positivitycombopack
positivitycombopack
Positivity Combo Pack
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Say Hey to the Combo Pack! We’re a diagnosed DID/OSDD system. This blog is for fellow DID/OSDD systems to relax away from the drama of the Syscourse community for a bit. Header image shows interlocking multicolored rings in the background. The text says, "Positivity Combo Pack, Now with 60^ more positivity in each pack." The PFP i a clockwork brain.
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positivitycombopack · 2 months ago
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Shoutout to systems in recovery.
Shoutout to those systems who are working through their issues; who spend time in therapy, or doing self-help, or both; who work hard to overcome what’s been done to them, and to overcome the rewiring of their brain.
Shoutout to those systems who have learned the hard way that recovery isn’t linear; that regardless of how much progress you’ve made, things can still become difficult again; that healing takes time.
Shoutout to those systems who feel alienated in system communities due to their recovery; who don’t relate to other CDD systems any longer; who don’t even use the word “system” to describe themselves.
Know that I am proud of your effort, and I hope that your life is better for it. Know that you are strong, powerful, and should be proud of yourself too. Know that you are welcomed here.
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positivitycombopack · 6 months ago
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hey! can I ask you what type of therapy you get? been going to therapy for a while and struggling to actually participate properly due to emotional amnesia: to the point where when I’m asked how my week was I can remember nothing and that basically sets the mood for the whole session, like we find things to talk about but it either ends up feeling like I’m talking about someone else or just ends up being purely intellectual, coping strategies and potential diagnoses etc. I know there’s therapy specifically for CDD but I have no idea how to find it! Or how I’d go about accessing it since my masking and dissociation makes it really difficult to ever communicate my symptoms—because I can never remember them or even if I write it down, I’m completely unable to elaborate on the experience!
Hey! I’d be happy to talk about my therapy sessions!
Firstly, when finding a therapist, I looked specifically for people who:
Worked with autistic people
Worked with LGBT+ people
Focused on trauma and dissociation
My therapist, who has helped me just… so, so much, focuses on Dialectical Behavior Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy, and EMDR. While his top speciality is PTSD, he has a lot of experience with dissociative disorders.
When we started therapy, we experienced a lot of emotional amnesia as well. For the first year or so, we talked about my emotions and tried to work on grounding strategies. We honestly talked very little about the DID plural aspect, because it wasn’t important; what was important was getting into a window of tolerance for daily life.
An average session with my therapist looks like this:
He starts by asking who’s fronting, which is something we let him know we like from the get go.
Then he asks, “If you were a phone battery, what percentage would you be at today?” This serves a lot of purposes. It’s a way for me to check in and ground myself, to figure out what my levels are at the moment. It’s also a way for me to launch into the conversation; if I’m low energy, we’ll focus on emotional regulation and self soothing, making a plan for recovery from the energy drain, and a little discussion on what the draining experience was. If I’m high energy, he’ll usually present options for what we can do, which is mostly “We can discuss work, family, or DID!”
On those low battery days, it helps a lot to identify my emotions when I can identify, “shit, I’m at 20%, the fuck happened that made me feel this way?” It causes me to really sit down and think about the day. I don’t always get the full memory, but it gives me something to discuss, and through discussing the emotions of those situations, I usually remember more by the end.
Most frequent discussions are about how I feel in a current moment, and associating those feelings with colors, bodily reactions, and generally my selfhood. I’ve had to do a lot of work on recognizing my emotions as mine, instead of someone else’s. We also do a lot of work with conflicting emotions and the thoughts I have being true at the same time; I have a lot of conflict in my own thinking, where it feels more than one thing is true at the same time, and he’s often the one to remind me that more than one thing can be true.
My therapist writes a lot down and reminds me what other parts said in therapy. He keeps a bit of a timeline for me, which helps a lot.
I will say, I wouldn’t launch directly into EMDR therapy. It by far helped us the most, but it takes prep time. You’ve gotta be ready to confront some really emotional, difficult memories head on, which also means bracing yourself for difficult memories after session.
My suggestion is to look for a therapist on psychology today who specializes in treatment of DID and mentions emotional therapy in particular, as that appears to be what you struggle with. During an intake session, I would mention that you’re particularly worried about emotional amnesia, and that you struggle a lot with your memory.
Last suggestion: if you struggle that much with emotional amnesia, I highly recommend keeping a therapy journal to look back on one day. We keep a running log of sessions in our personal discord server (though we haven’t updated in months since we don’t feel the need to now after three years of therapy). In the early days, it helped a lot to be able to scroll back and go, “damn, Wade was out?? Fuck, he talked about THAT memory? Oh Jesus I forgot that memory existed.”
I wish you the best of luck on finding good therapeutical practices! Just know, one size does not fit all, and this is just what helped me!
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positivitycombopack · 7 months ago
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Shoutout to systems who experience no joy about being a system.
Your life is… hell. Having a CDD is hell. What we’ve been through is atrocious, and you do not need to pretend to enjoy it for my sake. You’re allowed to be angry. You’re allowed to be miserable.
The positive people around you aren’t trying to actively be malicious, but I understand nonetheless how it can hurt. How isolating it may feel.
This blog is safe for you. If you need to let the hurt out, this post is open. Vent. Bitch. Scream. Get the suffering out.
I hope it can get better for you soon, and that you don’t need to wallow in this suffering. I hope you can reach recovery and positivity like so many others.
But until then, you’re still welcomed here.
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positivitycombopack · 7 months ago
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Shoutout to systems who struggle to let out their anger, for whatever reason.
Maybe you struggle to let it out safely; maybe you struggle to let it out in a productive way; maybe you struggle to let it out at all.
Those feelings matter, just like every other feeling, and they need to be processed and let out.
Let yourself be angry. You have permission, if you need it. You can even be angry with me, if that’s what you need.
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Tips for those who may benefit from them, here’s some of the ways I’ve learned to let out angry reactions physically to get the moment to pass:
Ripping up paper
Screaming
Singing loudly
Wii Sports Boxing
Drawing on myself
Punching a pillow
Tensing and untensing my muscles, one by one
These were the best methods I found. For those who are like me and don’t get as much release from venting, these might be good ways to express your anger.
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positivitycombopack · 9 months ago
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Shoutout to systems who love being systems.
Shoutout to those who love being multiple and who love their systemmates. Shoutout to those who love systemhood and their parts. Shoutout to plurals who love the people in their heads. Shoutout to those who don't use these labels, but love themselves.
Shoutout to those who credit them being a system with them still being alive. Shoutout to those who know that their system is what allowed them to survive, and who refuse to be ashamed of that.
We should love who we are, disorder and all. We should not be made to feel like we must be miserable, just to exist. Just to thrive.
Good luck out there, everyone.
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positivitycombopack · 10 months ago
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Shoutout to systems who are currently holding down a job.
It’s so hard, waking up each day and just… doing that. You have a job, and you’re managing. That’s incredible.
As a younger system, I didn’t think it was possible. I thought I was going to flunk out and have to explain why, revealing my system to everyone.
Here we are. Thriving.
Shoutout to every system who openly has a job. Who is breezing by. Who is struggling. Who is barely managing, but goddamn it if you don’t manage that shit.
I’m so proud of you.
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positivitycombopack · 1 year ago
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Shout out to systems who experienced covert CSA.
From my experiences in system spaces, many people don't seem to be aware of covert CSA, or what it entails -- and yet many people have experienced it. So, take this post as a bit of an educational message, as well as an offer of comfort for you all.
Covert CSA is a form of CSA that is not easily apparent as sexual abuse. It is CSA that isn't in the form of touching or physical sexual contact. Here are examples of Covert CSA from a law website, and the examples that I typically share when people ask me about this topic.
Adults having sexual conversations with children, including asking about their sex lives or sharing too much about their own lives.
Adults putting children into the role of therapist/close friend/partner, confiding in children about their emotions or traumatic experiences
Parents insisting on bathing, wiping, or changing their child even though the child is at a point where they can do these things by themselves.
A parent who frequently tells their child something along the lines of: “You’re my whole world and my other half. All I need is you, I don’t need anyone else.”
Parents who openly bash each other in front of their children, and try to get the child to be “on their side.”
Parents who give romantic or emotional gifts to their children, such as romantic cards with love notes or other objects with lots of emotional value.
A parent who does everything with their child, making them feel like they cannot have a life without their parent for fear of “abandoning” them or hurting their feelings.
A parent who frequently crawls into bed with their child to hold them, cry to them, and/or confide in them like they would to a romantic partner.
Parents who frequently comment on their child’s appearance in a sexual way, or parents who make frequent comments along the lines of: “Look how beautiful and curvy you are! Men are going to be all over you one day.”
Not all of these are childhood sexual abuse, and not all of these are even distressing. Some people may not find these things to be traumatic for them. However, if you have experienced these things, it is possible you've experienced covert CSA.
To those who have experienced it: You are far, far from alone. Your trauma is real, and valid, and you deserved better. You deserved so much better. It is easy to believe that it wasn't "traumatic enough" or "bad enough" when the trauma is covert -- but it was. It was bad enough. You should be able to admit that what happened to you was bad.
You have gotten through this, and know that there are other survivors who stand with you. We will continue to get through this. <3 You are strong. You are loved. And you will continue on.
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positivitycombopack · 1 year ago
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Shoutout to systems who just can't catch a break!
Life often packs a lot on us, and it can be even harder when you're wading through a trauma-filled mire of hell. It's hard work to get out of it, and so many of us are trudging through it each day, just doing our best.
Shoutout to systems who feel they are constantly struggling. Maybe you catch ill often, partly as a side effect of having trauma taking all your energy to stay healthy. Maybe you struggle with motivation, leading to missed deadlines and opportunities galore. Maybe you keep having things pile up, more and more, until it feels like everything is one fire.
You are not alone. This is all so common for people to go through, system or otherwise -- but so, so many systems can really relate.
You aren't alone, and we'll get through it together, one step at a time.
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positivitycombopack · 1 year ago
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Shoutout to systems who hoard food.
Shoutout to the ones who keep food as close as possible, leaving it where you can grab it easily in times of need. I hope you can reach a point where food isn’t something you need to collect and keep and savor; I hope it can be a neutral thing one day.
And also, shoutout to ones who are ashamed for this behavior. It’s nothing to be ashamed for. You’ve experienced things that lead to this, and it’s okay to struggle with it. No shame is needed for this and you are sincerely not alone in this.
(And, as a side note… maybe check your food hoard to make sure no mice got into it. It might be time to do a good clean through.)
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positivitycombopack · 1 year ago
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Shoutout to systems with introjects from popular media!
Introjects are just another type of alter; they’re not something worthy of scorn. They’re just as valid as anything else that happens with this disorder.
You don’t choose your introjects. All my love goes out to introjects from very popular media, though, as you tend to get the shit slung at you the most by fakeclaimers. You are no less valid simply because your source is more popular or more recent; it’s just your source!! It’s not that big of a deal!
Especially shoutout to those introjects whose fronting lessens when popularity lessens; that just makes sense to me. When things I like or relate to die down, then I don’t front as often — and I’m not an introject. 
You all deserve so much better. Know that I am rooting for you out here 💙
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positivitycombopack · 1 year ago
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Plural Positivity Accounts! 🌷
Hi, everyone! Hope you’re all doing well. We just wanted to share the urls of some active inclusive plural positivity blogs here on Tumblr with you all! Our favorites are:
@positivitygenic (endogenic positivity)
@twylas-plural-positivity (general plural positivity)
@positivitycombopack (complex dissociative disorder positivity)
@plural-affirmations (general plural positivity)
@pos-syscourse (syscourse positivity)
@uniquely-plural (celebrating unique plural experiences)
@reminders-for-systems (system positivity)
If you’ve been tagged here and would like your url removed, please let us know! And if you know of a plural positivity account we don’t have included here, if you send it our way we’ll update this post.
We can work together to help keep the plural community on Tumblr a positive, welcoming, and inclusive space! If you want to see more positivity on your dash, please give these lovely folks a follow. Have a great day everyone!
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positivitycombopack · 1 year ago
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Shoutout to systems who did not form due to abuse.
Trauma is trauma; abuse is reported in most cases of DID, but certainly not all. Your experiences are just as valid as anyone else’s. Your trauma is just as real, and hurt just as much.
Abuse is not the only cause. Traumatic events can be anything, because trauma is your reaction to an event — not the event itself. However your system formed, know that you have support in this community, even when it seems otherwise.
You can survive this. You are not alone. And you are loved.
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positivitycombopack · 1 year ago
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Are p-did systems allowed here
Yes, of course!
This blog is for CDD systems. That means those who are diagnosed with or suspect they have:
DID
OSDD
MPD
DDNOS
UDD
And, yes, p-DID!
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positivitycombopack · 1 year ago
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Shoutout to systems who hate being a system.
You’re allowed to not want to be a system! You’re allowed to struggle to accept the other parts of yourself. You’re allowed to be down and out about who you are.
It’s okay to not be okay. The goal is to not stay that way.
Don’t let hatred of your system be the thing that stops you from recovery! You have to work together one day. You’re allowed to hate this experience in this moment, however. Even as a system who loves the other parts of myself, lord knows I have days I despise this existence. Those moments don’t negate the love I have for myself, or the love I feel for my system, or the recovery I’ve worked toward.
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positivitycombopack · 1 year ago
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Hello!
We're making a masterlist of traumagenic-only community blogs. We wanted to ask if you'd consent to your blog being added to the list?
No pressure! Have a great day :)
I would be happy to be on the list!! :)
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positivitycombopack · 1 year ago
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Shoutout to systems who are often sick!
My therapist and I have discussed lately how I’m often sick, and how my trauma disorder is impacting my physical health. You are not morally bad or stupid or wrong for being often sick. It’s not a mark about how bad you are.
Your body is already fighting. It’s fighting against the things you’ve experienced and the trauma you have. Blaming yourself for being sick is blaming your body for not being able to fight multiple wars at once.
Be gentle with yourself! You’re not alone. Let your body rest sis it can tackle the next fight with you.
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positivitycombopack · 1 year ago
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i used to believe i was endogenic but have recently discovered i am likely a traumagenic system with osdd-1. it's been hard to come to terms with that, knowing my childhood was bad enough to cause that, and your blog helps. thank you. /gen
I’m really glad my blog can help some with those feelings. I wish you luck with coming to terms with your life and what’s turned you into the incredible person you are now — good and bad times in all.
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