#because I am those things and that's the tag that I use to talk about those issues that affect these things

[grotesqpallr]

I spend a lot of time in anti-radqueer/anti-transid radinclus spaces since I am still closeted for my own safety. (I also mod/own a discord server where I have to pretend I'm antirq for various reasons.) I've realized a few things about these spaces, and I'll try to list them.

Trigger Warning under the cut for Various Subjects that include yet are NOT LIMITED TO:

Violent Ideation

Dehumanizing Talk towards/about Radqueers or Radqueer Adjacent people

Encouragement of Self Harm & Suicide

Ableism, specifically towards those with BIID. (If you suffer with that and use transids due to it, or even if you don't use transids and have BIID, just know you are loved and valid.)

Vague RAMCOA mention. I don't go into like, explicit detail about any programming or whatever, but RAMCOA systems/TransRAMCOA folk are mentioned.

Transphobic rhetoric packaged to be anti TransID/Anti Radqueer.

First off: A lot of them ARE Radqueer or Radqueer Adjacent... or maybe even just Neu-TransID, and they just don't know it yet.

Example: “ I don't mind stuff like TransBlueEyes, but TransAbuser is too far. ” ← I Think This Is Radqueer Adjacent. Unsure.

Example Two: “ I just don't... feel like [insert one of their IDs here] but more like [other ID]. ” My gender neutral term for relative in hearts... there's a term for that. There is a community full of people like that.

Second: They have this super weird fantasy of interacting with radqueers as if they ever would find one. As well as being physically violent towards the hypothetical radqueer.

Like, no. It's NOT normal or even okay to say that you would beat the shit out of someone for being Radqueer. Are you okay? You need to check yourself, what the fuck.

You shouldn't be proud of bullying people for any reason. Maybe I'm too woke, but harassment is bad and does nothing productive. At all. For Any Reason.

Yes, I do still have my icks and things I do not want to be around. But I wouldn't really harass someone over it. Especially on the internet. Nobody's forcing you to look at the radqueer/transid tags, please fuck off.

Third: They do stalk these tags. A lot.

“ Ugh, radshits are making fake cults to replicate RAMCOA! I feel so mocked, even if my RAMCOA wasn't from a cult. ” - a (paraphrased) message I saw on an anti-rq server. (It's actually more neutral, but a bunch of antis are there.)

First: What wereYOU doing at the Devil's Sacrament. Stop browsing the TransID tags and you wouldn't know, stupid.

Second: Nobody is studying you. I can promise you nobody who's TransRAMCOA knows or even cares about you. We are not as obsessed with Anti-RQ folk as they think. They just say stupid shit and expect us not to joke about it.

Fourth: They're... extremely ableist. Like.. really fucking ableist. They don't even notice it. They're just spouting ableist bullshit. Especially towards people with BIID. They also seem extremely eager to encourage suicide.

An ACTUAL person I had the misfortune of having to play nice with: “ Well, if they (talking about both people with BIID and Transabled folk, not knowing that I'm Trisabled) felt that way, why don't they just disable themselves? ”

Or, alternatively: “ Transdead? Just fucking kill yourself! No need to make a label for that. "

I don't. I don't even know what to say to this, because I just didn't respond to them either. That's just wrong on so many levels. What the fuck.

Fifth: They treat us like lesser beings. As if "Radqueer" is some lesser species.

“ Well, this radqueer— ” That's a person. (Unless they don't want to be considered one.)

That is someone.

Sixth, and finally: The way they talk about TransID users, especially TransAbled and TransRacial folk is... well, I can't say I HAVEN'T seen these phrases before.

“ Transracial people don't understand the struggles I go through as a CisRacial person. It's not all fun and games. "

“ Transabled people existing mock my disability! "

“ They're taking away resources from ACTUALLY disabled people. "

Anyways, sorry for this huge post. I wanted to ramble.

[licorishh]

no way she's alive ?? yea those mental health breaks because social media makes people suck are wild huh

[cardentist]

I'm not blaming the op of the original post, or trying to imply anything about them as a person. and I don't want to single out this post in particular, because the issue is an broadly reaching trend rather than any one individual happening to write a post in five minutes one time.

but I really Really wish we'd stop and think if it's a good idea to say "girls turning into boys makes them inherently less interesting" on the transgender website

picking a privileged group to be the butt of a joke because it's lighthearted when nobody's actually getting hurt by doing so Only Works when everyone within that group is actually privileged. making jokes about how men are lesser than doesn't Actually affect the people who are actually within power, but Does chip away at the confidence and comfort of marginalized men who are In these communities to be exposed to it.

and the issue isn't about any one joke or poorly worded discussion in particular, but it's difficult to articulate why it can feel so alienating and unsafe to have things like this be so common within my communities without sounding ridiculous or risk being made fun of for not being able to take a joke. because the framing of implied privilege makes it easy to twist those feelings alienation into the entitlement that's assumed with men taking issue with being the butt Of a joke.

I simply think "this type of person is inherently lesser than" should be reexamined and thrown out as a talking point, even in a lighthearted context. because there will always be vulnerable people within those groups who already Hear that they are lesser than for existing

[trannyradfem]

lol this isn't a war, dude. This is literally just Tumblr, it's not going to hurt you. FFS if RFs are so dangerous how come I've been in the community for 6 years and I haven't detransitioned or killed myself yet?

I do care about other trans mascs considering I am one. And if I wanted to harm a tranny, I'd just harm myself, but I haven't felt the need to do that in over 8 years.

The transandrophobia tag is absolutely riddled with trans women shitting all over that very solidarity you want to preserve. Do you think trans women who go around calling trans mascs "theyfabs" give a shit about whether or not they hurt their target or any other trans masc onlookers? If anything, that's the intent. If criticism from radfems is fascism and hatred, then what is this petulant shit? Hitting us where they KNOW it hurts? That's somehow totally forgivable and excusable, but questioning why that happens isn't? Do me a favor and look at the "baeddel" tag, and tell me how much solidarity you find there.

You even admit that there's a TON of them, and you've never asked why, or called any of them TERFs, or asked why they'd risk tearing the trans community apart over it?

Seriously. Think about it. Atp y'all have already decided what a TERF is and how to wholly deplatform us on sight regardless of what it is we have to say, and you know what to expect from the worst of us by now. But you let other trans people treat you like this... for the sake of unity? Are the trans women who sling the word "theyfab" in an attempt to trigger dysphoria going to side with you when you need it?

Because I can tell you right now; if any law was passed that forced transmascs into the horror of the Handmaids Tale, every single Radfem would not rest until that horrific reality was nothing more than a past nightmare, and we got full autonomy over our bodies back. Sure, call it demeaning that our solidarity comes from the shared experience of birth sex, but at the end of the day? No matter how fucking awful you treat us, we still give a damn about your fundamental rights. THAT'S why I haven't offed myself or detransitioned. Because at the end of the day it's my body and my choice. Just because people criticize my choices from the outside on a purely surface level, it doesn't mean a damn thing if I'm still free to make those choices. And turns out, most RFs are actually really decent people if you stop punching before asking questions like a fucking cop! Seriously, just try talking to us. A normal conversation. You'll find that 90% of the shit you think we believe just straight up isn't true because you guys can't tell the difference between a trans hating conservative grifter and a hurt leftist woman who's tired of a lifetime of the bepenised having the last say on EVERYTHING.

Compare that to trans women trying to say trans mascs don't experience oppression at all and try to silence us. Is that them showing they give a damn about anyone's rights but their own? That's causing harm to a vulnerable minority. Why do they get forgiveness time and time again-- even the ones who joke about being literal nazis just a few years ago--, when most of you won't even hear out one of your brothers who was forced down this path by none other than yourselves with your own hatred? How exactly do you think I and so many other FTMs-- so many that you have to directly mention us-- even got here???

I got tired of being casually bullied and having my dysphoria triggered by transfems, by being casually sexually harassed and gaslit about it, and spoke up about it, and forgot to kiss ass because I'm autistic. That's it. No derogatory language, just a recap of what happened without apologizing for it. It escalated so badly that people came to my fucking HOUSE, people tried to fucking murder me by taking away government supplied disability supports. Is that trans justice? Trying to murder a disabled trans masc who just wanted to be heard, just like you? Yknow, the first time I was mass doxxed and harassed, it was back in 2015 because I dared to defend Sophie Labelle. The creator of Assigned Male. It fucking broke me when it happened not only again, but by the very people I trusted the most to take my concerns seriously and not stretch them into a fucked up narrative I wasn't remotely trying to make back then. All that did was prove that the "fucked up narrative" might've been right all along. You all did that. THAT'S why trans radfems exist. And the more you all target, harass, and excommunicate us, the more of us there will be. We don't just disappear when you guys do that, afterall. We continue existing, and we always will so long as this keeps happening.

This imaginary TERF war is tired and built on bigotry and lies. And the more you point the finger at us for the problems that aren't caused by us, the worse the community is going to get, and the more me's you're going to see. I'm begging and pleading y'all to stop being so reactionary for your own good, because it's not like I'm ever coming back. Posting this benefits me absolutely not at all, nor does it unique put me in danger. Not from radfems, anyways.

I beg you, think critically. Ask yourself these harmless questions, because you should be doing this anyways if you claim to be any level of intersectional; who does this benefit? Who does this harm?

uvb76fan is posting in this tag talking about all the ways trans men have it “worse”, while misrepresenting the statistic she is citing. most likely banking on no one looking closer or reading the links.

this person is a terf. if you search trans on her blog it is immediately clear, i am not using terf loosely she is literally actually a terf.

we cannot let our weariness at not being heard by some of our community push us into the sick and malformed arms of transmisogyny and radical feminism, these people do not care about us at all, they are trying to harm every single one of us. our solidarity with trans women, men and people as whole should cause us to slam hard on the breaks. no matter how many trans women you see being antitransmasculine it does not mean that there are not so many more who are our genuine allies, do not let the algorithm pushing hateful person after hateful person your way skew your understandings. the transphobes want dissent, they want us to tear each other apart. we do not need to contribute to the harm to have ours lessened. (causing harm to a vulnerable minority is never morally correct no matter what got you there in the first place. also straight up trans women are easy to love and are inherently deeply deserving of community solidarity, and fascism (which terfs are) should not have any appeal whatsoever no matter how hurt you are but i digress.)

on another note: we cannot and must not reactively take on the mentalities of trans rad fems, no gender in the trans community needs to be the most oppressed to be taken seriously and given respect in our community, the equality in our suffering is immense and must be acknowledged without each group needing to prove we are the most victimized to get the care and community support we need. this is harmful no matter who is doing it. we absolutely must nip this kind of thinking in the bud.

push back on terfs in this tag everywhere you can, and if there is a reason you cannot comment or reblog to shut them down, block them on sight.

[royalarchivist]

[A sad violin song plays over an image of a sad hamster]

Pac: This doesn't have anything to do with me – I wear a blue sweatshirt, you're crazy, this mouse doesn't even have a sweatshirt, this hamster! [Reading chat] Am I a depressed hamster?

[ Transcript continued ↓ ]*

–

Pac: Actually– that's fine! I embrace that idea – of course I'm going to be depressed, are you crazy? [He hits his desk, then starts counting off people on his fingers] Fit is gone, Richarlyson is gone, Ramon is gone, Bagi and Empanada who were always there when we were there are also gone, I haven't seen them! It's just me and Tubbo, and sometimes Philza shows up.

Pac: I lost Chume Labs, I lost the Favela, I lost Murder Mystery, I lost Ilha Chume Labs, it's crazy! Look at how much I've lost, and I've gained nothing! Of course I'm going to be depressed, are you crazy?! How am I supposed to be happy?!

Pac: [Reading chat] "You have us Pac," that's true, thank you. No, that's true, sorry.

* NOTE: Please note that this is an incomplete transcript, as I was primarily relying on Aypierre's translation mod at the time and if I am not confident of the translation, I do not include it. As always, please feel free to add on translations or message me corrections.

[cent-scratchnsniff]

here together

[pocketramblr]

I always found it slightly awkward how media makes siblings or people who see each other as siblings call each other brother/sister all the time as in real life you almost never see people do that with their own siblings (maybe someone out there like that)

In the case of Arkham Shadows I see why they did though because Bruce quite literally tells Harvey he loves him and Harvey says it back. Can't have the audience think Batman is in love with the DA.

They had Bruce pay for his college, pay for his campaign, pay for his surgery, pay for his therapy and had Harvey have him as his best man at his wedding. Wow..... Sugar baby Harvey is real.....

The calling sibling title thing is less common in English than in some other languages for sure- me and a couple of my siblings do it on occasion, but it's for a bit then. More common is when I call one of my close family friends "my sister" or "my nephew" when talking about them to someone else because it's faster and easier to say that than to say "my friend who I've known since she was born and lived with for a few years and consider a little sister" or "child of a close family friend who considers me an aunt" to someone who doesn't know them. Which is a lot of words to say that if they wanted to fully sell me on the brothers thing they should have either had a different bit or should have referred to the other as "my brother" when talking to an unrelated character instead.

But "oh no we have to make Bruce not look gay" has been a problem DC has struggled with more than once for many decades and it basically never works so I guess at least they didn't try to solve it this time by having Bruce pick a lady love over Harvey or cutting the holding hands thing

Because I saw that scrapbook! I know Harvey has been Bruce's sugar baby since he was ten years old! But we can't have Bruce take Harvey's hand and call him the love of his life because ok technically that's Gotham but also because gay. And we can't have Bruce take Harvey's hand and call him his best friend because they're not ten anymore and somehow that seems gay also. So brothers it is, I guess. Even if I think my brothers would bite my finger if I ever tried to pay for everything for them on that scale, guess it's different at billionaire levels

[neverendingford]

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[monimolimnion]

sometimes a yaoi man who is drawn in a way that looks more like a spider than a human being can be so personal

[angorwhosebabyisthis]

watching fandaniel go is wild because he is just [vestibular stims] [vestibular stims] [vestibular stims] [vestibular stims] and yeah man that's a mood

[puppytoast]

Me glancing at steam d@wntrail reviews

robert downy jr meme: They are missing the point that this is a slow journey before destination story about trying to sincerely learn about, communicate with and work with others because we all have differing perspectives and lives that could benefit one another. That we should not jump to judgements of people we only see the basic surface of because there is always a reason for people's actions. That everyone is worth saving, yeah even that one that did unforgivable shit.

[spacedkey]

the eternal struggle of reading webcomics/manga/manh(w/u)a that i think are really good but have cringe ass titles so i can't recommend them without someone doubting my sensibilities and taste in stories

[blackvahana]

i am really never going to understand why people post "shifting antis dni" in the astral projection tag. "here practice that constantly gets appropriated by us and used as a weird justification for a new set of beliefs that aren't really based in the same reality you work with, and that also gets completely misunderstood by our community because we don't care to understand what you do and just pretend we know it's what we do like christians saying other religions worship the christian god, have a post! Also dni if you don't like our practice that has nothing to do with the one whose tag we just shoved this into"

if you're not astral projecting don't put shit in the ap tag. if you don't even know the difference between AP and RS I dont think your opinion holds enough weight to counter the pushback against flooding a separate practice's tag with "if you dont like the practice I'm talking about in your tags dni"

[happyk44]

Nah but pjo Zeus can fall into a well and stay there. However true Zeus and my Zeus can vibe bc like one is a well respected god beloved by his people and the other is a boy pretending to be a man, surrounded by people but somehow utterly alone, ruled by fears and demands pushed onto him as an infant, and a growing sense of inadequacy and paranoia towards the new world he is trying to build, and I'm both stroking his hair and strangling him because you poor little baby but also bro you bitch

[phoenixisnthere]

‘Honestly people don’t realize-‘ ‘I never see people talk about-‘ ‘How come no one mentions-‘ ‘Pretty funny how people seem to have forgotten-‘

EVERYTHING IS HAPPENING EVERYWHERE ALL THE TIME! FUCK YOU FOR ASSUMING EVERYONE KNOWS WHAT YOU KNOW AND ARE JUST IGNORING IT! FUCK YOU FOR ASSUMING EVERYONE HAS THE CLARITY AND STRENGTH TO TALK ABOUT EVERY IMPORTANT TRAGEDY HAPPENING RIGHT THIS GODDAMN SECOND AND YESTERDAY AND TOMORROW AND AND AND!

[itzphynix]

I have a wild, new, & bold suggestion for a tumblr feature:

When a tag is recommended or trending. & It previews some posts IN that tag, (showing you thumbnails of art, for instance,) then maybe.

Clicking on that post. Should show you that fucking post.