#it's a damn good phrase

[wibble-wobbegong]

saw a perfect explanation of why i dont like taylor swift and yeah it’s cause she’s a figurehead of feminism who doesn’t do activism and weaponizes feminism when it comes to personal attacks on herself

[dragongirltongue]

real talk, I fucking hate the phrase "unecessary sex scenes" in media discussion 6ecause it's used to discuss sex scenes in general and ultimately exists to close out discussions.

If you legitimately use that phrase and wish to discuss media with me your homework is to find any work of fiction that contains a sex scene you cannot deny is necessary and no it cannot 6e from a porn work, that's just too easy.

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[neonbuck]

i think it should be considered obscene and predatory to have cops and the military in kids shows. promoting that kind of lifestyle/agenda to children is so creepy

[rotzaprachim]

digging my teeth into the really dark fascinating fucked-upness of helnik. they’re fascinating in being a wartime love story about an intentional victim of genocidal violence and an unintentional fuck-around-and-find-out victim of “collateral damage,” both of which are different forms of wartime violence. 

nina is targeted as a grisha, she’s almost killed by the druskelle and fjerda in the books not for being a ravkan spy or agent but simply for being grisha. they will kill her for being grisha. and how will they kill her? they will burn her. and it’s fascinating when she tells matthias in a very justified moment of rage (i mean. they’re looking at the dying burned corpses of her people whom jesper, also a grisha, had to physically shoot) and says i want your family to burn i want them all to be burnt in the way my people were. and matthias says, they already have been. they already burned. and how that changes the entire dynamic between them, everything leading up to that, becuase FUCK. yeah. his whole family has already been burnt. he’s a lone survivor of something in much the same way she is, and his family was burnt not on purpose for being grisha but as a “justified accident,” the casual civilian side-damage of war. and it was her people. unlike the intentional, systemic violence that destroyed her people and left nina a shaken, traumatised survivor of a purposeful genocide, we have matthias as this destroyed survivor of one of those little sorts of accidents that’s swallowed and justified by the shape of the war and what Must Be Done to succeed. (also he serves as like, one of the only times i think it’s really faced that the first army is, you known, a national army that does national-army-during-a-war things.) one does not cancel out the other. 

their relationship is difficult and fucked and that’s why it’s fascinating and has so much potential to explore. it’s so much more complicated than the tiktok “enemies to lovers” trope because they dig right at the base of what it is to be an enemy to someone else. from the ship nina is an almost-lone survivor of the damage his people did. from his village being burnt by inferni matthias is a lone survivor of the damage her people did. from the consequences of war on his people and violent prejudice against her own, nina is raised a child soldier and in many ways reduced to weaponry, something that absolutely is a form of child abuse. from the consequences of war on her people matthias is inducted into a cult and subjected to spiritual abuse. they’ve been hurt by each other’s nations, but also by their own. there’s something so brutal but also tender in the way they knock each other off the orbits they’ve been living in and force them out of the home that is burning. love may make you free, but not without drowning first. 

[musashi]

hi please don't tag my selfies with that 'looking respectfully' shit either call me ugly with your whole chest or simply do not reblog at all <3

[creepyscritches]

It's really sad that it's not uncommon to have to learn that you don't have to be liked to be cared for/helped :/ very freeing to realize I like helping people even if I don't personally like them; especially after growing up feeling guilty for being chronically ill. People are nicey and mean it even when you are not at your best. :)

[pretendygood]

Thinking every day about Crowley's quiet little "Oh God" before the confession and how much meaning is packed into those two words coming from him

[ssaalexblake]

Does anybody want to tell the people still complaining that 13's era didn't have enough political commentary that the anti-imperialism themes, the condemnation of the treatment of refugees and immigrants, the emphasis on violence for violence's sake being bad but violence in the name of protection and self defence is acceptable and heroic (you can and Should fight back against violent colonizers), and and absolute refusal to give any ground to abusers (something the other eras were sketchy at Best over), we could talk about the environmental protection themes that appear about as subtly as a brick more than once (ideally environmental protection shouldn't be a political issue, but idk if you've watched the news lately, it is) were like. Really thematically obvious? And that if you talk about the Less obvious, it gets deeper.

We could talk about medical exploitation and the parallels of the timeless child to henrietta lacks (look her up). We could talk about the northern working class emphasis in the whole era and that its avoidance of the south is a statement in itself, from Sheffield steel to nobody having an upper class accent (sans that one time lord who ran division who had the Snootiest of snooty high class accents. Almost like they were making a Point). We could talk about how all our characters and reoccurring are working class, a bus driver, a trainee mechanic, a hotel manager etc etc, we could talk about the portrayal of actual honest modern poverty, and that it's explicitly shown that Dan Wants to work and is threatened off of the premises instead as the indictment of capitalism it is. We could talk about the very clear condemnation of tech companies taking advantage of their customers (calling fake google Vor was unacceptable tho, no defence available).

I could go on, but I'd like to drink my tea before it gets cold.

Sorry 13 didn't say the words eat the rich, but idk if you noticed, there was an actual whole episode where in the future the 1% who ruin the earth beyond repair literally get hunted and eaten by the mutated remains of the 99% whom they left to die 👍

[telomirage]

started the morning with small breakfast while reading job descriptions -> found one that looked okay -> saw two bullet points in the "responsibilities" section that made me incandescently angry -> tried to read two more listings -> gave up and took an HOUR AND A HALF LONG break

[foxgirlmoth]

Imagine being one of the most well known trans streamers (at least that I've ever heard), being allowed to afford for pretty much whatever affirming care you want, and then making fun of another trans women for.... Being a trans woman. And then you throw a hissy fit when people say you're shitty for that. Like damn you have so many people going to bat for you for being a piece of shit to someone else in your own community, you can afford to do this, and then you just say you're not 'quirky' enough to fit in with us. You're just being an asshole. Trying to say 'normal' trans women don't exist is pretty fucking disgusting.

[mad-hunts]

psst... i finished the blurb for my supernatural verse, and it is currently the only universe where julien is alive, which may be wilder than one might think. and i say that because that means that barton is less shouldered by guilt / more than likely comparatively even worse than he is in the main verse. i mean, don't get me wrong, julien's (one of barton's sons) death is definitely a tragedy.

it is also something that introduced more of a sense of guilt into him though because it made him realize that, yes — he IS not only destroying the lives of the strangers he kills but also the members of his own family's lives. so, without this event taking place, barton is (unfortunately) probably more cocky and liable to indulging in his very twisted impulses, so... yeah. but of course, julien is more than just a plot device character in barton's story. it's just that him being around does change things on a bigger level

[fireheartedpup]

Cool cool cool I have worked very hard on not overthinking interactions and not apologizing for having feelings and normal conversations and then I am told that I am "most excited about drama," that my attempts to connect over shared music tastes were "tepid," that I made them uncomfortable, that I didn't wait long enough, that my thoughts on one of my favorite characters were a "weird stream of consciousness," and that the person I had been talking to for MONTHS didn't actually consider me a friend because we don't have much in common.

I tried to ask before sharing drama. I told them how much it meant to me when they said supportive things. They encouraged my writing. I invited them into... something of my own. I thought it was okay to share my feelings because I thought they cared about me. I thought our differences were interesting, and we did have some shared interests and experiences. I tried to show them I was interested in what they created. I thought they WERE telling me when they were uncomfortable with what I said. I tried to pull back when I thought they didn't want to continue a certain line of conversation. I tried to change the subject. I waited an entire week to send a follow up message, and I know the week often seems short but it's not like I was hounding them every single hour or even every single day. I thought we could talk things out. I thought we'd built that much of a relationship. I really only sent the message because I couldn't stop crying, and I thought that I could tell them I was hurt.

But no, apparently I need to "just block people" instead of talking to someone I thought I could trust about my feelings.

I don't even know if I'm comfortable vagueing this much, but they hit on basically every single one of my relationship insecurities, so although I am mostly over the sadness so deep I can't even eat hump, I think it's going to take me a while to process everything.

It's funny how I can have the same approach with everyone, and some people will think I'm overbearing and need to get over it and others will have understanding and grace for me.

I thought they did. I thought what they showed me said that they did. I thought our conversations said that they did. I had no idea I was making them so uncomfortable. I'm still gonna be me on main no matter what, but I do try to adjust my approach to individuals. Like I know I just said I did the same things, but that's about like... sharing my feelings and how I approach conversations, not the topics themselves.

I'm doing a little better with not spiraling down the sad feelings whirlpool. It's just taking me a while.

[qunaricatnip]

mage wardens should have the opportunity to protest at the joining because that's blood magic babey!!! the thing that literally just upended their lives and almost got them made tranquil

[daz4i]

getting that one thing i constantly need will have me thinking fucked up shit like "i want to live" can you even imagine

[gu6chan]

99% just my autism speaking here but something ive been noticing lately that im sorta kinda 😶 about is when ppl are like "I think you'll like this" but not bc they ACTUALLY think you'll like it, rather they just got into it and want you to also get into it so "I think you'll like this" is a nice personal hook. i love chill stuff as much as any other person ofc but given i don't divulge that EVER, what makes you think my berserk reading, made in abyss watching, drakengard playing ass would like YURU CAMP????

[arbitrarygreay]

Do witches still say "holy shit" and what does that even mean in their cultural context