#makingbetterchoices

[vjonathanalonso]

Chicken thighs with green beans and cauliflower rice#keto#ketomealprep #ketoresults #ketoweightloss #ketofood

#losingweightishard #ketosalad #makingbetterchoices #myketolife #changinghabits #mealprepmadeeasy #habitsofhealth #weightlossjourney2019 #becomingabetterme #shouldersworkout #ketobabe #ketogoals #ketocanada #hamstringworkout

[insight-inspire]

Personal post!

Was going to eat something unhealthy and then looked down at my flat stomach and thought again. #makingbetterchoicesonedayatatime 👍🏻

[disenoswag]

Choices in life. Choose wisely #choices #choose #healthychoices #fitchoices #betterchoices #lifechoices #healthchoices #healtychoices #choiceschoices #healthychoicesmatter #lifestylechoices #smartchoices #consciouschoices #choicesmatter #makehealthychoices #goodchoices #mychoices #badchoices #rightchoices #makingbetterchoices #positivechoices #yourchoices #deadlychoices #ethicalchoices #hardchoices (at Diseno Vinyls) https://www.instagram.com/p/B4e2mH0BlDy/?igshid=1383s75eqqvdb

[yenglainiam-blog]

How does DOUBT control us?

Hello, welcome to my tumblr page. I'm new here and to be quite honest, I am new to blogging so I have no idea where to start or really how to begin. I just know that I woke up this morning feeling like I had to write or insert some feelings into a blank piece, whether it be on paper or on my computer.

So today's topic is something that I've been contemplating on for quite some time. "SELF DOUBT". My only problem was, I never accepted that it was more of an issue/habit that I've had for so long. So to begin with this topic... I guess I should explain a little bit of where I come from.

My name is Amy, and I am a single mother of a little girl (6), divorced for 4 years now, but happily engaged with my next partner, John. He has two children of his own. I met him shortly after my divorce. Together, we are a blended family. John and I both come from a life where we had to endure a lot of trauma. John's ACE score happens to be a 9 out of 10. My ACE score is a 6 out of 10. And if you don't know what the ACE score is, it stands for Adverse Child Experiences. Once you take the test, it helps you understand how your experiences from childhood could effect your life as an adult. Below you can find the link for this test:

https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2015/03/02/387007941/take-the-ace-quiz-and-learn-what-it-does-and-doesnt-mean

Rewinding back a bit more.... besides my trauma, I also had a family that was unsupportive. I have a pretty large family. 3 sisters, 2 brothers, and a mom and dad. I've felt the strain that I was a complete failure and maybe even the BLACK SHEEP of my family for awhile. I fought so many times to get the validation I needed from my mother and father. However; they didn't ever fully support me, or at least how I needed them to. Sure, they provided the necessities that I needed in life like a home to live in, car to drive in, meals and so on. But I never felt like there was much encouragement, emotional support, let alone love. There was never any hugs (unless I reached for it, but it became a pat instead of a full hard on hug), not much of any I love you's, or anything along those lines. Just a lot of��"expectations" basically. I was always told that I was wrong or doing things the wrong way. Always told I would never be able to do things like my siblings have been able to. I constantly felt tugged and pulled and never felt like I was ENOUGH. They made me feel like it was my fault, and for so long I blamed myself. I stopped having confidence in me (sad, balling my eyes out at this point). I felt knocked down so many times by my family, I actually stopped counting and started to rebel. I started to have bad relationships with men, chose bad activities to do, fell into drugs, and of course by the time I turned 18, my parents and I got into a huge fight. I packed up and left and shortly after that I was forced (culturally) to marry my ex-husband. After marrying him, I moved to CA and was very depressed and sad. I gained A LOT of weight and continued to suffer mentally and physically.

Fast forward to now... On Monday night, John and I, we didn't argue but it was more of a sense that we both needed space. Maybe myself more than him. We ended up sleeping in different rooms. The next day, I said some words via text to him without even knowing I had hurt him. My words were asking him to see if he really wanted to be with me and that maybe we need to be alone. That night after our kids went to bed, we talked. He told me that he was very hurt and not happy that I doubt our relationship every time we get sad or upset. He said to me, "if you had a partner who doubted your relationship all the time, how would you feel?" He said, every time we fought, I always threw in the white towel and was ready to walk out (this was true). I, of course, right there and then realized that I was causing pain and mischief to our relationship. Obviously, I would not like a partner to doubt me. I've been doubted all my life by people I thought loved me. (sad) He continued on talking to me but I had already shut down. Buried under my large blanket, I was ready to close my eyes, sob until I fell into a deep sleep. I didn't. I remained in one piece and laid there silently. I thought John was going to leave me again and sleep out in the living room, but he did not. Instead, he came to lay next to me and held me close.

So..... what have I learned out of this you may ask? As much as I hate to admit it.... doubt gives power to negative thinking. Once you start to doubt something, your mind will spiral and continue to feed into that doubt. I doubted a lot and didn't realize this was becoming a habit. Not until last night when my partner mentioned it to me. It felt like I was smashed right into a huge brick wall. It really hurt. But it was a good causing pain. Because it taught me that for once, I have found someone who TRULY loves me inside and out, up and down, and all around. Someone who emotionally supports me, talks to me, holds me close and loves me unconditionally. I DID NOT WANT TO LOSE THIS. I knew it and I knew waking up this morning I needed to start fixing the little girl who's been in pain for so long.

To anyone who is struggling with a sense of failure to life, anyone who doubts everything that seems scary or unforeseen, just remember and keep this one thing in mind, DOUBTING is not a safe option for you! I thought it made me feel safe, but really it is inhibiting my personal growth as an individual and growth in my relationship with my spouse/children.

I read an article on how to overcome my habits with doubting situations, I'd like to share these simple strategies with you in hopes it can help you also!

Simple Life Strategies: 5 Ways to Crush Doubt

1. Awareness. The first step is to make a decision today to become more aware of when those doubts are popping up.

2. Interrupt the doubt. Next time you catch yourself doubting your own abilities, interrupt your own thought process and acknowledge the doubt (you could say to yourself – “is that a doubtful thought I’m having there?”)

3. Question the validity of the thought. Ask yourself “Is that thought a fact? Or is it unfounded?”

4. Are you looking for safety? Check in to see if the thought is leading you to take the ‘safe option’ or does it inspire you to try something new?

5. Take control. Remind yourself that we have over 70,000 thoughts every single day – and that it’s your choice today if you listen to this doubtful thought or not.

Last but not least.....

I honestly said to myself when I was younger that I am not going to be the kind of parents my parents were. I was going to be someone I needed when I was younger. So today........ I'm throwing that word "DOUBT" out the window. I want nothing to do with it anymore.

Thank you for reading my blog.. comments any or all are ok.

Sincerely,

Broken hearted woman.

[languageyeti1985]

How Star Wars Can Help You Develop Your Critical Thinking Skills and Make Better Life Choices...

What ethical dilemmas do the Jedi and Sith face in Star Wars, and how can we apply these themes to our lives?

How do the characters of Han Solo and Princess Leia demonstrate the qualities of heroism, and how can we emulate these traits in our lives?

How do the redemptive arcs of characters like Anakin Skywalker and Kylo Ren teach us about the power of forgiveness and the possibility of change in our lives?

In what ways can we use Star Wars as a tool for critical thinking and ethical discussions relevant to our daily lives?

How can we apply the themes of balance between good and evil, heroism, and redemption in our decision-making process and in making better life choices?

Star Wars is a franchise that has captured the hearts of people of all ages and backgrounds worldwide. Star Wars has something for everyone, from the iconic characters and thrilling action sequences to the deeper themes of morality and redemption. The franchise offers a unique opportunity for people to engage in critical thinking and ethical discussions that are applicable to everyone, regardless of their language background.

One of the central ethical dilemmas in the Star Wars saga is the balance between good and evil. The struggle between the Jedi and the Sith reflects the ongoing battle between right and wrong that we all face daily. By analysing the choices made by characters like Luke Skywalker and Darth Vader, we can explore the nature of morality and the complexities of our decisions. That can be a valuable exercise for everyone as we grapple with our ethical dilemmas and strive to make the right choices.

Another important theme in Star Wars is the nature of heroism. Characters like Han Solo and Princess Leia demonstrate bravery, selflessness, and resilience in the face of danger, inspiring us to be our best selves. By examining these qualities and discussing how they can be applied in our lives, we can develop a deeper understanding of what it means to be a hero and how we can positively impact the world.

Finally, the concept of redemption is a powerful one that resonates with everyone. The idea that even those who have committed terrible acts can be redeemed and find a path to righteousness is a hopeful message that can inspire us all. By exploring the redemptive arcs of characters like Anakin Skywalker and Kylo Ren, we can examine the power of forgiveness and the possibility of change in our lives.

All in all, Star Wars is more than just a sci-fi adventure saga. It is a valuable tool for everyone to engage in critical thinking and ethical discussions relevant to our daily lives. By examining the balance between good and evil, the nature of heroism, and the power of redemption, we can better understand ourselves and the world around us.

Do or do not- there is not try...

[themompreneur2013]

I'm trying to get back in my workout groove, I'm starting by walking in the mornings. #walking #moreexercise #fit #morningwalk #getmybodymoving #fitover40 #fitover30 #momfitness #fitmom #makingbetterchoices #movemore https://www.instagram.com/p/CpTBebWpQN1/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[tinabubbiebella]

☮️💟🕉☯️ My #Nurse today noticed my weight-loss & it made me feel kinda proud of myself lolz. Thx Fe. 💕 #InfusionTreatment #RheumatoidArthritis #ChronicPain #Fibromyalgia #AndYetISmile #Kaiser #Gratitude #Kindness #Motivation #GottaKeepGoing #MakingBetterChoices (at Kaiser Permanente of Modesto) https://www.instagram.com/p/CjrrByIOwSDUZHAtybOLfYp8x1uN_GY-4HzRkA0/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[beautiful-inspire]

Choice💛 Chance💛 Change #motivationalquotesdaily #quotesdaily #quotesoflife #quotestagram #quotesforlife #healthchoices #motivationalpost #motivationalmessage #quotesandsayings #motivationalmindset #quotes4you #badchoices #motivationalblogger #motivationalquotesempire #makingbetterchoices #makehealthychoices #mychoices #motivationalquotesandsayings #motivationallines #motivationalfriday #motivationalreels #goodchoices #motivationalposts #motivationalthoughts #quoteslife #motivationalquoteoftheday #quotestoinspire #quotesgram #quotesindonesia #businesstips https://www.instagram.com/insp.ire86/p/CZRBI9sg0l1/?utm_medium=tumblr

[elid314]

#makingbetterchoices #trustingwhenyoudontunderstand #childofGod #christian #hittingthemark (at Door Church) https://www.instagram.com/p/CWR7fFzpauO/?utm_medium=tumblr

[dietmumrepeat]

The gift that keeps on giving... 🧺 @rosiemadeathing 𝗗𝗶𝗲𝘁 | 𝗠𝘂𝗺 | 𝗥𝗲𝗽𝗲𝗮𝘁 #One2OneDiet #one2onedietwithamyandsteve #one2onesupport #nsv #one2onesupport #weightlosssupport #getthosestepsin #thisworks #thisistheone #realresults #weightlossmotivation #slaytheweigh #betterhealth #healthgoals #healthylifestyle #makingbetterchoices #one2onedietbycambridgeweightplan #one2onebycwp #kentweightloss #coveringeastsussexandkent #supportingukwide #weightlossplans (at The 1:1 Diet with Amy and Steve) https://www.instagram.com/p/CVqf4a0r82P/?utm_medium=tumblr

[vjonathanalonso]

KeTo changed his life

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Follow @harborcityhobo

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Credit: @roxannehillary

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#walkingforweightloss #loseweightforgood #makingbetterchoices #1200caloriediet #habitsofhealth #21dayfixrealtime #ketobbq #iifymweightloss #ketonz #ketofatloss #ketolicious #ketoideas #onemealaday #morningworkouts #ketoeating #simpleketo #shouldersworkout #nonscalevictories #sundaymealprep

[mstoyourjoy]

Part of my #myselfcare is eating healthier so I've grown accustomed to hearing "You eat weird." Ok👌and #thatsmybusiness but seriously, I'm #makingbetterchoices #healthierchoices that suit my lifestyle. 😋 Try it you might like it too.💞 (at Abilene, Texas) https://www.instagram.com/p/CIgfI8lL1qh/?igshid=gluqi2plsnxl

[acs-facilities]

[squallymuffin]

At the end of the day, I want to be the best version of me: mentally, physically, and emotionally. I’ve been really getting out of my comfort zone to accomplish these goals. Today I am sharing my second blog post in what will be a 4- part series about the changes I’ve made because of @joelmarion’s book, Always Eat After 7PM. The link to my 2nd blog post is in my bio, but don’t worry, if you missed the first, there are links to in today’s post. 😉 Just in case you want to start from the beginning. What are you doing to make the changes in your life that you want to see? #alwayseatafter7pm #joelmarion #revolutionary #tryingsomethingnew #tryingsomethingdifferent #getoutofyourcomfortzone #getoutofyourownway #aintnothingtoitbuttodoit #becomingabetterme #dosomethingdifferent #mythbusters #continuousimprovement #evolving #makingbetterchoices #bookrecommendations #readabook #pickupabook #readingisfundamental #beopenminded #readytolearn #momsofinstagram #bloggermom #readmyblog #linkinmybio #squallymuffin #honestreview #weightlossdiet #healthierchoices #happierandhealthier #blackbloggers (at BetterChoices) https://www.instagram.com/p/CBLcM2uFHbk/?igshid=rtm5vlkddzrh

[dashablessed]

Shopping for less sweets and more fruits... #healthierliving #groceryshopping #makingbetterchoices #stayinghealthy (at Kroger) https://www.instagram.com/p/B_uxymuluQ6/?igshid=1ooqr8mlpqkuh

[evlaluzeligarcia]

Vegan Tacos. I’ve been eating like crap, kinda. I really don’t like feeling guilty after I eat. So, today I decided to take control over what I ate. Not only am I satisfied but I feel great! These were simple and quick homemade black beans(mashed), I sautéed meatless meatballs (from aldi) with garlic, adobo and some diced mushrooms, lettuce, aguacate and fresh salsa. #vegantacos #frijolesnegros #flexitarian #healthyeats #quarentineeats #chicagoquarentine2020 #evtrys #saturdayvibes #satisfied #makingbetterchoices #plantbased #plantbasedeating https://www.instagram.com/p/B-3HpJthgyO/?igshid=yzbrykwizyp3