#like i can see how the lifestyle improvements i made before really do help

[cheesey-rice]

Unmedicated until my higher dose of Ritalin comes in the mail and I forgot how much this sucks 😓

[syrena-del-mar]

Blind Spots of Motherhood: Last Twilight, Episode 10

We're coming off of the emotional rollercoaster of last week's episode and seeing the consequences of Day and Mhok's getaway. And the consequences are big, which not even Night can assuage.

I love scouring the tags as I watch Last Twilight, and I've been seeing many call Day's mom evil or a narcissist. In my opinion, she does not fit the bill (if you're looking for one that is, go watch Twins, now that's a narcissist). There's a tendency of wanting to villainize mothers, and BLs do a great job of giving us mothers that do fill that role, but I sincerely don't think that's the story P'Aof is trying to tell us here. Rather than evil, I think her arc is more about being a flawed mother that does more harm than good through overparenting, her perceiving Day to be more vulnerable than he really is, and sidelining of Night.

Stages of Adjustment to Vision Loss

Just like the seven stages of grief, similarly there's a theory about the seven phases of adjusting to vision loss. The Stages of Adjustment applies not only to the one suffering the vision loss, but even their friends and family.

Phase 1: Trauma, where personal attitudes and generalization form one's personal view of a person who is blind takes over.

Phase 2: Shock and Denial. Self-explanatory.

Phase 3: Mourning and Withdrawal, it's where the loss of regular activities and routines occur.

Phase 4: Succumbing and Depression occurs when an individual is unable to come to terms with the sudden low vision/blindness and they stop caring for themselves. Feelings of inadequacy becomes prevalent.

Phase 5: Reassessment and Reaffirmation occurs when individuals regain and maintain control of their life. Loved ones play a significant role in assisting them to reach this independence at this stage.

Phase 6: Coping and Mobilization happens when individuals develop coping techniques to live with the vision loss and acknowledge their abilities and accept when the need assistance.

Phase 7: Self-Acceptance and Self-Esteem occurs when the individual realizes that they have value and their loss of vision is just one of the many attributes.

When the Last Twilight first started, we met Day as he was dealing with Phase 3 and 4. With the help of Mhok, we've seen Day grow in his independence, but also come to terms that his vision loss may be forever. He no longer was thinking and hoping for that transplant surgery, he wasn't even counting on it anymore. Instead, with the help of Mhok (and Night), Day was able to reach Phase 6 and was transitioning into Phase 7.

But just as Day was moving on with his, his mother wasn't. She's still struggling with his disability and has gotten stuck in Phase 3 and 4, just as Day had been. She's so blinded by Day's disability, that she's drowning in the fears of what could happen to Day rather than seeing the strides of improvement that he has made.

Overprotective Parenting fails in Harm Reduction: Day

"Expecting him to be independent at one time and overprotecting him at another will only result in a frustrated youngster. It is important to judge and treat the blind child fairly; not indulging him, yet not setting goals and expectations so high that he is discouraged." -The Blind Child: Becoming an Independent Adult

Day's mother is frustrating, to say the least. She is so incredibly misguided in how she treats both of her sons, it's no surprise that Day locks himself away into the cavern of his bedroom.

She only sees Day for his disability. Acknowledging and accepting that Day is blind is important, and that does signify life adjustments, but that doesn't mean making Day's blindness the only thing about him. She forgets that Day was a full-functioning adult that had his own lifestyle before he lost his sight. She's only come to known Day for his blindness. She's the one that puts his blindness at the forefront.

She wants him to get out of his bedroom, to stop locking people out, but once he has some sense of independence, apart from his family, now she's afraid? Her son, vision loss or no vision loss, is an adult, but instead of giving him such dignity, she regresses and infantilizes him. She pushes him back into that suffocatingly big bedroom. She takes away his phone, his internet, every tool that connects him to the outside world. She takes away what little independence he had started to build up again.

Any good parent would be worried about their child who has undergone a traumatic event, but over-protecting does more harm than good. In her anxieties, she ends up resorting to using unintentionally abusive tactics. Yes, Day would be physically fine, but in her overprotectiveness, she fails to realize that it could lead to dependency inducement, learned helplessness, and bouts of depression. Day's mother fails to realize that taking away any autonomy that Day has only started rebuilding, would only result in Day's emotional state worsening.

Blindness doesn't have to mean debilitating, but locking your son up in his room without any way to interact with the world around him that he is trying to relearn? That's more crippling than any vision loss could ever be.

Readjusting as the Glass Child: Night

"The most egregious form of rejection that anyone can ever experience is parental rejection" -Is Rejection, Parental Abandonment or Neglect a Trigger for Higher Perceived Guilt in Adolescents

Oh man, the pain I felt for Night this whole episode was next level. The idea of a glass child is not one's delicateness but rather as a sibling of a individual with disabilities, the sibling becomes invisible to the parents, only seen when the parents need them. If it wasn't obvious before, it's clear that this was the role that their mother was forcing Night into.

There's nothing that hurts worse than the sharp words of a mother directed to her child. His mother explicitly blaming Night for Day's disability was a new low-blow. Night had already been beating himself up for the accident, his father (who doesn't even live with them) knew that, but seemingly their mother was oblivious. The only one that Night could rely on was an outsider, a father that they hadn't been in contact with for years. Their mother created that environment by not paying attention to her other son, who was also in that accident.

Nothing fuels sibling rivalry like preferential treatment from parents. Even worse when one has to be the caretaker of the other when they already have a fractured relationship. Instead of easing the tension between the two brothers, their mother is too busy worrying solely for Day without accounting for Night. Caretaker burnout is already incredibly exhausting when you're caring for a loved one, but Night has personal guilt and Day's resentment to deal with as well. Not once does their mother ask him how he's doing, if Night is alright.

Night is the forgotten child, the child that's expected to take care of his brother no matter what, no matter how independent Day has become. She has parentified Night without any consideration of how he was doing or what was going on in his life. This was probably already a running theme as they grew up, assuming from their positioning in the family portrait. In doing so, she unknowingly worsens the strife with the brothers, making Day believe that Night had only been "behaving well" in order to win some preferential treatment from her.

Even on Christmas, their mother only cares for Day, feeding him first and putting food on his spoon, body fully turned against Night. In that scene, visually Night seems like he's intruding and he feels it as well! It's why he excuses himself, saying that he's going to meet up with some friends. Even after being forgiven by Day, his mother doesn't make any effort to include Night other than just having him at the table. It's as if he wasn't part of their nuclear family, just a convenient body that is there to help out as Day adjusts to his new life. If it hadn't been for Day, Night would have left that table that night and would have believed that nobody cared for him. I'm hoping this makes her confront and reassess how she's treated Night, now and in the past.

It's ironic, even though Day is blind and held a lot of contempt for his brother, he was still saw Night and all his struggles. Meanwhile, their mother was seeing right through him, blaming him for what happened to Day. Driving a dagger, that Night had already stabbed himself with, even deeper.

Final Thoughts

I'm not quite ready to jump on the 'Mother Gothel' train for Day and Night's mom. I think she is juggling being a career woman and being a mother at the same time, while failing to adjust to Day's blindness and making mistakes in her parenting as a result.

I also don't think it's out of maliciousness or self-importance, either. When I see their mother, it's as if she's trying to save a sinking boat that is already pierced by numerous holes. There's no going back to their lives before Day's blindness. She needs to adjust her priorities, because disregarding Night and locking up Day is not the answer.

This episode was frustrating, not because I found her to be outright abusive, but because of her worries she ends up hurting her sons even more. No parent is perfect, and they can hurt you while thinking they're acting in your best interest, but they have to be willing to love and let their kids learn on their own.

[red-pill-to-swallow]

Doing your part in a relationship

Hey babes,

it’s Monday – a new, fresh week and the ultimate opportunity to make some changes.

I don’t know why it feels so much better to start a new routine on a Monday than it does on a random Wednesday.

I took some time after I posted my last two posts and really thought about the relationship dynamic between my man and me.

I thought about changes that I would like to make and what could help us to become a better couple.

Honestly, I was pretty shocked after all my thinking because it turns out that my man is the rock in this relationship and I am not sure why he is still sticking around when he could probably do so much better.

But let me explain:

I gave up working in my full-time job around January 2023 and have been home ever since then.

My man was aware that I was totally burned out from my job and offered me that I could stay at home and take care of the household chores.

Previously we used to split the chores around the house roughly 50/50. It was very fair and in some weeks he did more than me and some weeks I did more than him, like it’s in every relationship.

I would say that I am fairly good at housekeeping. I know how to cook, how to clean and how to do laundry.

However – I never before was responsible for everything. From going grocery shopping and planning meals to cleaning the bathrooms every week – suddenly all of this was on me.

I struggle really bad with organizing myself, this was one of the reasons why I was so burned out from my previous job, and I started slacking.

I would do the laundry one day and take three days before I started folding it. My man literally had no underwear one time and flipped out because that’s obviously disgusting and instead of improving – I started to get mad at him.

It wasn’t only the laundry, it also began affecting my cooking – which I loved doing before – and I would start making only frozen meals or just serving cold meat cuts with bread.

We started fighting a lot more because my man was sad, that instead of relaxing at home he would need to help me with my chores – after a full workday.

I had my epiphany a few weeks ago (when I made this blog) and realized that my man has every right to be mad at me. He does his job. I am not.

So, let’s see – my man works really though hours. He leaves the house early in the morning and comes home in the early evening. He’s usually stressed because his job is very demanding and he is responsible for a lot of people.

Imagine coming home to your girlfriend, who’s staying at home, and almost nothing is done. The fridge isn’t restocked, the floor is dirty and there is no food. After your shower you realize that you have no fresh underwear because your girlfriend didn’t wash any.

I would flip out too.

My behavior was/is borderline disrespectful and I am honestly ashamed because of it. I would have broken up with me if I was him.

But here we are – still together and I don’t plan on dodging this second chance.

I think many girls that want the lifestyle of a spoiled girlfriend or a stay at home girlfriend don’t realize how hard it is to organize a whole household on your own.

Yes, there might be some men out there that are so rich that they don’t mind employing staff to help around the house, but I don’t think that this is achievable for a woman in her twenties without having various high value connections in the right circles. At least I don’t have those connections.

I am responsible for keeping the house clean, making food and going grocery shopping. That takes maybe 5 hours of my day and the rest of the time I can do whatever I want.

My man only wants to come home to a clean, organized house with a stocked fridge and possibly a hot meal on the stove.

Honestly – he is the one that is working his ass off every day, not me.

The worst is, that I even started to neglect my appearance. I used to shave every second day and that slowly progressed to only once a week. I used to color my hair religiously and worked out at least three times a week.

Now I haven’t touched up my hair in over three months, my roots are disgusting and I am very ashamed because of it. I mean, even though my man pays for my beauty appointments – I couldn’t get my ass up.

However, I cleaned our whole house today. From the bottom to the top. It’s spotless. I did laundry and went grocery shopping and I made a plan on how to maintain all of those things.

I won’t share the plan just yet because I want to make sure that I can actually follow it before I share it with you.

What should you take with you after reading this rant?

Be careful that you’re always a responsible partner. Don’t be like me. If you’re telling your partner that you plan on doing something – actually follow through and do it. Don’t disappoint them all the time.

Make sure that you acknowledge what they do for you and thank them for it every once in a while.

It is unattractive to be lazy and not being able to keep up with your standards. It’s unfair to your partner to let yourself go and they have every right to be upset about it.

Think before you speak and start an argument. Are you really right? Is it worth to start an argument about something that is your responsibility?

I mean, my man made it clear in the beginning: If I want to stay at home and live a cozy life – I have to take care of the house while he works and provides for us both.

He does his part of the agreement. Every single day.

I’ve only done my part of the agreement when I felt like it and that is not okay. But I am changing and I know that he has already forgiven me for all the hassle.

See you soon

[angstysebfan]

You Matter To Me

Pairing: Bucky Barnes x Female Reader Summary:  This is based on the song “You Matter To Me” from Waitress the Musical. It’s not a replica of what happens in the play, but the words in the song. Song lyrics are in italics. Warnings: Slight Angst, Sad Lonely Reader, Fluff

A/N: I’ve wanted to rewrite this fic for awhile. The story is the same, but I didn’t like how I did it the first time. I hope you all enjoy it even more than before. Please know that my stories were no beta’d or edited, so I apologize for any grammar mistakes or misspellings. Also please note again I am rewriting most if not all of my masterlist, so if you read my stories, be prepared cause most of them are going to be fixed if they haven’t already lol.

I can find the whole meaning of life in those sad eyes They see things you never quite say, but I hear Come out of hiding, I’m right here beside you and I’ll stay there as long as you let me

You’re in your living room of your small one bedroom apartment, slow dancing with him. He holds you close and sings softly into your ear as you release a sigh of contentment. You never in a million years thought that you could ever find the happiness you’re currently engulfed in. People assume that being the only child of the rich and famous (your dads name), your life is set and happiness is a given. You know for a fact that it's not true, as you purposely ran away from the "rich kid" life the moment you were able to.

Your parents always treated more like a burden then their child. You were practically raised by nannies because they didn't want to give up the partying lifestyle. They never once celebrated the day you were born, always going out with friends on trips or something instead. When they were home, you were never allowed to make any noise or be a normal kid because they considered that a disturbance.

As you got older, you started to resent your life. Any "friends" you made didn't really care about you at all. They wanted to be seen with the daughter of the famous Y/F/N, the richest man in the country. They knew if the paparazzi saw them with you, they would be on Page Six and be set. You never wanted to be the center of attention. It never interested you, but you also didn't want to be used. You found yourself feeling very lonely all the time, even in a crowded room.

Eventually, when you were old enough, you ran away from that life. You wanted as much separation as possible. Your parents wouldn't care anyway, so you didn't move far. You found yourself in the middle of Brooklyn working as a waitress as a small diner. It didn't pay much, but it helped you afford your tiny shoebox apartment that you loved and food. You felt like you were finally free and happy. You started going out more, and even made some real friends who liked you for your personality, rather your wealth, since you no longer had any.

Once night you were out with some friends and were sitting at a bar. Nursing your cranberry vodka, you kept thinking how much your life has improved, and how much happier you were without your parents money. You suddenly saw someone sit next to you and you looked over with a smile. You would lie if you said he wasn't the most handsome man you have ever seen. He had short brown hair, the bluest eyes imaginable, and a strong jawline partially hidden under some scruff. When he looked at you and smiled, your heart immediately fluttered.

Because you matter to me Simple and plain and not much to ask from somebody You matter to me, I promise you do, you matter too I promise you do, you’ll see You matter to me

You found yourself falling into easy conversation with the handsome man, whose name was Bucky. You learned he was a mechanic who lived in the same neighborhood as you, and that he grew up in Brooklyn to middle class parents and knew the value of hard work. It was refreshing to say the least. Listening to how his parents supported him and his siblings with their aspirations and dreams, no matter what they were. You were jealous, because your parents couldn't give a damn about you. Hell they never even tried to find you when you left. Bucky tried to ask about your life, but you weren't ready to hash that out, so you just quickly changed the subject. He smiled and decided to go with it.

You and Bucky start to hangout more often and you find yourself falling... hard. He would take you on little dates around Brooklyn, and you both would stay out late just talking about things. You wanted to tell him about your past, but you were scared it would scare him away. When he wanted to treat you to a fancy restaurant in Manhattan that you know your parents frequent, you immediately decline. You felt it was time to finally tell him the truth about yourself. Bucky sat with you, holding your hand as you told him all about your upbringing and your thoughts and feelings about your parents. You were in awe when you were done he pulled you to him and kissed you.

"I can't imagine how hard that much have been for you," he said with no sarcasm.

You then and there that he actually cared about you and your feelings. He didn't think you were some spoiled brat that didn't get enough attention. He knew money was not important to you, and that all you've ever longed for was to be loved. He wanted to be the one to show you the love you've always deserved, and hopefully you can let him in. And maybe love him just as much in return.

It’s addictive the minute you let yourself think The things that I say, just might matter to someone, All of this time I’ve been keeping my mind on the running away For the first time I think I’d consider the stay.

At first you were worried when Bucky asked you to move in with him. Yes, you had been dating for over a year, and yes you cared for him with ever fiber of your being, but you still had hesitations when he said it back. You kept telling yourself he really loved you and to let him in, but it was harder to do than you realized. Bucky was always patient and understanding. He allowed you to take your time and really think about it with no pressure. But you wanted to let him in so bad. He's been so good to you, so you finally agree to move in.

It took some time for you to get used to Bucky constantly wanting to take care of you. You've always taken care of yourself, so to have him wanting to do that was surprising. He constantly tells you how much you mean to him, but you still find it hard to believe sometimes. He buys you flowers every week, takes you on small romantic trips, and cooks you dinners. Your walls slowly start crumbling little by little as you let him in, because you know you are as much in love with him, as he seems to be with you. Every day when you come home from work, he asks about your day, and generally cares. He pays attention to every word you say, he laughs at jokes you make, gets irritated when hearing about stupid customers, or holds you as you cry after a hard frustrating day. He's there every time you need him, and even when you don’t.

You are there for him just as much, knowing that a true relationship means you both have to give the same amount. As time goes on, your walls around your heart are gone, and you've completely given your heart to Bucky. He and his family have welcomed you with open arms, and you never felt as loved and accepted as you do with him. When he dropped to one knee to ask you to be his wife, you didn't hesitate for a second before saying yes, because there was no other answer.

Because you matter to me Simple and plain and not much to ask from somebody You matter to me, I promise you do, you matter too I promise you do, you’ll see You matter to me

You look up at your fiancee and smile before giving him a soft kiss. You then look at the small diamond on your finger with so much happiness. Bucky apologized it wasn't bigger, but you told him, and you meant it, that you wouldn't want anything more than what he has given you. Your life is perfect as long as you have him, and are in his arms. Bucky was everything you didn’t know you needed in your life.

For the first time, you feel loved and cherished. You feel like you finally matter to someone. Not just someone, Bucky Barnes, the man you love and are going to spend the rest of your life with. 

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Bucky is so fucking amazing in this story. I love him so much! Feedback is appreciated! Also if you wish to be apart of my new taglist, please let me know.

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[doiesfav]

ﾟ𐦍༘⋆Strawberry Sunday - Doyoung ||

Pairing: father! Doyoung x fem! Reader

Plot: You realized that your daughter would feel awkward with his own dad sometimes so you decided to do a picnic to help them improve their relationship.

Genre: fluff, parenthood, established relationship, slice of life, fiction

doesn’t contain anything tbh

wc -> 1,5k

A/n: I JUST FINISHED WRITING IT WHILE ISTJ WAS OUT AND OMG WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK? THE WHOLE ALBUM IS SO GOOD (PRETZEL THO) Anyways thanks guys again for supporting me ♡

From PARENTHOOD SERIES

MASTERLIST

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You and Doyoung always wanted a child, it was both of your dreams as a couple and it became true. He has been working nonstop to provide a comfortable lifestyle for the family, and when you became pregnant it was as if all his hard work were paid off. But even though you guys achieved it, he hadn't had that much time to spend time together with her 2-year-old daughter, Aeyoung.

Sunday, a day were a family can relax and have fun together. Your 6 year old daughter doesn’t spend a lot of time with her dad like they used to, instead it has became kinda awkward when those two were alone so you decided to resolve that. First thing you did when you woke up was kiss doyoung on his cheek, you were used to it since dating so why not.

He was still asleep and you went to check on your daughter, “honey, wake up the sun already rose” You could see her trying to wake up because she was the well mannered and responsible type of kid. You petted her messy dark hair that reminded you of doyoung’s one, in fact, she resembles Doyoung a lot, her personality, her eyes and her hair. Although the face would be a mix of you two.

“Mommy, can I help you do breakfast today?” You nodded but before she could move you said “What about helping me prepare things for a picnic?” Her face lighted up you could see her excitement in her eyes. “Really??” she says out of excitement. As you two were going to the kitchen doyoung woke up. ''Good morning princess'' He went and hugged your daughter, but she just accepted the hug and suddenly became shy, ''Honey go to the kitchen first okay?'' You said to let you talk alone with Doyoung for a moment.

''Baby, don't you think she feels shy around you'' You said with a sweet voice but low so she couldn't hear the conversation, ''yea I thought I was the only one who noticed, Why would she feel like that? I am a bad father?'' He said those words feeling heartbroken, just the thought that his own daughter doesn't feel comfortable around his father was sad. You knew Doyoung works a lot and doesn't spend that much time around but it ain't his fault either, ''Doyoung, let's go out together today, and if your relationship improves, you know we gotta keep going'' He agreed so you both started by going to the kitchen to prepare breakfast with Aeyoung.

''Mommy, is daddy going too?'' You nodded but already expected that question, ''Let's start by preparing sandwiches'' Your hand made a gesture for Doyoung to come where you were, ''But first wash your hands'' As soon as Doyoung understood what were you trying to do he carried Aeyong towards the sink and helped her wash her hands, and before Doyoung left her down he said ''What do you have to say to daddy?'' Aeyoung smiled ''Thank you Daddy'' she said while giggling. You were relieved for a bit knowing that Aeyoung still values Doyoung as her father.

''What do you want in your sandwich princess?'' Doyoung asked Aeyoung, ''Ummm, I don't know, can you choose it for me daddy?'' Doyoung asked if she was sure and she nodded with a warm smile that was a mix of us. ''We finally finished our sandwiches'', yours was a classic chicken lettuce and tomato, Doyoung's one was imitation crab meat, boiled egg with mayo, and your daughter's one was a strawberry with cream sandwich because she liked sweet things like any other kid her age so your husband guessed right. She liked it a lot and since Doyoung knows how to cook very well it was even more delicious.

But there were still a lot of strawberries left and you had to use it all before it gets spoiled, luckily you all liked strawberries so it was easier to enjoy all that. The easiest idea was probably a strawberry smoothie, it was only mixing it in a blender with a few other bunch ingredients, ''Do you like strawberry smoothies honey?'' Aeyoung said out of excitement yes, she loved those. ''Are you sure we can eat all those strawberries today?'' Doyoung asked out of curiosity while blending the smoothie, ''I'm not that sure actually, but I'll think of a plan anyway'' The food waste here in Korea is no joke so you didn't want any problem with it. Finally done with the food you all changed clothes and ate breakfast with some leftovers, you started putting the food in the picnic bag, ''Baby, do you want to carry the bag or hold hands with Aeyoung'' You laughed knowing it was a trick question, of course, he wouldn't want you to carry the heavy bag but the plan of improving the relationship with Aeyoung was still on the action.

You saw Doyoung's doubtful face, ''Is a joke, I'll carry the bag don't worry'' and gave him a peck on his lips after he laughed back and complained knowing is also a joke like he always used to do since the day you meet him. You went to check on your daughter, ''Honey, let's go'' But before you could leave she hold your big hand compared to hers. ''Why daddy wasn't with us other days but today he did'' She asked half angrily but confused at the same time. ''Honey, the reason daddy isn't with us all the time isn't our fault nor yours. But when he's with us we have to enjoy it a lot, okay?'' You gave her a kiss on her forehead. Based on her facial expression it was as if she understood, Aeyoung was always a smart and understanding kid even if she was only 6 years old. ''Okay mommy, I'll try to give dad a fun time today'' She said and ran to Doyoung who was in the kitchen.

Doyoung was surprised at this but still kneeled and hugged her back. ''What happened honey'' ''Nothing is just that I missed you'' And Doyoung looked at you smiling which he answered with a flying kiss which you found cringe but laughed anways and made you flustered. ''Ready to go?'' Doyoung asked all of us and we nodded. After walking for about 20 minutes we arrived, the weather was excellent and there weren't too many people, ''perfect'' You said with a relieved feeling.

You and your husband prepared the blanket for you all to sit down and when it was done Aeyoung started taking out all the food. Sandwiches, strawberries, smoothies, and a strawberry shortcake you made beforehand, ''woaah, so many pink things, I like it'' Aeyoung giggled. ''Aeyoung, let's eat later and first play something okay?'' She nodded. You took out the guess-who game, but since it was for two people, Doyoung and Aeyoung teamed up.

You guys played 4 rounds, 3 rounds were Aeyoung and his father and in the other one, she teamed up with you, though she won all the rounds no matter who she was teamed up with. After playing some other games it was finally time to eat, and Aeyoung was very excited to do so. It wasn't her first time going out for a picnic but every time you guys went she acted like it was her very first time, she never gets tired of it.

You ate first the sandwiches you made on our own, but close after everyone finished eating them, you guys were kinda full but still had a lot of leftovers. While your husband and daughter were playing you were thinking about what you should do with it, then your brain sparkled. You could give it away to people. You told Doyoung and he agreed ''But, you and Aeyoung not me'' You winked at him which he answered by kissing you and it suprised you.

''Aeyoung, Do you want to give these leftovers to people?'' Doyoung said to his daughter ''Whyyy?'' Doyoung pressed his lips not knowing what to say and looked at you asking for help but you looked away ''So, we have to be good people and since we are full is good to offer it to others'' Aeyoung kinda understood it and kept nodding her head adn agreed.

They both held hands and Doyoung carried the leftovers, he wasn't an introvert but neither he was the most extrovert so he became a little bit shy at first. They found a young couple ''Excuse me, we have some strawberries would you like some?'' Doyoung said shyly but then Aeyoung repeated with enthusiasm ''Yes, would you like some'' The couple reacted happily and accepted it, ''Is she your daughter, she's so cute'' Doyoung blushed more than Aeyoung should but it made him happy anyways.

They kept doing this until there weren't strawberries left. They have successfully done it and made a high five when they returned, you were sleeping so your daughter woke you up. ''Mommy we don't have more strawberries'' she cheered while trying to wake you. After you woke up Aeyoung told you everything and then decided to wrap it up and go home. ''Did you like this picnic Aeyoung?'' Doyoung asked, She said yes feeling very happy more than she usually is and she even asked him to lift him up. Doyoung of course did it. And then headed home. Your mission was completed.

Thanks for supporting and sorry if the end is a bit lazy (It was done while watching the ISTJ showcase LMAO) Anyways stream ISTJ and would appreciate reblogging or following thanks ♡♡♡♡♡♡

[lumiidragon]

Do u have any social and tips on drawing?

Not sure what ya mean on 'social' but I do have drawing tips!

-Practice! This is probably the tip you will hear from ANY and EVERY artist, but it really is true. You will not improve if you do not practice. When I say 'practice' what I mean is this: Draw as much as you can when you can. If you only draw for 5-minutes once a month, you're not going to improve like someone who draws daily. How much and often you practice will also be determined by your lifestyle. Work, school, social life, other hobbies ect are important as well, so remember your balance. Also, PLEASE use references. No, using references is not and will never be cheating. Anyone who tells you otherwise is full of it. Also, draw as much variety as you can as well. Always be willing to work out of your comfort zone, but also don't feel as though you have to force yourself to draw things you don't want to all the time. Balance. When practicing, utilize tutorials that you can find literally everywhere and try watching speedpaints/draws. They help me a lot!

-Learn your anatomy! Your art will improve so much quicker when you take time to learn anatomy. For some, learning anatomy in art is fun while for others, it's a bit of a drag. However, it's super important. Once you know your anatomy, you can push things in terms or art style because as the saying goes 'You have to know the rules to break them'. So before you go all cartoony and wobbly with your anatomy for a style, try to know the actual anatomy first. it helps!

-Artist > Tools! No, you don't need an expensive tablet or art program or marker set or brush set ect, ect. The tools do not make the art, the artist does. Yes, tools can make things easier and can be fun to experiment with and eventually everyone finds what they prefer more, but the more expensive your art equipment is doesn't mean that your work will turn out better. If you're a beginner artist, play with cheap mediums first. Crayola crayons and MS Paint can still make art. Only put money into supplies, tools, and programs that you know you will utilize to its worth. If you're brand-new to digital art, for example, don't go looking into a tablet that costs hundreds of dollars. I started digital art with Gimp (a free art program) and my computer mouse. I've used a mouse longer than I've used my tablet so far and even though I've traded in my mouse days for my tablet, I was still able to make some good art with the mouse.

-Get Inspired By Others, But Don't Compare! Every artist, big and small has looked at someone else's work and told themselves "Why can't I draw like that? My work isn't as good as theirs.". This is a good way to put yourself down and to take the fun out of your art along with turning a blind eye to the progress you have actually made. Instead, look at other people's work and inspire yourself. What about their work do you like? Is there any technique that they do that you can try out? Break down how they put their art together and maybe you can learn from it. Of course, never copy a person's artwork or directly steal, but take away inspiration. Do you like how they do facial expressions? Do you like they way they do anatomy? Do you like how their lineart looks? Do you like how they color? What about someone else's art do you love, and take inspiration. Take it from multiple sources and you'll find all sorts of unique ways people make art that you can try out for yourself!

-KEEP YOUR OLD ART! Especially if you're a beginner at art, this is important. It's super easy to look at your art and go 'ew', before deleting it or throwing it in the trash. Don't do that. Your future self will thank you for hanging onto all of your old art so you can go back and see just how much you've truly improved. Also, it's fun to go back and redraw old art!

These are just some tips I have and I do hope they help!

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hey meaghan i wasted $30 on soju and $17 on an almond croissant and a caramel macadamia bar today, what'd you get up to? btw how are you still living in squalor after receiving over $32k? i see you're getting really indignant over no one subsidizing your neet lifestyle for the last two weeks "reblogs are useless if people don't donate" lol how ungrateful can you be? some people have to spend their hard-earned money on necessities for their own lives with little left over and still choose to reblog your e-begging out of the kindness of their hearts. i can't believe you've been struggling so much for so long with such a winning personality! has it even occurred to you to make a new gofundme? everyone can look at the current one and see you've done nothing but beg for donations for 4 years straight, after wasting more money handed out to you for blogging pitifully than a lot of americans can wring out with their own blood and sweat in a year. who would want to help knowing you'll never improve or strive for anything better? maybe this'll help out, someone might get mad enough to make you their charity case of the month just to spite me 🥰

Who the fuck do you think you're talking to

who said you can use that name with me

I made the gfm in 2020 you absolute moron and it went to rent and living expenses during that time, that equates to less than 10k a year to live off of when my rent was 1050 and went up to 1150 by the time i was unceremoniously and Illegally ejected from my space. not to mention food, bills, transportation, emergency costs, and shit to keep me from blowing my brains out

and yes you smug haughty fucks DO owe my black ass reparations. I'm literally disabled why is it My Fault that your stupid ass toils for a system that doesn't give a fuck about you? meanwhile i literally fed and clothed people that lived on my block and gave them help what the fuck did you do bitch? I'm sorry your life is so small and meaningless that this is your only avenue of snatching power for the day like god !!! I have you that fucking bothered?

and if i made another gfm stupid cunts like you would bitch about me having multiple fundraisers and shit. GET A FUCKING LIFE SINCW YOU ARE SO MUCH BETTER THAN ME??

now fuck off before i throw a bloody fetus at you bitch

[carewyncromwell]

Hi Tory!! My new favorite story of yours is the one with Tristan and Carewyn's encounter and her reuniting with Jacob! I was really touch by how you handled Tristan. He's still young and has his entire future ahead of him. The boy does have some of that toxicity from his father but he deserves much better, to be able to learn and freely discover himself outside the impregnable walls of the Cromwell Manor! I hope Tristan is able to to get his freedom from the wallow and misery he faced during the Second Wizarding War and discover his potential, becoming a productive member of society. Tristan is like that troubled kid who has made mistakes because of his upbringing, but with support and guidance from the right people, he can learn and mature into an even more wonderful individual!

Aw, thanks, Cato! I have actually really grown to like the idea of the Cromwell Clan as a whole improving after the death of Charles, and although I personally don't see Pearl, Claire, or Blaise ever completely reforming themselves, I could see at least a few of Carewyn's cousins being able to break some of those chains of abuse and toxicity -- most notably, as I've also discussed with @dat-silvers-girl, Elmer Yaxley and Tristan Cromwell, who are the youngest of the Cromwell cousins.

I've already touched on this in one of my Carewyn-centric fics, as well as in one of my fics centered on Sirius and my Marauder Era boy Ed Rosier, but Elmer ends up working in the magical music industry before he gets wrapped up with the Death Eaters against his will. After Carewyn is able to help arrange a proper defense for Elmer, he ends up avoiding further time in Azkaban in favor of community service, most of which I see being as a stagehand where he was at before, under the patronage of newly-named music producer Ed Rosier, who was once romantically involved with a reluctant Death Eater himself and so sympathizes with Elmer's position. It's largely due to Ed's mentorship and Elmer's time away from his family and with the diverse people he meets through his community service that Elmer is able to open his eyes a bit and see how much bigger the world outside the Cromwell estate is...and it's through Elmer seeking acceptance from his family after he chooses to stand by his new friends and moral stance that Claire chooses to open up a bit more to change too, all out of devotion and love for her son. Elmer's three sisters I don't see fully letting go of the old Cromwell ways or their dislike of Lane's side of the family, but they would still ultimately support their brother, however much they wouldn't "get" his new lifestyle or embrace it themselves.

In Tristan's case, I think it's more likely that he'll be able to learn the lessons Blaise just can't seem to, when it comes to earning love from the people he's so desperate to have in his life. Tristan knows at least on a subconscious level that love at its heart is sacrifice -- why else would he consistently choose to stay locked in the cage his father's kept him in and not chase his dreams, all just to make sure he doesn't break Blaise's heart and leave Blaise the way Tristan's mother did? Because of this, Tristan could start to see that the "weakness" Blaise ascribes to Carewyn for her selflessness -- a weakness that admittedly makes Blaise desperate to want to "protect" her by keeping her trapped at home like he does Tristan -- is in truth emblematic of unconditional love, like the kind Tristan feels for his father. Carewyn would do anything for her brother, just like Tristan would do anything for his father. This strange similarity makes it so that Tristan tries to engage with Carewyn more, and I think pursuing that better relationship with his cousin and confronting the idea that the way he and Carewyn feel for their family is not a weakness could really help Tristan bloom into a better person. Especially if it resulted in him finally calling his father out for his crap. I could even see Tristan one day using his position as Head of the Clan to rip down the warding enchantments and cursed gate around the Cromwell estate altogether, with the intention of stamping out the last remnants of Charles's twisted legacy.

[smellysul]

Question 1

In our manifesto, our group aimed to ensure that the principles we established were timeless and universal. We based our views on understanding ourselves and the environment we are in. Statements like "You can't create in a vacuum" and "Understanding where you come from gives you perspective" were our attempts to convey this. Personally, the previously mentioned statement resonated with me. I believe that improving my practice involves understanding my biases and shortcomings. This has personally benefited me in my studio work, as I try to understand my partner's perspective on our collaborative projects. Instead of imposing one vision over the other, we have decided to merge our visions together, which has greatly benefited both of us.

On that note, I felt that the statement "understanding the context of other viewpoints as well as my own" could easily be reduced to "understanding someone else's perspective." In other words, I believe that statement is a given. Instead, I would have mentioned "when creating, the audience's perspective comes second." Personally, I believe it's important to understand your own voice before catering too soon to an audience. Yes, listening to feedback is important, but knowing the full picture of your vision is more important than another person's opinion, as they may not see what you see. Hence, the statement.

I think coming up with this manifesto really made me think about what is most important to me. Beyond my understanding of my internal logic, it also made me consider how I would carry myself when forced to make an ethical decision, such as designing for a tobacco company that promotes an unhealthy lifestyle. In such cases, having a personal manifesto or philosophy would greatly help guide my worldview and actions.

One of the works that has resonated with me is the campaign that Kinetic Singapore has done called "Cultura Obsurca: A Spotlight on Singapore's Lesser-Known Tongues, Stories, and Cultures." What makes it stand out to me is their in-depth look into smaller cultures that remain largely unknown. You can say they have their own sub-culture. This aligns with my idea that it is always important to explore the lesser-known aspects of different cultures, which could lead us to amazing breakthroughs.

For me as a designer, I believe this goes beyond design and dives into the realm of actual real-world and tangible effects, whether it be people becoming aware of the cultures being showcased or being moved to support their cause. It also forces me into the position of doing proper research and being open-minded to the experiences of the topic I'm looking into, no matter how morbid, different, or challenging it may be. This mindset can be brought over into my studio work to ensure proper research and respect for the topic we are portraying in our work.

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Treece lost 93 pounds

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Treece lost 93 pounds

Transformation of the Day: Treece lost 93 pounds. This proud mom was motivated to change her life when she began to experience circulation issues, blood clots in her lungs, and other health issues. Gastric sleeve surgery is one of the tools she used to transform her lifestyle.

Social Media: Instagram: @cocoabean_vsg

What was your motivation? My number one motivation for losing weight was and still are my children. My weight slowly began to creep up, and I started to lose feeling in both my feet; my circulation was getting worse in my hands. In 2015, I remember passing out while I was braiding my hair (something I’ve never really had a hard time doing before). 

I had to stay in the hospital for two weeks due to blood clots being found in my lungs and a positive ANA test, which meant my immune system was actively attacking my body. My family was so concerned and afraid for me. I ended up leaving the hospital needing oxygen. My body was completely out of whack, and I was only 35 years old during this time. 

I tried several times to lose weight, but I could never get past 30-40 pounds loss. The auto-immune issue was trying to run my life to where walking was almost unbearable. I finally decided to take advantage of weight loss surgery ( in June 2024) as a tool to assist me in sustaining long-term success and getting the weight off for good. It’s one of the most important decisions I’ve ever made for myself. My auto-immune issues literally went away as the weight came off. 

I had gastric sleeve surgery, and I have no regrets. Some say it’s a shortcut, but I’m telling you that weight loss surgery is literally a tool. If the mind isn’t strong enough to stay on task, the weight will come back! It’s just a tool that aids in helping on your weight loss journey. The weight loss eventually slows down. However, if you stick to your new lifestyle, the surgery won’t stop working as your tool.

How did you change your eating habits? My eating habits have improved tremendously. I eat lean fish and lots of herbs. I love Thai foods loaded with herbs, such as laab and Thai beef salad (My faves. I was born and raised in the Philippines). I also love to eat fruits that contain a lot of water, such as watermelon. 

Of course, I can only hold a little bit of food, which has also caused me to be more aware of ensuring I get enough water daily. I’m always looking for ways to incorporate protein in my beverages to mix things up whenever I’m bored with protein drinks.  

What is your workout routine? I work out 3-4 times a week. I love walking on the treadmill or outside. I do challenges such as Joie’s (JoieNlife) fitness challenges. I also use my redgefit bar at home five times a week, which allows me to work on my flexibility and muscle toning.  

What was your starting weight? What is your current weight? My starting weight was 346 lbs, and my current weight is 253 lbs.  

What is your height? I’m 5 feet, 9 inches tall.

When did your journey begin? I started my journey in March 2022, and I’m still practicing this new way of life. My journey is a lifestyle change that I’m very blessed and thankful to be on. 

I started to notice a change around the holiday season of 2022. My birthday outfit went from being too tight six months prior to being too loose. I was very excited to see my hard work paying off, as it motivated me to keep going.  

What is the biggest lesson you’ve learned so far? The biggest lesson I’ve learned on this journey is to never give up on myself. I would be so hard on myself and so frustrated that my body was so out of wack. No matter what I did, nothing was working long-term.  

What advice would you like to share with women who want to lose weight? As women, we can be our worst critics. We are nurturers, and it’s so easy for us to put ourselves last. I serve my family naturally, and it gives me great joy to see their smiles and to get all the hugs and kisses from my babies. 

I love life and want to see my great-grandchildren. The way my body was operating, it didn’t seem like that would have happened for me, which hurt me. It’s so important we take care of ourselves and stay on top of routine health checks, exams, etc. Small things like this make a world of difference. We can’t neglect ourselves if we are going to be at our best for our families and communities.

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It's easy to feel small and insignificant. I pose questions to myself like why do I recycle or does me being vegan really make an impact? Can one person make a difference? At some point, people along the way inspired me to make more fruitful choices. I bet they asked themselves these same questions. I don't have all the answers, and I can't show proof that what I do is actually helping the animals or the environment. What I do have is a soft spot for innocent life and a determination to promote change in the way people think about the voiceless. I know that over the past 4+ years, my wife, son and myself have had conversations with others about our lifestyle. We even have a worm farm that turns all of our scraps into fertilizer for our garden. These decisions we made are not only self sustaining, but they make me think about other aspects of my life and how I can improve on them. I just want to be better. I want to be a better guest on this planet. I want to be a better sibling to my kin. I want to be a better photographer for my clients. And maybe if I just keep trying to be better, I won't feel so small and insignificant. Maybe I can even inspire someone else to see the bigger picture like someone had shown me. Turn to your partner and ask them if you made a difference in their life. I'm willing to bet that you've made me of an impact than you realize. Swipe for the before image... ◦ ◦ Good Omen Photography ◦ ◦ #weddingphotography #weddingphotographyideas #weddingphotographyinspiration #weddingphotographysociety #wedding #weddinginspiration #weddingday #weddingideas #weddingstyle #weddingblog #marriage #marriagegoals #marriagestory #loveforever #weddinglegends #lovephotography2 #weddingphotographer #chicagobride #chicagowedding #chicagoweddingphotographer #bride #classicwedding #weddingideas #weddingplanning #weddingchicks #couplegoals #weddinginspo #weddingday #weddingtheme #elopementphotographer (at Cantigny Park) https://www.instagram.com/p/CovdeLJv-2Y/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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How many of us are really blessed with sound health? VERY FEW. Today's lifestyle, food habits, stress, and everything do not permit us to take care of our health. It is a crazy race. All of us are occupied with our work and we depend more and more on junk food and drinks. The result? A damaged and often irreparable liver condition. Now, how to stop liver damage or protect our health? It is said that every year about 2 million people in the world die due to liver disorders, and the scariest part is the number is increasing rapidly. A healthy liver is the key to a healthy life. So it becomes imperative that we take care of the liver, even if we are busy with our schedules. But it becomes very difficult for most of us as a result of which we become dependent on liver health supplements. In fact, in recognition of this very need, the market today is flooded with supplements. It is again very essential that you go through the contents, features, benefits, and side effects of these supplements before starting to use them. One such product, Reliver Pro has won accolades in this niche and looks very promising. Let’s find out more. What is Reliver Pro and how it works Reliver Pro is a liver enhancement supplement that is made of ingredients that help in maintaining the good health of the liver. What I liked the most about the product is that it also helps in weight reduction which is not the case with the other products available on the market. It has been created by well-known scientists and medical professionals after much research. The product has been approved by FDA keeping GMP guidelines as focal points. Reliver Pro does not have any GMO components or stimulants. The product is made of natural resources, and even vegans can consume the product regularly for their benefit. Even if one does not suffer from any liver disease, he can take it comfortably without any side effects. It has been proved time and again that lack of proper nutrition, accumulation of toxins in the liver due to reasons such as alcohol or drugs, and other health issues cause liver damage. By taking care of all these things, one can certainly avoid any damage to the liver. Signs Your Liver Is In Trouble (See The Symptoms) The product is blended with all-natural ingredients in perfect measurements that have been scientifically tested and approved to make the product effective and beneficial. Here’s a list: Chanca Piedra – a natural herb that optimizes liver condition. It is a natural solution to chronic liver diseases because of its antioxidant properties to stop any cellular damage in the liver. Yarrow – an element found in all ingredients that help digestion. It helps in balancing the microbiome in the digestive tract by balancing the bile production in the body. It also contains anti-inflammatory properties. Jujube Seed – is one of the best ingredients for liver betterment. Even a chronic liver condition can be cured when you regularly take jujube seeds. N-Acetyl-L-Cysteine – reduces the toxic effects of the artificial chemicals and preservatives found in your food. It improves the blood supply to your liver and thus controls the impact of toxins on your liver. Dandelion root – helps in reversing the fatty liver condition, reducing the cholesterol level in the blood, and helps in cardiac health too. Artichoke leaves – reduce the risk of liver damage. It can also balance the body mass index. Non-alcoholic fatty liver disease is mostly cured by this. Beetroot extracts – cures all sorts of inflammatory issues and detoxifies. Celery – a very active ingredient to improve the production of enzymes, reduce fat, and protect the liver. Reliver Pro has a combination of ingredients that help in getting rid of chronic liver problems without any side effects. Production of digestive enzymes in the digestive tract increases, thus keeping your digestive disorders away. It helps in losing weight also and increases metabolic rate.

All that you need is to take one capsule a day to optimize your liver function, burn fat, and reduce weight. The product comes to you with two bonuses: The Liver Detox Bible: It is an eBook that explains all-natural strategies, diet tips, and lifestyle practices to help in detoxifying your liver. It shows by changing a few lifestyle factors how your liver health can improve dramatically. Anti-Aging Cookbook: This book contains recipes that can be cooked with the help of ordinary ingredients to improve the anti-aging effects. These recipes can help you look younger as they have been tested and tried. You get step-by-step instructions, a list of ingredients, and details about each recipe. Pros It contains no artificial ingredients or preservatives, and so it causes no side effects. The product has been tested by many labs. It comes at a very reasonable price. It helps in restoring optimal liver function. The product supports improving your brain power too. Any stubborn belly fat is removed. It is very easy to consume – just once a day. The product comes to you with a 60-day money-back guarantee if you are not satisfied with the product. Cons An overdose of the supplement or in some cases, just an intolerance to it may cause dizziness, weakness or bloated feeling temporarily, in which case you have to stop taking it. Final Verdict Everybody wants a healthy body and happy living. Reliver Pro has been proven to help one achieve that. When compared to the other products available in the market, this product is fully made of natural ingredients to prevent any side effects when you use it. From the reviews of those who have benefited from this product, it can be said to be one of the best choices available in the market right now. Since you can try it irrespective of your age, try it to rid yourself of your liver problems if you have any or have your liver protected from any complications. You need not feel it is a strenuous task to reduce weight and stay healthy. With just a few measures, you can see awesome results, and you will be amazed to find how healthy you feel, physically and mentally. With such an easy refund option, and great health benefits, why not give it a fair try? I would certainly give this product a 5-star rating based on the information provided on the website.

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Relationship Advice for Men: 7 Things That Make Her Fall in Love With You Every Day

I've made masses of errors with chat sex girls over time. Even now, when you'd assume I'd found out my lesson, my beautiful spouse still continues me on my toes.

Other relationships haven't lasted or gone so well (knocks on wooden).

Looking returned now it's painful to keep in mind a number of the matters I did…. And what could have been if I had higher guidance along the manner.

Thing is, us men are not constantly the fastest research in terms of relationships. Sure we experience the chase. But the relationship component, and women in standard, on occasion seems like a maze of contradiction and confusion.

But worry no longer. I am here to offer you the blended information of my… Ahem… Years of enjoy and additionally a few matters I picked up by means of studying an entire library of books on psychology, relationships and girls.

So here it is:

7 matters you may do to make your girl fall in love with you each day (in no specific order)

1 Confidence. You've heard it before, and you may pay attention it once more. If want to be appealing to girls in popular, and your woman specifically. You need to have confidence in your self.

Now self assurance is not some thing you can fake (although many try) within the long time. Sure, if you're unmarried and courting, you could fool a girl for an evening. But after you're in a courting you cannot hide the fact.

That's the terrible news.

The proper information is that you may build self assurance. And you have to try this every day of your lifestyles.

So the question then is how do you try this? And the solution is simple. Work at improving your self normal of your life. Improve your abilties in a few area of your lifestyles (it might be your job or profession, or a interest) being absolutely extremely good at something, some thing is the seed of true and lasting self-confidence.

And I'll allow you to in on a touch secret. All the ones things that make you less assured. Maybe you're a little obese, balding, perhaps you're shy…. Well all of these so-known as 'handicaps' really come up with a massive benefit in attracting girls (and your lady) to you.

You see, if can broaden self belief notwithstanding the ones 'handicaps' then it is even extra awesome to girls than the handsome Adonis who's confident. Because there should be something certainly special approximately you in case you are assured in spite of these matters.

2 Chivalry isn't useless. It's simply been forgotten by means of a long list of guys. This makes it all the greater endearing while you are the only who is chivalrous. But there's a secret to it that lots of fellows leave out.

You see, most guys will open doorways, pull out chairs, and offer help to women who they are attempting to electrify. This is first-rate, however the motive is obvious to girls and that they think you are trying to impress them.

The key's to now not do it to affect, however because you believe you studied it is the proper element to do. Meaning which you do these items for all girls. Not simply your female friend, spouse, or date. Especially endearing is while you are courteous to older women.

3 The fastest manner to kill love in a relationship is to criticize your companion. Complain about them. And typically nag.

I like to consider relationships as a bank account. Doing properly things (which includes the chivalry referred to above) puts price range into that account. It builds up.

Being complimentary. Impressing her along with your confidence. All those build up the account.

But each criticism. Every sarcastic remark or grievance is sort of a withdrawal. And in case you make it a dependancy, finally that courting financial institution will run dry and you will wonder what went wrong.

99% of the time, in case you take a step again, criticism is not often called for. And despite the fact that it's miles, is by no means the first-rate way to trade conduct.

Numerous clinical studies were made that display high-quality reinforcement isn't only greater effective, it's far the handiest manner to trade behavior with out making the alternative man or woman experience negatively toward you or approximately themselves.

So if you want to build up that account. Appreciate her. Don't criticize, condemn or complain.

four Cindy Lauper became 100% right. All ladies do just want to have a laugh. And if your relationship is becoming a massive bore-fest, it is as much as you, not her to make it amusing.

Remember, ladies need to stay inside the world you offer for them. They don't need to be liable for your happiness.

So loosen up. Live a little. Don't take lifestyles so critically that you can not snigger at yourself or get a touch goofy once in a while.

It's all too easy for us to get complacent. But don't forget back to the ones first dates. I'm inclined to be there was tons more laughter again then. Bring it back, and you may not be disenchanted.

five Show some hobby in her.

What do you believe you studied is the most important complaint that ladies have approximately guys?

Guess.

If you said, "they don't concentrate" then pat yourself at the back. Because you're dead on.

Look. You do not want (or want) to become her new BFF and chat for hours about the modern-day gossip at the block. But if you're like maximum men you could do with a little coaching on a way to pay attention well.

Want to know the secret? Ask honest questions. Then shut up and concentrate.

You definitely do not need to say plenty. It's the displaying an hobby inside the first region that counts.

And do not forget, ladies talk in a code that's pretty overseas to most men. They speak almost entirely with their feelings, no longer common sense. I'll move into this topic greater in any other article. But for now, recollect this. If she is telling you about a problem she has, it isn't, I repeat, isn't always an invitation with the intention to resolve it.

6 Don't stop being the 'capture'

The dream of each woman is to someday hook and reel in a high-quality man. A guy that if he desired should have his pick of any female. (Hint: A definitely assured Man).

When you first got collectively, if you're like most guys, you were in the direction of this perfect than you're now. Fact is, relationships make us lazy. Soft.

This doesn't imply which you ought to go round overtly flirting with other women. What it does mean is that you ought to by no means prevent being the Man that she will be able to love.

Essentially, you do not start performing determined, needy. And you do not start placing her above the whole thing else for your lifestyles. Keep your desires alive. And be inclined to walk away if important (that is key).

7 Romance. I once study (and I consider this to be true) that to be able to revel in a honestly satisfying sexual existence, a female desires romance first. Whereas, to revel in a feel of romance, a man must have a satisfying sexual lifestyles.

Which is where a lot of the battle in relationships come from.

The lady desires romance before she'll have intercourse.

And the man wishes intercourse earlier than he will get romantic.

They are both standing in front of the proverbial range and telling it to "supply me some warmth, and then I'll come up with a few wood".

How do you get around this? Easy. Now that you recognize, you just need to introduce a little romance returned into your lifestyles.

But how do we do this? I'll allow you to figure chat sex that tons out for your self. But I'll give you a hint: simply have fun with it!

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My Fitness Pal (Foe)

For homework one I decided that the behavior that I was going to monitor was the number of calories that I intake in a day. I decided on tracking this behavior because I wanted to get back on track, creating a healthy lifestyle again. In the past I have tried to monitor this behavior and did not do really well at it for many reasons. One of the reasons why I struggled to track my caloric intake was because I was so young. At the time I believe I was around the age of sixteen. At this time, I was of course still living at home as I was a high schooler, so my mom was still preparing meals for me. Since my mom was the one in charge of everything I was eating, I had no idea what ingredients she was putting inside of the food. Because of this, I was not correctly counting the number of calories I was eating for each meal. 

This time around, now older, I wanted to make sure that I was going into this behavior monitoring more informed than before. In order to start monitoring this behavior I had to set some goals and take the steps to help monitor and change my behavior. My first goal was to get acquainted with nutrition labels, the app, and to better understand my day-to-day calorie needs. Exercise has been an important part of my personal health journey in the past, and I have made the mistake before thinking that I could just exercise without having to eat healthy. When I had this mindset, I was not seeing any good changes or improvement because you can't pay attention to one without the other. Now getting the chance to do this assignment I am able to look back at these two things over again and reevaluate how to go about making a healthy change. Thinking back on my past experience, I realized that I was not understanding nutrition labels on food which was another mistake that I was making. In order to make sure that I’m eating healthy or living a healthy lifestyle, it is a must to understand what I’m putting inside of my body. Since having this failed experience under my belt, I feel like I was able to think about all areas needed to successfully change this behavior and monitor my caloric intake. 

Since the number of times that I exercise has changed from in the past I realized that I now need to pay more attention to how many calories I'm taking in in a day. Now, I only workout three times a week so I wanted to understand my caloric needs as that amount I intake varies each day. In order to get a handle on this I decided that I was going to use an application to monitor my caloric intake behavior because I wanted to be able to estimate my daily needs and see how close my food intake is to this number to find the perfect balance between not enough food and too much food. 

The application that I decided to use for this assignment was MyFitnessPal. My fitness pal is a “smartphone application and website that allows users to track calories, monitor progress towards weight management goals, and gain support from an online community. The app uses gamification elements to encourage adherence to exercise and diet goals. To track nutrients, users can either scan the barcodes of various food items or manually find them in the apps large pre-existing database” (MyFitnessPal). Pictures of the application and its features are below.

My goal for this assignment was to track my calories everyday breakfast, lunch, dinner, and snacks. Nice thing about my fitness pal is that it allowed me to track each of these meals and even water intake if I wanted. The easily usable interface was what drew me to this app initially. Also, the pre-existing database of almost every food on the planet and the barcode scanner made it easy for me to input everything I ate. In the beginning, I was doing well, tracking my calories every day, but then as time went on, I started to do it less and less. And eventually, I fell back into my bad food eating habits. Why I do acknowledge the failure on my part and take full responsibility for not staying consistent to reaching my goals, I do feel like if the application was designed better, it would’ve helped me during this process of change. 

The design of this application was very plain. The home screen of this application which is called the “Dashboard” doesn’t appear to be interactive at all. Also on this dashboard, the design is a white screen with a little bit of color at the bottom. This design decision did not make me want to interact with this application because it was not appealing to eye. I feel like if this application was made to have more color or look a lot more fun, I would have used it a lot more. Another thing that I found to be very annoying with this application were the steps to put in specific items and place them to the meal categories. There were many times when I would not start tracking my food in the app until the end of the day. When I decided to track my food like this, I found many issues with this application. For example, when I would start off with tracking my breakfast and I was ready to move on to inputting my next meal of the day, which was lunch, The immediate next item that I scanned or typed in would automatically be put into the breakfast category.  When this first started to happen, I would go back and fix the mistake but after a while once this continued to occur, I left it alone. Having to go back and input items into the correct meal category all over again started to become a hassle. This is when I started to notice myself using MyFitnessPal less. 

This carried me into the next issue with this application that I had which were the notifications. When you do not input a meal on my fitness pal you will get a notification telling you to log your food now. Because of the issue that I just mentioned, there would be times where I would actually log a meal but because of the category issue I was getting notifications telling me to log a meal that I already had. Instead of these notifications being in place to help me as a user, they became more of an annoyance. At first, I would just ignore the notifications but after a while I decided to completely turn the notifications off.  This led to me not use the application at all which then influenced me stop monitoring my behavior, counting my calorie intake.

I was really excited to use MyFitnessPal and was ready to see it would help me change my behavior. Being that this did not go as planned for me, I do feel like I failed taking the steps to live a healthy lifestyle by watching what I do or don’t put into my body. During this process I did have the chance to review other applications that I could’ve used to track my calories for the assignment. The application that I reviewed was called Lifesum: Healthy Eating. I feel that I would’ve liked this application better because the design was a lot better, it was personalized, and appealing to the eye. The application was filled with a bunch of color unlike MyFitnessPal. The colors selected for the app also went along with the purpose of the application. The designers went with different shades of green and red to follow the theme of “health.” Though a simple thing, this design decision made all the difference for me in the little amount of time I did spend with the application. But who is to say? Would this have made things different if used long term? Did I not go through with this because I was in the beginning stages of the transtheoretical model? I do not know for sure. All that I know is that my experience did not match the initial expectations that I had. I was expecting to do well at tracking my behavior this time around and stick with it. 

Reflecting on my experience, I think If I ever try to do this process over again, I will use a different calorie tracking app that is designed better for a user like me. Besides the applications faults in this process, I also think I need to better prepare myself for any kind of health behavior change in the future. For this assignment there was not much time between knowing about the task and the official day to start the behavior tracking. For such changes like this one, a reasonable amount of time is needed ahead of time to be successful. Even though I was not successful this time, I am still happy that I had this experience because I was able to learn about what works and what doesn’t work for me in health tracking.

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User tesing 

IDEO p.39

Interview

There’s no better way to understand the hopes, desires, and aspirations of those you’re designing for than by talking with them directly.

Interviews really are the crux of the Inspiration phase. Human-centered design is about getting to the people you’re designing for and hearing from them in their own words. Interviews can be a bit daunting, but by following these steps below you’ll unlock all kinds of insights and understanding that you’ll never get sitting behind your desk. Whenever possible, conduct your Interviews in the person’s space. You can learn so much about a person’s mindset, behavior, and lifestyle by talking with them where they live or work.

No more than three research team members should attend anysingle Interview so as to not overwhelm the participant or crowd the location. Each team member should have a clear role (i.e. interviewer, note-taker, photographer).

02 Come prepared with a set of questions you’d like to ask. Startby asking broad questions about the person’s life, values, and habits, before asking more specific questions that relate directly toyour challenge.

03 Make sure to write down exactly what the person says, not what you think they might mean. This process is premised on hearing exactly what people are saying. If you’re relying on a translator, make sure he or she understands that you want direct quotes, not the gist of what the person says.

04 What you hear is only one data point. Be sure to observe the person’s body language and surroundings and see what you can learn fromthe context in which you’re talking. Take pictures, provided you get permission first.

IDEO p.126

You’ve learned and built. Now share what you’ve made with the people you’re designing for and see what they think.

Soliciting feedback on your ideas and prototypes is a core element of the Ideation phase, and it helps keep the people you’re designing for at the center of your project. It’s also a direct path to designing something that those same people will adopt. If the point of a prototype is to test an idea, then collecting feedback from potential users is what pushes things forward.

Now that you’ve got a prototype to share, get it in front of the people you’re designing for. There are lots of ways to do it: Reconvene a Group Interview (p. 42), intercept people in markets for Interviews (p. 39), do another Expert Interview (p. 43) with your prototype, or perhaps run a Co-Creation Session (p. 109) designed to elicit feedback.

02 Capturing honest feedback is crucial. People may praise your prototype to be nice, so assure them that this is only a tool by which to learn and that you welcome honest, even negative feedback.

03 Share with lots of people so that you get a variety of reactions. Refer back to Extremes and Mainstreams (p. 49) to make sure you’re capturing a cross-section of potential users.

04 Write down the feedback you hear and use this opportunity with the people you’re designing for to ask more questions and push your ideas further.

Double Diamond (Step.3 Develop)

Scenarios

What is it?

Detailed accounts of situations in which your users will interact with your product, service or environment over a period of time.

What is it useful for?

Gaining an understanding of the context in which users may be interacting with your product, service or environment in order to refine it. It’s particularly useful when a series of interactions are necessary from the user.

How can I do it?

Define a set of characters who will use what you are designing. Consider the details of their lives – their jobs, their regular activities and their attitudes. Identify key moments where these users interact with your project, then realise them as scenes in a short text or a storyboard.

Test the scenario on users or yourself. Use what you learn to improve the design further.

To investigate the full scope of user interactions, you may need to construct three or four scenarios around the needs of a different character and improve them with each iteration.

Role-playing

What is it?

Role-playing means physically acting out what happens when users interact with products, services or environments.

What is it useful for?

Taking the role of the user and acting out their interactions can prompt more intuitive responses and help you to refine your design. Role-playing is particularly useful for prototyping interactions between people, for example in a service context.

How can I do it?

Define a character or characters who will use or deliver the end product, service or environment you are designing. Isolate key moments where these users interact with it, and then act them out – with or without props.

Use your intuitive responses prompted by the enactment of the scenario to refine your design. You can also use role-play as a method to test physical prototypes.

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