#both unproblematic

[liones-s]

idk what to tell you man, both me and my attic painting look great. Yeah no I’m just really unproblematic dude

[agrebel18]

I ADORE qpr Huntlow, and I’m happy on how many people are choosing to see them that way, ESPECIALLY since I recently discovered that I am on the aro and ace spectrum, but I ALSO REALLY LIKE THEM ROMANTICALLY because they kinda match the “girlboss x malewife” dynamic AND they’re QUITE DIFFERENT from some of the m/f ships I’ve seen IN A WHILE (and they’re probably both queer, or at least one of them is, let’s face it) and I haven’t seen enough of plus sized girls like Willow getting desired and found attractive like Hunter does (the fan fave white boy!!) plus I LOVE FRIENDS TO LOVERS. anyways, just feeling positive right now, and they’re just so neat to me. if you hate them DNI!!! 

[merakiui]

EEEE EBB AND FLOW WAS SO GOOD!! Mera I'd been hoping you'd write a Floyd-centered fic soon and now you have AAAA!! 🥹🥹 I'm so very grateful I've been fed so well muah muah muah🫡🙇the tropes in the fic are so good too, I'd definitely been craving a step-sibling fic with the twins because of the number of times it's been mentioned on your blog...I am feeling so metaphorically quenched rn.

bit random but one of the things I do when I'm high is read your blog(that one Trey fic you wrote was... an experience to read through high), so the part where they took edibles was really amusing to me. I should definitely re-read the fic when I'm high myself💥💥

WAAA THANK YOU!!!! (つ≧▽≦)つ♡ I'm happy it's an enjoyable fic! I realized I have more Azul and Jade fics than I do Floyd fics, so I wanted to change that!!! Also,,, I've been wanting to write a stepcest fic for Floyb recently (Jade is part of the twin package, so his existence as another love interest is inevitable hehe). May you be forever quenched with this fic!!!! ✨✨✨✨✨

Omg reading "everything is going to be okay" while high........ what an experience that must be. I should find something surreal to read the next time I'm high. :D aaaaa but I had fun writing the part where they take edibles. Jade being so giggly when he's high,,,, Floyd being even more hyperaware than usual (although his massive crush on you probably also helps in how he looks at you)....... sandwiched between the both of them while they cuddle and kiss you!!!! Wasting the hours away chatting and listening to slow music. What a wonderful vibe. <3

[scintillyyy]

anyway for funsies, i did fill out the assessing your parent's emotional immaturity questionnaire for jack & janet (& dana!) because again, i don't feel they were. quite as bad as they're oft accused of. (also. i'm on the side that at least they were probably more emotionally mature than bruce lmao lmao)

(as always this is subjective and based on my intepretation of them)

-My parent often overreacted to relatively minor things

so to start, we have no proof of this for janet (& she doesn't get mad at Tim showing up randomly at a dig site in batman #134. she does get pissy with jack during rite of passage but that's also probably reactionary to jack being jack & being dismissive of her which he shows more than once in the interaction we do see, so no it is. jack is. arguably a yes here bc he does have a tendency to do nothing or take the nuclear option. dana's a pretty solid no)

-My parent didn't express much empathy or emotional awareness

we're going to go no for janet & dana (they both show empathy & emotional concern/awareness for how tim might be feeling in the interactions we see). jack is. hm. *arguably* a no. i think there's a definite argument for yes for him, but jack is generally shown as *aware* and concerned when his son is going through something & often worried about his son. the problem is he never learns from his moment fo clarity, not that they don't exist imo.

-when it came to emotional closeness & feelings, my parents seemed uncomfortable and didn't go there

definite no for janet & dana. very strong leaning towards "no" for jack. whenever there's a conflict they do end up skirting around the real issue between them (tim is robin), but every conflict is often followed up by an affirmation that jack loves his son & is proud of him (see: after tim runs away, the christmas dinner they have during the NML event, jack's dying words) so he might not say it often, but i don't get the impression he's super *uncomfortable* going there, it's just that he only sees the need to go there when there's a Good Reason.

-my parent was often irritated by individual differences or different points of view

gonna go with a hard no for all three of them. janet seems only supportive of tim's interests. dana too. jack is. well. for some reason people seem to picture him as a fire and brimstone evangelical conservative when the fact of the matter is that he's a financial conservative who just doesn't care enough about social issues over his financial concerns (lower taxes). he'll gladly donate to save the rainforest fundraisers because that seems like a good thing. he doesn't particularly care that tim is into computers and he's not? he's vaguely supportive of that & it doesn't seem to bother him tim is a nerd (don't @ me about him misunderstanding tim and taking him to sports games. i assure you. tim ALSO likes sports quite a bit). honestly if tim came home and declared himself a liberal, jack doesn't seem the type to get upset about it (because he would just chalk it up to tim being young--it would probably amuse him more than anything--"i was dumb in my youth too, son haha" sort of deal.). he has friendlyish banter with his wife about how boys are vs. girls are (they have different opinions on that) & takes her poking at his sexism in stride at the circus.

-when i was growing up, my parent used me as a confidant but wasn't a confident for me

hard no all three. we never see janet do this & tim feels comfortable confiding everything in her in batman 134. dana definitely doesn't. jack also doesn't use tim as a confidant *and* we see him explicitly be a confidant for tim least once (when tim is dealing with the gun at school, he decides it is a tim drake problem and goes to his dad for help *because* it is a tim drake problem. robin can't confide in jack, but tim can bring up school issues with his dad and expect he'll be listened to)

-my parent often said & did things without thinking about other people's feelings

debatable one. jack is arguably yes, as he has a tendency to think and make decisions without really considering tim's view. dana no. janet. ehhhh. we don't really have enough evidence to say either way. i lean towards no, because we see her have more concern about tim possibly feeling nervous at the circus && the very empathetic consideration of the drakes to dick in choosing to send him the final photo of his parents so they probably did think about other people with careful consideration & tim says they're the ones who taught him to care about people. however, janet was also complicit in sending tim to boarding school without thinking of whether he was happy (though jack implies janet wouldn't want him to be far apart from tim) & they didn't necessarily notice tim's ruminating on the death they witnessed (altough remember: they *also* have their own personal trauma surrounding this) so. they did do some things without considering their son first.

-i didn't get much attention or sympathy from my parent, except maybe when i was sick

ooooh hard controversial here & could go either way for all three of them! so, obviously the jack & janet going away for long periods of time definitely leans to yes for them as them not being there means tim didn't have their attention. however! hugely complicated by the fact that the times they were home they genuinely wanted to spend time with their son--taking him with them to the opera & art galleries & monstery truck shows, calling to talk to him whenever they arrived back and he was still in school, & they care about his grades and general wellbeing & think of him while they're gone. & jack often is shown care about tim outside of the big events whenever he's home. dana is also arguably yes--she does some nice things like remember tim's birthday & teach him how to make soup when asked but the far larger part of her character is that she's jack's girlfriend/wife & is very clearly *not* tim's mom--she & him both draw the line of she's his stepmom, not his parent--and so she also doesn't pay enough attention to tim & also doesn't think it's her job to intervene in parenting tim affairs to actually notice anything that's going on with him. as much as she likes tim, she is also perfectly happy to go on trips with jack & leave tim behind for holidays, & get engaged without talking to tim first, start secretly dating jack without talking to tim first, ignore jack's treatment of his son so she doean't really notice how hurt tim gets by him.

-my parent was inconsistent--sometimes wise, sometimes unreasonable

okay. hard yes for jack. 100% him in a nutshell. no for dana. we truly don't have enough evidence either way for janet, but leaning towards no as she's never shown to be unreasonable with tim.

-if i became upset, my parent either said something superficial and unhelpful or got angry and sarcastic

debatable yes for jack on the angry part, but i'm personally leaning towards no, actually. like jack gets angry with tim's perceived disprespect (ie/ the TV incident). but when tim gets mad at him, really mad at him, or is genuinely upset about something jack does at least attempt to be understanding and comforting. like, he was super afraid tim would be upset about dana & didn't try to diminish his feelings at all about that or expect he'd be okay with it or get mad if he wasn't (i mean. tim was fine with it. but.). surprisingly, a fairly solid yea from dana here because while i like her she's queen of the superficial and generally unhelpful kindness that doesn't usually actually fix things, just tries to smooth ruffled feathers. the easy way out. janet, we can guess a fairly solid no given she thinks about tim being upset first & getting him out of that upsetting scene asap above all else at the circus.

-conversations generally centered around my parent's interests

fairly solid no all around. we know that janet listened attentively to tim's story in batman 134. jack does sometimes prefer to talk about his intetest but he also does try to understand and talk to tim about computers & school so, you can't say that in general he only talks about what he cares about. he just sometimes talks about what he likes. like all people do. did you know that just as parents should listen to their kids about their interests, kids should do the same for their parents. it's the basic two way street of relationships. and a no for dana. she likes when tim talks to her about anything.

-even polite disagreement could make my parents very defensive

no for janet & dana. we have nothing to indicate that was the case with either of them. debatably yes for jack, he does tend to go on the defensive when tim is accusing him of bad parenting but he also almost always realizes he's in the wrong and ends up agreeing with tim (he just. never learns and grow. but he does have the capability of recognizing he's wrong sometimes and trying to make amends). also there's nothing that imo indicates he would upset at a polite disagreement (since his and tim's disagreements tend to get very heated on both sides). like if tim were like "i don't want to go here for dinner, i'd rather go here" he doesn't seem like he'd get all "oh, so my dinner choices aren't good enough i guess", he'd probably be normal about it. he's shown disagreeing with dana (& janet at the circus) & he's fairly normal about those times.

-it was deflating to tell my parents about my successes because it didn't seem to matter

super hard no, all three. they're all extremely proud of tim when he chooses to do the right thing. jack brags about tim to randos at bars. they're clearly the type to be very exuberant & effusive over tim doing well at something (i hate to even bring n52 jack & janet in here but they were very proud of his gymnastics achievements there.). think of how happy jack was when tim lied and said he joined footballm tim's successes matter to them.

-facts and logic were no match for my parent's opinions

leaning towards no, all three. dana and janet we don't know for sure, but there's nothing to indicate this was the case with either. jack. jack does have strong opinions but tim was also able to very easily convince him to move back to gotham during NML after tim ran away. dana is able to change his mind quite easily by talking to him. he's definitely my way or the highway but not near as unchangeable as people like to imagine.

-my parent wasn't self reflective and rarely looked at his or her own role in a problem

once again, no all three. janet and dana we have no proof of this (actually when janet was kidnapped she did seem to reflect on everything, so). jack. hm. this is definitely a more debatable no, but the problem with jack is that he's not allowed to grow in the narrative so he can keep conflicting with tim. but whenever they have a conflict he's constantly questioning his own role in it (tim runs away, finding out tim is robin). however war games + identity crisis show that he was finally able to mature enough to accept he was part of the problem so even if he did have some immaturity around this, this was on it's way to getting better. then he died. so we never got the chance to see if it would stick.

-my parent tended to be a black & white thinker, and unreceptive to new ideas

definitely a no for janet, per batman 134. also a no for dana, she tends to be a little more flexible. and even a no for jack? homeboy was rooting for the side of child heroes during sins of youth. he probably likes status quo as much as the next person, so i don't think he's near as inflexible as one would think.

so idk. like, do they all demonstrate some emotional immaturity? yea. a bit. jack's the highest for sure. he's definitely got at least a couple of these, maybe even as high as 5 or 6, depending on how shitty you interpret jack to be. also consider we only ever really see him after he's been through several highly traumatic events (which does not excuse by any means, but can help explain). dana & janet both demonstrate a couple each, but aren't necessarily huge offenders on the emotional immaturity checklist.

which. i guess with doing this it's like. i don't think their parenting needs to be pathologized or anything truly. they were just. not great parents at time. & i'm not diminishing the harm of the neglect on tim, i like talking about that too. but sometimes it seems that people want to diagnose them with like "oh, they didn't really want tim/kids after all, they hated responsibility, they were too immature, they didn't see him as a person, they couldn't handle parenting, they had these issues that meant they sucked, etc"

when realistically. they just probably made some tough choices trying to consider what would be better for their son (stability and good education of boarding school vs. traipsing all over the world with them while they fought constantly), which did end up giving him some trauma *despite* what was probably their best intentions. they can be doing their best & still cause hurt. they were probably very unprepared for the *entire family* to witness an incredibly traumatic event & the long-term issues that would cause for all of them. nobody wants their marriage to start failing & that adds another issue to try to manage within the family. parenting wasn't a skill they naturally excelled at. it doesn't need to be some huge thing. they're just humans. and they make mistakes. they don't act in ideal ways.

[cosmik-homo]

People like doing this thing with oldtimey doctor who companions- both ones written as historical and those who were Contemporary To Their Time But Historical To Us- with much more modern attitudes on various things and i absolutely exactly get why and also often do that but also it can sometimes undermine a fun aspect of having them, yknow, adjust and react to cultures and things in their travels, which, yknow, is what they're for. but also it undermines the fun of having them completely not culturally know or get anything about a subject but rapidly become enthusiastically supportive! remember when Leela had only known about the existence of capitalism for two days and was immediately down to smash it, repeatedly, so much so that in her 1.5 seasons run she participated in like 3 revolutions. It's such a venue for characterization too.

Do Ian and Barbara *get* neopronouns at first? no but they're openminded and educated people, and a combination of Listening And Learning with getting thoughtful about history and linguistics, they're now almost obnoxiously supportive allies and work hard on keeping gender neutral language in the classroom after they get home. Jo literally becomes an enviromentalist hippie activist slowly during her seasons but she also picks up the doctor's antimilitarism- don't forget she wanted to be a unit agent.

It's like the #transrights of the brigadier looking at the regenerations of the doctor in the same place and going "well as long as he assists unit he can wear whatever face he wants."

of course we want to write stuff we love as being openly inclusive to us and we should! it's great! but considering how characters are affected by the ideas of their time as an act of explicit characterization, as fitting their distinct personalities and thinking styles, can enhance that, not detract from it. Do Ben and Polly get even a quarter of the doctor's microlabels of course not. and sometimes it can cause conflict! but also you dont have to understand autism- OR REGENERATION, again, i'm using these two cuz power of the daleks is so so literally about this- to be a good friend.

[twoletterladies]

"Soda? How come you dropped outta school?"

"'Cause I'm dumb."

There are a lot of feels-murdering moments in The Outsiders, but this exchange just hurts my heart, man :(

[tragedy-peanut-gallery]

Lyarra and Lyanna Stark are Demeter/Persephonecore to me, no I will not elaborate [will totally elaborate if asked to elaborate]

[ibijau]

seriously tho. that damn discourse about when jgy started playing evil killing music! as if before that he was a fucking saint, and nmj forced him to become a murderer or some shit??

like to be clear. I love jgy. I think he is cool and awesome and his murders were very sexy.

But nmj kicking him down those stairs didn’t come out of nowhere. jgy had been lying and manipulating situations for years at this point, and nmj knew it, nmj had seen him do it, and refusing to listen to his excuses why he acted that way. Did nmj’s privileged position make him blind to the very real difficulties jgy encountered when doing things the right way, and the prejudice he faced? definitely, and it sucks of him. But it doesn’t change the fact that jgy killed people (some of them close to nmj), tortured people, allowed the murder of people, allowed (encouraged!) their corpses to be experimented on, and then tried to position himself as the unfortunate victim of terrible circumstances.

nmj attacked jgy because jgy’s actions had been consistently awful for years, and jgy decided if I cant manipulate that guy, time for manslaughter!

[cleromancy]

tim and dick stans be fucking normal about the other character challenge oh my god

[ssaalexblake]

and that's not even going into the side eye i do when you make a complicated and messy -yet ultimately loving and caring relationship between Yaz and 13- some kind of sanitised for mass consumption soft unproblematic courtship that's Sweet and Adorable, because hoooolllllyyyyy shit there's so much to unpack there and literally none of it is good

[shiraishi-kanade]

Shiraishi and Yoisaki families both had the potential to be the healthiest musically inclined families out there until they were screwed over by death. The Parallels continue.

[mysadcomedylife]

i dont know whats worse people of our fandom directing hate towards chris evans just because he is albas bf or his fans saying nasty and s*xist stuff about her too because of their relationship

i hate the internet fr yall need some help

[pizzapasta23045]

Oh so the yoymiya story quest II were in fact true.

Oh... Interesting...

[teamhawkeye]

you can ship something slightly dark or problematic and people will trip over themselves to come condemn you and scream at you, and act like you committed a real crime against an actual, living person

you can also ship something light and sweet and not toxic in the slightest and people will STILL find a way to come mock and jeer at you and call you names and harass you

so why not just ship what you want to ship

[nooks-cranny-mogai]

I hope the people with paragraph dnis like me, who are openly gross and on my DNI but interact and follow me anyway as if i wouldnt see them, get like 16 new people on their dni following them everyday that make them feel gross and unsafe and they constantly feel like, no matter how many they block, they will never escape them like an infestation and the one cockroach the exterminator missed 🙃 oh and they mistake a piece of glass for their gum

[madtomedgar]

I think a lot of the "wwx is a heroic man of the people" crowd should read Robinhood and Ivanhoe. I think they would really enjoy those books.