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some of my favorite replies to this tweet. happy lesbian visibility week!

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“Some aros date!” Yeah well some aros will also rip your head off and dissolve you in acid but your not counting them are you

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Things friends can't do according to allos!

(these are all things I have been told with 100% sincerity, and not stuff that I myself believe.)

Give each other meaningful gifts

Pay attention to the others likes and dislikes

Look at one another in a 'certain way' (???)

Match clothes or accessories

Hold hands for 'too long' (???)

Hug for 'too long' or hug 'too close' (???)

Cuddle because it's 'too intimate'

Not want to pull away during a hug or holding hands

Lean onto the other emotionally and physically

Smile in one another's presence

Laugh at each others jokes

Give genuine advice

Text each other 'good morning' 'good evening' 'good night' 'happy birthday' 'happy new years' 'merry Christmas' etc, etc

Ask how the others doing

I'll add more once I think of things I've forgotten

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i open the lesbian tag. i see 20 posts about gold star lesbians in a row. i close the lesbian tag

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as an aroace, im particularly dangerous, because i wont fuck or marry. i only know how to kill.

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Me then: I don't understand why other aros complain about fandom so much, it can't be that bad

Me now, crawling out of fandom covered in blood: I see

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this has probably already been done, but it popped into my brain and I had to make it so here you go

+ aroallo, non-sam aro, and neu aro variants

➹DON'T TAG THIS AS ASEXUAL/ACE OR AROACE➹

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actually being aro is a tragedy. not for me but for the allos. I'm a catch.

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God forbid a person be aromantic. God forbid a woman be aromantic. We live in a world where romance is treated like the holy grail and friendships are pushed to the side. A woman is supposed to fall in love and get married and have children and it's not fair to people who don't feel that way.

I hate it so much

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ppl are so quick to modify and soften and put qualifiers on aromantic people’s statements. i’ll say “love loses” and here come seven thousand people in the notes going “funny joke but love is good actually!” “romantic love loses but not platonic love platonic love is great!” “but platonic love is still good though…” no actually i said what i meant the first fucking time. is it so hard to let someone just say something ever

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Friendly reminder that "aroace" is NOT the umbrella term for the whole aromantic/asexual community

The correct umbrella term is Aspec

Aroace is its own specific identity and alloaros don't want to be placed in the "aroace" community

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[image description: image of an Aardvark with grey, yellow and white in the background. Text says “Parents say they just want you to be happy and get married” at the top and “Oxymoron” at the bottom.]

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I wish people didn't automatically assume that if you're aro you're also ace. I love sex. wish I was having more sex tbh

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It has always bothered me how aroaces can pull the "it's the same thing," bc that has been said to me before. But my aro-ness cannot be singularly just aro without being assumed to be aroace by even people I've come out to before. And so then it's made aware that I'm still allosexual, just like I was before when I came out as bi, and suddenly that's contradictory and two separate things and how uncomfortable most aces can get about allosexual things - even tho my aromanticism defines my sexuality and my sexuality is an aromantic sexuality. For me it is one and the same too, but I have to be ripped apart to just belong as "aro." Rinse, repeat, for 12 years now. Rinse, repeat.