#gender discovery journey

[just-two-blokes]

Me *showing my mum a hairstyle that I think is cool and that I'd like to try*

My mum: 'I mean.. you can do it but you'll look like a boy.'

Me *internally*: 'Yeah, that's like the whole point.'

[cowboah-baby]

before starting my transition and while is was in my ex-relationship i was really into the thought of the "other half" and another person completing me. i was devastated when the divorce came (because my baseline was just being unhappy with myself) but now that i know who i am and i'm living true to my wants and needs.... i feel like a full human being who would be happy if someone shared this with me but i am no longer looking for someone to "complete" me. i am a full human!

[penofdamocles]

..Wait, /have/ I seen several versions of this person's alternates' blog or is my memory just so bad that I've been going through cycles of feeling like I'm meeting them for the first time. Parts of the last few years are a blur and that in particular has not remained the clearest sequence of events. Time is fake, guys.

[oliviasadventuresinstyle]

My 'journey' - a brief history of time

Having been asked the question a number of times, I wanted to talk about my 'journey' as Olivia.

One of the main questions is "who else knows about Olivia?", to which my response is usually, "My wife, she takes all of the pictures". 99 times out of 100 the follow-up question will be "how did you tell her?"

The implication of this question is that there was some sort of 'big reveal' and the truth is, that's not the case. The fact that's not the case seems to hold fascination for a lot of people.

I'm now going to mention 'cross dressing' in the next bit, but it's the first and last time I will - mainly because

a) I hate the term

b) I don't feel that articulates what Olivia is and

c) (related to a) I associate 'cross dressing' with the fetish aspects of men dressing as women, which is what leads me to b). That may be an incorrect assessment in some cases and I apologise to anyone that offends, but this is my perception.

As far as I can tell, most people came to cross dressing at an early age - they tried on their mother's dresses/heels/insert item of typically feminine clothing here. That's not the case for me. My first foray into exploring my gender identity came when I turned 40. Pretty late it seems by most standards. Why 40? When I hit 40 I thought to myself, "if I'm not asking for what I want at this age, when will I?"

I've been into BDSM for as long as I can remember, and when I turned 40 I thought "I reckon I could rock a bodycon dress in bondage". That was the seed from which all of this grew - I vocalised this to my wife and we thought we'd explore things.

See what I mean about 'no big reveal'?

Anyway, what evolved is not something I could ever have anticipated, which is what led me to point b) above. I'm skipping a whole load of intermediate steps, but essentially Olivia became a whole identity. She acts differently, she thinks differently, she experiences the world differently. But that didn't happen overnight and it's not something that my wife and I just worked through without issue.

Olivia really came into being in January 2020 through one of my trips to my therapist. It's not an understatement to say that, without that therapy, the person Olivia has become would not have been possible. My therapist encouraged me to find ways in which I could explore Olivia and in which that exploration could include my wife. That's included understanding where my wife fits in with Olivia, what it means for Olivia's sexuality and status.

Now, in 2024, my wife is Olivia's best friend - all of the photos (with the exception of selfies) are taken by her. We (by which I mean Olivia and her) go out together, have drinks, go shopping, go to the cinema, have nights out.

Olivia loves fashion - she (in her view) dresses like a modern woman and loves keeping up with trends and understands classic, chic ways of dressing. She enjoys expressing herself as a woman and not some 90s porn version of a woman as thought about through the eyes of some men. She wears clothes, not costumes. She loves makeup - it's like an artform to her. Being Olivia means expressing those things that I can't as a guy (or won't let myself express). So Olivia has become an alter ego, almost.

I can't envisage what life would be like if she hadn't come into being, because it's clearly unlocked something that may well have been there since childhood and it's just been a long time coming. But this is who she is and what she represents.

I hope you've enjoyed this brief insight 😘

[redtail-lol]

Gender comic. Not attempting that ID again for this shit to fail. Sorry. Literally wasted all my brain power for IDs for the next few hours. Stupid fucking Tumblr

[eryanlainfa]

Wait hold on what’s Aiden’s gender thingy. Ik this definitely isn’t a cisgender but I’m so confused about there BIOLOGICAL gender yk?

I made them to be confusing no worries-

Aiden is genderfluid, though they mostly present as masc and uses they/them pronouns, sometimes she likes to change things up. Biologically they are intersex and its a bit of a mess.

But I assume you're asking for their assigned gender at birth, which is male. "Aiden" actually is his birthname.

[adamwarlock]

Move over Adam this is a Eve Warlock blog now

[a-bisexual-panicking]

me: i feel the same things for both males and females, i must be bisexual!

narrator: they will soon realise that feeling the same thing for both genders doesn't mean that you can't feel nothing for both genders

[tiltomorrow]

ummm didn't know how to come out exactly but. i am bisexual 🫡🎉👍

[just-two-blokes]

2023 is coming to an end

And I might not be who I want to be quite yet.

But I have learned so many important things about myself in this year, I have started discovering myself in so many different ways. I have stopped worrying what other people think about my style and my interests.

I have started to stop pretending.

And it feels fucking amazing.

I might still be at the beginning of my journey. I have still so many things to learn and to discover about myself.

I still sometimes want to scream and cry because I don‘t know how I feel.

But I made the first step into just.. accepting my feelings and stopped trying to change them or make them go away.

And I think I can be proud about that.

[junkyardromeo]

friend referred to me as they and i liked it

[dudelynxx]

he/she hunter toh (crowd cheers)

[currentlyonstandbi]

[deadrlngers]

me doing completely normal things vs. my mother telling me to not do them since i was 5 y/o bc "that's smth men do"

[morlgbtqia]

Teaching Vocabulary Through a Personal Journey: My Velleity, Finitude, and Quixotic Pursuit of Gender Transition

As someone who has experienced a velleity (a desire or inclination that is weak or not fully formed) to change my sex, I understand the deep longing to align my physical form with another self. But as we live in this 21st century, I have come to realize that the limitations of current technology make it difficult to achieve a full and accurate representation of the desired sex. The surgeries and hormone therapies available today are often considered as a mere approximation, and come with a host of unintended consequences.

In this introspective journey, I have struggled with a sense of metaphysical angst against the finitude (the state or quality of being finite, which means having limits and being subject to change and death) imposed on me, as I strive to reconcile my true self with the limitations of reality.

This journey may seem quixotic (foolishly impractical especially in the pursuit of ideals), but it is important to remember that the technology for sex change is not yet advanced enough to provide a full and accurate representation of the desired sex. In this journey, let us not forget the importance of being informed and realistic about the options available to us, and the potential risks and limitations that come with them.

As for myself and my trade-off calculus, I found the wait and see approach to be the best course of action for myself. Lowering my time preference and waiting for better gender transitioning technology to come out or aid in its pursuit. Gender transition surgeries, hormone therapies, and other medical interventions, while a viable option for some, can often be considered as a mere approximation of the desired sex. I have found that for my own situation, it's better to wait until the technology is more advanced and the outcomes are more predictable and reliable, rather than rushing into a decision that may not fully alleviate my distress or may come with unintended consequences. It's important to consult with a doctor who is willing to question your desire or dysphoria to see if it's really that and not some other underlying condition like borderline personality disorder. I believe it's crucial for individuals who are considering gender transition to thoroughly research and understand the available options, to be aware of the potential risks and limitations, and to work closely with healthcare professionals who are experienced in treating gender dysphoria and are able to provide individualized care and guidance.

In this sense, the journey towards understanding and accepting one's true self can be seen as a quixotic but wonderful pursuit. It may seem foolishly impractical, but it is a deeply personal and introspective journey that requires informed and realistic decision making. It is important to remember that this journey is not just about transitioning, but about understanding and accepting oneself for who one is, and finding peace and happiness in that understanding.

It is important to remember that every individual's journey is unique and that it's essential to have open and honest conversations with your doctor to make sure that your desire or dysphoria is not a symptom of an underlying condition. It's also important to be wary of tendentious nonthinking affirming doctors and to consider getting a second opinion. Ultimately, the decision to transition should be based on an individual's own feelings and desires, and should not be influenced by societal pressures or expectations.

As we continue to strive for progress, let us also remember to be patient with the limitations of our current technology and to lower our time preference in order to wait for better options to come out. And in the meantime, let's continue to support and aid in the development of better technology for gender transition.

[freenewsreport]

Kellie Maloney: The Journey of Self-Discovery and Identity

In the realm of professional boxing, Kellie Maloney is a name that resonates with determination, resilience, and an unwavering commitment to self-identity. Kellie Maloney, formerly known as Frank Maloney, has become a symbol of courage in the face of societal norms. Her journey from a renowned boxing promoter to embracing her true self as a woman is not just a story of transition but one of self-realization. At the heart of this narrative lies the deep-seated understanding that Kellie Maloney was always destined to be the woman she is today.

The Early Struggles: A Hidden Truth

Long before the world recognized Kellie Maloney as a successful boxing promoter, she grappled with an internal struggle that few could comprehend. Despite her accomplishments in a male-dominated industry, there was an undeniable dissonance within her—a constant battle between the life she lived and the identity she yearned to express. For years, Kellie Maloney navigated through her professional and personal life with a hidden truth, one that she could not articulate even to herself. The societal expectations placed upon her as Frank Maloney were a suffocating force, preventing her from embracing her true identity.

A Society Unaware: The Misconceptions of Gender

Kellie Maloney's story is not just her own; it reflects the broader misconceptions surrounding gender and identity. For centuries, society has confined individuals within rigid gender norms, often dismissing the complexities of identity. The transition that Kellie Maloney underwent is not merely a physical transformation but a profound alignment with her true self. The idea that one can simply "decide" to change gender overnight is a misconception that fails to grasp the depth of the journey. Kellie Maloney did not wake up one day and decide to be a woman; she has always been a woman in her essence, navigating a world that only saw her through a limited lens.

The Media's Role: A Call for Respect

The media's portrayal of Kellie Maloney has often been marred by misunderstanding and insensitivity. Referring to her past with male pronouns or questioning her identity demonstrates a lack of respect for her journey. It is essential to acknowledge Kellie Maloney for who she truly is—a woman who has fought not only for her identity but also for the respect and recognition she deserves. The language used to describe her should reflect this understanding, emphasizing her identity as Kellie, not Frank. By doing so, we honor her courage and the profound sense of self she has embraced.

The Courage to Be: Embracing True Identity

Kellie Maloney's life is a testament to the strength required to live authentically in a world that often resists change. Her decision to transition was not a choice but a necessity—an affirmation of who she has always been. The fear, confusion, and isolation she experienced before her transition were not signs of weakness but indicators of the immense pressure she faced in conforming to societal expectations. Today, Kellie Maloney stands as a beacon of hope for those struggling with their identities, showing that it is possible to live authentically and find peace within oneself.

Conclusion: Kellie Maloney—A Legacy of Authenticity

Kellie Maloney's journey is more than a personal triumph; it is a powerful narrative of authenticity, courage, and the relentless pursuit of self-identity. As we reflect on her story, we must recognize that Kellie Maloney has always been the woman she is today, regardless of the name or identity imposed upon her by society. Her legacy will continue to inspire and challenge societal norms, reminding us all of the importance of living true to oneself. In celebrating Kellie Maloney, we honor the resilience of the human spirit and the profound impact of embracing one's true identity.