#however for myself I just say I’m a lesbian and leave it there

[desertdweller]

It’s very interesting how people will label based on their perception of you.

[bonetrousled]

the TAPE WOMAN INCIDENT is as follows. under a cut because this is a LONG ass ride

okay so to preface i need u to understand two things

1) i live in the middle of nowhere. i personally live in the middle of a CORNFIELD and it takes me fifteen minutes to drive to where i work and even that location is pretty non-notable. i work on the weekends and it gets pretty dead past 6 pm

2) i had a coworker we’ll call Sheldon who was one of THE worst people i’ve ever met. the most unbearable obtuse cishet white gay guy you can imagine. like “lesbians get too much rep” kind of guy. would follow you around WHILE you did your job stocking shit and talk your ear off to hear his own voice .  beyond that he was super weirdly violent. he’d make up stories about himself to sound cool but instead of being like “yeah my dad works at minecraft” he’d make up stories abt himself beating the shit out of people and like. wrenching their hair out.

if anyone else said these things to me i’d be scared shitless but i knew i could take him in a fight but it was still fucking WEIRD. talked abt wanting to hurt a higher-ups kids and he STILL wasn’t fired for that (eventually got fired later thank god) but he constantly did things that were borderline like. budding serial killer behavior ON TOP OF being unbearable to work with and constantly stealing my sales to make my numbers look bad

so. one of my coworkers had to leave early bc she was sick and i was given an ultimatum. i could either A) close alone for the very first time and be by myself for like two hours with no prior warning OR B) have sheldon come and close with me. of course i picked the former with NO hesitation. i figure yeah this is a scary and sudden happenstance but also if i had to be around him any longer id freak the fuck out. plus im like it’s like what. 5pm already? it’s not gonna be bad. i can deal w this.

so i’m sitting in the back alone and relaxing and whatever. i did everything i needed to do for the rest of the night earlier and since nobody was in the store i was just new boot goofing. the only thing of note that happens is that these middle school age boys come in and buy perms and leave. they will be back later

i go back to the back room and i’m enjoying myself when i hear the door ding so i go up to the front. in comes the omen: a woman in a tank top, coated in orange spray tan, with a bedazzled cross necklace. she’s the normal amount of annoying for any given Customer Interaction. HOWEVER

i go to cash her out. and i’m waiting for her to press a button on the card scanner but i don’t get the chance to be like “hey you need to do this for me to even start scanning your shit” because she begins telling me about an experience she just had

she goes “well. just so you know, i saw a woman in this parking lot, and she was sort of peering around into people’s cars, and she came up to me- and her face was ALL taped up.” so at this point im thinking like. gauze?? medical tape??

and she continues- “and she wanted a ride. so i said, okay, and i let her into my car. and she wanted a smoothie”

 (i have to interject here to say there is NOWHERE to get a smoothie near me. i have no idea what she’s talking about)

“so i took her to the smoothie place. she also had a BIG bag of carrots, and she wanted them to put the carrots in there. so they did, but then she decided she wanted them to remake the drink because they touched the carrots. anyway, i decided that was too much, so i had to drop her off. i let her go at starbucks, so, you know. if you see her, BE CAREFUL.”

okay so let’s unpack this. FIRSTLY i have had a woman made up to me. this is completely unbelievable from start to finish. i have no fucking idea what she’s talking about . SECONDLY: BE CAREFUL??

so i’m just like. sure this might as well happen . and i’m just like “ooh. um. haha yeah okay” and finally get to scanning her shit. and she goes to leave and stops at the door and her face falls as she STARES at me and whispers:

“i don’t know if you believe in this sort of thing, but i think god is watching. ALL the time. and i think he really, really wanted me to give her that smoothie. but i just COULDN’T do it.”

and she fucking leaves . so i’m just left there like 🧍 and i go sit back in the back. and im chilling out back there when i hear the door ding, so i go up and i’m greeted by the perm boys. they forgot some stuff they needed, so i’m like. ok cool no prob, heres what you need. while i’m helping them i hear the door ding again, but i’m helping the perm boys, so i figure i’ll finish with them and then see who came in and what they need.

we go to walk up to the register and someone’s facing away from us in the aisle. so i’m like “oh um excuse me! just gotta sneak past ya” and the Person turns around.

the tape woman. imagine if you will a lady with her ENTIRE HEAD wrapped in duct tape like the INVISIBLE FUCKING MAN. with a hole cut out in the duct tape for her mouth but NONE FOR HER EYES . there’s a single tape hole right next to her nose that she’s using to look out at me and in order to see me she has to lean all the way back to look at me with it . ADDITIONALLY she is carrying a fucking DUFFEL BAG that’s OPENED and filled with LOOSE BABY CARROTS

so while my heart takes a fastpass route straight to my stomach i am faced with a MYRIAD of realizations:

FIRSTLY the tape woman is fucking real. the omen i was given not even an hour earlier had come to pass and she was now in my store. SECONDLY i am the only person working. i can’t even look at anyone and be like HEY WHAT THE FUCK IS GOING ON because my only witnesses are the goddamn PERM BOYS and THIRDLY i have to act like her head is NOT in fact covered in duct tape because like. i dont know what the hell is going on i think if i react in any way i will be in danger

so the tape woman scoots out of the way and i check the perm boys out. and they BOOK IT out of the store . so i am now left alone with the tape woman

and i’m like <:)  ..... do you. um. need any help with finding anything? and the tape lady turns around and she points at a bottle and goes. “is this shampoo?” and i’m like “ohhh um no that’s color sealer. this is shampoo here” and like. despite looking 100% like she was going to axe murder me she was one of the nicest people i had dealt with all day. she was just like “oh okay! thank you”.

and she asks me how much is so i tell her and she’s like oh alright. i only have five bucks on me right now so i’m gonna go into the parking lot and see if i can find any money. and i felt bad because like. i was going to offer to pay but the registers don’t let you cash yourself out if you’re ringing on them so i was just like “oh! alright!”

so she leaves and comes back a minute or two later and she’s very nicely just like “oh um don’t worry about it, i’m not gonna get anything today. have a nice night” and im like oh you too! and she leaves. and i watch through the front window as she goes to leave and this guy gives her like 20 bucks . so i’m thinking “oh she’s gonna come back and buy it right”

she comes back into the door. and stops in the doorway and she says to me

“um, don’t worry about it, actually. i’m not gonna get that right now-“

and she lowers her voice before going:

“because i have to pray. and if the prayer turns out RIGHT. i will come back. and i will buy it.”

and she LEAVES without a second word. did not even see her in the PARKING LOT for the rest of the NIGHT . i have asked MULTIPLE PEOPLE who work in the same plaza if they encountered this lady and NOBODY HAS. i asked the people at STARBUCKS and they say they haven’t ever seen her. my ONLY witnesses are these middle schoolers trying to get perms. i have been thinking about this at least once a day since the event has happened. i haven’t even seen the first lady who warned me about her since. i think i was contacted by spirits or something

tldr two separate women channel god in a beauty supply store in the middle of country bumpkin nowhere at 7:30 pm while i closed alone

[solisaureus]

Let’s talk about a trend in queer Jason Grace headcanons

I have been seeing headcanons about Jason Grace actually being queer since House of Hades came out (Jason was not popular before that. trust me). While there's nothing inherently wrong with queer headcanons, it is frustrating that the most common ones I see are already included in canon in the less-acknowledged character arcs of Reyna and Piper. It feels wrong that Jason fans are so willing to read deeply into the story for evidence that that this white boy could be affected by compulsory heterosexuality and is actually queer, while Reyna and Piper are not appreciated nearly as much despite comp-het being a part of their canon stories.

I even recently saw someone say that Jason's character arc of learning who he really is outside of the norms of Roman society is suggestive of a queer coming out journey. If only there was a character in this series who canonically struggled with heteronormative expectations of Roman praetorship, who then embraced their canon marginalized sexual identity after stepping away from Roman society....does this ring a bell to anyone else...?

In addition to Reyna's canon arc getting projected onto Jason by fans, Piper's queer journey also gets applied to Jason while Piper herself is largely brushed aside by fans. Like Jason, Piper's memories of her hetero relationship with Jason were implanted in her head by the goddess of marriage, and she later realized that her feelings of love for Jason weren't genuine. She then goes on to break up with him and explore her queerness, later dating a girl. This is a very compelling allegory for the real compulsory heterosexuality that wlw experience, and as a lesbian I found myself relating to it a lot. It makes me sad that Piper's queer journey so underappreciated by fans, while every other day I see posts imagining Jason with a very similar journey.

Why Jason? Why do I see so many people put so much thought into how Jason could be read as queer, while largely not touching the female characters with canon stories of queer self discovery? It's hard not to wonder if this is linked to the bias of prioritizing white men over women and especially women of color. This isn’t anyone’s individual fault: if it were just one Jason fan doing this, I would chalk it up to just a preference for his character over Reyna or Piper’s. However, the presence of a trend, the fact that this happens repeatedly, suggests a bias in favor of centering white male characters to the detriment of brown female characters. If you feel targeted by this post, sit with that discomfort. Examine and question your preferences. None of us are free from bias, and leaving it unexamined doesn’t make it go away.

I’m not against queer readings of Jason’s character, I just wanted to point out that people’s headcanons tend to recreate the canon queer arcs of Piper and/or Reyna to project onto him. I’m pointing this out because I don't think people even know they're doing it. Part of me wonders why Reyna and Piper don't get the same kind of attention and celebration for the traits that people want to apply to Jason. Except I think I already know the answer.

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hey, I have a question! I’m also a Christian but I’ve been…questioning my sexuality lately. Could I ask, how do you deal with being Christian and lesbian?

HEYYYYY thanks for the question! i literally never get asks so this is niceeeeeeee.

tbh, it's incredibly hard. im kinda learning how to deal with it myself, so in true honesty, i don't really have a complete and full answer. as of right now, i'm trying to take care of my mental health as much as i can.

from Christians, I've kinda gotten used to seeing fucked up homophboia from them unfortunately, but it still makes it sad, although it's constantly hard to see. However what gets to me and hurts me the most is fellow LGBTQ+ people be angry at me or insult me for being Christian.

and while I understand it's a response to severe trauma, it hurts so much. someone literally said to me once "you shouldn't be part of a religion that gives people trauma, just something to think about", which is 1. passive aggressive and 2. genuinely unfair on me, because imagine saying that to someone of Jewish faith or Islam? I get that Christians have harmed millions of people for years and years. but having people tell me that i should abandon my religion hurts so much.

not to mention how people have compared being LGBTQ+ and Christian to being a n*zi which is a huge offensive comparison and a slap in the face to Jews who survived and died in the holocaust tbh.

it's incredibly hard because i feel like im constantly pulled in two directions and i'm being told to pick a side by people on Earth, even tho i feel in my soul that God genuinely loves me and LGBTQ+ people, and everyone. It's unfair.

How I deal with it as of right now is, while this sounds awful, I unfollow or block anyone who is ex-evangelical or ex christian. and it's not because i don't think their trauma is valid. it is 100% and they have every right to speak on what they experienced. it's just it makes me feel incredibly guilty for something that also feels like a genuine part of me.

and it's something i don't want to abandon or leave behind, because that would dismantle everything i have been through and everything God has helped me with up to this point. i just block or unfollow anything that makes me feel guilty and uncomfortable with my lesbianism, or my Christianity.

idk if this helps but i hope it does😭😭

[romanoffsbish]

I will NOT be posting the nonsense left in my inbox tagging/calling others out. To take this a step further I’m actually not posting any hate ever again. I don’t need to defend myself (or others) to miserable strangers on this app.

I do however want to respond to the topic at hand because by default you are calling me ace-phobic as well and that’s a falsehood.

If you have a problem with how we write a fictional character (that isn’t actually canon as anything because MCU and Marvel Comics are not tied together by a blood vessel) then you can easily leave our blogs behind. You’re not shackled to any fic writers page. Yelena Belova is comically known as an enemy of Natasha, not her sister. Alexei was her husband. Natasha once ate Peter Parker. Thanos tore Tony in half.

The point I’m making is comic /=/ movie canon.

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To also let you know, there’s huge talk that Yelena & Bucky are romantically involved in their newest project. People also saw the chemistry between Flo/Hailee and shipped Yelena with Kate before the Ace discourse had started (and continued to b/c it is their right).

There’s nothing but love for those who fall under the Ace umbrella here on my blog, and I say it that way because it is a spectrum, not a one size fits all identity. Start by understanding that ace doesn’t mean celibate. For you, and others it might, but for many it doesn’t. So the no smut does not even add to your argument. I’m aware that Yelena being hinted as ace might have excited you, given you a sense of visibility you’ve never seen in the mainstream (and you all do deserve such types of representation) but turning a Tumblr fandom toxic because they don’t see her the same isn’t fair. Especially because there’s no “proof” of her identity, “Probably more likely to identify as asexual,” is not a canon statement. If you’re here because a single Black Widow writer made an assumption based on a solo project they were involved in then you’re also not going to hit with anything credible because these writers do not talk to the heads when they make comments. They also don’t dictate a character’s future arc.

For further discourse I will defer you to this reddit link written by an individual who seems to identify somewhere within the spectrum.

I myself have written Yelena in all facets. I have written romantic, 1 smut, and I’m in the process of putting together a requested platonic one. It is not a malicious way to erase her potential aro/ace identity. It’s just to see her how I do.

Fanfic has always been about taking characters and running with your desires. Natasha has been turned into a vampire, witch, werewolf, lawyer, CEO, princess, stripper, Lesbian/Bi and the list goes on because interpretations vary wildly. Nothing we write is canon to the world, it is only to the writer / and interested readers.

[blushedfemme]

Helloo I love what u post even tho Im not the target audience rlly!(I'm a lesbian just like not one of the types u rlly write for/about) im looking for some advice tho and u might be able to help(if you're willing?)

Basically I have 2 separate desires.

1. Wear swimsuit

2. Have unshaven bush

However I also

3. I don't want people to see my bush peeking out of swimsuit bottoms as it feels private and like something I really only want my partner to see.. I am femme tho and not a huge fan of swim shorts.

What do I do?? I usually shave my bikini line and leave the rest long but that not my favorite solution.

U can delete this if u don't want to say anything I will not be upset I promise🙏💗

hi lovely, thank you! i’m so glad you enjoy my blog!! 💕

oooh this is tricky and something i myself have wrestled over in the past. i do think that unshaven bush that pokes out should be normalized, but it’s one thing to believe that and quite another to feel comfy showing that in public!

i have a few fuller coverage swim bottoms that are not shorts and feel very comfy to me as a femme, they’re kind of just a high-waisted panty “boy short”-esque cut, they’re still tight and barely cover my ass but they cover most if not all of my hair down there, so it’s a nice middle ground.

another option could be a swim bottom with a tiny wrap skirt portion! or wearing a little wrap skirt/some other cute swim coverup when you’re not in the water. i hope this helps!! 💓

[come-see-our-show]

How a Female Pippin Affects the Story: a Queer Ramble

Pippin is one of my favorite musicals, and I’ve been thinking a lot lately about what it would mean for the show if Pippin was a woman. In many ways, the story wouldn’t change it all. It’s about a person trying to find their purpose in life, guided by a performance troupe which is clearly a metaphor for mental illness. But, there are some changes.

With a female Pippin, the story is about a closeted lesbian going through an identity crisis, explores gender roles, discovers her sexuality, finds love, gets a cottagecore girlfriend, learns to accept herself, and fights internalized homophobia.

Let’s go bit by bit through the story, pointing out how things would change.

The Leading Player welcomes the audience to the story of Pippin, the firstborn child of Charlemagne, wanting you to cast aside all previous misconceptions. We meet Pippin, who has just finished university, “where [her] father had sent [her] to study, so that [she] may embark upon [her] life with a maximum of choices and possibilities.” (Feminist icon King Charlemagne??)

Pippin tells the faculty that she’s grateful for her newfound knowledge, but what she’s looking for can’t be found in books. She doesn’t know what she’s looking for, but it’s going to be something completely fullfilling. This is a very relatable experiences when you’re deeply closeted. You don’t know what you want, but you know that something’s missing.

For Corner of the Sky, I would keep the lyrics masculine. “So many men seem destined to settle for something small, but I won’t rest until I know I’ll have it all.” Although Pippin is a woman, she compares herself to men. Men have the freedom to dream, to be independent, and she wants that. But still, she’s going to do so much more than them.

Pippin tells her father she wants to be a soldier, again aligning herself with masculinity. We see after that Pippin isn’t a violent person and isn’t meant for battle, but doesn’t realize it yet. She thinks this will be fullfilling. It is a common queer experience to try to shove yourself into one box, thinking that is how you’re supposed to present. This Pippin thinks, “In order to prove that I’m unique, I should present myself in a masculine way by participating in war.” But of course, there is no right or wrong way to be a lesbian. A hobby or interest or trait doesn’t mean you’re gay or trans.

Pippin realizes she’s not a soldier. Her grandma Berthe tells her to find live in the moment and enjoy the simple things. This is when Pippin discovers.... women. I’m not gonna paste all of the lyrics (here is a link!) but the gist of the song With You is that Pippin is telling each girl, “You’ve awakened me, and I want to be with you” but the joke is that while he’s singing this beautiful earnest song, he’s hopping from girl to girl. However, even if you keep in that joke, a female Pippin is basically saying, “Oh, this is what I’ve been feeling. I’m a lesbian. Something has awakened in me and I want to explore these feelings.” (Cue the epic orgy scene!)

However, having all of this sex without love leaves Pippin feeling “empty and vacant” (obviously not everyone needs romantic love to be fulfilled but this is just one story ok). She’s had this sexual awakening but still hasn’t found love yet. So she starts a revolution, kills her father, and becomes queen, as one does of course.

Onto Act 2!

Pippin realizes she isn’t very good at being a queen, but TLP tells her that she’s on the right track. She’s discovered by Catherine, a widowed farmhand. TLP is concerned that Catherine is actually attracted to Pippin. Catherine says, “[She] put [her] hand on my face! They don’t usually do that.” At this point we know that this isn’t the first time TLP has told the story of Pippin, but this is the first girl Pippin. And this is the first time Catherine has fallen in actual love with one of the Pippins. Yeah, lots of lesbian implications there.

Catherine and Pippin begin a relationship and it’s very adorable. But then when Catherine asks Pippin to sit at the head of the table, Pippin freaks out. Even though this is what she wants, to live this simple life with Catherine and her son, a part of her is telling her it’s “wrong.” But of course, it isn’t wrong, but her internalized homophobia is telling her otherwise. So she leaves, and Catherine stops the show for a second so she add a new song, I Guess I’ll Miss the Man Girl.

“I guess I'll miss the girl She's gone now, in a whirl Her face was far from fine But still I'll miss her face And wonder if she's missing mine Some days she wouldn't say A pleasant word all day Some days she'd scowl and curse But there were other days When she was really even worse Some men are heroes Some men outshine the sun Some men are simple, good men This girl wasn't one And I won't miss her moods Her gloomy solitudes Her blunt abrasive style But please don't get me wrong She was the best to come along In a long, long while.”

That’s gay!

TLP and the troupe tell her that the only fulfilling thing will be to to light herself on fire and “become one with the flame.” Basically, they’re telling her to kill herself. She almost goes through with it, but she says there has to be something more than death. Catherine and Theo come back on and stand by her. Now Pippin has found her purpose. To be with a woman, to have a family together, to live a beautiful quiet life.

The three are stripped of their costumes. The lights and music are out. There’s no more mystique. But this is what Pippin and Catherine want. To be their authentic selves, even if it doesn’t look glamarous or as beautiful as people wanted them to be. They’re not putting on a false performance for anybody anymore.

They walk off, but Theo stays on, singing the reprise of Corner of the Sky, with the queer implications of “I don’t know who I am.” Theo is a young queer kid. But of course, TLP and the troupe enter, implying the internalized homophobia, depression, and suicidal thoughts that are so pervasive within the queer community. Blackout.

So what have we learned today, kids?

Pippin is an allegory for queerness and self acceptance

Pippin and Catherine are cottagecore lesbians raising their gay son

ummm  be yourself or something

On a serious note: I just wanted to take a moment to say, if you’re a closeted queer person: you are perfect just the way you are. And I know it’s hard. Believe me, I know. But even when it feels like the entire world is against you, please know that you’re not alone. You are under no obligation to come out until you feel ready to do so. But right now, there is a whole community of people who will welcome you with open arms.

[my-castles-crumbling]

Hi!! I heard you let people tell you abt things they can’t tell anyone else so I thought I might give it a go? I hope it doesn’t annoy you(!!).

However uhhh how do I start we’ll I’m a lesbian and pretty proud in my identity. I know it’s normal by now (after a long time of denial) and now I’m a queer activist, go to demonstrations etc.

However I have been raised with Christianity, not the awful kind but rather the „god loves everyone no matter who you are and what you believe“ kind. Basically my family is very open abt anything queer and support my identity wholeheartedly. Nowadays I don’t think I believe in God anymore, at least not the one from the Bible. The beliefs are very deep in my core though and recently I’ve been helping my mom a bit at church ( she didn’t ask me I offered, because I didn’t have school that day ).

Anyways I was sorting food from donations that go to homeless people and I was doing that quietly while listening to music. Suddenly a guy came up to me and looked at me like I was sick or something. I take out my headphones to see what he wants and he puts his hand on my shoulder and says: „May the horrible and disgusting demon leave your body in the name of Jesus Christ“

Which - weird but maybe he meant well. Still I asked him why he did it and he pointed to my pride bracelet and said that he pushed away the demon of homosexuality and that god doesn’t have to give me to Satan anymore. I told him that being queer is completely normal and he looked at me with pity and said: „The demon takes time to disappear, but do not worry god will take it away“ and it’s just really hurtful because the God I was raised with (if he is real) wouldn’t ever do that and I feel like his words just hurt something at my core? So much that I cried. My mother found me and comforted me but I haven’t told her what happened.

Just is that Catholic Guilt? Because I have never experienced anything negative with the religion (just personal experiences not what the Catholic Church is up to in general cause many many things it does are just fucking awful).

Dunno just needed to tell someone otherwise it might have eaten me up from the inside. Sorry for the dump you probably have your own issues and don’t need to hear my whining haha.

Okay bye!!

Hi!! <3

Don't feel bad about messaging at all!

Unfortunately, there are a lot of religious people who feel the way that man does. I would guess that maybe you were upset BECAUSE this is the first time you've experienced such negativity. And ESPECIALLY because you are religious, yourself. It's saddening and scary to see someone who claims to believe the same things as you do to act so full of hatred.

However, I would encourage you to not allow one man's opinions to affect your experience with religion. (I say this as someone who isn't religious at ALL). It's YOUR job to decide how you feel about religion. Unfortunately, there are horrible, hurtful, cruel people everywhere. If you have found safety and comfort with your religion, don't let him make you feel differently.

I will, though, warn you that this man's opinion is relatively common, especially amongst different subsets of Christianity. Trust me, I've seen it myself, way too many times. It's jarring and upsetting, and sometimes downright scary to come across, especially when you aren't ready for it, so be aware. Stay safe. There are people who feel like this. But not everyone does. And you have safety and comfort with people who don't.

Hope this helps!

<3 <3

[darkened-writer]

Take on Me

Request:  I have a robin from stranger things request. robin and reader have been dating for a while, before robin met steve. steve notices robins being a little secretive and confronts her about it. turns out its their anniversary and shes trying to plan something for them. steve begs robin to meet her “hot” girlfriend and robin agrees. steve is intimidated cause reader had tattoos and is pretty tall.

Pairings: Robin Buckley x Fem! Reader

Warnings: None

Word Count: 691

A/N: This was a very fun request to do since I myself am tall and have tattoos, thank you @jynxxy-376 for the request and I hope you enjoy reading!

The Spring air clung to the flowers outside of Family Video, teens exiting with their movies on rent, and some bought to keep forever. Colorful clothing, Boisterous hairdos, and music ringing out with synth chords and angelic voices. Spring break was just around the corner, and many highschoolers were off to prepare for parties, sleepovers, or car rides in the sun. Robin, however, has a completely different predicament that had her mind wrecked.

Planning an evening with her girlfriend, whom she had kept hidden from Steve ‘Casanova’ Harrington. He practically flirted with every female that waltzed into their shop, regardless of if they came with a boyfriend.

“Okay, you are TOTALLY hiding something from me.”

Pushing the cart along the aisles, the ‘romance’ section had turned Robin into a blabber mouth, shutting her own mouth before she spouted about her girlfriend. 

“No- I was just talking about how lesbians don’t get any representation in film. That is ALL.”

Circling the cart, Steve firmly placed both of his hands on the edge of the cart, stopping her from moving it any further. 

“Do you have a girlfriend? That I DON’T know about.”

“Erm-... no?”

“YOU DO?!”

“SHH!” She shoved the cart into his midsection, arising a groan of pain as she pulled him behind the counter to speak.

“Yes, I kind of- sort of- have a girlfriend. A really... hot…HOT girlfriend. Today is our anniversary and I don’t have anything planned, AT ALL. So, forgive me for PANICKING at the thought of her-”

“Can I meet her?”

“Of course you can!” 

While Robin continued to ramble on and on about how unprepared she is, Steve helped out customers and finally, to shut her up, he threw a movie at her, making her gasp in a playful shock.

“Yowch! You should’ve been a basketball player-”

“Watch that with her.”

Born in Flames, directed by Lizzie Borden, with a Lesbian lead character.

“You think she’d like this?”

“Well, you did say stuff about representation, so why not a film with plenty of it?”

A soft smile arose on Robin’s face, throwing a playful punch to his shoulder as she thought for a moment.

“I’ll make her dinner, then we can watch this, Harrington! You are a freaking genius!”

DING!

“You got that? Right? Cool, I’m gonna call my girlfriend to pick me up!”

Before he could protest, Robin shut the workers lounge door, leaving Steve with the incoming mob of customers, turning around and putting a smile on his face.

“Welcome to Family Video, what genre suits your interest…” A group of girls. He fluffs up his hair and smirks.

“Or perhaps I suit your interest-”

DING!

Steve rose his gaze up, noting the tattoos that reached under the leather jacket sleeve, but by god, was this woman TALL. But, oddly enough her gaze was friendly, so he decided to shoot his shot.

“I know the air is pretty thin up there, why don't you lay in my bed and catch your breath?”

“That’s the best you got?”

The woman peered down at him and sent a chill up his spine. She was more than intimidating, she was just plain out SCARY.

“Hey! I see you’ve met my girlfriend-..”

His mouth hung open as Robin walked past him to place a gentle kiss on the tall, tall womans cheek, having to be on her tippytoes to do so.

“You know, he tried to flirt? Haven’t had any man actually make a move in years, pleasure to meet you, Harrington.” She stuck her hand out, more tattoos poking out as they shook hands.

“He helped me pick out the movie for tonight, it seems amazing from the synopsis. Has a lead, Lesbian character also.”

An amused smile graced her face and she took the cassette from Robin’s hand and turned it around, reading for a moment before nodding to herself.

“Good taste..”

Robin gave Steve a side hug, 

“Mind taking the rest of the shift?”

With an exasperated sigh, he nodded, waving the two goodbye as they left.

‘Young Love’, he thought, as he leaned his head against his hand, waiting for the next customers to come in. 

[gayofthefae]

Okay, so I’m a lesbian, but when I was in eighth grade, I dated this girl because she liked me and I had liked her a month before. The thing is, though, I also thought I had liked this guy before her and (as a comphet does) didn’t “decide” to stop liking him so I felt really guilting about liking both of them and I didn’t want him to think I liked her and not him but I also felt really bad because she was my girlfriend and so we would hold hands and stuff and that was nice but in my guilt I was pretty hesitant to do anything else even hang out outside of school because I didn’t want to let myself like her too much but I also didn’t want to lead her on. 

This all to say: Bisexual Mike Wheeler gets a crush on this girl and it’s a sort of peer-pressured crush at first and pretty dependent on her ability to find Will but after she saves him on the cliff, he starts to get to know her better and it becomes real. Then she dies and Will comes back. He calls her every day because hey, last time he thought someone was dead, he was wrong and Will only didn’t die BECAUSE he believed that, so it’s sure as hell worth a shot. But Will is also back and they’re just...spending time together again and then all his focus goes to Will because he’s in danger. Then El comes back and he is so relieved, especially right now because it just lifts a burden he was still carrying underneath everything. Then they start dating, but it’s different now because this time, Will is present not just as a witness but as a reminder of his split feelings - however conscious, a emotional reminder for his guilt. So he feels guilty to Will for dating her and guilty to El for feeling guilty to Will so he does things like is hesitant and pulls her hands off him when they kiss but also overcompensates to prove to himself that he likes her “enough” by making it clear when he’s late and maybe even kissing her more than he’d like to (why they only kiss and never actually hang out even if he does like kissing her). He’s also trying to treat her like “a girlfriend” to differentiate his feelings for Will. “Feelings not logic” in contrast to him using logic because acting on feelings would resemble the way he acts with Will a little too much and he doesn’t want to confront that. When she’s in danger, though, he forgets about that and just acts normal around her again and that’s when their relationship gets better. Then he lets an “I love her” slip. And it certainly doesn’t help that it slips in front of Will, who has also now explicitly told him that his relationship with El has hurt him. So he tries to tell her, but he can’t. He can’t because he feels guilty for what it could mean to Will AND because he knows the implications are “her and only her” and that is a lie. So when she says it back, he’s just stuck in shock - both because of the emphasis on his own guilt of just coming from his conversation with Will AND because however nice it is that she loves him too, that raises the stakes of hurting her. And that certainly adds to his guilt. We don’t know how much Mike really called Will, but we do know that in person, he didn’t pay much attention to him. He avoids hugging him - trying to differentiate his feelings and behaviours around them once again - and he doesn’t so much ignore Will as his overcompensation to comfort his own guilt by focusing on El leaves him behind. He does want to hang out with Will, so he’s still paying attention to him, but he doesn’t know how much Will wants to hang out with him, having not called back much, and every time he thinks about diverting his attention he gets a little pang of guilt. One of the clearest points of this attempt at differentiation, that we’ve seen him having trouble with since El asked him about crushes in season 1, is in his fight with Will when he says “because she’s my girlfriend, Will!” He assigned letters to her as romantic. And he’s holding onto it and spitting it out when he feels attacked. Will says “and us?” and he tries to tell himself “it’s different! I don’t feel the same things for you! I don’t have feelings for two people!” He’s overwhelmed - and it shows in how very removed he is for the rest of the day. And his romantic feelings may very well even be beginning to take a side in the triangle, which just adds to the guilt of still being in it. So he still can’t say “I love you” because the implications would be the same, worse lie. And when Will talks about telling people the truth and he nods, understanding the fear and guilt, who knows if he truly even knows what “the truth” is. But he does know he feels like shit about even just not knowing. Because he should know. He should just like her and only her. But he doesn’t. And then the painting is certainly not helpful - as is the guilt from the visible disappointment when he finds out it wasn’t from Will. But he still does try to tell El he loves her again because Will also said that he hasn’t lost her and he does still want to try with their relationship. That conversation is interrupted and by the next time he gets the chance - it’s immediately prefaced by Will hyping him up, a guilty reminder both that Will is there and of his split feelings. So he purses his lips and he forces it out. And he lies. Not because it isn’t true. At the core of it, it is. But his speech itself is still disingenuous. Because at this point, he doesn’t trust himself and the love he DOES have for her to be enough. So he tries to glorify it and make it sounds all rom-com-y and he says everything for what she needs to hear. And the stakes are high. But that means that he focuses more on it being convincing than it being genuine. He wants it to sound good because he thinks that’ll more likely save her than if he just tells her he loves her honestly because he feels so guilty that he believes that won’t be enough so he dupes for that played-up, vague, scripted speech even if he does have a genuine one in him somewhere. And then they don’t talk much. And they’re in this weird grey-area where she vents to him about Brenner but won’t mention the speech and she rests her head on his shoulder but shuts the door behind her. But then Will says that he feels Henry so Mike grabs his shoulder a little too hard and he walks with him in the field and he lays down his guilt because it is not the most important thing right now. (But yeah, maybe he also lets himself hug Hopper for more than ten seconds today. Season 2 taught us he’s a good hugger to Mike so like season 2 - it’s nice to have that little burden lifted and have Hopper back to hug, especially when he needs one.)

He’s still torn and racked with guilt. There are just bigger problems at the moment.

[soreiya]

For the record, I do not have a problem with people having HC’s. You can HC whatever you want until your dying days. What I actually have a problem with is people presenting HC’s as if they are canon facts. The issue with doing this is that it promotes the spread of false information. It muddies the waters of truth and ends up leading to unnecessary arguments between fans. People will vehemently claim that a character is such and such because they saw a post on social media about it, or they read a fan edited Wiki page. Completely ignoring the lack of any actual evidence in the source material.

Let me present an example to help clarify things.

I HC Cassandra as bi. If you came up to me like “Uh no, she’s canonically a lesbian.”. You’re not only being rude, but also spreading false information. However, if you came up to me and were like “Yo! I HC Cassandra as a lesbian.” I’d be like “Cool, who do you ship her with?” and it would be a peaceful and fun interaction.

Now what happens when you do the same thing with AU’s?

Take Vat7K for instance. Some fans do not tag it’s inclusion in fics. You may be a fan of the AU and thus see no issue with this, but what happens when it’s something that you are not a fan of? What happens when you want to avoid something due to anxiety inducing triggers? Imagine having to CTRL F every fic before reading just to make sure that it’s safe for you. This is the kind of harm that you can legitimately cause others without even realizing it. I wish I could say something profound to express just how important it is to be considerate of other people’s feelings. I really really do, but I’m just not eloquent enough to explain myself in a way that could leave an actual positive impact on others.

[hellomynameisbisexual]

What a weekend: both Pride in London and UK Black Pride saw their highest ever turnouts. I was lucky enough to be present for both. The energy was incredible. The city was washed in rainbow and everyone was there to say love is love and who you are is valid.

I was honored to be asked to speak on the Trafalgar_Square stage and address the crowd. Speaking in front of thousands of people is not exactly my dream but I felt it was important to have people like me represented. I did it for the young bisexuals out there searching for representation and rarely finding it. It was an amazing experience: seeing people raise those bisexual flags high and cheer at me for saying positive things about bisexuality truly gave me hope for the future.

What I decided not to share with the crowd was that two gay men made biphobic comments to me that day for wearing a shirt with a huge bisexual emblem.

Biphobia is happening at Pride, of all places

The next day at UK Black Pride a gay guy pointed at my shirt and remarked, ‘really? I don’t believe you.’

These were three gay men making biphobic comments during Pride weekend. That number doesn’t even include the nonverbal eyerolling from passers-by.

If there is one thing that truly pushes my buttons it’s hypocrisy. Of all the places and people to make negative remarks about my sexuality, it was gay men at Pride. People at a protest, calling on people to not discriminate against them, were happy to dish it out to others.

The truth is I’m more angry with myself. I was on such a good vibe at both Pride events. I also didn’t do what I normally do – put the fear of god into them.

The truth is this isn’t about me. I’m a big boy and I can take it. But the young bisexual guys, girls and non-binary people out there just emerging in to their sexuality will take these comments to heart. It is on the shoulders of people like me to call out biphobia and make these people feel so small that they never dare do it again.

What is important is that I am by no means criticizing the organizers. Both the Pride in London team and the UK Black Pride do a fantastic job and, of course, stand against biphobia. They have bisexual people working on their teams that know the issues. However, they can’t control the millions of people that attend these events.

Biphobia within the LGBTI community is a big problem

These problems exist in our community long after the Pride flags comes down every year.

It’s important to understand this isn’t just one bisexual man’s anecdotal experience, it is widespread throughout our community.

One report found that bisexual people face just as much discrimination within the LGBTI community as they do from straight people.

The Equality Network found 66% of bisexuals do not feel part of the LGBTI community. Figures that seem to have a knock-on effect. Bisexual adults are also much less likely to join an LGBTII organization or attend an LGBTQ Pride event.

Biphobia coming from within the LGBT community is actually so well-documented there is actually a term for it. Researchers came up with the term ‘androcentric desire hypothesis’ to describe the phenomenon that gay and lesbian people perceive bisexuals as being more attracted to men, which is why they treat us with disrespect.

That’s why we need a better way to stamp out biphobia within our community than our current efforts. Going forward I would like to see more of an effort made to specifically tackle attitudes towards bisexuals. It starts with LGBT groups spending more than 1% of their budgets on bisexual issues and bringing bisexual leaders in to the fold to help advise them.

This year the UK will hold its first ever Bisexual Pride on 7 September. I hope all queer people will join the celebration and help leave biphobia in the past.

[yellowjacketslesbian]

7, 9, 17 for the fic asks :)

FINALLY answering this weeks later lol

7. best friends to lovers, second chances, and doomed soulmates are three of my absolute favorite tropes in fiction, which is honestly kind of the biggest reason I was drawn towards taivan as a ship because they're really all three tropes rolled into one. it was also a big factor in why they were the first ship I was comfortable writing fic / actively participating in fandom for. however, I can't force myself to write a sad ending ever, so I usually gravitate towards writing best friends to lovers and second chances.

9. it honestly changes all the time for me, but here are a few that I'm most proud of:

this is my favorite taissa line I've ever written from let’s not do the wrong thing and I’ll swear it might be fun:

“The shrine to the mediocrity of men that they put up as a consolation prize to make them feel better about the fact that they’re going to peak in high school? Yes, I know it well.”

this line from To Leave the Warmest Bed I've Ever Known:

When you’re so used to the pain of being left, you learn to leave first. Promises to stay start to feel like promises to get hurt. Having Tai again may be worth getting hurt.  

this excerpt from Just Tai Me Up Already:

Their kisses grew even more intense as they murmured “I love you” against each other’s lips. They said it so earnestly, like the words could somehow fix everything that had happened to them in the last eight months. Like “I love you” could fix what was happening to Tai, to them. Like “I love you” could bring back their dead friends. Like “I love you” could save them from starvation or worse. Like “I love you” could make them never get on that plane, maybe Van spent the night before the flight at Tai’s instead of in her own bed, and they overslept together. Like “I love you” could make them wake up in some college dorm room tangled up in the tiny twin bed on a long weekend together. Like “I love you” was a promise they knew they could keep to each other.

this excerpt from Don’t Say You’ve Missed Me If You Don’t Want Me Again of Van reflecting on what they really meant during their S1E7 NYC monologue 25 years later:

Maybe, they should’ve wished for more for them that day twenty-five years ago just days before one of the worst days of their life. Perhaps, they set the bar too low in their adolescent mind for their relationship when, if at the time, they got back. Like one romantic gesture on one day would ever guarantee them a future together. Perhaps, no amount of grandiose romantic gestures could’ve saved their relationship once reality began sinking in for the both of them. Perhaps, they had meant more by that at the time, when they told her about that dream for them out there. Now they realize when they said “I’m not going to die out here without at least trying to get there,” “there” meant something beyond a daytrip into the city. “There” was train trips on the weekend down to DC to see her. “There” was exchanging promises to stay together under a trellis of lavender in front of all their friends and family. “There” was just lying beside each other reading a book they would talk about over a cup of coffee in the morning. They had known that “there” meant more at the time, too, if they’re completely honest with themself.

this line from Your Love Is Tried & True Blue:

They stay like that for a while, making out on the sidewalk with Henreitta Hudson’s triangle sign behind them, lit up by the streetlights and neon signs of the village. Maybe they’re the new americana of the Y2K era. A fucking lesbian Norman Rockwell painting. At least, that’s how Van feels about them right now.

the countdown to midnight in both Midnight Kisses & Double Proposals one shots:

17. honestly, there a lot of incredible fic writers in the fandom who have definitely influenced me and made me a better writer. especially since I only started writing last year, I feel like I've learned a lot from my time in the fandom even just talking to other fic writers.

however, as far as authors who have influenced me, John Green was one of my favorite YA writers growing up, and I feel like his work definitely has a strong influence on how I write pre-crash / young taivan in fics. especially his informal, straightforward writing style. also, I've moved away from it a bit in fics now, but I really admire how he incorporates music into his stories and really leaned heavily into that in the first ever fic I wrote.

I also really admire Casey McQuiston's writing, especially in One Last Stop, but their influence on my own writing is definitely a bit more vague.

like if I had to describe my writing style for most of my young taivan fics it's kind of just "if John Green were nonbinary dyke vaguely influenced by McQuiston who writes lesbian soulmates"

as far as my influences for writing adult taivan, I'm kind of still figuring it out. like I feel like I can't quite figure out what influences how I write them, but I definitely write them in a very different style from young taivan.

anyway... I rambled a lot, but this was really fun!

[menalez]

Tbh if somebody comes out to extremely homophobic parents, however they want to do it to make it easier on themselves is their business and nobody else’s. If an extremely SSA leaning bi woman comes out as lesbian because she’ll get less shit from her family about it then I think that’s fine and she doesn’t have some kind of societal responsibility to be technically accurate about her sexuality to every person she meets. That’s insane. Wtf happened to “my sexuality is none of your business”?? Like, I’m a lesbian and I’ve told men in bars that I have a boyfriend to get them to leave me alone. I suppose by this logic somebody who knows I’m a lesbian already could hear and I am therefore lying that lesbians can have boyfriends and committing a terrible hate crime. Ruining everything for all the other lesbians or something. Like… no lmao. I’m gonna say whatever I have to say to keep myself safe and random lesbians online moralising about how I tell others about my own sexuality can go fuck themselves. Genuinely seems like some people have lost the common sense to know when something is not their business.

please explain how extremely homophobic parents will apparently take it better if youre homosexual than if youre bisexual.

also.......why even come out as a lesbian lol. ur "sexuality" is none of your parents business? then don't say anything. what is there to gain from lying about being another minority and running the risk of reinforcing the rhetoric that lesbians just need to find the right guy when u know ur not even a lesbian? what is there to gain? what is this safety net that lesbianism apparently gives women bc no lesbian ive come across actually managed to experience it.

[gaia-prime]

Radfem/💇‍♀️: Are you a radfem, just radfem-adjacent, or just gender critical?

radical feminism is the form of feminism to actually aims to improve to material reality of women. choice-y lib-y pomo-y “feminism” is just decorating the cage, radical feminism is getting out of it 🐅

Peak/🌄: What was the first thing that peaked you, and when did you peak (not just specifically “peak trans,” but anything “peak patriarchy”)?

peak trans was the rape rhetoric towards lesbians

Everest/🏔️: What has been your worst subsequent peak?

when nobody who supported the gender movement was pushing back against the rape rhetoric towards lesbians.

one time i did see someone say “don’t say that” not because it was, you know, rape, but because it’s quote: “bad optics”

Separate/🚷: Are you a female separatist or a lesbian separatist, and to what extent?

GNC/🥾: Are you GNC, and to what extent?

no one would describe me as gnc, and i’ve got shiny long hair and pretty privilege (lol) to thank for that. i mostly only leave the house for work (in scrubs) or or the pottery studio (in a tshirt and overalls or sweatpants.) but when i’m wearing something in my style it’s usually pretty feminine, albeit practical. i refuse to wear anything debilitating or uncomfortable. i straight up lose respect for anyone who has those long false nails 🤮

Orientation/🩲: Are you a lesbian, bisexual, or heterosexual?

lesbian 🌈 lucky me ☺️

Bi/🔺: If you’re bisexual, are you a febfem?

Hetero/👫: If you’re heterosexual, are you choosing to be celibate?

Picrew/👤: No more identifying information, make a picrew icon of yourself that doesn’t look like you.

what about some of my photomode snaps from horizon zero dawn and forbidden west?

Leg/🦵: Where does your leg hair start getting darker (above the knee, mid thigh, dark from the moment hip ends and thigh begins)?

at my knees

Body/🔍: Do you have more/darker body hair on your left side, right side, or about equal on both sides?

equal i think?

Carnivora/🦊: Are you more of a cat person or a dog person?

I’m bipetsual.also i think hating dogs or hating cats is embarrassing and demonstrates poor character and you shouldn’t admit that in public…

Baby/👶: How do you feel about the baby plane (funny answers only)?

i’m zooted out on benzos seroquel and complimentary drinks when i’m flying so i am OUT snork mimimimimi on planes…

Natal/🤰: Pronatalism, antinatalism, or natalism neutral?

natalism agnostic i guess? natalism skeptic? i cannot relate to wanting to give birth,but i get that not every woman desires the same thing. and i have no interest in denying women the opportunities and resources to be mothers. however, i believe in the importance of empowering women worldwide with access to education autonomy over their reproductive health. when women are empowered, birth rates go down. this is a good thing. woman choosing when to be mothers , or not, is a good thing. i believe in humanity (despite everything) and would like to see us continue to survive as a species. however unending population growth only serves a few very powerful people because capitalism demands endless growth. it’s not a sustainable future and it’s not the future women want.

-Fem/💻: Do you identify as a member of any of the -fem titles (factfem, nicefem, rudefem, etc)?

not really. however the only posts and comments i have made that seem to get any attention are snarky comments and jokes, so i guess i come off as a rudefem more than anything else. which is not how i conceptualize myself and not exactly the energy i want to put out there to lesbians and gnc people who go along with gender nonsense. or especially to ones that are really struggling, feel pressured, or have existing trauma or mental illness exacerbated by gender propaganda. above all else i just want lesbians and gnc people and kids to be safe and healthy. i just don’t know if there’s much i, using a tumblr blog, can do about that.

Animal/🦕: If you had to pick an animal to represent your blog, what would it be (catfems, you don’t have to answer cat)?

a wolf 🐺 because i want my mate . AwoooOooo

Labrys/🪓: If you’re a lesbian, how do you feel about the labrys (both the flag and the icon)?

uhhhhmm..

Interest/😍: If you weren’t a radblr user, what would your blog be about?

i wouldn’t be me if i weren’t a feminist and weren’t true to myself and my interests. if you can’t be a feminist in a low stakes forum like tumblr, where Can you be a feminist?

Gender/💩: Here’s the link to get a random Wikipedia page. You now have a neogender based off of the page that was pulled up–what is it?

Man on the Moon (soundtrack) oh?

Feminist/🦸‍♀️: Are there any particular feminists or feminist groups you look up to?

i look up to every lesbian who is being true to herself and not taking male bullshit

Woman/🧑: For $0, name a woman.

Azealia Banks

Man/🧔: If you could kill one man (excluding politicians, billionaires, and those responsible for world tragedies), who would it be?

kAm