#dear abby

[polarcoconut]

What kind of youtube videos should you start watching? PAC

choose the image that feels like the feeling you want to feel when watching youtube

some examples of feelings >entertained >enlightened >relaxed >seen/felt/heard/connected topic of images: shows i loved as a kid

Pile One : Hannah Montana

gaming videos let go of your high expectations. embrace authenticity and nothingness. you could use a community of different minded people.

some recommendations : sykkuno, quarterjade ,xchocobars disguisedtoast, plumbella, quackity, fuslie

Pile Two: Little Bill

old youtube content

watch an old youtuber you used to love . watch someone who lets you into their life (in their way) Live in a world that doesn't exist anymore so you can really get away. having someone you can look up to would be beneficial.

some recommendations: dan and phil, zoella and alphi, rclbeauty, pat vs. jen, niki and gabi

Pile Three : Wow Wow Wubzy

deep dives

information on random subjects. research your favorite subjects. you are on a steady path in life so what you find interesting will benefit you. Continue to grow by learning from your mistakes.

some recommendations: Kaz Rowe, Ashley Norton, Kurtis Conner, mila tequila, athena p

Pile Four: The Backyardigans

mystery

watch some mysteries and search up your randomest questions. it would be good for you to be exposed to the darker and realer parts of life.

some recommendations: the watcher, missmangobutt, bailey sarian, kendall rae, try guys

Pile Five: Gullah Gullah Island

mukbangs and asmr be young at heart. connect with someone. make space to relax and love.

some recommendations: latteasmr, stories with kina, lofiluvasmr, sas-asmr, gracev

Pile Six: The Fresh Beat Band

educational

watch content related to the courses you're taking or your job. learn a new skill. get serious about life.

some recommendations: ted talks, news channels, science channels, history channels

[coochiequeens]

A woman who now has twin half-siblings because her 60 something father started over with a younger wife has every reason to be upset.

By Abigail Van Buren

DEAR ABBY: I’m a millennial. I am successful in my career and lucky to have a loving husband and two amazing children. I am, however, trying to remind myself to be “better and not bitter” in another huge area of my life.

The world is changing so quickly, especially in the field of in vitro fertilization. I know I have much to be thankful for, but I’m finding it a hard pill to swallow that many of our older parents are choosing to have another set of kids in their later years. My father, who is in his mid-60s, has just had twins with his third wife. His children are younger than mine.

I feel entirely replaced by his new family. Rather than being a present father and grandfather, he has nearly disappeared. I thank God that my mother is a proud and devoted grandmother to my children. In addition to his disappearing act, Dad has decided to leave all of his assets to his third wife and the twins. They call my kids their twins’ “cousins”!

A number of my friends also have a parent who has chosen to start their lives over in this way, including their mothers, who, in their later years, have had babies via surrogate. This is so painful. How do I, and the younger generations, overcome this feeling of abandonment? -- BIG SISTER IN CALIFORNIA

DEAR SISTER: I can’t speak for the others, but you are blessed with a loving husband and two amazing children. A step in the right direction would be to concentrate on those blessings you have. You are lucky at your age to still have a living father.

Parents are free to live their own lives when their children reach adulthood. As you point out, what your father has done is not uncommon. Please, for your own sake, stop blaming him and embrace the life that you have.

She and her friends have every right to be weirded out about older parents having kids. If he's in his sixties now what will happen when the twins are 16 and are ready for drivers ed? How well will an 80ish man handle college tours for not one but two kids? What about when she takes her kids on fun vacations and her half-siblings see how much more fun it would be to go without a senior citizen parent? Will she be guilt tripped into taking her half siblings to? If he dies or has life changing illness will she and her husband be asked to step up?

He may have freedom to live his life but he has the responsibility to ask tough questions about having more kids when he's already a grandfather in his 60s.

[oldshowbiz]

[satoko567]

Regarding an explicitly biphobic/implicitly queerphobic mess of a Dear Abby column

@znj

Responding in a new post because I couldn't fit a thoughtful response to this into the character limit for a tumblr comment But this is unfortunately a fairly measured response from the parents as far as baby boomer/gen x parental responses to this sort of thing go in my experience. Obviously, asking the daughter to not bring her same sex partners around is homophobic and Not Good, but they are as far as I can tell explicitly acknowledging her sexuality rather than challenging it, and are also not blaming her for the broken engagement, and are writing out of concern for her because of how her ex-fiance treated her and how her partners after that treated her. The also seem to consider her problems with her same sex partners as an extension of a pattern that also included how her opposite sex-fiance treated her. I also don't think that they're blaming her daughter for what they see as bad relationships but are rather concerned for her wellbeing. A proper response from a columnist would make it clear that the string of unfortunate relationships has nothing to do with her sexuality, highlighting the connection/thread between the biphobic opposite sex ex-fiance who mistreated her and her partners after that, would suggest that the issue most likely has to do with her daughter's sense of self-esteem and self-worth, and that they should both do their best to support her and try to encourage her to seek proper professional counseling to try to change that perspective. Getting into and staying in toxic relationships because of a lack of self-worth is both a problem I have had myself and have known many other women who have had (and I am sure men have this problem too). Instead the columnist opens with bisexual erasure and then tells her to seek lgbt-specific counseling for an issue that is irrelevant to her sexuality. I would say that the column is not only one of the worst messes I have ever seen come out of dear abbie relative to the current year but actively worse than the letter despite the columnist attempting to take a smug lib position wrt LGBT.

[bookishbrigitta]

Luke: Don't let you past dictate who you are, but let it be a part of who you will become.

Leia: Luke, that's beautiful.

Luke: Yeah, that Dear Abby really knows what she's talking about.

[robynochs]

A Dear Abby reader asks, "I came out as bisexual to my husband. Do I need to tell other family?"

Abby says no. What do YOU think? What are the potential costs/benefits of coming out or of staying silent?

PS: Strange advice during #BiVisibilityMonth

[symphonyoflovenet]

Wisdom does not automatically come with old age. Nothing does except wrinkles.

Abigail van Buren

[crashtestjeffy]

So listen up Buster and listen up good...

[dykemag]

Dear Dykes...

Got a question you've been just burning for an answer to? Trouble in love, sex, friendship, work, or ornithology? Our expert team of nonbinary dykes is ready and willing to take all those questions and more.

DEAR DYKES is our advice column here at Judas Kissed, and we're looking for questions from our community! You can submit questions here at our usual submission form. The form collects your email so that we can prevent spam and harassment, but questions can be totally anonymous in the publication (or, if you want, we can scream from the rooftop that Sappho Johnson at 200 Main Street, Seattle WA can't figure out how to change out her AC filter and is too scared to ask her handier butch friends).

[nerdygaymormon]

DEAR ABBY: I would like to address this to parents who have abandoned an LGBTQ child:

I have met your children through my transgender son, and I’m happy to report they are doing fine.

They are the nicest, most caring person I know. Instead of being bitter and angry about your rejection, they are welcoming of everyone they meet.

I marvel at their dedication to love. They have taught me by their example that unconditional love is the foundation of the LGBTQ fellowship. It reminds me of a man born in Bethlehem long ago, who taught unconditional love of all people.

Sadly, it seems His message has been diluted, distorted and rewritten. If He were around today, I believe He would really like your child.

So, in closing, let me congratulate you for having raised a wonderful, loving child who is filled with joy and generosity. And please remember: It’s never too late to learn how to love.

DEAR PROUD DAD: Your letter carries a strong, positive message. We are all God’s children.

While I hope your letter will open those parents’ hearts, if it doesn’t do that, take comfort in the knowledge that many LGBTQ individuals who have been rejected by their parents have learned to build chosen families — with people like you.

[polarcoconut]

What Video Game Should You Play? PAC

I love these fun, cute “what should you…” readings.

click read more get some video game recommendations based on what energy you need the most in your life right now

@crystaldivinee suggested I have a theme so it’s beach and snow.

Pile one: banjou and kazooi: nuts and bolts

Casual games

bitlife, yandere simulator, papas franchise, subways surfers, movie star planet, among us

Pile Two: Nights: Journey of Dreams

Role playing

Dragon age, reckoning, world of Warcraft, fable, fallout, mass effect, Skyrim

Pile three: Wizards of waverly place ds game

Sad games

That Dragon Cancer, The Last of Us, Bioshock, Alice in Borderlands, The Walking Dead

Pile Four: Barbie Salon

Kid games

Moshi monsters, Club Penguin, Minecraft, Roblox, Candy Crush, Mario

Pile Five: Fable Two

Sports Games

skater, rocket league, NBA 2K11, Wii Sports, FIFA

Pile Six: Dragon Age Two

Girly Games

Lost Words, Life is Strange, Animal Crossing, Bratz!, Disney infinity, Silent Hill

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[beautifulscreaminglady]

DEAR ABBY: I’m 26, and I have never been in a long-term relationship. I have used dating apps and have dated several times, but nothing seems to stick after the third date. This year, I have put myself out there more by going to Meetup groups and to religious services.

When I browse Instagram or Facebook, I see content that makes me feel guilty and disappointed. It’s depressing to see people I know getting engaged or married. When I was in high school, most of my classmates went to prom, while I stayed at home.

I’m beginning to wonder if I’ll never find a good quality life partner or if I’m meant to be single forever. I’m afraid there may be something wrong with me. What can I do to move forward? -- UNCOUPLED IN MINNESOTA

DEAR UNCOUPLED: You may be focusing too much on your goal and not enough on enjoying the experience. Dating is a sifting process. It can be tedious and depressing, and it doesn’t always result in meeting Prince Charming.

Because you haven’t yet met The One doesn’t mean the alternative is winding up in a convent. Move forward by teaching yourself to enjoy the present, and you may find you have better luck.

[oldshowbiz]

[smithqjohns]

[zara2148]

Some thoughts I had clearing out stacks of old newspapers in my parents home.

A. John Pruitt was absolutely a regular reader of the Dear Abby advice newspaper column.

B. He gasped like a grandmother hearing a swear in church when he read the letter about the priest who plagiarized grieving families' eulogies to speak at funerals.

(for context:

[robynochs]

In her 2/13/24 column, Dear Abby apologizes for her 12/6/23 response to parents of a bisexual daughter.

Her apology included: "Being bisexual simply means that the person has the capacity to be attracted to people of different genders."

Here's the original column from December 6th: link