you were young and had an obsession with dragons and you just thought you were weird. Well now you know that you're weird and asexual

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Someone please make sense of this for me.

When alloromantics are like “cmon please just give me a chance” when you reject them but “why would you agree to a date if you didn’t have feelings for me” if you begrudgingly say yes.

Like, no, you have to pick one. Do you want to date people who don’t want to date you, or are you offended at the idea of this happening? Because you can’t coerce someone into saying yes and then get upset when they don’t actually want to date you.

Even worse when it’s not even the original asker shaming the person for turning the other down on the grounds of “just give them a chance” - how about you go reassure your friend that someone out there will want them and it doesn’t have to be me? Why am I the bad guy for just saying no? Would you treat someone the same way if your friend wanted to have sex with them and they said no? Or do you suddenly now see how disturbing this is?

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i have a burning hatred for relationship hierarchies.

Why is it offensive to want to just be friends? Why is it expected for romantic partners to always take prioritization over friends? Why is it rude to tell someone you aren't friends, just chill with each other? Why are queerplatonic relationships seen as a step down from romantic relationships? Why is it bad to not want to make step ups in romantic relationships?

these labels have different meanings and levels importance to everyone, therefore they have no meaning or importance.

in my world, there are two places you can stand. next to me or the fuck away.

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Waking up every day looking in the mirror and repeating "my friends will not abandon me for romantic relationships, my friends value me in their lives, I do not need to go through anticipatory grief like this, shutting myself out before they abandon me is not a valid strategy, it is better to have lived and loved and lost than to isolate myself out of this expectation".

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yeah im aroace but have you considered that women (aesthetically and sensually)

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who needs romance when blorbo is so gender

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epic aro sculpture i did for class

the heart is made out of plastic bags wrapped with tape, so it's squishy ^_^ and the knife is qtips hot glued together. the knife is also removable!

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Me explaining being Aroace: So, um, yeah, it's like being fruity but like two steps to the left *gestures uselessly*

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see, and the amatonorms don't want you to realize this, but two people can do something together that one of them feels romantic feelings about and the other doesn't, and as long as they're both enjoying themselves and neither of them is pressuring the other to suppress their feelings, that's like, totally normal and okay and probably even good.

for example, we can cuddle in a way that maybe i feel is completely platonic and maybe you feel is a little romantic, and as long as you're not gonna start suggesting we "take our relationship to the next level" (whatever the fuck that means) and as long as I'm not sitting there telling you "don't catch feelings, we're only ever gonna be friends" (and of course it is fine for me to remind people that I'll probably only ever want to be their friend. the problem is in telling them that they have to feel a certain way about me too, when of course the only things that matter are how they treat me, that they feel good about how they treat me, and that they feel good about how i treat them), if we're both enjoying cuddling (even if we're enjoying it to different degrees or for different reasons) and it makes us both feel valued/cared for by the other, then cuddling is a good thing for us to do in our relationship.

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I love Pokemon and Digimon and Yokai Watch equally and I think the fan bases should stop fighting and we should all run into the sunset together because we're all united by the dream of collecting little freaks.

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alloromantics : wow that person is pretty i wanna date them

allosexuals: wow that person is hot i wanna fuck them

me, an oriented aroace: wow that person is ????? and i wanna ?????

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anyone else think about their guy and briefly understand what it feels like to be an anime girl

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Playing RGG really is a throwback to my teenage fandom years:

My favorite Characters die and I am stuck desperately creating head canons how they miraculously survived & live happy lives far away from the plot & canon (´∀｀；)

I fixate on characters with little to no fandom content (I am starving in a corner right over there D:)

My Daddy issues are going strong again

It's the only thing that keeps me sane right now ✌

I love it so much, I can't believe I missed out on it /affectionate

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"But not shipping this character is infantilizing!" Skill issue if you can't think of any way to make it clear that a character is an autonomous adult besides putting them in a romantic/sexual relationship.