#i feel like it's a discordant mess of all the random things i reblogged + me psting art of blorbos

[we-dont-talk-about-potato-nonono]

Your blog is literally so fun and entertaining. I'm obsessed 💀💅

asdffg aw thank you nonnie,, <3<3<!! this was a really sweet message to wake up to

happy new year 2024 btw!!! 🎉🎉 ❤️

i just want to take a moment to thank everyone who has continued to follow my blog ^^ it's such a joy to interact with all u lovelies <3 i appreciate yall and thanks for all the kindnesses 🥰 i hope everyone here had a great 2023 and an even better splendid new year 2024 as well!

[howmanyholesinswisscheese]

Welcome!

It’s come to my attention I don’t have an intro post (could’ve sworn I did but it’s disappeared somewhere) so here it is :)

NOTE: Fam FAQ under the cut :D

Hello!

You can call me Arthur

He/him 🏳️‍⚧️ (pronouns.page)

Peppa pig was not my sexual awakening she just made me sound British. Yes I’m the guy who gave the Good Omens Mascot dad issues. No comment.

I’m aroace but it’s all a bit hand wavy, autistic, trans masc (ish???), and overall a bit of a mess. Enjoy my flailing.

I write fics sometimes

Multifandom (Good Omens, EPIC, Sherlock Holmes, etc) blog with a hefty serving of shitposting and family drama.

DMs and asks are open, I’m always up for a chat. I mean it. Tap on the glass. TAP ON IT.

Send me writing prompts!

More info under the cut (fandoms, other sites, tags)

Fandoms I’m into right now:

Good Omens (background interest atm)

Sherlock & Co (COME YELL AT ME ABOUT THEM)

The Odyssey/Iliad (PLEASE YELL AT ME AAAHJGKG)

And various other random stuff if I feel like it

Other things I post/rb about:

Asexuality

Neurodivergence

Writing

Adoptive family drama (under #the fam)

And shitpostery.

Other sites I’m on:

AO3

Discord - DM me for that if you’d like it

The Fam FAQ

It terrifies me that this is at a point that I must make an FAQ, but I will.

"Arthur, what the fuck is the fam?" you ask.

I don't know either. All I know is I've managed to amass several adoptive children, a mother, a brother, multiple niblings, a wine aunt, and a reputation.

I'm your dad. Your cishet deadbeat dad. That is the extent of the information available to my bewildered brain.

"How can I join the fam? Do I need to be good friends with you?"

Just send me an ask!!

Good news, the fam is like a subway sandwich: there are so many options available to you and you don't need to know the names of any of them to point and go "hey underpaid customer service worker, I want that one". Point is, I love you, welcome to the fam.

"But Arthur, what's my role?"

*Commercial voice* To chose from, you have...

adoptive child (very popular option. i will call you champ whether you like it or not. and bonus: chat with me over games of catch or golf like a true cishet dad does, and permanently be a better child than @weirdly-specific-but-ok will ever be)

nibling (general version of niece/nephew) (join @queermarzipan and @hoarder-of-dragons, i will still call you champ even though im your uncle)

grandparent (aka one of my or my (absent) wife's parents, this is @hell-hath-no-fury-like-love, my disapproving mother)

sibling (be the weird aunt/uncle to, like, seven or more strange and traumatised children)

by request, you can also become an in-law if you find a willing maggot to marry (@random-doctor-on-the-internet happy now)

i can't think of any other relations but if you come up with one YOU ARE COMPLETELY FREE TO CLAIM IT

you can be anything -- in the end of the day, you'll always be better than @weirdly-specific-but-ok :D

My tags:

#let me tempt queue — queue tag

These others I really should implement but half the time I forget. Good luck.

#arter speaks — my own posts

#arter writes — any sort of writing or prose I end up doing

#arter flails — long reblog chains, general idiocy

#arter gets needlessly patriotic — I somehow seem to post a lot about australia. I don’t even like it here.

#the fam — I have somehow managed to adopt several children, I try to tag our shenanigans with this for Memories, feel free to block it as they often take the form of very long rb chains

#arthur's snazzy gomens teacher au -- what it says on the box. Tags for my good omens teacher AU: "Love As A Hallway And Several Novelty Mugs".

#arthur’s numerous adoptive children #and niblings — adoption records

Don’t really have any others. This blog is as unorganised as my thought process.

[blackmetalbats]

introduction ✮

꧁hiii and welcome to my girlblog꧂

i'm Martin (he/they), and i'm a writer. and sometimes i draw too. don't look for a theme or anything, i just post random stuff related to fandoms i'm in, and i enjoy the Right Amount being on here i swear.

i do writing commissions !! you can find all the info on my carrd. im working towards being a writer full time, so this would help me lots <3

also mutuals feel free to ask for my discord i would love to chat <333 also prounouns & stuff here!

the things that i like the most include:

�� the magnus archives (still haven't started the magnus protocols though!!) 𖦹 malevolent 𖦹 supernatural (I will never escape it) 𖦹 hannibal 𖦹 doctor who 𖦹 lord of the rings 𖦹 interview with the vampire 𖦹 just horror in general, especially with religious symbolism

EDIT: also currently obsessed with deadpool & wolverine. i’ve always been a fan of xmen comics so this is a great moment for me. let me have it lol.

other things to know

❒ you can find me on ao3 under the same name if you wanna check out the things i've written. there's a bunch of stuff from different fandoms :)

❒ dni: zionists, homophobes and transphobes, racists, mysoginists and so on. and W1NCEST shippers! please i keep seeing stuff i dont wanna see!

# to navigate this mess of a blog:

#blackmetalbats: for general stuff that im not reblogging #blackmetalbats writes: for things that i do indeed write #blackmetalbats yaps: for my yapping sessions #my sketchbook and #blackmetalbats draws: things that i draw #blackmetalbats does stuff: other creative stuff that i do

if you search #my dissertation, you will see me talking about these medieval knights that make me go insane and keep me up at night.

soooo stay if you wanna see a deranged boy's blog and enjoy :D

𖡎 Martin

[avidaraku]

Hi!!!! ʕ •̀ o •́ ʔ

welcome to my pinned post I honestly still dont know what to do with my blog like ever but still :) nice stuff. This blog contains whatever the fuck I reblog, including fandom and 18+ stuff - I do not tag my porn reblogs so if you're following me for fandom things, this is an all in one blog bc i do what i want <3 you are warned! leave if you dislike my beloved freak blog

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just be nice and kind babygirls, that's all i ask of <3 human decency lets go!!!! (ღ˘⌣˘ღ)

my ao3 account is https://archiveofourown.org/users/Daimashiko :) I like writing porn, my brain is constantly on khr mode :) I also never have any consistent name for my accounts, so thats also why my names are different. Hi to any discord friends who know me from well, discord <3 im sure u guys are familiar with my socials in this case

TAGS. ─=≡Σ((( つ＞＜)つ ／(＞×＜)＼

#my art (very self explanatory I am not a creative person with names?? sorryyyyy - i also considered making my art tag into artvidaraku but like. thats too much effort jklsjgkldKJDF:SJ:JKL:JK:LDG ;;)

#khr (that is my main fandom ofc <333 - overlaps with my art but also other people's khr stuff so haha... its a mess but oh well)

#poll (i like answering them! or just reblogging polls i wanted to volunteer in but its too late </3)

#lotta tags (i tend to comment a lot in tags but these are the ones where i usually write like. a lot of commentary to the point im like ohhhh i should tag this right? curious if anyone's ever went through them but also i've never talked abt these things so. oopsssss <3 - lot of it is kinda sad / depressing but usually i am pretty reflective. kinda?)

#animals (self explanatory. i love me some fucking creatures. respect nature babygirls i adore them fellas <3)

#tumblr classic (i love getting to see the classics / things i'd personally consider a classic on my feed)

#fandom (this one's pretty commonly used! yadda yadda, talks abt fanfic and stuff / sometimes i get disappointed with fandom but that's not new lol)

#fashion (i don't use this as much as I should be?? but if you want to check out what i think is fun / a vibe <3)

#avidarecs (****i literally just made this on impulse so there's not much rn but i want to share more of my recs for things in general! fandom / songs / whatever other thing comes to mind?***// will probably be rarely used? but you never know~)

there might be more tags I haven't included but from the top of my head this is it?? Might add more, i have no clue. But anyways back to my other interests and what I'm into!

media i like: khr (its number one bc i am unable to pry reborn's hands on my stupid silly little soul so i cannot escape even if i wanted to), slay the princess + scarlet hollow (games made by the same studio. i love the art and vibes sooo much and also the fanart is sooo beautiful), Jenna Marbles (i've been obsessed w her stuff recently and I hope she's having a good time w her dogs and Julien :), kpop (honestly its only just loona bc im tired and feel old as fuck despite only being in my 20s so i am not gonna get into another thing lol), and sanrio!!! i love my melody she's a cutie patootie <3

-probably more stuff I like but this post would be a lot longer

I'm certain its obvious but I am a proshipper (also i am always in rarepair hell girl HELP. but also i will chain myself to that random mix of characters without prompting. ah....), if you don't like proshippers, leave my page and block me <3

But anyways my fav tropes (i definitely have more i just cant think of them but in general im chill with lots of stuff!)

incest (i am so fr when i say somehow i always revolve around incest ships they're just soooo good. my brain is absolutely destroyed in favor of tasty fucking food. shout out to incest shippers you guys rock luv yall :3)

age gap / size difference (these tropes are lovers and they're already fucking each other within one yard of each other. good fucking food yk?)

any toxic/problematic food (necro + lolisho rights!!!) in general. i am just. yeahhhhhhhhhhh MMMM LOAD THAT SHIT UP. i also have very little memory but still whatever

genderbend - i know it's a dwindling trope in popularity but there is nothing better than mindlessly turning a guy chara into a girl like wow..... so hot.... <3 this has also been a long time trope i've adored and i'll probably never stop using it bc its just that good for me <3 mmm. girls. cute.

monsterfucker stuff is great! (does this include animal hybrids? im going to include it with that soooo)

i think this is enough, but also before you go explore whatever maze my blog is in bc i cant be bothered enough by my blog, i will also reblog things in tandem to politics / real world things (I support Palestine <3). Am American. Am Mess. But I hope the world is kinder even just a little bit more. This world is cruel, but I hope we can continue to offer each other support and love, even when times are harrowing as always.

(っ ᵔ◡ᵔ)っ have a hug/kiss!!!! (i like gifs hehe)

[brilovesbyler]

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Intro post!!<3✪

(old user was delusional-byler)

•hey im bri and this is my first tumblr account

•my main obsessions - I mean interests are:

-stranger things/byler

-conan gray slay

-heartstopper/osemanverse

-musical theatre

-the hellaverse(hazbin and helluva)

-taylor swift

- and just music shit in general

•my fav shows/movies are

-helluva boss/hazbin hotel

-heartstopper

-the whole scream franchise

-fear street

-It

-the perks of being a wallflower

-ianowt

-young royals

-the goldfinch

•here are some other artists/bands I like and I also might be posting about(in no particular order<3):

-conan gray 🔛🔝

-olivia rodrigo

-chappell roan👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩

-cavetown

-taylor swift

-melaine martinez

- jake webber

-alex g

-mitski

-harry styles

- johnnie guilbert

-girl in red

-gracie abrams

-radiohead

-billie ellish

random things:

•you can send asks or messages they are fun and I'm always bored af<3

•I don't do anything productive on tumblr like posting art I just post and reblog silly things

•I'm a lesbian and demisexual she/they pronouns also I'm a minor(14+)

•my blog is a multi fandom mess

•theatre kid

•infp, pisces

•crush culture stan

•I can relate any conan song to byler

my socials(feel free to add me on anything):

• my discord - lonelystarsx

my airbuds- https://i.airbuds.fm/fxreverwithme/mukQ4AD3vO

my pinterest- https://pin.it/537t6tVgA

my tiktok- https://www.tiktok.com/@lonely.starsxx?_t=8o6ubNVgBnL&_r=1

•okay well thanks for reading my intro post have a good day!!<3

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[pizza-hats-of-the-world-1882]

I posted 56,026 times in 2022

That's 8,910 more posts than 2021!

152 posts created (0%)

55,874 posts reblogged (100%)

Blogs I reblogged the most:

@captainjackwestjr

@dammitradar

@dark-lord-of-awesomeness

@im-your-favorite-actor-and-i

@aplpaca

I tagged 2,174 of my posts in 2022

#art - 832 posts

#the three musketeers - 339 posts

#pizza talk - 293 posts

#my art - 194 posts

#litposting - 149 posts

#(and ensuing sequels) - 141 posts

#ref - 93 posts

#the man who laughs - 87 posts

#stranger things - 81 posts

#l'homme qui rit - 73 posts

Longest Tag: 139 characters

#its so weird to watch the time lapse cus i know it took longer but everytime i watch it im like: wow i dont mess around that got done quick

My Top Posts in 2022:

#5

Time to vote nerds (round 1)

136 notes - Posted October 15, 2022

#4

Victor Hugo sexyperson bracket (round one)

Hi im committing crimes again<3

(Your probs gonna have to click and zoom in its a lot of people)

Rules:

Its a single elimination bracket, with the round one match ups randomized

The poll will be open for one week, and then the results will be tabulated and the next round gets posted

The tag for it is #hugo sexy election, if you want to follow it to get the polls when they come out

"Why is x included but not y?" Idk whatever happens, happens

Heres the first round!

139 notes - Posted October 31, 2022

#3

I love how in phantom of the opera (book) the opera house feels like it's own little world, with its own rules.

Like, raoul and christine visit its denizens (including some old people who apparently live in the opera?), the fantastical way that the various cellars are described (not even including Erik's floor) and all the weird stuff is primarily confined to the palais garnier.

Iirc, there's only two instances of weird stuff (aka Erik shenanigans) happening outside the opera: the cemetery of perros-guirec (a cemetery at night makes for a suitable place for seemingly fantastical elements), and when raoul maybe shoots Erik on his balcony (which is left fairly ambiguous, adding a level of dreamlike-ness and showing how much raoul is now consumed in this mystery).

And of course at the bottom of it all is Erik's stupid little house, which isn't normal no matter how much he tries.

Idk I just think it's neat

159 notes - Posted August 28, 2022

#2

Hugo sexy election: round 3!

Rip la pieuvre, they couldn't handle your voluptuous power

Voting ends next Sunday night!

175 notes - Posted November 13, 2022

My #1 post of 2022

I have once again made a uquiz

558 notes - Posted June 23, 2022

Get your Tumblr 2022 Year in Review →

[vanillahub]

HOW I RUN MY BLOG

REPOST DON’T REBLOG

SPEED: I'm NOT a particularly fast replier, regardless if it is here or on Discord. I want our RPs to be extremely chill, so I'll NEVER pressure or bug my partners for replies. I'll always prioritize quality over quantity. I try my best to put out at least 1 reply per week, but that's not set in stone because IRL or other things I've committed to (such as an art event) will always be my priority. I may get to replies fast, but I try to pace them out as to try prevent any burn outs between me and my RP partners. This is easily done thanks to Tumblr's queue system, not so much on Discord. I can't do back and forth RPing, I can't do instant RPing.

REPLIES: I use threads trackers, for all of my RPs on Tumblr! Each blog has its own tracker. I tend to get to most of my replies rather quickly, but in order to not overwhelm myself or my partners. I toss almost everything into my queue. I try to randomize/mess with the queue’s order from time to time so that can help in dishing out my replies. I mainly write multi-para and lengthier threads, that’s why I need to pace things out ever so often.

STARTERS: I’ve never had much luck in the way of starters calls. Either my starters would go unanswered, or no one showed any interest on them. As a result, I prefer using writing memes and making a thread out of the responses to them. With that said, I’ll gladly write a starter for someone if they ask for it and we’ve done a bit of discussion!

INBOX: I’m all about sending memes (whenever possible)! I feel like inbox memes, help breaking the ice between mutuals. I really appreciate them tons!

SELECTIVITY: See my rules to have a good idea about what I look for in blogs. “I’ll only follow, if I see our muses interacting.” This has been my motto for a few years now, and it has improved my RPing experience A LOT. I’m always looking for people who more or less fits with my style of writing and muse style. Not following sb back =/= Sb is a bad rper. I just don’t think it is fair to follow someone, just for the sake of following without any real intention of writing with that person. I’ve been through this in the past many times, and that’s amongst my biggest peeves when it comes to RPing. I’m simply catering to my own needs, because unfortunately I no longer have the time nor the energy to RP with everyone that stops by. So I HAVE to do what’s best for me.

WISHLIST: LMAO I haven’t done a generic wishlist in a LONG time, it just isn't my thing. Rather, I much rather prefer making a wishlist of threads will come, as we are plotting and discussing our muses interactions. The more I get know a muse, the more thread ideas will show up!

HONEST NOTE: Don’t be intimidated by my rules. I’m well aware that I’ve worded out my rules in a not so friendly manner, and it’s because that’s the way I’ve found to express myself best in english (in case you missed out on this, I’m not a native english speaker). I just really need to get straight to the point, so we are all clear in regards to where we stand. Because unfortunately, I’ve had various awful experiences, where people were twisting and coming up with the wildest interpretations of what I said just to put me down.

Feel free to steal it!

[givereadersahug]

Hi everyone. This is Scarlet's sister. I've some unfortunate news to share, Scarlet passed away on December 26, 2023.

I can't put into words how much it means to my family and I seeing how love she was by the community. Thank you all for being her friend and being there for her.

I'll be keeping this blog and all her side blogs up, as well as leaving her fics on AO3 up. Additionally I'll be leaving the all her blog queues untouch.

-- Jan 4, 2024

Where you can find me: Carrd

Hello! I'm Scarlet. Welcome to my blog! Just a fangirl who reads too much fanfiction and involve herself in too many fandoms.

For fanfics - I’m currently writing for the following fandoms: Harry Potter and SK8 the Infinity. (I do occasionally write for other fandoms whenever the muse strikes.)

I’m a multi-shipper, though I do have preferences. Maybe I’ll write a comprehensive post one day diving into all my ships and fandoms. I'm one of the mods who run the Harry Potter @houseofsnarry Discord server blog and the server's Harry Potter @snarryauctoberfest. I also run the following HP fests: @harryjamespotterweek, @hpcottagecorefest and @hprecfest. And I'm one of the mod for the HP reccing community over on Dreamwidth (HP Recs). Come by and check us out!

This blog will not just be all fandom-related things! (Though it may seem like it at first.) I’m also an avid reader and I watch way too many anime, films, and shows. There might be posts regarding my current reads/medias with the occasional wrap-ups and recommendations mixed in. Oh! And random posts as well.

Feel free to follow me! 🥰

** Since this blog will be a hodgepodge of random posts (got to give the header 'this blog will be a mess' its due!), my posts & reblogs will follow a pretty standard tagging system. I like to keep things organized. 🙂 Just check out the tags here and blacklist any tags you don't want to come across your dashboard. <3

My sideblogs for reblogging fanart & gifs.

@slytherclawscarlet - Harry Potter

@sunshinescarlet - Thorki

@fangirlscarlet - Anime/Danmei

We follow fandom rules around here - YKINMKBYKIO (Your Kink is Not My Kink, But Your Kink is Okay), DLDR (Don’t Like;Don’t Read) and SALS (Ship and Let Ship).

Trans rights are human rights.

Please note I will block any blogs that don't have an avatar or haven't reblogged anything. I can't tell if you're a bot or not and I rather not have bots following me.

The butterfly icon was made by the amazing Danpuff.

[mad-twience]

Hey there! This is my rules/about page, please consider reading it before roleplaying with me! The stuff in bold is the most important if you can only skim it at the moment, but if that’s the case then I’d appreciate it if you could come back and read it in full later!

About:

Hi! First, just a little bit about me. You can call me Pixel or Nick, my pronouns are he/they/lun/Luna and I’m 24 years old. My main/non-RP account is @fruitypieq and I also have a blog for OOC RP stuff over at @fruitypie-ooc.

I don’t really do much outside of Tumblr but I do run multiple blogs and life is super stressful at the moment, so I get burnt out a lot unfortunately. My replies may take a while but I will always do my best to reply as soon as possible!

I also have very bad memory issues due to a concussion a few years ago, so I might struggle to remember things! Please be patient with me, I am trying <3

Also I’m usually down for OOC chat in DMs whether it’s plotting or just general MLP talk, so feel free to shoot me a message if you wanna!

I do try to cut my RP posts down but I’m on mobile and formatting is a nightmare 💖

Rules/Guidelines:

- Please don’t constantly remind me of an RP - if you’ve replied then I’ve probably seen it and I’m working on getting to it. I get overwhelmed easily and being reminded of RPs constantly only adds to that and makes me less likely to be able to reply to our RP at all. Please give me at least 2 to 3 days before tagging me or giving me a reminder!

- If you don’t want to interact with me, please just hard block me. I will never remember who’s soft blocked me even if you tell me, so it’s better to just outright block me so I don’t accidentally make the mistake of following you again.

- I don’t do smut RP! Not even in PMs! That being said I will do gore type RPs and the like, as my Twilight is a mad scientist who does pretty cruel experiments.

- No godmodding. This means no taking control of my characters and saying what they’re doing/how they’re feeling/etc.

- I also do not RP in PMs unless you’re a personal friend that I know very well. Otherwise, I’ll only RP on the blog itself.

- Please don’t ask for my Discord unless we’ve been RPing on here for a while, I prefer to RP on Tumblr in general rather than Discord so I’d rather not give it out to just anyone.

- I will try to remember to trigger tag anything I see fit, but if you have a specific trigger you need me to tag please let me know! I’ll always tag them as tw followed by the trigger (example: #tw gore)

- I’m not mutuals only! If you’re following me I probably meant to follow you back and just forgot, or there may be some other reason why I’m not. But I’m completely fine with RPing with non-mutuals! That being said I do have anxiety about messaging someone first so it may take me a bit of courage to finally message you, mutual or not, so if you’re feeling braver than me feel free to inbox me any time!

- I’m not very selective, but please try to have at least one to two sentences in your reply! Preferably at least one paragraph. It’s really hard to reply to something or progress the plot when you’re only giving me one word or a super short sentence as a reply every time.

- Sending me random starters is ALWAYS welcome! Even if I haven’t reblogged or posted anything about starters, it’s always okay to just send me one or ask me if I could make us one. Random non-starter asks are also always fine and loved.

- I love crossovers! And OCs! Pretty much whoever your character is, I’m almost definitely willing to RP with them.

- I multi-ship and I’m also okay with polyam shipping as well, but Twilight isn’t really looking for a date and romance isn’t my favorite, so it might be difficult to get her to develop a crush on your muse unless it’s something we’ve already discussed. She does have a slight crush on Sunset Shimmer, however.

- Please remember muse ≠ mun, Twilight does some really messed up stuff that I do not agree with in the slightest. Me and Twilight do not share the same beliefs and it is really important to remember that.

I think that’s it! If I think of anything else I’ll make sure to update this. I’d rather not block anyone but I will if I have to, but I really just want us to have fun! I hope to RP with you soon!

(I’d appreciate if you could like this post if you’ve read the rules, but it’s not necessary!)

[cassieschaosdimension]

Full Detox

Dear Tumblr,

Thank you for the almost year we've had together. It'll be a year in October, but I've realized throughout the past year a few things about myself....

The first thing is that I've lost myself sometime during the start of quarantine. Actually... it started two years ago. I had a rough time in my life. I was just getting started with social media and some of my friends at the time weren't truly my friends.

I went to camp the summer of 2019 and I came back completely changed. It was two weeks of not talking to anyone through a screen except my best friend and I only called him. We didn't talk through a screen. I need time to find myself. This detox might be for the month of September, or it could be for longer. I don't know at this point.

My second and final point is: I need time to find out who I truly am. Thank you so much for the opportunity to know people online aren't as creepy as I've heard. There are some people I must admit, but overall, this experience has been one of the best of my life.

But I'm about to go on one of the best adventures of my life and I want to fully experience it fully present and in person without a phone as a crutch.

This is going to be the hardest thing I will ever have to do in my life, but I'm ready for whatever life throws at me. I'm going to try journaling my month-long adventure as it starts in about half an hour.

It's all over the place, I'm an emotional mess as I write this. I just wanted to tell you if you need to reach me, I will be going off of Instagram and Discord as well for this month. I'm even getting rid of Pinterest and Google Hangouts. I'm completely immersing myself in the new culture I've thrown myself into.

I also just need time for myself. I'm tired of not having anyone who truly knows me in a different state than I'm in. I love my irl best friends to death, but I'm tired of just bursting into tears at random times at home. I'm just so tired of what my life has turned into right now. I'm tired of just not feeling like I can have people who don't understand me at all. I just want someone in my life who can just understand what I've gone through and it's been traumatizing for me. I need time to heal. I also need time to myself because I feel like some people on here just forget I'm a person and I really just want to be seen as a person and not just a blog. Take the time to really think about whether you've been thinking about the blogs as the people they are behind the screen or just a blog. Also, just be mindful of what you are doing when replying or reblogging a post and want to add words. People may not like what you're doing and you really need to respect that.

But you also need to remember people have feelings and tumblr is a site where we can just express ourselves. When people don't respect that, it's not a fun environment to be in anymore. This is also why I'm taking the detox. People need to learn how to respect that people have feelings that don't need to be explicitly said everywhere. This needs to be figured out on this site or I will keep on having these detoxes and maybe even stop my main blog and just have my poetry blog. I'm really tired of keeping up my "reputation" of being sweet, kind, and a freaking sweetheart who wouldn't hurt a fly. I'm really tired of keeping up my "reputation" of being the person to turn to for advice, but with no one else to turn to. I'm really tired of keeping up my "reputation" as someone who always has to be sunny, happy, and doesn't know about the dark in life. I know about the dark in life; I'm an adult now and people need to understand that online and also irl, but this is more about online.

Yes, I know I sound salty, and that's because while this almost year has been one of the best almost years of my life, it's also been the most draining because literally everyone on here calls me a sweetheart and a cinnamon roll. I just wish I felt safe enough to be myself. But right now, I can't be truly myself. I'm hoping the detox will help me figure out who the heck I am. I implore you though please think of me as the adult I am and not some teenager who doesn't know what to do with their life. I have life goals and uni is going to help me with that. Please stop treating me like a smole bean who needs to be protected at all costs. Please.

I am also just like you all. I'm not a ball of sunshine all of the time (in fact when I'm talking to people who know me best they know I'm only a sunshine 20% of the time, the other 80% I'm so done with life). I want to be able to taken seriously. I don't want to just be known as the Hufflepuff who is so nice and knows everything about life advice. That's not true. I'm just a uni girl trying to figure out how the heck I'm going to spend four years away from my family. I'm trying to be nice online, but I also want to be salty and sarcastic and myself because irl is bad enough, but online it's just why. Why do I come off as a cute, smol little kitten who wouldn't hurt a flea? Don't you guys know f you get me mad at you you'll be the one crying at the end of the day? I'm heartless when I've had enough. I need you all to treat me like the person I am and not like an object. That's kind of how I feel this has gotten. There are some who are amazing and I adore them to pieces. But then there are other people who aren't considerate I just can't. So I need a break from just all of this. I can't be on here when people don't take me seriously. Like I said it's bad enough this happens irl. I don't want it to happen online too.

I'm starting with two months, but as I do more of these in the future, it might get longer.

This might be my only two month long detox or it could be longer. If it's longer, I will let you all know! I promise, but for now, I'll miss you, I love you, keep being the you I know you can be, drink your freaking water!, remember people on here are people and have freaking feelings and emotions and lives and experiences, and I will see you all November 1st!

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[max-is-tired]

What the hell would I be (without you)

Pairing: Dukexiety

Characters: Remus Sanders, Virgil Sanders

Words: 2.078

Warnings: sympathetic Remus, swearing, self-deprecation, spiraling thoughts, anxiety, crying, kissing, tell me if I missed something!!

Notes: man I love soulmates AUs so much. This fic is inspired by this headcanon from @figurative-siren-song, I just loved the entire concept so much I simply couldn’t not try my hand at it. I hope you guys like it, comments and reblogs are always greatly appreciated!!

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Virgil stared at the clock on his wall, nervously bouncing his leg on the carpet as he raised one hand to his face. Before he could start biting his nails, however, another hand appeared out of nowhere, giving it a quick slap to keep it away from his mouth.

“No biting,” chided a voice from above Virgil, Remus grinning down at him from his position lying upside-down on the bunk bed. Virgil grumbled but complied, opting to wring his fingers instead.

“You’re an ass,” he muttered under his breath, throwing his best friend a half-hearted grave.

“Well excuse me for trying to look out for you,” Remus shot back, his tone amused. “If you bite your nails you might hurt yourself, and there might be blood and then the whole thing might get infected and they’d have to chop your entire hand off and-!”

Without missing a beat, Virgil reached for one of his pillows and slapped it onto Remus’ face, effectively shutting him up.

“Alright, message received you fucking gremlin,” he said, a smirk of his own tugging at his lips. “Remind me why I have yet to smother you?”

“Because it’s gonna be your birthday in a few hours and you needed your big, strong best friend to hold your hand lest your anxiety reduces you to a hot mess for the umpteenth time,” Remus easily recited, winking down at Virgil. “Not that you need it, you’re already a hot mess by yourself.”

Virgil rolled his eyes, letting out an amused huff as he stood up and stretched his arms upwards with a tired groan -the curse of being born at fucking 2 am, he supposed. Currently, it was only 1:45 am, and for the first time in what felt like forever, all he wanted was to curl up under the covers and go the fuck to sleep.

There was no way he could ruin his soulmate’s birthday if he was asleep, right?

“Oi, Earth to Virgil!” Remus called, startling the boy out of his thoughts. “Did you decide to go for a mental walk without me? That’s just rude, Vee! Come on, what’s running around in that worrying head of yours?”

Virgil shrugged, plopping down on his spinning chair as he looked up at the ceiling.

“Do you think my soulmate will like me?” Virgil finally asked, frowning. “I mean, I know I sure as hell wouldn’t like myself. I’m an anxious, self-deprecating mess, Rem, why the fuck would anyone want to be stuck with me? I’m just going to ruin their birthday, and I don’t want to but I can’t help it, they’re gonna hate me and I can’t blame them for that and then I’ll end up all alone and soulless-”

“Hey, stop with that crap right the fuck now,” Remus suddenly exclaimed, snapping Virgil out of his self-deprecating spiral. The boy pulled his gaze away from the ceiling, only to meet a pair of determined, blazing green eyes.

“That’s my fucking best friend you’re insulting, and I won’t stand for it. You’re an amazing person Vee, you’re loyal and determined and got snark for days. And that’s not even talking about that beautiful ass of yours!! Whoever ends up being your soulmate is going to be one lucky motherfucker, and this is the hill I’m willing to die on.”

Virgil blinked, looking like a deer caught in the headlights as he stared at his best friend with wide eyes. Slowly, he felt the familiar tingle of a blush covering his cheeks, whipping his head to the side to avoid the instinct of doing something stupid like try and kiss Remus or something.

“Shut up,” Virgil muttered, looking down at his hands in hopes that his long bangs would hide just how flustered he was.

“Never,” Remus easily shot back, voice soft and earnest in a way Virgil knew was reserved just for him.

Fuck, and people wondered why he had done something so idiotic as falling for his best friend -he was just… perfect. He was honest, loud and everything Virgil would have wanted and more. He just got him, always had, and before he’d known it Virgil had found himself head over heels, falling and falling with no chance of getting up again.

Not that he would have wanted to, of course. Sometimes, during those endless nights when sleeping felt like the most impossible thing in the world, Virgil found himself wondering if maybe, he and Remus were meant to be. After all, Remus still had to go through the swap, even after having recently turned 20. It wasn’t so far fetched for that to be a possibility, was it...?

Except that it was. After all, why would the universe pair someone as amazing as Remus with, well, Virgil, who seemed to grow needlessly anxious about the smallest and most mundane of things?

And there he went again, his thoughts spiraling more and more as the seconds passed. Of course Remus couldn’t be his soulmate. Whoever the lucky soul was, they were probably someone as incredible as him, full of life and energy and desire of adventure. Not an introvert, anxious downer like him.

1:58 am

Like, who was he even kidding? Virgil probably had no soulmate. His birthday was going to come and go and no swap would happen, not today nor never.

1:59 am

After all, why would the universe doom some poor soul to be stuck with him forever? He should just start getting used to the idea of being alone forever, instead of letting that stupid hope still fester in his chest.

It was just so stupid. Worthless, really.

2:00 am

Except that it wasn’t, not at all.

All of a sudden, Virgil felt a surge of self-confidence overtake him. He stood straighter on his chair, a grin tugging at his lips as his head filled with a thousand ideas. He wanted to bolt out of the room, jump out of his window, run into the woods behind his house and get himself lost in the wilderness, maybe even catch some squirrels.

Who cared if it was the middle of the night and there could be an assassin lurking in the shadows? He could take them, Remus had shown him how to throw knives when they were like, twelve.

Talking about his best friend! Virgil snapped his head up, eyes twinkling wildly under the fairy lights in his room, only to feel his excited expression morph into a frown once he took in the other’s expression.

Remus was hunched over just a few feet away from him, his shoulders shaking slightly as he rested his head between his knees.

“Rem?” Virgil tentatively called, standing up and shuffling forward. He crouched down in front of the other, brow pinched in confusion as he tried to understand what was going down.

Slowly, Remus looked up, his eyes red and wet as he tried to get his shallow breathing back under control. He was clutching at his chest, his fist tight around the fabric of his shirt. All in all, he looked right on the edge of an anxiety attack.

But why? He had been fine just a minute ago! There was no way he could have been faking the determined fire in his eyes as he defended Virgil from his own thoughts, and besides, Remus didn’t get anxious. Like, ever. Virgil should know, they’d been basically inseparable since kindergarten.

Then, Remus spoke.

“Do you really hate yourself this much?” he asked, his voice barely above a whisper as some stray tears escaped from his eyes.

And finally, it clicked.

“I-” Virgil stared at Remus with wide eyes, trying to process the sudden life-changing information that had come to light. Normally, something like this would have sent him into some sort of attack, his anxiety, fears, and deepest insecurities filling his head until he could barely keep his head above the water.

Instead, all he felt was quiet, unmistakable happiness blooming in his chest, spreading further and further until he could barely keep himself from dancing around the room to try and get rid of some of the overwhelming giddiness.

“You’re my soulmate,” he breathed, a grin slowly stretching on his face. It was wide, bright, unhinged, the type of smile he would have never dared to let appear on his face before -but now, he couldn’t care less if his teeth were slightly crooked, or if a random stranger was annoyed by his smile.

Fuck them, it didn’t matter. All that mattered was that Remus was his soulmate, and that meant-

Oh. Oh no.

“Shit, Remus, I’m sorry,” he murmured, raising his hands to cradle the other’s cheeks. Gently, he wiped away the occasional tear still escaping his eyes, leaning forward to rest his brow against Remus’. “I’m sorry you have to feel all of that.”

“How do you deal with this every fucking day?” Remus whispered, looking at him as his breath slowly started to calm down. “I mean, I knew it was bad, but shit Vee, I didn’t think it was this bad.”

Virgil hummed, his smile turning a tad softer. “It sucks, doesn’t it?”

Remus silently nodded, carefully releasing his shirt to rest his palm above Virgil’s chest. His breath started to synchronize with his heartbeat, and after a few minutes, he finally looked like he wasn’t three seconds away from breaking down in the middle of Virgil’s room.

“God, this is exhausting,” Remus muttered, drawing a chuckle out of his soulmate as he slid his head down to rest his brow on the other’s shoulder.

“Holy shit, how do you deal with this shit basically every other day? It’s not even been five minutes and all I want is to curl up under the covers and sleep for like, a century or so. Maybe more.”

Silence fell around them, calm and comfortable as they held each other. Then, Remus looked up, a pensive frown on his face as he visibly mulled something in his head.

“Can I-” he started, sounding strangely insecure as he avoided Virgil’s gaze. “I mean, can we- uh- god, this is impossible!”

Virgil couldn’t help the amused snort that left his lips as he watched Remus frustratingly throw his hands up, his cheeks crimson red in embarrassment.

“What, Rem?” he asked with a lopsided smirk, feeling strangely coy, “do you want me to kiss you?”

“Yes!” Remus nodded vigorously, looking more flustered by the second. “I’ve wanted to smooch your pretty face since fucking high school, do you know how hard it has been to hold off?? So you better kiss me right now before the embarrassment decides to off me for real by sending my heart on a one-way trip around the world with how fast it’s beating right now!”

Virgil cackled as he listened to Remus’ rant, feeling the muscles of his face hurt with how wide he was smiling.

“Well, it looks like the swap didn’t take away your lack of filter, at least!” he exclaimed, before grabbing Remus by the lapels of his jacket and dragging him into a kiss.

They melted into each other, the world around them fading away until there was nothing but the soft press of their lips and their careful, roaming hands. And just like that, they felt something inside them fit into place, like a puzzle piece they’d never noticed was missing.

Virgil felt the extra confidence and energy slowly slip away, leaving behind exhausted happiness as the familiar background tingle of his anxiety started coming back. As for Remus, Virgil didn’t miss the way his soulmate -holy shit, Remus was actually his soulmate, what the fuck???- immediately straightened up, pushing forward a little until Virgil was bending backward and a massive grin had taken over both of their lips.

“Fuck, I love you,” Remus murmured almost reverently as he pulled back enough to look at the boy in his arms. “I hoped, once the switch didn’t happen on my birthday, I never stopped hoping and I just- I love you so much, you have no idea. You’re the only soulmate I’ve ever wanted to have.”

“I love you too,” Virgil answered, the giddiness in his chest ever-present, burning and shining like a million suns, “but I think you’re talking a little too much right now.”

And he leaned forward again, dragging Remus in another kiss. And another. And another.

Needless to say, they didn’t find themselves in need to talk for a little while more.

[one-abuse-survivor]

Ok so, when a parent is considered healthy???I mean I've read a lot of articles about abusive parents but how does a healthy parent look like??

That’s a really good question! And I’m going to answer it with a list of traits good/non-abusive parents have, based on my experiences with my dad, on my friends’ experiences, and on other posts on the matter I’ve reblogged before with the tag #good parenting (links included). If anyone has something to add to the lists, please go for it! 

I would like to preface this by reminding everyone that nothing is black and white: some abusive parents will have traits typical of healthy parents, and some non-abusive parents won’t have all these traits. I don’t want anyone to read the list below and think that since their parents fit one or two of the traits, they can’t be abusive. My own abuser fits some of these! 

With that out of the way:

What does a healthy parent look like?

1. When they do things wrong, they own up to it.

No parent is perfect. Every single parent makes mistakes and hurts their kid without meaning to at some point in life; maybe by insisting too much or asking too many questions when their kid just wants to be left alone, maybe by not supporting their kid enough because they don’t notice their kid’s needs in time...

But the difference between a non-abusive and an abusive parent is that, upon realising they are doing something hurtful, non-abusive parents will apologise, will admit without a problem that what they did was wrong, and will do everything in their power to do better from now on. Because they care more about their kid's wellbeing than they do about being right. They care more about their kid's needs being met than they do about being held accountable.

Many abusive parents, on the other hand, will deny ever doing something wrong or look for ways to justify it, such as shifting the blame to the kids for making them mad. If you try to talk with an abusive parent about how they made you feel, they may say you’re attacking them or disrespecting them; they may call you weak/childish/disgraceful/selfish, they may act like they’re the victims in the situation, they may ignore you altogether, and a long etc.

Which brings me to the next point:

2. They don’t punish or dismiss you for feeling negative emotions toward them.

When a parent is not abusive, things like disagreeing with them, arguing with them, bantering with them, and even purposefully riling them up/rebelling against them are safe to do. Sure, they may get mad; but you won’t be scared of them if they do, because they won’t resort to violence, threats, insults, or ghosting: your basic needs as a human (including food, safety, comfort, emotional and financial support, etc) will never be at stake. 

3. They allow you to have privacy, autonomy, and boundaries.

They knock and wait for your reply before walking opening the door/walking into your room. They don’t rummage through your things or go through your phone unless they have explicit permission from you to do so. They don’t get involved in your personal life behind your back, or force you to disclose information you don’t want to freely give to them. Even if they give you (a realistic amount of) house chores to teach you about responsibilities, they allow you to manage your time and do them whenever it’s most convenient for you, so that you can decide when to take a break/do things you enjoy, when to do homework, and when to do your chores. They don’t demand that you be available for them at all times: you can have time off to play videogames, read, go out with friends, or just scroll through your phone without having to be ready to help them/spend time with them on demand. And if they do want you to do something with them, they will offer to spend time together and allow you to say no. For example: “Hey, kiddo! I’ve decided I’m going to bake some muffins/go to the mall/go for a walk, do you want to join in?” “Aw, that’d be cool, but I’m chatting with some friends on Discord right now!” “That’s okay, have fun! 😁”

4. They give you good kinds of attention.

Following the previous example, it’s not enough for a parent to not give you bad kinds of attention, like demanding you spend time with them when you don’t want to, demanding you disclose information to them, etc. Non-abusive parents will ask you about your day. They'll want to spend quality time with you, get excited about the things you’re passionate about, share their hobbies with you, and respect and show interest in yours. They’ll let you enjoy your personal time and do things that don’t involve them, but you’ll still probably have things you love doing together, like doing puzzles, cooking, watching movies, going on walks... or anything else! 

Non-abusive parents will encourage you to be who you are, to try new things and give up the ones you don’t like; they won’t blame or mock you for changing your mind about your career path or your extracurricular activities, and they’ll celebrate your successes with you and support you and encourage you when you don’t succeed, instead of pointing out your flaws and failures or labelling you a “bad child” and giving up on you. They’ll be your #1 fans and support you when you struggle! 

That being said, of course, they’ll hold you accountable for your mistakes; but always with the aim of supporting you and raising you into a healthy, happy person who can understand that other people also have boundaries, and not for the sake of making you feel bad or to “prove” you’re worse than them, or than your siblings, or than anyone else. 

5. They protect you from their problems.

Obviously, this depends a lot on the kid's age; a 16-year-old will have a lot more skills to understand and help with certain adult problems than a 6-year-old.

But if, for example, the non-abusive parents of a 6-year-old are stuggling financially, and they can’t or choose not to keep it from the kid, they will not make the kid feel like they’re causing the problem by having needs (such as food, doctors, heat during winter...) or make them feel like the problem is their responsibility. Something many abusive parents do is tell us/make us feel like things that are completely beyond our control are somehow our fault, and when we’re still not done growing up (even at 16!), feeling like we’re somehow the cause of a problem we can’t possibly fix can be deeply traumatic. So a non-abusive parent, instead, may let their kid know about the problem in a way that the kid can feel like they’re helping fix the problem. For example, for a 6-year-old, they may make up a game where any time you catch a light turned on in an empty room at home, you have to turn it off. And then when the kid proudly says they caught two lights on and turned them off that day, the parent will act super proud and give them a hug! Instead of, for example, complaining in front of the kid about how many lights were left turned on or accusing other family members. 

And that’s all I can think of! But before I conclude this post, I would also like to bring some attention to what having a healthy parent feels like, because I think that as much as we try to differentiate between abusive and non-abusive/healthy parents, at the end of the day, the most important thing is how their behaviours affect us and make us feel.

So, going by the previous list, here are some ways having a non-abusive parent feels like: 

1. You’re not scared to bring up negative or positive topics with them. 

You’re not scared to disagree with them, to be angry at them, or to say “no” to them. You’re not scared to let them know things about you, or to share the things you’re excited about with them. If you have healthy parents, you’ll probably want to call them or text them when you receive good news! You’ll want to celebrate your successes with them, and you’ll also feel safe going to them for help and comfort when something bad happens to you, because you know they won’t judge or punish you for struggling and that the most important thing to them will be making sure you feel supported and safe, and not whether or not you messed up. 

2. You’re comfortable sharing a space with them.

You don’t mind or fear dancing around in the living room while they watch TV, going for a random snack, or pacing the hallway while you study for your upcoming exam. You’re not scared they’ll demand your time, scream at you, or interrupt you. You’re not scared of them acknowledging your existence and presence in the house; crossing paths with them while you’re all going about your afternoons is a non-event, and so is them walking up to you to ask you something. 

3. You enjoy spending time with them.

And you don’t do it out of guilt, fear, or obligation. You do it because you feel like it, because you like sharing things with them, because it’s fun! And not despite your body screaming at you to be as far away from them as possible and your brain telling you you’re a bad kid for not wanting to be around them in the first place.

That is all—thank you for this ask and I hope the answer helps!

Edit: I would like to reiterate that nothing is black and white, and that it's completely possible to not fit neatly into one of the two categories described above. It's possible to have good parents and still not enjoy sharing activities with them because you have depression, or to have good parents but not be able to trust them because someone else abused you, or a long, long etc. It's also possible to enjoy doing certain activities with your abusers, or to have good memories with your abusers. And, again, a long etc! I don't want to invalidate anyone's experience—just to hopefully help people with abusive parents understand how healthy relationships with parents usually work so they have something to compare their experiences with.

[rissynicole]

☕️ Tumblr?

Like a lot of people, I have kind of a love/hate relationship with Tumblr.

(More under the cut for people who want to read a coffee-fueled ramble about Tumblr.)

The site is constantly glitching, I can’t ever find any of my old posts even with tags, etc., etc. One time, I changed my background color from pink to black, and Tumblr held my account hostage for having “adult content” on my blog. It’s just a hot mess.

As for actual content, I’m constantly torn.

I’m on Tumblr a lot, so I obviously don’t despise it. I’d probably never find some of the silly, goofy posts I see here on any other site. Every now and then, I’ll come across something pretty insightful, too. It’s also nice to be able to interact with fellow writers and artists.

As for how it’s set up, it’s very well-suited for me. I don’t have to worry about maintaining some sort of perfect façade since everything here is largely anonymous. I just don’t like social media platforms like Facebook or Instagram. I hate taking pictures of myself, and I don’t feel the need to constantly update everyone and their goat on my life. Here, I can just chat about my hobbies and whatnot without feeling any pressure.

On the other hand, anonymity has kind of a dark side to it. The ability to be anonymous really brings out the worst in people.

Sometimes the content here drives me insane. I’m really not a judgmental person, but some people here are just a bit too much to handle. I’ve had to unfollow people for posting/reblogging too many political things that they don’t tag properly.

I’ve had to do the same thing to people who hold really extreme views that I just can’t get on board with. I couldn’t imagine holding such extreme views or getting so worked up over random things. One minute, I’ll checking out IZ fanart pics on my dash, and the next minute, I’m reading a 10-mile long discourse post on the evils of almond milk, where several misinformed people are automatically roasted into oblivion by really wound-up strangers hiding behind a keyboard. It’s mostly shit like that that just makes me… tired?

I can’t recall a single political discourse post on this site that actually reads like a civilized political debate. It’s more like a circle jerk fueled by group polarization. This site ends up being a slippery slope, where anyone who doesn’t 100% agree with a political viewpoint is automatically seen as the “enemy.”

And besides, I’m not on here for politics. I don’t want to constantly be angry and annoyed. If I wanted to research the evils of almond milk, I would search for credible sources online. I wouldn’t just mindlessly believe the wisdom of PussySlayer420 on Tumblr.

As for fandom, I absolutely understand how people can be relentlessly bullied on Tumblr to the point of leaving the fandom altogether. Again, I want to attribute that to anonymity. People get awfully brave behind a keyboard.

Any site like Tumblr that allows for easy anonymity (such as Reddit, Discord, or even Twitter) ends up being kind of a breeding ground for discourse. It dissolves into a lot witch hunting and petty drama.

All of that said, I firmly believe that you curate your own experience on social media. Don’t like someone? Block them. I’ve blocked a lot of people on this site. Far more than any other social media platform I’m on, in fact.

I mean, it bums me out. I don’t take pride in making enemies. But in order for me to have the best experience I can in the IZ fandom on Tumblr, it is necessary.

Anyhow, this is just kind of the tip of the iceberg. There are way more issues with Tumblr that I could go and on about, and it would probably end up in a full-blown essay about the pros/cons of anonymity online. 

I haven’t even discussed one of the most important things of all: the dangers that exist on anonymous platforms like Tumblr. Some weird people exist on the internet. Some dangerous people exist on the internet. Be safe. Use discretion.

I’m going to cut myself off here, though. I already feel like I’m rambling. Eh, this shitshow of a response could probably be summed up with this final message: just be safe on the internet. And don’t be afraid to unfollow/block people or blacklist certain things if it would be better for your mental health. 

[hoe-doroki]

I was tagged by @kuddlingkoalaofdanganronpa (sorry if you’re disturbing me?? Lol, no!!! It was so kind of you to tag me!) in this super sweet tag game started by @/johnmurphyisbisexual

Tag 5 or more people that you are thankful were in your 2020, that you’re thankful exists in a world that’s hard to live in. Whether that be through random reblogs on your posts, or people you have had full blown conversations with. Whether it’s just seeing them on your dash, or interacting with them.

Please Spread this love. 2020 has been hard for so SO many of us.

But the post was long and, also I’m about to make it a LOT longer. I hit 500 follows today (milestone, woo! 🎉🎉🎉) and there’s nothing I’d love to do more than shine that love back out. (No need to see this as a tag game; I’ve really just stolen it and made it an appreciation post. If you wanna spread the love, feel free to add on here or make your own post! Or do nothing!)

@kuddlingkoalaofdanganronpa Sending the thanks right back at you! I always see you in my notifs and it makes me smile every time!

@a-bnha-shoutorealm One of my first friends on here and my fave person to get into the weeds of bnha theories (or nonsense) with

@in-this-house-we-stan-izuku​ I adore how personal you are and all you do to make your blog a helpful accepting space

@summon-the-stars Honestly, I’m still just soft that you gave me the best review I’ve ever gotten. You made me feel better about the thing I hate most about myself

@maemi324 My newest bud that I talk shop with! Honestly, never met someone who can quite match me in going off on our hyperfixations and it’s the most fun thing

@unlasting My pal who invited me to join a bnha discord, my love who I reblog so much content from. Plus, such a fun personality

@enjifuckersupreme We’re so different but so the same! We just get lost chatting about cats and you deserve all the love in the world, babe

@pleasantanathema My dear, I owe you the world! This woman invited me into her friend group and has played probably the biggest hand in making this tumblr thing as meaningful as it is to me

@shoutosteakettle Honestly, the woman responsible for getting this blog off the ground. She reblogged my first story, is responsible for it gaining any traction in the first place before I even had 100 follows. It comes back to you, babe!

@shoutogepi Honestly, I just want to get to know you better because say Shouto and Pokemon and I’m THERE. I aspire to your heights, Rosie

@thecindy WE TALK THEATRE. Any person who has two of the same hyperfixations as me is a new bff. Plus, I reblog more from you than anyone else XD

@whats-her-quirk She completely changed my beta reader game. I thought I knew all the tricks then she slapped the first story I sent her with kindness and I said, wow. I gotta be nice like June

@some-kindofgnome She puts so much heart into her stories and reading her work is such a treat. She’s so multitalented and multifaceted, ya’ll don’t even know

@lady-bakuhoe is responsible for my creating this blog. Her blog is the single rabbit hole that sent me into this mess of bnha + tumblr + x reader (and definitely laid the seeds of my Bakugou crush back when I tried to hate him.) Love her

Then there are just a bunch of people whom I’ve loved chatting to so far like @mindninjax, @dymphnasprose, @thewheezingwyvern, @redflannel, @present-mel, @fanfic-me-up, @messwriting (sorry for the late follow, Lee!), @mixedhell, and so many more! I’m still just getting to know so many people and it’s so exciting! I wanna be best friends with everyone!

I’m also def forgetting people but it’s past my bedtime and I’m a granny

This year has obviously sucked. For me and everyone else. But making this blog back in October is the best thing that happened to me this year (don’t tell, shh, I just told my brother his wedding was the best thing that happened but that was a LIE). I’ve met dozens of new friends--real friends--and been having so much fun with the content. Thanks for this, 2020

[pawacelsus]

How do you make friends within the Darkest Dungeon fandom without joining a Discord server? I have major Discord anxiety (and some for Tumblr as well, hence why I’m on anon) but I still want to make friends and I don’t know how :(

Honestly, I get you there. I’m not apart of any discord server either, and even ones I’m in with friends, I’m barely active in them. So right off the bat, I feel ya. I’m gonna put most of it under the tags, but! I’ll see what i can do to offer advice! Warning, it is a bit rambly because I’m pretty bad at making friends too--

The first thing to note is that on the tumblr fandom, it’s honestly pretty chill. Cannot say anything about twitter or reddit or something else but on tumblr you mostly see shitposts or REALLY fantastic fan creations. I’ve only been here a couple years, but I haven’t seen any sort of major drama that would indicate this fandom being toxic (though feel free to correct me, I keep to myself most of the time).

My biggest advice? Making a sideblog/some sort of separate entity from any sort of main and then just start posting! I’m a bit more passive when it comes to interacting, most of the people I talk with being people who followed me from the beginning, or mutuals on my main. Of course, some of them aren’t! You’re probably gonna come across a couple people who are more willing to start conversations if you go the posting route, and that’s great! All you gotta do is be willing to post a couple of shitposts and put something nice in the tags (honestly, even just a keyboard smash or a nice compliment is a good way to go).

However, the sad fact of it is, you gotta put yourself out there a little. Maybe send people you admire some nice anons, form a little friendship that way (become recognizable, maybe sign off with a tag, maybe constantly send them cursed things that make them want to bash their head open /hj), and then as you become more comfortable, you can message that person through dms and chat more that way! I’ve gotten pretty good at telling which anon is which, and from personal experience, it’s always fun receiving a message from them. Even if it’s just “Hey, I love your blog but too nervous to tell you off of anon, I like [this],[this], and [this], about it, tell me [insert random question],” it’s gonna be a good way to judge. Then, you can always go “hey, it’s the [insert thing you mentioned in previous ask] anon, how’s it going?” It’s a good way to start a conversation, and you can still remain anonymous and not have to worry! I actually did that to a mutual on my main, though he isn’t using tumblr that much anymore :pensive:

Of course, we all got a common thread of interest here: we all have a love/hate relationship with this stupid game about stress and horrible eldritch monstrosities. So when in doubt, you can bond with people that way. Just reblogging a post that doesn’t have hundreds of notes and agreeing with them (again, even just in the tags) can be a good thing.

This is a bit hard to follow because I struggle with cohesive thoughts, so tl;dr: If you’re open for posting and such, maybe make a side blog and go from there. Reblog posts with additions (or even just in the tags, that’s what I do!) and eventually you’ll find a small community! Or, if that’s a bit daunting, then you can keep going the anon route, let yourself chat with a few people in the fandom that way until you feel comfortable enough to maybe send dms!

it’s a hard thing for sure, but the community is welcoming and I’m sure you’d be able to find plenty of people willing to chat and make friends! My dms are always open as well, anon! And if you’d like, I could point you to a few friendly blogs that I’ve come across in my little while being here! 

Hope this didn’t come across as condescending or anything, I’m just trying to offer advice from my own experiences as somebody who deals with anxiety and cannot, for the life of me, function on something like discord (if i come across as anything other than a horribly nervous mess that will cry, then I’m doing something right i guess-)

Anyways, I hope this helped, and if you want more/need me to try and rewrite this, I will! It’s late and, again, I struggle with giving a good answer about nearly everything--

[im-not-a-joke]

Here’s a super niche au that only me and @eraseyourbookofstories will appreciate but I couldn’t help myself

The Party but on tumblr things

(This might be confusing, just go with it)

ok so before we get into this here’s my explanation - stranger things exists but the people we’re talking about here aren’t the characters, they just happen to have the same names (and also look and act identical but just go with it)  (queenie feel free to correct me if i’m wrong)

- first lets talk blogs

starting with el (main - waffleiron side - eggosenby11) - she is the biggest show!byler shipper ever and posts really specific (and correct) theories and when they get confirmed shes just like “CALLED IT”

max (madmaxs) is a huuuge show!elmax shipper and also bullies show!mike (and later tumblr!mike) on main 24/7

lucas’ blog (main - only-correct-opinions side - wtfisademogorgon) is mainly analyses of shows and movies that he likes with the occasional meme thrown in there, he personality really shines through in his tags and when he answers asks (but we’ll come back to the ask thing)

will’s (zomboy) celeb crush is finn wolfhard and he runs an it stan account, he’s very gay on main all the time and constantly reblogs those “date a boy who x” things, he is mutuals with el for a long time before this takes place, and they are good friends

dustin’s blog (dustinthewind) starts out as strictly dnd stuff, but his interests take over on now it’s a mess of fandom content and random facts and aesthetic dice

mike (finnwolfhardstolemyface) writes gay fanfic, i don’t make the rules. he makes a lot of memes and his blog is a bright yellow that hurts to look at, it’s titled “your daily dose of shitpost” (he also tends to complain about how they ruined show!mike’s character in s3)

jonathan (just-a-dude-and-his-camera) runs an aesthetic photography account, and occasionally steve shows up in his pictures, his pinned post reads “please stop complimenting the guy in my pictures, i already have to deal with him everyday, and if his head gets any bigger, it’s going to explode”

steve is too cool for tumblr but he likes to post jonathan’s stuff on his insta (he will, however, send jonathan a bunch of anons being cute, he signs them all “- your bf <3″

nancy (purple-roses) posts a lot of feminism and activism stuff and will roast the shit out of bigots that decide to mess with her (it makes robin like her even more)

robin (chasing-dreamcatchers) just kinda vibes, she reblogs whatever she wants, and posts usually about being a lesbian or dumb things steve does or her original poetry

- el is enby and uses she/her and they/them pronouns, they follow a ton of enby positivity blogs and reblog a bunch of positivity posts

- Dustin the trans guy reblogs trans ask games constantly

- el is decently well known in the little gay corner of the st fandom, so the rest of the party follows her

- she is mutuals with only mike and will at first, but she doesn’t really interact with mike

- will introduces her to the concept of show!elmax and she’s all “!!!! gay!!!”

- she proceeds to follow the elmax queen, max

- max is all “wait wait hold up waffleiron followed me w h a t”

- lucas and dustin are mutuals and don’t interact a lot but they do occasionally send each other asks

- max is also mutuals with lucas and dustin and she is a chaotic force in their inboxes

- will follows mike because curiosity and stays because he likes mike’s writing and his personality

- el recommends max’ blog to will and they become mutuals after max sees that el interacts with will’s posts a lot (“if they like him, i probably will too”)

- eventually they all become mutuals and interact in each other’s inboxes a lot and spam asks and have a decent foundation to their friendship

- dustin makes a passing comment about a discord server and theyre all like “!!! yes!!!”

- dustin and lucas start sending each other crush anons

- they also know each other irl so theyre both conflicted

- so dustin makes a discord server for the six of them and it’s chaos

- max starts bullying mike on her blog

- mike starts posting about a mystery boy (its will) on his blog and being a big gay disaster on main

- will is all “why doesn’t he like me :(”

- el comes out by reblogging a gifset of sadie sink and tagging it like “marry me pls”

- everyone is like “what” and theyre like “oh i like girls”

- max panics

- will occasionally will make a post like “friendly reminder that finn wolfhard is very pretty” 

- mike and max are both like “hmmmmmm my crush has a celeb crush on a celeb that looks very similar to me,,,, must be a coincidence”

- they discover that they all live along the east coast so they plan to meet in virginia where lucas and dustin live

- steve, robin, and jonathan all chaperone will

- nancy chaperones mike and is all “excited to see your bf” the whole time

- “hEs NoT mY bOyFrIeNd”

- when they meet, nancy and robin are both like “holy shit she’s prettier in person”

- all the adults exchange phone numbers and have a groupchat because steve doesnt have tumblr or discord

- steve tells embarrassing stories about will and will is all “stop” and mike is in love

- dustin and lucas are like “it’s you!!” and dustin is like “i think i’m the only trans guy named dustin in virginia, it wasn’t exactly a challenge”

- theyre not conflicted now that they know their tumblr crush and irl crush are the same person

- will and el make eye contact for the first time and launch themselves into a bone-crushing hug

- max and el have a moment in the pool in the middle of the night where they end up talking about crushes and describing each other and el is like “i like you” and max is relieved and they become a thing

- they’re all crying at the end of the week when they have to go back and will and mike are messaging the discord constantly because they don’t have to drive, lucas and dustin are there too

- mike and nancy are both gay panicking on the way home and its weirdly silent for most of the ride