#i know othrr people have shared this

[sarahreadstoomanycomics]

Another one I just had to get back while rebuilding my funny panels collection.

[twelvedaysinaugust]

You know the reason that i find the louis and Eleanor situation a bit odd is because and i never really shared that with anyone cause I’m not big on tumblr but i know a friend (a friend of a friend i hang out with sometimes) and she kinda knows eleanor. My friend tried to become an influencer,didn’t work out for her and now she works in branding and gets invited to some events from time to time and that’s how she knows her she never really interacted with eleanor but been to the same events as her and what she told me that was really surprising to me was people actually gossip about eleanor’s life a lot and one thing they say is her and louis have this rep of being on and off ALL THE TIME. Like that’s what they’re known for in London social scene. That’s their thing,they fight, “break up” for a while and then it’s…fine.

I wonder if that’s what they have arranged for themselves to make it easier to have their own life apart from each other. For example for E to date more easily or have hook ups and for louis too. Or just in general i imagine it’s easier for them to go and do their own thing and not be seen with each othrr for for example two months. But what i find odd is why are they making it obvious to the fans THIS time? They could’ve continued their thing in radio silence. That’s what’s so weird to me.

That’s really interesting, anon. Thanks for sharing.

[sanstropfremir]

Just wanted to pop in and say how much I, firstly, really enjoy reading through your kpop asks! As someone starting to learn about the music industry, being a huge music enjoyer across many genres, and just recently getting into kpop -- all of your mini essays are just super insightful and interesting. Secondly, I really appreciate your takes and opinions for being kinda refreshing as far as talking about art (as in, there are mediums people don't want to consider art??? It's insane lol), the industry, and othrr stuff like what specific groups/idols/companies are up to. I really feel like, especially with kpop, there is such a divide in opinions depending on where you look about such things -- it's either big, blind-consuming stans or haters. I want to read about people's genuine thoughts and feelings about performances, music albums, etc!!! Without the explicit positive or negative bias!!! It is difficult to come by (so far, for me at least, i just got here). As an exampel, I really wanna talk about how similar/tepid/overall quite uninspired or repetive I find certain group dances to be, and I wanna try to understand why or how, especially as someone who doesnt understand dance at all but wants to; but like, there's no where I could look (as far as I know rn; I refuse to use twitter) to get an open minded or analytical perspective, especially by someone who, say, has experience or extensive knowledge about dance or whatever. Idk lol, in that regard, since you seem to know your stuff and are not afraid to give your opinions on kpop stuff, it really is refreshing and interesting to read, so thank you for that lol! And sorry for the long ask!! Just ate dinner while reading through your kpop asks, agreeing and humming along like ahh yes, love me some essays about my current specific interest yes! So yeah, just needed to say that. Have a lovely day :)

anon this is so sweet 😭😭😭💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖 thank you i'm glad you like my writing!! going to a very prestigious arts school with no fine arts training was An Experience and it lends me to some unique insights about both the contemp art and theatre industries that i'm very happy to share with people. unfortunately it's pretty hard to find people who do (or try to do) unbiased analytical readings of kpop or even people just giving their nuanced opinions, which is part of the reason i started running this blog like this, because there's a lot of people like you who have questions but nowhere to pose them. my inbox is always open and i'm happy to entertain asks about anything, it doesn't have to be kpop related!

[khaleesiofalicante]

Hey Dani!

Ok, this is a very weird ask and if you feel uncomfortable you don't have to answer. It's just I don't have anyone else to talk to other than my sister who is away.

So, you know I am a desi girl and most of us still have arranged marriages. Now, I don't have a problem with them but I did have a whole tearfest about how I didn't want to leave my parents' place 'cause it's my home and it's familiar and safe while I never know what married life will bring.

But lately I am wondering if there is another reason. I just don't feel interested in this marriage talk at all. In fact I feel very much trapped by it. I wondered if it's 'cause you know domestic violence or infidelity or just plain lying and what not.

Except I think there is another reason. See, I love reading romance novels or watching it but the qhole idea of sex only sounds appealing during abovementioned times, othrr than that it's more like I am filled with dread.

I just don't know if I am aroace or demisexual or greysexual. This is where my biggest confusion lies.

You know other than what am I supposed to tell my parents. I don't think they will throw me out but they sure as hell won't be able to grasp the concept.

Thank you!

P. S. I this hasn't come as anon can you please block my name when you answer?

Hello,

I'm sorry it took me a while to get to this.

I don't think you need a specific reason or even a label for yourself to decide marriage/sex/relationships are not for you. You don't need a justification. Just so you know. BUT. Having reasons help sometimes. It gives you clarity. It helps you explain your choice to others.

So, if this is something you want, then it's totally okay (and even good) to question these things.

I don't think I or anyone else can tell you whether you are asexual or what spectrum of asexuality you fit into. But I can tell you that if you are, then how you feel is valid. Even if you are not, how you feel is still valid.

Some things that might with your discovery and exploration is to read and consume media that might resonate with you. It's easier to look at someone and say 'that's exactly how i feel!' rather than to figure out 'this is how i feel'. But do keep in mind that no two people in the ace spectrum always feel the same way. but it does help!

Doing a bit of research helps. A simple 'am i asexual' will lead to so many reading material and quizzes online. Pick them wisely. Because doing everything might be overwhelming. You don't need a quiz or a cosmo article to tell you who you are. But clarity, as I said, always helps.

This can be a difficult conversation to have with parents though. Asexuality is not something a lot of desi parents understand. I personally don't agree with the 'you need to understand something yourself to explain it to others'. You don't need a label or figure everything out to tell your parents this is not something for you. You can still talk to them. Just find the right words. Express the right feelings. Or just lie. Whatever works for you, tbh. I wish you luck with it.

PS - You said you're desi. Idk which country you're from, but there a lot of queer resources in India, so I'm sharing some more local resources for you here if you want to have a look.

An insta page and FB group by Asexuals India. It's nice to have a community you can talk to :)

This desi blog on Asexuality (it's in India) but i still find the content very relatable

PS - A book rec for you if you are interested, Loveless by Alice Osman.

I hope this helps and please feel to come talk about this more if you want to 🤍

[ivanzoot]

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[misterbitches]

Im not intelligent at all. In the conventional sense. The ramblings of a girl who just has sooo much going in in her head it's constant. But im not a genius. Or that confusing.

It just sounds like I am bc fandoms have this issue where they can JUSTSO point out the issues in soletiing. They can pick and prod and go oh problematic! But then you go to name the problems and the difficulties within society like for ex: the idea of representation in general. Salivating over it. How fucking sad that is. How we are trained to accept it. So in a BL and also RACE in the bl genre they exploit viewers naivete both domestically and internationally. Ive seen tons of people liken being asian to being a person of color. However, in their predominantly homogenous society (or intentionally publically homogenous society), they are not "poc" (also name the of color; i dont use bipoc idc if u do but it's called being asian guys cos yall aint talkin about black ppl lmao)

They as humans seeing other humans who look like them everywhere, engage with the world differently than an american in asia or asians living outside of their home country (like bae doo nanwhen she worksnin the US is not the same as the bae doo nanworking on a korean program) I dont complain about it in everything i see bc ppl say it ALL THE TIME. but it is NOT the same. Being a person of color is very distinctly an american concept. This is all stuff people will get to know on their own if they choose to dig more.

I do my best to underline what my ugly little eyes process. How i figure things out as a black female american artist too! Im hard on shit cos i should be. I take it seriously. And even if i dont take it seriously bc THEY dont then thats their problem.

I know this is a complaint that I am not alone in. I know it's the internet. I just don't get how people can write really heavy analysis but they refuse to actually probe the underlying issues. Not everyone is me, or like my friends, but if there's way fewer people talking about this stuff it seems absolutely glaring when theres few people engaging in the way i do. It seems like im the glitch but I am thinking just as much just differently.

I really loved where your eyes linger but there was little deep class analysis. I remember few convos a bout it. I know a lot about korea (sigh being a black ex kpop fan lol mess) and i love the history but all ofnit matters! Korea's relation to labor!

People bringing up thai actors snd actresses leaving the industry and doing acting as something quick. As an artist~ who went to film school with insanely wealthy ppl and isnin tons of debt you have to understand how shitty that is. People have monetary access and they just fucking do whatever just because they want to. Meanwhile you have young people being coerced into this bullshit mainstream life to LITERALY just make money bc they dont come from a rich background. The wealth gap in thailand is BAD, theres a dictatorship, they had a fucking coup. The governments like here do not respect their people. Their marginalized groups. Trans thai women, black thai ppl, poor thai ppl. And it LITERALLY CANNOT DO ANYTHING EFFECTIVELY IN CAPITALISM. No nothing can be perfect but if it's going into our eyeballs and we can view the worlld critically then why the fuck not!???

I dont say the things i see are wrong always. I reply when i think i need to. I try and engage with others but not to kuch avail. I just want to rb stuff and tdhink lajfhhdjwhjej.

But like yea theres a lot of just wrong or misguided stuff. A lot of the times it is just historical inaccuracy in framing or idk. A refusal to think outside the box. I dont care. Theres more to life than just sort of looking and not thinking especially for othrr artists.

Idk im sorry. I dont see how i can change how i view things. I really wish people would expand their palettes too and go deeper into other means of art from places! Things not in the mainstream! Theres a lot of good thai artists and a lot of them critical as fuck about their country as they should be. Authority, austerity, patriarchy, capital, racism etc like that is central to a power thats interested in growing gains and fiscal and social power. Theres rly radical or left leaning etc ppl out there in the world and these countries in these communities. So they exist. No people in these countries dont have NO clue whats going on. Cultural relativism is alsos something people should understand. I had a good talk with ppl on here a while ago about that. Talking about shit, critiquing, but being respectful to a group. Part of thay is realizing these groups CLEARLY know their own issues and all our cultures share the same goal. Guess what it is. It rhymes with acquiring wealth. Money means you hurt people. In the post, we talked about use of "wife" and "husband" which is a stupid joke that has been "explained" a billion times and yet the explanations still dont seem to answer or justify a minor problem (it's very funny to me that a language that doesnt have gendered pronouns is now very specific about two men. Hmmm wonder why. It is annoying.)

So im not the only person on the planet doing this. Or the few ppl ive seen that do. Im not new my thoughts arent new. Ive gotten to see another side to a culture i knew not much about and that means i can put the context of my beliefs and life and try and understand thheirs. For ex i learned from ITSAY because of a sign that said 'french food' that they were the only country to not be colonized back then. Do you know how integral that history is to their region? That was an interesting detail (i didnt finish itsay bc ihad a lot going on and i was rly upset that i would see hownrich they are and i hate that.)

Anyways thats my complaint. It used to feel like a sting of rejection. I left online for months in 2019, i started organizing more, joined a union, trying to do some panther work shit like that. I learned a lot in those months and it changed my life! But when I came back, I felt so isolated. It wasnt my true friends tho sometimes theyre ANNOYINGGGGG (love u) but it was me being like "if we are going to complain guys then lets put our money where our mouth is" lets be fucking serious about it then. No say it with your chest dude. It isnt difficult. Go with the fucking flow, talk about it, critique it, think. You can still fucking like itnor love it.

I am BLACK ok and i love rap. I am a black woman. I will continue to clown black men that cant seem to not clown themselves and listen. No i wont support monetarily: drake is a creep and i hate him but i bump that niggas song. Thats fucking LIFE. I got so sick of hiding myself and it became clear that it wasnt that i wasntthinking well or hard enough. They just didnt like that i said we need to commit class suicide and inspect out middle class sensibilities and middle class wealth hoarding (google it) if thats what we engaged with. Every part of you, antagonize it. I still have my privileges; class, skin color, even my father being a nigerian immigrant, me being cis, im not str8 but not a lesbian and those are differences.

Insecurities in general but some shallow thoughts (?) on discussion in "fandom" space. FYI, this will most likely stay the same. I tend to stay in my own bubble socially IE me and my friends are similar in our views. During this awful year while running my union's account, im surrounded by like minds. Me and my friends? We changed together. We grew up and saw what we didnt like and what we want. We do our best.And i CHOOSE my life to be that way bc it should be. There is no solution. I dont believe in solutions because the solution is to abolish capital or just divest. Abolishing capital and labor are a huge one and i will die before that happens (but so help me as long as im alive? Black women to FREEDOMMMM is my motto!) so making your own path in life is the best thing an artist can do IN MY OPINION.

However with technology and stuff this puts another layer onto things. Tech, social media, this shit....it THRIIIIIIIVESSSSSSS off of conflict and shallow readings of the world. We are literally primed for it. Engagement in bites. Impossible for me with my brain; i got used to it and i paid for it by limiting my scope. Not being encouraged to THINK AND READ before just speaking

(For ex i am in iww, i helped form a branch here. It is a radical union. Unionism is imprative to me-if ur interested u should read up on some. Look up peter cole! Google inthesetimes Ilwu. Gives you some understanding. Ive always been progressive and now i am....very left idk ic ant label myself. But even in my progrssiveness i had the gall to tell my white friend, whoa has her privileges but i had mine with our class disparity, that we dont need unions, i have WORKED retail. Ive done barista work for sonoing and i do gig work. So i wasnt out of touch. I had been stiffed even with a shoot i was working on by rich kids. So i had a frame of reference . But i didnt know what the FUCKa union was and why it is imperative. Then learning about anarcho syndicalism and all these other things. It changed my fucking life but two years earlier i was this idiot spouting shit like that making one of my best friends fucking upset. We DO AND CAN CHANGE. Think!!!!)

So were i a creator for tv id just constantly try and push the buttons if i need big money. Make them sell into me (thank you sonic youth!) theres Endless possibilities guys which means theres SO MUCH TK EXPLORE!!!! When i wanna have fun with it i just have fun. When i want to think i do. I dont understand why we are so dedicated to upholding things and doing mental gymnastics to end up in a space you dont need mental gymnastics for. What about these critiques makes you uncomfortable? Saying we're all part of the problem as spectators? Im sorry but we will always be. Thats LIFE. God fuck. Fuck me. I feel so fucking worthless and stupid sometimes. I know I am not. I know i am talented and intelligent. I know my friends and family. I know how to approach ppl. I know how to tell people if they are rich but want to be progressive whatsup. I choose how i live part of that is being ok to say what i want.

Ironically consrrvatives say this shit alot. But they arent ever alone bc their ideology is default. But yea it does feel shitty. It even feels shitty when ur in left circles but people STILL dont even wanna do that. These perspectives really arent ss many as they should be. I dont want to feel so alone with it. I know there are more. I just love art and the world so fucking much, endless possibility. Endless pain but endless good.