#Eulogy

[warningsine]

[chambertomb]

Everyone is so confused by they/them until you do not use they/them, then suddenly it's the only pronouns they understand

[mournfulroses]

Kim Addonizio, from Mortal Trash: Poems; "Eulogy," originally published in 2016

[asexualandalwaysshipping]

If you dislike Eulogy solely because you thought Paul Giamatti’s character treated Carol terribly then you missed the point. Did he treat her unfairly? Of course. And the entire episode centers around him coming to terms with that.

Have you ever had a relationship that ended and you couldn’t for the life of you figure out how it all crashed and burned? You rewind the memories over and over in your head again and it doesn’t add up. You two loved each other, wanted to build a life together, so where did it all go wrong? And the longer you go without an answer the angrier you get. Because if you don’t see where it went wrong then the problem couldn’t possibly lie with you. So you start blaming everything on the other person. The memories you shared together don’t feel so happy now because even just thinking about them gets you furious. It’s all their fault you couldn’t work out. You did nothing but love them.

And then, maybe years later, you’ve grown and you’ve changed, and now you’ve started to see things in a different light. Were they really the person you thought they were? Was there something you missed? Were they the ones who stopped trying first or you? And you begin to question everything. But it’s been so long and you gotten so accustomed to putting the blame on them that it seems pointless to ponder on it any longer. It’s all in the past anyways.

But you start opening up to someone about the events that unfolded and they keep pointing out holes in your story. The inconsistencies. Something seems amiss. And as you go on, you also seem to question yourself. Suddenly it doesn’t seem like a matter of how well you remember but how much you forgot. After so much time, it’s hard to be able to confront your own contribution to things turned out. You want to deny it but it’s true. There was more that you could’ve done. Reach out. Listen. But what can you do now? It’s too late. But however painful it feels, you also feel relieved in a way. Because after so long you finally got your answers.

The story never tries to justify his actions or put him in a better light while villainizing Carol. It was giving him the closure he never realized he needed.

[redlettermediathings]

[what-the-wound-remembers]

Starting a collection. Creatures whose lives were changed/ended due to forces completely outside of their understanding.

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Eulogy

Yarden Bibas’ eulogy for his wife Shiri, and children Ariel, and Kfir Bibas who were kidnapped by Palestinian terrorists on October 7, 2023, from their home in Kibbutz Nir Oz, southern Israel, and brutally murdered by Palestinian terrorists while in captivity in Gaza: 

"Mi Amor"

I remember the first time I said "mi amor" to you. It was at the very beginning of our relationship. You told me to only call you that if I was certain I loved you, not to say it carelessly. I didn't say it then because I didn't want you to think I was rushing to say "I love you." Shiri, I'll confess to you now that I already loved you back then when I said "mi amor."

Shiri, I love you and will always love you!

Shiri, you are everything to me!

You are the best wife and mother there could be.

Shiri, you are my best friend.

Mishmish, who will help me make decisions now? How am I supposed to make decisions without you?

Do you remember our last decision together?

In the safe room, I asked if we should "fight or surrender." You said fight, so I fought.

Shiri, I'm sorry I couldn't protect you all. If only I had known what would happen, I wouldn't have fired.

I think about everything we went through together—there are so many beautiful memories.

I remember Ariel and Kfir's births. I remember the days we would sit at home or in a café, just the two of us, talking for hours about everything under the sun. It was wonderful. I miss those times deeply.

Your presence is profoundly missed.

I want to tell you about everything that's happening in the world and here in Israel.

Shiri, everyone knows and loves us—you can't imagine how surreal all this madness is.

Shiri, people tell me they'll always be by my side, but they're not you. So please stay close to me and don't go far!

Shiri, this is the closest I've been to you since October 7th, and I can't kiss or hug you, and it's breaking me!

Shiri, please watch over me...

Protect me from bad decisions. Shield me from harmful things and protect me from myself. Guard me so I don't sink into darkness.

Mishmish, I love you!

Chuki, Ariel,

You made me a father. You transformed us into a family.

You taught me what truly matters in life and about responsibility.

The day you were born, I matured instantly because of you. You taught me so much about myself, and I want to thank you.

So thank you, my beloved.

Ariel, I hope you're not angry with me for failing to protect you properly and for not being there for you. I hope you know I thought about you every day, every minute.

I hope you're enjoying paradise. I'm sure you're making all the angels laugh with your silly jokes and impressions. I hope there are plenty of butterflies for you to watch, just like you did during our picnics.

Chuki, be careful when you climb down from your cloud not to step on Toni...

Teach Kfir all your impressions and make everyone laugh up there.

Ariel, I love you "the most in the world, always in the world," just as you used to tell us.

Poopik, Kfir,

I didn't think our family could be more perfect, and then you came and made it even more perfect...

I remember your birth. I remember during the delivery when the midwife suddenly stopped everything—we were frightened and thought something was wrong—but it was just to tell us we had another redhead. Mom and I laughed and rejoiced.

You brought more light and happiness to our little home. You came with your sweet, captivating laugh and smile, and I was instantly hooked!

It was impossible not to nibble on you all the time.

Kfir, I'm sorry I didn't protect you better, but I need you to know that I love you deeply and miss you terribly!

I miss nibbling on you and hearing your laughter.

I miss our morning games when mom would ask me to watch you before I went to work. I cherished those little moments so much, and I miss them now more than ever!

Kfir, I love you the most in the world, always in the world!

I have so many more things to tell you all, but I'll save them for when we're alone.

Via: The Hostages Families Forum Headquarters

[radgalniya]

black mirror season 7 thoughts(spoilers)

dare i say, this is the best black mirror season. idc idc. i love every episode, so this isn’t a real ranking. every episode is #1.

1. USS Callister: Infinity

i don’t need to explain. amazing sequel. lived up to the hype. honestly could’ve been a movie on its own. so good. i loved the reveal that walton put a clone of robert into the heart of infinity and that the entire game was built upon that. that is so sick and evil i can’t even. then when i stupidly thought robert could be good, he was exactly who we thought he would be. come to think of it, if he had access to the hospital footage where nanette was, are you really telling me he was unaware of everything else that happened. yea right good riddance. and i almost felt sorry for that stupid ho too. also, i loved pixie’s character.

2. Common People

so tragic and real. the subscription service that takes away features and adds them to a “premium” service that costs more combined with a company exploiting their access to peoples brains in order to advertise combined with a company leveraging critical healthcare to maximize profits combined with a family struggling to concieve combined with people hurting themselves to make ends meet was honestly too real and so depressingly sad. exactly what i love in a black mirror episode.

3. Hotel Reverie

is it really a good black mirror season if there’s not an episode dedicated to a lesbian romance. i mean seriously. i hated that brandy didn’t tell them what she built with clara though. it was tragic when they made her go on with the story and then to see clara sacrifice herself and how empty brandy was when it was over. was crying real tears. the ending phone call of them flirting softened the blow a bit…a bit🤏🏿issa’s acting was a little awkward when she wasn’t being comedic but i didn’t care that much bc the episode was still so enjoyable.

4. Eulogy

i’m ngl. this guy pissed me off a little bit like he was being so unfair. making it seem like carol was the sole problem in the relationship as if he didn’t cheat first w the girl he told her not to worry about. then he didn’t even stop to think about her long enough to realize she was pregnant or that something was wrong. he was clearly very selfish and self obsessed buttttt also he was young. and i was still sad that they never got the chance to see things through before she passed. like he clearly loved her. also the main guy acted his ASS off, it was amazing. and i bawled when carol’s daughter played her song and he finally remembered carol’s face. rip carol dawg

5. Plaything

i feel like this is the underdog of the season. i’m agnostic so unfortunately i spend lots of time thinking about our creation and existence. this episode had me comparing the throngs to us and our creator to cameron. like do you think god has a deep desire to prove himself worthy of us like cameron does to the throngs? bc most of us have been taught that it should be the other way around. and do you think when things go horribly wrong on this planet that it’s just another higher being fucking with us for fun. maybe our god is fighting for us and losing, we can’t really blame god for that. ig i cared less about the tech part of this episode and more about the relationship between the throngs and cameron. also someone had mentioned maybe the throngs witnessed cameron and lump and decided humanity should die and wiped them out at the end lol valid!

6. Bete Noire

this episode had me losing my mind. i suffer from this debilitating disease where i’m always right and if some raggedy bitch used some tech to manipulate reality to the point where even when i’m right, i’m technically not right…i’d lose my fucking mind. maria was so valid for going crazy. like verity girl i’m sure it hurt deeply to be bullied in hs and i fully support ur right to vengeance but this isn’t even revenge anymore. it’s just diabolical. it’s one thing to mess around like just do more of the barnie’s/bernie’s stuff. but ur driving these women to the grave!!! and in becoming empress to the universe and a famous superstar, you never considered…therapy??? or going back and changing what happened in hs?? idk there’s so many solutions here and you picked not even one correct one. also maria’s boyfriend was so annoying. if ur my man, take my side! if i say fuck that ho, cosign!

[sillydegu]

Daisy

January 2023 - 19th April 2025

Daisy was the sweetest little rat, getting up when I called her name, and licking any fingers that ended up near her face. She loved pea fishing, although she only liked the inside of peas and would drop the shells back in the water, only to be annoyed at finding all these pea shells when she's trying to fish for peas! Her enthusiasm for eggs kept her determined to get in long after everyone else had given up. The only thing she loved more than food was her friends, she always got on well with everyone.

[ghost-37]

El Hajj Malik El Shabazz - Murdered by the state February 21, 1965

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[fennshui]

Hotel Reverie stabbed me and Eulogy shot me in the head.

[cassowariess]

Fucking bawling after watching the Eulogy episode of Black Mirror Season 7.

[blueshistorysims]

Miss Pace with lover of almost thirty-five years Giselle Walsh, 1950.

Francesca Ka Ling Pace was born in British Hong Kong to British missionary Francis Pace and native Hong Konger Liang Pace (Nee. Lee). Shortly after her birth, her father returned to Mainland China to continue missionary work where he was eventually murdered in the Boxer Rebellion, leaving her with her mentally unstable mother, who took her own life when Francesca was ten. She was adopted by her father's aunt Rosamond Pace, an older spinster, bringing her to Newcrest England, where she befriended a young Giselle Walsh, the duo quickly becoming inseparable.

Francesca and Giselle's relationship eventually turned romantic when they were teenagers and remained together ever since. After World War I, the girls moved to London to pursue Giselle's dream of becoming a fashion designer, and together the girls opened up a fashion house with Francesca as CFO and co-founder, where they quickly gained popularity.

During the Second World War, Francesca became a nurse to support the war effort, eventually having her "niece" Lydia join her after she and Giselle helped her and Giselle's nephew Lord Simon-Elliot elope in secret. While they lost their home and business during the Blitz, their new building rivaled the most popular houses globally. After the war, Walsh Fashion House once more enjoyed the popularity it had in the decades before as a place of premier and high-end fashion.

Very good with numbers and business, Francesca managed to carve out a successful career in light of being an Asian woman in the early 20th century, embracing both her English and Hong Konger heritage with pride. Open with her sexuality and preference for wearing pants, she navigated the world as a wealthy modern woman, always looking toward the future before her early death from heart cancer.

Francesca is survived by her partner Giselle, cousin Xiufang, cousin-in-law Henry, cousin's daughter Lydia, and her partner's brother, wife, and their children.

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francesca through the years :,( i am actually upset i don't earlier "photos" of her :(

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One of the primary goals of The Fade Codex—at least to its creator—is to move beyond the rigid structure imposed by the Chantry and develop a flexible and nuanced classification system for spirits. Thus, the 'Spirit Alignment' classification system was created.

Spirit Alignment System:

Spirits are categorized based on their core ideals, emotions, or drives, rather than narrow, static definitions.

This approach provides a more adaptable and insightful exploration of their identities, behaviors, and transformations.

Spirit Evolution:

The Spirit Alignment system aims to address the evolution of spirits, showing how they grow from simpler forms into more complex, emotionally driven entities.

Example: Docktown's Spirit of Compassion evolving into Eulogy from In Memoriam in DATV

Now that we understand the goals of The Fade Codex, let’s explore its classification system and see how Spirit Alignment offers a different perspective on these enigmatic entities we call spirits!

Why Classifying Spirits is Helpful

Classifying spirits into 'Spirit Alignment' categories such as learning-based, hope-based, and others provides a structured framework for understanding their nature, purpose, and behavior within both the Fade and Thedas. Spirits are complex entities shaped by emotion, thought, and intention, making them inherently difficult to define. By organizing them into these thematic groups, scholars, mages, and Fade researchers can:

Identify Motivations: Each category highlights the primary drive behind a spirit's actions, whether it's the pursuit of knowledge, the will to survive, or the need to instill hope.

Predict Behavior: Spirits within a category often share behavioral patterns, making it easier to anticipate how they might interact with mortals or other spirits.

Assess Risk and Corruption: Different spirit types have unique vulnerabilities to corruption, and classification helps identify the potential demonic forms they might take.

Guide Interactions: Mages and mortals who deal with spirits can tailor their approaches based on a spirit's category, improving the chances of peaceful or productive interaction.

Preserve Knowledge: Organizing spirits into defined groups helps pass down knowledge more effectively, preventing misunderstandings or misclassifications that could lead to dangerous consequences.

How Spirits are Classified

Spirits are categorized based on their core essence and purpose, which reflects the emotions, ideals, or drives they embody. Each classification represents a fundamental aspect of mortal existence, as spirits themselves are shaped by mortal emotions and thoughts.

These categories are not rigid but serve as a flexible guide, acknowledging that spirits often overlap across multiple classifications depending on the circumstances. For example:

A Spirit of Passion, which is classified in the Spirit Alignment system as a survival-based spirit, it might also overlap with other alignments depending on what fuels its 'passion.'

The Fluid Nature of Spirit Alignment: A Case Study of Spite

Spite as a Spirit of Passion:

In datamined notes from DATV, Spite was originally described as a Spirit of Passion before being later redefined as a Spirit of Determination.

Spite was drawn to Lucanis because of his unwavering will to live.

Over time, Spite evolved into a Spirit of Obsession.

Spirit Alignment Classification:

This connection led the creator of The Fade Codex to classify Spirits of Passion under survival-based spirits.

Fluid Alignment of Passion Spirits:

The alignment of a Spirit of Passion can vary depending on what fuels their passion.

They might align with chaos, love, or strength, depending on their purpose and connection to the mortal they are drawn to.

Case Study: The Evolution of a Spirit – From Compassion to Eulogy

Stage 1: Spirit of Compassion

Purpose: A Spirit of Compassion manifests in Dock Town during a series of demonic murders, offering comfort to the fallen.

Awareness: It senses a connection between the victims, but lacks the knowledge to fully understand it.

Stage 2: Transformation into Eulogy

Catalyst: The repeated loss and a growing awareness of manipulation behind the deaths drive the spirit to evolve into Eulogy.

Purpose: Eulogy vows to remember the dead and protect others from demonic threats, gaining a clearer sense of purpose and identity.

Stage 3: Eulogy’s Role in Dock Town

Action: Eulogy actively protects Dock Town’s residents and seeks to prevent further manipulation.

Analysis of Spirit Evolution

Emotional Catalyst: Exposure to suffering and injustice pushed the Spirit of Compassion to evolve.

Outcome: Eulogy combines its original compassion with a clear mission of protection and remembrance.

Significance: This evolution highlights how spirits can grow from simple embodiments of emotion into complex entities with distinct goals.

Eulogy serves as an example of spirit evolution shaped by emotional resonance and purpose, showing how a spirit can adapt to meet the needs of those it watches over.

[elelia]

In Black Mirror: Eulogy, Kelly Royce functions as a modern Muse, subtly evoking the mythological Callirrhoe—daughter of Oceanus, whose name means “beautiful flow.” As a cellist and digital psychopomp, she channels memory and emotion, bridging life, art, and afterlife. Her name, Kelly Royce, echoes both the lyrical grace and spiritual authority of her mythic counterpart. She is not just a daughter mourning her mother, but a voice of truth and transformation—an embodiment of poetic memory within a technological ritual of grief.