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A New Name?

Those who have known me a while know I reclaimed my name, Shantel, a few years back. Yet at retreat the ladies who I hadn’t met had trouble relating me with my name they told me. And I’ve noticed recently I’ve been Shannii again as much as Shantel. During my magical visit to Avebury we spoke with and asked for messages from the Trees and the Wind. That night in ceremony we created a potent…

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Why Is Being in a Loving, Long-Lasting Relationship Considered “Not Living” These Days?

It’s something that’s been weighing on my heart lately, especially because my own children have found love young, and it’s beautiful. But I keep hearing, “They’re too young to settle down,” or “They should be out there living their lives!” And it leaves me wondering—why do so many people think that being in a committed, loving relationship means you’re not really living? Are people saying my…

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The Bear or the Man?

If you haven’t seen – there has been a social experiment going around on social media asking if you would rather be alone in the woods with a bear or a man, showing women saying they would feel safer with the bear than a man. There was a time where I would have chosen the bear too. There was a time when I thought there were no safe men. There was a time when my nervous system was so…

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The Bear or the Man?

There was a time where I would have chosen the bear too. There was a time when I thought there were no safe men. There was a time when my nervous system was so on that nothing you could do would ever give me a fright because I was prepared for everything. There was a time where I never said no, and therefore kept the story in my head going that there was only one thing men wanted from…

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The Bear or the Man?

If you haven’t seen – there has been a social experiment going around on social media asking if you would rather be alone in the woods with a bear or a man, showing women saying they would feel safer with the bear than a man. There was a time where I would have chosen the bear too. There was a time when I thought there were no safe men. There was a time when my nervous system was so…

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Our Basic Needs get to be satisfied

Throughout our lives we have various requirements that must be met. These are our needs and desires, which range from basic physical needs to selfless desire. When any of these are not met, negative physical, mental, and emotional complications and addictions can result, sometimes with distressful consequences. This post is about needs. A need is an explicit requirement, like feeling hungry…

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Crank up your Creativity

Creativity is a quality that we all have buried inside of us, one way or the other. It involves the invention of something new or the re-invention of something already existing to make it useful or interesting. Some people’s creative abilities are closer to the surface and one can easily see the manifestations of them. People say that their creativity is “inborn”. For others, expressing…

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Feminine and Masculine characters - are you playing?

This may be an Unpopular opinion but Femininity cannot be taught. At least not in the way I see most people thinking it can. It’s not wearing flowing dresses. It’s not wearing long flowy hair. It’s not wearing makeup. It’s not a certain way of speaking. It’s not bigger boobs. It’s not bowing down to all the men. Anyone teaching this stuff is teaching you how to play a character. And…

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Triumphing over Mediocrity

Are you tired of the same old existence? Do you want more out of life than what life seems to be handing you? You can rise above mediocrity but you must first change your mindset. To begin, you must have a keen desire for change in your life. You must know what you want, even if you don’t yet know how to get it. Be definitive in your desire. If you only had a short time to live, what would…

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Create your Hearts Desire

There is a polarity in everything in life…. happy and sad, rich and poor, fat and thin. It is the contrast and the differences between things that can really help us clarify what we want in life. When it comes to creating your life there is the having and the “not” having. In order to create what you want in your life you need to focus on what you want, in other words “the having”. If you…

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I know those feelings

The woman you see before you today is not the woman she used to be. I never would have done the things I do or said the things I say. Yet here I am. I know those thoughts of I can’t do it That fast beating heart The small constricted breaths Feeling weak in the knees The negative self talk I get it I’ve felt it I’ve experienced anxiety too It’s not often I come across someone who…

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Do you have a Coping Toolbox?

Life consistently presents us with challenges and changes and at times this can lead to us feeling stressed. Planning how to manage and cope in various life situations, and finding out which coping skills work best for you, is the key to succeeding with stress rather than experiencing distress. This post contains ideas for coping with stress and also acute emotional crises. Here are some ideas…

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Wasting time or is it?

My husband told me that since I became a Glamma I have had a very short, sharp tongue when it comes to time wasting. And he made me realise he’s right. Yet when my granddaughter is in my vicinity I could ‘waste’ all the time in the world just watching her. And I think to myself it’s because babies are our biggest signs of how quickly time moves, whether we want it to or not. I’ve often been…

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My favourite 10 Traits of Highly Successful People

These are the people who inspire me! I’ve studied them, and I’ve noticed they have the following traits in common: They work hard! Yet, they play hard, too! They get up early, they rarely complain, they expect performance from others, but they expect extraordinary performance from themselves. Repeated, high-level success starts with a recognition that hard work pays off. They are incredibly…

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The Time For Me is Now

This trip has had me in all the feels and I have been trying to figure out why? Its not the first time I’ve gone away solo so that’s not it. Its not even the first time I’ve been to this country so that’s not it. Then I started thinking about how normally when I go away for this period of time it has some kind of volunteer aspect to it. Normally I’m volunteering in environmental or animal…

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Our Basic Needs get to be satisfied

Throughout our lives we have various requirements that must be met. These are our needs and desires, which range from basic physical needs to selfless desire. When any of these are not met, negative physical, mental, and emotional complications and addictions can result, sometimes with distressful consequences. This post is about needs. A need is an explicit requirement, like feeling hungry…

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Know the Secret of Goal Setting

When asking the majority of people before a contest, whether it be a rugby match or a spelling bee, what they want, they will inevitably say, “I want to WIN.” Who doesn’t? I have yet to meet anyone who competes that says they don’t care if they win as long as they have fun. Note I said someone who competes. I don’t, and have never, like competitions. I quit ballet when my teacher asked me to…