i talked about it a little bit already but i have things to say about it. for context, i was born with amniotic band syndrome. the amniotic band wrapped around my left wrist in utero and stunted the growth of my hand. i was born with about half a palm, four nubs for fingers, and a twisted half of a thumb. i can open and close my thumb and pinkie joint like a claw.
yesterday at work i had a shift in the room with 5-10 year old kids. i had my left hand hidden in my sleeve (a bad habit of mine). a kid asked if he could see my hand, and even though internally i was debating running into traffic, i said “sure you can” and showed him my hands. he stared for a moment, looking disturbed, and then said “i don’t want to look at that anymore”. that hurt to hear, but i understand that kids are new to the world and he probably didn’t mean it out of malice. i put my hand away again, told him that it was okay, and that i was just born that way.
he then went on to talk about how he knows a kid with a similar hand to mine and called it “ugly”. i told him that wasn’t a very kind thing to say and that he wouldn’t feel good if someone said that to him, and he replied that no one would say that to him—because he has “normal hands”, and he’s glad he does because otherwise he’d be “ugly”. i tried to talk with him for a bit about how everybody is born differently, but he just started talking about a girl he knows with a “messed up face” and pulled on his face to make it look droopy. i went on some more about how it wasn’t very kind to talk about people that way, but the conversation moved on to something else.
i’ve told my supervisors about it and they’re going to have a talk with his mom. what i wanted to say is this: i’m genuinely not upset with the kid. kids are young and naturally curious, and he clearly simply hasn’t been taught about disabled people and kind ways to speak to/about others. which is why i am upset with his parent(s). i know he’s encountered visibly deformed/disabled people before (he said so himself!), yet his parent(s) clearly haven’t had any kind of discussion with him about proper language and behavior. i knew from birth that some people were just different than others, but my parents still made a point to assert to be kind to and accepting of others. i wonder if adults in his life are the type of people to hush him and usher him away when he points out someone in a wheelchair. that kind of thing doesn’t teach politeness. it tells children that disabled people are an Other than can’t be acknowledged or spoken about; which, to a child, means disability must be something bad.
i’m lucky enough that this was a relatively mild incident, and that i’m a grownup with thicker skin. i’m worried about the other kids he mentioned to me. has he been talking to them this way? when i was a kid, i had other kids scream, cry, and run away at the sight of my hand. or follow me around pointing at me and laughing at me. or tell me i couldn’t do something because i was ugly or incapable or whatever. one time a girl at an arcade climbed to the top of the skeeball machine, pointed at me, and screamed at me to put my hand away and wouldn’t stop crying until she couldn’t see me anymore. another time, a kid saw my hand, screamed at the top of her lungs, and ran into my friend’s arms, crying hysterically about how i was scaring her. that second incident made me cry so hard i threw up when i got home. i can kind of laugh it off now, but having people react to me that way as a child is something i’m still getting over. why do you think i have a habit of keeping my hand in my sleeve? it just irritates me to see children that have clearly not been taught basic manners and kindness—their parents Clearly missed something pretty important .
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Hi! I had a question regarding the last chapter, Leo doesn't recognizes Cassandra because he doesn't remember her? Because the story takes place after the fight with the Shredder and the Kraang so it's imposible he doesn't know Cassandra is no longer with the foot.
Btw I have read so many fics of rise and in my opinion your is by far my favorite. You are doing amazing!
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thank you so much!!! I’m so glad you like it! 🩵
But as far as Cass goes— season 2 ended right after The Shredder fight, right? I personally believe that there would be very little contact with Cassandra immediately after the fight. After all, the fam lost their home and had to find a new lair. They needed time to recover from the fight, both physically and emotionally. And I’d imagine there was some…. hard feelings towards the person who released a world-dominating terror on their family who nearly killed their dad.
That being said, I like to believe that Cass’ contact with the boys was pretty minimal prior to the invasion. I like to keep the amount of time between the end of season 2 and the start of the ROTTMNT movie up for interpretation, but I still feel like Cass' relationship with the Hamatos is... 'complicated' during that time. Maybe she got along with Splinter, but I imagine the brothers would have a harder time accepting her, even if she defected from the Foot. In the fic, it’s post-invasion (and after Leo is lost to the Prison Dimension) that the Casey Jones Jr becomes the catalyst for Cassandra to bond with the Hamatos-- Leo wouldn’t have known how much she’s changed and grown as a person all this time.
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Leo’s a petty guy LOL
Throughout the show we see the cheeky, spiteful side of Leo and i love that. And after losing a good chunk of his sanity, he’ll only remember the ‘important’ things… and a bad bitch like Leo never forgets who wronged him. Or wronged his family. Seeing Cass and remembering the Shredder fight is all that mattered to him in that moment.
To Leo, it didn't matter if Cassandra had defected from the foot. Nor did he have the capacity to consider maybe she's changed in the heat of the moment. He only remembers her as Foot Clan, and the Foot Clan was bad bad B͕̙̦͆ͭ͟Ǎ̢͍̓̆͊ͯͦ͗D̍͜
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Thanks @moonystardust7 for tagging me, I don’t do these often but this one looked banger
Last song I listened to: my Spotify says that it was Waiting Room by Phoebe Bridgers but that’s just because I’ve been trying to branch out from looping I Know The End (also by Phoebe bridgers)
I’m currently reading: The Whispering Skull by Jonathon Stroud (the second book in the Lockwood and Co series because I’m still trying to cope with the fact the show got cancelled)
Currently watching: nothing because I don’t have time for a new hyperfixation right now but I’ll watch episodes of merlin and some of my other old favourite movies on occasion
Current obsession: would also be bbc merlin, it always lives in the corners of my mind. As mentioned I’m trying so hard not to trigger another hyperfixation right now as I’m very busy with work but Lockwood and co likes to creep back in there sometimes. Also been getting into crotchet/knitting more recently?
I’m gonna tag @softbeanofexistentialcrisis @boygirlctommy @bigpapawalkingdownthestreet @firerose @khyrrn-v2 @marcskywalker @technolilly @adrianainthesnow @hyacjnthus
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my boyfriends family was over earlier and out of nowhere during the conversation his parents were like “omg let’s all weigh ourselves as a game!” and grabbed a scale and his super tiny mom steps on the scale and announces her weight and then his dad tells me, clearly the most overweight person in the room, to weigh myself next and i got upset and just left like i can’t tell if that’s the most tone deaf thing ever or if they were genuinely trying to embarrass me in front of everyone. who the fuck decides to compare weights as a game
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