#Rachel Naomi Remen

[julesofnature]

“Healing may not be so much about getting better, as about letting go of everything that isn’t you - all of the expectations, all of the beliefs - and becoming who you are.” ~Rachel Naomi Remen

[ophelia-network]

"Everyone alive has suffered. It is the wisdom gained from our wounds and from our own experiences of suffering that makes us able to heal. Becoming expert has turned out to be less important than remembering and trusting the wholeness in myself and everyone else. Expertise cures, but wounded people can best be healed by other wounded people. Only other wounded people can understand what is needed, for the healing of suffering is compassion, not expertise." Rachel Naomi Remen

Dragonslayer by Kristina Carroll

[anna-chr0nism]

[twicedailyquotes]

Perhaps the most important thing we bring to another person is the silence in us, not the sort of silence that is filled with unspoken criticism or hard withdrawal. The sort of silence that is a place of refuge, of rest, of acceptance of someone as they are.

Rachel Naomi Remen

[wordsintheattic]

"Healing may not be so much about getting better, as about letting go of everything that isn’t you - all of the expectations, all of the beliefs - and becoming who you are."

-Rachel Naomi Remen, Healing and the Mind

[liberatingreality]

Healing may not be so much about getting better, as about letting go of everything that isn’t you - all of the expectations, all of the beliefs - and becoming who you are.

Rachel Naomi Remen, Healing and the Mind

[g-raynard]

A blessing is not something that one person gives another.

A blessing is a moment of meeting, a certain kind of relationship in which both people involved remember and acknowledge their true nature and worth, and strengthen what is whole in one another. By making a place for wholeness within our relationships, we offer others the opportunity to be whole without shame and become a place of refuge from everything in them and around them that is not genuine. We enable people to remember who they are.

Rachel Naomi Remen

Art ~Elena Ray

[cleverwordsandotherstuffilike]

"The healing of our present woundedness may lie in recognizing and reclaiming the capacity we all have to heal each other, the enormous power in the simplest of human relationships: the strength of a touch, the blessing of forgiveness, the grace of someone else taking you just as your are and finding in you an unsuspected goodness." Rachel Naomi Remen, M.D.

[leahweberking]

A Shoulder To Lean On

“Perhaps the most important thing we bring to another person is the silence in us, not the sort of silence that is filled with unspoken criticism or hard withdrawal. The sort of silence that is a place of refuge, of rest, of acceptance of someone as they are. We are all hungry for this other silence. It is hard to find. In its presence we can remember something beyond the moment, a strength on which to build a life. Silence is a place of great power and healing.”

Rachel Naomi Remen

[specford59-blog]

Accumulating losses

"Clearly, I walked through water but I am not sure if my clothes, my body is still wet, yet"

9 March 2023

I started out this blog/journal (mostly for myself) knowing almost no one will read it.

Through the years as my career in oncology wore on past four decades, what exactly did the mounting grief from losing so many relationships to death have on me? I have seen only fleeting reference to this issue in popular literature. In my retirement avocation as a medical ski patroller, I had an opportunity to hear a nationally recognized researcher who deals with the effect of death on first responders. A significant quote from Dr Rachel Naomi Remen M.D.:

"The expectation that we can be immersed in suffering and loss daily and not be touched by it is as unrealistic as expecting to be able to walk through water without getting wet"

That thought rang true with me. Looking back, I began to realize that the losses and the potential losses were mounting. I was fortunate through my career that outside endeavors, marathoning, motorsport racing, the joys of children and traveling with my spouse kept the grief from grabbing too much of my self awareness. As time went by the lingering presence of even the potential of relapse, deterioration and eventual demise began to weigh more heavily upon my well being. The relationships with my patients made this hovering specter even worse as the more I was able to develop relationships with patients the more heavily the potential loss clouded my existence.

But how then has the accumulation of losses over 40 plus years of practice affected me. Truthfully , I have no idea, as there is no "control" me to compare. How would I look at the world now, had I not developed thousands of relationships only to see them dissolve into death when their malignancy became resistant to our most creative interventions. Clearly, I walked through water but I am not sure if my clothes, my body is still wet, yet.

[julesofnature]

“Healing may not be so much about getting better, as about letting go of everything that isn’t you - all of the expectations, all of the beliefs - and becoming who you are.” ~Rachel Naomi Remen

[ophelia-network]

Most of us lead far more meaningful lives than we know. Often finding meaning is not about doing things differently; it is about seeing familiar things in new ways.

Rachel Naomi Remen

[canticleofcanticlesforleibowitz]

Just what I’m listening to for my commute this a.m.

[kaiyves-backup]

“I had thought joy to be rather synonymous with happiness, but it seems now to be far less vulnerable than happiness. Joy seems to be part of an unconditional wish to live, not holding back because life may not meet our preferences and expectations. Joy seems to be a function of the willingness to accept the whole, and to show up to meet with whatever is there. It has a kind of invincibility that attachment to any particular outcome would deny us. Rather than the warrior who fights toward a specific outcome and therefore is haunted by the specter of failure and disappointment, it is the lover drunk with the opportunity to love despite the possibility of loss, the player for whom playing has become more important than winning or losing.” - Rachel Naomi Remen

[meditation-practices]

Words of Wisdom for July 10, 2024

Dear Friends: “One moment of unconditional love may call into question a whole lifetime of feeling unworthy, and invalidate it.” – Rachel Naomi Remen Read More Mini Mindfulness Breaks Click here to offer what you can for eBooks and Guided Mediations! Mindfulness Mentoring