#controlthecontrolable

[shanfoster32]

Personal Tip: “Don’t put off for tomorrow, that which can be done today.” When you get an email or text, respond right then. When asked to do something, do it right then. Often times we stress ourselves out bc we procrastinate on things that can be done quickly. Of course, if something requires deeper thought or others contribution, this doesn’t apply. But for the things that can be done now, do it. That way your rest time can truly be that, REST. Try it. Let me know the difference it makes for you! #CreatingBalance #ReclaimYourTime #ControlTheControllables #PersonalGrowth https://www.instagram.com/p/CkGw39zOgOD/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[sayjesstofitness]

Today, I accept and let go of the things I can’t control and focus my energy on the things I can. #controlthecontrollable #goodenergy #letgo #letgoofcontrol #letgoofwhaticantcontrol (at Las Vegas, Nevada) https://www.instagram.com/p/CiMBhoULzSg/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[mubal4]

Fate

 Do you believe in fate?  Fate is essential defined by Merriam-Webster as “a power that is believed to control what happens in the future.”  I kept reading that and then asked myself if our decisions control fate? Don’t our decisions have control over what happens in the future?

 While I was reading How’s Your Soul by Judah Smith a few weeks ago I came across this quote from him:

 “We aren’t in charge of our fate.”

 Here is an example that I used to help me understand or, come to grips with decisions and fate.  I am traveling right now so this scenario fits 😊 – I have a flight this morning at 1010am, so I got up at my normal time, got my run in, am doing work and getting on with my commitments before leaving for the airport for my flight. I don’t see, in my opinion, fate playing any part in that example outlined below.  Let’s continue, everything is the same but when I get to my gate, I find out my flight is delayed an hour!  From my perspective, fate, based on the definition above, had to do with it……. I think.  The delay could be caused by weather, mechanical issues, the pilots/crew are delayed on an inbound flight; whatever the case may be, those circumstances are out of my control.  The only thing in my control is the decisions I’ve made to get me there on time. We take the flip side to that, I wake up late, at 9am and things go sideways, and I miss my flight.  That’s not fate that is my bad decision, mistake, failure – however you want to define it.  

 Hopefully the above makes some sense in my twisted way. In short, we have control of our own decisions but those of others, we are not in charge of.  And those things we are not in charge of, fate, power, other people’s choices………circumstances, we must drive through and move on from when the create challenges and inconveniences.  There are those other times when “a power,” choices, or fate – creates something magical and wonderful.  For me, that was the night I was fortunate or maybe “fateful” enough to have met my wife. We both made decisions to go this particular place, we both made decisions to go to a particular area in that particular place, my brother and one friend made the choice to approach the girls because they were laughing at my friend and my dance moves 😊, and my wife and her friends at that time made the decision to come dance with us!  

 There are many choices that were made to get us to that point but somewhere within each of us something, some power, something I don’t know how to describe, other than fate – create the path that led us to each other that day.  Now, what transpired over those first several months and that first year, as well as subsequent years that got us to 20 years together – there were choices, fate, maybe some powerful force out there, but mostly it was love, commitment, work, patience, compassion, kindness, understanding and a strong faith that we are supposed to be with one another.

 I think is out there and it can be very powerful, but I believe our choices can be incredibly powerful as well. Our decisions are what we can truly control!

[cincirican]

For me, it was my health/weight among other things. What is your goal and how’s your journey going? It’s never too late. It doesn’t have to be Monday to start something and it doesn’t have to be Tuesday to share motivation. #sicparvismagna #whatisyourjourney #wegotthis #controlthecontrollables #cincy #weightlossjourney #transformacion #proud (at Downtown Cincinnati) https://www.instagram.com/p/CD9jOqKh-Ce/?igshid=1hgsqtcsi08pw

[greatlifefitbev]

Quarantine got you down, put on a few pounds or in a funk? Yeah me too. I was really good in the beginning. Well then the other shoe dropped several times 💔 then there are days one little thing will set me off 🧨 emotionally was trying to keep it together while inside I was so sad for many different things Than that throws off my dinner plans to include pizza 🍕 washed down with 1 or 2 red wine 🍷 in my mind a healthier choice And yes.... I know and preach better to not let my emotions get to me. Mind you I KNOW better I am a Certified 2BMINDSET #Mentor and Certified Portion Fix Wellness #Health Coach Hey.. we are all human and Never had to deal with anything on this magnitude. I am no different! As I’ve said before... being a 🏝Vacation Travel Advisor (aka Travel Agent) I create lasting memories from vacations of togetherness For me... Since mid January COVID has temporarily Destroyed our business, people’s dream vacations and lives on so many levels worldwide 🌍 When I went to put on a pair of pants 👖 the ones I wear that are usually loose and they weren’t was when I knew I went far backwards than I wanted 😳😖 Each day I still got up and did some workout. However the day or 2 I skipped it I realized those were the days I feel more off track 🧨🍕🍷🍫 Let me give you a life tip #ControltheControllable So... like many others picking myself up by the shoestrings and not cutting fully out those bad habits that drag me down. Because here’s the thing... for most people if you stop cold turkey then you want things even more! That’s what’s perfect about our meal plans it still allows for the occasional treats except my occasional became more frequent and was unbalanced 😖 to me means sluggish and unmotivated. Doing things each day helps keep the #quarantine funk at bay There’s no starting over just continuing my journey. I am looking for 5 people to join me in my virtual group giving it a try and showing up. Who’s with me? My new group starts 1 week from today one of the most amazing places on the internet! Leave me a 🍷 and start your Small adjustments to create lasting changes #transformation https://www.instagram.com/p/CAodRMtnG9W/?igshid=63vt3kyghluc

[neverb4-blog]

You ever get overwhelmed? Feel like you’ve lost control, only to realize it doesn’t affect you? Instead of focusing your energy on things you can’t control, put that energy towards things you can control. Things you can control: 1. Gratitude 2. Empathy 3. Love 4. Mental and physical health 5. Your energy Let go of all the stuff you can’t control and start using your time to master what you can control. Three easy ways to make it happen: 1. See it 2. Believe it 3. Speak it #leadershiptip #changeformation #bethechange #culture #cultureofgood #empathy #motivation #identity #controlthecontrollables https://www.instagram.com/p/B99gDgInc_2/?igshid=zsrsvxwzralu

[millionairedreams1]

@make_moneyonline1818 __ What u think about this Girl or Money. @make_moneyonline1818 for more Money Motivation... #goldigger #mummaof #fitchick #extremeweightloss #happyfit #fighter #fightforit #fitjourney #fattofit #tiffxo #ninja #thehealthymummy #mumlife #fitmom #weightlossjourney #fitdiary #journeytohappiness #iso #keepingaccountable #bypassedbeauty #welfie #daysofshine #winterishere #august #tiffxoisoreset #controlthecontrollables #wbt #life #bhfy Credits: Unknown (at USA) https://www.instagram.com/p/CYZ8YuIBNRM/?utm_medium=tumblr

[sayjesstofitness]

💢Today I will💢 Control my thoughts Focus on what I'm grateful for instead of complaining, Take care of myself mentally, physically, and spiritually, and take steps toward accomplishing my goals. We all have goals and everyday responsibilities, but don’t forget to take care of your mental health, physical health and spirituality. I heard someone say that I think about everyday is CONTROL THE CONTROLLABLE. #goals #everydaylife #mentalhealth #physicalhealth #spirituality #controlthecontrollable #controlwhatyoucancontrol #grateful #gratefulness #gratefulmindset (at Downtown Las Vegas) https://www.instagram.com/p/Ch8MF4GPCP8/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[edthecoach]

☀️Good morning my friend, if you are reading this, then this is for you. If you want to decrease the amount of stress and anxiety in your life, this is rule numero uno, come to grips with and make peace with what you can and cannot control. Period. 👉🏽 None of us is omiscient (knows it all), omnipotent (can do it all) or omnipresent (can be everywhere), the sooner we can come to grips with our humanity, imperfection and finiteness, the more at peace we will be with ourselves. 🤔 What people say, do, and how they act, is not necessarily your responsibility as much as you are responsible for how you respond. You can't control the sun, but you can go stand in the shade. 📝 The list of what you CAN control is a lot shorter than what you cannot, and the more you focus on what you CAN control, it makes the things that you cannot control, a little more easier to bear. #thinkaboutit -Coach Ed #coachtalk #dowhatmatters #affirmationoftheday #affirmations #affirmation #morningmotivation #goodmorningpost #wakeup #motivationeveryday #motivationquote #inspirationdaily #inspirationalthoughts #peace #makepeacewithyourself #motivationalsayings #letitgo #controlthecontrollables (at Cleveland, Ohio) https://www.instagram.com/p/CZeTwKyOK6U/?utm_medium=tumblr

[mubal4]

Do? Say? Listen?

 Recently I’ve been conflicted on topics to write about. With it being the first month of the year there is much talk about setting goals, following dreams, and starting anew.  I think we are all on or at least contemplating new beginnings and change. But we shared some thoughts around those topics earlier this month and I didn’t want to revisit it, at least not so soon.  I was driven to open my old journal and possibly do another walk through that, actually found a great topic too.  However, when I looked back at my manifest, I saw this quote:

 “You control what you do & say, not whether people listen.”

 It is from a book I recently read called, Lives of Stoics by Ryan Holiday & Stephen Hanselman.  Interesting topic, good book, of course about Stoicism.  Ryan Holiday was on a podcast several months ago discussing the book and some of his beliefs and thought it would be a different perspective; it was!

 This quote above though, that is what got me thinking and laughing really, specifically about the last portion – the “listening” part.  First thing that comes to mind is parenting!  How often do we get frustrated when, “our kids don’t listen to us?”  We are adults, we know what we are talking about right?  Well, maybe in some instances but maybe that instance is not relatable to what our child is experiencing.  Sure, we have the simple things like pick up your clothes, clean your room, put a coat on – those are minimal things, but we would still like for our children, and others, to listen to us, right?  I think that is fair to say but also believe that we don’t have control over whether they listen. One thing I’ve worked hard at over the years was to let go of that aspect, especially when it comes to my kids, to try to control them and the listening part.  Yes, letting go is hard and we want them to “listen” to us, so they don’t fall on their faces. But that does them, and us, a disservice.  Offering guidance or lessons without being asked can definitely backfire, whether it is with kids or anyone else for that matter.  We’ve worked on the practice of asking, “are you looking for me to answer and respond or just listen?”  It is helpful and when engaged, we can certainly offer our perspective.  However, even with that blessing, there is no guarantee that the wisdom will be listened too.  My hope is that there are nuggets here and there, pieces of experience if you will, that they digest, put in the back of their mind, to possibly, just maybe, pull out and attempt to try at a later date.  Whether it helps, time will tell but at least we are equipping them with the nugget.  We can share our experiences, failures, lessons learned when asked but it is up to the other person to determine if it is relevant to them.  That can sometimes be hard, especially when you hate not being in control 😊!!!!  

 This leads into the second point to a degree; we have control over what we “say.” Yes, certainly do but as I alluded to above, is what we are saying, particular to others, what they want to hear? Is the timing right, it is appropriate, do they want to hear it, did they ask to hear it? That is a tough part, especially when it comes to being a parent.  We may think we have the right answers for the troubles our kids, or loved ones, are facing but the way we may have tackled something may be completely opposite from how they want to or could! Communication is key and good communication is essential, and that is whether in parenting or life. Any circumstance really. How often do troubles surface or we fail because of lack of patience, understanding, and clarity around communication?

 I think this all leads to the initial point above and the last one to discuss, we control what we “do!!!”  Does it start there? I think it does.  We have control over our decisions and how we feel about those decisions.  Should I say/not say that?  Should I listen/not listen to that? Should I do/not do that?  I believe they all surface from that last sentence, the doing part. I believe actions speak louder than words – don’t they?  You can lie with your words, but can you lie with your actions?  Our words can be disingenuous but can our actions?  I am seriously asking.  Again, it comes to my kids and they do watch and do see what we do however, may not pay too much attention to what we say.  Unless, what we are saying is directly relating to what we are doing?  For example, if we say we are going to help them with their homework every night and we don’t, what message is that giving them? What about not saying it and just showing up in their room to help them? Whether or not they need the help, showing up and asking – how powerful is that?  I think, based on that sentence, I will take the original quote one step further…….

 We have control over “showing up.”  

 I don’t believe that is just with our kids, however incredibly important.  I do believe that transcends to all relationships.  Our spouses, partners.  Our parents and siblings.  Our clients, teammates, colleagues.  Friends and maybe even strangers at times. Showing up and being present for ourselves and for others in our lives can be a great start to having control over what we do, what we say, and how we listen!

[katefitwithkatebridgeman]

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[youngandhungryent]

Dwayne ‘The Rock’ Johnson Reveals He & His Entire Family Caught COVID-19

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No one is immune from COVID-19. Dwayne, “The Rock” Johnson, revealed to his fans that he and his entire family caught the contagious virus.

Wednesday night (Sept.2), the actor, retired WWE superstar, and now the owner of the XFL revealed to his fans that somehow he and his family contracted COVID-19. In an Instagram video that has been viewed well over 6 million people, The Rock detailed that they caught the virus three weeks ago, and thankfully they are all on the mend. Johnson said his two young daughter’s bout with the virus was mild, and they didn’t really experience any significant symptoms outside of a sore throat. But when it came to him and his wife, Lauren Hashian, things were a bit more challenging for the couple.

The Rock is very much the standard when it comes to being in shape described his experience with COVID-19 as the “most challenging and difficult things” he and his family had to endure.

“I wanted to give you guys a little helpful update on things that have been going on on my end for the past two-and-a-half to three weeks now. So the update is this: my wife Lauren, as well as my two baby girls and myself, we have all tested positive for COVID-19.”

“I can tell you that this has been one of the most challenging and difficult things we have ever had to endure as a family, and for me, too, personally as well. And I’ve gone through some doozies in the past.”

As to how he and his family caught it? He believes they contracted the contagious virus from close family friends. In his video, he urged his fans to exercise extreme caution during these trying times, and if they are going to link up with family or friends, they should get tested first, boost their immune systems and, of course, wear a damn mask. In his best presidential tone, The Rock urged his fans on both sides of the political spectrum to practice mask-wearing and even called out politicians (all Republicans) who have politicized the life-saving measure.

The Rock is the latest celebrity to reveal a positive COVID-19 diagnosis. His buddy, Kevin Hart, Tom and Rita Hanks, Idris and Sabrina Elba, Kevin Durant, Scarface, and more have all battle rona. Sadly we have lost people as well, Fred Da Godson, Griselda Records’ DJ Shay, and even former Republican presidential nominee Herman Caine all died from COVID-19.

We are extremely happy to hear that The Rock and his family are on the mend. You can watch the video below.

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Stay disciplined. Boost your immune system. Commit to wellness. Wear your mask. Protect your family. Be strict about having people over your house or gatherings. Stay positive. And care for your fellow human beings. Stay healthy, my friends. DJ

#controlthecontrollables

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[rbbox]

Superstar Dwayne Johnson has confirmed that he, his wife Lauren Hashian, and his daughters, 4-year-old Jasmine, and 2-year-old Tiana have tested positive for COVID-19.

Taking to Instagram to inform his followers, Dwayne said in the video, "I wanted to give you guys a little helpful update on things that have been going on on my end for the past two-and-a-half to three weeks now. So the update is this: my wife Lauren as well as my two baby girls and myself, we have all tested positive for COVID-19."

"I could tell you that this has been one of the most challenging and difficult things we have ever had to endure as a family, and for me, too, personally as well," he continued. "And I've gone through some doozies in the past."

"Testing positive for COVID-19 is much different than overcoming nasty injuries, or being evicted, or even being broke, which I have been more than a few times," he said adding that his, "No.1 priority is to always protect my family. And protect my children, my loved ones."

"I wish it was only me who tested positive, but it wasn't, it was my entire family, so this one was a real kick in the gut. But I am happy to tell you guys that we as a family are good. We're on the other end of it, we're on the other side. We're no longer contagious, and we are — thank God — we are healthy."

"We are counting our blessings right now because we're well aware that it isn't always the case that you get on the other end of COVID-19 stronger and healthier. I have had some of my best friends have lost their parents, their loved ones, to this virus that is so incredibly relentless and unforgiving, and it is insidious. So for our babies, Jazzy and Tia, they had a little sore throat the first couple of days, but other than that, they bounced back and, and it's been life as normal, happy babies running around and playing," the actor further said.

"The other thing is to wear your mask, we have been in quarantine for months, we wear our masks every day," Johnson said. "This baffles me that some people out there, including some politicians, will take this idea of wearing a mask and make it a political agenda of a political agenda, politicizing. It has nothing to do in politics."

"So wear your masks. I'm not a politician. I am a man though, who cares about my family deeply and will do everything I can to protect them. But I'm also a man who cares about all of you guys. I don't care what political party you're affiliated with. I don't care what part of the world you're from. I don't care what your skin color is, what your job is, what your bank account says. I don't care. I do care about all of them. And I do not want you or your entire family to get COVID-19," he further said in the video. "Remember these takeaways that I shared with you and stay healthy, my friends, and I'll see you down the road."

He captioned the video message, "My message to all of you around the world -

Stay disciplined. Boost your immune system. Commit to wellness. Wear your mask. Protect your family. Be strict about having people over your house or gatherings. Stay positive. And care for your fellow human beings.

Stay healthy, my friends."

Dwayne Johnson and Lauren Hashian celebrated their one-year wedding anniversary in August.

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  Stay disciplined. Boost your immune system. Commit to wellness. Wear your mask. Protect your family. Be strict about having people over your house or gatherings. Stay positive. And care for your fellow human beings. Stay healthy, my friends. DJ ???? #controlthecontrollables

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ALSO READ: Dwayne Johnson’s Black Adam teases showdown with Superman, introduces Justice Society of America featuring Doctor Fate, Hawkman, Cyclone, and Atom Smasher

September 03, 2020 at 10:53AMDwayne Johnson, his wife Lauren Hashian and daughters test positive for COVID-19 https://ift.tt/2QQwOfW

[shanaflawsome]

While others are panicking, I have a new appreciation for this “𝐒𝐓𝐀𝐘 𝐇𝐎𝐌𝐄” deal!⁣ ⁣ My family has stepped back once again to enjoy time with one another 🆚 spreading out and taking off on each other. ⁣ ⁣ Today for example. ⁣ ⁣ To me, #Sunday’s are for family right?⁣ ⁣ Well we actually have been implementing that full on. ⁣ ⁣ From throwing Elena bum an early 9th bday party with my parents + grandmother, to the kiddos playing in the pool, to stories of all the shit we did as kids 😝, to board games♟ , and memories we can later smile upon in remembrance. ⁣ ⁣ Now don’t get me wrong. We are cautious & mindful of having to go out as well, but the virus is here regardless. So why not enjoy 😍 what we can control 🆚 stressing over something we can’t do much about?!⁣ •⁣ •⁣ •⁣ #makememories #smileeveryday #controlthecontrollable #stayhome #havefun💋 #sundaysareforfamily #familymemories #youonlyliveonce #covıd19 #quarantineandchill #whatmattersmost #ichoosehappiness #mswarrior #mybeardedman #crazykids #partytime🎉 #spreadpositivity #partyanimals ⁣ (at Summerville, South Carolina) https://www.instagram.com/p/B-Vuhvol0qo/?igshid=15byiqrmel7lv

[beautifulkanuck]

How does one measure excellence? To some, it may mean perfection. To others, it may mean not changing a thing if they had a chance to do things over. To Oxford it means being outstanding or extremely good Far too long I have defined excellence as being without fault or error. That definition consistently put pressure to achieve an unrealistic standard and it wasn't a kind act to myself. Redefining excellence was necessary. For me, excellence has begun to mean doing what I can and putting things in place so my best can be given and it isn't measured as 'without error'. That last bit is extremely hard for me. My best is to do what is within my control My best is to walk away knowing I worked hard and put things in place in order to achieve the desired outcome. VS. looking at things from a standardized test point of view. aka things aren't excellent unless they are 95-100% Does that mean if I put things in place I will always receive the desired outcome? Nope. Because sh*t happens. How come even though I know this in theory I still find myself in the back of my mind think otherwise? #socialconditioning We've really done a number on children...who then carry that mindset into adulthood using standardised measurements as a value of one's their worth, intelligence, acceptable body image etc. Such hard work to go against the system. Gonna stick with it though. #Iam trying #Iamstilllearning #pursuitofexcellence #controlthecontrollable — view on Instagram https://ift.tt/2O4k3y2

[mubal4]

Kids & Virtual Learning

 The majority of schools across the country, maybe even the world, have shifted to a virtual classroom or distance learning.  Our girls, out here in AZ, at this time are home with me 😊, in their rooms learning online.  There are discussions happening daily about opening back up, possibly in October, but not clear on hybrid or full opening.  We have friends back east that are virtual, and some are hybrid.  We have other’s that are fully open and some that have no plans to open for face to face learning until after the new year, if at all this year.  It is all across the board.  

 Late last week the parents of our school district were sent a survey on the reopening.  Essentially, as you can guess, they wanted to gauge us on where we stood with opening back up.  This was a question I immediately directed to our girls.  Just to be clear, we have one that is a junior and the other is a freshman in high school.  We believe, my wife and I, that this decision is theirs to make.  We are comfortable with them attending but again, their choice not ours, and they both want to go back.  The main reasons where really around connection and boredom.  Let’s be honest, sometimes sitting in a classroom, in school, learning about a subject you have no interest in can be a snooze fest……image having to do it behind a screen?  In today’s circumstances, many of us are working from home and I know I have to get up and walk around the house, go outside, or create some other distraction to break up the day.  

 Our kids, as my daughters have stated, get bored as well but, for them, it is more about the connection with their friends and classmates. I can’t speak to other grades and ages, but I feel confident in stating that no matter the age, the children, and us as parents, are all having challenges.  The kids are experiencing something completely different, unorthodox than what they are used to.  It is unknown when they will go back, if they go back; will they get to experience “school” again? They have been put in a situation that is testing their limits of comfort.  You would think they would be more comfortable and happier being at home.  We’ve had the discussion in our family many times, and work to create a home where they feel comfortable; and they do.  However, when it comes to having to learn and have “school” here; I can understand how the think it is weird and would like to go back. Again……. its that connection.

 But here is the reality with this, speaking of the kids and us as parents & I would also like to include the teachers, school districts, and administrators, etc. – we are figuring it out.  I believe, in a sense, we are all being inconvenienced, and it is uncomfortable; some families more than others and there are certainly extremes that I’ve heard about, but we are making it work.  Yes, in some areas it is a cluster f#$%, it sucks, it is not fun, and can be incredibly hard for some kids, and families, as well as teachers.  But we are adjusting.  I think most importantly, think about the kids here and the lessons they are learning.  They have been thrusted into a situation they didn’t want, ask for, and is completely foreign to them.  As I mentioned, they are bored, frustrated, maybe having a sense of being alone, and possibly having a hard time with it all.  But they are adjusting.  They are making it work and they are certainly growing from this experience. I understand it sucks and it is not idea, but it won’t last forever.  No, I repeat, THIS WILL NOT LAST FOREVER, but I do feel very, very confident that they will all come out of this with a much higher sense of resiliency, confidence, & growth.  We, as parents, play a big role in that.  Yes, we are also inconvenienced and challenged in this situation, but I remind us as well – this will not last forever.