#he also likes challenges and new experiences but stability within the relationship yes

[yugenides]

Spring Petal Love Test

OC Results:

• Ara: (INFP) Freesia Petal • Aristos: (ISTJ) Lily Petal • Corv: (ESTP) Magnolia Petal • Faris: (INFP) Freesia Petal • Louis: (ISFP) Dandelion Petal

[hockeylvr59]

Birthday Baby || Paul Bissonnette

Requested: [x] yes [ ] no

Authors Note: So the original request was for “bend over I’m going to put a baby in you” and “tilt your hips up after I cum” with Elias Pettersson but I can’t write smut for him. This request came in after that suggesting that I do those for Biz. I have another request for the first part with a different player so I only used the second one here but hopefully you enjoy. As always when writing about Biz I got a little bit carried away and this turned out much bigger than a blurb. 

Warnings: smut, maybe some cursing. 

Word Count: 1,875

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Dating Paul was easy. It wasn’t that there weren’t challenges, it was that Paul was always willing to listen to you and work through whatever problems arose until you found an outcome that could make both of you happy. He was willing to think outside the box and it was something that made you fall hard for him. 

But there was one subject you knew would be difficult to conquer and though you needed to if you were going to have a future together, it worried you. 

You wanted kids. 

Paul was on the fence about it. 

But since that was a problem for down the road you put off talking about it. 

Then six months became a year and you realized that you couldn’t keep putting time and effort into something if there was no chance of having all of your needs filled in the future. 

So you’d told Paul that the two of you needed to talk and immediately he was concerned. But he’d listened as you expressed your feelings directly, confirming things that he’d insisted he’d known since you started dating. In return, he expressed his fears about having kids. How he was worried he’d make a horrible father, how he was worried his past injuries would negatively impact his ability to provide stability and raise children. 

By the end of the conversation he’d admitted he’d been thinking about having kids more frequently recently, that being with you made him honestly consider having kids for the first time. For now, it was enough. It was more than you had expected and it was enough to assure you that your efforts in this relationship were worth it. So you let those thoughts slip to the back of your mind for a while, focusing on enjoying time with Paul and growing stronger as a couple. 

In the days leading up to your birthday it seemed like there was something on Paul’s mind that he wouldn’t talk about. You were concerned but he’d never not confided in you eventually in the entire time you’d been together so you didn’t let yourself worry too much. 

The morning of your birthday you woke up to a vase of flowers on your dresser and your favorite muffin left for you on the kitchen counter. You’d insisted that you didn’t need to do anything for your birthday but when you arrived home from work you could smell dinner. Paul wasn’t the best chef but he was trying and the effort was what was appreciated. After sitting down to a warm meal and a glass of wine, you’d curled up on the couch next to Paul and you could feel his heart racing in his chest as he handed you your present. 

As you tore the paper off of the box you couldn’t tell if he was anxious because he was worried you wouldn’t like the present or if there was something else. Tucked inside the box was a pearl bracelet and you smiled tilting your face up to kiss him in thanks. It was beautiful and pearls were one of your favorite gemstones so it was perfect. Paul still looked nervous though and motioned that there was something else in the box. Tucked up under another layer of tissue paper was a blue and purple box, clearly from the drugstore and you lost your breath as you read the label. Ovulation Test. Not wanting to get ahead of yourself you looked back up at your boyfriend seeking answers. 

“Paul…” You murmured, moisture gathering in your throat as you watched him. 

“If you want…” He mumbled back, his free hand rubbing at the back of his neck. 

“Paul.” You repeated. “Are you serious?” His brown eyes were warm as he gazed down at you and after clearing his throat he nodded. 

“I know technically I should at least propose first but bear with me on that. But yeah...I’m serious. I think a mini you running around would be pretty cute.” 

There was so much more that needed to be discussed about this but right now just didn’t feel like the right time. Hashing out all of the details could happen when it wasn’t your birthday and since you were still on the pill you pulled Paul to bed without hesitation knowing that any baby-making wouldn’t be happening tonight anyway. 

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Within a few days of your birthday you’d had all the necessary conversations, made sure that this was something that Paul actually wanted. But once that was settled you tossed your pills. Now it was just a matter of waiting and trying. 

And honestly, you had no idea that trying could be so much fun. 

It wasn’t that sex with Paul wasn’t great before but now, now it was even better. Now everything was heightened just that much more. Now Paul was a man on an even greater mission and it showed. 

Paul held your hips in his hands as he thrust up into you, forcing you even deeper onto his cock as you rode him. 

“God baby you’re so sexy like this.” He grunted. “Bet you’ll be even sexier carrying our baby.” A chill ran up and down your spine at the thought and you whined out about how close you were. You’d already cum once on his tongue and once with him inside of you and a third orgasm was ready to crash down on you. 

Flipping the two of you over, Paul slowed things down a bit, kissing you as he moved in and out connecting your bodies. Even with the slower pace it wasn’t long before you were right at the edge of your orgasm again. And this time it was clear that Paul was right there with you. 

“That’s it beautiful. You gonna cum for me again? Are you going to milk me as I cum, pull my seed deep inside of you so we get you nice and pregnant?” Only sounds of pleasure were spilling from your throat, no intelligible words forming in your brain. Your body was so desperate for him that it was reacting on its own accord, pulling him closer and deeper, aching to feel him spill inside of you. 

Though usually Paul always made sure that you came before he did, this time his orgasm crashed over him just a moment before yours and the sticky wet heat filling you caused you to cum with a shout, an intense orgasm leaving you boneless and sated. 

By the time your brain regained function, Paul was pulling a spare pillow from beside your head and working it under your hips. 

“Gotta tilt your hips up after I cum sweetheart, make sure all of it stays right there inside of you so that we can knock you up.” He reminded, a prideful smirk on his face. He kissed you for a few minutes, rambling about how incredible it was getting to experience this with you before he finally pulled out, doing his best to leave as much of his semen still inside of you as he could. 

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This time it was his birthday and because it was Biz and you’d finally gotten the news you’d been waiting for you knew that you needed to go big in your reveal to him. The Yotes were playing at home which meant that he had to work on his birthday but you’d managed to fly his parents down to surprise him, snatching his season tickets for the game. 

You knew he was doing pregame and the second intermission on tv so with the help of a few people you had your surprise planned for after his second appearance. Pulling Cam and Yole up to the tv deck as soon as the second period of play ended, you watched as Paul chatted with Jody about the goaltending so far. Soon they wrapped up and just before going off the air Jody spoke. 

“Also I think I heard there was going to be a birthday message for you on the jumbotron, you should probably check that out before heading back to radio.” 

Right on cue, as Paul turned his head to look at the big screen you watched as a series of players and his coworkers wished him a happy birthday. Then your face appeared on the screen with the message you’d recorded for him earlier. 

“Hey there Coyotes fans. You probably know me by now as Biz’s better half. I’d like you to join me in wishing him a very happy birthday because this is a special one. In fact...there’s one more person who wants to say happy birthday but for another year or so I’ll have to do it for them…” Now in addition to speaking to the camera, you were holding up a tiny Bissonnette jersey. “Baby Biz told me to tell you he or she says ‘Happy Birthday Daddy.’” 

Rather than watching yourself on the big screen, you watched Paul’s expressions as he took in the video. How his expression turned soft at the general outpouring of well wishes and then how shock appeared on his face when your video played and finally how tears formed in his eyes as he realized the weight of the information that was just revealed. 

Beside you, you could hear Yole crying and a peek at her and Cam revealed big smiles on their faces. 

Paul cursed and looked at his phone, and you knew in the back of his mind he was desperate to call you but worried about making it back to radio in time. Shaking your head to yourself, you nodded at the crew as you snuck your way over to him. 

“Happy Birthday Babe.” You said, attempting to draw his attention. When he realized you were standing there his eyes went wide and his arms wrapped around you as he buried his head against your neck. “You’ve got a few more minutes. They’ve got you covered in radio so don’t stress.” You assured him. 

“What the fuck was that?” He eventually questioned, though his tone revealed only that he was still processing. 

“I mean go big or go home right?” You teased, scraping your fingernails against his scalp. He let out a shaky breath against you before pulling back. 

“We’re having a baby?” He whispered, awe filling his voice. 

“We’re having a baby.” You confirmed, kissing him softly as you drew his hands to your still flat stomach. “And I’m not sure whether you or your mom are freaking out more.” You motioned to where his parents were standing and Paul let out a gruff emotional chuckle. 

“You flew my parents here.” He mused shaking his head. “You’re something else...you know that right?” He added. 

“Well, it is your birthday. And you becoming a dad is kinda a big deal.” You smirked, laughing as he picked you up and spun you around, joy taking over his expression as it all finally started to settle in. 

“Yeah...becoming a dad is kinda a big deal.” He agreed, kissing you gently before pulling you over to his parents. 

You honestly weren’t sure how you both were going to top this year’s birthdays next year but you couldn’t wait to find out. 

[oliveskylarks]

~lwj astrological birth chart analysis~

hi!!! i was thinking about lan zhan’s birthday, and i got a bit curious as to what his birth chart would look like. i did a lot of guessing and interpreting here- i know there’s no official canon year in our history that this all takes place, and that its reaaaaaally difficult to get outer/generational planets right that far back in time. i did my best. enjoy!!

Aquarius Sun

The Aquarius Sun is, above all else, an individual. They strive for their independence and freedom, in whatever form that may take. Ruled by Uranus, they value and look forward to drastic changes and seek to differ from others around them. They are skilled in dealing with facts, logic, and ideas. They have razor sharp intuition, and they usually learn to rely on it early in their lives. Because of this, the Aquarius tends to stick to their beliefs on what is right and what is wrong, and usually cannot be swayed from this, unless shown concrete evidence to the contrary. The combination of these traits create an engaged spirit that seeks to maintain an emotional distance from whatever, or whoever, they are dealing with. This emotional distance is key in defining the core essence of Aquarius- they use it to attempt to transcend the mundane, the drama, and those annoying emotions they can’t seem to get rid of. An Aquarius may face challenges that arise resulting from their detachment, and their struggles with emotion and working with others. This may make them come across as unemotional, rigid, or cold. However, they’re motivated to learn as much as they can with the world around them, and use their principles and intuition as a guide for exploring the universe. They deal in the abstract, and they are fundamentally unconventional, seeking to push boundaries and fight for the social causes they believe in. Keywords to Aquarius Sun: eccentric, independent, detached, curious, intuitive, self reliant

Scorpio Moon

Scorpio Moons are mysterious and intense. Ruled by both Pluto and Mars, they are passionate, and in search of the deeper truths behind something’s first appearance. This parallels themselves, and the truth of their emotions. Beneath all of the first impressions you get from them, there lies the truth of their inner world: sensitive to emotions around and within them, vulnerable (especially to dark mindsets), and the fear of expressing themselves and all these secrets that have been bubbling beneath the surface. All of these things they deal with makes them crave emotional purges- letting out all these powerful emotions, anger, jealousy, pain, love, compassion, in bursts because they just can’t handle keeping it to themselves anymore. They’re secretive, and it’s a defense mechanism. Keywords to Scorpio Venus: intense, sensual, moody, secretive

Capricorn Mercury

They are typically very cautious in what they say. Ruled by Saturn, they are detail oriented but they know what the big picture is. They’re good at organizing their thoughts and activities. They are conservative in what they say, and they are high focused and goal oriented. They do get irritated when too much information comes their way, because they aren’t given the time they need to process that information. Keywords to Capricorn Mercury: focused, intelligent, analytical

Capricorn Venus

People with Venus in Capricorn typically like to impress people with their intelligence and drive to succeed. Ruled by Saturn, love is very serious to them, and they might feel like they need to be at a stable, independent place in their lives to be able to settle down with someone. Behind their “cool” demeanor, they are warm and emotional people. They may be shy, but they show their feelings through their actions. They say what they mean, and how they appear to others is very important to them. To feel safe and secure, they often need to have a sense of financial security or wealth, so they may choose someone who is well off to be with. There is something soulful about someone with a Capricorn Venus, and it is even more intriguing because of their sense of privacy. Keywords for Capricorn Venus: quiet, ambitious, analytical

Leo Mars

They are extremely proud people. They tend to be quite competitive, and they do not accept compromise, or failure. They play the game of life by their own rules. They put their all into everything, including their ego, so they can get quite defensive when provoked or humiliated. Leo Mars people are naturally born leaders. They strive to succeed in any and every single thing they do. They are skilled performers, and deep inside themselves, they have a need to create. They act with their heart. However, their pride is their downfall, aided only by the high standards they set for themselves. They love being the center of attention, in more ways than one. They do take care of their partner’s needs; however, their attention is focused most on their own pleasure. They crave the excitement of a new relationship, and all the affection and love that comes along with it. They can get jealous easily, and they may “test” their partner’s loyalty. They become easily irritated with disloyalty or dishonesty. Keywords for Leo Mars: direct, dramatic, vivacious, proud

Sagittarius Jupiter

The Jupiter in Sagittarius placement creates a powerful urge to travel, to expand your knowledge and learn about other cultures. They typically can come across as detached, friendly, and non-judgemental in passing. They seek to expand wisdom, and to teach. Learning is their highest calling in life. This is a Sagittarius Jupiter’s greatest strength, but it can also cause them to come across as a know-it all, or rather aloof. Typically, not always, they may be active, and seek competition. 

Taurus Saturn

Those with their Saturn in Taurus seek tangible challenges and answers from their world. Saturn, as a generational planet, shows our limitations and challenges, and Taurus deals in the sensual, the tangible, and the desire for material pleasures. This can manifest as collection of things they deem beautiful, such as art, clothing, food, or just money. They can feel intimately tied to their physical world, and weaknesses can be found in hoarding goods valuable to them. Taurus brings this planet reliability, stability, and determination. 

Libra Uranus

Another generational placement, Libra channels Uranus’s desire for transcendence and enlightenment into art. They may be musically gifted, or particularly literate or artistic. Their deep imagination gives way for an incredibly sense for detail, and intuition. They tend to be restless, and dislike others intruding into their private lives. Uranus in Libra is uniquely prone to domestic troubles, such as the loss of their romantic partner. They can be unconventional, and are often characterized as anarchic. The balance and reasoning they bring to this planet brings changes to the traditional definitions of law, norms, and relationships.

Scorpio Neptune

Another generational placement, the Scorpio in Neptune individual is deeply emotionally spiritual. They can find physical intimacies and pleasures as spiritual connections, and seek explanation for the truths they seek about the universe in the esoteric, or the occult. They search beyond reason- they delve into the inner workings of the soul to define the world around them. They often find inner conflict in their selfish desires and fantasies, and their overwhelming tendency for self-sacrifice. 

Cancer Pluto

As Pluto represents hidden power and the deep psyche, Cancer gives meaning to this with emotional connection. Every emotion is incredibly intense, and a lot of inner conflict comes from their efforts to control their emotions. They are protective of those they love, and because of this, they seek to always be one step ahead of all their troubles in order to protect themselves and those they love. They find their purpose in their family and their relationships. They may also find themselves clinging to their childhood belief systems, even when this conflicts with what they find they desire in the present.

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OKAY LETS CHAT. lets address the elephant in the room. yes, canonically, mdzs is not set in any time in our history. im just a hoe for astrology and i pieced together a relative year based on historical context given throughout canon, 423 AD. already a bit shakey on the timing of things, but also, because this is soooo far back, i did not factor in retrogrades for outer planets. technically speaking, since this is so far back in history, retrogrades become a bit insignificant when calculating for planets like jupiter, that switch signs every year and can retrograde several times a year. oh fuckin well.

BUT IS THIS NOT THE MOST LAN WANGJI THING YOUVE EVER SEEN??????

let’s dive right in, shall we?

We all know homeboy’s an aquarius sun, but like come on. “value and look forward to drastic changes and seek to differ from others around them” ???? “skilled in dealing with facts, logic, and ideas” ???? “emotional distance is key in defining the core essence of Aquarius- they use it to attempt to transcend the mundane, the drama, and those annoying emotions they can’t seem to get rid of. An Aquarius may face challenges that arise resulting from their detachment, and their struggles with emotion and working with others. This may make them come across as unemotional, rigid, or cold. however, they’re motivated to learn as much as they can with the world around them, and use their principles and intuition as a guide for exploring the universe” ???? fuck yeah my dude.

having a scorpio mood explains his unsettling demeanor that we experience through wwx’s 15 year old eyes. Not only is he quiet and rule abiding, but he’s ~mysterious~. he’s secretly brimming with enough feelings to make rambunctious wwx shit himself. not only that, but he’s emotionally constipated!!! we love to see it. WE ALSO LOVE TO SEE EVIDENCE OF THE EMOTIONAL INTENSITY THAT MAKES WWX WANT TO CRY EVERY TIME LWJ TELLS HIM HE LOVES HIM OKAY BYE

cap mercury- reserved, brief, to the point. all in character.

cap venus- warm and emotional behind a cool demanor???? If that aint him???? soulful, intentional, and a rich motherfucker. yes yes yes.

OKAY THE LEO MARS MAKES THE MOST SENSE. Everyone’s so suprised to see him tell wwx to shut up and get out so many times in the beginning of wwx’s stay at the cloud recesses. But leo mars really does give him quite the temper. He’s got a bit of an ego, even if he doesn’t show it all that often. he needs to be the best at everything he does- and he is. he’s truly hanguang-jun. also in novel canon, he a dom top. and we love him for it. he knows what he wants. he knows how to get it.

okay normally i don’t put much thought into outer/generational planets, but because this is a “historical” tale, i think it’s important to put his personality into context. of course, none of these planets have an incredibly direct hand into the personality, they more give context and the foundations of the personality given your generation. first off- the sagittarius jupiter is actually so true?? he shows up in the chaos, he gets into the thick of conflicts all over the place. of course he does, how else is he supposed to learn? even if he’s quiet and doesn’t show all the character development he goes through, it’s there. there’s a reason why after wwx comes back to life, that he doesn’t really go after him for demonic cultivation. it’s because lwj seeked out places that put him out of his comfort zone (finding wwx in the burial grounds after the sunshot campaign to see all the wens, following wwx after his massacre), that really taught him the lesson “what is right? what is wrong? what is black? what is white?” let me tell you, if he just stayed in the cloud recesses year round, he would not have arrived at that conclusion. and he sure as hell comes off as aloof. if you don’t think so, ask su she.

we don’t really get to see much of lwj’s domestic life in the thick of the plot, so it’s hard to say how accurate his saturn sign is. all i know is that he’s reliable and stable as hell.

doing research on the libra uranus placement cracked me the fuck up. musically gifted? check? your romantic partner dying and leaving you alone? check. unconventional relationships? check. that last one i really want to stress. being “cutsleeve” in that historical context is very unconventional. also, given the romantic relationship that has been modelled to him in his most formative years, a stable, healthy relationship with good communication is rather unconventional. for sure, he challenges laws, norms and relationships throughout the cultivation world.

the scorpio neptune i also found really fascinating. as painful as it is for us to admit, for a long time, lan zhan’s desires and love for wwx can be interpreted as a bit selfish. not inherently!!! just that it was unrequited, and especially since wwx screamed at him in a cave as he lay dying and lwj just told him over and over again that he loved him. (wanna stress!! love is not inherently selfish!!! context!!!) he also has an undeniable tendency to self sacrifice. all the fucking time. he just don’t stop. every opportunity that he can take to punish himself for not adhering to his childhood standards, he physically punishes himself. he blames himself for a shitton of things that’s happened to him. and this is a major conflict for his character development. i also find it interesting that the scorp neptune gives an interest in the esoteric/occult. given that this is a fantasy world where he gets to go kill monsters and demons, i find this very interesting.

cancer pluto. hoooooo booyyyyy. he sure as hell tries to control his emotions. from what we, the audience, can see, he seems to have a very intense emotional world. this is only proven further by his scorpio moon and neptune. his dedication to waiting for his deceased mother for a month after she passed, his continued attachment to his uncle despite lqr’s devout hatred of the love of his life, and his dedicated attachment to wwx, this seems pretty true to me. and if anyone tries to tell me he doesnt cling to his childhood belief systems despite their contrast to his current desires, idk what ill do. Ill have to reread and rewatch everything.

oh boy!!! this was actually so much fun. if i got anything wrong, lmk!! ill make edits!! bc i did this all within an hour in the middle of the night, completely dehydrated lol

thanks for reading this far!!!

[chicagocityofclans]

Belle Cunningham → Taissa Farmiga → Warlock

→ Basic Information

Age: 64

Gender: Female

Sexuality: Pansexual

Powers: Creation

Birthday: December 21st

Zodiac Sign: Sagittarius

Religion: Buddhism

Mark: Unknown

Generation: 1st

→ Her Personality Belle is a kind and shy spirit compared to her warlock brothers and sisters. She’s simple and open, wanting to live her life to the fullest. She possesses a strong intellect and a sharp, witty demeanor. She is very forgiving and straightforward but can at times be perceived as aggressive, especially when she is hurt and finally speaks from the heart. Her soft nature is often taken for granted. Before she learned of her powers, she was a bit of a loner, and became increasingly isolated as she experienced the symptoms of being a Creator. Once found and over the course of her training, Belle developed a deeper passion for being a warlock and familial love for the supernatural community. She grew into a vibrant and confident woman and found a new popularity amongst others of her kind. She also developed a sense of responsibility, helping her mentor with the other mentees and taking on jobs related to her powers within the warlock and witch community.

→ Her Personal Facts

Occupation: Seeker in Training and Creator of Magical Cauldron, Pots and Unbreakable Bottles

Scars: None

Tattoos: None

Two Likes: Warmth and The Sun

Two Dislikes: The Cold and Snow

Two Fears: Cacophobia and Dentists

Two Hobbies: Creating organic/inorganic matter to study and visiting theme parks

Three Positive Traits: Creative, Easygoing, Insightful

Three Negative Traits: Cynical, Melodramatic, Oversensitive

→ Her Connections

Parent Names:

Velma Cunningham (Mother): Velma was there throughout Belle’s long stays at the hospital, unclear diagnostics and sleepless nights. Once Belle learned about the supernatural life, she knew she couldn’t leave her mother behind and took her along with her. They have a strong bond and unbreakable bond. However, with her mother nearing her mid-80s, Belle has become increasingly worried for her health.

Sibling Names:

None

Children Names:

None

Romantic Connections:

Maya ‘Flower’ Hanes (Girlfriend): Belle and Flower had to overcome a lot at the beginning of their relationship, between both of them being closeted, Flower being engaged and terrified of commitment, and the ever evolving issues with Belle’s powers. A part of Belle thinks since they made it through that, there’s nothing they can’t face with each other. Belle loves her sarcasm and originality, and just how special she is when no one is looking. She just likes being around her, whether they’re both working quietly, lying around in bed or hanging out at a bar.

Platonic Connections:

Eric Lasiter (Mentor): Eric has always treated her with respect. Most of her life she was used to being talked down to or treated like she didn’t understand what was happening with her own body. Eric listened to her requests to keep her mother around, and helped her find a way to work around her disabilities. She has a lot of respect for him, and appreciates he’s never tried to act like her father.

Ashley Malone (Friend): Ashley has only been studying with Eric for a few years, but she has worked closely with her in developing Ashley’s power. They don’t have the same close connection that she and Chai do, but Belle thinks she’s a good egg.

Chai Gates (Good Friend): When Eric was too busy or clueless on what to do with Belle, Chai was always around to take her out or teach her shortcuts to her powers. Chai is the older sister Belle never had. They have a close sisterly bond.

Arianna Garcia (Best Friend): Ari being around her age was probably a big factor of why they clicked easily and have been friends for decades. Their friendship has never dulled and they can send over 300 text messages to each other in a day.

Judson Cleirigh (Retailer): Belle sells her products out of her home but also sells most of her makings out of Wondering Worlds of Magic.

Amberlynn Chase (Friend): Amber and Belle met at Lollapalooza a couple of years ago. They kept running into each other at different stages and then started seeing each other after various concerts. Now Amber is the first person Belle calls if she wants to check out a new band or go to a concert.

Simon Lee Weyden (Friend): Belle met Simon through her relationship with Flower. At first their friendship was strained; only communicating in mutual sitting where Flower was involved. But that quickly changed when they attended a Linkin Park concert together; which Flower and the rest of their group pulled out randomly.

Jia Hu Cleirigh (Supporter): Jia saw her and Flower together, back when Flower was technically engaged to Audo Wilhelm and neither of them were out. He’s been a silent supporter, offering them guidance when needed and using whatever influence he has to keep any older Wilhelms out of their way.

Lawrence Cocci (Friend): When they met, Lawrence was performing a magic trick that was reckless and involved fire. It was the first time Belle had seen magic performed in the open nearly 50 years ago. She quickly stuck by his side and made sure to attend every event Lawrence was on the guest list for.

Gretchen Sims (Friend): Gretchen is always an easy person to talk, sober or high, and she never feels pressured around her. Gretchen has introduced her to a lot of natural healing like yoga that has helped her immensely with her healing.

Esther Yoo (Friend): Belle was at a local bar when she heard Esther play for the first time. She thought she was incredible and had Gretchen introduce the two of them. She tries to attend every show of Esther’s and Flower even got her to record a CD for her Christmas present last year.

Shannon Harris (Good Friend): She and Shannon met at an art class about 5 years ago. Shannon looked uncomfortable and so Belle went over and sat down next to her. They talked most of the night and when Flower came to help her home, Shannon asked if she did the class regularly. They reconnected afterwards and became surprisingly close friends, and Belle acts as a sounding board for a lot of the stress Shannon feels.

Emmett Wilhelm (Trainer): She asked Emmett to start training her last year, and only now did the council approve it. They all think she’s too young, but Emmett has never denied her any experiences that a Seeker must go through since they’ve begun training.

Chiara Ricci (Friend): She met the vampire the first time she went down to the Underground. They clicked fast and Belle tried to make it down at least once every two weeks to hang out with her.

Hostile Connections:

None

Pets:

Mike (Maine Coon Cat): The first thing Belle did when she got better was adopt a cat.

→ History Belle, like most witches and warlocks, never knew her father. It never made much difference to her. Her mother Velma created all the love that she needed and provided the best she could for her daughter. However there was nothing she could really do when Belle started getting sick. At first it was common clumsiness that happens when children learn to move, but then it evolved into numbness and then eventually severe pain and weakness. Belle’s once bright and playful childhood began to be weekly doctor’s visits and constant pain. No one could discover what was wrong with her body and By the time she was 16 she practically lived at the hospital and was emotionally unable to handle it anymore. No one believed her symptoms were real because she couldn’t find any explanation for them. She lost the cool, positive outlook she had in life and the pressure of not knowing what was wrong with her began eating away the last of her emotional stability. It wore on her mother and the doctors and Belle developed anxiety over everything within the medical community. At 17, Belle had lost most of her desire to fight, until she met Dr. Kudzai Rinker. She asked her to start from the beginning and spent hours writing everything down. Then she took her mother aside. When they returned, her mother had tears in her eyes and Kudzai came over to Belle. She moved her hands along her back, and Belle found the constant pain from the last decade gone. She became overwhelmed and Kudzai explained everything.

A week later, after daily treatments from Kudzai, Belle left the hospital and met with the Council. They explained more in-depth and looked at her mark to verify she was a first generation. Then they discussed the best course of action and who could take her in. Though she was in pain, the thought of losing her mom terrified her. In the midst of the discussion, Eric Lassiter came in. There was a vague acknowledgement as he walked in, but they all seemed surprised when he spoke to her. He offered her a spot training under him, speaking to her rather than about her, and she said yes. When they discussed it later he promised she could stay with her mother and that they’d figure out a plan for her physical therapy. Eric began training her almost immediately and though she’d never done any accidental magic before, she found that she picked up the basics quickly.

She trained thoroughly for the next 40 years, and found herself blossoming. For the first time ever, Belle had friends who took her out to bars and went to concerts and taught her how to have fun. Her mobility was sometimes a challenge, but many of them just helped her work around it. Though she had an active and popular social life, she had never been romantically interested in anyone. About 10 years ago she met Flower in a bar and instantly clicked with her. They started spending time together more and more often. Belle talked about the craziness of her life, Flower talked about the Wilhelms and her asshole fiancée. That nearly broke Belle’s heart, but she was resolved to be there for her friend and shove any feelings down for her. That stopped soon after Flower cornered her and kissed her, and admitted everything about her family. Neither of them were out and Flower was betrothed. They started dating in secret and kept their relationship under wraps, as best friends. 3 years ago, Flower talked Belle into coming out of the closet about their relationship. First, Flower told her fiancée and the two came to the conclusion that they will never be together or get married; and continue to tell both of their families. After the Wilhelms were notified, Belle and Flower told the rest of their friends and family. They have been openly together ever since.

→ The Present At first Velma tried to hide her sickness and old age from Belle but as her symptoms took a turn for the worst, everyone in their community could tell, including Belle. Belle has stepped up to the plate, taking care of her mother like she once took care of her. Her friends are trying to convince her that it is a part of life and that her mother cannot be saved. Belle, however, has been inquiring to Kudzai and the local necromancer, Ronan, about possibly saving her mother's life. She isn’t ready to let her mother go.

Belle has recently begun her training as a Seeker. She wants to help find other witches and warlocks. She knew her own pain and the worry she caused her mother before finding out she was indeed a warlock. Belle hopes she can save others from the same pain and feeling of being alone. Emmett and Eric are concerned about her health issues and constant need for physical therapy which doesn’t line up with a Seeker lifestyle.

→ Available Gif Hunts (we do not own these)

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[dailyglow]

This Age Brings Forth The ReUnion Of The Twin Flames In Order To Restore The Unity Of Creation And Collapse Duality.

{author unknown | edited for length + clarity}

The ideas presented here come from the perspective of the original author's experience in the process of Fusion of the Twin Flame and is not intended to qualify or disqualify the experiences of others.

The Union of the Twin Flame is one of service, which is not to be romanticized in the context by which one perceives the male and female relationship. The service of the Twin Flame is not only for the planet but also Cosmic and Universal.

The Twin Flame has a great challenge before them for their Union needs to accomplish surrender of ego to their One Essence.

1. One Essence

The Twin Flame originates from the same One Essence which was created by Father/Mother God from the Ocean of Love. That One Essence divided itself into two exactly equal and opposite intonations in order to experience form. In the beginning they remained always united as a perfect sphere with one center of gravity and one common equator or Zero Point ... However, as the three-dimensional experience unfolded they became separated in a dualistic system which pulled them into an unbalanced equilibrium expressing itself through two extended and separated forms. The Twin Flames are now coming back into unification through all dimensional frequencies in order to restore the Unity of God's Creations and collapse duality. Accordingly, there exists only ONE true tonal mate of the Twin Flame which is expressed in a male and female form ... the exact equal and opposite frequency intonation.

It is important to make the distinction between a Twin Flame and a soulmate. There exists only one pair of partners who are Twin Flames, which is not a disposable union ... for the Essence of it can never be replaced with another mate. Contrarily, soulmates come in many different forms and different intonations ... for a soulmate is anyone with whom you have had a past life experience.

2. Tonal Mates

We recently came across a very unique manner in which to explain or illustrate the concept of the Twin Flame.

In the book, "The Universal One", by Walter Russell he explains the principle of tonal mates in terms of chemical reactions.

Accordingly, it is stated ... that if we create a chemical union between the male action sodium (Na) which has an intonation of 601+ of the sixth octave ... and the female selenium (Se) which has an intonation of 702- of the next octave ... we have an unequal and unstable union of opposites.

Now, if either mate in an unequal and unstable union finds a more equal tonal mate it will leave the former and go to the latter.

Accordingly, the introduction of the female chemical iodine (I) which has an intonation of 801- of the eighth octave ... will cause sodium to leave selenium and combine with the iodine to form the more stable compound of sodium-iodide (NaI).

However, if we introduce into this new union the female chemical bromide (Br) which has an intonation of 701- of the seventh octave ... the sodium will leave iodine to form sodium-bromide (NaBr) ... an even more stable compound.

Finally, by the introduction of the female chlorine (Cl) which is the true tonal mate of sodium with an intonation of 601- of the sixth octave ... sodium will leave bromide to form the very stable compound sodium-chloride (NaCl).

Once the true tonal mates have come into union ... NO element from any octave whatsoever can displace chlorine from its union with sodium.

As the Twin Flame are true tonal mates originating from the same One Essence ... they are Divinely United by the Breath of God. Thus, we may have a new understanding to the words:

That Which God Has Joined Together

Let No Man Put Asunder.

3. Service

Many people idealize and romanticize the concept of the Twin Flame, however, the Union of the Twin Flame is carefully orchestrated by the Divine Mind in order to bring together a direct and exponential frequency impact through all dimensions and planes of this local Universe.

Do not expect candlelight dinners and bouquets of roses in this union ... that is not its purpose. This is a union which transcends all definitions of male/female unions on this planet. The Divine purpose for the union of the Twin Flame is to create the Harmonic Intonation of Completion and to be at service ... planetary service, cosmic service and universal service. Thus, personal preferences, relationships and perceived obligations may be thrust aside so that absolute service to the Divine Plan becomes the ONLY reality of the Twin Flame. When we take the Twin Flame beyond the human perception ... we see the potential of a tremendous force of Divine Action.

Are You Prepared To Serve?

4. Inner Completion

Only at the point of inner completion is it appropriate to bring together the Twin Flame. When you have reached a state of wholeness within ... you will begin to magnify your Divine Tonal Complement or Twin Flame. Thus, when you no longer feel a need for a partner ... he/she will appear.

We strongly suggest that one not jump out of a current relationship and immediately attempt a Twin Flame Union. The energetic link of the former relationship needs to be dismantled and all inharmonious frequencies associated with it need to come into equilibrium. Thereafter, a time-frame for frequency alignment of the Twin Flame needs to be a consideration. You do not want to bring old baggage into this union ... Why?

This is very important ... because when the Twin Flame comes together ... Everything is Amplified!

5. Amplification

Everything is amplified due to the Unified Field of No-Time which automatically accesses Higher Dimensional Frequencies. That which is harmonious is amplified AND that which is inharmonious is amplified. If you have not achieved Inner Fusion in Equilibrium ... everything may be blown out of proportion. Little irritants may become gigantic obstacles.

Because of this amplification ... the Twin Flame may not be able to stabilize the Union ... unless they have first achieved Inner Fusion. Even at such a point ... it is a continual challenge to remain in equilibrium as the frequency octaves increase.

When you enter a Twin Flame relationship ... the ability for the consciousness to move multi-dimensionally is common place and it must be recognized that you are not here to reenact human relationships but to act as a bridge to the Higher Dimensional Frequencies of Oneness.

You must be willing to let go immediately of inharmonious emotional reactions. Do not try to fit the Twin Flame relationship into a human context of interaction ... for it does not belong there.

If you need to get angry with your partner ... so be it ... it is just an illusion ... your identity is being challenged! However, it does not serve to remain in anger for more than five minutes ... Let go! ... It is an illusion. Do not let the mind and altered ego rationalize and justify such reactions. Remember, we are dealing with tremendous amplification here ... so seek equilibrium.

6. One Identity

The Twin Flame relationship is an Androgynous unit. This requires an adaptation in identification. You may not necessarily feel female and you may not necessarily feel male ...

As each one has completed their Inner Fusion ... there is an absence of polarity within the relationship. They are simply ONE! One Consciousness ... One Essence ...

The very nucleus of the cells of the two embodiments of the Twin Flame are fused together. They have realigned into their original sphere with one center of gravity and one common equator or Zero Point. And like the example of the union of sodium and chlorine ... they have lost their metallic qualities and become the "salt of the earth".

Allowing each one to demonstrate their ability without personal identification to the results. Without claiming the results as one's own ...

Because Nothing Is Truly Accomplished

Outside Of The Harmonic Note

Which Is Your One Essence!

7. Complementary

So, when we state that the Twin Flame is One Essence ... does this mean that they are exactly the same? Do they have the same Divine Attributes and abilities? ... Do they have the same strengths and weaknesses? ... Do they have the same likes and dislikes? THE ANSWER IS ... YES and NO!

They Are Complementary!

The Exact Equal & Opposite Intonation

The Union of Which Makes One Harmonic Overtone

The similarity is in the Harmonic Note ... and the difference is in the Opposite Intonation.

So what you will probably find is that each one carries the opposite or complimentary Divine Attributes within the Whole. Therefore, it is not to try to be what the other is ... but to allow the full expression of each one's Divine Attributes within the Union.

My partner brings information through in a vertical manner ... direct from the Source ... which is not necessarily sequential. I, on the other hand, have the ability to sort it all out in a horizontal manner to make it flow so that you can understand it ... which is complementary!

Thus, each one carries the complementary frequency of the Harmonic Note. Each one brings the complementary training and talents to support the Union and Divine Mission. Together ... they create a Unified Field of No-Time which allows it all to take place. Together they can accomplish more than they could as two separate beings. Together they multiply their powers exponentially.

There is no mistake ... the Twin Flame would not be brought together unless they had the absolute ability to complete their Mission of transcending the male and female dualities of this planetary system and bringing together the Harmonic Note of Completion. Thus, it is no longer necessary to play the purported designated roles of society ... but to fine tune the Harmonic Note of Completion through and by the Dimensional Frequencies.

8. Parallel Evolution

When the Twin Flame does unite and they begin to compare their lives ... do not be surprised at the similarity and complementarity of their evolution.

When I met my partner and we began to compare ... we found that within one to three months of each other we were enacting similar experiences. Following our Inner Guidance ... we twice moved our residences at the same time and in the same manner ... we were instructed to get rid of our furniture and detach ... we were instructed to end relationships ... and before meeting physically we experienced Fusion of Our Essence in the Higher Dimensional Embodiments.

The closer you come to Union the closer the time-frame of the parallel experiences. Remember, you are One Essence being guided by the same Source.

It does not matter where you are or what your lifestyle is ... if one is in reclusion and one is on public display ... when it is time for your Union it will happen. You do not have to go out and look for it. You do not have to wonder if every person you pass on the street is your Twin Flame. It is not in your hands to orchestrate this Union ... but it lies strictly in the hands of the Divine Mind and within your Sacred Heart and your Covenant with God.

9. Harmonic Note

Many people ask the question ... "How do I know for sure that this is my Twin Flame?"

I do not believe that this can be an externally answered question ... it is something that you will know within your Heart. The best I can hope to do is provide a Guiding Light.

We have already covered most of the points ... if you take into consideration Inner Completion ... Parallel Evolution ... Amplification ... One Identity ... Complementary Attributes and Service ... what is left?

The Harmonic Note will be the key identifying factor. Since you both originate from the same Essence ... you both carry the EXACT equal and opposite intonation. Thus, one may experience the sense of being with oneself ... alone but not al-one ... simply all ONE. The sense of Oneness is such that one does not feel as if there is another vibratory presence with them ... for the vibration is unified as ONE!

For example ... you may have, in past relationships or interaction with other people ... had to adjust your vibratory rate to accommodate others. This may have been evidenced by a need to pull back into your own space in order to attune to your own vibration and realign yourself.

In the Twin Flame relationship it is not necessary in any way to adjust your vibratory rate to accommodate the other. You are exactly the same ... vibrating to, with and within the same Essence. A unique Harmonic Note in the Ocean of Love.

Accordingly, the Twin Flame has the ability to remain in each others Presence in a Continuum of No-Time.

10. Employing Wisdom

Be aware that not all Twin Flames exist in the same dimension. Those Twins who are here on Earth have agreed to undertake this Divine Service. They have been specifically prepared to undergo this Mission.

Ultimately ... as the Earth moves into fifth dimensional alignment and the substrata of human consciousness is opened ... the Twin Flames may be reunited at other dimensional levels.

So, please, employ wisdom in assimilating this information. Do not take up a personal venture to find your Twin Flame and disrupt whatever harmonious relationships you are now in. We are here to live experiences in whatever form they may take. And if you are in a relationship and the experience is not completed ... then enjoy it!

It is not necessary that one be with their Twin Flame in order to serve the Divine Plan ... it is only necessary to follow your personal Covenant With God and ... Live the Love That You Are!

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[clonedspider]

DO YOU BELIEVE THAT YOU HAVE A RIGHT TO THIS?

TO BREATHE AND EAT AND DRINK OF THE EARTH LIKE A REAL BOY?

☾ — KAINE PARKER/SCARLET SPIDER is here! HE has found themselves wandering about new gotham attempting to find their place in this challenging world. they were once a ANTI-HERO who used to be associated with NEW WARRIORS/SPIDERFAM/SOLO.

hope they make it in this world.

the basics —

NAME: kaine parker

ALIASES: scarlet spider, houston’s spider-man, araña escarlata, 

AGE: 19

BIRTHDAY & ZODIAC: doesn’t have one & gemini

MBTI: entj

PREFERRED PRONOUNS: he & him

FACECLAIM: noah centineo

a deeper look —

FAMILY: miles warren (creator/father), peter parker (genetic template/brother), ben reilly (fellow clone/brother), may parker (aunt), spidercide (fellow clone, deceased), guardian (fellow clone, deceased), jack (fellow clone, deceased), spider-skeleton (fellow clone, deceased)

AFFILIATION: new warriors, spiderfam, solo

THREE FAVORITE THINGS: drinking cheap beer, swinging through the busy streets for several hours, sleeping in past noon

THREE HATED THINGS: his “father”, computers, being called a hero

EDUCATION: possesses memories of peter’s education

SKILLS: HAND-TO HAND COMBAT: uses an unusual type of free-style technique similar to that of spider-man, but has no qualms against fighting in a more brutal style MULTILINGUAL: can speak english, spanish, and japanese   KNOWLEDGE OF CHEMISTRY.

WEAPONS: a blade that extends out of each wrist of his suit

ABILITIES: MARK OF KAINE: has a deformity in his hands. he can leave a severe burn mark on a person by making skin-to-skin contact with them. he typically leaves this mark across a person's face, though it is presumed he can do the same to other parts of the body. non-offensive usage of this power allows Kaine to easily burn his long hair (along with his beard) to a shorter length without burning himself in the process. ORGANIC WEBBING GENERATION: the ability to produce his own silk webbing from glands within his forearms. PSYCHIC ALIGNMENT WITH SPIDERS: a method of creating a psychic alignment to become empathetic and develop a relationship with spiders and insects. essentially talking to them. IMMUNE TO SPIDER-MAN’S SPIDER-SENSE: due to their sharing the same dna, spider-man's spider-sense recognizes kaine as "self.” SUPERHUMAN STRENGTH: able to lift up to 60 tons. his strength extends into his powerful leg muscles, allowing him to leap heights and distances in excess of human capability. kaine generally has no restraints on using his super-strength against enemies with typical human durability, and as such, is capable of severely injuring enemies with normal attacks. SUPERHUMAN SPEED: capable of running and moving at speeds that are beyond the natural physical limits of the finest human athlete. SUPERHUMAN STAMINA: kaine's augmented musculature is much more efficient than that of a normal human being. as a result, his muscles produce lesser amounts of fatigue toxins during physical activity than do those of ordinary humans. he can exert himself physically at peak capacity for at least several hours before the build up of fatigue toxins in his blood begins to impair him. SUPERHUMAN DURABILITY: his bodily tissues are resistant to powerful impact or blunt force trauma. he can withstand impacts, such as falling from several stories, being repeatedly struck with superhuman force or by several powerful energy blasts, that would severely injure or kill a normal human with little to no injury himself. REGENERATIVE HEALING FACTOR: his physiology was augmented with a limited healing factor. SUPERHUMAN AGILITY: kaine's agility, balance, and bodily coordination are enhanced to levels beyond the natural physical limits of the finest human athlete. in spite of his increased size and mass, kaine is still just as agile as spider-man. SUPERHUMAN REFLEXES: reflexes are similarly enhanced and are more efficient than those of an ordinary human by a factor of fifteen. WALL-CRAWLING: able to stick to virtually any surface and crawl across it. his mental control over this ability has been increased to such a degree, he can rip a wall down just by tugging at it hard enough with his palms.

the questionnaire —

WHAT IS SOMETHING YOUR CHARACTER LIKES ABOUT NEW GOTHAM? SOMETHING THEY DISLIKE? DO THEY MISS THE WAY THINGS WERE - OR DO THE LIKE HOW THE WORLD IS NOW? IS IT WEIRD TO THEM TO SEE MULTIPLE TYPES OF PEOPLE AND CREATURES AROUND? OR ARE THEY USED TO IT? WERE THEY ORIGINALLY FROM ONE OF THE TWO MAIN CITIES - OR SOMEWHERE ELSE?

kaine doesn’t care about seeing otht creatures around, not feeling like he has the right to make such judgments. he likes that being in new gotham is another chance to live an actual life. he had been through a lot of traumatic events, and never actually got the chance to enjoy the life he has been given. nobody expects anything from him here in this city which is perfect to blend in. he doesn’t think his life will ever be normal, always convincing himself to help out someone in need. he can just be kaine here if he wanted to. which is all the boy needs. kaine was created in a test tube somewhere in new york, but after making his escape from his creator after being rejected — the clone settled in houston, texas. he didn’t plan on staying there, but they had been so excited about having their own hero that eventually kaine stayed until the change happened. so yes, he does have a southern accent.

WHERE WAS YOUR CHARACTER WHEN EVERYTHING CHANGED? ARE THEY SUSPICIOUS OF EVERYONE OR ARE THEY TRYING TO REMAIN UNDER THE RADAR? HAVE THEY REUNITED WITH THEIR FRIENDS OR ARE THEY LOST? WERE THEY AT HOME IN BED? OUT PATROLLING THE STREETS? IN THE MIDDLE OF A WAR? WHAT’S HAPPENED TO THEM NOW?

kaine doesn’t trust anyone except a select few. it’s just part of his thing. his list of people he lowers his guard around is small — ben and peter being at the top of the list and any other members of the spiderfam that his brothers seem to trust. he has been rejected, and ridiculed for being made so he doesn’t know how to figure out who‘s actually being genuine with their kindness. he’ll get there, just be patient with him. kaine may be suspicious of strangers and their intentions, but he’s a good friend.

he was in bed when everything happened, passed out in his scarlet spider suit after helping out the local police on a case. he’s just kind of following around ben wherever he goes for now far as living arrangements go. 

ADDITIONAL INFORMATION —

ANYTHING YOU WANT US TO KNOW? ANY HEADCANONS?

origin —

kaine is a clone of peter parker.

he was miles warren’s first attempt at cloning peter. the jackal initially thought it was a success, but kaine would become deformed due to a flaw in the cloning process. the boy would continue to degenerate — he was left deformed and mentally unstable.

the jackal allows the clone to live as a test subject. he wanted to see how long kaine would survive, and to his surprise ends up exceeding his expectations.

kaine grows to experience a strong feeling of rejection similar to one that would arise between a father and son. miles warren tries to dispose of the clone by throwing him into the trash heap of his other failed experiments. kaine ends up escaping of course, which made all the other clones in the facility happy to see. the spider developed some of peter’s abilities, but also some of his own.

for a long time kaine believes that he didn’t deserve to have a life for himself. he didn’t know how to have one. he felt broken, angry, and like a monster.

kaine made a decision to settle down in mexico, but ended up living in houston, texas instead. every time he tried to leave something pulled him into staying. the civilians are who started calling him the SCARLET SPIDER. he was their first hero — much to the clone’s hatred of that word. he tries to live up to what peter has done, but it’s a work in progress.

eventually kaine came across a cure that stabilized his dna. he was no longer deformed, and looks like the perfect clone of peter. miles warren continues to see kaine as a disappointment after this, still thinking that the clone deserves to stay in the trash heap.

he has a tattoo that wraps around his entire left bicep, and he stands tall at six foot four.

equipment —

kaine’s scarlet spider costume is known as a stealth suit. it allows him to become completely invisible and capable of sound cancelling abilities. the suit is also fireproof, and can heal itself when torn. there’s also a blade that can come out of the wrists of the suit which come in handy in hand-to-hand combat. he brought his suit with him since he was wearing it at the time when brought over.

[midnight-musings-blog]

Chapter One of my Sebastian LaCroix fan fiction

So, I've had this idea for a while, some parts in the works for a year or so, which over the months have developed into a concept for a multi-chapter fanfiction. This is a Sebastian LaCroix/OC story, although be aware that romantic and possibly smut elements will develop rather slowly. If you like LaCroix as a character and like to see the depth and character development, then this may be for you. Likewise, if you are interested in vampire and human interactions and vampire and ghoul relationships, you may well like this as that is what it’s about.

Here is the first section of chapter one...

Through the long windows of his penthouse office, Sebastian LaCroix looked out on this late evening. The skies were black but obscured with wisps of grey cloud sailing before the stars and bright moon. And sentinel skyscrapers, foreboding in the dark with a blood orange glow of windows dotted upon their dark edifices. Below, perhaps the figures of people - insignificant; how small they seemed from here.

There was always life in a city. Always some tragedy and a reason for order to be maintained.

He liked to be alone with his thoughts. And, there would be much to think about now. The stillness of the night and the sense of remove from the life below was always a good setting for thinking. And it was becoming a habit of his. A familiar sight at his penthouse in the highest tower of Los Angeles. But this was not there.

New York, like most cities of the New World, had always been volatile, in spite of Camarilla and Ventrue presence in the most prominent areas. The Sabbat had been subdued for now and Camarilla power was reinstated. He had played an important role of course. Always the overachiever. And yes, he had achieved much over his long life, and he was not shy in letting those that met him know, out of his pride, ambition and a sense of superiority. And yet, there was a need to prove something. He had a fear of failure. Here this fragile balance was not without dramatic turbulence and losses. The Prince of New York had been destroyed by her diplomatic misjudgment. Power was always uncertain, no matter how assured it seemed.

So this was why he had reason to contemplate power now. It was always a Ventrue concern. It was part of their education; their disposition naturally leaned towards such thought, and many long lecturing discussions of the topic. So, there was nothing unusual in the philosophy of these contemplations. And it was not that he was not unpracticed in the welding of power, having had a position of leadership whilst a soldier; in his business ventures and gradually over time in Kindred concerns since his Embrace. And, as a culmination of that, he would imminently be the Prince of Los Angeles.

He had developed a presence there over the years for business purposes since he was the CEO of a large organisation and so there was a necessity to this. But it was relatively recently that he had thought seriously of being there in person, given that the territory was volatile. He had been in New York a long time. Though he was used to it and would in certain respects prefer to remain here rather than Los Angeles with its arid heat, synthetic allure and powder keg atmosphere and patchwork of factions, so it was to be. He might look forward to the adventure and a challenge. He had always done what was necessary to fulfil his desires and ambitions and was therefore accustomed to moving, whether to learn from Kindred mentors or to carve out new frontiers of influence and wealth. But he had his doubts about whether this was a prize or a sentence.

It would never be a simple rule. There were more prestigious and older Princedoms. Los Angeles was not one. Wild and temperamental. An Anarch haven; lawless and reckless. A drought of leadership. He was determined to do an admirable job there. Surely it would be a boon to him and would, so it seemed, secure his favour when he brought it to heel for the Camarilla. But it would not be easy. He knew that authority never came without the burden of responsibility and hardship, however unappreciated it went. He had been there and he knew the types he would encounter. It was doubtful for him to ever have the respect of those determinedly hostile persons, but such a worthless thing mattered little to him. Such an admirable feat for him to bring that city under control. Who could not praise him then? He did not doubt his own abilities. But what he did doubt was to trust those that backed him. He had enough experience and just enough taste of proximity to the power of the Camarilla to have illusions remaining about it. He knew there to be little real regard for him, but rather just what he could do for them. It mattered little if he survived this, just so long as he paved the way enough for their purposes. He had learned that few, very few, could ever be trusted. But Sebastian LaCroix, for all his faults, was not one to shrink from what seemed insurmountable. He was admirable in that way. Even a bit reckless and crazy in his daring, though on the surface he might have seemed austere. He loved a challenge. And he embraced the challenge of change and difficult odds. Had he not been born to a time of great change when young, before his Embrace?

The Embrace and first taste of undeath were never pleasant. It had shocked him then.

He looked at the dark night now; his reflection thinly visible upon the glass. He could rationalise those feelings of distress now. Look upon it with the clinical remove of time. He still thought as a human then and so it was horrifying to realise what he had become. But he had come to some manner of stability in living this way. And, to settle into ambition for the great possibilities offered to him which was the objective he sought now. Naturally, he was still cautious of the darkness that dwelt in the heart of every Kindred.

He knew what he was. He had grown to have a level of detachment after these many, many decades, and wasn’t discomforted by the fact that the blood of humankind to which he had once belonged, was now his sustenance. But certainly, he did not wish to be a wandering wraith of degenerated spirit, within whom only bloodlust and feral malice remained.

He might have shivered at that thought. He loathed squalor and vulgarity. Whether in the form of Anarch escapades or the disgusting excesses of the Sabbat, such was anathema to him, whatever his own indifference. The night seemed still with sultry darkness. And, it was not yet very late. He had tasks to attend to.

Continue reading at https://archiveofourown.org/works/17571479

I will also cross-post on Fanfiction.net too here - https://www.fanfiction.net/s/13191780/1/Fates-Traced-in-Blood

[actualhumansunshine]

loveyourskinnyties replied to your post “loveyourskinnyties replied to your post “loveyourskinnyties replied to your post “I just really...”

That’s exactly what I was thinking in regards to Jake. It’s prob so valuable to have someone whose individual sound you have so much faith in who you can go to and say “what would you do with this song” to help give him a better sense of what he already has in a song and what a song can potentially be. And YES it’s SUCH a Niall thing. Both to create his own little family to provide the kind of stability and familiarity he thrives on but also to challenge

him I think. Because giving Bird or Jake or whoever a little more ownership and a little more leeway in their solos, etc is going to keep NIALL on his toes and push him to get even better at improvising and experimenting on the spot with something new and evolving his sound even when he’s not in the studio. And I think even if nothing came of them writing together, the trust they would be building on by doing that would be

and would indeed push Bird further into that No 2 spot. Also having someone with such similar sensibilities with that built in trust as his both literal and figurative right hand man probably gives Niall more freedom on stage to just be Niall and let a little more of the band leadership and direction fall to Bird.

YES, I definitely feel like bird had ALREADY taken quite a bit on as far as band leadership goes, especially as they got further and further into the tour, but it’s interesting to think about what this next tour will be like with that relationship even more solidly in place AND niall's confidence as a front man even stronger than it was before. cause for the sessions, gerry was kind of taking the lead and helping niall ease into things and bird was right there next in line, then when gerry left to rejoin james bay it seemed fairly nature for both bird AND niall to take on a bigger leadership role in their own ways.

but then that just makes thinking about where the relationship *could go* and the affect that could have on niall as a performer is SO exciting to think about. i know that from what he’s said himself, he can be fairly regimented about the setlist and doing things a certain way in a certain order, but the ultimate dream would be for him to get to a place where he's comfortable in improvising and experimenting in the moment onstage. adding or changing songs, letting jam sessions within songs breath a little more. a true musician's type of gig, you know?

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Astrological correspondences in the suit of Pentacles;

The suit of Pentacles describes a journey based on human interactions with the more practical and physical aspects of being alive on Earth. Much like earthy planets and signs, the suit of Pentacles draws attention to aspects of life that are highly influenced by the senses, thus describing a more grounded relationship with tangible reality. This is a story about hard work, ambitions, property and privilege.

i. Ace of Pentacles: Earth.

            The Ace of Pentacles symbolises the opportunity to start a new earthy journey. The way is fertile ahead of you, ready to flourish into a beautiful garden if you put the right amount of work and dedication into it. Nevertheless, some kind of fertility or opportunity for abundance is being offered to you. There are prospects of success and wealth, be it internal and:or external.

ii. Two of Pentacles: Jupiter in Capricorn.

            For a tarot card that is so very much related to equilibrium and multitasking, it’s interesting to note that it vibrates with Capricorn Jupiter’s energies. Isolated, Jupiter and Capricorn vibrate in very different ways. Jupiter blesses, expands and enchants with luck. Capricorn, on the other hand, contracts, works hard and is generally not fond of excesses. This is a card that brings opposites together, in a way, drawing attention to the need of finding balance and dealing with dualities and impasses with wisdom and elegance. Accept change, and develop the maturity to deal with it as you go, for change is eternal. Keep going and doing your best as the you encounter new challenges. Be open to be transformed through your experiences. This kind of mindset will set you up for a more successful and richer life than you had anticipated.

iii. Three of Pentacles: Mars in Capricorn.

            This is a card of that generally symbolises rewards for a work well done, which is what tends to happen when Mars’s drive is skillfully paired with Capricorn’s discipline and strategy. The result of such a combination is an unstoppable energy which pushes for nothing less than success and recognition. There is courage and energy enough to triumph over a great deal of hardships, but it is important to remember that this bravery must be put to use in clever, thoughtful ways. Focus. Organise yourself to draw all of your efforts to a single target or objective. People will soon notice (or have noticed already) how valuable, clever and hardworking you can be, so be ready to receive praise for all the dedication you have shown!

iv. Four of Pentacles: Sun in Capricorn.

Whenever i think of this card, which bears the number four, it always comes to mind that some kind of rigid pattern has been formed and that it won’t dissolve easily. Both the card and the astrological placement transmit a sense that a variety of factors have come into place in order to form a gigantic and inflexible architecture. There is strength, solidity and dependability in the individual or matter at hand. But this is also an energy that can be unwilling to change and exchange information and wealth with its environment. Somehow material affairs have become a matter of utmost importance to this individual, and they have forgotten how it feels to let go of their possessions in order to reconnect with the more subtle world around them, a world of interaction and constant transformation.

v. Five of Pentacles: Mercury in Taurus.

            An interesting placement to be matched with this card, Mercury in Taurus introduces change and doubt in a world which is accustomed to certainty, bounty and stability. In the Five of Pentacles cards, then, we are able to see this specific moment in this story, when everything we had has been taken away from us by a sweeping, unexpected current of Air. The tide has changed, and now we are faced with adversity, poverty and fears. But we must aware that the tide will soon change once more. Many times, this card indicates the ending of a period characterized by pessimism and hardship. Spring is coming to melt the ice away, so be available to interact with other people or institutions or even heavenly forces that may help you on your journey, as long as you are willing to interact. What was lost can be found again.

vi. Six of Pentacles: Moon in Taurus.

            The Moon in Taurus feels remarkably great, no wonder this is the astrological placement assigned to a card that speaks of Material Success. In Taurus, the Moon feels secure and comfortable. She is surrounded only by the sweetest of things in the universe. This creates a heavenly environment in which the Moon can express her emotional complexity and need for beauty and equality on a variety of levels. The Six of Pentacles card interpretations often indicate that the Seeker could either be in a position to be charitable and help others or be in a position to receive help from external sources. The Moon in Taurus mindset is one that fits perfectly in both of these positions. Accept success and comfort as it comes to you, because you are deserving of them either way, but also try to find peace within yourself. If you fail to forgive and respect the current situation you’re in, it is less likely you will give and receive the help you are dreaming of.

vii. Seven of Pentacles: Saturn in Taurus.

            When Saturn is in Taurus, his teachings revolve around the value of hard work and productivity, which is very much the general interpretation surrounding this card. With this energy, there is a general sense of discontentment towards one’s performance and status. The lesson is to recognise, through frustration, what failures were your responsibility, and what failures were due to the simple way in which reality operates. This will allow a more realistic perspective on the universe and how you can work towards changing what you cannot accept, but also accepting what you cannot change. The final result is an individual that values their work and themselves in more tangible, more just ways.

viii. Eight of Pentacles: Sun in Virgo.

            This is the card of the “perfectionist”, so it is not quite surprising that it is paired with the Sun in Virgo, which grants people an extreme attention to details and a striking care for excellence. This is often a card that is drawn to hardworking, studious individuals who pay a lot of attention to how they work and performance can be improved in a variety of levels. More importantly, however, the Sun in Virgo advises that material and technical improvement must be paralleled with a refinement of one’s character and spirit, as if he were saying that material wealth is best obtained when paired with internal richness. Work towards balance, wisdom, peace and prudence. Be moderate in your decisions and actions.

ix. Nine of Pentacles: Venus in Virgo.

            There is both material and internal prosperity. The individual with this energy is one that expresses their love because it is the right thing to do. They have grown to respect themselves and the world around them, enough to be able to both give and receive the love they know themselves worthy of. Because of this, there is a certain sense of independence in this card. When we learn to perform our duties out of love, it is unlikely we feel the need of someone else’s presence in order to enjoy life’s aspects and gifts. In a way, the individual acting upon this kind of energy has acquired a more holistic understanding of the universe and of life in general.

x. Ten of Pentacles: Mercury in Virgo;

            Mercury in Virgo is the end of the Pentacles’s cycle. What was lost was found. Prosperity was attained, and wealth developed. In the Ten of Pentacles, we see this wealth bein expressed outwardly. There is stability, a sense of incredible completion; even if this is a material cycle, we feel spiritually fulfilled, and this is because the end of this journey is to find both material and internal wealth in ourselves. We have a discovered a new, brilliant and delightful way to live the life that was presented to us, and because we did all we could based on love and dedication, we have attracted great things and people to ourselves. Put perhaps the most precious of emotions is the one of feeling infinite.

— Page of Pentacles: Earth + Earth.

The Page of Pentacles is elegant and refined. They’re classy, yes, put nevertheless quite practical and attentive to details. The Page of Pentacles, then, may represent an individual that is quite sensual or connected to the physical realm by how they enjoy their possessions in a very personal, sensual manner. There is great aesthetic sense, as well as a careful eye to harmonious forms. Still, there is a lot of focus on improving the world through making things and projects as effective as they can be. This is the earthy aspect of the earth as an element.    

— Knight of Pentacles: Air + Earth.

            The combination of air and earth is when strategy and prudence meets ambition and action. The result is a steady individual that is quite rational and straightforward. There is a general sense with this card involving the naivety of this individual, for as effective and stern as they may appear to be, they often perceive the world in a very solidified, preconceived manner. And even though there is some difficulty being sensitive and subtle, this is still the loveliest and kindest of all knights. The Knight of Pentacles travels slowly, and he is often depicted as the only knight to be still, not in motion. Either way, he always attains his objectives, for he tends to choose always the safest path.

— Queen of Pentacles: Water + Earth.

            Connected to all things beautiful and pretty, the Queen of Pentacles is often a kind and resourceful character. She exerts a steady confidence and may even have a powerful maternal aura about her. Like her Page, the Queen of Pentacles has great aesthetic sense and never disappoints in matters like decoration, harmony and art. Her heart is vain, but that doesn’t mean she can’t be gentle. As a matter of fact, the Queen of Pentacles tends to be quite generous regarding material affairs. Of all Queens, she’s the most practical and kindhearted one.

— King of Pentacles: Fire + Earth.

            Mature, rich and established, the King of Pentacles rules supreme over all practical and material matters. He is a King of finances and business, but nevertheless has accumulated great wisdom about living the good life. Because of this, the King of Pentacles often relates to a character that is in a position to give advice or administer projects. There is no doubt among society that he is powerful and must be respected for all the things he has conquered through his dedication and hard-working attitude. Like his Queen, the King of Pentacles is quite resourceful and always finds solutions to material problems. However, there may be some difficulty dealing with more sensitive matters and feelings.

Detail: Thomas Couture, “Les Romains de la décadence”; 1847.

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Feature Friday with Jeremy Scott

Happy Friday! In this week’s FF, we get to know Jeremy on a deeply personal and vulnerable level. He opens up about his fear of coming out because he was afraid of being judged - by the gay community. He discusses the importance of mental health, living your truth, and what made him finally decide to come out. We came away from this with our eyes opened wider than before and a fresh, new perspective. We believe you will have a lot of takeaways from Jeremy’s intelligent, inspiring words. Take a look below to see what we mean…

Where are you from? I’m from Baltimore County, Maryland.

Where do you live? I’m currently attending medical school in Knoxville, TN but will be moving back home to study for my Step 1 board exam. Then I will be traveling for my clinical rotations. I’m going to be a bit of a nomad for a little while.

Instagram handle: @jpscott09

Age: 31

On cute little mountain towns: Bariloche, Argentina is my favorite place of all time that I’ve travelled! It’s this beautiful mountain town, and whether you’re into skiing, hiking or just walking around shopping and eating, there are gorgeous mountains all around, with crystal clear water and green forests. In town there’s this incredible candy shop, named Mamushka, that is plucked right out of a scene from Charlie and the Chocolate Factory!

“But I am the sum of ALL of my parts, not the convenient choosing of a few. I can’t control what people see or choose to focus on when they look at me, discuss my accomplishments, etc. I can only live and shine in my truth; that will have to be enough. “

On an uneventful, but meaningful coming out: I’ve always known I was gay and that my family and friends knew as well. I had a gay uncle and have cousins that are gay and lesbian. After hearing an interview by a mom of one of the victims of the Orlando Nightclub shooting, I finally had a sit-down conversation with my mom. It was easy and uneventful and took place sitting in my Mom’s bathroom while she irrigated my clogged ear. I also sandwiched our conversation between reveals of my latest tattoos. She was more shocked about my tattoos than my coming out - my being gay was an unspoken fact, but the tattoos were brand new! And that’s how I said it, as if it were a statement, to my mom and any other family member or friend. I’m gay. It wasn’t an invitation for questioning or discussion, it was a statement of MY truth, that, understandably might take some time to comprehend and digest, but won’t change. I didn’t want anyone close to me to think I was ashamed of being gay just because I hadn’t said the words aloud. Silence allows for the creation of a false narrative, and I didn’t want there to be one surrounding something that makes me human, unique and worthy of love and belonging. 

On being comfortable within the gay community: It was fear of being accepted into the gay community that kept me from coming out sooner. I was overweight in my early 20s, and looking at images of the guys that frequented P Town or Fire Island, Barry’s Bootcamp or Soul Cycle made me hesitant to even believe that I’d be accepted - I was the ‘fat theater science nerd’ juxtaposed to the cool good-looking guys. It is worth mentioning that even though the gay community is a marginalized one, there exists a judging or shaming of its members. For example, placing character attributes or implicit biases and monikers such as “gold star, dairy queen, top, or bottom.” Individuals hide behind the term “preference,” to express their predilections when really, it’s a way to justify homogenizing social groupings or dating prospects. We can say it’s due to wanting to be around similar people, with a related background or potential shared experiences, but when did doing that help us grow or better ourselves? I’ve just now, over the past two/three years, gotten comfortable within the gay community, having accepted my flaws while championing my uniqueness; I’ve moved from a timid outsider to the curious and open wanderer.

On the importance on having an ally, and learning from life’s obstacles: Prior to having my “official” sit down with my family and close friends, I was outed by a classmate. We got into an argument one night, and, even though we agreed to keep everything quiet, he got into a taxi with some of our mutual friends and told them that we had been together and gave intimate details about us “hooking up.” I learned about what he had done because a friend just happened to be in the taxi that night. She will forever be someone I hold close to my heart, for many reasons, but because in that moment, she showed me the definition of true friendship- an ally against hurtful and potentially damaging hate speech and a source of support and understanding. I still think she was more bothered by the event than me. I, however, wasn’t even mad and still am not. That was a noteworthy moment that I draw strength from because at that time, I realized I was fully accepting of myself as gay and didn’t care who knew. As for moving forward from this situation and continuing on with my life, I viewed this as any other hurdle or obstacle and haven’t let it define me. I learned the lesson I was meant to learn- I dealt with forgiveness and am proud of the person I am because of it.

On the importance of “marble jar friends”: I am incredibly fortunate for the people I have in my life that I call friends and family. We are born into a family but as we grow and mature as adults, we have the ability to choose the individuals that make up our inner circle. My ��marble jar friends,” as Brené Brown calls them, are as diverse in thought as they are in their cultural and ethnic backgrounds. These are the people that want for me what they want in themselves; to be seen, heard, and know I matter.

On living his truth, despite what others think: My family and friends have been nothing but supportive, and most conversations center around if I’m dating (yes, I’m single) and when I intend on getting married. The little backlash I have received has been mostly from members of the Black community. A few black professionals have messaged and said that, “I’ve disqualified any future accomplishments I will achieve as a part of the medical community because the only thing people will see me as is a gay black man.” I vehemently disagree with their statements, but understand that in the Black community there’s still a stigma about being gay. Some individuals would rather stay on “the down low,” as if openly being gay hurts the black male professional diaspora. But I am the sum of ALL of my parts, not the convenient choosing of a few. I can’t control what people see or choose to focus on when they look at me, discuss my accomplishments, etc. I can only live and shine in my truth; that will have to be enough.  

“Silence allows for the creation of a false narrative, and I didn’t want there to be one surrounding something that makes me human, unique and worthy of love and belonging.“

On the role of the medical community when it comes to LGBTQ healthcare: The medical community has a responsibility to educate, care for, and provide adequate healthcare to the LGBTQ community, which includes promoting PrEP. I think it starts with the family practitioner, the physician that sees a patient from childhood into adulthood, to not view heterosexuality as the default. Asking a patient, “Are you sexually active? With men, women, or both?” gives permission for an answer not constrained by judgment or preconceived notions but of openness and vulnerability. As a future healthcare provider, I have a duty to stay educated and advocate for my patients. I know that my experience is unique and has left me poised to reach a population of patients that may not feel like their needs are met or their voice heard by healthcare professionals. I will take my role seriously and do my best to make sure that every individual has access to healthcare that best addresses their needs and concerns.

On destigmatizing mental health: The best thing I ever did was decide to go to therapy. I’ve consistently seen Shannon, my therapist, over the past two years. There’s still a great deal of stigma surrounding mental health, as if you should be ashamed to take an introspective look at yourself, your relationships, and those around you. If anyone has looked at #foreignfriday on a Radiologist’s Instagram, trust me when I say there’s nothing you have to be embarrassed about sitting and talking to a therapist. Sometimes we need to develop strategies on how to handle our emotions or triage a situation with respect to what needs and deserves our attention first. And sometimes we just need to vent our frustrations in a safe objective space. Whatever the reason, stability and strength starts from within and you’ll be eternally grateful for taking the necessary steps to ensuring both when you prioritize your mental health.

On living in the south: Living down south has taught me the importance of communication and understanding. We can’t ask of others things we can’t or don’t ask of ourselves, and we need to be open to having tough conversations with people of differing views and opinions. Where I might not feel comfortable walking down the street holding my husband’s hand down here, I have really embraced the old saying “you can’t judge a book by its cover.” Even after living on a Caribbean island where it is STILL illegal to be homosexual, I’ve never been this aware of my blackness and being gay. But I’ve challenged myself to look past the differences that divide us and seek the aspects of our humanity that bring us closer together. I’ve fallen in love with a guy from Knoxville and had my heart broken as well. I’ve been able to foster and find community through service and the running community. I’ve grown and am a better person for having lived down here.

On his biggest inspirations: I’m a huge Brené Brown fan-she’s my spirit guide. Her work over the years has guided me through so many unexpected turns and over impossible hurdles. Her work, along with my friends and family, whose voices have been louder than my own in times of doubt, have kept me going. I don’t know where I’d be without them, and there aren’t enough words to explain what their love means to me.

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Pedophilia is a sexual orientation

“By the above definition of sexual orientation and most common definitions of sexual orientation pedophilia can be viewed as a sexual age orientation based on the more limited evidence available regarding its age of onset, associations with sexual and romantic behavior, and stability over time. Though there are clearly differences in some respects, there are also striking similarities in the research literature on pedophilia.”

“Minor attraction is a complex sexual phenomenon that is best conceived of as a sexual orientation. Minor-attracted people appear to experience their sexuality in much the same way adult-attracted people do, albeit towards a socially unacceptable target. Given the somewhat arbitrary nature of this social distinction, the basis for the pathologization of minor attraction is questionable. The current study adds to evidence of similarities between minor attraction and other sexual minority orientations. It also shows that the experiences of minor-attracted people are quite varied. By using a non-forensic, non-clinical sample I have been able to capture a much broader range of experiences. This has illuminated not only the hardships that many minorattracted people face, but also the ways in which some have succeeded in overcoming or avoiding these hardships. This provides hope that minor-attracted people are not doomed to live unhappy lives, despite the intense stigma they face.”

“Pedophilia as a Sexual Orientation

DSM-5 did not err in referring to Pedophilia as a sexual orientation. In diagnosing any psychiatric disorder (including a Pedophilic Disorder), ordinarily the intent is to guide patient care, management, and research. In discussing the diagnostic features of individuals who are sexually attracted to prepubescent children, DSM-5 notes that some could be said to have a pedophilic sexual orientation. The term sexual orientation ordinarily reflects an individual’s subjective awareness of the category (or categories) of persons toward whom he or she is erotically attracted. Clinically, there are individuals (many of whom are described as having Pedophilia) who report a subjective awareness of being erotically attracted (either exclusively or in part) toward a category of individuals comprised of prepubescent children. Many report experiencing those attractions as unchosen in a fashion that seems very much like an orientation. That such attractions are often unwanted does not alter their resemblance to an orientation.”

Therapy is about self acceptance and having a community.

“The best treatment for the isolated minority syndrome is obviously group therapy or self-help organizations. Experienced members of such groups can function as positive identification models for less experienced members with the same or a similar paraphilia, and teach them how to find a matching partner and how to live a sex life that is satisfying to both parties. The formation of such organizations for all common paraphilias should be encouraged and supported, and any person who suffers from the isolated minority syndrome should be encouraged to become a member of such organizations and subscribe to their publications.”

This is an email sent to Discord after they terminated a discord group made for MAPs.

“Professionals helped some of these men accept their pedophilic interests by separating their sexual attraction from their sexual behavior and by managing their sense of selves (e.g., distancing themselves from stories of “child rapists” [25 p8]). Engaging with other pedophilic individuals helped these men see that others with their interests were able to avoid offending, which brought a sense of hope. Having other social supports that knew about their interests helped because their supports could help them maintain boundaries with children, challenge potentially distorted thinking, and provide them with feedback regarding their behavior with children.”

“The preferred model of treatment is LGBT affirmative psychotherapy, which  treats sexual feelings as innate, unchangeable and subject to personal acceptance. The American Psychological Association provides guidelines on its website (see below). Applied to the minor-attracted person, affirmative therapy separates sexual orientation from its expression, emphasizing acceptance and personal growth. This in no way endorses sexual contact between adults and minors.

Awareness of the shame, stigma and fear of exposure that MAPs experience due to their sexual and emotional feelings is crucial to treatment.”

Child molesters are more likely not MAPs.

“Two groups of those sexually offending against children can be distinguished:

▪ Those showing no sexual preference disorder, but who, for different reasons, sexually abuse children seeking a surrogate. This group comprises e.g. sexually inexperienced adolescents, mentally retarded persons, those with anti-social personality disorders and perpetrators within general traumatizing family constellations – and accounts for approximately 60% of officially known offenders;

▪ Those showing a sexual preference disorder, namely pedophilia (erotic preference for prepubescent minors, i.e. showing Tanner stage 1) or hebephilia (erotic preference for pubescent minors, i.e. showing Tanner stages 2 and 3). These account for approximately 40% of officially known offenders.”

Seto & Lalumi`ere (2001) found that 40% of a sample of 1113 sex offenders showed equal or greater sexual arousal to stimuli depicting children compared with stimuli depicting adults.

Maletzky & Steinhauser (2002) reported that 43% of the 5223 sex offenders in their sample were diagnosed as pedophiles on the basis of their sexual offense histories

Estimates for the rate of pedophilia in detected child molesters generally range between 25% and 50%.

A 2006 study found that 35% of its sample of child molesters were pedophilic

MAPs are oppressed in our society for being MAPs.

“"How in the world can anyone go through every day living with this curse and not want to fling themselves off the nearest bridge on a daily basis?”

“When you have a sexual preference that is as stigmatizing as pedophilia, then there’s nowhere to go with it, there’s no one to really talk to about it,” said Professor Michael Miner, one of the study’s co-authors. “So you stew in your isolation, which certainly makes one depressed.”

Todd Nickerson is a 42-year-old pedophile from Tennessee. Struggling to come to terms with his sexual identity caused him many years of crippling depression. “I look back on it now and find it amazing that I never got to the point where I picked up a gun and ended it,” he told me. “There were days when I got up and it was all I could think about. I’d tell myself, ‘I just want to die. I just want to die.’ All day, for days on end.”“

"An innocent man was viciously beaten and then burned to death by vigilante neighbours who wrongly believed rumours that he was a paedophile.”

“The grieving family of a man found hanged in a cemetery claim he was driven to suicide following paedophile accusations on Facebook.”

Sexualizing children in fictional stuff harms no one. Yes, it’s okay to portray children in sexual themes, as long as you don’t show any sexual stuff to an actual child and you don’t touch inappropriately a child or be involved in a romantic relationship with a child.

"The most dramatic decrease in sex crimes was seen when attention was focused on the number and age of rapists and victims among younger groups (Table 2). We hypothesized that the increase in pornography, without age restriction and in comics, if it had any detrimental effect, would most negatively influence younger individuals. Just the opposite occurred. The number of juvenile offenders dramatically dropped every period reviewed from 1,803 perpetrators in 1972 to a low of 264 in 1995; a drop of some 85% (Table 1). The number of victims also decreased particularly among the females younger than 13 (Table 2). In 1972, 8.3% of the victims were younger than 13. In 1995 the percentage of victims younger than 13 years of age dropped to 4.0%.

In 1972, 33.3 % of the offenders were between 14-19 years of age; by 1995 that percentage had decreased to 9.6%. Thus, over the period in question, there was a major shift in the proportion of victims and offenders from the younger categories to older categories.”

In regards to all sexualities, fictional content and violent fantasies don’t harm anyone, it has even beneficial outcomes.

“Taken together, these findings are offered in support of the hypothesis that the occurrence of force fantasies, rather than resulting from an attempt to deal with sexual guilt, represents one of a number of ways in which some women demonstrate a relatively open, unrestricted, and varied approach to their sexuality.”

“Pornography continues to be a contentious matter with those on the one side arguing it detrimental to society while others argue it is pleasurable to many and a feature of free speech. The advent of the Internet with the ready availability of sexually explicit materials thereon particularly has seemed to raise questions of its influence. Following the effects of a new law in the Czech Republic that allowed pornography to a society previously having forbidden it allowed us to monitor the change in sex related crime that followed the change. As found in all other countries in which the phenomenon has been studied, rape and other sex crimes did not increase. Of particular note is that this country, like Denmark and Japan, had a prolonged interval during which possession of child pornography was not illegal and, like those other countries, showed a significant decrease in the incidence of child sex abuse.”

“His first work on the subject, Studies on Pornography and sex crimes in Denmark (1970), was a scientific report ordered by the United States’ President’s Commission on Obscenity and Pornography. It found that the legalizing of pornography in Denmark had not (as had been expected) resulted in an increase in sex crimes.[4]”

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Creation, Nature, God, Life: No Difference

Achillea millefolium, a.k.a. Yarrow

This commentary began its life as a post on Facebook, but in bringing it to this medium much has been added.

Mt. St. Helens from 47 miles away.

Working through my first year (two-plus seasons ~ fall, winter, and spring) in the Pacific Northwest, I am literally *awed* by Nature: its beauty, intelligence, power and grace. It is humbling to see how *little* this great Gift is appreciated or used intelligently in our society. Indeed, we still act as though Nature is either a conquest to be pursued, or when it knocks us on our asses, a malevolent adversary.

How ironic since we can’t live a life of any real quality without it.

As such, it is appalling how *alien* our social/cultural and technological beliefs, habits and practices have become, when measured against Nature’s Design and Standard Instruction Set.

SOURCE: Naturalnews.com

One example is how we’ve grown accustomed to administering (or receiving) ~ especially to children ~ chemical injections to “fight” future diseases that we don’t have now, as though the human immune system is incapable of responding to *any* real threat.

SOURCE: NaturalBlaze.com

The human body comes standard with full self-repair capability. In the same way that the heart beats on its own and systems work without us having to go to school to learn how to “control” them, a wide range of injuries will repair quite automatically with minimal intervention on our parts.

And if we know and give our body what it needs, it will reciprocate by sustained health, strength, longevity, and more qualities that we have believed were not “standard” fare.

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No one told us that throughout primary education (but is included in my book, I Am My Body, NOT!) Apparently, no one tells this simple fact to future doctors during all their years of training in medical school.

Since we don’t think of the body having self-repair abilities built-in, then we’re not inclined to see government-led obsession with vaccination policies and practices as a convenient way to intentionally break down the population’s natural defense systems (and their cognitive abilities), as part of some broader plan of what might be termed, “population duncity” and control.

The net effect is a dumber and more “manageable” population, whose social norms are presumed to reflect their general, and actual level of evolution and intelligence.

But this is a false reading.

How can there be true evolution when devolving social norms have been “programmed” in and are running with our help and defense?

A devolving social norm is any standardized activity that, in an of itself, lowers the quality of life, often under the guise of improving it. In addition to the practice of vaccine use and policy already described, our society today there are many examples:

War (killing and destruction to get one’s way) or the threat thereof

Circumcision ~ easily forgotten and dismissed later in life, but this act creates a major trauma that affects the child’s metabolic and psychological development

Application and use of toxic agents to “fight” (meaning kill) microorganisms in humans and animals that are thought to be causes of “disease”.

Application and use of toxic agents to “fight” (kill) microorganisms in soils to make it more convenient to grow single crops.

Application and use of toxic agents into the water supply and atmosphere.

Extraction of fluid substances from the earth to run our internal combustion engines when other methods are available that are more efficient, produce far more power, with far less adverse effects to the environment.

There are many more examples.

A Mind Game

The Mind: More than we have been led to think.

Yes, the social drivers of society are running a self-destruct program targeted at the mind of every human being, where it can’t be seen, but from whence all beliefs and behaviors are formed.

HOWEVER, since the program itself is unnatural it will degrade on its own if not reinforced regularly. This applies to genetically modified organisms (GMO) as well as psychological operations (PSYOPS). Human Nature would immediately restore itself if we turn off the nefarious suggestions of institutionalized cultural “programming”.

The Natural Human Being is nothing like the crazed animal that is suggested in some “civilized” circles.

By the way, the human mind is not the brain. There is one Mind, from which all that we see, perceive, and imagine, springs. The brain, and every component that makes up the human body, is a product of the Mind. All that exists, both manifested and unmanifested, comes from the Mind. You journey within the Mind whether you have a physical body, or not.

The Mind is “physical” and not physical. ALL that is “physical” come into existence from the Mind as a product, effect, and result of your desire and Will, and through the auspices of vibrational resonance and affinity.

In the non-physical regions of The Mind are the patterns and matrices that make physical organization and change possible. It is due to the existence of these perfect and unalterable templates that a consistently recognizable “you” is possible. The stability of these templates is also why and how the microscopic lifeforms that live within the body are able to repair and renew body parts through the process known as healing.

The practice of administering antibiotics, another of those self-destructive cultural norms, decimates entire populations of lifeforms that would normally and naturally protect, repair or rebuild areas within the body that had been injured, or become dysfunctional.

SOURCE: goodreads.com

We allow these lifeforms populations to be decimated by doctors’ prescriptions without a second thought, and oblivious to the effect that such medications have on overall balance within the ecosystem.

Yet, if left alone, balance would restore itself. This is why opinion managers need humanity’s attention in order to continue the distraction, diversion, and deception through empty promises, fear, misinformation, and outright lies.

Another great title that goes into great detail on the roles that the microbial population plays within the human body, is Spontaneous Evolution: Our Positive Future and a Way to Get There, co-written by Bruce H. Lipton, Ph.D and Steve Bhaerman.

SOURCE: hayhouse.com

SOURCE: hayhouse.com

The degrees and levels of cognitive and metabolic dysfunction that humanity presently experiences and exhibits is the result of the imposition, perpetuation, and intensification of unnatural, unsustainable, destructive behaviors for the apparent gain of a minuscule segment of the population (“rulers” and “leaders”) at the great expense to the vast majority.

A Microbial Holocaust

Indeed, the process of introducing such substances into the human ecosystem actually kills off large numbers of proto-lifeforms and microorganisms that would normally respond IF the need arrived.

The ability to heal is implicit with the ability to disable. The relationship between the two activities ~ thought to be linear in nature ~ has been elusive, mainly because the perpetrators (latter-day elites who run major corporations, governments, military, medical institutions and their agents) are getting what they want; a sense of control over, and ownership of the planet and all that dwell thereon.

Furthermore, the “prey” have been convinced that it is better not to question. In other words, “Conquered”.

We, who either promote or defend such practices or allow them to continue, don’t help ourselves by simply following precedent and bowing (or bending over) to these Draconian “traditions”, especially in light of the astounding rise in crises, chronic disorders, and conflicts that, in spite of claims to the contrary, can be linked to certain practices.

This stuff eventually reaches consumers’ stomachs.

The substances used today (not just vaccines) are far different (and more damaging) than they were even a few decades ago. While there is great denial of any link to damage to health, the environment, or human cognitive abilities and consciousness, there is little appreciation for the real price, beyond “money” and “health”, that is extracted and paid from ALL.

Passive Parties to Insanity

It’s amazing how we continue to allow ourselves and our children to be exposed to these substances in so many ways. This is the effect of trusting (or not questioning) the perpetrators, and the not knowing to what extent they affect us.

There may be another factor: cellular memory of gruesome measures taken against large populations by people intent on “playing God”.

SOURCE: amredeemed.com

 inquisition: n. ~ an ecclesiastical tribunal established by Pope Gregory IX c. 1232 for the suppression of heresy. It was active chiefly in northern Italy and southern France, becoming notorious for the use of torture. In 1542 the papal Inquisition was re-established to combat Protestantism, eventually becoming an organ of papal government.

A significant portion of the world’s population, proponents of Christianity, is expecting a major conflagration, a head-to-head battle between “good” and “evil”, as embodied in their chief protagonist, Jesus Christ, “Lord” and “Son of God”.

My use of quote marks is not to mock the term, or the use thereof. I use them to question, even challenge the appellation. The Jesus figure has been set up as someone to worship; an idol by any other definition. He is called a “Savior” by many believers, who think they are incapable of being or setting the example or living up to the standard that He apparently set.

Based on the stories written in the bible, for which a dear price was very likely paid many generations ago by those who didn’t believe, adherents today are thoroughly immersed in the idea that He had powers then that they don’t possess today.

Wisdom and Knowledge? Yes. Powers, No.

One thing about “worshiping” another being, the worshiper excuses and absolves himself from taking an active role in knowing the truth (that we are expressions of Source), and when the truth is known, then making it part of your day-to-day experience.

This includes the simple advice to treat others the way you would be treated, “loving your neighbor as yourself”.

No one can “love” another if they are of a mind that they need a “savior”. They can’t even accept, respect, or love who they are. Yet true love, freedom, truth and knowledge begins there… within

A Long History of Little Change

Few humans can imagine doing this to other humans, but such practices were once widespread.

“Anyone who attempts to construe a personal view of God which conflicts with Church dogma must be burned without pity.” – Pope Innocent III

SOURCE: crashedculture.com

Some will rationalize the acts inferred above as being of the “Dark Ages”, but its easy to see that the same type of thinking is liberally sprinkled throughout certain sectors of society to this very day.

Our fixation on the visible, perceivable world renders us blind to the ideas (of Mind) that drive them. The incessant debate for and against gun control in response to the growing phenomena of cultural self-destruction with guns, totally ignores the ecological, metabolic, and psychological damage that is still being by our unchallenged use of chemicals. Few voices are being raised (though some are) to end vaccination and circumcision practices.

More people are preferring foods that have not been injected with hormones and genetically modified. Even more are preferring produce grown on lands, and using methods that restore balance to soil and water.

We’ve got a lot of turning around to do, as the greatest damage was psychological and spiritual, which is both the hardest and easiest to change.

A New Day: Loving Nature

These toxin-free apples will enhance someone’s life when they grow up.

If we imagine that the practices associated with that period for which millions of people horribly, wrongly, and needlessly suffered were passed on as recollections from generation to generation, it would be easy to see how, or why so many people today are content to believe in God, or a doctrine rather than seek to know and exercise their own, true, creative, equal, divine nature.

Then they’ll act surprised, unduly inconvenienced, and unfairly targeted when diseases surface after we have indulged, or permitted one egregious crime against Nature after another for years and even generations.

For those who may wonder what a crime against Nature is, please consider for a moment that ALL of humanity (you and me included) is part of Nature. (Even Trump, Hillary, et al.)

As expressions of Life (and sometimes sentient), we are already part of the Natural Order; not apart from it. No other “Order”, neither “New” nor “Old” World, is Natural.

The Natural Order will always trump the unnatural schemes and practices dreamed up by wannabe “emperors”.

For these and other reasons, we have institutionalized many unnatural practices with respect to our environment, both inside the body, and out.

The alarming rise in long-term, chronic diseases can also be stated as the decline in natural immune function. This should be, and would be obvious to anyone not trained to set aside common sense, ignore reason, or suppress the truth in order to continue receiving a paycheck, or to not question an opinion simply because the practitioner has “credentials” (and we’re not worthy if we don’t) or might get offended.

Do you see the mental “game” they’re playing?

The social experiment on the human race has gone so far that Pavlov would be green with envy.

We who make wars possible by cooperation with puerile tyrants and despots, who make famine possible by making a world industry that grows and delivers “foods” that provide little nourishment; we have grown accustomed to sitting around, waiting for our Savior, and listening to others’ promises to make our lives better, to the point that we don’t actively do it ourselves.

How ironic that we’ve grown so mentally, emotionally, and socially afraid and dependent, then boast our courage and independence? How tragic that we’re so ready to “protect” ourselves from each other that “killing” is the way… as long as its an *approved* “enemy?”

I write these thoughts because, consciously or not, intentionally or not, this is our doing. Whether we knew it, agreed, or not, our BS meters were damaged or turned off when we entered this realm.

I say this because I KNOW that in spite of claims of intelligence ~ evidence of which is seen everywhere in the Natural Order ~ humanity acts pretty damn DUMB in matters that count, and appears to be doing much too little to right its own ship. We’d rather wait and see if the politician or oligarch du jour has promised to do it, or people in some government agency have *blocked* promising new approaches.

They need our compliance in order to do these things. Non-compliance does not have to mean violence or anarchy.

It might mean, however, that we’re growing up to become the one’s we’ve been wishing for.

We Always have a Choice

That said, we ~ the collective human population “we”~ are still the Power that makes it all possible; not only the crap that I have described, but amazing new directions that make you *want* to get up each morning to enjoy… not just the final realization, but *the journey* too.

You don’t have to believe me. You must know yourself, which only you can choose to do. I can only suggest to you that the choice, and the journey, when you decide to take it, will be well worth it.

Please enjoy this short video that I produced of Life expressing and co-existing.

Life is everywhere, in ALL forms of expression. We can learn from ALL life, because a piece of us is being expressed through ALL life that we see and encounter. Doing what they do is as much part of the Natural Order as our actions are. Their cooperative activities and interactions affect the quality of *our* lives, as our toxic, combative interactions with each other affect theirs.

Get Yours Now

Mutually respectful, proactive, constructive balancing cooperation sustains a high quality of life for all Life involved. Competitive, combative, destructive and destablizing activity lowers the quality of life for ALL, even while *some* may thing they’re exempt. There are no “privileged” classes who are exempt from Nature’s Laws.

Even insects appear to know this, but many of humanity’s apparently “brightest minds” (that the masses are encouraged to listen to), don’t have a clue.

Thank you for your time and attention.

Enjoy~

[northamptoncouplestherapy]

If the pandemic has taught us anything, it's this - humans need each other. Even those of us who enjoy alone time and appreciate life's current slower-paced version will agree, being confined to a mere handful of face-to-face connections 24 hours a day, seven days a week, is not optimal.

Our prevailing human need to connect during a global crisis has launched the innovative concept of a Pod –– doing life with a select group of people (without masks and social-distancing). The Pod has undoubtedly been a saving grace for many neighborhoods and communities worldwide these past several months.

But with summer's departure and the weather growing colder, we must navigate a myriad of new (and unknown) variables, including flu season, school reopenings, and an increased need to be indoors. Collectively, these challenges have the potential to influence both our health and hearts. How do we measure the risks and gains in each potential scenario? How do we negotiate and have honest communication with friends and family concerning social distancing ––find the sweet spot between connected and safe?

For guidance on how to do the Pod-life well, we'll invite some leading couple therapy models and researchers to be our mentors. As a couples therapist who utilizes these methods regularly, I'm confident we can apply segments of these approaches to foster a viable and indispensable Pod experience. Which may be the exact antidote we need in this ever-changing world.

A Step-by-Step Guide to mastering life within the Pod

1. Create a Contract

Many people fail to explicitly discuss what constitutes the bulk of everyday relational life with friends and family. How often do we do things like getting together for coffee or texting or merely checking-in? How do we best communicate our news or accomplishments or plain-old, regular days - phone, Instagram, or in-person? And, how do we reach out for support when we're really struggling?

Stan Tatkin, a relationship guru, encourages us to get things out in the open by creating a contract or a list of agreements with the people closest to us. This approach ensures clarity, understanding, and genuineness in the exchange if we are honest about what we need and want.

The brilliant result of both making agreements with one another and keeping our end of the bargain is secure functioning ––feeling seen and known in a mutually supportive way. Secure functioning in the Pod characterizes a safe environment - a refuge - where we live as an interdependent system. From this vantage point, the Pod relationships exist within the governance of our agreements with one another.

Examples of making agreements or a contract with fellow Pod members might include:

Who we agree to spend face-to-face time with

How we commit to wearing masks with anyone other than our agreed-upon individuals

When we will distance ourselves from other Pod-members if we are feeling ill or experiencing problematic symptoms.

Beyond COVID safety and protocols, our contracts might also include how often we gather, where we do so, and what we do when that happens - Games? Gossip? Netflix-binging? We might agree to weekly potlucks (Pod-lucks!) or sharing babysitting with fellow Pod-members so that we can get a break from these days of relentless responsibilities.

Lastly, since your agreement(s) are essential, we encourage you to make it formal. Set a date to meet with your pod-to-be, grab some pens and paper, write up your contract, and have everyone sign it ––even the kids!

Getting clear and keeping agreements will begin the necessary and critical process of building trust within the Pod.

2. Build Trust

Couples therapists assess trust from the start because we know how critical it is to human relationships' sustainability and success. This sentiment also rings true for the Pod concept. Without trust, engagement and collaboration quickly disintegrate ––taking the Pod and its inhabitants down with it.

In John Gottman's Sound Relationship House, we encounter two load-bearing walls essential to a relationship's long-term stability. These walls are commitment and trust.

But how do we cultivate trust within the Pod? According to Gottman, we do this with small things often. Small and incremental steps marked by consistently showing up, keeping your word, and displaying genuine interest in other Pod-members are the ticket to ensuring trust's constructive evolution. The result of this will be a deepened sense of togetherness and collective goodwill.

Gottman terms these occasions of trust-building, sliding door moments - seemingly insignificant flashes of time, pivotal to any relationship's well-being. When we make the deliberate choice to connect, understand, and appreciate one another consistently, we encourage and champion an essential ingredient for any authentic community to thrive.

My all-time favorite job was the role of counselor at an overnight camp in magnificent Alaska (yes, it gets warm there in Summertime!). I worked at this camp for three consecutive years during my late adolescence and fell in love with the people and experiences. I was far from home and didn't see my friends or family for the entirety of my summers. But the camaraderie I encountered with my fellow camp counselors was unforgettable.

People I'd never met and would likely never see again became like family in a very brief time. We spent days together and relied on one another because we were all each other had. Being a camp counselor is fun, but it's also exhausting - working with kids all day and night and being responsible for them 24/7 is no small task. Each of us required unwavering support from our fellow counselors.

We did life together. We were there for each other on our good and bad days. Ultimately, we built trust with one another in a million little ways, and it paid off.

I remember a particularly tricky cabin of campers one summer week. These campers were cute, but they were also loud, pranky, and not good listeners - a perfect formula for counselor burnout. What got me through that week was my "camp family" who listened to me, wrote me encouraging notes, and cheered me on (and cheered with me when the parents picked up those little rascals that long-awaited Saturday morning!).

3. Sign up for vulnerability

Bréne Brown, a prominent researcher in gutsy topics like vulnerability, shame, and courage, describes an anatomy of trust that must be recognized and refined for relationships to succeed. With trust in mind, she handily breaks things down into the acronym, BRAVING.

Boundaries: we respect others boundaries and are clear about our own

Reliability: we can count on each other

Accountability: we take responsibility to make things right when things go awry

The Vault: we only communicate our own experiences and feelings and let others speak for themselves; we keep things confidential for others

Integrity: we are who we say we are; we live according to our values

Non-judgment: we honor our needs and the needs of others without judgment

Generosity: we believe that each member of the Pod is doing the best they can; we give one another the benefit of the doubt

If we value BRAVING within the Pod, we have to choose our foxhole inhabitants wisely from the start. Ask yourself if the Pod-members you're considering are BRAVE people who won't back down when Pod-life goes sideways, or someone gets sick or stops keeping their agreements. Read this list - a recipe for trust - and decide if YOU will be that person, too.

BRAVING is not a task for the faint of heart. This type of commitment requires mega buy-in and an ability to see things through when times get tough. Because let's face it, conflict will arise and when it does, we're going to want to know what to do about it.

4. Prepare for bumps in the road

The final step to getting the hang of Pod-life involves understanding the role of conflict, not eradicating or avoiding it, but to manage it in a beneficial and connective way. Brent Atkinson, the founder of the Pragmatic-Experiential Model (PEX) of couple therapy, prescribes a set of skills needed to react effectively when disagreements arise.

He divides these skills into two parts: the "Openness and Flexibility" Skills and the "Standing Up" Skills.

Within the Openness and Flexibility skills, Atkinson invites us to:

Not jump to conclusions,

Look for something in the other's viewpoint that makes sense,

Identify what needs, values, and worries might be lurking under the surface,

And, assure the person you conflict with that you are keeping a flexible and open mind while asking them to do the same.

And, when the Openness and Flexibility skills don't cut the mustard, we can utilize Atkinson's Standing Up skills, which include:

A non-judgmental stance,

Asking for more open-mindedness and flexibility,

Considering other reasons why the person is upset,

Temporarily distancing yourself,

Not making a big deal that you had to,

Trying again later,

And, if all else fails, refusing to continue "business as usual" until the other is willing to find common ground.

I've had lots of experiences with conflict within community life - both successful and disastrous. The time's conflict has been constructive, and generative has always included all parties' willingness to be open, flexible and gracious collectively. I don't think there's a way around this for authentic connection.

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In this COVID climate, we live out our values, and our beliefs differ from one another in a myriad of ways. Some of us haven't been inside a restaurant in over eight months or hugged our mom ––not even once. We haven't gone to a single person's house for a visit. Others have attended indoor weddings, traveled to Disneyworld, and continued life as usual.

To do the Pod-life well, we have to find like-minded people with whom we can build trust, create agreements, practice vulnerability, and effectively manage conflict for the long-haul. Because there isn't an end in sight, now might be the perfect time to consider such a venture.

Couple therapy and relationship models teach us a great deal about how to coexist within a community. Knowing how to generate trust and how to cultivate it once you have it are crucial. Taking the time to discern and create agreements will bypass stress down the road. Moreover, choosing vulnerability with one another will produce the qualities needed to face the inevitable trials and experience the sure-fire joys that life within the Pod will provide even when it's tough.

Click Here for your Discussion Guide - How to form a Pod and keep it going strong

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[theadmiringbog]

It was clear to me, watching her work, that she was teaching her students something more than chess knowledge; she was also conveying to them a sense of belonging and self-confidence and purpose.

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Beginning in infancy, children rely on responses from their parents to make sense of the world. 

Researchers at the Center on the Developing Child at Harvard University have labeled these “serve and return” interactions. Infants make a sound or look at an object—that’s the serve—and parents return the serve by sharing the child’s attention and responding to his babbles and cries with gestures, facial expressions, and speech: “Yes, that’s your doggy!” “Do you see the fan?” “Oh dear, are you sad?” 

These rudimentary interactions between parents and babies, which can often feel to parents nonsensical and repetitive, are for the infants full of valuable information about what the world is going to be like. More than any other experiences infants have, they trigger the development and strengthening of neural connections in the brain between the regions that control emotion, cognition, language, and memory.                

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Research has shown that when parents behave harshly or unpredictably—especially at moments when their children are upset—the children are less likely over time to develop the ability to manage strong emotions and more likely to respond ineffectively to stressful situations.                 

Infancy and early childhood are naturally full of crying jags and meltdowns, and each one is, for the child, a learning opportunity (even if that’s hard to believe, in the moment, for the child’s parents).                

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Children don’t experience parental divorce or mental illness or neglect on a specific day; they experience them every day.                

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Just as early stress sends signals to the developing nervous system to maintain constant vigilance and prepare for a lifetime of trouble, early warmth and responsiveness send the opposite message: You’re safe. Life is going to be fine. Let down your guard; the people around you will protect you and provide for you. Be curious about the world; it’s full of fascinating surprises.                

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Behaviorism: The basic idea behind the behaviorist approach to education is that humans respond to incentives and reinforcement. If we get positive reinforcement for a certain behavior, we’re more likely to do more of it; if we get negative reinforcement, we’re more likely to do less.                

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Researchers are increasingly coming to understand that there are limits to the effectiveness of rewards and punishments in education, and that for young people whose neurological and psychological development has been shaped by intense stress, straightforward reward systems are often especially ineffective.                

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Deci and Ryan, by contrast, argued that we are mostly motivated not by the material consequences of our actions, but by the inherent enjoyment and meaning that those actions bring us, a phenomenon they labeled intrinsic motivation. 

They identified three key human needs—

1. our need for competence

2. our need for autonomy

3. our need for relatedness, meaning personal connection. 

And they contended that intrinsic motivation can be sustained only when we feel that those needs are being satisfied.                

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... three basic human needs: autonomy, competence, and relatedness. When teachers are able to create an environment that promotes those three feelings, they say, students exhibit much higher levels of motivation.                

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Students experience autonomy in the classroom, Deci and Ryan explain, when their teachers “maximize a sense of choice and volitional engagement” while minimizing students’ feelings of coercion and control. 

Students feel competent, they say, when their teachers give them tasks that they can succeed at but that aren’t too easy—challenges just a bit beyond their current abilities. 

And they feel a sense of relatedness when they perceive that their teachers like and value and respect them.                

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First he calculated whether and how being a student in a particular teacher’s class affected that student’s standardized-test score. This is the basic measure of value-added assessment in use today; teachers in many states across the country are evaluated (and sometimes compensated or fired) based on similar measures. 

But Jackson went one step further. 

He calculated the effect that teachers had on their students’ noncognitive proxy measure: on their attendance, suspensions, timely progression from one grade to the next, and overall GPA. What he found was that some teachers were reliably able to raise their students’ standardized-test scores year after year.

But Jackson also found that there was another distinct cohort of teachers who were reliably able to raise their students’ performance on his noncognitive measure.                

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They know that what matters, in general, is warm, responsive, face-to-face, serve-and-return parenting, which can be delivered in many different flavors. That parenting approach, however it is carried out, conveys to infants some deep, even transcendent messages about belonging, security, stability, and their place in the world.                

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Teachers convey to their students deep messages—often implicitly or even subliminally—about belonging, connection, ability, and opportunity. Those messages may not have the same measurable neurochemical effects on a ten-year-old brain as they do on a ten-month-old brain, but they do have a profound impact on students’ psychology and thus on their behavior. When kids feel a sense of belonging at school, when they receive the right kind of messages from an adult who believes they can succeed and who is attending to them with some degree of compassion and respect, they are then more likely to show up to class, to persevere longer at difficult tasks, and to deal more resiliently with the countless small-scale setbacks and frustrations that make up the typical student’s school day.                

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Farrington distilled the voluminous research on student mindset into four key beliefs that contribute most significantly to students’ tendency to persevere in the classroom: 

I belong in this academic community

My ability and competence grow with my effort

I can succeed at this

This work has value for me

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There are two toolboxes that are most effective to turn to when you’re trying to create an environment conducive to positive student mindsets. The first toolbox has to do with relationships: how you treat students, how you talk to them, how you reward and discipline them. The second has to do with pedagogy: what you teach, how you teach it, and how you assess whether your students have learned it.                

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A pedagogical approach that promoted student engagement in the learning process: less lecture time; fewer repetitive worksheets; more time spent working in small groups, solving problems, engaging in discussions, and collaborating on longer-term creative projects.                 

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Kurt Hahn, the founder of Outward Bound, is famous for his slogan 

“We are crew, not passengers” 

and it is from this maxim that EL’s tradition takes its name. Each EL student is assigned to a crew, which meets every day for half an hour or so to discuss matters important to the students, both academic and personal. In middle school and high school, the groups are relatively intimate—10 or 15 kids—and students generally stay in the same crew for two years or longer, with the same teacher leading the group year after year. As a result, many EL students will tell you that their crew is the place at school where they most feel a sense of belonging; for some of them, it’s the place where they most feel a sense of belonging, period.                

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Expeditionary Learning schools have been shown, in independent studies, to have a significant positive effect on academic progress.                

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And while it’s certainly true that those students need the sense of belonging and connection that comes from feeling embedded in school within a web of deep and close relationships, the critical insight of Expeditionary Learning is that belonging alone isn’t enough. In order for a student to truly feel motivated by and about school, he also has to perceive that he is doing important work—work that is challenging, rigorous, and deep.                

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The experience of persisting through an intellectual challenge and succeeding despite the struggle is a profound one for schoolchildren—as profound, it seems, as serve-and-return is for the infant brain. It produces feelings of both competence and autonomy—two of Deci and Ryan’s three big intrinsic motivations.                

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... a larger trend in education today, known colloquially as deeper learning. This relatively new movement, which is also sometimes called student-centered learning.

In this century, deeper-learning proponents argue, the job market requires a very different set of skills, one that our current educational system is not configured to help students develop: the ability to work in teams, to present ideas to a group, to write effectively, to think deeply and analytically about problems, to take information and techniques learned in one context and adapt them to a new and unfamiliar problem or situation.                

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Deeper-learning proponents promote inquiry-based instruction, which means that in the classroom, teachers tend to engage students in discussions rather than just lecturing to them; project-based learning, in which students spend much of their time working, often in groups, on elaborate projects that might take weeks or months to complete; and performance-based assessments, in which students are judged not primarily by their scores on end-of-semester exams, but by the portfolios, presentations, artwork, and written work they produce throughout the year.

[chicagocityfclanspromoblog]

Belle Cunningham → Taissa Farmiga → Warlock

→ Basic Information

Age: 64

Gender: Female

Sexuality: Pansexual

Powers: Creation

Birthday: December 21st

Zodiac Sign: Sagittarius

Religion: Buddhism

Mark: Unknown

Generation: 1st

→ Her Personality Belle is a kind and shy spirit compared to her warlock brothers and sisters. She’s simple and open, wanting to live her life to the fullest. She possesses a strong intellect and a sharp, witty demeanor. She is very forgiving and straightforward but can at times be perceived as aggressive, especially when she is hurt and finally speaks from the heart. Her soft nature is often taken for granted. Before she learned of her powers, she was a bit of a loner, and became increasingly isolated as she experienced the symptoms of being a Creator. Once found and over the course of her training, Belle developed a deeper passion for being a warlock and familial love for the supernatural community. She grew into a vibrant and confident woman and found a new popularity amongst others of her kind. She also developed a sense of responsibility, helping her mentor with the other mentees and taking on jobs related to her powers within the warlock and witch community.

→ Her Personal Facts

Occupation: Seeker in Training and Creator of Magical Cauldron, Pots and Unbreakable Bottles

Scars: None

Tattoos: None

Two Likes: Warmth and The Sun

Two Dislikes: The Cold and Snow

Two Fears: Cacophobia and Dentists

Two Hobbies: Creating organic/inorganic matter to study and visiting theme parks

Three Positive Traits: Creative, Easygoing, Insightful

Three Negative Traits: Cynical, Melodramatic, Oversensitive

→ Her Connections

Parent Names:

Velma Cunningham (Mother): Velma was there throughout Belle’s long stays at the hospital, unclear diagnostics and sleepless nights. Once Belle learned about the supernatural life, she knew she couldn’t leave her mother behind and took her along with her. They have a strong bond and unbreakable bond. However, with her mother nearing her mid-80s, Belle has become increasingly worried for her health.

Sibling Names:

None

Children Names:

None

Romantic Connections:

Maya ‘Flower’ Hanes (Girlfriend): Belle and Flower had to overcome a lot at the beginning of their relationship, between both of them being closeted, Flower being engaged and terrified of commitment, and the ever evolving issues with Belle’s powers. A part of Belle thinks since they made it through that, there’s nothing they can’t face with each other. Belle loves her sarcasm and originality, and just how special she is when no one is looking. She just likes being around her, whether they’re both working quietly, lying around in bed or hanging out at a bar.

Platonic Connections:

Eric Lasiter (Mentor): Eric has always treated her with respect. Most of her life she was used to being talked down to or treated like she didn’t understand what was happening with her own body. Eric listened to her requests to keep her mother around, and helped her find a way to work around her disabilities. She has a lot of respect for him, and appreciates he’s never tried to act like her father.

Ashley Malone (Friend): Ashley has only been studying with Eric for a few years, but she has worked closely with her in developing Ashley’s power. They don’t have the same close connection that she and Chai do, but Belle thinks she’s a good egg.

Chai Gates (Good Friend): When Eric was too busy or clueless on what to do with Belle, Chai was always around to take her out or teach her shortcuts to her powers. Chai is the older sister Belle never had. They have a close sisterly bond.

Arianna Garcia (Best Friend): Ari being around her age was probably a big factor of why they clicked easily and have been friends for decades. Their friendship has never dulled and they can send over 300 text messages to each other in a day.

Judson Cleirigh (Retailer): Belle sells her products out of her home but also sells most of her makings out of Wondering Worlds of Magic.

Amberlynn Chase (Friend): Amber and Belle met at Lollapalooza a couple of years ago. They kept running into each other at different stages and then started seeing each other after various concerts. Now Amber is the first person Belle calls if she wants to check out a new band or go to a concert.

Simon Lee Weyden (Friend): Belle met Simon through her relationship with Flower. At first their friendship was strained; only communicating in mutual sitting where Flower was involved. But that quickly changed when they attended a Linkin Park concert together; which Flower and the rest of their group pulled out randomly.

Jia Hu Cleirigh (Supporter): Jia saw her and Flower together, back when Flower was technically engaged to Audo Wilhelm and neither of them were out. He’s been a silent supporter, offering them guidance when needed and using whatever influence he has to keep any older Wilhelms out of their way.

Lawrence Cocci (Friend): When they met, Lawrence was performing a magic trick that was reckless and involved fire. It was the first time Belle had seen magic performed in the open nearly 50 years ago. She quickly stuck by his side and made sure to attend every event Lawrence was on the guest list for.

Gretchen Sims (Friend): Gretchen is always an easy person to talk, sober or high, and she never feels pressured around her. Gretchen has introduced her to a lot of natural healing like yoga that has helped her immensely with her healing.

Esther Yoo (Friend): Belle was at a local bar when she heard Esther play for the first time. She thought she was incredible and had Gretchen introduce the two of them. She tries to attend every show of Esther’s and Flower even got her to record a CD for her Christmas present last year.

Shannon Harris (Good Friend): She and Shannon met at an art class about 5 years ago. Shannon looked uncomfortable and so Belle went over and sat down next to her. They talked most of the night and when Flower came to help her home, Shannon asked if she did the class regularly. They reconnected afterwards and became surprisingly close friends, and Belle acts as a sounding board for a lot of the stress Shannon feels.

Emmett Wilhelm (Trainer): She asked Emmett to start training her last year, and only now did the council approve it. They all think she’s too young, but Emmett has never denied her any experiences that a Seeker must go through since they’ve begun training.

Chiara Ricci (Friend): She met the vampire the first time she went down to the Underground. They clicked fast and Belle tried to make it down at least once every two weeks to hang out with her.

Hostile Connections:

None

Pets:

Mike (Maine Coon Cat): The first thing Belle did when she got better was adopt a cat.

→ History Belle, like most witches and warlocks, never knew her father. It never made much difference to her. Her mother Velma created all the love that she needed and provided the best she could for her daughter. However there was nothing she could really do when Belle started getting sick. At first it was common clumsiness that happens when children learn to move, but then it evolved into numbness and then eventually severe pain and weakness. Belle’s once bright and playful childhood began to be weekly doctor’s visits and constant pain. No one could discover what was wrong with her body and By the time she was 16 she practically lived at the hospital and was emotionally unable to handle it anymore. No one believed her symptoms were real because she couldn’t find any explanation for them. She lost the cool, positive outlook she had in life and the pressure of not knowing what was wrong with her began eating away the last of her emotional stability. It wore on her mother and the doctors and Belle developed anxiety over everything within the medical community. At 17, Belle had lost most of her desire to fight, until she met Dr. Kudzai Rinker. She asked her to start from the beginning and spent hours writing everything down. Then she took her mother aside. When they returned, her mother had tears in her eyes and Kudzai came over to Belle. She moved her hands along her back, and Belle found the constant pain from the last decade gone. She became overwhelmed and Kudzai explained everything.

A week later, after daily treatments from Kudzai, Belle left the hospital and met with the Council. They explained more in-depth and looked at her mark to verify she was a first generation. Then they discussed the best course of action and who could take her in. Though she was in pain, the thought of losing her mom terrified her. In the midst of the discussion, Eric Lassiter came in. There was a vague acknowledgement as he walked in, but they all seemed surprised when he spoke to her. He offered her a spot training under him, speaking to her rather than about her, and she said yes. When they discussed it later he promised she could stay with her mother and that they’d figure out a plan for her physical therapy. Eric began training her almost immediately and though she’d never done any accidental magic before, she found that she picked up the basics quickly.

She trained thoroughly for the next 40 years, and found herself blossoming. For the first time ever, Belle had friends who took her out to bars and went to concerts and taught her how to have fun. Her mobility was sometimes a challenge, but many of them just helped her work around it. Though she had an active and popular social life, she had never been romantically interested in anyone. About 10 years ago she met Flower in a bar and instantly clicked with her. They started spending time together more and more often. Belle talked about the craziness of her life, Flower talked about the Wilhelms and her asshole fiancée. That nearly broke Belle’s heart, but she was resolved to be there for her friend and shove any feelings down for her. That stopped soon after Flower cornered her and kissed her, and admitted everything about her family. Neither of them were out and Flower was betrothed. They started dating in secret and kept their relationship under wraps, as best friends. 3 years ago, Flower talked Belle into coming out of the closet about their relationship. First, Flower told her fiancée and the two came to the conclusion that they will never be together or get married; and continue to tell both of their families. After the Wilhelms were notified, Belle and Flower told the rest of their friends and family. They have been openly together ever since.

→ The Present At first Velma tried to hide her sickness and old age from Belle but as her symptoms took a turn for the worst, everyone in their community could tell, including Belle. Belle has stepped up to the plate, taking care of her mother like she once took care of her. Her friends are trying to convince her that it is a part of life and that her mother cannot be saved. Belle, however, has been inquiring to Kudzai and the local necromancer, Ronan, about possibly saving her mother’s life. She isn’t ready to let her mother go.

Belle has recently begun her training as a Seeker. She wants to help find other witches and warlocks. She knew her own pain and the worry she caused her mother before finding out she was indeed a warlock. Belle hopes she can save others from the same pain and feeling of being alone. Emmett and Eric are concerned about her health issues and constant need for physical therapy which doesn’t line up with a Seeker lifestyle.

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Your Thursday Briefing – The New York Times

Democrats unleashed

After eight relatively cordial debates, Wednesday night’s event in Las Vegas was a two-hour battle in which every candidate was put on the defensive, especially Michael Bloomberg.

The former New York mayor, appearing in his first presidential debate, struggled from the start to address his past support for stop-and-frisk policing and longtime allegations of disrespectful behavior toward women.

“I’d like to talk about who we’re running against: a billionaire who calls women fat broads and horse-faced lesbians,” Elizabeth Warren said. “And no, I’m not talking about Donald Trump. I’m talking about Mayor Bloomberg.” She had the most speaking time onstage.

Go deeper: Here are six takeaways from the night, in which Bernie Sanders, who leads the polls, emerged relatively unscathed. We also fact-checked the candidates’ statements.

The personal ties behind President Trump’s pardons

The clemency orders that Mr. Trump issued this week were the result of a process that bypassed the formal procedures used by past presidents and was driven instead by friendship, fame and a shared sense of persecution.

All 11 recipients had an inside connection or were promoted on Fox News. Mr. Trump’s advisers acknowledged that the process was unique, but stressed that he was committed to countering what he saw as the excesses of the criminal justice system.

Another angle: Mr. Trump named Richard Grenell, the ambassador to Germany, to be the acting director of national intelligence overseeing the 17 U.S. spy agencies. Mr. Grenell has little experience in intelligence, but he has been a fierce advocate for the president.

China again alters coronavirus methodology

For the second time in about a week, China has changed its criteria for confirming cases of the virus, making it increasingly difficult for public health experts to track the outbreak.

The government said today that it would now differentiate between “suspected” and “confirmed” cases. Cases would be considered confirmed only after genetic testing, which is difficult to conduct and whose results are often wrong.

Here are the latest updates and maps of where the virus has spread.

Related: Two people aboard a contaminated cruise ship in Japan have died, the authorities said today. As hundreds of passengers began leaving the ship after a two-week quarantine, health experts feared Japan had mismanaged the situation.

Another angle: President Trump has commended President Xi Jinping’s handling of the crisis, but hard-liners within the Trump administration say Beijing can’t be trusted to disclose what it knows or properly handle the outbreak.

If you have 12 minutes, this is worth it

The fight for Libya

In a nation where warlords and militias battle for control and migrants pack the Mediterranean coast, a 76-year-old commander, Khalifa Hifter, says he can resolve the turmoil. His forces have been attacking Tripoli, the capital, for 10 months.

Journalists from The Times made a rare visit to Mr. Hifter’s eastern stronghold, Benghazi. What “the Marshal” has created there, their report shows, is not the secular stability he promises, but “an unwieldy authoritarianism that in many ways is both more puritanical and more lawless” than that of Libya’s last dictator, Col. Muammar el-Qaddafi.

Here’s what else is happening

Deadly shootings in Germany: A man opened fire on two bars in the central city of Hanau, where he killed nine people in what the authorities called a far-right terrorist attack. The suspected gunman, a 43-year-old German, was found dead in his apartment today, along with his mother.

Poll on climate change: Tackling global warming and protecting the environment have climbed the list of Americans’ political priorities, according to a survey by the Pew Research Center that also found striking partisan differences.

Change at Victoria’s Secret: The lingerie brand plans to go private, as the chief executive of its parent company is expected to step down. Leslie Wexner, 82, has faced serious questions about his leadership and his relationship with the disgraced financier Jeffrey Epstein.

Snapshot: Above, Staples Center in Los Angeles, the home of the N.B.A.’s Lakers and Clippers. Both teams are contenders for the league’s championship this season, but the city’s heart belongs to only one.

What we’re listening to: “Public Official A,” a podcast from WBEZ last year. “This is a Robert Caro-like dissection of political corruption in the U.S., and of Rod Blagojevich, a political star who turned into a black hole,” says Adeel Hassan, on our National desk. “It still resonates.”

Now, a break from the news

Cook: A squeeze of lime brightens braised chicken with coconut milk, tomato and ginger.

Watch: Ben Affleck has four movies coming out this year, starting with “The Way Back,” a poignant sports drama. He spoke to The Times about getting sober and trying to recalibrate his career.

Read: Douglas W. Tallamy’s “Nature’s Best Hope” examines grass-roots solutions for reversing wildlife decline. It’s new this week on our hardcover nonfiction best-seller list.

Smarter Living: Our “Scam or Not” feature looks at whether coffee is good for you. Spoiler: Often yes (to the delight of your well-caffeinated briefing writer).

And now for the Back Story on …

The original Renegade

A new dance called the Renegade is suddenly everywhere, from teenagers’ phone screens to the N.B.A. All-Star Game. Shira Ovide, a technology reporter, and Taylor Lorenz, a Styles reporter, talked about the apps that helped the dance go viral — Dubsmash and TikTok — and about finding its 14-year-old creator, Jalaiah Harmon.

Taylor: I heard about Jalaiah Harmon from a friend in the Dubsmash community right around Christmas. People had cited her Instagram post, and it was clear she had created the dance.

No one online knew her full name or identity, and it took weeks to hunt her and her family down and get in touch with her mother directly. Her mom didn’t even fully realize what Jalaiah had created until I called her at work.

Shira: How would you explain these dance performance apps like Dubsmash to an alien new to our planet? (Or, say, a writer whose musical tastes are stuck in early-2000s ska bands?)

Taylor: Apps like Dubsmash, TikTok and Funimate let you post videos set to music or with special effects. Dance challenges — short 15-second pieces of choreography — are very popular on these apps.

Shira: How do Jalaiah and her family feel now about her very online kind of fame?

Taylor: They’re very excited and overwhelmed. Jalaiah was in Chicago this weekend to perform at halftime at the N.B.A. All-Star Game. She got to meet and collaborate with Charli D’Amelio, a TikTok star who helped popularize the dance. Jalaiah and Charli hit it off immediately. Kim Kardashian posted a video of Jalaiah doing the dance to Instagram. It’s been a whirlwind!

Shira: Taylor, can you do the Renegade? Can you show us?

Taylor: I’m in my 30s and so I don’t think my joints can move like that anymore. For anyone interested, Jalaiah posted a slow-motion tutorial on Instagram.

(This conversation has been edited and originally appeared in “Wait…,” a Times newsletter about how technology and celebrity are changing our lives.)

That’s it for this briefing. See you next time.

— Chris

Thank you Mark Josephson and Chris Harcum provided the break from the news. You can reach the team at briefing@nytimes.com.

P.S. • We’re listening to “The Daily.” Today’s episode is the second of a two-part series about a digital underworld of child sexual abuse imagery. • Here’s today’s Mini Crossword, and a clue: Unpaid bill at the bar (three letters). You can find all our puzzles here. • The Times received four George Polk Awards, one of journalism’s most prestigious honors, on Wednesday, the most of any news organization.

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