#homoaffection

[beyond-mogai-pride-flags]

Homo- Nonbinary Pride Flag

Combining this homo- flag with this nonbinary redesign. It includes those who are gay non-binary, as well as other non-binary people who feel symmaic/homo- attraction towards other gender gender(s) (of any kind), such as torians and trixians.

It could also be a term for non-binary individuals who reclaim the slang/slur homo. It's inclusive of homoaffectional anattractional folks.

Short word: homoenby/enbyhomo (counterpart to enbyhet).

[sharlinefreire]

committing all possible crimes being bisexual consumer of ao3 fanfiction cannibalism as a metaphor for love and homoeroticism old man yaoi queerbaiting tv shows with homoaffective subtext hozier sufjan stevens good omens christianism.

[chintikigirls]

Medic x Heavy x Medic's wife - TF2

Hii! This is something I've been thinking about a lot lately. In case you don't know Demoman has a taunt line against a Medic which is 'I've been shaggin' yet wife!'. And to many people, it seems like Medic can't have a wife AND also date Heavy. Like, do you know what a throuple is?? Anyway, this is based off my bot I made on janitor.ai(https://janitorai.com/characters/2d15ab13-d96c-4a98-89b4-3ca671125245_character-heavy-and-medic-tf-2) (btw I don't use Tumblr often and this is my first ever fanfic, and the cover art was also made by me!)

(⁠(⁠〃ﾟ〃ﾟ〃ﾟ〃ﾟ〃ﾟ〃ﾟ〃ﾟ〃ﾟ〃ﾟ〃ﾟ〃ﾟ〃ﾟ〃ﾟ))

Tick tock, tick tock, the clock seems to want to be an antagonizing force against Ludwig's mind. Today is the day. The day where Ludwig invited Mikhail, to meet his lovely wife, Ilsa.

Ilsa Ludwig is a retired nurse, one with a creative mind and talented hands. Ilsa met her current husband when she was assigned to him as an assistant back at an old clinic. Did she agree with every moral opinion the doctor had on medicine? Absolutely not. But, Dr. Ludwig was, and still is, a handsome devil with a silver tongue. Time went, time came, Ludwig and Ilsa have a serious arrangement.

They could see anyone else, as long as they both knew.

For the most part, neither of them really took advantage of this rule, until Ludwig became a mercenary and met the infamous Russian powerhouse of a man, Mikhail. Best known as 'Misha'.

The Doctor is confident in his sexuality, something not so often in 60's. Although he feels a closer connection to men, Ludwig still happily married a woman. The same applied to Misha, who felt a heavier homoaffection but also attraction to the fairer sex. Perhaps that's why they got along so well? Over the months, Ludwig made sure to tell Ilsa, who's now a home caretaker, everything about his handsome colleague.

"Jou von't believe this, Liebling. Mikhail simply lifted that whole box of supplies all by himself!"

Ludwig told as covered Ilsa and himself with the sheets. She looked pretty cute, but then again, when did she didn't?

Ilsa giggled, her curvy body molding against the warm sheets, the ex-nurse reached out to touch her husband's hand.

"Perhaps you should just bring Mikhail to dinner already, dear! He sounds like a dream."

The german-american woman said as bopped Ludwig's nose in a tender manner.

"Oh, I vill, I vill. I just need to ask Misha vhen he'll have a day off."

Said Ludwig with a smile as he tucked his glasses by the nightstand.

About a month and a half later, here they were. Ludwig looked in the mirror to see if he looked presentable, while Ilsa checked the food on the oven.

Ring-ding-dong!!

The German man opened the door, to marvel at the almost 7 feet tall man, Mikhail, of course.

"Aah! Misha!! Hallo! Come in, come in! Ve've been vaiting for jou!"

Misha stepped quietly into the apartment, his comically tall size almost reaching the top of the doorframe.

"Privet, Ludwig. I--Misha is happy to be here too."

The larger man's words came thick with an accent. In his big hands, he held a bouquet of flowers and a bottle of vodka as presents.

Suddenly, Ilsa turned on her heel, a grin spreading across her face as she saw him.

"Oh! Mikhail, it's so good to finally meet you!"

She immediately embraced the Russian, who felt out of place yet so welcomed.

"Please, call me 'Misha', and...Are you not mad, Mrs. Ludwig? Are you not angry that your husband cheats on you with me?"

Misha frowned, but he heard two laughs.

"Oh, oh, Nein, Nein, Schatz. It's not like that!"

Ludwig reassured, kissing Misha's lips, which seemed to calm the larger man.

"Yes, Misha, our Ludwig is right. No one is cheating or being cheated on. We... we're gonna be like a family now, right? That means we love and respect each other."

Ilsa said with a hint of romanticism, a trait her husband is used to.

For a second, Misha could feel the smiles radiating off Ludwig and Ilsa's faces. Perhaps, this is what love feels like. A triangle, their perfect shape.

[teacookiesandpeace]

homoaffective goth clown

i like him so much you dont even know

based on this panel

[welcomingdisaster]

A Refutation of Claims Made by Professor Basil Dyer in the Minas Tirith Review

for @silmarillionepistolary | M | ao3

It has come to my attention that The Minas Tirith Review has recently published an essay by one Professor Basil Dyer detailing and reinterpreting letters exchanged between Fingon, son of Fingolfin, and Maedhros, son of Fëanor, in light of recent translations and publications of long-censored exchanges. In his composition, Dyer claims the letters show evidence of long-established homoaffective relationship between the two, beginning shortly after Fingon’s arrival and in Beleriand, and continuing until his death.

This turn in the discourse is troubling, both because of the undue and perverse attention which it may attract to this noble publication and for the aspersions which it may cast upon the already well-sullied reputation of the historiographer. Perhaps if there was any academic merit behind them such faults may be forgiven, but they consist of nothing besides applying an all-too-modern understandings of customs (and the ever-loosening morality of the age of Man!) onto the long-gone age of the Eldar. 

That said, I shall begin by laying out the terms of the engagement. Let us assume, for the sake of simplicity and brevity both, that there is no doubt on the matter of authenticity of the letters exchanged between our two principal figures during the Long Peace. Even the most recently recovered—and most hotly contested—of these letters, dated F.A. 345, referred to in the previous publication by the first lines (“Concerning the matter of honey…”) and sometimes abbreviated as the “honey missive” (alternately, in particularly tasteless publications, the “honey-thigh letter”) in such discourses, shall be accepted into our metaphorical evidence box (though indeed any reader familiar with my previous publications might be predisposed to hold its veracity in some doubt). I shall also reference the K. M. Singer translation of all available letters as the most widely-accepted and aspire to make no reference to the probable inaccuracies in Singer’s understanding of Quenya terms of endearment and vocabulary regarding parts of the body. 

It may be wise to note before we begin that ladies of a delicate composition and children may find frank discussions of homosexual activity unnerving and inflaming. I would urge readers to exercise caution. 

And so, our terms of engagement well-laid, I shall begin by establishing the reasons any romantic or sexual entanglement between Fingon of the House of Fingolfin and Maedhros of the House of Feanor is entirely impossible, then move on to a sensible and scholarly interpretation of the letters. 

First, I draw the attention of noble reader first to the matter of cousin-marriage among the Eldar. While laws prohibiting cousin-marriage may appear novel and controversial to the modern Gondorian—indeed even a generation ago such unions were common among Men—the Eldar have once again proved perceptive beyond the ancient days during which they lived, and our betters in matters of morality and purity. 

I will not bore the reader with a recounting of the Fall of Gondolin, but work only to draw the reader’s attention to the doomed romantic entanglement at its center. Maeglin, the nephew of the King, coming out of savage darkness, saw Idril, the king’s daughter, and loved her. Given the depth of infatuation he purportedly developed it seems likely to the modern sociologist that for some time she encouraged this attention. Of course, as a highborn Noldo raised among a peoples of impeccable moral discretion, she had known for the beginning that such an affair could not bear any fruit. Such knowledge could not be expected from Maeglin, and many attribute his eventual decline and betrayal of the city to a broken and aching heart. 

That such an understanding was so plain to her and yet not to him may seem strange. Were they not both elves, living in the first of age of Arda, and nearly of the same blood? The answer to such a query might come from the relative moral tightness of Noldor society. Recall that Maeglin was no native Gondolian, but a son of the house of Eöl, and so of mixed Sindar and Avar heritage. All recording of first-cousin marriages among Elven Kin, as few as they are, come from lowborn elves among these two tribes. Recall that neither grey-elven nor dark-elven tribes, as their names suggest, had ever journeyed to the sacred light of the Blessed Isles, nor received council from the Valar. Their traditions and customs, then, may seen as more akin to those of Men than elves, lacking the moral rigor of their light-elf counterparts. 

Though I do not claim to liken homosexual acts to the sacred institution of marriage, one must admit that the act of bodily union is shared among the two, and so may be held in common as forbidden under the laws of the Noldor. 

With those facts in mind we must return to the matter of Fingon of Hithlum and Maedhros of Himring, famously first-cousins through the lines of their fathers. There is no question that that both were elves full-grown upon their departure to Middle-Earth, that according to all sources Fingon was a particularly devout follower of Aran Einior, the lord of air and great judge. Though the latter acts of Maedhros indicate a rather tenuous connection to the sacred laws of his people, Fingon’s devotion did not waver in his lifetime. Raised in such a morally upright culture, neither of them likely would have been able to conceive of engaging in any unholy union. Indeed, such a thought must have been so far from their minds as to allow a certain looseness of the tongue and purity of platonic intimacy, as evidenced by some of the exchanges I address. 

Next we must discuss homosexuality among the Eldar. For years the historical establishment has maintained that no homosexual activity had ever existed among elven-folk; indeed, it is an affliction that appears to trouble only the modern Man. That school of thought has been challenged recently, with very little justice. Basil Dyer and Feya Patrice, two of the most infamous names subscribing to this school of thought, point to articles of elven art which they claim contain themes of same-sex entanglements. Most notable among these are Fragment #221 by Daeron the Bard, which appears addressed to a male lover, surviving recreations of Lalwendë and a Friend in Bed by an unknown artist, and a series of oil lamps recovered from Eregion which seem to depict various sexual acts between elves. This evidence is scant, and spurious at best. More detailed refutations of the first two—clearly expressions of deep platonic affection or affectation of a different character—may be found in my earlier bodies of work, while the last is plain done in the spirit of parody. 

Indeed writings by earlier historians indicate that no desire could occur between elves without procreative desire, plainly rendering same-sex unions impossible. Relationships which modern historians sometimes interpret as homosexual are indeed better described with the elven understanding of melotorni and meletheldi, translated as chosen love-brothers and love-sisters respectively. That some form of platonic physical intimacy might have existed within these bonds is inarguable, but plainly it did not rise to the unholy stirrings of the flesh. 

All of the surviving letters available to us are those addressed from Maedhros to Fingon. Though these do not use the term meletorni directly, it is plain to see that many terms of brotherly affection to enter their forms of address. The opening of letter #5, addressed F. A. 302, has been much maligned, for to a modern reader it appears rather excessive in its affection. “Most beloved of cousins,” Maedhros writes, “how I miss thy kisses, and the weight of thy body atop mine, and the sweet softness of thy ear-tips beneath my mouth” —and on, in such a fashion, for a time. A modern reader may see conventions of a love-letter within these words. A historian intimately familiar with the details of the correspondence of the eldest son of Feanor would argue otherwise. Indeed, Maedhros appears often expressive of his affection. 

Of his surviving letters only remains which is addressed to Maglor the Bard, the eldest of his brothers and his second in command, mailed in F. A. 456, pleads with him to “take heart, and hold close my kisses.” Similarly, journals kept by contemporaries note nothing unusual in exchanges of kisses between friends, brothers, cousins, and so forth. A later elven play following the events of the Fall of Nargothrond features a kiss between Finrod and Orodreth in parting; similarly, artistic depictions of Finwë’s death often show his son kissing his face and his lips. What may seem unthinkable to the modern Gondorian was indeed quite commonplace among the Noldor. 

Which brings us to another turn of phrase in letter #5, which has gained some level of infamy among those determined to read perversion into the intimacy of their friendship. Lines 304-314 read as follows: “I have received thy handkerchief, with the sweet scent of thy sweat and thy perfume, and the imprints of thy lip-paint kisses. Know that I have sewn it now against the heart of my sleep-robes, so each night I might feel thee upon my breast, and that a hundred times now I have kissed the same cloth as thou hast.” 

I would not blame the modern man whose mind conjures a young woman pressing lipstick-kissed onto a postcard for her beloved, but in cultural context the meaning of these words changes. While it may appear rather odd in our time, lip-paint was common for men and women both among the Noldor. Being, for all their nobility, at times a vain people, the Noldor historically likened physical beauty to battle-prowess. The sending of lipstick-prints can be read as a show of force and physical ability between two young men, somewhat akin to bragging. The answering kisses, then, signal not a desire for intimacy but answering show of strength and of power. 

I may go on for some time to discuss each mention on kisses in the surviving letters, I would assume any discerning reader would be able to understand them by now as brotherly affection. And so, without further delay, I will move on to address the honey missive.

First, let us examine lines 2-13 of the honey missive, the most hotly debated in meaning: 

“Concerning the matter of honey; while I should be glad to sample any taste of the spring of Hithlum thou shouldst be willing to share with me, we have no great need of in trade. The wiry clover and harebell of Himring make for surprisingly subtle yet fragrant honey, thick and amber-gold. But indeed so taken with thee I am that even thoughts of trade I return to thee, and of honey; how I sit and think of thee bare before me—of how I might take such sweetness and spread it upon thy handsome thighs, to work clean with my mouth. I would be much obliged if thou wert to write to me of how thou wouldst stir beneath me, and call my name—indeed nothing now could make me happier.” 

In interpreting this passage, we must remember the positions of the Noldor as craftsmen and admirers of art. Despite being remembered now primarily as a warlord, Maedhros was born the son of a gem-smith and a sculptor, and was raised in a society which placed much appreciation on both masculine and feminine beauty. That in his time Fingon was considered beautiful is undoubtedly true. The rest, while resembling a sexual act to some readers, is plainly ridiculous, meant in all likelihood as a joking exaggeration. It is common among young men even in our time to joke crudely with each other; if we had Fingon’s letter of response I am certain we would see a laughing refusal. 

Having examined the scope of the evidence before us, I believe any reasonable reader would be forced to yield to the rightness of my position, and to admit there is nothing at all to the claims of those like Dyer, who seek to introduce perversion into the annals of history. We must then examine the motivations behind these claims, and wonder if Dyer and his ilk might not mean to work backwards, seeking justify their modern-day inclinations by creating precedent where is none. It is said, after all, that Basil Dyer has not cohabitated with his wife since the first two weeks of their thirty-year marriage. 

[she-ran-i-pursued]

Come on, you say you're not homoaffective, right? Soon we can conclude that you are attracted to people of the opposite sex, women. Does this mean that, then, have you ever felt attracted to any woman? Have you ever been interested in any woman? Has any beautiful lady ever caught your attention in a more intimate way? Since you claim to be a man in the way of God, in celibacy for 60 long years, that would be wrong, you bastard.

I…

He falters, hating to reveal so much of himself. There had been many a girl he had fancied when he was younger. His peers in school had teased him relentlessly for being shy around the girls, and indeed it had helped his resolve against being tempted into sins of the flesh.

I’m only a man… with flaws. I have been attracted in the past. Fleeting emotions that never came to be… why do you constantly look to my past? Tis full of things I can never change. Things I prefer to not remember.

[obsidianpen]

It's the last time I'll waste my time with you, I'm not your "big fan", at least not anymore. Your stories are too problematic despite the quality of the writing. I'm mature enough to admit that. However I can tolerate Tom Riddle and Hermione Granger pairing because it's normal. A lot of relationships are with women who think they can fix a guy because they think they're special enough, it's stupid but not abnormal. The only problem I have with you is being precisely Harry that you distort the character's personality and journey. He's not homosexual, you've read the books, you know he's not. I'm not homophobic, I really like Dumbledore despite his preferences but Harry Potter is not one of those homoaffective characters. That is all.

I hope you're joking about shipping us both. It's not funny, just so you know.

you hope im joking? 🥺 im not joking i don’t think this is funny i really think i can fix you 🥺🥺🥺

[da-janela-lateral]

Aromantic and intense about my friendships here but a lot of people in fandom use platonic relationships as an excuse to shut down other queer interpretations. The surge of people putting importance on friends and stuff was cool in the start, but their intentions got obvious really quick. I mean, stop to question it. Are you all for platonic bonds or do you only mention them when it's a queer couple? Do you hold the same principle when you talk about a man and a woman? Do you really think friends should be as valued as romantic partners or are you uncomfortable about homoaffective love?

It sucks out there! You don't need to say "OH, I see them as FRIENDS" in clearly romantic contexts when you can just ignore them. Besides, many queer interpretations are born from LGBT+ people who see themselves in that story! Is there anything good in 'valuing' an identity and pushing everybody else aside? This isn't nearly as supportive for the aromantic community as some of these guys claim, especially when most of it comes from straight and very amatoromantic people. If anything, this type of behavior only spells "I don't want to hear about gay experiences" to me.

[queerbarb]

Okay so... Is it just me or Lockwood from Wuthering Heights sounds queercoded?

This might sound crazy, but there are a few moments while reading Wuthering Heights where I thought to myself "wow, Lockwood compliments Heathcliff a lot!", for example on the Edgar Linton's Portrait scene:

"Mrs. Dean raised the candle, and I discerned a soft-featured face, exceedingly resembling the young lady at the Heights, but more pensive and amiable in expression. It formed a sweet picture. The long light hair curled slightly on the temples; the eyes were large and serious; the figure almost too graceful. I did not marvel how Catherine Earnshaw could forget her first friend for such an individual. I marvelled much how he, with a mind to correspond with his person, could fancy my idea of Catherine Earnshaw."

Does that imply that he thinks Heathcliff to be physically appealing? Well, at least he thinks that Heathcliff is more handsome than Edgar, which is weird because the only person that seems to compliment Heathcliff's appearance is Catherine.

I thought that I was maybe too much obsessed about my beloved queercoded characters, but then I found some other interesting parts of the book to support my theory:

"But Mr. Heathcliff forms a singular contrast to his abode and style of living. He is a dark-skinned gipsy in aspect, in dress and manners a gentleman: that is, as much a gentleman as many a country squire: rather slovenly, perhaps, yet not looking amiss with his negligence, because he has an erect and handsome figure; and rather morose."

Okay, this seems normal since a compliment between gentlemen may be completely platonic. But there is some hinted stuff about Lockwood that seems to be inherently queer, such as his failed attempts to flirt with women and the fact that his own mother said he would never have a family of his own, which is weird since he seems to come from a wealthy family, he does not seem too off puting besides his social awkwardness, so there is no apparent reason to why his mother would say such thing... EXCEPT FOR WHAT IF HE WAS A BIT FRUITY AND SHE KNEW!

"Let me hope my constitution is almost peculiar: my dear mother used to say I should never have a comfortable home; and only last summer I proved myself perfectly unworthy of one."

"While enjoying a month of fine weather at the sea-coast, I was thrown into the company of a most fascinating creature: a real goddess in my eyes, as long as she took no notice of me. I 'never told my love' vocally; still, if looks have language, the merest idiot might have guessed I was over head and ears: she understood me at last, and looked a return - the sweetest of all imaginable looks. And what did I do? I confess it with shame - shrunk icily into myself, like a snail; at every glance retired colder and farther; till finally the poor innocent was led to doubt her own senses, and, overwhelmed with confusion at her supposed mistake, persuaded her mamma to decamp. By this curious turn of disposition I have gained the reputation of deliberate heartlessness; how undeserved, I alone can appreciate."

Anyways, Lockwood is an awkward guy, and I find him rather amusement. He seems very much homoaffective to me, and I am enjoying trying to understand more about his personality.

[teafootballandmore]

“You need to think like a man sometimes, for them it is easier for the woman to play this role because in the future if you decide to "come back" the guy can use the excuse of "ah but you left me first" they don't close cycles, women do, men in general don't care enough about women they're not in love with, Jude may be an amazing guy in the future but he doesn't care about any of them enough right now, he's not attached to them, if they give him what he wants then that's enough, if they keep wanting him it's because they want”

Preach sis.

Let me add more tea: men marry or date for convenience, for what benefits them the most. They weren’t raised in the toxic romantic relationship culture like us women. Women are the ones responsible for marriage, taking care of the house, the husband, the needs, and society. They do that ungrateful job of raising the workforce. We were raised this way to maintain a system that was made by men and for men. Men don’t admire women; they don’t even like women in general. They’re homoaffective towards men: they crave men’s attention, men’s approval, and they can only admire other men. They don’t see us as equals or even as human beings. Lol, welcome to capitalism, the patriarchy, and all its collateral effects.

Does this mean Jude is a horrible person? No. It means he’s just another man living in this system. He might be a nice guy, a good player, but he’s still a man. Let’s treat him for what he is. The less you idealize or project onto men, the more clarity you’ll have in life, and the less likely you’ll be to fall into this toxic and misogynistic dynamic.”

Another anon telling the truth! ❤️

Being woman is hard work. We are treated as insignificant on every level of our lives. Don't even get me started what a lot of women agree on while being in relationships 🤬

[colombinna]

Maybe Sam will be dead for the next hot while and Roberto is gonna be depressed as fuck for the foreseeable future and maybe we didn't get the divorce at all but who cares. WHOOOO CARESSSSS about all that. I'm gonna get Fantasy High back in October. I'm gonna get my OTHER sad/silly/stuck up black biracial bisexual boy AND his awkward canonically asexual autistic-coded little green man and THEIR weird ass homoaffective friendship. And on top of that they're made by anti-capitalists. Marvel can suck my dick

[bisexual-movies]

if anyone cared to read the first meaning of the word would see that its two as the junction of two possible ways of attraction, heteroaffective and homoaffective. of course back on the old days they'd connect to two sexes or whatever though, but the word bisexual never meant anything binary by its own definition. it was not created wanting to mean two genders or even two sexes. so it didn't really change to mean something new to this day. it's always been what it really is, attraction REGARDLESS of gender and not "to all genders". <3 this also because people been saying its regardless of gender wayyyyyyyyy before the bisexual manifesto! the bi manifesto is great but there were fights before it, and it doesnt define everything about bisexuality.

i love how no one on this site knows anything about lgbt history. fucking obviously "bi" literally means "two," but that label was put upon us by cishets who only recognize gender as two sexes with the purpose of pathologising us. we reclaimed it and redefined it to suit the ACTUAL meaning of our sexuality, which, as according to the bisexual manifesto (1990), which was literally even titled Anything That Moves, bisexuality has always been an attraction to all genders. every single one. not any 2, not 2 or more. all genders.

[teatimemols]

I didn't even finish season 1, but I've consumed a lot of fanfic of it... I'm sorry, it was just too much (straight) romance for a show about a literal bromance between the 4 main characters. Every episode would have at least 2 couples' shit, at least.

Aramis was always fucking some woman (or the queen.) Constance was always there, but at least she felt her own person, so she was nice most times.

Like this shit is super homoaffective. Let's be honest with ourselves and stop pushing heterosexual shit in between to not look too gay.

[samofmine]

https://www.tumblr.com/samofmine/762646922456612864?source=share

Sorry, many of us are discussing with hellers and Cockles from the live streaming. The got no kiss from jensen amd misha and they started to throw their frustration to Jared and sam. It's full of hate

what lmao i had no idea anything like that was going on. thank god for my online bubble, we only talk about the weird brothers and j2's homoaffective relationship

[daybreakthing]

Can I have an heteroaffectional/heteroaffective flag?

It's a translation of heteroafectividad/heteroaffektivität/heteroafetividade and the counterpart of homoaffectional (or homoaffective).

It's a term for affection between differently gendered people. It would include duaric relationships and attractions, but also a relationship between a maverique and a girl, an anthrinely aporan and an agenrinely xenan, for example.

It would be similar to enanteic, but "dissimilar" instead of "opposite".

Also inclusive of anattractionals, queerhets, QPRs (arrobamientos/amasiamentos/concubines), variamory, and cupiospec people, still conformant to some extent.

Refs:

https://www.tumblr.com/isobug/758110422549266432/affection-affectivity-flag-a-representative-flag?source=share

https://www.tumblr.com/beyond-mogai-pride-flags/628076453714591744/panaffectionate-pride-flag?source=share

https://www.tumblr.com/isobug/705858726573309952/hetero-non-rose-non-romosexual-attraction-flag?source=share

queued!

[francoaaraujo]

Por que a homoafetividade entre coroas não deslancha?

Why isn't homoaffectivity between women taking off?