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Okay so hilarious tidbit about sarahncat’s Hot Take:

pineapples are, etymologically, LITERALLY APPLES. apple until very, very recently just meant ‘fruit.’ pineapple originally meant ‘pinecone’ then apparently got applied to spiky fruit in general, then just to the tropical fruit. dates were finger-apples. bananas were apples of paradise. one work called cucumbers earth apples, which is also what French calls potatoes. like, there are cases where compound words make zero sense. this is not one of them

@nocturnal-spleen stating what’s obvious:

this absolute fucking scholar:

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I’m not really involved in Discourse, but I have some immensely Problematic ships and have since I entered fandom, so I can personally speak to why a lot are appealing. (Sorry this got really long, I ramble. Also. Uh. Kind of personal)

Underage: having been in fandom since age 10 plus been an early bloomer, and having for most of my youth been interested primarily in my own age group, the vast, vast, vast majority of people writing fics with 14 year olds or younger are that age (you can tell because none of them know how anatomy works let alone sex. Or writing). I wrote my first smut fic at 13. It was Terrible, but I got some positive comments even, because I was writing for a rarepair f/f ship in a fandom with basically no femslash. Fandom was huge in helping me process and accept my attraction to girls, tbh

I’ll also admit to having read some explicit adult/child (or child/smaller child) fics when I was 10-12. Every. Single. One. Was extremely, immensely explicit about the adult being a villain and Evil. The vast majority had a second part or hint at an epilogue where the victim got Revenge. I don’t know the authors’ stories, but you could kinda tell it was often vent fic? (I had anxieties about adults hurting me because I was abused and was starting to be sexually harassed some by unrelated adults and teens, those fics really helped with realizing that even if things ever got way, way worse I’d eventually be fine)

(Society: Oh, honey, adults won’t hurt you!) (demonstrably false)

(Adult/child vent fics: when adults hurt you the lead up looks like this, they are Evil and you can STAB THEM) (actually cathartic + helpful)

Re: anxiety, there’s also a major part of fiction that’s. Basically preparing yourself to react to things? Like, someone tells a story about the Worst thing that ever happened to them and how they reacted. You get to turn it over in your head. Play with it safely. Do a kind of light exposure therapy. (I do this with pregnancy fics, I have a massive phobia/ repulsion towards the idea of getting pregnant so I like to explore the variety of possible reactions to unexpected or unwanted pregnancy, and I’d be shocked if a lot of writers of darkfic weren’t doing that too)

Teacher/student: when I was 15, our Spanish teacher had a baby and took time off. The long-term sub was in her early twenties. She spoke five (five!) languages. She was extremely dedicated to working personally with each of us. I had a Hella Instant Crush. Which is really common! I hadn’t previously found any ships that involved anyone over 17-ish at all interesting, because I’d previously been pretty sure Adults Are Icky, but I found myself delving into basically every teacher/student fic I could get my hands on in my primary fandoms. Some of them portrayed it as unquestionably romantic (these usually involved older students who often had graduated by the fic’s time). Some portrayed it as abuse. Some portrayed it as mutually fucked up and terrible for everyone involved, including the teacher. Some had the student pursuing and convincing their reluctant teacher.

Tagging wasn’t really a Thing back then, the only thing you warned for was slash content, so the abuse and romance and fucked up fics were all jumbled together and there was nothing to say which was right. I, being possessed of better analytical capacity than a five-year-old, was able to pretty easily figure out that the Yeah This Is Fucked Up fics were more realistic, while also satisfying my pretty stubborn crush with the romantic ones because they let me live vicariously. Knowing me I’m decently sure the main reason I didn’t approach my teacher to make vague attempts at flirting was that I had an outlet in fic.

Generic terribleness: tbh I have a violence kink. And a blood kink. And a fighting-as-foreplay kink. Fighting is High Emotions and Adrenaline and all that exciting stuff, and I’ve always been a bit to a lot of a masochist. In general, things that are taboo are interesting! Humans like exploring and playing with them.

Fandom cultural things: the Ultra Super Duper Problematic groups are usually way, way, way more chill. Like, Naruto fandom. The three Big Pairings couldn’t go five seconds without massive flamewars (many of them internal). I meanwhile was (and still am) sitting in the How Terrible Can We Be To Characters Let’s Find Out corner chilling with some pretty nice folk enjoying a drama-free life.

And. Really. Fic’s not the cause of problems? More a reflection/result. Like the top/bottom thing reflected homophobic attitudes in society, and largely went away as education improved. (Also a lot of gay guys making “how to write realistic gay sex” I think helped, I saw a bunch of lists like that getting passed around and sparking convos. Meta is a really great way to improve fandom!)

The Politics of Fandom: Anti-Culture, Anti-Anti Culture, and Censorship

So. I read a fandom meta essay on non-con works in fandom written by a survivor a while ago out of curiosity, and it was very interesting! I enjoyed it, personally, and it really enlightened me. Truthfully, it also helped me come to terms with my own personal stuff as well. Not necessarily directly relating to this specific kink, but other sexual kinks that I have entertained both online and in real life, and have always felt kind of weirdly ashamed about.

The mottos, “don’t like, don’t read,” and, “your kink is not my kink,” and, “ship and let ship,” used to be very important in fandom, and have sort of been lost (or more-so, challenged) over the evolvement of fandom, especially due to the upsurge of liberalism in social media.

Need I remind everyone: fandom was created and meant to be a safe space for us to enjoy content, especially since it’s occupied by a majority population of women (not that men in fandom don’t exist but their numbers are much lesser than ours). Those kinds of rules are important to keep the peace and respect amongst everyone in a fandom. (Without it, chaos ensues. I’ve witnessed this happen so many times it’s ridiculous.)

Of course it has been challenged, very heavily. Especially by the younger generation coming to fandom, many from the Tumblr era. I will also admit, I, myself, have occasionally challenged it as well. How could I not, when society has evolved so much in the past ten years, and things that were acceptable in 2008 (that should not have been) are now scrutinized through a more critical, progressive lens? Why should the same not be applied to fandom? 

Don’t get me wrong: I’m not pro-censorship, but I do think it’s important to be critical, and I am not the kind of person to just accept something as it is and say, “Well, we have allowed it in the past, so why not continue allowing it?” just because it seemed to have worked before. Maybe the answer is that feminism and activism don’t have a place in fandom, and we should just let it be and keep the peace.

I don’t want to pretend as if I know better than others; I’d rather learn and come to a consensus, democratically. I have come to some personal conclusions. Like, it goes without saying that just because someone writes or reads something, doesn’t mean it’s applicable to their real lives and what they personally believe in. Fiction does not equate to real life, et cetera. Writing can be a therapeutic measure, and just because someone writes something, doesn’t mean they should be judged for it, et cetera. Top and bottom discourse sucks and I’m never getting into it again because fuck that, et cetera. People can ship whatever they want and it doesn’t have to impact your ship or mean anything, it’s just a fun thing. We are the only ones who have a responsibility to what we consume. These are things that I’ve learned throughout the past year, through my own mishaps and experiences.

But there are a lot of things I haven’t come to conclusions about. Things that I am still confused about. Like…  what about underage (like, actually underage, not Tumblr underage) characters in sexual positions? I recently read a sexual fic about two characters where one is fourteen and the other is sixteen. Is that questionable? Should fandom people be allowed to write about (very, very underage) children and (actual, real) pedophiles preying on them in the sexual context? Does allowing and consuming this kind of fiction result in a change of psychology for the readers? It’s something I’ve wondered, especially after phenomenas like Twilight, 50 Shades of Grey, the Harry Styles After fanfic that people went wild over, even though it had some questionable themes.

If we read these things, does the existence of such media affect our real-life opinions, actions, and morals? There have been studies done on this before, saying we are heavily influenced by the media we consume. By allowing it, are we diminishing the impact that fanfiction might have on their consumers?

I don’t know; once again I don’t act like I have all the answers. I feel like this is a really complex issue. I also wonder if anti-antis being anti-censorship of all things also doesn’t help the fact. Does being quiet and fighting to allow it mean you’re conspiring to allow ‘problematic’ media to affect the minds of its consumers? 

Once again: I’m not pro-censorship but I just wanted to create this post to think more critically about this stuff potentially learn. If anyone has thoughts I’d love it if you shared them! I’m tagging some of my favourite discourse blogs to signal boost, and maybe see if anyone else has opinions. @freedom-of-fanfic @shipping-isnt-morality @shippingisnotactivism @discoursecatharsis @anti-anti-survivor @shipwhateveryouwant @antipurity

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Also putting tags after the first five, assuming tumblr still functions like it used to (a thin assumption on this hellsite). Only first five tags show up in tumblr tag search thingy. Probably still best to have alternate tags, in case tumblr ever changes that or outright breaks.

OK guys and gals (or whatever you prefer to be called) I have something to say: we need to stop posting in tags that aren’t ours! The pink, kitten and other tags should be reserved for things related to those tags. I know you want people to see your stuff but those tags aren’t the appropriate ones. It’s easy to see why some antis have a problem with us. I don’t post in those tags but I decided to look through them to see if it was as bad as the antis said, it is. Our lifestyle/kink CAN be triggering to some people and we have to respect that. I have arachnophobia (fear of spiders) and I wouldn’t want to see spiders in our tag because 1. They are fucking scary and give me panic attacks and 2. Its not related to our tag. I can’t control ya'all, but please tag responsibly.

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This is a good look at the science behind the false idea that men and women are somehow inherently different, and how it sure is convenient that pop neurology claims that brain scans confirm Western gender roles.

(I too personally know centrist and right-wing nonbinary people (all of them white) because I know a lot of nonbinary people. But nonbinary people are often leftist for the same reason other marginalized identities are anywhere from often to overwhelmingly leftist - the right is really, really fucking hostile towards us, and current established nonbinary communities are hostile towards Trump supporters, so nonbinary rightwingers tend to present only one half of their identity with either group. What happens more commonly is someone realizes they’re not the Right Wing Gender Ideal, realizes the right wing ideal might be wrong about other shit, and then leave that community. The vast majority enbies I know have right-winger families)

Here finds that around 89% of LGB folk are solidly to slightly Democratic or Independent. That doesn’t mean LGB folk are all lying for attention, or that being LGB is a political statement. 

But. Like. Jewishmagpie likes to join truscum in bullying trans minors, so. And refuses to listen to evidence. And correct me if I’m wrong, but I’m also pretty sure is cis? Doesn’t say one way or the other, but usually words things like she is? Which. Like. Cis people get zero say in trans intercommunity issues.

The scientific evidence for being transgender and/or nonbinary is the exact same as the scientific evidence that introverts, extroverts, and ambiverts exist, and that neurodiversity exists. I have the exact same proof that I’m trans and genderfluid as that I’m queer, that I’m autistic, that I’m bipolar, that I’m an ambivert - internal experiences, and since you’re also anti-self dx, also that a psychiatrist confirmed what I already knew (for autism, bipolar, and trans status). (Yup! Scientists acknowledge nonbinary genders, what a radical idea. The scientists who don’t are the same ones who don’t acknowledge anyone as trans, or who insist that trans people must perform their gender more intensely than cis people. Please read this (APA on nonbinary genders), this (identical twins, one is trans other isn’t - clearly not a womb or genetics thing) and this (national geographic summarizing the basic science))

People who insist that you must be This Trans To Enter (like OP) are a huge part of the reason it’s difficult for trans people to get necessary medical care. If someone wants to transition, they should be allowed to, no psychological screening needed. If someone wants to change their gender markers, they should be allowed to, regardless of whether they’ve already transitioned. It costs you jackshit to respect the internal experiences of other people.

The way I see it, there's probably some people who are legitimately non-binary, meaning neither male nor female. We know what the brains of man and women roughly look like. This is part of the scientific evidence for being transgender. I'd be surprised if none of the 6 billion humans on Earth has a brain that falls outside of these categories. But a lot of the people who claim to be non-binary aren't actually that, and are just claiming it to look cool and get attention on the lgbt+ internet.

I see what you’re saying, and I agree to some extent.

If being “non binary” were legitimate – and please excuse my terrible scientific language, I hope that this makes sense – then it would randomly affect people due to whatever mutations or womb-hormones etc made them that way.

But doesn’t it strike you as strange that we’re supposed to accept that this random quirk of biology exists and somehow only affects people that have Leftist (or, most commonly, far-Leftist) political views? 

I mean, if that changes and there are some hard-Right-wingers that say that they’re “non binary,” then of course I’ll be more than happy to reevaluate my views and most probably change them.

But you know what I’m saying here.

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Like. Seriously. I played dnd starting when I was eight. I was often the only under-thirty at the table, sometimes the only under-forty. I made a ton of good friends through gaming at home, at stores, and at conventions. Almost all adults! And then when I was twelve I got into fandom, again most of the friends I made were twenty or older, often thirty or older; some of them helped me realize my sexuality and articulate what I’d always known about my gender. When I was sixteen, I got a job where everyone else was over twenty, again often over thirty. My coworkers were great for talking to and helping put my high school troubles in perspective. Throughout school I was often better friends with the teachers than my classmates. 

I’m currently a mentor to some high school aged queer teens; and there really, really isn’t that big a gap between us - we all struggle with queerphobia and schoolwork and (sometimes) jobs, and I’ve been where they’re at in other cases. And where there is a gap - it’s good to have different perspectives on shit! It’s good to be able to bounce problems and ideas off of someone who experienced and survived the same shit you’re going through. Adults don’t magically become Disney villains the day they turn 18, I promise.

Tbh I liked hanging out with adults better, because they didn’t bully me relentlessly like other kids and teens did.

And really? Anyone telling you that Adults Are Dangerous, Other People (than them) Are Dangerous, that you shouldn’t seek help outside your immediate social circle - that’s anywhere from a massive red flag to toxic as fuck.

I seriously wonder about minors who are like “THERES A HUGE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN A 16 YEAR OLD AND A 20 YEAR OLD!!!” bc like….. please. please go interact with people outside of your high school

go be a camp counselor or make friends at conventions or join a community theater or - something. literally anything that gets you interacting on an equal level with people more than a year or two older than you. school creates an artificial power imbalance that is highly dependent on age, that’s not how maturity works. You SHOULD be having more and more experiences as you approach adulthood where you’re on equal footing with adults. Having adult friends who aren’t directly responsible for your wellbeing is healthy and it’s insane and concerning to me that that’s so RARE now.

(When I say “responsible for your wellbeing” I mean, like, legally liable in some way. A decent friend shouldn’t endanger you or help you break the law, that’s not what I’m talking about here.)

as someone who has experienced being both older and younger than 16 and 20 years old? The difference is NOT as big as you feel it is, and that feeling is shaped by culture, not actual maturity. make friends outside your immediate age bracket, for god’s sake.

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Also not a maxvid shipper (not even sure what that refers to), but I’ve had more than a couple of adult/minor ships over my stint in fandom, though not as copeships. (One, stronger, ship is incest, five year age gap, time period I’m most interested in has them 16-17 and 21-22 [I started shipping them when they were 12/17 when I was also 12, but my interest in that period of canon’s faded]. One, milder, ship is superior/follower, fourteen year age gap, time period I’m most interested in is 15-16 and 29-30, off the top of my head). I’ve been shipping both since I was twelve. I liked the first one because their relationship was violent and violence kink, then later in the series it was revealed that the elder was devoted to the younger, and hello loyalty kink. The second one was popular in the fandom, and one of the few ships available since there weren’t many reoccuring characters, though their dynamic was nice enough 

I tend to age them up in AUs and do a lot of imagining with them later in the series, because I’m interested in people my own age, but I still occasionally play in the sandbox with their original ages. I’d ship them if in source material they were older, too, and would currently prefer that, though I probably would’ve started shipping later since at 12 I wanted at least one partner to be vaguely close to my own age. But the ‘I like this pairing’ switch in my head didn’t magically flip to ‘off’ the day I turned 18.

(I had a fleeting teacher/student ship, too, that was entirely me exploring and working out my crush on a teacher in a safe way, but I stopped shipping it once I finished processing those emotions. But ‘teen is attracted to adult, wants a sandbox to explore this in rather than approaching actual adult’ is a very common use case, and should be encouraged because for most people your imagination is the safest sandbox available. If I hadn’t had a proxy for emotions, I might’ve tried flirting with my teacher, which would’ve put me at risk. Cousin/cousin ships I also have a bunch of lying around, because they were a good way for me to process having a crush on my actual cousin, and actually helped that attraction fade)

A lot of people also kind of... Skipped their own childhood/ teenaged years, and are living them vicariously. I never got a chance to pursue my queerness as a teen, so I like stories about queer teens who can be the people I’d wanted to be.

Here’s the thing: characters aren’t real. That’s... Really very obvious to me, I can experience all the ups and downs of their relationships and all the kink buttons their relationships push, then walk away from the computer and not think about it because nothing actually happened. It’s fiction, and pretty damn far from reality. The siblings aren’t real siblings. The minors aren’t real minors, and despite the occasional anime 16 year old pushing my buttons, I find RL minors unattractive

Also literary history: this sort of shit’s been popular for ages. Catharsis is part of the whole point of tragedy and horror, that tragedy and horror also being sexual doesn’t somehow magically change that. ‘This is terrible’ is a common reason to read something. A lot of people find terrible ships more interesting than non-terrible ships, because terrible ships are dynamic and tense and dramatic, and all those things are elements of stories. Same general reason we go to haunted houses. (I personally find coffee shop AUs and 100% pure organic certified non-GMO ships boring af, I don’t mind no major internal fighting but please at least hang one of them off a cliff so there’s some angst)

You’re allowed to have NOTPs! You’re allowed to have ships you absolutely hate and blacklist and feel sick to your stomach when you see, I have plenty of ships like that, mostly because they managed to actually feel decently close to reality. I tag my shit thoroughly so people with NOTPs and squicks can avoid it, and people with OTPs and kinks can find it. (Tumblr’s terrible for avoiding shit, so I also don’t post the easily squicky stuff here, just on sites with a functional warning system)

Dear maxvid and other pedo shippers…

Can I talk to you for a bit?

And i’m seriuos i’m not bieng sarcastic or wanna hurt you or anything like that, I legit want to talk to you and have a decent adult conversation with you in order to understand why you think shipping pedophilia is ok.Becuase let me get one thing straight, I DESPISE maxvid and other pedo ships but I find that other people constantly yelling,sending death treaths and harrasing you, WILL NOT get us anywhere and is honestly just a horrible way to go about this situation. So instead i just wanna talk, becuase while i hate the ship i don’t think i can bring myself to hate the person without getting to know their personality better.

Oh and another thing, anti-shippers better stay away from this post if all you’re gonna do is get mad and yell at them, This post is here so that we can hopefully make peace and understand shippers instead of just bieng bitter and angry about them all the time. You’re free to interact if your going to be respectfull. but if you just wanna hate and be a jerk then find your own post becuase this one isn’t meant for you.And you better miss me with that,

“they’re pedo’s and pedos hurt minors and csa survivors so they dont deserve respect uwu”

bs becuase on top of the fact that you would need MUCH more then the fact that they ship gross ships to prove that they touch children IRL, you realize that alot of shippers ARE CSA survivors…riight? You realize that alot of them are MINORS like 12-17 right?

“B..b..but they can’t be csa survivors! They ship pedophillia and csa survivors hate those things! It triggers them! Why would any csa survivor ever do that?!”

That’s just the thing, I don’t know, and neither do you, but im not gonna sit here and assume that i do then act as if ostarizing them is somehow gonna help anyone at all, and neither should you. The entire point of this post is to figure out why they ship it so if you’re really curiuos then read carefully, But don’t come here screaming at young children and then telling me you wanna protect them. If you wanna tell a child that they’re doing something wrong do it maturley please, they’ll probably grow out of it eventually later on anyways. You know what? don’t yell at anyone without a good reason period.

Ok so without any further ado…shippers…WHY do you ship the ships you ship?You realize it’s pedophillia right? Like you are straight up shipping canon children with canon grown adults right? Does that not disturb you? I don’t wanna fight i just wanna know.

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I got bingo! At least twice! Do I get a reward?

oops i went off

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Newsflash: nonbinary people are not all non-transitional afab (which the ‘dudes attracted to nonbinary peeps and women are just reducing nonbinary people to their genitals’ assumes). A cis binary dude who is attracted to binary women and me but not other binary men is attracted to more than one gender, and is being respectful of me if he identifies as bi as a result. A cis binary woman who is attracted to binary men and me but not other binary women is attracted to more than one gender, and is being respectful of me if she identifies as bi as a result.

I am bi. I am not attracted to my own gender (because I don’t have a ‘same or similar gender’) or to binary men. I am still bi. The definition of bi doesn’t magically vary between nonbinary and binary people. (My current datemates are a girl and a nonbinary person; if I had to choose a binary gender I’d pick male, does being a Dude-ish attracted to women and nonbinary people but not men make me somehow magically transphobic?)

Also if biphobia is solely homophobia lite then please explain the numerous, numerous biphobic lesbians and gay men. Please explain the conservatives I know who’d readily accept a Proper gay man or lesbian but not one of those Horrid Bis, they might be *gasp* promiscuous!

Also please read an actual queer history book. Please. I’m begging you. The community is a stitched together mess of different groups acting in solidarity. There wasn’t a singular founding, or a singular community even.

Pride Month is nearly upon us & i created this handy flowchart to help anyone who’s still confused

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Thought about how the asexual, aromantic, and nonbinary flags all include black (and white), so I made this triangle graphic for aroace nonbinary people.

Also did one reminding people aces aros and enbies exist, because some of them seem determined to forget…

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Personal experience time!

I didn't used to have dysphoria. However, as a smol bean (like preschool-kindergarten-early grades) I considered myself a boy. I tried to use the boys bathroom, I thought girls were that weird mixture of pretty and icky, I had mostly male friends, I wanted to wear the boys uniform not the girls, I played boy games, I'd wear boys clothes (unless I had something sparkly in girls clothes, I liked sparkly). But I didn't consider my body at all wrong, and when people called me a girl I just got confused because I obviously wasn't. (The intersection of autism and transness can get a bit weird). Then in middle school I considered myself neither, heavily identified with a fictional alien who used itself pronouns and said it'd be rude to use gendered pronouns on it than to call it 'it', wanted to sing baritone in chorus and was proud of my deep voice at the same time as being proud of my developing feminine body, then I considered myself female for a while, then boy again, then in college I joined a queer+ally frat, heard the words genderqueer and genderfluid for the first time and realized those were me. I didn't start experiencing dysphoria until I'd identified as not-entirely-and-solely-female for fifteen long years. I still don't always experience dysphoria, even on boy days. I don't even always experience euphoria, most days I just... Know. Like, people have self knowledge! That can include current gender!

Tl;dr: I, a certified Dysphoric Trans, didn't develop dysphoria until I'd been identifying as a not-girl for fifteen years. There's more than one way to be trans/nonbinary/genderqueer, and that's awesome!

i’m actually really curious and looking to see the other side of this debate,

but why do you think you can be trans without dysphoria?

(don’t give me the argument “gender euphoria” bc that can only exist with gender dysphoria)

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whew ok i made a powerpoint thing for nounself pronouns…..

i’ve really been wanting to try and help others understand these pronouns? so i made this ah!! i hope it can help. if anyone has questions, feel free to send me a message and ask. 

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uh, hey, just to let you know, if you’re claiming to be attracted to women, you’re fetishizing and you’re a misogynist because, like, do you think all women look the same??? oh, you saw one in a catalog once and went, every woman looks like her??? you saw some chick in your comic book, and you were like, oh, I like her personality??? uh, news flash, not all women have the same personality, and, actually, women are people, and they’re different, so you can’t just claim to be attracted to them, duh. like, they don’t look the same, they don’t act the same, they don’t like the same things, they don’t interact with you the same way, what are you even saying you like about women huh??? and what do you call it when you say all women are exactly the same??? oh, yeah!!! you mean you’re attracted to Hollywood-typical-white-women-with-medium-sized-breasts-who-are-quiet-but-really-passionate-about-knitting-and-reading-and-are-friendly-but-take-a-while-to-become-really-good-friends-with-someone-and-like-dogs-a-lot-who-are-willing-to-go-rock-climbing-with-you-and-hate-coffee, not women

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Pre-hrt trans girls: 😍😍❤❤ No hrt trans girls: 😍😍❤❤ Trans girls on hrt: 😍😍❤❤ Trans girls in general: 😍😍😍😍😍❤❤❤💕💕💕

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Like, when I was a kid I thought I was a boy, then I thought I was Something Else, then I thought I’d been imagining it all, then finally I realized I was genderfluid. Does that mean boys don’t exist, since I was wrong about being one?

u know its really not hard to say “i used to identify as ace/bi/trans and later decided the label didnt fit me” instead of “i used to be ace/bi/trans because ‘ace/bi/trans tumblr’ made me think i had to be so i can speak over your experiences as a ace/bi/trans person”

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I’ve had friends shipping me with a guy friend of mine ruin a friendship. Don’t do this, unless someone has explicitly said they’re fine with it. Especially don’t send people your fanfic of them, or mention that you ship them. It’s okay to have fantasies, but if they involve real people, keep them away from those people!

Saw this and wanted to share it, because stop shipping celebrities, when they tell you to stop. It makes them uncomfortable and as you see it doesnt end well.