4.] Why Don't We Understand?
Let me show you let me give you an example how
life-changing this should be. In our situation, we
live in the middle of New York — which is at the
heart of modern western secular culture.
Some years ago, a man, a Canadian Philosopher
Charles Taylor wrote a magisterial book called:
The Sources of the Self
I don't recommend it at all, it's really a tremendous
book; it's a nice big thick book. A philosopher wrote
to philosophers, and so it is not an easy book to get
through.
But it's a magisterial account of how modern
western society's understanding of self and
identity is so different than every other
culture & every other century.
You see even today in non-western cultures & in
previous centuries how did you find your identity
• How did you find out who you were?
Your parents told you and your people told you and
they said this is who you are, this is who you should
try to be.
And if you aspire to that & if you fulfilled that then
everyone said you're a good person & you had self
-esteem.
In other words, every other culture your family &
your people said here's who you are & then when
you lived up to that then they affirmed you & you
felt you had self-esteem & self-worth as a person
But Charles Taylor says we are the first culture in
which “No, we say you decide who you want to be
—you determine who you want to be. You do not
let anybody else tell you.”
But once you go deep in your heart & you figure
out who you are, then you come out. Now Charles
Taylor says, “We so desperately need affirmation
from everybody, I mean we've come up with this
identity all by ourselves & now suddenly we go
out into the world & we demand recognition!
We need recognition, we
demand constant affirmation.”
He says we have the most fragile identities in the
history of the world because we need everybody
pretty much to affirm them.
We cannot take it if people dislike us, or disagree
with us or don't affirm us. We can't take it we are
the most fragile identities in the world.
4.1] Downfall of Social Sciences
Now somebody who has been writing about this
recently is a guy named Freddie DeBoer, I think
he's on the staff of Brooklyn College.
He lives in Brooklyn & he's a good writer and he
writes a column & he writes a blog & recently he
wrote a great article about this very thing about
the fragility of modern identity
that Charles Taylor writes about & he wrote this
in an article called “You Can't Fake It.”
So the article starts like this:
I have been increasingly preoccupied by a
basic question recently why is everybody
such a wreck?
And now listen he goes through a list he says first
we have this vast intellectual architecture telling
us that physical attractiveness & hierarchies are
cruel & gendered & unfair.
…………………………………………………………………
And this is correct but we still care so much about
being hot—and we judge each other about it & all
of our papers & humanity seminars are entirely
inadequate to ending that condition.
…………………………………………………………………
Secondly we have a political critique of all the ways
in which “notions of human worth” are dictated by
our traditional inequalities of race & sex & class.
We have a whole set of political concepts of self-
care designed to fight all those negative effects,
we have a self-help culture that constantly tells
us you are wonderful, brilliant unique light; and
you alone can shine the way in a dark world.
We have very woke.
He said we have a woke world of marketing.
All the marketing is always affirming you,
affirming you. He says he has a gym nearby
where he lives in Brooklyn & the gym's ad
says join the body acceptance movement.
He points out if you actually did join the
body acceptance movement there'd be
no reason to join a gym.
But he says,
“See everything is there to help you
feel good about yourself, & then he
says we've also got social media tools
to craft a perfect idealized vision of
ourselves curated to the millimeter
that we can present to the world..
exactly the kind of self that we want
to present.
Then he says & none of this is working, none of it
works, and this is what he sees around Brooklyn:
I see people who are the most outwardly
secure and confident they never betray a
hint of doubt or guilt or remorse.
They project cool at all times, they are
popular; they're getting plaudits and
positive affirmation all the time. They
are academically and professionally
successful, they have money & respect
And yet the flow of life reveals that
inside they hate themselves, they all
hate themselves.
None of that stuff matters, none of it
gets at the core self-hatred within & I
am beginning to wonder is this the
human condition?
4.2] Heart of Flesh Thru JESUS CHRIST
See Charles Taylor would say yeah, but modern
culture aggravates it. And here's what the Bible
would say yes.
But what Freddie DeBoer calls self-hatred:
Why is it with all this stuff we're doing
all these ways of making ourselves feel
good about ourselves that we are just
screaming affirmation & recognition so
deep down: Why it's not working at all?
The Bible would say that we're not OK is a universal
sense that we all know deep down inside that we're
sinners—so this thing that he's describing is
like a rock on everybody's heart; it's a rock
on your heart & you know what the social
media & you know what the self-help &
the therapy & the self-esteem..
You know what all these things are?
…………………………………………………………………
Water pistols trying to deal with that rock
but this in JESUS CHRIST, the FATHER loves
you even as HE loves JESUS!
…………………………………………………………………
Even as!
4.3] No Longer Trying to Self-Soothe
That is not a water pistol! That will blast that rock
off of your heart—that will explode the rock off
your heart if you believed it.
• Do you believe it?
• Do you realize it?
That's what the Lloyd-Jones says:
All of your problems come from the fact that you
don't really believe it. It's not really there & it is
not a reality to you.
So this is the thing you most need.
You need to believe the Gospel, not just believe
the Gospel—but believe the Gospel!
Beholding the Glory of CHRIST P1,2,3,4,5,6 | Timothy J. Keller [John 17:20-26]
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charles & edwin don’t remember what they look like because they don’t show up in mirrors so they describe how the other looks & ga(y)ze into each others eyes is SUCH a good trope, self recognition through the other, beauty in the eye of the beholder, so long as I exist you will always be loved & your memory will never fade
AND. consider, perhaps. charles Cannot Stand the thought of his bestie walking around not knowing how cute he looks so he ropes the gang into drawing each other. nikos are Very BL manga stylized, flowers blooming behind them, sparkles, hearts, big eyes, etc. (edwin is very flattered. thinks she’s The Cats Pyjamas.) crystals are these realistic charcoal portraits that everyone’s amazed by (rich artist parents). edwin & charles spend sooo much time on theirs. neither of them can draw. charles drawing has a bunch of smiley faces & says —> my best mate! :) next to it. edwin does NOT tear up about it SHUT UP CRYSTAL. edwin frames all the drawings & hangs them in the office.
it’s a nice reminder for edwin, who tried his hardest to be invisible while he was alive, and charles whose friends liked happy, funny, easygoing charles but didn’t see him, that someone remembers & loves them just as they are.
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