#(no i know. they taught me that in therapy.)

[nocturnowlette]

Aren't you worried about forming a cult of personality?

Group hypnotherapy, mediated especially by a single individual, seems to encourage that kinda parasocial following.

Mix that with personalised sessions with multiple people, possibly seen as lovebombing. Elevating your audience to the idea that they're a mutual, when they're not even close to your personal life.

Why not just point to a larger, more professional hypnotherapy server? Such could guide the individual to somebody that may be better equipped for them personally, and constructive yet critical peers for yourself and other hypnotists.

It could offer other methods (including non-hypnotherapy ) that could guide individuals to heal faster.

Imo, it's a lot healthier when attention is spread out mutually, and treatment exposure is not at the whim of a subjective personality.

And if just a group, not primarily about hypnosis and more about your explorations of it, then you should post that kinda stuff to your channel instead so the video can receive feedback from hypnotherapists, and it'll be able to be seen by everybody, not just the people in your server, and you can just do puppy stuff there. As long as it's all safe and doesn't form unhealthy bonds that prioritise escapism over wellbeing.

You seem confused on what this server is.

Firstly, it's not hypnotherapy at all; it's a recreational hypnosis server. I, in fact, actively discourage anyone who is not a professional therapist (let alone hypnotherapist) from attempting to serve that role to someone else. Many hypnotists who just start out see conditioning as a hammer and every emotional problem as a nail, and I shut that down immediately.

You also seem to heavily overestimate my role as the server leader. If we were to quantify activity of hypnotists in the server, I likely would not even be in the top 5. I've largely lost my interest in regular hypnosis sessions for the last few months and serve mostly as the teacher and guide, as well as just the administrative server owner.

This server is not even about hypnosis so much as it is a community server that has hypnosis as a binding topic. If I were to give a topical split of how much it's talked about versus everything else, I'd say that it composes less than 10% of all discussion in the server. Therian/puppy stuff takes up slightly more than that, maybe 20 to 25%, then the rest of the server is nerds talking about their interests and having fun.

Any emotional progress made in the server is consequential and due to the place letting people feel safe to be themselves. Such a thing does seem to help folks quite a lot, but no active therapy is being done, and we encourage folks to actually seek therapy among other things.

My role as the server owner is largely due to necessity. I've always found myself at a lack of communities that actually suit me, so I've always had to make them myself. I quite dislike being the leader and much like with hypnosis, I actually prefer being on the lack-of-power end and not the super-in-power one. I'm a subject far more than a hypnotist.

I'm selective about who joins because every single server member to have caused issues and then left joined the first day of the server before there was a member cutoff. This place simply won't work for the majority of people, and the people who are let in are ones that would benefit from it.

On to the other topic, I trust therapists who know some hypnosis, not hypnotherapists. Hypnotherapy has been infected by quacks who know next to nothing and is, by almost every measure, a community destroyed by scientific mysticism. It is maybe the worst representation of hypnosis in our world and at best is hardly helpful, while at worst is actively destructive.

Every hypnotherapist I've met has been woefully knowledge-less on the actual functions of hypnosis and how it works, and seems to only know how to do the specific things they're taught. It's the difference between memorization and understanding. They were chewed up and spit out by the pseudoscience factory and think they know anything.

I have no intentions to ever be a hypnotherapist because it is not even close to the best method of processing any emotions whatsoever. I like hypnosis as a hobby, a way to have fun with people. If you want something similar that is more helpful, look into Gestalt therapy.

[frogwithastrawberry]

What if after crawling out of the harbor Kaz made sure he knew how to swim, and how to swim with extra weight, because he didn't ever want to rely on someone or something else if he ended up in the water again.

It's one of the things that started the rumors that Dirtyhands wasn't human. Fisherman would see him walk out to the docks in the dead of winter, fully clothed in his coat and all, and then dive into the water, no matter how rough it was. They all assumed that he was dead, because no one ever saw him get out of the water, yet he was always back the next day.

They assumed that he would stop when he broke his leg and started using a cane. But he didn't. They watched the scrawny kid, cloaked in mercher black clothes and a heavy wool coat, limp down the dock, take a deep breath, and jump in the water again.

At some point someone suggested he might be a tidemaker, but no one ever saw him control any water. He'd just dive in. And it's widely known that he wouldn't have made it this far in life if he was using tidemaker powers visibly. So they all just assumed that Kaz Brekker was a non-human entity incapable of dying.

[trebuchet151]

This is jumping the queue bc some really cool people reblogged my last post of Corey and they escaped containment.

Updated sidestep design perpetual WIP

Sidestep days vs retribution. They're slowly reacquiring their self expression. Next book will probably be the full return of the scene/punk look

Bonus Corey sans most of their clothing to show off their tattoos under the cut. CW for healed SH scars

Yes that is Ortega's bedroom yes I half assed it. I drew this background in my car at work when it was like 110 degrees idgaf

[gxlden-angels]

Bro I hate fundamentalists and culturally-fundie parents they'll say shit like "spare the rod spoil the child am I right haha yea my parents used to have to beat my ass with a switch almost everyday but I sure did learn my lesson" but like??? no you didn't??? you were hit multiple times for something you very obviously did not, in fact, learn

Like studies about how harmful even lightly spanking children is aside, you're literally contradicting yourself?? Some even admitted they got worse as they got older cause they wanted to see how far they could push their parents before they got punished

And studies not aside, you're gonna get child raising advice from the same book that tells you to stone your wife if her hymen doesn't break on your wedding night instead of the decades of research we have now?? Just say you're a bad parent and move on my guy. Skill issue

[mad-hunts]

just imagining one of the doctors from arkham trying to get through to barton by calling an unprompted, sort of intervention-like therapy session even though he has been TOTALLY uncooperative even during the previous normal one's he's had with them and this doctor telling him something like ' you know, you can't just keep on fighting people who said something you don't like / did something you don't like towards you. you've got to communicate with them that you didn't like it ' while they're just staring at a barton who has like. the BIGGEST shiner on his face and dried blood underneath his nose from fighting someone that day is 💀 idk but for some reason, it's making me cackle JSJSJ he is so bad and for what reasonnn

[handweavers]

I think it’s mostly just the way you phrased that post was like you were assuming whoever was reading it must be shallow and have no life or personality outside of “consuming media” (the most robotic internet term for enjoying art and stories). Which just feels ironic given that it’s on the self-proclaimed “fandom website” where people are bound to go onto their blogs to talk about, like, movies or whatever the hell. Not that I think that’s definitely how you feel because I don’t know you, but at least in my opinion that how most people read your post. It just feels kind of annoying in an especially Tumblr-y way to ask “can you even stand yourself when you aren’t reading a book? do you even have any personality outside of watching that show?”, get surprised when some people who see it think it’s dumb, then immediately go “well I must be right then if you’re all so offended by it… Maybe that’s something you should unpack”. Sorry people are being rude to you though lol, I’m sure you meant well and it was probably just meant to be like a 5-note-post for your mutuals or something.

it was a series of questions i wrote mainly for myself and maybe 5 people who i knew wouldn't interpret my words in bad faith and knew what i was trying to say because we are friends and they understand where i am coming from and the context i was talking in. it wasn't intended to blow up nor was it my goal and im actually quite frustrated that it did because it's only been a headache. even in this ask you are misinterpreting my words and reading into them in the worst possible way and making assumptions about me that are incorrect and you even acknowledge you're doing this in the ask lol so i don't even know what your goal was with sending this. i deleted the post(s) a while ago and want nothing more to do with this conversation sorry

[johndonneswife]

[daffodil--lament]

i keep remembering and feeling sick to my stomach. it's like finding out for the first time every single time. god i am so tired

[arduyn]

I really wish there was a way to be like “hey I love you, I care about you but I’m blocking you temporarily because we’re at way different points in our lives and I am happy to open the door and have a friendship with you after you go through therapy and learn how to heal in a way that works for you.” But in a nice polite way that conveys the warmth and genuine regret I feel about the situation. We’re on different journeys and life paths but that doesn’t mean they can’t cross again, that doesn’t mean it’s over with forever. It’s just that I put in the work to change and better myself and I need a break so I don’t regress because the situation is too painful for me unless they go to therapy and work on things too. But mental health is so stigmatized that it makes it sound much crueler than it really is. And I also am terrified to say things that could be misinterpreted and perceived in a way I don’t mean. So I didn’t say that, I only blocked (only on one platform) despite what it would look like. Ugh.

Anyway, my friend, if you read this I’m not angry with you and I don’t hate you. I want you to get better and meet up with you when we’re both happier and in better mental spaces. We both deserve that. If you reach out to me I’ll listen. That door was never completely shut and I don’t intend on doing so.

I just want us both to be healthy.

[tardis--dreams]

On a scale from 1 to 10 how weird would it be to write a little thank you/goodbye card to a colleague you really like where you'd tell him you learned a lot from him and appreciate his support and had fun working with him? It's a 10, isn't it.

[kamiitsubakii]

it'd be great if life would stop giving me stressors every time i have to go into work soon

[thethingything]

local man discovers he's gotten into the habit of using DBT techniques without actually being taught them because at some point he realised that the things we get the urge to do when we have strong emotions often aren't healthy and that he doesn't like how he feels afterwards so he started noticing when that was happening and going "fuck that shit" and doing the opposite instead

[bitterpngs]

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[tokyoteddywolf]

22 isn't very much at all, I think.

[crawlingbetweenearthandheaven]

angry at myself for not applying to oxford. i know so many thickos who got into oxford. i could have got in. need to let it go because it has been ten years since my open day but like. still feel inadequate for "only" going where i did go..

[a-shakespearean-in-paris]

There’s a couple of things I credit to my improved mental health this year compared to last--therapy of course is a major one, but another has definitely been having friends who are in the same place in life as me. 

When my mental health was poor, most of friends were/are married and settled. Now that I have friends who are in similar places as me I don’t feel like I’m behind or inadequate, which are a lot of things that drove me to therapy in the first place.

Sometimes I do still feel left behind, but those feelings have definitely lessened.