#i hope someone gets me

[kaiscumsock]

evan peters evan peters evan peters

[qoppybirdie]

i listened to what was i made for and immediately connected it to mgs and started bawling idk if im being ridiculous but i think the song fits the story

[fujoshisephiroth]

i’ve spent my whole life bothered by the fact that there’s no concrete definition for what “romantic attraction” really is so i wrote down what it felt like to me and i’ve come to the revelation that its like if a person was the Personal Life section on the most interesting wikipedia article you’ve ever read in your life

[kimjiwoong]

also I have this theory that some hot men are cute and some cute men are hot and that these two sentences are absolutely not the same

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

[dolotonglo]

so that popularity poll huh

[somnimagus]

My page for @sheikahzine; about Impaz's duty to her village, empty of people and full of memories.

[id in alt text]

[aarghone]

He's just a gunky goopy lil guy

[queerdraws]

projecting on luffy again. get bited.

[erin-epica]

My TMNT shitposting era has begun.

[stankworth]

after many years of being strong // may you have the chance to be gentle again

[krazieka2]

Blions first kill

[marblerose-rue]

click for better quality!

fire alone can save our clan. bye! *sound of lps feet clacking away*

[comradekatara]

I love when azula calls herself the earth king’s humble servant while pretending to be a kyoshi warrior because suki would literally never say that (not even to avatar kyoshi herself), that line is ALL azula. that line, specifically, is not an attempt at impersonation or a performance, besides the fact of whom it’s directed towards. no, it actually reveals exactly how she sees herself, her role in the world, her relationship to ozai. despite her pomp and grandiosity, servitude best defines her role. and not just humility, but negation of the self entirely. suki would never present herself in this way, but how is azula to know that, when her entire life has been defined by her obedience and undying loyalty to the ultimate patriarch. his humble servant.

[emipon]

I am AnaKenough

[somnimagus]

My page for @kairizine. It was such a huge honor to be part of this wonderful book with everyone, I had so much fun!

[id in alt!]