#biphobia and transphobia mention

[disventurecamptakes]

something about james being labeled as pansexual instead of bi rubs me the wrong way. probably the fact that a lot of people define bisexuality as "attracted to (implicitly binary and cis) men and women" when that's not what it is and him being in a relationship with the only trans character makes it seem like it others aiden instead of just treating him like a guy

.

[whyrubuyingclothesatthesoupstore]

"pansexual is such a terfy term" "bisexuals are trans-exclusive" actually the pansexuals and bisexuals are all making out crazy style rn. And good god so many of them are nonbinary and t4t.

[theautotrophic]

Show biz producer Vox who knew that he was queer when he was alive and frequented underground gay bars and fucking hated the Hays Code but would probably sell out any other queer person for one(1) singular corn chip if it meant furthering his career because "That's just show biz baby ;)"

Vox who hid his identity as a trans man and went through his life passing as a cis man and who told himself that it was just to have a chance at a better career but who always knew that he was really lying to himself

Vox who still had so much internalized biphobia and transphobia after he died, who thought he had to "pick a side" and that if he liked men he must be faking his attraction to women and who hated the fact that he liked men because he felt like it made him less of a man and who was still heavily repressed

Demiromantic aspec Vox with internalized aphobia because he thought that not wanting to fuck everything that moved made him less of a man

Vox who met Alastor and formed such an intimate connection with him and who finally let himself truly fall for a man without shame or guilt and then it turned out horribly (whether or not if their fall out had anything to do with Vox's feelings or if they ever actually got together)

Vox who, for as much of a show as he puts on, hates himself hates himself hates himself

[moesartblog]

.

[knifeslidez]

yall will say "oh biphobia's not really an issue! besides, its not even prevalent in the community!"

and then the comments of a lighthearted post will look like this

[cartoonlover87-2]

!!!Welcome to the ZeroGrounds Resistance!!!

Salutations Tumblr!!! My name is CartoonLover and I run this blog! Enjoy this long overdue introduction post!! About me: I have Autism and ADHD, and I tend to have a lot of stories, fan AUs, OCs, and kins. I don't mind Doubles at all! Interests: FNF, FNAF, Batim, Hypno's Lullaby and Pokepasta, art, drawing, Roleplay, video games Kins and Blorbos: Julian (FNF and RC9GN), Lost Silver/Blake(Mt. Silver), K_K/Cakes (Deltarune), Sayori(DDLC), Edward (Pucca), Dante (Monkart) Chaos Sonic(Sonic Prime), Pop Fizz (Skylanders), Eclipse (Fnaf Ruin), Moriarty (Sherlock Gnomes), Rewrite.EXE, Captain Powerman (Miniforce: Super Dino Power), Lime Demon (FNF B-Sides Redux) BYF: I may not be active a lot, and most of the posts on my blog are reblogs. DNI: Basic DNI Criteria, Pr0sh1p, P3d0, biphobic, transphobic, xenophobic, zionist, ableist, "Fiction doesn't affect Reality", just a (genuinely) cruel and problematic person in general.

[skyler10fic]

Queerness is not a competition; it's a community

It's not a competition, y'all.

This week I have seen (mostly allo cis) people saying that ace and aro perspectives don't matter or can't be talked about or aren't important because "trans people are dying." And then other people say trans people are distracting from the true issues/purpose of the gay/lesbian movement centered on romance and sex. And then that bi/pan people are just fence-riding and need to either be "in or out" of queerness by refusing to date in het-passing relationships. Then others say nonbinary is a phase. And on and on it goes.

Stop it.

Aphobia isn't excusable just because trans people have it worse. You know like a third of the ace and aro communities are trans, right?

You know trans people are why we have rights to begin with because they were on the front lines from the start?

You know queerness isn't just about expanding amatonormativity to gay romance and sex, right?

You know queerness is all about rejecting binaries and living outside of society's boxes, right?

You know it's the normativity that is the enemy, not het people and het-passing relationships, right?

Collective liberation. We're never going to get free by fighting each other or dismissing one part of us as unimportant.

[segasister]

Pansexuality is an inherently biphobic label. Pan people think bi people are only attracted to two genders and they're the only people capable of being attracted to NB people, which erases lived bi experiences and history. Pan people have enbyphobia and biphobia baked into their identity, you can't be a safe space for both those assholes and bi people, because by siding with pan people you're invalidating bi people by default.

I literally have never met a single pan person, either personally or in passing, who thinks this way. In fact, the only place I’ve seen this harmful mindset is in fucking Big Mouth of all shows. Honestly, this mindset you yourself are presenting reads as queerphobic in and of itself. It’s like saying that asexual people are homophobic just for being ace, or binary transgender people are enbyphobic just for falling into the binary gender spectrum. (Hell, I myself faced this while I identified as pan.)

I’m not one to debate a person’s own labels, so if they choose to use it, then I won’t argue. However, if they do have those views, then their label isn’t at fault. Just like you, I don’t doubt, have had an experience just like you’ve described, perhaps they have met a single bi person who was transphobic or enbyphobic, and that’s also not okay.

What I’m saying is that attacking each other isn’t the answer. That’s just what TERFs want, what the LGB Alliance wants, what any exclusionist wants. They want us to be divided and fight with each other so we’re too distracted to notice actual harm being done. The generalization of people identifying with a label isn’t the problem; the queerphobia is.

[reign-life]

People looking at my blog are getting too comfy. So here's two fun facts

1. Anti mspec-lesbian rhetoric mimics both gold star lesbian rhetoric and transphobic rhetoric

2. Bisexual(I don't think the other mspec terms existed and/or were as common at the time) sapphics used to be considered lesbians as well. Until the political lesbianism/feminist/lesbian separatism. The people behind these movements were generally biphobic and transphobic(and these types of people didn't like butches either)

[choices-binglebonkus]

The backlash Ava got really made me open my eyes that there really are homophobes in the fandom, like we have to deal with forced male LIs and the one time there is an alleged forced female LI?? You’d think PB k*lled someone! But tbh, this is the case for every story app and idk why. I heard of people being transphobic over in the rc fandom recently

People were quite literally comparing MC having a crush on Ava and kissing her to r*pe. That is how dramatic and whiny the bigots are in this fandom. The bigotry in the fandom is batshit insane.

And I’m not active in the RC fandom but that unfortunately does not surprise me at all.

Why can’t people just stop being assholes?

[just-positivity-stuff]

[jamiebluewind]

To my father,

I remember when I was younger, you told me that it didn't matter if I dated a man or woman, black or white (or purple?), as long as I was happy. I was sitting on the sectional couch at our old house. I didn't know I was bi yet. I didn't know I was genderfluid yet. But you saying that made me cry and feel so safe.

What changed?

You were my protector. My safe place. My only parental figure left after my mother left and mamaw died. And yet... as I grew older, the insults started. The controlling and gaslighting. The racism and sexism and transphobia and all the other bigotries just lumped together. It hurt so much. It made me wonder if the kind man that used to brush my hair was all an act. It made me wonder if I had done something to cause you to change.

You reacted badly to me telling you I was bi. You forbid any mention of it, even if you were going on a rant about LGBTQ. And I did it. I sat there and let you tear me down. I don't think it ever even mattered to you that I was single for most of my life or that I've never dated a woman (only dated that one guy for a bit).

It got so bad that I had to move away for my mental health, but I still loved you and wanted you in my life. What was it about me telling my older sister that I was bi that made you quit loving me? That made you call me to disown me, hurl insults worse than any before, and tell me I had to stay away from "your" family?

It hurt.

It still hurts.

I know I'm probably better off without you, but I miss the man I used to look up to. The one that told me he would always love me as long as I was happy. And that's what I am now. I've never been more happy in my life than I've been the last four or five years. I've got a support system and all these amazing friends and family of friends, better doctors, and a therapist that genuinely cares. I'm not in the closet anymore. I have my own place with my best friend/roommate and we each have a cat of our own to spoil.

I am happy now. I want to live now. But I still mourn you. Not who you became, but the dad that loved me once upon a time that I'll never see again.

So since I can't tell you that, I'll write a letter that you'll never see and watch it drift away like a message in a bottle. I wish you could have gotten to know me when I was happy.

Sincerely, the daughter you threw away

[cherrygingham]

hi! you can call me cherry! or anything else, but i do prefer praise to degradation

DNI minors, ageless, terfs, racists

i’m bisexual, so please know all mentions of cock/dick are strap-inclusive ♡

27 • sagittarius • 5’4” • she/her

dms and asks are open! put a little effort in! talk to me like i’m a person. despite my posts, i do still need to be in the mood to play. consent is key.

i also work full time (regretfully) so be patient, i can’t always respond right away

feel free to spam like & reblog! i think it’s cute 🤭

tags on pinned post for easy navigation

toys & kinks & limits beneath the cut ♡

if you think i deserve a tip:

cashapp $cherrygingham

if you want to add to my toybox:

https://www.lovense.com/wish-list/osjz

message me for my lush control link 💕

ooh’s:

• slapping / spanking

• cnc / free use / somnophilia

• breeding

• ownership / possession

• dollification / objectification

• bimbofication / dumbification

• consenually imposed gender roles in kink

• degrading praise

• mommy / daddy

ehh’s:

• puppy play

i don’t mind if you’re a puppy, but i’m not a puppy

don’t mind being kept like an adored pet, though, i’d rather be a kitten curled up on your lap or maybe a bunny being hunted down in the woods

• age regression

absolutely happy to call you mommy or daddy but do not treat me like a child (little girl as degradation not as age play is on thin ice)

• scat, vomit

• weight control

• closed fist / punching

• homophobia / biphobia

• transphobia

• racism

• while a bit of misogyny in a scene is hot, i do NOT condone it outside of kink. like pretty much everything else 💕

[spade-riddles]

6 & 175.

6: So today…we saw new TTPD content for sale at 6pm. Available for 6 hours (until midnight). Selling for $6.

When the masters heist happened, she had recorded 6 albums.

In the TIME interview, she compared re-releasing her albums as “collecting horcruxes” and “collecting infinity stones.”

There are 6 infinity stones. There are 6 horcruxes…7 when you include the one hidden inside Harry Potter, himself. The last 2 horcruxes to be destroyed were the snake and then Harry. A snake (reputation) and himself/his name (Debut).

175: During one of the Tokyo shows, she made the comment about “175 days”. This could also be read as 5-17, May 17. This would be 2 (✌🏼) fortnights since TTPD release.

May 17 is International Day Against Homophobia, Transphobia and Biphobia - aka the day WHO declassified homosexuality as a mental disorder in 1990.

May 17 is also National Pizza Party Day. We all remember the giant pizza picture on her mood board with Stephen Colbert back in 2021.

Slightly stretching: the Bejeweled mv, she takes the castle at 5:17 🤪

I don’t think I’m convinced she’s coming out, but I do think something will get released that will continue to push people to explore that it might be possible.

Interesting, because we have had other mentions of May 17:

[trans-androgyne]

“I’m seeing this held up to say this is reflective of transmasc privilege” yeah, because you guys don’t have to deal with the transmisogyny that we do. that makes you privileged. “privileged” doesn’t mean “not oppressed by transphobia”, it means “not oppressed by transmisogyny”. and by the way, you mentioning that transmisogyny exists doesn’t mean shit when you are ALWAYS following it up with “but—“ and an explanation of how transmisogyny isn’t actually that bad or unique. you clearly don’t even actually believe that transmisogyny exists if you think that conversations about it are meant to insult transmascs somehow and undermine your issues.

Again, I have never acted like transmisogyny isn’t awful or unique. Transmisogyny is its own beast of a system and is so horrifying that even thinking about it too hard has brought me to tears multiple times, you can ask my trans girlfriend. It is also however not worse than other types of oppression, because oppression cannot be quantified and compared that way. Are lesbians privileged above bisexuals since they don’t typically deal with biphobia? Or are bisexuals privileged over lesbians because they don’t typically experience lesbophobia? I ask you this because: are you privileged above me because you don’t typically experience transandrophobia? No. You’re not. The privilege is being cis. The privilege is being straight. I do not have an ounce of gendered privilege over you and neither do you over me. If you think otherwise, you haven’t been listening to us.

[olderthannetfic]

https://www.tumblr.com/olderthannetfic/752012756722614272/some-people-seem-to-have-something-against?source=share

I think a lot of people justify to themselves because there are gay people who have histories of dating the opposite gender before coming out, and there can be a weird reductive attitude fandom can take that anyone who has had relationship with people of multiple genders who doesn't meet a minimum level of "trauma" cannot be anything other than bi. Something that I can't stand as a gay person who fits that bill (had relationships with men before coming out as a lesbian, wasn't traumatized by them but just realized I wasn't into them in the way I was with women). But like, again, as that type of gay person, I think that's a ridic response by those other people in their fandom to what anon is talking about because:

there's a big difference between doing that with CANONICALLY bisexual characters - and let's not pretend that writers having characters casually talk about exes of the opposite gender from their current love interest the way people usually talk about their exes (NOT indicating some change of identity with it) isn't in fact signalling that - and doing it with a straight/unmarked-but-clearly-we-want-you-to-assume-they're-straight-by-default character. The latter I think are fair game for queer fandom to read however, and that's where I get irritated when well-reasoned meta for gay headcanons from people who clearly aren't uncomfortable with bi headcanons for other characters they like (and are often bi themselves) gets conflated with biphobia. But with the former.... idk, the idea of taking away representation from another marginalized group just really does not sit right with me, and I'm going to be more inclined to read that in a negative way and wonder WHY they're inclined to make that argument

Let's not pretend there isn't a whole lot of biphobia in the gay and lesbian communities and that a lot of justifications that people come up with are not in fact designed as a smokescreen for that. Like if they keep making this same excuse for EVERY character I'm really going to at some point suspect it's biphobia. I've seen people I gave the benefit of the doubt to the first time but it was the same arguments for EVERY character where that was ANY possible reading and like after a certain point you've just gotta wonder!

I also just think it's worth asking what a specific label or another gets you in these cases. There are some different experiences that gay vs. bi people have but it's not worlds apart in the way that some people talk about it, and I'm not sure why in the vast majority of shipping and romantic fanfics you necessarily need to establish that someone is JUST gay and has NO interest in the opposite gender, as opposed to just interested in this particular person (and the rest of their attraction just isn't mentioned because it's not relevant). I feel like so much of this shit in fandom these days from people who do the sort of thing this anon was talking about other people doing are from these young lesbians who are very online and buy into terf-adjacent shit about lesbian culture and experience being this super special separate thing from bi woman culture and like, girls, it's not true. If you go into any real life "lesbian" space you'll meet a ton of bi women too and that's how it should be! Because it's just a "women attracted to women" space and we have that in common. The idea that they're two separate non-overlapping communities is so online and is rooted in biphobia (and often other shitty bigotries like transphobia)

--