#I'm too emotionally damaged

[mizgnomer]

Parallels - Good Omens Seasons One & Two - Part One

Links to [ Part Two ] [ Part Three ] [ Part Four ]

[kindlythevoid]

Todo saw Itadori as a brother and then tried to kill him.

Choso tried to kill Itadori and then saw him as a brother.

They are all part of the same family.

[millenniummmbop]

I firmly believe it would take yugi and kaiba years if not DECADES to finally figure it tf out and get together btw

[mutantfactor]

Ashes Of Love Run Yu

[theophagie]

*slams fists on the table* vk wip! :3

Slowly working on it at least. I gotta fix some things before going on, but I'm just happy that the stained glass is mostly out of the way, however ugly it may be. I still want to draw my other idea as well (sleeping Ven + Kairi looking at him inside Sora's heart), but since I haven't been getting anywhere with it I decided to switch over to something else for now........... Kairi's kh2 design technically would have worked better here since I'm making this with her and Ven's similarities in mind and it's there that she outright voices her discomfort with being left behind and meets Pluto, but!!!!!! Her kh1 design rules so idc idc

[aptericia]

Concept: Ochette splits the Friendship Jerky in half and can summon Akalā during the day and Mahina at night

[mandomaya]

mentally preparing myself for the horrors of the mando S3 finale like I ain't taking no chances after what they did to tech

[everydayimslothin]

Doing an RP involving a hypothetical daughter of Tarkin sending her father this on life day and wanted to share because it may be the funniest thing I make all year. (Original image used: Pastoral (n.d.) by Peter Ferguson (Canadian, 1968)

[misty-wisp]

Help I’m on chapter 18 of ybm, I’m scared of what the endings going to be lmao

there's two endings

the bad one leads into pursuit

so it's an au of an au

:)

[nerdexer]

omg character time!!

for once i have made a character BEFORE creating the world. truly a moment to be recorded in history

here's Milton West! he's a twenty-something office working moth boy fella person. he is mild mannered and soft spoken. it takes ages to get him out of his shell. he wanted to be a teacher and is taking community college classes while working. in fact, his work ethic is something to be admired---balancing college and his job---but he'll brush off any praise he receives.

he's a he/him. he says he's pansexual but it's just because "i don't want to disappoint anyone... not that anyone would want me anyways... but what if bi people think i look down on them?? do pan people do that?? what if i'm not actually pan and i'm just embarrassing myself in front of all the real pan people!! uh actually i'm uhh undecided... sorry... for wasting your time..." (direct quote)

also he's attracted to light because he's a moth and i'm not creative enough to subvert that trope and also I LOVE THAT TROPE AND I DON'T CARE IF THEY ACTUALLY ONLY GO TO LIGHT BECAUSE THEY DEPEND ON THE MOON FOR NAVIGATION. IN THIS WORLD THEY LIKE LIGHT JUST BECAUSE, OKAYY???

ok cool back to a decade long hibernation. bye all.

[genderqueer-karma]

the real reason i haven't been able to finish aai2 is because i keep thinking about how much gregory just wanted miles to be a well-rounded and happy child

[amysubmits]

Owning Me Is Complicated

Occasionally I come across content that makes it seem like being a Dom is easy.

Order her around, make her do the things you don't want to do, do whatever you want, "win" all the disagreements because you're the dom - or even silence her from disagreeing with you to begin with. Get sex exactly how you want it, exactly when you want it. She's just a living, breathing object that can and will do whatever you want. She has no needs other than to make your life easier. She's your own personal robot, but with a body you want to fuck. Being a dom is like a regular relationship but without the emotional labor. I'm sure there are other gender versions out there too, but I see the M/f version most often. It's so funny to me how absurd that all is compared to real life.

Owning me is complicated. Owning me means doing way more emotional labor than a vanilla relationship would require, not less.

Yes, I do what he says - but he's responsible for making the best decisions he can. He's in charge, so keeping me physically and emotionally safe is his responsibility. It's a huge part of how he earns my submission. It's no small thing to make decisions when making them well is part of how he keeps me safe and keeps me open and trusting towards him. Yes, I'll try to push my sexual limits for him - but I have complex emotional needs that accompany physical intimacy. Use my body without having respect for my physical and mental health and it'll fall apart real quick. And once again, making a reckless decision here that would leave me damaged and could forever damage our dynamic. Sure, he can take his cock out anytime and instruct me to suck and I will, but that doesn't mean it's all fun and games. He has the burden of double and triple checking that he isn't pushing me too far, or taking too much as to leave me empty. Yes, he gets the final say in disagreements, but he earns that by hearing me out. He couldn't keep me submissive if he didn't respect my feelings. I can't feel respected if I'm not heard. So he has to hear me out and really listen. And then his job is to attempt to get the best outcome for both of us. He has to try to balance our needs, because if either of us gets neglected, we individually suffer and then the relationship suffers. So he sometimes deals with the weight of threading the needle between his needs and mine, his wants and mine. His shoulders carry the weight of those choices. Yes, he can deny my wishes - and even my needs for a time, if he chose. But I am human. How long can he deny me things that bring me pleasure before I start to feel unwanted, unloved, disrespected, thrown out? Resentment would set in eventually. Self-protection would kick in eventually...and it might be too late by then, the damage may be done by the time I would wake up to look around and decide I didn't want to live like this anymore. Why would he want to even find out, given that he loves me? He wouldn't. He has a sadistic streak, so he likes to deny me things I like so that I long for them even more for a while. He likes to see me eager, desperate to get it when he decides to give it. He likes to watch me tolerate discomfort for him. Playing with these ideas require a deep understanding of my needs and limits. He has to know where "desperate for you 🥺 " starts to fade and "That goblin in the back of my head is starting to worry I'm not valued" starts to enter my thoughts. Yes, I look to him to guide and lead, and he has a lot of power and control - but that comes with the ability to destroy and damage. There's nothing easy about ownership if you feel the weight of the responsibility you're carrying.

[acaiyatree]

the way my hand presses the skip button so fast when this is me trying plays on shuffle

[infamous-if]

ok but would it be annoying to ask for details/info about the new subromance before even reading the update? because amy I only know their name and I'm already like I WANT THEM

hahahah well I won't say anything specific for the sake of saving it for the story but LA is very much what a real sub-ro would be like I think. They're not around *often* but they have a lot more shine near the second half of the story. After Chapter 12 or so (unless I somehow change my entire outline but I doubt it lol)

They're the route I would recommend people take if they want romance but not too much of it. And if they want romance without relationship drama. If they want something laid back and without much emotional stress.

I always had them planned, but I wrestled with adding something especially lighthearted and wondered if that would mess up the tone. LA is more of an indulgence. I do like writing easy romances sometimes, as hard as it is to believe haha, and I sort of deprived myself of that with the others!

I really wanted a route where I didn't have to drain myself writing something angsty and dramatic. And it works because LA hates drama. Don't bring it their way, it turns them off.

No secrets, no drama, no parent/romance troubles. No internal damage or external baggage. LA is just fun, that's all !

Also, in my humble opinion, they have mastered the cool archetype. August is an introverted kind of cool, Dakota is a snarky/mean kind of cool, but LA is a very warm, friendly, charming kind of cool.

Essentially, L is very emotionally stable and has the mental maturity of someone their age! (30!) Refreshing...

[purelillies]

hunter voice goodbye

[transgenderteensurvivalguide]

up until recently i ran a pretty popular radfem blog (stay with me, this ask is in good faith) but after i took a social media detox, i realized i don’t share those beliefs anymore and in fact i might be trans myself. i just kind of abandoned the blog, but i’d feel bad if i didn’t tell my followers what happened. i’m scared of telling anyone because i feel like i’d be a bad feminist if i transitioned. (i know, you can be trans and a feminist just fine, but that’s just the kind of thing radfems tell you.) even worse, i’m scared of posting about it on my main or radfem blog because radfems and trans people by and large hate each other (obv), and i’m scared to mention i’ve been in both groups because of the hate i’ll get

Lee says:

When I first started as a mod, I would have told you that you need to immediately post on all your blogs to disown the transphobic beliefs you had previously expressed to try to make up for the harm that you may have perpetrated as a radfem.

Now that I'm a little older, my feelings on the topic have shifted a bit. Before anything else, I think you need to slow down and make sure that you ensure your own safety and mental health.

If you believe that revealing this change to your followers could result in backlash online that would affect you emotionally, it's crucial to prepare by turning off anonymous asks and muting notifications from social media apps.

You should also make sure you have a non-online place to turn for support. If they used to be your community, you may feel like you've lost online friends, so make sure you don't become too isolated. Instead, lean on your IRL connections and seek support from trans-friendly people in your community.

You may even want to consider looking for a therapist-- questioning being trans can be difficult for anyone, and adding a layer of internalized transphobia doesn't help.

When you're ready to share your feelings on your blog, you should write a thoughtful post explaining your journey. You don't have to justify your identity; rather, focus on your personal growth, how your views have evolved, and how you came to understand yourself better. Acknowledge the complexity of the situation and that you're still learning.

These people were once your buddies and there's a chance you may be able to make some of them question their beliefs too if you don't lash out at them and trigger that instinctual defensive us-versus-them mindset, so I would try to keep a friendly tone even while noting that you no longer support them.

So thank your followers for their support and engagement over the years, but tell them you aren't comfortable staying part of their community now that you've realized that the beliefs underpinning the group are doing damage and you are trying to unlearn that type of thinking.

Gently challenge any misconceptions you once held or promoted. Clarify that being trans and feminist are not mutually exclusive and that everyone deserves respect and equality, regardless of their gender identity.

If you're comfortable, share resources that helped you on your journey. This could be educational materials, support groups, books you found helpful, or contact information for trans-supportive LGBTQ+ organizations. If there's anything you'd recommend to others who were once in the same place as you were on getting out, this is the time to share your advice.

Understand that reactions will likely be mixed. Some followers may feel confused, betrayed, or angry, while others might be supportive or even share their similar experiences. Remember, you're not responsible for their reactions and you don't need to respond to them if you don't want to argue and they aren't willing to have a respectful conversation.

Be clear about your boundaries. Let your followers know what kind of comments you're willing to engage with and that hate or harassment won't be tolerated. You can even stop engaging with the account altogether if you don't think you can deal with the hate that you may receive.

You don't have to post about this immediately. Again, it's okay to take as much time as you need to feel ready. It's okay to wait until you're in a safe and stable position before making any announcements.

If you do post about it and get hate, remind yourself that you're doing the right thing by letting go of that community, and that you're not only making the right choice for your own life in allowing yourself the freedom to explore your gender identity but you're also doing the right thing overall since you're now standing up for the trans community (late is better than never!) and no longer encouraging transphobic narratives.

If you feel that your current blog is no longer a space where you can express yourself authentically, consider starting a new blog or platform where you can write freely about your experiences and beliefs. Or just get offline altogether-- your digital detox is what started this, so maybe it's healthy for you to continue it for a while!

If you tell someone "I support trans folks" and they send you hate, that person is not your friend anyway. This is an opportunity to meet nice people who you can be yourself with. I would really encourage you to connect with IRL activists who are actually regularly volunteering and doing something concrete for their community if you have the opportunity.

When I was in high school, I volunteered at my local library's teen advisory board, and when I was in college I volunteered at a local hospital and through my college. This weekend I'm starting training for volunteering in-person for my town's emergency preparedness group which also does things like help to unload trucks for the food pantry, and I also volunteer remotely for two organizations online.

I'm really pushing for you to get out and volunteer (online or IRL) because I know one draw of the radfem community is feeling like you're an activist and that you're supporting women's rights and protecting and defending women. And it is important to support women's rights and protect and defend women! But there are other ways to do that beyond running a hateful blog attacking trans women.

I have a friend who works at an organization for survivors of domestic violence, for example, and she works with volunteers who help staff events, answer the hotline, etc. You can look around and see what local initiatives there are in your community and if you can't find the thing you're looking for you can start a group yourself or look online and join a national or state-wide cause that you care about, like pushing the legislature to support access to abortions.

Giving up the radfem community doesn't mean giving up feminism, and this is a good opportunity for you to take a look at your own time, your values, and think about how you can take this chance to start working to be a more effective feminist. Not everyone has to be an activist, but if you want to be one, think about how you can start doing good in a way that will actually affect people in a positive way.

I've also often been involved in doing events like conferences and workshops and panels IRL from my time in high school to the present day to try and educate folks on the community, but I also know that sometimes you need to take a step back and prioritize yourself. If you think you're not ready to jump into making change that's also okay. Just join something. A soccer team, a book club, anything hobby-related, to have something else to do and talk about and think about and stay tethered to feeling part of something.

Remember, it's okay to grow and change. You're not betraying anyone by being true to yourself. It's a courageous step to admit when your views have changed, and it's an integral part of personal growth. Be kind to yourself during this process.

Whether or not you end up identify as trans, you still will be doing the right thing by separating yourself from that community. I know it may be difficult because they were a place where you felt supported and part of a movement, but I really believe that you're taking steps in the right direction by letting go of that ideology and just living your life!

Followers, if you have any experiences unlearning toxic beliefs please reply with your advice for anon!