#ofos stud

[star-princess-princess]

one of my favorite things about being a black femme married to a stud is how much my femininity is both understood and appreciated, I’m not sure how I can explain how much my stud understands my femininity and the complications that come from being black alongside, dealing with being pretty, and what that means in a world where the standards of prettiness don’t apply to me. There’s something really special about one person embracing masculinity in a positive light despite how much the masculinization of black women has been a part of how we’ve been demonized and someone persuing hyperfemininity partially as a rebellion from the same view while both of you also identify as nonbinary in a way (non binary femme using she/they x genderfluid transmasc stud using all pronouns)

[bambi-in-headlights]

Found a butch/femme lesbian couple in my Christmas decor 🤭

[milkandhoneyfemme]

Consider for me. They pull out your chair. They pour your wine. They open the doors for you.

Every action of theirs, chivalrous and respectful, in the hopes that you’ll have them biting your pillow and inhaling your perfume while you give them the best strap of your life.

[stonebutchwritings]

"it's a bad look for a butch to tell femmes not to infantilize themselves" have you considered the infantilization of femmes directly contributes to and fuels the demonization, dehumanization, and sexualization of butches/studs? and to further claim that to infantilize yourself is to be hyperfeminine or ofos? unbelievable.

femmes abuse butches/studs. femmes cause interpersonal harm in their communities. femmes enforce harmful institutions. this is especially common among white, cis, gender-conforming, abled, and skinny femmes. asking femmes to consider themselves as full human beings shouldn’t be a big ask. and when you take into account how butches/studs are constantly being treated and the subsequent disbelief that a butch/stud could ever be hurt by such a sweet feminine person, how dare you even suggest that it's somehow "policing" or "invalidating" for a butch/stud to defend themselves against rhetoric that actively harms them?

butches/studs and gnc femmes are not oppressing you by asking you to consider how your gender-conformity, strict american housewife femininity, and rampant infantilization impact others and yourself.

if you can’t consider the fact that you can be causing harm or even be critical of yourself, you have no vested interest in community and should not call yourself a femme. the end.

[my-strange-attraction]

i think you might be stupid as hell because that last bit on your posts about studs is what lesbians have been saying about our label for fucking ever when it comes to your demand for the inclusion of men (you KNOW i am not talking about trans women. i’m talking about cis and trans men.) I can feel your cognitive dissonance and it is amazing.

also butch/femme are lesbian exclusive identities because they only make sense in lesbian context (subversion of gender roles, presentation, OFOS, ect ect). same goes for stud. literally you do not know what you’re talking about. PLEASE do actual research when it comes to these labels before talking about them and not a quick look at a fandom wiki.

Ok see the other reason I was hesitant to post my response to that ask was because I KNEW this would be the response from those of you who are still lurking from that drama.

The WHOLE POINT of my response was that race matters are different than other queer matters. They just are. It’s not cognitive dissonance, it’s just the truth, but you want so badly for me to contradict myself that you would pretend otherwise until your dying breath.

Also I’ve never been involved in discussions about the stud label, but I have been in discussions about the others. I downplayed it because it hasn’t been my FOCUS because up until recently I was too nervous to explore them because I didn’t identify as lesbian yet, and I didn’t realize what I know now, which is that, though they originated in the lesbian community, they can describe all sapphic people (this includes bisexuals and others who are not solely attracted to women!).

You said they only make sense in lesbian context but you really didn’t explain yourself there so I don’t even know how to refute it. I think it makes sense in any sapphic context, personally, and a lot of my queer (AND LESBIAN) friends agree. I’m tired of bending over backwards to over explain myself to you people so I’m just not going to do it.

I’m going to say it one last time, even if it will still probably fall to deaf ears: other lesbians saying they can be/have been attracted to men does not “demand,” in your words, the lesbian label to include men. It just does for them, because sexuality is weird and people are different, and there can be a variety of different reasons why someone feels most comfortable using a label.

I use the label personally because even though I can sometimes (??? still figuring it out) be attracted to men, I am not interested in dating any. It’s more functional for me than bi or pan. Would you keep me from using it just because, for me, it includes attraction to men? And if you include me, why not include bi lesbians as well?

I almost deleted this one. At what point does defending myself become redundant?

[deer-butch]

I posted 23,807 times in 2021

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I added 150 tags in 2021

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#like i see these videos and old butch women living peaceful lives and loving lesbianism and i feel like everything is gonna be okay

My Top Posts in 2021

#5

[ID: neuralblender image, caption: "wrong deer." two deer on a green background that look very wrong.]

16 notes • Posted 2021-11-03 02:59:55 GMT

#4

hey so persistentlyfem is a terf. block her. trans lesbians are in the butch femme community, they belong here, and they deserve to be here. non-binary lesbians are in the butch femme community, we belong here and deserve to be here. if you’re reading this and you’re trans i love you, ESPECIALLY trans butches and femmes. you’re safe here and i’m sorry.

feelings under the cut.

i’m like genuinely heartbroken. i’m so angry, i’ve looked up to her since i was a baby butch, i thought everything she wrote was so beautiful and made me feel so seen and so loved. and she would hate me. she would say i’m a trans man and that i’m tricking femmes into being with me. she would hate my friends and my lovers and i don’t understand why. how can you claim to love butches but not respect non-binary people? to me, butch IS a non-binary identity. that’s my gender, i’m butch. how could you hate me? it’s such a special kind of hurt, i trusted her word on so many things and just all of that reverence and respect just disappeared. you’re not a femme, and you don’t understand what being butch is. i’m heartbroken and angry. we deserve better role models. if you know of any blogs that post about ofos butch/femme culture, please send them my way.

23 notes • Posted 2021-03-28 23:41:12 GMT

#3

ena is a non-binary femme lesbian thank u i will not be taking questions :)

26 notes • Posted 2021-01-05 14:50:46 GMT

#2

i want to be masculine in a feminine way but then also subvert that masculinity with femininity

173 notes • Posted 2021-01-29 07:13:11 GMT

#1

😘 for black femmes

😘 for black butches/studs

486 notes • Posted 2021-08-21 18:14:52 GMT

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[star-princess-princess]

I love studs so much, the adoring look in their eyes as he watches me do my makeup, the pride and constant need to show me off, warmth in their heart from knowing that the clothes I feel the most me in are from him. Always being on their arm, farthest from the street, leading me around and doting on me constantly. Seeing the happiness on their face when they get home from work and dinner is on the table, the house is clean, and I’m all dressed up. Eating together and how he’s telling me how much they appreciate all I do and the food is wonderful, how lucky they are to have a femme like me. They don’t know that I’m truly the lucky one. Helping with my coat, pulling out and pushing in my chair at restaurants. Rehearsing my order because I’m always too nervous to order by myself. Being greeted with breakfast in bed and flowers with the biggest smile. The way they tell me how much they love me when I’m rubbing their sore muscles and playing with his hair. The glowy perfection of having sex, knowing that someone truly loves me and loves that I’m a pillow princess, being cuddled up in bed their warmth surrounding me, and so much more. A stud’s love is so precious and beautiful, I’m so grateful to be their femme.

[stonebutch]

Hey there I love your blog! I just finished Stone Butch Blues, I was wondering, are there any other books about our history? It resonated with me so much and has taught me so much, and I want to learn more

hello!! thank you for reaching out! there are many many books about butches, femmes, and lesbians throughout history. my schooling was more specific to medieval history so unfortunately i don’t have a lot of academic resources in this area. i’m always collecting sources though! the below links aren’t specifically only books.

@/persistentlyfem’s butchxfem history tag (here)

hell, anything on that blog is a great resource - and has links to other places for resources. if you’re interested in old fashion old school (OFOS) things, this is a great blog too. personally, connecting with OFOS behaviour and fashion has helped my femme and i come into our own understanding of what butch and femme means to us.

minne bruce pratt’s books (here) - she was the spouse of feinberg!

there’s this google drive (here) and its parent branch (here) with a lot of saved PDFs of zines and books and essays. judith butler is on there as are several others. credit to tumblr user @/fegeleh!

i’d highly recommend pursuing it because, as you’ll see, butch and femme history is intertwined with the history of the Black rights movement, the antiprison movement, and i’d really recommend perusing their feminism/womanism/Black feminism folder as well. seek out Black lesbians and read what they’ve written and listen to what they have to say. there’s plenty on tumblr alone!

transgender libration: a movement whose time has come by leslie feinberg (pdf here and here) 

@/lesbianherstorian (here) has sources for decades upon decades of lesbian content, not specifically butch or femme, but worth checking out regardless!

this interview with stormé delarvarie (here) and more info about stormé (here) and (here)

if you find a copy the video gender troubles: the butches is apparently really great - i can’t personally vouch for it because i haven’t found a way to p*rate am*zon video, so. the second i do you bet your ass i’m uploading that to g*ogle dr*ve.

a great list of Black feminist books (here)

some academic sources i’ve found but can’t personally recommend as i haven’t read them: note that i have used sci-hub to make them free but if it doesn’t work let me know and i’ll upload them to a drive:

butch between the wars: a pre-history of butch style in twentieth-century literature, music, and film (here)

the return of butch and femme: a phenomenon in lesbian sexuality of the 1980s and 1990s (here)

butches, femmes, and feminists: the politics of lesbian sexuality (here)

again, i have not vetted the above articles. if you want to find more of your own, go to jstor, search for butch and/or femme, find the direct link to whatever article you want, and enter the link into sci-hub for the free PDF. download.

ultimately, when you’re reading about our history, it’s important to keep some questions at the forefront of your mind.

does this author value trans women? does this author include trans women?

does this author recognize and understand how trans women have built our broader community, have fought for our lives and our rights?

does this author value Black lives?

does this author value Black lesbians, studs, stem lesbians? does this author respect Black lesbians?

does this author recognize and understand how important Black lesbians are to the community?

does this author acknowledge the intersections of being Black, trans, and a lesbian?

make sure that whatever you’re reading doesn’t use t/rf and f/cist buzzwords, but that should go without saying.

good luck on your journey!

[ericfruits]

Worries about unemployment mount as China’s economy slows

THE FACTORY town known as iPhone city used to pulse with life as workers got off their shifts. These days the complex that churns out roughly half of all Apple smartphones is quieter. A staff dormitory just beyond its gates is empty, its entrance sealed with barbed wire. A barbecue restaurant, a noodle shop and, fittingly, a mobile-phone outlet have all closed. At a karaoke bar where workers would croon into the wee hours on rest days, the owner was recently seen packing up his speakers.

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The giant complex on the edge of the central city of Zhengzhou is run by Foxconn, Apple’s Taiwanese manufacturing partner. It remains one of the world’s busiest factories. But it is well off its peak, when as many as 350,000 people kept production humming around the clock. Workers say they are down to eight hours a day, five days a week. That means they are not doing the overtime that accounts for much of their pay. “It feels like they’re forcing us to quit,” says a six-year veteran.

Cao Yingying, a woman at a nearby recruitment centre, says they stopped hiring for Foxconn in late October because of Apple’s disappointing sales. They still have other electronics factories as clients, but they are all suffering. “Washing machines, fridges, vacuum cleaners. Everyone now has these, and they last longer,” she says. “So factories have fewer orders.”

A slowing economy is putting pressure on jobs in China (though Apple’s woes may involve other factors, too—see article). The official unemployment rate is stable at around 5%, but as always this figure is a poor guide. Surveys in the manufacturing and service sectors show that companies have been cutting staff since at least September. Wage growth is tepid compared with the sizzling norm of a few years ago. In November profits at industrial firms fell for the first time in nearly three years.

When China’s leaders met in December to map out economic policy for 2019, they said their priority would be to stabilise employment. They are anxious about social stability in a year studded with sensitive anniversaries. Among them will be the 30th of the Tiananmen protests, which involved economic grievances as well as political ones. Suppression of labour unrest has become even harsher in recent months. In one case, police detained more than 30 students and activists who had tried to help workers organise a union at a firm in the southern city of Shenzhen.

Worries about jobs are, so far, focused on the export sector. Trade matters less to Chinese growth than it once did, but it still, directly and indirectly, supports as many as 180m jobs, nearly one-quarter of formal employment, the government estimates. The trade spat with America has plunged firms into uncertainty. Exporters cut their demand for new hires in the third quarter by 53% compared with a year earlier, say researchers at Renmin University in Beijing. In December export orders fell at their sharpest rate in more than three years.

A second area of concern is the high-tech sector. As investors turn cautious, jobs are coming under threat. The starkest example is Ofo, a bike-sharing company previously feted as an innovator. Today it is battling to survive. Search engines, online travel agencies and e-commerce websites have all reportedly trimmed staff. This could be bad news for this year’s record number of university graduates (students in Zhengzhou are pictured at a job fair last year). Wang Xing, head of Meituan Dianping, a company known for its food-delivery app, captured the gloom last month with this line on his micro-blog: “2019 might be the worst year of the past decade, but it might also be the best year of the coming decade.”

Industries undergoing cyclical slumps are a final area of concern. With the stockmarket down 30% in the past year, financial firms, especially brokerages, have cut staff. A property slowdown has led several big developers to freeze hiring.

How would China cope with a big rise in unemployment? In 2008 when the global financial crisis struck, millions of migrants left coastal factories and returned to the countryside. They did not have to wait long for prospects to improve. Half a year later the government revved up growth with a massive stimulus programme.

A similar exodus is less likely this time. The economy is profoundly different, in ways that should cushion workers from the slowdown. Services, from restaurants to couriers, now account for more of the economy than manufacturers, and they are more labour-intensive. But service jobs are even less secure than those in factories. Workers in China’s vast gig economy—driving cars for hire, delivering food or trucking packages between cities—rarely get overtime pay or unemployment insurance, says Geoffrey Crothall of China Labour Bulletin, an NGO. Older people struggle. On a street in Zhengzhou, a man in his late 40s glumly surveys a board plastered with job ads. “They want young lads for the courier jobs. Faster on their bikes, faster on their smartphones,” he says.

China’s economic situation differs from the financial tsunami of 2008 in another crucial way. This time the troubles have built up gradually, giving the government time to ready its defences. It has already started to help beleaguered companies. In December the State Council announced that firms which refrain from firing staff can get 50% refunds on unemployment-insurance payments. Officials have hinted that they will offer subsidies for those buying home appliances, a boost for manufacturers. And after initially taking a hard line in its trade dispute with America, China has softened somewhat. That helped pave the way to talks between the two countries this week in Beijing that augur well for a deal, however fragile.

The government is also boosting its own recruitment. At a labour centre in northern Zhengzhou, once used for hiring Foxconn workers, the biggest ad is for jobs in Hami, a city in Xinjiang, the north-western region where officials have incarcerated vast numbers of ethnic-Uighur Muslims for “re-education”. Hami is looking for auxiliary police. “Join us to realise your dreams”, says the poster, with a picture of officers brandishing machine guns. Applicants, who must be between 18 and 35, are promised monthly salaries of at least 6,100 yuan ($890), roughly the wages at Foxconn when the going was good.

This article appeared in the China section of the print edition under the headline "Oh, for an assembly-line job"

https://econ.st/2TGlodM

[star-princess-princess]

It’s been so rainy and I’m so happy!!!! I get to super snuggly naps with my stud, she takes me to stomp in puddles in my sparkly rain boots. She gives me her sweaters and holds the umbrella over me to make sure I don’t get wet, even if they get drenched. And at nights during the thunderstorms we put on fuzzy socks and watch cute shows together.