#I may also be confirming their relationship because of the quiz I made for this story

[pxrxllel]

inner child trauma (11/12/20)

Today was filled with epiphanies, and I’m a mix of excited, at peace, and anxious about all the answers they’re providing.

Yesterday I watched a webinar on self-love and self-sabotaging in the context of romantic relationships, and here were some of the key points:

Who did you crave love and approval from the most as a child?

Your relationship with your parents and your needs being met/unmet subconsciously create emotional patterns that you take into your adult relationships. Therefore, your relationships are a reflection of how your needs were met by your parents.

When you have a wounded inner child, you are fixated on ensuring the outcome that you expect. The energy you take into the relationship is based on fear and control.

You’re trying to protect your wounded Inner Child by controlling the outcome, to avoid being hurt again.

I’ve taken the attachment styles quiz and for the most part, I come out as being anxious. I know I definitely tend to take on the role of the mother/therapist/fixer upper in my relationships (which has usually ended up with me becoming avoidant after a while due to resentment), but I’ve also had some where I didn’t feel the need to and I became clingy instead. So maybe that’s me yoyo-ing between the two, which I think the webinar described as being disorganised. 

I’m keenly aware that I have a rich history of needing external validation, because approval was never received from my parents. I was never emotionally applauded for anything I did - in fact, my parents nitpicked me to the point where I was made to feel innately wrong. It’s hard to not be angry about it, but it’s even worse to hold that against them because it won’t help me make progress. A large part of the validation was being called fat and ugly, which may be why I’ve been so reliant on compliments about my appearance all throughout my life, and even still since I’ve become objectively attractive. My father and some extended family always framed it as not being pretty enough to attract boys, which I’ve previously established as the key reason why I clung onto compliments and relationships and used sexual attention from men as a metric for self-worth. I’m just also starting to realise that perhaps it’s why I took sexual rejection from my previous relationship so personally - I was still unconvinced that he was attracted to me and the rejection only confirmed that I wasn’t desirable in that way (or that’s how my mind attributed it anyway). 

I think I made that realisation about my dependence on external validation in 2018/19. Since then, I’ve actively worked to disempower that, and I’ve largely been successful. I hardly ever use my appearance or compliments as a success metric anymore. I don’t fish for compliments or check for likes half as much as I used to. And it’s sort of been a self-fulfilling prophecy; the less I cared, the more they came and I genuinely feel OK about myself. I believe people now when they say nice things about me.

The point about fear and control is really interesting to me because looking back, I definitely was trying to be the ‘perfect’ girlfriend and looked for verbal validation (in the form of compliments, how much it seemed like he was into me) that I was doing a good job. I used to be so sensitive to any changes in the temperature of the relationship, and would melt down easily and take it personally if his demeanour cooled down even in the slightest. When I felt him slipping, I would hastily try to overcompensate out of fear for losing him, which I now know is a recipe for backfire. It’s also interesting because I’ve realised that I’m modelling ‘perfect girlfriend’ after my mother. My mother is a voice of reason/wisdom, emotional support cushion, physical support cushion, service-oriented, problem solver, domestic goddess, and all around superstar. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with those things, and not necessarily wrong for me to aspire to those things, but maybe it’s wrong for me to uphold that as the be all and end all of girlfriend material and then get annoyed when it’s not everyone’s cup of tea. 

Speaking of mirroring, it’s really interesting how accurate it is... a bit too much that it’s creepy. I never heeded it much before, and especially not when my therapist brought it up as something to flag, but I’ve come to the realisation that mine and Jarek’s relationship almost exactly mirrors my parents’ marriage. The long distance thing, and the fact that I feel like my parents aren’t each other’s soulmates. They care about each other a lot obviously, but I feel like my mom relies on my dad for practical reasons (kids and money - she’s much more comfortable playing the role of a mother than a wife) and my dad relies on her for emotional support and all the reasons listed above. Don’t get me wrong, they clearly enjoy each other’s company and get along, but I don’t think they have the X factor that I observe in other couples and what I think I look for. They don’t really have the natural, seamless, deep, almost magical affinity that I’ve been so lucky to experience a handful of times in my life. They don’t naturally understand each other. I think perhaps pragmatic marriages are more common or accepted in Asian cultures and worldviews, but for those of us that grew up in Western cultures, we see the romanticised version of these things and can’t help but want for more. It’s also interesting because I’ve always wondered what it would have been like if my parents weren’t in a long distance marriage/what it’ll be like when they retire and move in together. I always thought that maybe they would get sick of each other and argue more, but I can’t say for sure (plus, they’ve mellowed out a lot as they’ve aged). 

This relates to me and Jarek because I feel like our dynamic is really similar. I care about him so deeply and the way that it manifests is that I treat him the same way my mom treats my dad. I’m definitely more of a mom/therapist to him than I’d like to be - I’m sick of taking on the role of the fixer, although I think it’s neat to help people become self-aware of certain things or issues affecting them, I don’t really want to be the one holding their hand through their journey. And I think maybe the reason why I’m so stubborn about this relationship is that he represents what my dad is to my mom: Material security, stability, a comfortable life, America, all the boxes ticked. Even if he doesn’t understand me, and even if he doesn’t absolutely light me on fire, I’ve been accepting of it because I see how it works with my parents. And with them I know it can work, if I stay committed to the path. And I’ll be rewarded with my needs for security and safety and permanence met, which were not present for me emotionally as child - see how I’ve looped back to the beginning of this piece? And that’s also why I guess I feel so stable in this relationship: I know it well, I know how it goes and how it can end up, and I’m not grasping at fear or control to try to maintain the outcome because I already know what the outcome is. 

Jarek himself has a lot of childhood trauma too and his level of anxious attachment is far more severe than mine (I think I’m secure in some ways, too, esp ever since I actively worked on myself). His parents have a loveless marriage and he’s been emotionally neglected and felt unsafe in his family his whole life, so that’s something for him to work on and I honestly am not sure if we would be able to have a functional relationship if we were both still stuck in our ways.

I really truly think that because of this fixing issue I have, deep down I believe that until that’s cured, I can only be loved at arm’s length. Because if I get too close, I become too suffocating and overwhelming to be around because my fear kicks in and I start becoming controlling. So it would make sense then that the relationships I get tired of are the long distance ones and then everyone I do get (properly) close to in real life are the people I scare away with my intensity. This pattern makes total sense when taken into consideration with my childhood and how my parents are with each other. 

I would like to ask my mom these questions:

Do you think you and dad understand each other?

Why do you love him?

How do you think your marriage would be different if you weren’t long distance?

Have you ever wanted more from the marriage?

I’m quite proud of myself for coming to these conclusions without therapy, and I have a strong gut feeling I’m not wrong with any of these as it makes complete logical sense. And while it’s so good to have some clarity, context, explanations, and answers about all this, it doesn’t necessarily inform my next steps (although it can provide a guide). Knowing about these subconscious patterns and my emotional makeup means I can check myself according to my personal goals, but it doesn’t provide a template for my decision-making. I think that’s something I need to chew on more, as to where to go from here. I still need to figure out what I really want and what’s best for me and will make me happy. It’s hard because I don’t have a healthy relationship to look at and view as a model, so I don’t know what it should be like apart from relying on my gut and perceptions.

However, I accept that although the answers may be not what I want and I may have to make some tough decisions, it’s ultimately the right thing to do for my own wellbeing and happiness, and that of everyone else as well.

[dxmedstudent]

DX update

So you may remember that I’ve been self-isolating for COVID-19 type symptoms. I’ve been looking after confirmed patients (albeit the mildly affected ones who are wardable), so it’s pretty likely this is the real deal, even thuogh it’s too late to test me, now. I’m doing OK - this is not a scary Boris-style update. I just thought since I haven’t spoken much that I should let you all know that I’m doing OK. My symptoms are mostly better - the myalgia and headaches have mostly died down, though they were pretty annoying at their worst. I described it as feeling like an Ent - waking up in the afternoon  was a pain because you just didn’t want to get out of bed if it made you feel sore and creaky. I only got up and about because I didn’t want a DVT.  The abdominal symptoms are bearable but still nigglingly present. I can’t wait for my tummy to stop feeling achey and upset - but since I have IBS I’m used to that enough that it’s no biggie.  I’m not feverish any more. I feel less SOB, though I only felt mildly so at times - like you’re a bit more out of puff than usual. The cough is mostly better, but sometimes it kicks off again pretty annoyingly.  I’ve walked out of this without my sense of smell, but that’s likely to come back, eventually. If this is all I have to sacrifice during this pandemic, then I’m lucky.  I feel generally less shitty -  I was feeling pretty sorry for myself at the beginning of the week but I feel much more myself, now. I’m still probably really tired - I haven’t had a chance to test my stamina since I got ill because all I’m allowed to do is stay in my room. But I have a feeling that when I go back to work I’m going to feel really wiped. What’s it like having likely coronavirus? In my case, like the flu. Shitty, but not life-threateningly so. And yet, the thing they don’t warn you about is how it’ll play on your mind - knowing that you might be one of the unlucky ones to get really sick. And knowing that you have to try your best not to infect anyone. One of my dear friends is also going through it, and the fear is real.  The worst thing is that usually when you’re ill people want to come round and make you feel better, but when you’re likely to have coronavirus that’s usually the worst thing that can happen. Unfortunately, you still have all the same instincts to seek love and reassurance that you usually have when you are sick - so you know that you should stay alone, but you might still crave being taken care of, or at least kept company. Because the people we love make us feel better.

Review: 2/10 stars. I would not recommend getting coronavirus. 2 stars because it scores you a few days off work, but you have to stay at home and you’ll probably feel miserable. I’ve been trapped in a flat I’m not fond of (It’s OK but not exactly home) for a week, even though the weather is nice and I’d love to go outside. Though fortunately I’m very well supplied with food and medicine and entertainment. I’ve been talking daily with family, the Guy and my friends, all of whom have done their best to entertain me and make me take care of myself. I’ve been sleeping a lot. A lot. I haven’t really had the energy to do anything but sleep and play games, TBH. When I’ve dragged myself out of bed to video chat with loved ones or take part in activities like playing games, or a virtual pub quiz with his friends, I’ve recuperated by zonking out the rest of the time. I might look quite functional at a distance, but that’s only because I’ve been sleeping almost all the rest of the time. My family call me every day to make sure I’m alive - they see the stories of nurses in their 30s suddenly dying, and it’s very real to them. I feel bad for them - if it was my kid sick with coronavirus I’d probably be scared, too. But I can’t do anything to take the worries away, when none of us know what the long term sequelae might be. I am glad they didn’t tell my relatives until I was much better - I really don’t want my entire extended social circle to think I’m dying, and there’s really no need for everyone to stress over me. My siblings have been encouraging my Animal Crossing obsession. It’s not th only game I’ve been playing in isolation, but it’s something that’s been easy to play even when I feel pretty rotten.  It happened to come out at just the right time to make me feel better, and that’s pretty lucky. My friends check in every day - they reminded me that I won our sweepstake on ‘who catches coronavirus first’ - sadly there is no prize unless you count myalgia as a win.  We spend the days sharing useful information about coronavirus, but also just trying to keep each other sane. Another of my friends is sick, and she seems to have gone down a bit worse than  I  have, so I hope she gets well soon. Colleagues are going down in their droves, according to our sickness reporting group, but I don’t know how unwell most of them are. I hope they are doing OK.  I haven’t managed to catch up with everyone I care about yet, because messaging gets kind of overwhelming when you don’t feel great. I worry about a lot of people, but I can’t keep up with everyone right now, so I’ve had to take my time and conserve my energy. Still, I’ve been checking in with as many friends as I can, and so far almost everyone is doing OK. I’m hoping to keep connected with as many of them as I can, and already planning things to do with them. The Guy checks up on how I’m feeling daily. He’s much more zen about things, and his approach is always “If I can’t change it, I should try not to stress about it”. Which means he took our separation better than me, at least when I was feeling sick. I think that’s partly because whilst  he hopes this may be over shortly, I know it’s going to be a long haul. Though he does have to tell me to take it easy and look after myself every day so I guess he’s not stress free XD I know this must be stressful for him, too but he can’t change the risks I’m facing. That said, he’s more the quiet, practical sort, anyway. So rather than moping, he suggests playing games or watching things together and invites me to whatever he’s doing with his friends - he did before, whenever I was around, but now that everything’s online it’s easier to be there. Now that his friends have transferred to roll20 under the lockdown, he’s invited me to join their DnD campaign because he knows how much I miss DnD - and him.  It’s funny how little things can make a big difference, when they are all you have to look forward to. I haven’t been looking forward to my days off, at all because I no longer had stuff to do - but he and I try to book activities on weekend days so it still feels special. My friends are a lot busier than his (because medics) so we haven’t done as much though we talk often, but I’m grateful that his friends have basically adopted me.  As a left over from my friendless days I always feel a bit awkward joining a group or making friends but they’ve been very welcoming and that makes me happy because I know it makes him happy. At first I felt like an impostor in all their group chats (guys, have you arrived in a relationship when you’re in nearly all the group chats? I’m pretty sure that’s a milestone or something), but I’m gradually accepting that they genuinely don’t mind me being there. Which is nice. They mean a lot to him, so I respect them and want to be a good friend, and I genuinely like them too.

I’m looking forward to going back to work. I’m not sure I’m 100% over this - I’m fine from a rules point of view, I’m just not 100% better. But I have to try and see how I get on. I need to be occupied and useful, because otherwise I’m just going to stress and sleep all day and feel mildly guilty about being sick. Which I’ve been told I should not be feeling, but there it is.  We’ll see how things go.

[autoirishlitdiscourses]

Discourse of Saturday, 10 April 2021

You changed would juggle to juggled in line with general academic practice, and you provided a really, your deadline for you, OK? Oversleeping, even though you may find that connection as a thinker or a bit in the novel. Distribution of paper handout. I think that it would be necessary to make it. All in all, I think that you are traveling with a web browser that supports your claim, will result in the formula above is actually quite a good Halloween! However, any good copy of it. I fully appreciate this it's not you agree with you about your ideas more collaboratively. Again, please let me know if you get/zero/points for section in another book, while waiting for the student's schedule hasn't changed, but it's more or less normally adjusted despite being very polished in many ways even though it is that race gets slipperier the more easily accessible representations of the outside world, on the sheet handed out today to be jumped, but really, your recitation, midterm, and the Stars, and this is not entirely satisfying way, and failure to notice an email, or the other students in class with respect, and that's perfectly normal and acceptable at this point whether there is of poor quality: The Dubliners' version of your own logical processes more carefully to be helpful.

However, one sentence at a draft of a letter grade. I had told him that what I'll expect is that I am personally less than half a percent away crossing the line into A-range paper grades discussed in class, then you have any questions, OK? All in all, though perhaps incidental to the rest of the resources you consulted while doing so. Midterm review. All in all substantial ways to go before me, and extreme claims require very strong familiarity with the connection between textual material and related topics, but you picked a good paper here in many ways. Feel free to propose alternatives, but I don't believe I've seen any of the two elements plough, stars and then mercilessly edited your paper being more successful would be higher than an analysis of a reminder that I can bring your hard copy of your main claim in the poem in section. I will do so by that time passes differently when you're at the coin from the final exam except that you can make up for discussion. Another would involve remembering that Yeats's father and brother both named John Butler Yeats were visual artists, and I think that one key element of pushing this concept as far as getting discussion going: you'll get that to give quite a difficult text; there might be to pick out the eighth one without grading it, which seemed to warm up more quickly for you by the time that you haven't done your recitation in the UK and Ireland, regardless of the group members will have to report this to you. You picked a very strong job yesterday you got most of the day before Thanksgiving. As with everything else except for the course website as your model, and that's part of why I want to accomplish. Chris Walker's guest lecture slideshow along.

I think that you finished early. My point is to make intermediate connections that you need particular approaches to Futurism; it's just that I'm poorly qualified to evaluate how passionate a particular depiction of people haven't done the reading. I suspect, is in how you're using them as choices made as a simple concept in many societies, but writing a more specific about what your other discussion points. But everything looks really good beating on the structural schema given to friends: Carlo Linati; Stuart Gilbert J.

I myself tend to agree with me. Third: remember that sometimes sitting down and start writing. If you have any other reason. You've written a very good paper here in many ways, and you're thinking about it, because it's a busy point in the front of the time limit will result in a professional setting. I am performing grade calculations in such a great deal since you gave a thoughtful grace in your paper graded by the time limit has come up with an urgent question the night of section; eight got 9 or higher on the more likely to be just a little below the middle of the texts we are reading by the other students, that this class, but I also feel that there are a lot of ways. If there's someone who's been a pleasure having you in lecture or section, not on me. Well done, and I've gone ahead and confirm that the overall argument will be spent on reviewing for the absolute final deadline to name your poem and connect them to lecture on the day that your thesis at the time limit you've sketched an outline with more rigor. Wednesday, but rather attempts to gloss over anything, but it would be true either for comment or to be reciting as soon as possible. What is my nation? 494-95 p. Which is bad. Yes, that's fine my 6 p. If you have already given up 70 points out of that section within the time that you should also go to bed late tonight and see what people do some of your presentation is unlikely, you should aim for a reason to freak out. Truthfully, I think, always a few things that come from the course at this point in the future. Ultimately, I think that putting V for Vendetta in the front of a chance to add classes without a petition. I suspect the professor hasn't said how much your writing despite some—mostly—rather nitpicky comments I've made some very good paper in other respects. Both of these are often quite good, nuanced writing. The Butcher Boy. Choosing more than 100% of the things the professor to say: if you have any questions, OK? Hi! I could try to avoid them, I'm sorry about that. Has a much longer paper in a way that they've done for most students to add extra space at the final metaphorically speaking, of course grade.

You have to get 5/5 of the test in another class, and Cake next to each other and how that structures the characters' understanding of the historical and cultural ties to the novel; and mop up with Joyce's appropriation and recasting of classical mythology Ulysses in front of me to let the discussion section is UXJU. Again, I think you've got a good impression and pick up every possible point available for the quarter by ⅓ of a proper Works Cited page; any borrowings from anyone at all, you do well just by doing background reading on aspects of the texts with which you can respond productively if they don't warm up quickly is not an easy thing to do it more in your introduction and conclusion around that interpretive claim.

VIII. Another potential difficulty is that we're going to wind up on the feedback for paper topics, in lecture. I appreciate that this is the best clothing possible, because it's so centrally concerned with Irish nationalism are connected in rather interesting. You were clearly a bit too tired tonight to do as well.

Les Demoiselles d'Avignon; Woman with Mustard Pot aha! That is to have been years where I've graded two hundred papers and gave a solid understanding of the entire class. Thanks for letting me know. 238 Reading quiz, if I recall correctly, was mentioned in that part of your TAs for English 150.

Still, an English Paper lots of good work here in a solid, overall, you did well here. Have a good job of choosing not to cancel my office or schedule an appointment with me for any reasons less severe than hospitalization will result in an even more. The Covey 6 p. Do you want it to be to make sure you can point the other hand, posting it on the other reading assignments for Ulysses recitations is over remember that at the beginning of the quality of the quarter, and, if you're busy during that time. I realized that your copy of Word and work it can be a tricky job to engage in micro-level issues of the text s and that tonight was not my area of expertise, one of the format of the class at this stage, your projected paper looks like you're writing more of an A-. Your readings of the work that you were on track throughout your time and wind up posting it on the make-up, and the to a lot of silences let them sit for a good job with it. As far as it were a couple of suggestions. Hi!

Again, well done overall. Question is not good, clear readings of Richard III, from taking an opportunity for you to be substantial deviations from the Aeolus episode of The Wake Forest Book of Irish literature, due on Tuesday night, so let me know if you have other priorities instead of seven, and you related your discussion notes by the poem, and I quite enjoyed having you in any case, let me know and we can chat after lecture. I just heard back from the paper in my margin notes and look at my discretion, although other people to examine the presuppositions that the most part though it is, and giving other people. No real surprises for me to. The Butcher Boy in the specificity that you are hopefully already memorizing. I'll assess each component separately and email it to. Awesome! Sorry for the quarter is theoretically possible but really, your ideas are actually doing? I think that this is what is your job to engage in a more central position in your discussion of as close to every comment, and is mentioned in that case.

For this reason, deciding that you could take Playboy as a source. This set of arguments about a text during the week preceding the section. I'm glad that worked out. I think, to be more successful than just being a good move on your grade in the paper has to teach, and you touched on some important material provided an important maneuver. There are a number of important issues and showing that you picked to the actual amount of time and get you started thinking about the relationship between the different kinds of people the characters was a wonderful and restful holiday break!

Does it answer your specific point.

If you don't email me and I will be scaled to 150, the more that you are quite likely at that point. I think that this is a short description of your email, but they're not yet chosen a recitation for 27 November or 4 December On poems by Paul Muldoon, Quoof Paul Muldoon, provided that you look for cues that this has happened, review briefly any major points into questions, but you're absolutely welcome to talk about this. Have a good Thanksgiving break. 5% on the section hits its average level of deviousness, intelligence, or sent me email or stop by my office or after you reschedule it: technology breaks. Again, thank you for putting so much ground that it's a good thumbnail background to the poem by 4 to 5%, depending on to and the idea that will be thinking closely about how the text to connect your thoughts this is, what do you want to go above and beyond the length limitation work productively for your health. You expressed an interest in the literal sense of the book it appears on your sheet so I wouldn't want to pursue the topic as a group is, or after lecture, and what you think about this profitably, and what the fellow is thinking about how you'd like, etc. The question will be much more apparent to you. Great! More importantly, though, your points because it will help you to think about where you move effectively from text to connect your thoughts are being represented. You also demonstrated that you have several options: prepare a longer selection than the other side of this. Thanks! Something else entirely? Etc. I'm pretty sure there are a real bitch at the very opening bit twelve lines of the texts saying to a specific point about that. Happy Thanksgiving! Let me play devil's advocate here and there memorizing your selection specifically enough that you want to make sure that your body paragraphs don't wander too far afield. Again, I realize. 25 on the issues that you had quite a good set of background information. You did a good move, because in my office door SH 2432E, provided that no one else at all. In romantic relationships by subsuming them under merely bestial impulses; that it curved back to you, not a certain way, and think about their relationship. I think that one, to talk about.

I can just bring it to be productive.

It's not. I have to do, because I think that articulating your criteria for determining what the implications of the quarter, you did quite an impressive move. If I'm wrong about how you disagree with you and use standard citation methodology more carefully to do as soon as possible. Note also that serious problems may lower your grade by 1. Have a wonderful poem, and the way that Beckett conceptualizes it.

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Again, thank you for doing a large number of sections attended relative weighting 50 _9 Research Paper Letter grades for papers are assigned based on your recitation, you really did quite a strong job! I'll give you does not work as expected/, because the email I promised to forward to your larger-scale concerns with other people in the time, and what you're saying and what you see absurdism most clearly illustrated in the email me a photocopy of that looks good to me I'm looking forward to hearing you do a couple of ways, and you do so in section on 27 November or 4 December discussion of a text that's separated temporally from Punishment, 1984, Brave New World, and because you're going to be a stronger, clearer stand on the web or in posting your notes and get you your add code from him. Hi! Thanks for doing so by 10 a. I am currently leaning towards calling on you. Here's a breakdown on how to deliver it. A is out of the issues that you've actually set yourself up to reciting in lecture today that you think, too, that there are probably thousands of races, and thinking abstractly about the way that it could be. I forgot to say. The sample paper available on the final, and in line 22. As promised in the stream of consciousness and how it changes the grading expectations for performance in a number of additional purposes, as it turns out that I think you most need to represent your own presuppositions more. Lesson Plan for Week 4:30 or so of all my students for review. I can make up for the specific text of the poem and get you your grade at your outline is 4 p.

[mbtiofwhys]

Some serious talk about MBTI

Debunking common myths and critics while understanding real flaws and how to move past them

Disclaimer

Our vision regarding the use of MBTI, and typology in general, is profoundly different from what the Foundation promotes and advertises;

Our knowledge comes either from directly studying Jung’s works or from browsing more grassroots sources, such as blogs here on Tumblr or discussions on Reddit;

We opened this blog for fun because we’re passionate about typology and its application to both introspection and fictional works analysis;

We don’t intend to turn down every form of criticism, but without the pretense to be 100% correct, we rather wish to see what are real weak points and what may be legit observations if not born from a misunderstanding of the system;

This is our personal view and opinion on MBTI, feel free to join the debate!

Main concerns

Not scientifically sound

Not supported by the psychology academic field / It’s just pseudo-science It’s true that typology can’t be proven by the current scientific method - it’s too much of a subjective topic. There’s a reason why both Freud’s and Jung’s works are studied as the beginning of psychoanalysis but their practice isn’t used by modern psychology anymore. But admitting that MBTI isn’t scientifically sound doesn’t mean it’s entirely unreliable. The E/I dichotomy is, for example, something based on our chemicals and neurotransmitters in the brain, so it has a solid basis and it may be helpful outside the MBTI context. (source: 1, 2) The key point, we believe, is shifting the view: we prefer not to consider the Indicator as a pure psychological tool, rather a more philosophical one. MBTI is, at least for us mods, a method: we always try to improve our understanding of the subject, but it isn’t restricted to the theoretical field, since we also apply it in typing fictional characters. So, there’s a theoretical basis to know and personal study is encouraged, but it’s definitely nothing scientific as we intend it nowadays.

Tests aren’t accurate

We know - we talked about it here. Approaching MBTI solely by tests generates huge misunderstandings about what typology is really about. More specifically:

You can get different results by retaking the test It’s due to the flawed essence of a test assessing personality traits, and it’s exacerbated by tests having a general focus more on behavior than cognition. This is usually about generic questions that may be too vague since online tests try to be relatable to a large set of people from different countries and cultures.

Forer effect/ vague descriptions We know about the Forer effect and we’ve read the profiles used in his experiments: they’re nothing like detailed, in-depth profile and analysis of each type, or even basic ones, if done properly. Take a look at mbtinotes for an example of how different (if not opposite) descriptions are for different (or opposite) types. Even in a basic form, they’re not vague enough for a person to relate to more than three or four of them at most. So, it’s true that MBTI has, in some cases, a ‘pop’ approach aimed to be understandable and clear for everyone, and this is counterproductive in the end. But the flaw lays in how it is conveyed: inaccurate tests don’t invalidate the method as a whole. 

It’s just a quiz/ it’s just like horoscopes The tests that bloom through the internet sadly validate the first point, as the majority of people answer the questions, read the type description, and then forget about it. But we firmly believe it’s nothing like the horoscopes. MBTI, if approached seriously, doesn’t have the pretense of predicting the future or explaining a person’s whole life, since it isn’t even an excuse for someone’s behaviors. It is true that many topics can be found about relationship pairs and career advice, but we tend to be skeptical towards those, and it’s not an approach we believe fit our vision of MBTI as a tool for self reflection. Type theory can give some insights on relationship dynamics in general (not only romantic ones) but this doesn’t mean it can predict the future or something along those lines.

Types are just stereotypes

They could be, depending on the interpretation. People are complex, they’re made of experiences, upbringing, hobbies, and so much more - personality is nothing more than a trait of someone’s individuality. One could say that people are not their type, rather they are somehow represented by it.

Putting something complex like personality into boxes People don’t know about cognitive functions based on Jung’s studies. Typology isn’t concerned about such things as hobbies or upbringing because - following Jung’s approach, at least - cognitive functions are innate and universal and determine one’s cognition. Meaning they can explain what information we prefer to look at, how we gather data, what we weight in making decisions. It’s all about the process - but the outcome and the individuality of a person, that’s on each one of us. This is also why tests are often inaccurate: they make examples based on careers, hobbies, and behaviors, leading MBTI enthusiasts to approach the subject as something more superficial than it actually is. However, the theory has its valid points, even if not always approved by academics, but it’s usually studied by a minority of people since (and it’s understandable, we aren’t judging) it requires time and effort to go deeper into the subject.

16 types are too few The four letters have meaning. Dichotomies exist, but they only work on a superficial level. In reality, the four functions are rather a continuum: they develop throughout a person’s entire life and work in pairs, three at a time, or even all fours together. The whole system is much more complex than people give it credit for by merely taking a test. And anyway, a person is much more than just their four letters. As we stated above it’s ok to stop on a more superficial level, but this mustn’t be used as an excuse to forget about cognitive functions and how they describe in a more detailed way how people gather and use information through cognitive patterns.

Personality changes over time It does because we change. But this doesn’t affect functions. What people call ‘change’ is tied to growing into a (hopefully) better person as life goes on, learning from one’s own mistakes, and thus becoming a more aware and balanced individual. However, the way in which a person gathers data and uses them doesn’t change, it’s more a process about enhancing our strengths and polishing our weaknesses. This, either, doesn’t mean a person’s fate is dictated by which functions they possess: this is a rather unhealthy approach to typology. Excluding circumstantial factors that sadly play a role in the real world (wealth, gender, geographic origin, and so on), idealistically a person could do everything in his life, despite type and whatnot. Maybe some things will be more difficult, or easier, but since we are more than our type, other factors come into play: how we’ve been raised, what we like, what ideals we have, who we are, globally, as a person. The list goes on.

MBTI is a form of discrimination

This can be true - but not for us. MBTI is a tool: what you do with it, it’s on your own. Stating that sadly, there are people who use MBTI as a form of discrimination doesn’t invalidate the subject.

Used in corporate settings, but not by psychologists We personally disapprove and discourage the use of MBTI to dictate people’s work and life. We don’t like how the Foundation promotes it for commercial purposes exactly because it is not a scientific nor a statistical tool. A person is more than four letters. Choosing a career based on an (often) inaccurate test is not advised, but understanding how our own cognition works may be useful to become a better person. Again, behaviors aren’t cognition.

Our personal dos and don’ts with MBTI

Do

Take it as a tool to promote introspection and self-reflection, but only after a proper study of the subject. We don’t recommend to use MBTI as a theory to dictate one’s career, but it’s still an interesting way to better understand oneself. Without falling into confirmation biases, MBTI may be a great way to become more aware of one’s own qualities and flaws, learning how to live in a more healthy and functional way.

Use it as a framework to dissect fictional works (very satisfying!)

Use it for meme material. Yes, memes have great potential and may light up your day!

Think of it as a pair of lenses: you can see reality through it and gain some nice insights but in the end, reality will always be so much more than what you can experience by only using a single pair of lenses.

Don’t

Use it as a replacement for professional help - both physically and mentally. Mental illnesses are unrelated to MBTI, so using the subject to validate them or deal with them may be harmful. MBTI is a great tool to better understand one’s strengths and weaknesses, not a replacement for proper treatment. There is no shame in being in need of help and we encourage you to seek it if necessary.

Use it to discriminate against other individuals - cognition doesn’t know gender, wealth, ethnicity, or education. There isn’t a better type, even if the community sometimes romanticizes certain ones. You are valid, no matter what a test says about you or what the community thinks.

Try to gain profit from it.

Use it to justify whatever behavior or decision you make in your life. Cognitive functions may help you to discover your patterns and how you act, but they can’t dictate what you can or can’t do.

Thank you for reading this article until the end. All of this is our personal view on the subject, so further discussion and contributions are encouraged and appreciated! If you are a beginner and wish to delve deeper into the subject, we’re not an educational blog, perperly, but here you can find a quick beginner’s guide.

Sources: Addressing typology and criticism; On the book ‘Personality Brokers’; The test is meaningless; How accurate is the test?; The test is unscentific; A popular but flawed understanding of personality.

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Valentine’s Headcanon: Love Language

1) Would your character be surprised by their quiz results? Why or why not? I think Johnny would be a little surprised, but not too much at this point. When he and Gabriel went to marriage counseling after they got back together in 2020, they learned even more about themselves and each other and how to work together to make their marriage successful. It had a lot to do with how each of them prefer to give and receive love. At least back then, he was somewhat taken aback to realize how much words meant to him. 2) Why do you think your character has this style of love language? Are there events in their life that shaped this for them? From the outside, it may be evident to others why Words of Affirmation would be important to Johnny: when it comes down to it, his parents never really gave him much of that. He's busted his ass throughout his life to make them proud, but only rarely heard the confirmation that they are/were. Physical Touch is what he initially guessed was most important to him. He certainly enjoys it; it is #1 for a high percentage of men; and he really hadn't thought much deeper about it than that. Quality Time with his partner means a good deal to him mainly because he has so little of it, and he wants to make what he does have count. Acts of Service is along the same line as Quality Time; he has a lot on his to-do list all the time, so when someone takes something off of it for him, that's nice (although clearly much less than important as compared to the others). He always cherishes any gift he receives as well, but again, the other categories just trump this one. 3) How has your character's love language affected their relationships with people in their lives (past or present)? Johnny is a pretty independent person. In the past, he also had difficulty communicating what bothered him/what he needed in his relationships at times (which directly relates to the issues with his parents described above). Those two concepts combined would sometimes result in him disconnecting, shutting down, or ignoring problems when something was wrong. However, Johnny is an incredibly effective communicator in his career. Due to this, when he was made aware it was a problem in his personal life, he was able to work on improving it fairly quickly. At present, he does a much better job of saying how he feels and asking for what he needs (e.g., Words of Affirmation), even when it's hard. He recognizes that not doing so played a part in the separation from his husband in 2017. 4) How does your character show their affection? (This should be somewhat in line with their quiz results.) In his marriage, Johnny naturally gravitates toward doing what makes Briel feel special. He always has. It took some time, but he definitely committed to memory even the smallest things that make his husband smile or cry or melt in his hands. He wants to make him genuinely happy (and their love languages just coincide well). For them, this often looks like regular, intentional quality time, dates, naturally being more touchy/handsy with each other, and sex. In the beginning of relationships, and even sometimes still as his default mode, Johnny tends toward the opposite of his quiz results: giving gifts and doing acts of service. These come extremely easy to him because they were the majority of examples he had growing up (and what he himself received most as well). He was often shown that the most expensive gift or an elaborate vacation was the way to demonstrate love.

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Happy Donghae Day!

2011 | 2012 | 2013 | 2014 | 2015 | 2016 | 2017

Today marks the seventh annual Donghae Day. That is, it’s been seven years that I’ve been a kpop fan. This year also marked my two-year anniversary at my full time job (for those who don’t know, prior to 2016, I had been working two jobs for almost nine years). Not everything has been good, the state of the world gets worse, we lost three idols from groups I love, as well as author/chef who meant a lot to me personally. But it hasn’t all been bad or sad, it has been like so much of life - full of everything. 

My journey into kpop started with this post and has continued forward ever since. The links above are all of my previous Donghae Day posts, including the original reblog. This day has become more than just the simple reminder of my love of kpop. Instead it has become a celebration of the things, and the people, that I love. To me, Donghae Day, like kpop, isn’t just about the music or the idols. It’s about everything that comes with that - it’s about friends, food, love, life, and joy. It’s understanding that kpop is more than just an escape from the shittiness that is the world today. I am forever grateful for that Donghae gifset and for everything that has come after - from the music itself, to the tv shows, to the concerts, to all of the friends of I have made. 

Before I get into the really fun stuff - I want to take a moment to talk about those friends. People talk shit about women who like pop music, they judge you for liking cute boys, for writing fanfic, for listening to music, going to concerts, buying plushies/albums/whatever. But none of that matters, not really. What does matter? All these people I’ve become friends with. Over the past year (Donghae Day year as well as 2018) I have made friends with so many new people - some close friends, some not - and it is wonderful. This, to me, is at the heart of what I love about kpop and is deeply important to understand why Donghae Day is so important. Of all the things I love about kpop, it is my friendships that are the single best part. So, to all of my friends (kpop fans and non fans alike), I love you all. Thank you for being amazing people. ❤️❤️

And now … the fun stuff!

So, you say, seven years? And I say: FUCK YEAH, SEVEN YEARS!!! 

What has happened since last year’s Donghae Day? A LOT and sort of not much at all. Kpop-related, there were two really big events for me. One of the was that @namjoonrecyclables and I went to Chicago to see VAV! It was a fantastic concert, though we both realized that we’re getting too old (lol) to drive down to Chicago the same day as the show. It’s also the only concert we’ve been to in 2018 and our wallets are grateful. The other thing that happened was that I flew out to Colorado to see @jillwandersen after not having seen her since the concert in 2014. It was also quite a lot of fun. 

A lot of smaller things have happened this year. As I said above, I’ve made new friends. I’ve also gotten into a ton of new (and not so new) groups that I am trying to learn. I also bias way too many people (the list is ever-growing). I finally admitted that my favorite groups (aside from Speed) are Seventeen and SHINee. My husband is still there, though he’s left BAP. My boyfriend list has held steady (though this may be changing - read: growing). 

I also made this playlist, called Everything’s Gonna Be Okay. It’s 20 tracks long (for now) and about an hour and 12 minutes long. You can find it on YouTube and Spotify. Please, enjoy.

Last year I talked about all the nugu/underrated groups that I love - but I can’t do that this year. Not because there aren’t any, but because there are too many. I was talking to @killerzebras (also known as my sister) the other day about why I love kpop. She told me I didn’t need to justify why I loved it, but it got me thinking about what it is that keeps me loving kpop. I am really good at loving things, but it tends to be fleeting (for many reasons, most of them perfectly reasonable) - but kpop? My love for kpop appears stronger than even my love for pro-cycling, which, for a time, I thought nothing could break (that is another post for another time and probably not on here). 

I think there are two huge reasons why I continue to adore kpop. The first is because of the friends I’ve made, as long as I have friends who love kpop, I will keep loving it, too - sharing is something I have slowly learned to love and, within the passed year, have worked on embracing. The second reason is that there is always new content. People often talk about the fact that their fandoms (books, movies, tv shows) only have limited content and often the endings are just that - endings. That works for some people, but not for me. Kpop is different (again, for me), it is, for now, the gift that keeps on giving. I get new groups to love (my heart is forever big enough), new idols to care about, new music to listen to, and the groups I already love give me more music. There is always, always something new to love while still loving what has already been. It’s not all unicorns and candy, sometimes it’s heartbreak, but there’s always something for me to love. 

I’m sure that there are quite a few things I’ve forgotten to talk about this year, but this post is already way too long. Therefore I want to talk about two (hilarious) moments in 2018. The first is the release of Infinite’s song, Tell Me, and their comeback in January. Some of you know that for many years I was not a fan of Dongwoo, for various (and dumb) reasons. However, 2018 became the year that I turned into a Dongwoo fan. 

I mean, really. How did I resist for so long? Thanks, 2018 Infinite comeback, for changing me.

The second … the second thing is something I am still embarrassed about even while having embraced it. It is something that several of my friends (especially @namjoonrecyclables) have been waiting for literally ever to happen. I have, somehow, after all these years, become a proper fan of EXO. Why, you ask? WELL, THAT’S A GREAT QUESTION. And the answer is as equally as embarrassing - it’s because of a stupid Soompi EXO quiz. You think I’m joking, but I’m not. Google said, hey you like Soompi and kpop quizzes, why don’t you take this What’s Your Relationship With EXO? quiz and I said no, but also why not. I mean, I can’t count and didn’t notice that it was just the current EXO members in the picture (it was early in the morning and I didn’t look too closely and I like quizzes … ) and so I took it and then this happened:

Look, I’m not saying it was a good idea. In fact, it was a terrible idea and I joked about it and then SM released the We Young MV with Chanyeol and Sehun and even while I love that song I joked some more because it was funny, right? Me, stanning someone in EXO just because a Soompi quiz told me to. Except … I kept joking about it and everyone who knows me knows that my biggest kpop weakness is soft rappers and @namjoonrecyclables told me (on purpose, for which I love her) that Chanyeol is a soft rapper and I was like no. But also, wait he is? And then, because I’m me, I took another quiz and it confirmed the first Soompi quiz and then I was like, this is embarrassing as fuck but why not embrace it and now, HERE I AM. 

I love Chanyeol. I bias Chanyeol. And I’m an EXO fan. I think I need help because no one knows who I am anymore. But, honestly, that’s fine. So, I guess, thanks for that Soompi.

This year’s Donghae Day is on a Friday, which means it is a full-ass day packed with stuff. @namjoonrecyclables and I have both taken the day off from work (yay!). We’re watching kpop mvs and a kdrama. We’re going out to lunch and doing more of the same. Then my friend H and I are going out for dinner and to see a movie. Why? Because we can. Because it’s Donghae Day. 

Seven years is a long time. It’s the seven-year curse year not for me (I hope!), but for groups that debuted the year I got into kpop. Of the ones that debuted in 2011, these are the ones I love: B1A4, Boyfriend, and Myname. Myname debuted a few weeks after I got into kpop, it’s so wild. We’re all still around, hopefully for longer than seven years. 

Donghae Day is about all of this. It’s about having fun, it’s about loving the things you love so much that sometimes it hurts. It’s about doing what you love and being with people you love, and it’s about living. 

I say this every year, but I don’t know where I’ll be in a year. Will I even still be a kpop fan? The trend so far seems to be yes, of course! But you can never rule anything out. Which is why I love to pour my heart into being a kpop fan. Nothing lasts for ever, but I’m going to love kpop for along as I can with as much of my heart as I can. 

I want to thank you all for accompanying me on this journey - whether you’re a kpop fan or just someone in my life who tolerates my love. Thank you all and here’s to many, many more Donghae Days if that’s what the future holds for all of us. 

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The earth can sound like a wild place sometimes...

OK, any LOT of that time!

[astronomyparkers]

The Upside of Falling Down {II}

Warnings: Language

Pairing: University!Peter Parker x reader

Word count: 3.1k

A/N: Guys!!!! Thank you so so much for the positive response to pt. one of TUoFD!!! I’m so so so glad you guys liked it!!!  Just to let you guys know, I’m going back to university in a few days, so I won’t be as active as I’d like to be :( I made a full post about it here, so check that out if you want to know my update schedule and ask answering schedule.  Also, shout out to everyone who is going back to school this year, and I especially want to send all my love to everyone going into their freshman year at university!!! I get lots of messages from you guys asking for advice, and I just want yall to know that I am so proud of you for continuing your education, and I’m rooting for you!!!  You’re killing the game, yall.  And I’m sure university!Peter would be proud, too (didn’t know there would be so much discourse around where I decided to send him for university??? lmao oh well).  All my love.

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You had been in awkward car rides before.  There was the time that eight year old you threw up all over your friend’s cute older brother on a family road trip, or the time when you had accompanied your cousin and his girlfriend on a lake trip where she said no when he asked her to marry him.  Once, on a high school band trip, you accidentally gave a boy a boner the night before travelling home, and spent the rest of the next day avoiding him over the entirety of the bus and the plane rides with the help of your friends.  All of those experiences were sufficiently awkward, but, you had come to learn, none of them compared to the bus ride back to Columbia after you discovered that your biology partner was Spider-Man.

Each of you were tense in your stance, not allowing any parts of your body to touch the other, even on the small faux leather seat.  You kept your gaze glued to the scenery outside your window, watching as the trees by the side of the road flew by.  You were hyper aware of Peter next to you as he sat with his arms crossed, eyes firmly staring at his planted feet.  He hadn’t shifted since you had settled into your seats an hour and a half ago, and neither had you.  In your mind, you couldn’t help but reply the event that had unfolded in the cave, your discovery, and what had followed.

The moment the words, “You’re the Spider-Man,” had left your lips, you knew that you had crossed a line in yours and Peter’s relationship (a relationship that should have been over by the end of that field trip.  A relationship that shouldn’t even be big enough to have lines.)  As the boy stared at you with a mix of shock, anger, and fear, you had wished, not for the first time in your life, that you weren’t so impulsive and curious.  You had to know the answer to everything the moment you asked a question, and it had always gotten you into trouble; this, however, had been the first time that the need to know the answer had been at the cost of someone else’s safety.

“I knew this cave was a dumb idea,” Peter had started running his hands through his hair anxiously. “I knew this was going to end badly, I could sense it—”

“Is that your Spidey Sense?” You interrupted him before you could stop yourself. “I read an article on arachnids last year that mentioned how spiders can sense things with the little hairs on their bodies, through vibrations—” Peter had given you an incredulous look, and you bit your lip. “Right, sorry.  Not the time to discuss arachnid abilities.”

“Y/N,” Peter grabbed your shoulders, gripping them tightly as he looked into your eyes.  The fire raced again from where he touched you. “You can’t tell anyone.  No one can know about this.”

You had taken a step back at that moment, out of Peter’s reach, as you tried to focus your thoughts. “No shit I can’t tell anyone!  I shouldn’t even know!  Parker, seriously, this just made our relationship so much more complicated than it should be.”

“Are you really blaming me for saving you from a fall to your death?” Peter asked in disbelief, crossing his arms.

“No, I—” You took a deep breath and closed your eyes, pinching the bridge of your nose. “No. Thank you for saving me.  I’m sorry, but I don’t really know how to react in this situation, okay?  There’s no WikiHow on what to do when you find out your biology partner is Spider-Man.”

“How do you think I feel?” Peter had laughed once without humour, raking his hand through his hair again (it seemed to be a nervous tic). “Only three people in the world outside of the Avengers know about my abilities, and they’re all people I would follow to hell and back.”

“Well, how did they react when you told them?” You questioned, wondering if there was a correct response that you weren’t seeing.

“I, um—” Peter looked at the ground sheepishly. “Well, Aunt May and Ned kind of…walked in on me in the suit.  And MJ just…figured it out.”

“So you’ve never actually told anyone on purpose?” You scoffed. “Parker, for someone with such a huge secret to keep, I thought you’d be better at actually keeping it.”

“I—we shouldn’t even be talking about this,” Peter had glanced around the cavern, then at the passage behind him. “We need to go catch up to the class, but I need you to promise that you won’t breathe a word of this to anyone.  Seriously, Y/N.  Just…forget what happened in here, okay?  Pretend you didn’t see anything, please.”

You sighed in defeat. “Fine, I promise.  Lead the way out, Spider-Boy.”

Peter flinched, shaking his head. “Don’t call me that.”

 By the time the bus pulled up to the school, he still hadn’t said a word to you, and the moment the vehicle had parked, he was out of his seat and heading towards the front of the bus.  You stared at his retreating figure with a mix of curiosity and perplexity.  Despite thinking about the events of the day the entire ride back to Columbia, you still had trouble wrapping your head around what had transpired.

You made your way off the bus and back to your dorm, shutting the door tightly behind you. Yesterday, Peter Parker had barely been a blip on your radar, but now you couldn’t get him off your mind.  You knew that he wanted you to just forget about everything that had happened, but how could you?  You were curious and inquisitive by nature, and had to know everything about everything.  There was no way you would be able to make yourself forget about Peter’s secret, nor would you be able to stop yourself from trying to find out everything you could about how he got his abilities and what it was like as an Avenger.

 You passed the rest of the day in your dorm, researching Spider-Man and watching clips on YouTube. You’d seen many of them before, but now that you knew who was underneath the mask, it was like a whole new perspective. Like you’d only ever seen the videos through muddy, streaky glass, and now you were watching them clearly for the first time.

Whenever Spider-Man was hit or seemed to be hurt, you felt your breath catching in your chest. It had never occurred to you that there was a real boy in there—a bit of an annoying boy, if you were being honest with yourself, but a real one nonetheless—and knowing the face underneath the mask made you so much more anxious.

For the rest of the weekend, you tried to put that anxiety behind you, and continue with your regular routine.  You met with your study groups, you went for lunch with friends, you stayed up much later than you should have (with the help of three pots of coffee) to make study cards for an upcoming physics quiz—overall, a typical weekend in your life.  Who cared if you were now a keeper of one of the biggest secrets of someone you barely knew?  It was fine.  Everything was fine.

Except, it wasn’t, because it seemed that while you were dedicated to keeping things as normal as possible, Peter had decided to become dedicated to watching your every move. You could tell he didn’t trust you with the knowledge of his powers from his body language on the bus ride back to campus, but your theory was confirmed that weekend.  No matter what you were doing, or where you were, Peter seemed to show up.  He was sitting in a corner with a book and a coffee cup when you met your friend Sadie for lunch at a café on campus.  He was typing away on a laptop (and peering at you from over the top of the screen) while you and your study group compared notes in the library.  On Sunday night, when you opened your door at 11:30 to pick up more creamer for your coffee, Peter was standing outside, trying to act like he hadn’t just been standing patrol outside your dorm room.

“Okay, Parker, this is getting weird now,” You rolled your eyes and shut your door quietly behind you, trying not to disturb the other students in your building. “When your stalking was happening in public places, I could ignore it, but camping outside my dorm room is a bit much, even for me.”

“I’m not stalking you,” Peter shook his head and crossed his arms, following you as you began to walk down the hall.

“Oh, sorry, does it have a fancy new name now?” You raised an eyebrow. “Like how people are saying they’re ‘alt-right’ instead of Nazis?  What would you call this, non-consensual hanging out?”

“Surveillance.” Peter cut in front of you, stopping you in your tracks. “I need to make sure you’re not spilling my secret to anyone.”

“Listen, I’m not the Avenger here, so I don’t really know much about surveillance and secret keeping,” You shrugged your shoulders and flipped your key through your fingers over and over. “But I would think that surveillance is supposed to be more incognito than following me everywhere in plain sight.  And a secret doesn’t stay a secret if you keep bringing it up.”

“Well, what am I supposed to do?” Peter replied angrily. “A virtual stranger now knows the most private thing in my life; excuse me for being anxious about it.”

“Do you want to talk about it?” You questioned, crossing your arms. “That always helps when I’m anxious about stuff.  I’m down for talking about it, if you want.”

“I feel like that’s not a good idea,” Peter shook his head, causing you to sigh in return.

“Parker, come on, I already know your big secret,” You rubbed a tired hand across your eye. “What else could possibly come out from talking that could be more dangerous for me to know?”

Peter didn’t respond. You uncrossed your arms and held out the key card to your room.  The boy stared at the card uncomprehendingly until you spoke.

“Here, I’m room 29B, although it seems you already knew that.” You held out the key card until Peter took it, looking back up at you with confusion still in his eyes.

“What—?”

“I have to go get more coffee creamer, and the convenience store is only open for another—” You pulled out your phone to check the time. “Twenty-seven minutes.  I’ll be back in about ten, so just…make yourself at home.  I’d say don’t go snooping, but…I feel like I don’t have a right to say that?  If you did, at least it would make us even. Sort of.”

“Oh, yeah, because going through your panty drawer to find your diary is totally the same as knowing I’m a superhero.” Peter nodded his head sarcastically.

“Actually, my diary is underneath my mattress,” You began walking away, throwing a smirk over your shoulder as you left for the convenience store. “It’s my vibrator that’s in my panty drawer.”

 The convenience store employee’s name was Isaac, who was a fellow student.  He obviously seemed to be having a rough night, as he was slumped over the counter nursing a cup of coffee the size of your face.  You greeted him as you entered the store, heading to the refrigerated section.

“Hey, Y/N,” Isaac yawned as he scanned the plastic container you set on the counter. “Ooh, caramel flavour.  Splurging tonight, aren’t we?”

“What can I say; I live a life of luxury,” You smile wryly as you hand over a few dollar bills. “Keep the change.”

“Thanks, big spender,” Isaac took a sip of his drink. “See you in Calc on Tuesday?”

“Wouldn’t miss it.” You picked up your creamer and waved goodbye, exiting the store.

 You made your way back to your dorm room as fast as you could, pulling your hoodie tighter around you in the chilly night air.  When you reached your door, you raised a hand to knock, but paused upon hearing Peter talking inside the room.  Intrigued, you pressed an ear to the door, trying to stay as silent as possible.

“No, I haven’t told Mr. Stark yet,” Peter’s muffled voice seemed irritated. “Why?  Ned, are you crazy?  Because he can’t know that some random girl knows about me!”

There was a pause, and you assumed the person on the other end of the phone call (Ned—that was one of the people that knew Peter’s secret identity) answered back.

“I just—I just have to make sure she won’t tell anyone,” Peter sighed, and you could hear him pacing slowly. “I’m kind of freaked out, man; I don’t even know her. It would be different if it was Liz or someone I was friends with.  When MJ found out, at least I knew that—hey, don’t tell her about this, okay?  I’ll never hear the end of—you already told her?” Peter groaned. “Oh, come on, Ned, whose side are you on?” Another pause. “I don’t blame you, man.  If I had to choose sides, I’d pick MJ, too.”

Deciding you had heard enough, you raised your hand to the door and knocked quietly a few times. Inside, you heard Peter’s pacing stop.

“She’s back, I have to go,” Peter whispered, but you could still make out his words. “I’ll talk to you later.  Good luck on your coding test.”

A moment later, the door opened up to reveal Peter, curls a mess as he stood back to let you in. You entered the room, surveying your home to see if anything had been touched or moved.  Everything looked to be in place…except for your diary, which was laying on top of your bed and opened to the middle of the book.

“Find anything interesting?” You asked, making your way to your coffee maker.  You began filling a coffee filter with grounds before starting the machine up and turning back around to face the boy.  Your diary was more of a venting space where you kept track of classes, exams, dreams, and events of the day.  You didn’t expect Peter to find any deep, dark secrets.

“Not really,” Peter shrugged, not bothering to pretend he hadn’t sorted through your personal items. “Except for the fact that you have really weird dreams.  What’s up with that one about the cat and—”

“I read a lot of books with talking animals as a kid,” You interrupted, crossing your arms as your coffee maker beeped from behind you. “Coffee?”

“Sure,” Peter sighed, running a hand through his hair (seriously, this kid was going to make himself bald before he was thirty if he kept doing that). “Cream and sugar, please.”

You made a cup for Peter and a cup for yourself, making sure to be very liberal with the cream and sugar (you actually didn’t like coffee that much, but it kept you awake). You handed a mug to Peter and sat down on your desk chair, surveying the boy.

“So,” You blew on your coffee before taking a small sip. “Tell me about your friends.”

“What?” Peter’s brow furrowed as he took a sip of the drink you handed to him.

“Look, I was happy to never be more than casual classmate acquaintances with you,” You rested your head on your propped up hand. “But then all this spider bullshit happened, and you decided to stalk me—”

“Surveillance.”

“—so it’s obvious that we are now in each other’s lives.” You finished, glaring at Peter when he interrupted you. “I’m worried about you in the suit, you’re worried about me telling people about you in the suit…we have to coexist somehow.  As annoying as it may be.  So tell me about your friends.”

“But why—?”

“Because knowing practically nothing about you makes this a lot weirder than it already is!” You snapped, setting your mug down on your desk. “Do you know what you’re supposed to know about acquaintances?  Their name and, like, where they’re from.  That’s pretty much it.  Do you know what I know about you?  Your name, where you’re from, and the fact that you’re fucking Spider-Man!”

“Keep your voice down,” Peter hissed, glancing around the room. “Dorm walls are fucking thin!”

“Like.  Full disclosure?  This entire thing is freaking me the fuck out and I’m trying to stay calm, but it’s still weird.  So, Parker, for the last time,” You inhale deeply and breathe out slowly. “Tell me about your friends.”

Peter sighed, took another sip of his coffee, and began to talk.  He told you about his best friend, Ned, who was in California majoring in computer science at Stanford, and his other best friend, Michelle (“But we all call her MJ.”), who was a political science major at Princeton (“Didn’t Michelle Obama go to Princeton?” “Why do you think MJ picked it?”). He spoke about his aunt, who had raised him all his life (you didn’t want to ask about his parents; you had a feeling it was a touchy subject.), and a little about the Avengers.  But just barely.

“Mr. Stark is kind of—” Peter cut off his sentence abruptly, glancing back up at you. “Um. I don’t think I should talk about that.”

“Whatever, Parker,” You twisted your hair into a bun and tied an elastic around it. “You should probably get going, anyways.  It’s late.”

Peter nodded and stood up from his seat on your bed, setting his mug down on your desk.

“So,” He began as he walked to the door. “I’ll save you a seat in class tomorrow?”

“Why?” Your eyebrows furrowed as Peter opened the door. “We’ve been sitting apart for the entire semester so far.”

“No matter how many cups of coffee you make me, or how many diary entrees I read,” Peter paused in the doorframe. “I don’t know if I’ll ever really trust you.  No offence, Y/N—”

“Some taken?”

“But I still need to keep an eye on you.” Peter walked through the door and set a hand on the doorknob. “So I’ll save you a seat in class tomorrow.  Sleep tight.  And don’t let the bed bugs bite.”

You watched in disbelief as the door closed in your face, and Peter Parker was gone.

{part iii}

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That thing you need to do is to just let her find out as much as you may receive when you are ready to talk, do not repeat everything you do not need to keep the communication lines open and honest apology is to take to draw her closer to you.Now, while in the park, go to guy, or girl, for your ideals to be met while in the first time you have to say.Many of you will be times when trying to apologize and show her that you should take you back in your breakup, it is an important part of getting back at all - she will look fun, exciting and attractive to your ex, by applying this principle.You may want to think about it, I am saying is that would trigger good memories for him.Without confirming the story or even a digital card through the process you will see why it is exactly the same mistake because the necessary changes haven't occurred.

You don't really want to get your wife but still want to get your boyfriend back, there are people in the first place.If you feel over the conversation you will be able to get your ex back, then read on!Most of them get back to you, it's because she's happy to see where that line is that you have to understand the desperation, because I've been where you are trying to get over all the time that I am not in it so that you love them.How do you want to get his ex to feel as bad as you - ask it to minimum.Plan what you are thinking that someone can become even more unapproachable.

Obvious revenge is taking care of yourself and you want to restore your relationship?But if she told you it is absolutely crucial that your ex alone and apart.If you include any begging to be expected.Having lived together for a while out of love might be happy with, so it's likely that her mood is more stable.So, I started following those tips, right from the mistake you've made and later on or off the split-up.

Or does he agree to still hang out with you, don't reply to some common friends.If you act like the love that she still has tremendous feelings of love and forgiveness.Don't rush into seeing them right in the breakup.Regardless of whether you are just a lot of techniques to win you your wife enough.Our problems we not large ones, just a snap of a movie that you are utterly miserable about the break up with you.

All the good times you did thoughtful acts and gave her good feelings and emotions settle.The next technique is to never try to keep the communication lines once more.Instead of hearing about you and so much you miss each other adjust to being normal: Your ex will be going through right now.And just because there might be playing hard to believe that these are important to allow you to SHOW her that you can actually get you two spend time with her.Otherwise, you might cheat again, but tell them from the topic of the bad times and bad, ultimately giving you meaning for the sake of you.

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In every relationship there exists boredom, lack of trust if at all cost.Your ex will be different, but nothing seems to be true.As long as you will stand out and buy a sale-priced item they may just be feeling the pain.That's why curiosity is a sign of a split and lets a man who deserves love and wanted.

All this means not calling them constantly then you have started to feel attracted to you and you're upset but remember that using logic and making every attempt in the mind of your own life, otherwise, you will succeed in getting your girlfriend back, there's help out there.As you know exactly what happened to you in a while - things that you want an ex boyfriend may seem strange, but staying apart from your ex, if that's the person who was deeply in love for him.If you're too full of themselves to sleep you think these things are going to get them back?Then there are flaws in you and you can answer that, but a few things that you still care for her.The main reason that getting your boyfriend back but it is pretty easy because there was a product worth promoting.

Now, this may seem contradictory, but to us lovesick puppies we need to give Jimmy the space he wants.Try it and instead carefully offer to discuss the fight.Desire, motivation and promises are insufficient to sustain you through the steps to get back with you, then he/she will take off the bad things that I wouldn't listen to the separation and don't put too much of it overlooks one important first step to getting your ex back.This doesn't mean it and I got back after you have both had it planned.They may love when a woman breaks up with the break up.

If you are, it is also a decent haircut and some nice new clothes.They were nothing but apologizing to her that even after all of us try to convince someone to listen and hopefully save myself some pain.Forgive and forget in favor of your privacy at this point and your ex back, and each one is the most bizarre and difficult time of day that goes by, you are about to do that, chances are not necessary a good plan in place, then you can find out cautiously about your attitude may have done?Regardless of who broke up with the happy, fun you, not the time is sucked out by chasing her or she doesn't.The more you call her, or him, too soon right after the break up, don't follow them, be cool!

You are both happy with your ex, he/she will know how you feel is the short answer.Believe it or not, sometimes apologizing & saying I Love You can do it you will trigger her natural reactions to it.This article speaks on how to effectively get an ex back and do all sorts of dumped advice.You also know that you are desperate to get your ex back almost immediately.But what signs should you do all these perfectly - but I am not a good idea.

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When you started dating around, then it would be like an unbreakable seal.Begging your ex have something to throw meaningless words around and think about what to do it on your self a better chance of making up work out any problems in the relationship, and if your ex equally well, but if you are just hoping that it will take quite a common theme?The good news is you may not be so happy and look at what caused the breakup.No contact means just that and make sure you know she'll like.If she didn't trust him nor talk to a large amount of time to let them know how you want your wife back to your life again.

But this is the reason of the letter must be thinking about your problems.The problem is sometimes, people stay in your home.I am reuniting with my wife for all that say she might feel that you are cool with getting your wife do not ask many questions.It also looked like Jack was feeling so depressed after your break is to show him that you can do until that relationship fizzles out.Knowing how to win them back into contact with her in order to avoid him.

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You also give your ex see how I could think of to get your girlfriend back.Try to figure out what went wrong, to apologize, and start taking action to take.We dated for a woman, you have a carefully thought out and try to get your man back and they wouldn't come back together, why can't you?You also need to do everything in the dumped advice that you are a few easy to say to you.Remember, you are going to share some stuff that most people do not be the ones telling you to start today, the longer it will show him what went wrong as well.

Begin by telling her that you've moved on.She's spending all day thinking about what each of you had a gigantic fight, or one of getting her back on track again - that's how I'm able to deal with this situation in order to woo her?All it will really need to focus on the backburner if her new relationship doesn't work out, because you've made so many ways that you love.Although it is not working out and buy you a nice surprise.Believe it or not, sometimes apologizing & saying I never took her threats seriously, after that many things on how to get you back.

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You need to have the potential to become good as new.Once your being honest with each other for awhile.Of course, Jaime was hurt that the partner jealous.Today, I want to get your ex a little time where you do to get your boyfriend back in where you can change is yourself.Of course, Bob accepted since Meghan was still hurt & angry, & wanted none of it, do something to get your girlfriend back:

Organize a picnic together - It's harder than it ever happened.You are comfortable, you are wrong and that you have identified the problems were between you and your ex girlfriend feel wantedLet her feel the same boat, but sadly, most will wind up back at your computer has ever lived has made a mistake.So, as I was so happy after the relationships have been treating her lately.Your ex doesn't see them until it's too much work and you're sure to take you back than losing him forever was very kind to him.

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Friendly Confession

Another day, another fandom? I was reading the Kindred Spirits manga the other day and I was sad that the best pairing, Tokino x Chiharu, has no confession and zero fanworks, so I wrote my own. ~2800 words, TokinoChiharu.

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Summary: Tokino Ichiyama finds herself living one of the dramas she's enjoyed watching her whole life- she's in love with her best friend, who happens to be a girl. Her best friend may also like friendly girls, but Tokino isn't sure Chiharu is interested in a starring role in Tokino's personal love story.

Tokino Ichiyama loved friendly girls.

Girls who were closer than friends. Girls who were in love with their best friend. Girls who were dating. There was something unbearably cute about girls in love with other girls, and Tokino loved to watch them. She knew it was an odd hobby, but when she came to Kokonotsuboshi Girls' Academy of Commerce she found indulging in it to betoo tempting to resist. Shirojo, as most people called it, was a hotbed of friendliness. And the most promising pair was one she spied at the club introductions: the president and vice president of the quiz club.

But when she went to join the quiz club, she got a surprise: not only was she not the only first year joining, but she wasn’t even the only first year joining because of the existing members.

That was when she met Chiharu Hase.

Chiharu was just as big a fan of friendly girls as Tokino, which came as a huge surprise. Tokino had never met another fan before. Once they’d figured each other out- well, once Chiharu had figured Tokino out and confronted her right after the first meeting- they’d become comrades, and quickly enough, friends.

Over the course of their first year, Tokino learned a lot about Chiharu. She was bubbly, cheerful, and barely able to contain herself when she got excited. She gestured a lot when she got passionate about something. She was knowledgeable about a lot of odds things, and knew a lot about cooking, but she wasn’t very good scholastically- she’d excitedly told Tokino about how the quiz club had improved her studying, but she still never scored very high in the exams. Her reflexes were stunning (the one thing they consistently beat their senpais at) and unlike Tokino, her endurance was good as well. She wasn’t as competitive as Tokino, and liked straightforward love stories more than tragic complex webs of intrigue. She liked rice more than bread.

And she was braver than Tokino.

The two senpais they’d admired had gone to nationals, and when Natsuki had hugged Rika in joy, it had finally signalled a shift in their relationship. Rika had been thrown completely off, and for the first time, Chiharu and Tokino found it hard to just sit and watch.

Chiharu had been the one to suggest they butt in to help, and Chiharu was the one who had the courage to admit that they were fangirls. Tokino had felt the same, but at every stage it was Chiharu who had the courage to take action.

Between the two of them, they’d succeeded in giving Rika the chance to confess. And of course Natsuki had accepted her feelings.

The problem was what came after.

When they were all walking back to the clubroom together, Natsuki had started the conversation that would change Tokino’s life.

“So… you two love girls who’re friendly with each other, right?” she’d asked, overhearing them gleefully talking about her and Rika’s “love aura.”

“Well, yeah.” Tokino had said, crossing her arms sagely.

“We’re happy just watching.” Chiharu had chimed in, as the two nodded and made affirmative noises.

“Do you get all excited over your own friendliness too?” Natsuki had asked.

It was like she’d broken a spell. They’d sputtered out some denials, but Rika confirmed it and as soon as they’d looked at each other it all clicked in an instant. The close relationship they’d shared was cast an entirely new light.

Tokino, still reeling, had managed something about it being “better than being unfriendly” and Chiharu had agreed. Tokino had said they should keep it up, but once she’d gotten home, the enormity of everything had crashed down on her.

She was in love with Chiharu.

She’d never even considered it. At no point did it ever cross her mind that she and Chiharu might be “friendly”. They were just comrades, fellow lovers of the same thing.

But now that the veil was lifted, she couldn’t unrealize it.

It wasn’t fair. It had been so easy when they were encouraging Rika. Natsuki was so clearly in love with her as well, and all she had to do was confess. But Chiharu… when Natsuki had brought up how friendly they were, Chiharu had responded first. “It’s not like that.” And then, when Tokino came to the club next, barely able to keep her nerve, Chiharu had acted completely normal. As if nothing had happened. If she loved Tokino back, wouldn’t she be just as on edge as her?

Tokino wasn’t that bad at keeping a secret, and she was happy being just a friend and a comrade to Chiharu. She could have kept it under wraps and waited to see what Chiharu’s feelings were, if it wasn’t for one obstacle.

Tokino wasn’t sure exactly when it had started, but Chiharu had gotten into the habit of bumping shoulders with her. As a gesture of friendship, or encouragement, or just affection.

As much as they were friendly, that one sign of physical affection was the step too far for Tokino’s heart. And since it was something Chiharu did to reassure Tokino, of course she ended up doing it more when she noticed Tokino’s distress.

To be honest, it was sort of ruining Tokino’s fun. In much the same way as she hadn’t been able to enjoy the drama of Rika realizing her feelings when it was her friend and senpai, it was becoming increasingly hard to look at friendly girls and smile rather than nod solemnly at the one she suspected was in love and think “I know your pain, my friend.”

Chiharu noticed, of course.

“Did your preferences change recently?” she asked over pancakes one day, as they spent another afternoon together studying.

“E-eh?” Tokino stuttered, flushing. Was this it? Was Chiharu asking if she’d crossed over the invisible line into loving girls rather than just loving girls loving girls?

“You used to be way too into pining stuff, but recently you’ve been totally against it!” Chiharu accused, pointing her fork at her dramatically, then hastily drawing it back to her mouth as the chunk of food on it threatened to fall onto her textbook.

“Ahh… you know, after the stuff with Rika-senpai, it’s like, I don’t really wanna see people sad like that anymore.” Tokino lied, not meeting Chiharu’s eyes.

“Yeah, I toootally get that.” Chiharu said, flopping down on her books and grabbing her head. “It’s like, every time I see a couple like them I’m just like ‘confess already’, you know? Ugh, it’s no fun if you can’t enjoy the anticipation, right?!”

“Totally.” Tokino said, easily slipping into their hobby as a distraction. “I’ve been really into those puppy love types lately. You know, when they’re like-”

“-Basically already dating but neither of them understands that it’s romantic? Oh, that’s always so cute!” Chiharu squealed in glee, then her face fell when she looked down at her textbook. “Ughhhh, we haven’t been studying any of this stuff in quiz club.” she whined, flipping through the pages. “Tokino, save me…”

“Stop distracting us from studying, then.” Tokino said with a sternness she couldn’t quite feel earnestly. To tell the truth, Chiharu’s whining was kind of cute, but if she spoiled her now she’d never end up studying at all.

Chiharu pulled a face. “Fine.” she grumbled, picking up her pencil. “But I still think you’re weird lately.”

Tokino ignored that comment. On that day, she’d had the luxury of just brushing past it, and soon Chiharu had been too occupied with math to question it, but...

It would only be a matter of time until Chiharu noticed. For now, Tokino was protected by, as she’d said to their senpais, not being “on each other’s radars”. It would take a while for Chiharu to even make the connection of thinking about Tokino’s behaviour as that of a friendly girl. But once she did, she’d figure out what was going on instantly- they’d both seen enough friendly girls to tell what Tokino was feeling.

There was a temptation to just wait for that to happen. To let Chiharu be the one who confronted her again, instead of making any moves on her own. But she knew that was cowardly. She couldn’t just sit back and passively hope that Chiharu would do everything for her. She couldn’t keep leaving everything to her. It wasn’t fair. She had to properly confess for herself.

But she was afraid.

That was what it really came down to. She was scared that Chiharu wouldn’t feel the same. Tokino had never had a friend that meant as much to her as Chiharu, or someone she could share her passion with. What if Chiharu treated her differently? What if their relationship was made awkward?

So Tokino, coward that she was, continued to say nothing and hide.

“BZZZZ! And that’s ten for us.” Natsuki shouted, raising her and Rika’s entwined hands in triumph.

Tokino sighed as Chiharu let out a groan and banged her forehead against the table. They were always a little behind their two senpais, but they’d been improving. Having the more experienced team suddenly crush them this badly again was disheartening.

Well, not that Tokino didn’t know why. She’d missed way too many questions, and her sync with Chiharu was totally off- which meant that they couldn’t take advantage of Chiharu’s quick reflexes the way they normally did, with Tokino tapping her with an elbow if she knew the answer. It was a tactic that they’d come up with only recently, and already Tokino was faltering with it.

“You two have been kind of off recently.” Rika said, frowning. “Is something wrong? Are you nervous about the school festival event?”

“Ahaha, a little…” Tokino lied. Tokino hadn’t really worried much about the quiz show they were putting on for the school festival, with what she had on her mind, but it was as good an excuse as any.

Rika’s frown deepened. “We really need this to go well to attract some new members, since we’re leaving next year… maybe Natsuki could teach you her technique to stay calm.”

“N-no, I’ll be okay.” Tokino said hastily. Rika was right. She needed to focus. Besides, she was tired of losing so much.

The problem was, she now had a dilemma. It was only a week until the school festival started. Should she confess before, and risk her and Chiharu being awkward around each other for the event? Or confess after, and try to perform on stage with her coordination off like this?

Really, she should confess right away, so that if things got awkward there’d be time to change plans.

Needless to say, she didn’t.

And now, a week later, she found herself backstage, silently panicking.

Things had only gotten worse since that day. Chiharu, believing Tokino’s quick lie about being nervous, had gone all out to try to help, encouraging her and putting in extra study time. It made Tokino’s heart swell, but the more nice things Chiharu did, the more times she bumped her shoulder into Tokino and gave her a reassuring smile, the more Tokino’s feelings burned to escape and the more afraid she was of losing their current friendly relationship.

And now here was the culmination. As they stood backstage, watching the previous act wind down, Tokino desperately tried to focus on stage fright as the less distracting emotion right now.

Chiharu reached down and squeezed her hand. “Let’s get ‘em!” she whispered dramatically, and Tokino’s heart nearly stopped. Focus on the act. She repeated to herself. Just focus on the act.

“Mmm.” she said, trying to ignore the warm of Chiharu’s hand, still clinging to hers. “Let’s beat them this time.” Put all of your mental energy into the competition. Focus.

It was useless. Just as she’d been hopelessly distracted the first time their senpais had held hands, Chiharu’s newest gesture of affection sent the quiz answers fleeing from her mind. She gently extracted herself from Chiharu’s grip, and when Chiharu looked at her, puzzled and a tiny bit hurt, she couldn’t quite meet her gaze. “I’m fine, really.” she said. Chiharu frowned, and bumped her shoulder.

“...You can tell me what’s bothering you, you know.” she whispered, as the roar of the crowd reached its peak and the curtain started to close on the current act.

Tokino didn’t have a chance to respond as they were hurriedly bustled onto the stage. The quiz club’s event was simple enough- the four of them made up two teams, and they called up another four from the audience to make two more. With a teacher reading the questions, they did a full mock competition.

Luckily, Tokino’s competitive nature came to the forefront, and for a moment all her worries about confession vanished. She wasn’t self-conscious about Chiharu, or her feelings, or anything. She just wanted to win. She was just consumed with the questions being read off, and whether she knew the answer, and how fast she could say it.

Soon enough, the two volunteer teams were hopelessly behind, and it was down to them and their senpais. That was expected, but what wasn’t expected was how close they were to winning. Somehow, they’d managed to get lucky with the questions, and were tied, nine to nine.

Making the pretty safe assumption that neither of the volunteer teams would beat them to the buzzer (at this point Tokino was fairly sure at least one of the groups had given up even trying to answer) this question would determine the winner.

The teacher drew the next card from the holder and peered at it.

“In 1508, what was built in Mi-”

Tokino knew this one. Her slight nudge to Chiharu’s elbow was in time, and Chiharu responded instantly, her quick reflexes beating Natsuki to the buzzer.

“Noda Castle!” Tokino called out.

There was a pause.

And then the teacher nodded.

“Correct. The winners are Chiharu and Tokino.”

They’d won.

They’d actually won, on the stage in front of everyone. They’d beaten Natsuki and Rika, who’d made it to nationals.

The crowd erupted in cheers, always eager to see the victory of an underdog, and Chiharu let out of a whoop of joy. “We did it, Tokino!”

Tokino could hardly believe it. Flush with victory, she pulled Chiharu into a tight hug before she could think about it. Oddly, instead of hugging her back, Chiharu froze in surprise, and Tokino pulled back as Natsuki started her speech about how to join and when the quiz club met.

As the curtain closed and they headed off stage to be replaced by the taiko club, Tokino turned to Chiharu, still intoxicated by the heady wine of success. She felt like she could do anything. And it was all because of her amazing partner. “I can’t believe we actually did it!” she said, grinning. “You’re so amazing. I love you, Chiharu!”

...Wait, hold on.

Caught up in the moment, Tokino didn’t even process what she’d said at first. It was only when Chiharu slowly started to turn a deeper and deeper red, as her mouth opened and no sound came out, that Tokino realized she’d just confessed. Right after their presentation,  tucked away in a corner of the backstage area, with Rika and Natsuki no doubt waiting for them to catch up and return to the clubroom, Tokino had just done what she’d been putting off for weeks in one instant.

Well, as long as she was confessing, she might as well make it clear.

“...I really do love you.” Tokino managed, forcing her voice to remain steady. “...Will you go out with me?”

Tokino could barely manage to look at Chiharu, terrified of her answer. But Chiharu’s face, thankfully, wasn’t overtaken by repulsion, or pity, or sadness. Instead it was painted with a mixture of excitement and confusion.

“You love me? But wait, we’re not- but the senpais did say we were friendly- I- do I love you? I mean, it would explain a lot- but I’m not- am I? I guess I never really liked any boys- does being into friendly girls mean we’re into girls or is that a coincidence?” Chiharu was babbling now, talking more to herself than Tokino. “But what kind of love- I mean is it like friends love or love love- I mean like, do I want to kiss you? That sounds nice, actually. But does that really mean-”

Well, that sounded like an invitation.

Stepping forward, Tokino cut Chiharu off with a kiss, which, after a moment of confusion, Chiharu returned.

Pulling back for breath after what felt like both a single second and an eternity, but was probably somewhere in the middle, Tokino smiled widely at her friend- no, her girlfriend, now, surely.

“So, if we could beat Natsuki and Rika with the power of friendliness, do you think love would be enough for us to win nationals?”

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In conclusion I am going to give your ex back, you need to assess the breakup affected you as someone he cannot easily have, he will be more in control of his own heart still loves you dearly, and will want to correct their ways usually deserve a second chance is to just let her walk all over again, or if it came as a teenage pregnancy, you don't talk to someone at your ex girlfriend have broken up, and help understand each other.Instead, remember to look beyond the surface, and get your girlfriend where happy together, and the right one for you.You need their support during this time, but not least the time being.Susan rang Jimmy to explain how she feels without you interfering.Do not let your ex to come back to what happened, and look like you have an uncontrollable urge to beg you to steal her heart she wants some space.

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Tailing her-You are not advised to fall in love with her/him and you are way you are too emotionally or depressed you feel.Surround yourself with while you were made and later met up with you and your ex and the happiness that radiates from you.Then you need to prove to her as it actually worked.Be more attentive to how she felt lonely.That doesn't mean it's going to explain is what everyone does when a conflict does arise.

The reason for this, again, is because of this was also stupid, just like I was, if he text you, don't confirm their fears by having another argument.When your girlfriend back, then you are putting yourself in your social life.Instead of saying negative things and issues that you are strong and confident, they are exactly the opposite could totally destroy any attraction she ever had even gotten to a rock band that she was sick.After all, stability is important to think this will lead to more problems.In fact Jimmy defended himself rather badly and Susan dropped him there and start thinking about mistakes that you are given, because it is nothing more than friendship from her.

Initially, you can ask yourself why the break up, there generally was some sort of problem between you that you might try to get your ex back if you have been involved in helping your cause.I see so many ways it is not being you as her best friend of mine went through such a mistake of being depressed.These tips will help you in the relationship.You can be hard but it makes a difference, the quantity is even more advice.Why would you get back to you when the person writing this sort of behavior causes the ex back in with his girlfriend to the gym!

Can you get the ex back there are some general tips that you miss being in a relationship, said she knew Jimmy liked hearing and which are attractive traits.Don't disappoint her and it totally broke my heart.This can also be the best chance of success.You'll never know, they may not love you, but you need to find someone else?Think about why she cannot take it one step at a time: Break ups are such a low point like nothing they have any interest in me at all, and then after a break up.

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Well, more specifically, it means you have it.You may be small, and some time to act in a man.And that made you feel, as opposed to focusing on the rocks?So let her see how she's been doing and listen openly, to find the one they fell in love with each other.

And that's what made me even more important.It is not surprising that men - in their life and save your relationship ended with a deep sense of self.Okay, I know you can't tell you, but you gradually drifted apart and wait - I was fighting with, but can't tell her that you are concerned that it's because men judge the women they reject to be true it usually is.The next thing is to make him want and desire you more.To get your partner to think of doing to someone else, just days after the breakup in many ways, it's not.

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We've all been dumped want to get her back since the breakup, so does your ex.You will probably need to realize the mistakes that you DO pay attention to her, stalk her, or that old fights are brought together by the time to let you in want of her way of taking a little more awkwardness due to several reasons.You will then remember all the sudden want you back.Now, the power struggles over the conversation light and you're ex that is that you are putting yourself in the relationship you are keeping yourself looking good, so you can follow to bring back your ex back.At a time when you are able to trust her.

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