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6 ‘Weird’ Things Introverts Do That Are Actually Completely Normal

1. You feel strangely happy when your friends cancel on you.

Sure, introverts love to spend time alone. It’s our biggest defining characteristic. However, there are occasional times — and I repeat, occasional — when we want to hang out with people, especially if they are close friends; even the most introverted among us need a few strong relationships to thrive. While such get-togethers may only happen once or twice a week (or less!), when they do, we may be truly waiting for the opportunity to spend time with “our people.”

But introverts, let’s be honest. We also experience this other strange feeling — relief mixed with happiness — when social plans are cancelled. This emotion is something we keep to ourselves; we’ll never tell our friends their last-minute text is actually a piece of good news! For extroverts, who gain energy from socializing, canceled plans usually mean a ruined evening. But for introverts — although we may experience temporary disappointment if we were actually looking forward to the event — it often turns into just another wonderful opportunity to spend a nice evening at home with a good book… or podcast, movie, video game, or whatever.

If you’ve ever felt happy about canceled plans, there’s nothing wrong with you. You’re probably an introvert.

2. You avoid overly chatty salespeople, sometimes to the point of leaving the store without buying what you came for.

The best shopping for the introvert is online shopping. Spending time in a huge, loud shopping mall crowded with people is not a comfortable situation for us. What could be worse?

I’ll tell you what’s worse: being in an empty store with a chatty salesperson who insists on hovering around to “help” with your choice. Sure, it’s meant as good customer service, but this situation rarely makes introverts feel comfortable. The pressure, the attention — we just want to choose which pair of headphones to buy the way we make most decisions — quietly, in the peace of our own minds! For this reason, if I have to go into a store, I prefer the ones where I can stay invisible, walking around without being approached. Sometimes, even I couldn’t find the item I was looking for, I give up and leave rather than having to ask a salesperson.

If you regularly make a point of avoiding small talk with salespeople, you’re probably an introvert.

3. You don’t leave your home until your neighbor is gone.

Has this happened to you? You’re about to leave your home when you hear or see your neighbor in the hallway or outside. Although you have keys in hand (and may even be running late!), you suddenly find yourself frozen in place at your front door. I even used to watch my neighbours through the peephole until they left and my path was clear.

The funny thing is, your neighbor might actually be a wonderful person, and this is not at all an attempt to escape someone you don’t like. As big of an introvert as I am, sometimes I even enjoy talking with my neighbors, when my introvert battery is running high. Despite the memes, introverts don’t hate people, but they do hate being forced into awkward small talk, which quickly drains our energy. I repeat: It’s not that I don’t like you, it’s that my energy levels just can’t take any more fake smiling and “how are you’s?” today.

If you’ve ever hidden from your neighbor to avoid a polite conversation, you’re not alone.

4. You pretend not to see an acquaintance in public.

Like I said, most introverts have nothing against talking with other people — we’re just not always mentally ready for the conversation. Interacting with others requires a certain mood and being “charged up” with energy; it means leaving our favorite place — the internal dialogue in our minds. Sometimes introverts have a funny way of avoiding the spotlight or escaping unnecessary conversations. A typical situation: You’re getting groceries, just walking around the store; everything is going smoothly, until you spy an acquaintance somewhere between the milk and yoghurt.

If you’re an introvert, your first reaction might be to get away as fast as possible, before they spot you. You think: “I just came here to get groceries, not to have conversations with people.” So you simply change your direction and pretend you didn’t need milk. So much for tomorrow’s breakfast — but sometimes it’s a sacrifice introverts are willing to make!

5. You avoid being alone with people you don’t know well.

It’s happened to all of us. You’re with a good friend (someone you feel truly comfortable with, which is rare for us introverts), when suddenly, your friend’s acquaintance shows up. First, it feels okay, and you patiently listen to their small talk, until your friend’s phone rings or they leave to go to the bathroom.

Now you have to start a conversation with the other person, by moving from passive listener to active speaker — a challenge that was not at all planned! It might seem like a small thing, but for the introvert, it can be very awkward, as we generally need time to warm up to new people. I always feel so relieved when my friend is back and takes over the conversation.

6. You check online before you make any phone call.

Why call when you can write? As an introvert, I apply this rule to all situations. At work, if my manager needs some information and asks me to call a colleague in another department, I never do. Instead, I send an email or text. Sometimes my manager gets impatient: “So have you found out about ___?” That’s when I might tell a white lie, saying, “Nobody picked up, so I had to write an email.”

I hope this shows you just how much I, like many introverts, hate the phone. I used to think there was something wrong with me, but now I’ve accepted that this is simply the most comfortable way for me to deal with such situations. There are indeed times when a call is inevitable, so I suck it up and pick up the phone — but in most cases, this trick works. The same thing applies to other services. There’s almost always a way to contact a company via their website chat bot or email. Less stress — happier introvert!

Introverts, I believe the most important thing is to accept that our “weird” behavior is actually normal and more common than we may realize. You’re not “wrong” for being an introvert. It’s okay to save your limited energy and avoid unnecessary interactions that will drain you. As long as you get your job done and are conscientious of others, you should in no way feel guilty for having these reactions.

I used to feel ashamed of myself in these situations, but now I know what’s best for me, so I act accordingly. I’ve embraced who I am — and sometimes I even find myself laughing at my funny introvert moments.

by Alena Sidarovich, IntrovertDear

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Sounds like my life 🤷🏻‍♀️ too many interests

[vvallflower-things]

I could be smoking weed and getting tipsy,

yet, I'll always be the girl with flowers in her hair.

I could be taking regular trips to parlours and have my skin coated with tattoos,

yet, I'll always be the girl who listens to folk music, with her nose buried in books.

I could be funny, quirky, and quick in dirty jokes,

yet, I'll always be the girl who walks down the aisle virgin.

I could be rocking a crop top well, tight jeans, and high-waisted shorts,

yet, I'll always be the girl who never went clubbing or ever used Tinder.

I could be cursing, yelling, and slamming doors,

yet, I'll always be the girl who wears her heart on her sleeve a little too carelessly.

[hills-introversy-blog]

[introvertdear]

*slaps self in face to get fired up*

[tastelesscandies]

i’m screaming from the deepest of my heart right now. here is a little thing you should know about an introverted person.

dont judge them just because they need to be apart from you for awhile. that’s how they live. they need to recharge themselves. alone. there is nothing wrong with you, believe me. no one should be blamed. just please understand them, please understand me.

[dolce-mae]

« My personnality confuses people. I enjoy being alone, a lot, but I’m very outgoing and social. My environment dictates how I behave. Sometimes I’m loud, sometimes I’m quiet. Sometimes I want to turn up and sometimes I just need a book and alone time »

Sylvester McNutt

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EMPATHY

Melihatmu berjuang sendirian, aku tidaklah sanggup,

aku tidak hanya ingin melihatmu berada di depanku. Aku bosan melihat punggungmu yang penuh keringat itu. 

tiap kali kau menghela nafas, aku ingin berada di pundakmu untuk menenangkanmu. Menenangkanmu dari kerasnya kehidupan yang tak mudah untuk dimengerti meskipun berulang kali kau terus mencari arti kehidupan.

Sesekali kau memang menengokku, memberikan sesuatu jerih payah yang kau upayakan untuku, meski aku tau kau memang seperti itu dengan orang-orang di belakangmu. 

Hanya aku saja yang berlebihan merasakan pemberian darimu. walaupun tak seberapa aku selalu menganggap itu spesial untukku.

Itu membuatku kadang merasakan gelisah, tiap kau menengoku, menyapaku dan memberi sesuatu kepadaku. Ekspektasiku terhadapmu menjadi sangat berlebihan. 

“Apakah aku spesial untukmu?” 

batinku, seorang pengamatmu dibelakang yang tidak kau sadari. 

Kau ini orang keras kepala ya, 

selalu mengusahakan kebahagiaan untuk orang lain tanpa memperdulikan keselamatanmu sendiri.

Seberat apapun rintanganya, kau selalu lewati sendirian. Sadarlah dibelakangmu itu ada aku yang ingin membersamaimu melewati rintangan itu bersama.

Disini, aku tahu tiap nafasmu itu sangat berarti. sebab begitu banyak beban yang kau pikul sendiri. Lelahmu, selalu menghadirkan senyuman bagi mereka.

termasuk aku yang kau buat diriku menjadi pengagum rahasiamu

berapa banyak kegagalan yang membuatmu belajar, sehingga kau terlatih untuk selalu berdiri dengan kuat mengejar apa yang kau impikan. 

Mengorbankan keselamatan diri memang hal bodoh, tapi itu menjadi sangat berarti jika dengan alasan untuk kebahagiaan orang lain.

kau tahu, tiap kali aku melihat ranting pijakanmu patah, ingin sekali aku berada didekatmu , mengulurkan tangan didepanmu, menyelamatkanmu untuk kembali bangkit .

meski ini mungkin tidak berarti bagimu yang sudah terbiasa jatuh, tapi setidaknya aku ingin menemanimu berjuang, supaya kau tidak sendir lagi

dan aku ingin memberikan terimakasihku kepadamu

karena kau telah mengajarkanku 

arti dari empati

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Life is a question and how we live it is our answer. Gary Keller How do you live your life? Bonjour! I’m Mala! I’m your host and I thought I’d share 5 little facts about me. 1. I’m a massive introvert. I love my own company and never get bored. There’s never enough journalling, reading, meditating to be done. Are you an introvert or extrovert? 2. I love languages. Currently focusing on French and Spanish on @duolingo (76 day streak) but I’m also a student of Greek, German, Japanese and Swedish and dip in and out of learning them. What do you love learning? 3. If I wasn’t a coach I’d be a screenwriter, I love writing and film, it fills my cup and I actually have a masters degree in screenwriting. What’s your dream career? Are you living it? 4. My favourite exercise is running and haven’t done it since before falling pregnant with my baby girl London so in 2020 my intention is to get my sneakers back on! How do you move your body? 5. I love travelling and have lived in Cyprus, San Diego and New Zealand, as well as travelling to 13 countries in 2018 with @rowan_emmett and @koaconut. What’s your favourite destination? Drop a fun fact about you in the comments so I can get to know you too. . . . . . #introvertdear #introverting #introvertlife #podcastersofinstagram #podcastmovement #podcast🎧 #duolingo #languagelearning #languagestudy #languageexchange #languagedevelopment #highvibetribe #screenwriter #screenwriting #screenwriters #moviebuff #filmy #filmcrew #runhappy #runnergirl #runrunrun #runlife #runplanet #runningwoman #travelbook #travelcommunity #familytraveltribe #familytravelmoment #familytravels #girlslovetravel (at Troodos Mountains) https://www.instagram.com/p/B7ILE7Ug_Xa/?igshid=aeobip3ro67b

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4 Reasons INFPs Are So Restless

We see the world for what it “should be,” and this makes it incredibly challenging to remain static in life.

Some say I have the attention span of a goldfish. On the one hand, I can absolutely see where they are coming from. I can be mid-conversation, and if I am not entirely focused on the interaction at hand, then I drift away quickly. However, I would argue that this is a representation of my restlessness as an INFP — one of the rarer Myers-Briggs personality types — rather than a short attention span. 

It isn’t that I get distracted per se, but instead I lose interest and drift away into the beautiful world of my mind, where even the most mundane of life experiences can be transformed into a glorious story of good and evil, of love and loss — a tale of blockbuster credibility. In general, INFPs are incredibly self-aware, curious, and have a rich inner world. 

To the outside world, the combination of those three traits may sometimes come off as restlessness (though we’re not the only Myers-Briggs personalities whose minds often wander). If you’ve ever wondered if you should try to curb your restless behavior, though, I would like to remind you that it adds a certain mystery and lure to life.

There are solid reasons INFPs get restless, and they speak to the magic that makes us the most idealistic personality type. Here are four reasons you may find yourself restless, and why you shouldn’t feel ashamed about it.  

4 Reasons INFPs Get Restless

1. We are dreamers.

At our core, we are dreamers and idealists. We see the world for what it “should be,” and this makes it incredibly challenging to remain static in life.

On the one hand, this rose-colored lens instills an air of excitement and wonder that encourages us to move on and chase beauty whenever we come across it. But if we lose sight of that luster, no matter where we currently are in life, it is incredibly difficult to remain focused. Either way, both of these mentalities leave an eagerness to see more, do more, and feel more.

Regardless of the root cause (boredom with the present or excitement about the future), the result is the same: INFPs want to pack up and move on to the next great adventure. Not only is this normal, but it is a good thing for our development.

This fascination with all the things that should and could be has propelled me into some of the most trying times in my life, but it also has spurred an immense amount of growth and personal development. For example, after finishing my undergrad, my two best friends and I loaded into my truck and hit the road.

We had not much more than a rough map of where we sought to go, but embarked on a five-week journey across North America. None of us had the funds to pull it off, so we brought a tent, and found free camping along the way. From frigid nights in Telluride, CO, to the scorching sun of Moab, UT, we saw, did, and felt so much throughout our travels. Had it not been for my restless nature, I would never have embarked on such a journey.

So keep chasing those rainbows, INFP.

2. We despise conflict.

Another reason we may wrap up parts of life in a nice little box and move on is our tendency to mitigate conflict. I don’t want to say ��avoid,” since that has a negative connotation, but many INFPs (myself included) really do try to avoid conflict.

What I mean is we often sense impending doom, and skip town before the situation gets to that point. INFPs have high levels of intuition and perception, meaning we can sense others’ emotions and know when conflict is brewing. As highly sensitive people, we would rather have a somber memory of what once was — a feeling of melancholy — than risk watching a relationship or situation crumble. 

This conflict avoidance can be seen in a number of realms — workplaces, friendships, or romantic relationships — but the result is often the same. We will eventually find a reason to justify moving on, so we can weave the impending conflict into a grand story, rather than simply address it head on.

3. We prefer our lives to be highlight reels.

As idealists, life feels as though it is some grand story woven together with beautiful intricacy. The lows are gut-wrenching moments in a heartbreaking tale, and the highs are marks of victory and revelation. Because of this lens through which we view life, we have little patience for mundane activities. We have a bigger and better story to write, so we must move on to the next adventure.

For example, I often reflect on crossroads and the decisions I’ve made there. When looking back with 20/20 hindsight, it’s become clear to me that, more often than not, I follow the path that will give me a blockbuster movie. This is ultimately what led me to quit my engineering job to pursue starting my own company. I was only eight months into the job, but it seemed like the natural progression of the “story of Cole,” which made the decision to change career paths so appealing. I had no solid plan for making money, and was relying on my gut being correct. But what sold me was there was so much more learning to come from having no safety net and forging my own future.

INFPs feel the need to grow constantly, and throwing in the occasional plot twist is often the perfect way to do so. But these plot twists are often perceived as restlessness.

4. We need to understand ourselves better.

The central theme of the INFP story is that of self-discovery. One of my main driving factors in life is to understand myself and find my place in the larger picture of the world. Because of this, I often take a step back from my current situation to digest a number of things:

*First, I am checking in to evaluate what I’ve learned recently. By pausing life, this moment of reflection gives me clarity about myself. 

*Second, I am generally looking to what could be next. How can I capture new experiences, push myself further, and understand myself better?

These two factors often create a feedback loop with one another, which further enhances the quality of restlessness. Since INFPs are continually on the search for true understanding, this lends to a whimsical — and sometimes restless — approach to life.

INFPs are naturally wired to possess an air of restlessness. Between the idealistic, rose-colored lens through which we view life, our hatred of conflict, and our deep-rooted need to truly understand ourselves, it may feel as if we are always on the move and ready for something new.

When You Feel Too Restless

However, you may be asking yourself, how restless is too restless? If you feel this way, I want you to keep these things in mind:

*When you feel the stirrings of a new adventure calling your name, sit on it for at least a few days. We often feel differently about ideas throughout various parts of the day, and setting a deliberation period can give you more clarity to pursue only the adventures that are best for you.

*It’s okay to remain static in life for a while, especially when there are external pressures that need to be met. To rekindle the joyous and idealistic nature of your INFP self, take to hobbies during these times. Pick up a guitar or grab a pen and paper. Channel your creative juices and live out your adventures in your head, just for now.

*Finally, don’t feel so bad about being “restless.” Sure, it may be irresponsible from time to time, but the adventurous nature of INFPs truly makes life beautiful and inspiring, both for yourself and others.

These tendencies lend to a beautiful outlook on life, but it is important to always remember to take time and smell the roses. If you wrestle with wondering whether you should dial back your INFP quirkiness, then remember this quote from T.S. Eliot: “Only those who will risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go.”

by Cole Powers, IntrovertDear

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Quote of the Day – January 2, 2020

[vvallflower-things]

there will be energy vampires; the difference is if you let them bite you.

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I’m reading this article called “Yes, There Is Such a Thing as an ‘Introvert Hangover’ by Shawna Courter and I’ve never related to anything more in my life

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