#gender relations

[olmoonlight]

♡ - I fell in love with a hysterical woman. - I,- hysterical? . ..

[lordadmiralfarsight]

Essentialism, it's bad even if it looks left wing

Essentialism, its a conceptual base for a LOT of shitty things.

Racism is a variety of essentialism, where you are considered confined to the essential qualities or flaws of your "race" (whatever bullshit is put in the word). It creates a veneer of superiority based on skin color/ethnicity/whatever to comfort the adherant's ego, make them more amenable to the professing populist's ambitions and occult one basic reality : people of all color and origins can be wondrous geniuses who bring amazing advancements to humanity or terminally awkward dumbasses (and sometimes both at once).

Classism and casteism is the same, evaluating the social value of someone based on the essential qualities or flaws of their social class or cast. These two rests a lot on tradition and the natural tendency to social endogamy and self-reproduction through education. But in the end, the "superiority" of the higher social strata class or cast is attributed to essential qualities instead of access to better education and learning materials.

But when it comes to sexism, the essentialism seems to, most of the time, be only recognized one way in many keft wing circles, at least on the surface (which is the most visible part). What prompted this? I saw a post on the Barbie movie on this here hellsite that quoted a bunch of tweets. Up to the end, it was fairly feel good, cute, positive. Even if most of the quoted tweets seemed to have missed the commentary on gender relations that is apparently part of the movie.

I will be upfront, I have not seen the movie. Not by ideology, but simply because I do not feel the urge. But from my understanding, the situation of the Kens is ... not ideal. It could be better.

Most of the tweets did not mention that, focusing on the female aspect. And then there was this :

So, over generalisation based on gender elevating one gender as sweet and kind and non-violent, just vibing, while the other is decried as brutish, oppressive and violent. No nuance, just big homogenous blocks. That is incredibly essentialist. That is also a kind of take that feeds Far Right pundits like nobody's business.

Think a bit on the underlying philosophy. What's being said isn't "inequalities are bad and both genders should be equal", it's "the wrong gender is in power and everything would be perfect if gender relations were switched around". That take doesn't have a problem with the system, but with who is in control. When the system is unjust, changing who controls it or benefits from it doesn't make it just.

And just to pre-empt : yes, I'm a man. So what? I am not obligated to suffer for the actions of other dick-owners.

[gravalicious]

The clearest and undisputed area of policy  which has a massive impact on gender relations and power is housing and welfare policy. No doubt about it or argument. Women enjoy more welfare both directly and indirectly, even if working, than men and the consequences are very important. Housing policy shapes a community and community power. If you grant one group easier access to housing, you change the balance of power, especially when those women cannot obtain those houses in the open market. Study social housing and it is pure women predominantly. Over fifty percent of Black women in this country, [their] salaries are topped up by income support. Welfare economists will tell you precisely what welfare means in real money terms. So if you are a woman you prefer to be in Britain than Africa or the Caribbean, where you work or drop or be fortunate to have a wealthy and kind man. I am finishing some work on new African immigrants and family and social problems, and one of the things you will find within ALL IMMIGRANT GROUPS, which corresponds with exactly  the same experience of older African and African-Caribbean communities, is that within a very...short period of time of being in this country, blam, man and woman problems start. All the men whether they are Nigerians, Ghanaians, from Uganda, Ethiopia [or] Somalia, all say the same thing. That this society and its ability for women to get work, even low paid work combined with [the] welfare system radically changes the family dynamic in a very short period of time. How can people who have only been here such a short time say exactly the same things as Black men who were here as early as the 1950s?

Fred Black (circa 2003)

[what-marsha-eats]

[dawormgawd]

i ask the women to play destiny 2 and they want to play solo rpg...

i ask the men to play destiny 2 and they suggest borderlands instead...

i ask nonbinaries to play destiny 2 and they write scathingly critical alt-lit essays abt what i represent to them and send it to thought catalog....

true difference btwn the sex genders...

[speckofglitter]

Hooks' Interpretation of Homosociality

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[samw3000]

Circle Jerk - Off

Seemingly well-intended Except ... I pick up on YourJuvenile comments during vacuous conversationsQuickness to point out flaws and make kettle-black callsI am not blameless Cognizant of my participationin the process Wanting Needing to rectify my character flawsPolitely, I disengage from Pettiness, thoughtful gossipAnd your whimsical demands I cannot stomach Your - Lack of foresight - Infantile…

[mostly-funnytwittertweets]

[howifeltabouthim]

I'd opined often with other women and with men that every man has a degree of rape in him. Women didn't understand what I meant. They were alternately disgusted and confused. They thought I was stupid. But the men didn't. I think they were impressed that I understood.

Lisa Taddeo, from Animal

[theslackerjack]

the best thing i learned from the manosphere was that some bitches just ain't shit, ain't never gonn' be shit, and that it's perfectly correct on every level to love and value myself instead

[russia-libertaire]

The "Woman Question"

'Chernyshevskii's novel [What Is to Be Done?] highlighted one notable feature of Russian socialism: the major place accorded in it to the "woman question" and the unusually active role played by women within the movement. As we have seen, during the earlier part of the century, concepts of family life and gender roles had been changing under the influence of the Enlightenment and the Romantic movement, and it had come to be widely accepted in aristocratic and professional circles that a woman should be as well educated as a man in order to be an equal companion to her partner and a fruitful influence for her children. These expectations were probably more at odds with inherited traditions in Russia than in most of Europe. But the more secure property rights which Russian women enjoyed gave them a certain basis for independent action. The 1860s reforms deepened this paradox: they undermined the inherited wealth of many noble families, making it harder for them to provide for their younger women, while they also opened up, albeit hesitantly, new female educational opportunities. Many young women from the elites now both needed to set up on their own and had somewhat better facilities for doing so. So the question of self-realization was especially acute for women, and it became an important part of the socialists' ideal of self-emancipation within a more mutually supportive society.'

Russia and the Russians, by Geoffrey Hosking

[genderrelations]

Louis Moe: A mermaid and a goblin in conversation, 1932

[spirk-trek]

when your captain just defeated an alien entity with the power of friendship and everyone around you is laughing but you're vulcan :/

[timothywinters]

'The power to define tyranny for a culture rests with the empowered. Thus in the discourse (...) women will often call men tyrants, but men will reserve the term for women who challenge any part of their own prerogative.'

Betty Rizzo, Companions Without Vows- Relationships Among Eighteenth-Century British Women

[vagueconfusion]

Feeling real ridiculous for not having realized that Baron's "stark father" was the Nightmare King until now

[xferal-fairyx]