#as i often have to remind myself!

[piplupod]

oh wait this is literally just... the majority is Right and True and anyone who deviates from it is Wrong and Unwell. okay. okay. i've experienced this and observed this many times before but this one in particular blindsided me a little because I often forget how much people hate insects because the subject does not come up very often in my physical life

[theoldaeroplane]

worried that thing you put in your art or writing or game or music is too self-indulgent, too self-referential, too niche for anyone but yourself? fear not! you can do whatever you want forever. and you should.

[thedisablednaturalist]

I think when people think of mental illness and what helps, especially with things like anxiety and depression, the treatment involves pushing yourself. Pushing yourself to get out of bed, to exercise, to take a shower, to go out in public, to order your own food from the cashier, etc.

And because the mental health movement has grown so much, people think that's the default of ALL illnesses. That the only way someone will get better is if they push themselves. That practice makes perfect. That you'll become more comfortable or strong over time the more you do something.

But what people need to realize is, with physical disabilities and chronic illnesses, pushing yourself in most cases is DETRIMENTAL. Pushing yourself past your limits can lead to flare ups or further injury. That's why it's important to know your limits, how certain activities may affect your condition, and learn how to either adapt or get help to complete the activity in question.

Also, most of us are already pushing ourselves. Most of us don't have access to the help or equipment we need. Most of us live in places where we frequently encounter inaccessible obstacles. Most of us NEED to rest.

So please don't try to be our physical therapists or doctors. There are people specifically trained to help us navigate our own conditions and limitations. There are people trained to help us strengthen our body's resilience without causing flare-ups or injury. Do not tell us "it'll be good for you" or "you need the exercise" when we say something is too heavy or too far or when we say we need our mobility aid(s). Your friend with depression may need to be encouraged to get out of bed, but your friend with chronic illness definitely doesn't.

Respect our rest.

[dragon-ducky]

It’s so hard seeing people wearing TMNT shirts in public cuz like

How do I know if they’re wearing it cuz it’s a shirt

Or if they, too, hold a deep burning passion for 4 mutant ninja turtle teens

[puppygirlgirldick]

have you been kind to trans women? what about trans women who don't pass? trans women who are bald? trans women who are fat?

how about fat trans women who don't carry their weight in a way you consider feminine? or people who are transfeminine but whose gender identity doesn't involve the word "woman"? transfems who can't or don't take feminizing hormones? transfems whose gender is fluid and not always feminine?

and if you are somebody like this: have you been kind to yourself?

[puppyeared]

I love you when we haven’t talked in weeks and months I love you when I have 12 unread messages I love you when im not in the mood to talk. We’re still friends even when we spend time apart

[unproduciblesmackdown]

ooh big hug

[scintillyyy]

thinking about it again (steph's anger holding a lot shame & disgust for her parents/their life choices/her upbringing and her negative biases as a result and her desire to completely divorce herself from her roots & be, what she thinks is, better than that)

[alsojnpie]

dishes are forever

[bass-alien]

protect your peace, protect your mind, protect your body, protect your soul, because no one else is going to do that for you, YOU have to do that for you

[smokeandhubris]

i love love love media that loves the world. i want to be reminded that the universe is so incomparably beautiful and complex. i want to be shown that life is messy and broken and it hurts so bad but it’s so so so beautiful and you can’t help loving it anyway. there are people out there, wonderful ones who will stay by your side if you’ll let them. there is the sun and the warmth of it and the light. there is the path between the trees and the sandwich shop down the road and the river in the paddock and is that wonderful and isn’t that worth living for. i love when media tells you it’s okay to be broken and it’s okay to be hurting and it’s okay to live despite it. tell me i am worth saving. tell me to listen to the rain falling on tin rooftops and fall in love with life. tell me that the world loves me too.

[fatehbaz]

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[fayeandknight]

Disability stuff

While it was really nice to catch up with my friend, she did point out something I don't really know what to do with. I will preface this by saying she did not point this out in an unkind way. I will also say that we've been friends since highschool and even though there are typically long gaps in between us seeing each other, she's quite familiar with me.

I struggle much more with my words than I used to. In my younger years I was often called pretentious because I used very precise words. But more often, particularly in the last few years, I find myself struggling to recall or get out the exact words I want.

It's very frustrating and I do, depending on the company, express that frustration by saying things like " I do have words" or "I know words".

For example, today I was telling her that I'd recently tried my hand at homemade perogies. I was trying to say that I'd bought a dumpling press but could not recall those two, relatively simple, words. I ended up resorting to hand gestures.

My friend wondered if it's because I talk less to people these days but I'm not sure it is. I wonder if it's related to unmasking more and being less hyper focused on/rehearsing precisely what I'm going to say next?

I could be totally off too. But while it's definitely a thing I've noticed about myself, I didn't realize how different it is from my younger self.

[uhbasicallyjustmilex]

fire and the thud came on my spotify shuffle while me and my sister were listening to music this afternoon, and at the end of it she turns to me and goes “who was that? the lyrics sound like the kind of thing you’d write” and honestly i think it’s one of my favourite unintentional compliments i’ve ever received

[meirimerens]

thinking about how mishandled the herb brides are because like. The Text tells us they're not sexual beings (P1 mentions them being virgins, engaged to the Earth, and not to be touched even by their husbands, almost, for a lack of a better word and to conjure an image more than anything, priestess-types) and that their dances are nonsexual and sacred (all all true and correct) WHILE. giving them detailed / 3D modeled nipples. topless. clothes very conveniently torn [in ways that would be unrealistic for actual dancing like in the fucking moshpit]. all pretty thin hairless white-passing blemishless 20-something women. being already sexualized as white-passing asian women, but if they looked more like other NPC models/members of the Kin like the Kayura models (which to me would make more sense because they are never mentioned to be mixed in the way Artemy, an indigenous man who's blonde blue eyes due to being mixed, is [while still very much being indigenous and it being a central part of his story]), it would be even more obvious and would steer even more into Very Blatant fetishization of asian women. and then one asks, are they white-passing because they're sexualized? are they sexualized because they're white-passing? was it an admission of guilt to not make them look like Kayura model, because it would be too obvious then? or is it an admission of lust for women more white-passing? is it about beauty in the eye of the beholder?

then there's bewildering and dehumanizing lore of members of the Kin being non-humans, through the existence of the Worms (literally half-soil), them being a (more or less literal) hivemind, and that being "less human"/closer to the earth (nice_dichotomy_what_lies_outside_of_it png but also... the game touches on that...) immunizes them to the Earth's disease... and yet the Brides look like women... pretty thin hairless white-passing blemishless 20-something women who someone found wise to give 3d modeled nipples to, still good for the ritual cutting... do you hear how i'm going mad yet...

edit to add because while i was so mad and it WAS in my mind i just didn't have the strength to add it when i first wrote:

and they're bought and traded between the odonghs they pair with (again, closer to cattle or things) ... ladies there's so much. there's too much.

[mercymaker]

i know it's the tumblr note economics and funny and relatable stuff always trumps everything else

but seeing the most random meme i slapped in a minute grab more notes than a gif set i worked on for most of the day is doing something to my soul