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My perspective.....

These days people are becoming more and more self obsessed, self consumed, self centred. They do back bitching of almost everyone no matter how much that person do for you or not. We are getting tooo much selfish that we are getting more and more loyal to our needs only, we are nomore even excuse the ones who fulfill our needs. There is saying people are loyal to you till the time you fulfill their needs,expectations but not anymore. They are just loyal to their needs thats it. We, according to our own convenience, give importance to people based on our needs to be fulfilled from them and we don’t stop there,we keep on expecting and the moment we find they are nomore useful to us or not working/behaving according to our expectations we just start bitching about them, we took just a second to say stuff against them.

The more closer the relationship (as per society norms) the more for granted stance. We dont ask or feel need to ask hows other one is doing or wats the reason behind a particular behaviour. I think we must stop, think ,consider, ponder where our morality is going….. if not to all, atleast be loyal to few coz they are beautiful souls present in ur life and not their just to fulfill your needs…..pratyaya singh #loyal #lifelessons #relationships #mentality #self obsessed #perspectives #loyalty

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ANXIETY: it just stops your life…

Anxiety: Everyone is familiar with this term, everyone experience this many times in his/her life time. Generally, it’s obvious to get anxious in some situations like before exams, interview time or during result time….. such kind of anxiety is quite common and mostly go/ vanish once the instance is over… In most of the cases, there is always a reason behind why person is anxious and if we address that reason, a person can succesfully deal with this situation.

But when anyone  start feeling anxious with out any reason like, suppose you are sitting on your couch,enjoying your coffee , watching your favourite show and suddenly you start feeling heaviness in your chest, suddenly your heart is pounding ,gets throbbing… you start sweating, trembling, restless……and when you calm down you try to recall what happen?? and you realised  that  actually you don’t have any clue why this is happening to you,you trying to find out but you get no answer, no specific answer and when such incidents start happening more frequently then this anxiety is called CHRONIC ANXIETY DISORDER (CAD).

Anxiety not only means that you feel only low but it also means you feel very high too but one thing is common you wont have any reason for either of these states….like it can be understood that your electrons are always into excited mode not at its normal state ,you either feel too low or too high….🤨😔🙂

There can be anything that can make you anxious when you have CAD[ Chronic anxiety disorder] this something or anything  is named as triggers….. list of triggers is so long and  varies so much from person to person that it’s practically not possible to pen them down.

I ,personally, dealing with this CAD so I can very well know how difficult this situation is, sometimes even a word like ‘shame’ can trigger or aggravate the anxiety… though if we look into literal meaning of shame it is not a very positive word but it’s very general/ common to use such words in not negative way. Is it possible to avoid such triggers… Mmm… according  to me it’s not practically possible. How such things can be avoided??, it’s only possible if you just lock yourself or just raise walls around you so high that you just be with yourself only…… and icing on cake is that even if disconnect ourselves from all people,still we get anxious ,this is the most worst.

And its a sigh!! that there is no magic, no silver bullet which you can just pop in  and get rid of anxiety…. 😒😒and funny part is the medicines being prescribed to control anxiety,they all have anxiety,depression as side effect,isn’t it funny?

Its a very tricky and vicious circle, you just can’t go and tell everyone around you that look please don’t do this, don’t do that because I’m a CAD patient and Irony is we really need support, a good support system to deal / fight with this condition. Very few are lucky ones that get such strong support system actually I think(its my perception) it’s very difficult to get such support afterall they’re humans, they’ve their own limitations so I just wonder what should/ can be done in such situations? How to break this circle, how to deal with it at your own level without creating negative impact on persons in inner circle of your life?

My this problem increased to the point where it starts impacting my role as mother.I am lucky that im blessed with very understanding boy but I started feeling that my this situation is giving, putting negative impact on my son’s life.I started expecting more understanding from him,which is not right, afterall he is just a my little boy and

It puts me on roller coaster ride of guilty.

Now the million dollar question is how to treat this condition or atleast manage it so it cant impact negatively on our lives.

My personal understanding from my own situation is that the most important thing is to accept this condition, this anxiety… it’s very important to accept that it’s fine, it’s okay if we’ve CAD or anyother kind of anxiety or mental health issues. Its not something to hide or run from it. Second, important part is to understand that it is treatable just like most of other physical ailments. Third , part is to take help of not only physchiatrist , but also of physchologist as former one mostly deals with medicines , but former one can help us to address the hidden triggers for anxiety, which we may find are not triggers . Along with all this, we can incorporate yoga, meditation, mindfulness, inner child therapies. Moderate exercise , with healthy diet can help to cope with this condition. Its absolutely fine, okay to seek help from family or friends if possible.

The first step is very important that is to accept your condition asap. I, myself, took long time to accept that I can have anxiety , I always think I’m a strong person with tough mind, such mental health issues can’t happen to me and here I’m today, tried all the medications and now waiting for rtms and hoping that after this treatment, my condition will come to initial stage and then I’ll start my journey to get rid of it or manage it using the possibilites I mentioned above because as of now by the time I accepted that I have anxiety, I have become already Chronic anxiety disorder patient and I didnot realise when I reach so far on the path of medicines, that doing yoga , meditation etc become a big task for me, I just can’t do it.

But, still because of the help of my friends, my physchologist I did not lose my sanity and I’m still seeking help though I got panic attacks almost once in an hour but don’t know what’s that thing in me which tells me still you can come out of all this .

So , accept the problem, don’t hide it, seek medical help, family and friends help if possible…….enough for now Pratyaya #panicdisorder #anxiety #mentalhealth

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Bitter truth n fact....

Stop.Read.Think

Everyone you meet always asks if you have a career, are married or own a house; as if life was some kind of grocery list. But nobody ever asks if you are happy..??.. #happiness #materialitic #artificially #hardfact #bittertruth

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If we get swollen finger or toothache or even if we have normal cold n flu everyone around us told us go and see the doctor. But when we say like,oh im feeling low today or im feeling depressed what we advice…. hey com’ on lets have some drinks or get some action tonite u ll be fine😉😜😃😃…. On serious note everyone in their lives at some point experience such feelings, sometimes these feelings become so intense that it start interrupting our routine lives. At such point, most of us dont know what to do,where to seek help. We hesitate to talk about it openly coz people will laugh….. so its very important for all of us to pay equal importance to our mental wellbeing as we do for our physical well being. Things wont be right themselves by just pushing things under the carpet. Time to be more compassionate, more empathetic…..  Everyone is going through tough times, try to help others, if thats not possible then atleast dont create problems for others……

Dont feel ashamed if you have anxiety, depression or any other mental health issues, talk about it and seek help from your local available organisations who

can offer you discreet support and advice…..

Take care of yourselves, only then we can look after our loved ones😊😊 Enough for now….. pratyaya singh

#emotional wellbeing #emotional awareness # mentalwellness #anxiety and panic disorder #help each other #depression

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दिल और दिमाग की गुफ्तगू..!!..

Mind: see how beautiful honesty is, be honest no further confusion, no imaginations everything crystal clear, life sorted

दिल : 🙄🙄काहे की सच्चाई, हमेशा सच्चाई अच्छी नहीं होती, साला मुझमें कितना रायता फैल जाता है तू क्या जाने, कितना दुख होता है🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ छाले पड़ जाते हैं जो वक्त के साथ नासूर बन जाते हैं, न कम्बखत जीते बनता है न मरते, सिर्फ जख्म वक्त के साथ धीरे-धीरे रिस्ता रहता है 🤨😏🙇‍♀️🙇‍♀️😖😖

दिमाग: सुनो, मैं ऐसी भाषा का उपयोग नहीं करता, तो इसलिए कृपया …… लेकिन सुन बे, जिस काम के लिए रखा है सिर्फ वही काहे नहीं करता, दूसरों के फट्टे में टांग अड़ाएगा तो यही तो न होगा बे!! अपना काम कर और सुन ये रायता हमारे यहाँ भेजने की गलती तो करियो न, वरना कान के नीचे ऐसा कंटाप देगें न कि याद रखोगे मियाँ, साला घडी घडी भूल जाता है

मैं : लोलक की तरह कभी यहाँ कभी वहाँ ….. रायता फैला कहीँ भी हो, साफ तो खुद हई को करना पड़ेगा…. 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

………..pratyaya singh #hindi #english #hinglish #mind # heart #guftagoo #conversation #गुफतगू

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Chronic pain and family

Talking about our problems is at greatest addiction. Break the habit. Talk about your joys…. famous quote by Rita schiano

I, personally agreed to this to some extent, but in case of chronic illness ( I read this in context to chronic pain patients articles ) I can’t agree to it. I, myself, a chronic pain patient and honestly  I simply just cant buy this idea.

Chronic illness,if explained in layman language, any kind of disease which lasts more than 3 months come under chronic illness. And,  I’m dealing with different health issues both at physical level and mental level since last 9-10 years,so according to definition i can say I’m an ancient chronic pain patient😬😀😀

Anyways, on serious note, neither definition nor any quotes can help to deal with chronic medical conditions, and its worst if one have medical conditions which are not curable,  only manageable and nail in the coffin is ,conditions in which patient “don’t look sick”….

There are various issues one has to deal with his/ her chronic condition. Obviously, we need a team of medical practitioners who are understanding, good listeners, show faith in you, motivaters and work as a team with you to manage things.

Another important part is of family members, without their support, empathy its quite difficult to cope up with chronic pains/ illness. But, except few really lucky ones, most of us struggle with extra burden of non- understanding/supporting family or in some cases family is supporting and try to help but as time passes, it’s become difficult for them to deal with it.

And this is the most difficult part for chronic pain patients, as, after some time/ years, people associated with them start getting irritated or frustrated because of this prolonged illness….. its very natural, I’ve no doubts about it, but in addition to it may be they start doubting patient’s conditions, may be its difficult for them to understand that one can be sick for so long, it’s actually difficult to understand why no therapy, medication,strategy  working on patient. So as time passes, they start getting impatient and their this behaviour intentionally or unintentionally makes the patient’s situation more tough.

Now next issue which I think all of us face at one point or another is the advice what to do, what not to, given by our near and dear one. Its  get more difficult/tricky  if he / she is your partner… obviously they won’t want any bad for you afterall they love you, they’re the ones who will be most affected by your condition so its very obvious for them that patient should do what they suggest them and things get bitter when you are blamed if you dont get relief from their advice,which obviously ,they think will definitely work because they think that way but they forget that most of the things they suggest  are the things they heard from horses mouth .According to them, you’re not listening to them or the famous line: ” ITS ALL IN YOUR HEAD”…..but like really….🤔🤔🤨🤨😏huh….

Now the question is what can be done to improve this situation?? because just keep cripping about this won’t serve any purpose.

I genuinely believe in the fact that it’s not fair to expect understanding everytime from the people around us, afterall they’re human beings too, with their own share of problems, challenges of life.

I feel few things can be done in this case: first is regular counselling of the carers/ immediate family members so they can get rid of the pressure, negativity, exhaustion of living with chronic pain patient.

Another important point is to make them understand that as a patient we need their love, care, acts of showing concern and EMPATHY and not SYMPATHY… personally its very important for me I don’t want sympathy ,like I don’t want that all the time everybody should only revolve around me but yes, I expect most of the times,  not always as its bit difficult, my family show that we know you’re struggling and you’re trying to come out of it, keep trying we’re with you….In one line, little appreciation for my efforts

Another thing ,actually the most important is to educate carer / family member about the illness like what it is, what are the symptoms, how it can affect patient not only at physical level but also at mental level , its very important to understand physchological side of chronic disease/ illness… … take an example,most  of the times just taking a shower needs energy approx. equal to energy a healthy person needs to say run 3 to 4 kms… it’s sad😔😔but its true for most of Chronic pain patients …..

People can avoid using terms in front of chronic pain patients like you’re being lazy or you have become comfortable in your present health condition, Stop talking all the time about your illness… I agree that it’s important to distract your mind, think positive, re-train your mind and so on but at the same time I understand by just distracting your mind or not talking about illness will not cure you.

So , after struggling with various chronic diseases since last 9-10 years, I come to point that with understanding of your disease, by properly educating family members and with the help of family support and under an environment of loving, caring, understanding and empathetic attitudes of carers, a chronic pain patient if not cured but atleast will be able to manage his medical conditions. Enough for now…..pratyaya

#chronic #pain #help #awareness #family #support #love #empathy