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[ID: a rough doodle of a grimacing person, labelled "me," opening a bottle of sparkling cider, labelled "cider that apparently got shookened." the bottle shoots a blast of cider, labelled "Beam Attack," at a cat, labelled "gertrude."]

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if you say “but aros can still date!” about your aromantic blorbo, I need you to mean it. you can’t make the ship just boring old romance.

your blorbo is still aromantic, so how would that color their relationships? how would that affect their daily life? do they struggle with feeling “greedy” because they can’t love their partner back the way their partner loves them? do they have a hard time with an allo partner because on a fundamental level they don’t quite understand what romance is like, even if they’re experiencing it? on the positive side; what societal boundaries of romance do they cast aside or embrace? how do they navigate a romantic relationship differently than their peers? if it’s an aro4aro partnership, how is it unique? how much does being aro define their relationship vs. just their own personal quirks? is that even a line that can be drawn?

an aro relationship is different from an allo one. I promise, it’s so much more fun to explore what that means and the consequences of that than just “oh aros can date so they’re dating in the same way any allos would”.

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Source | Day 97

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sexual attraction? you mean the thing that killed romeo and juliet?

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ayyyyyy, shoutout to bunnings stocking a colour called “ace of spades” for giving me this idea

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F/M ships, but in the gayest way possible

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Hey, guess who official uses they/them as one of their pronouns now

Me, always choosing they/them pronouns for my characters in videogames whenever I get the option: this means absolutely nothing, it's just pure coincidence

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Gender abolition, but make it:

clothes sorted by body shape and style, instead of gender

removing unnecessary gender markers from non-medical documents like a driver’s license

genderless bathrooms where the stalls have floor-to-ceiling walls for privacy

abolishing gendered toys, colors, professions, hobbies, etc.

they/them as the default if you don’t know someone

And NOT:

trans and non-binary people being barred from identifying with and expressing their gender

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Please know that if any of you need advice or to vent or just want to talk, this blog is here for you

Whether it's about a-spec topics, sexuality, gender, medieval weaponary, anything, I'm here

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Asexuality is not about hating sex. Some aces are averse to the idea of having sex, but that does not mean they hate it for others. Asexuality is about having little to no sexual attraction. Sexual ACTION, attraction , and libido are all separate. Attraction, not action, is the key.

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theyre gonna fuck, yeah, but its gonna be aromantic and you gotta be normal about that

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omg I love what you’ve done with your gender

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H. Melt, “There Are Trans People Here” (2021)

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Being aroace as a teenager feels like being the only sober person at a rave.

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That is so real, I once was working on a story where I intended to have the mc be aro ace like me and it turns out she's a lesbian

I just haven't figured out when she figures that out

I dare y'all to headcanon the extroverted flirt as gay and the edgy introvert as bi or pan

Do it, you've been dared

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There is a difference that I can't articulate because I can't really put my finger on what the difference, there's just a...vibe?...aura?...idk

Like for trans dudes, they give off the feeling of he's a man

But women cosplaying dudes, they give off the feeling of she's a guy

I don't even know what that means! But I have no other words!

Gender for me is like, I'll see a girl cosplaying a male character and think damn, I want that for me and I'll see a trans guy and think no thanks, not for me, but people always hear the first part and think I'm a trans dude who just hasn't admitted it to themself

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Gender for me is like, I'll see a girl cosplaying a male character and think damn, I want that for me and I'll see a trans guy and think no thanks, not for me, but people always hear the first part and think I'm a trans dude who just hasn't admitted it to themself