#outright abusive

[jingerpi]

hey so I know the Internet is scary and children can see things that might be difficult to process but one of the absolute most important elements of child abuse and indeed abuse in general is isolation and controlling information. banning phones for kids will probably have minimal impact on whether they see porn or violence but it WILL make them drastically easier to miseducate and abuse

-sincerely, a homeschooled girl who has not spoken to her parents since she turned 18

[itsalmostavengers]

There’s so many elements of Tony Stark’s childhood and younger years that I could make soooosososo sad if I gave it enough thought and also made some stuff up to fit my own personal narrative of him

[aoifethephoenixqueen]

No one else caught it, but Gale did. The way Faelyn suddenly turned quiet and began fidgeting with her hair when the conversation turned to lovers, current or past. He saw the blush on her cheeks when the others talked about the feeling of pleasure. Shadowheart mentioned short-term amusements being more to her tastes, while Wyll hoped to find true love someday.

"What about you, Fae," Astarion asked.

Gale waited for her usual correction that HE was the only one allowed to call her that, but she didn't. Faelyn simply shrugged. When they pressed her, she stood, body trembling. She mumbled that she knew nothing of such things then turned and took off for the safety and solitude of the trees.

Gale stood as she did. His mother always taught him to be a gentleman. Even if the lady didn't see herself as such. He told them they'd gone too far. They didn't know. They didn't know she had been in a physical relationship before. They didn't even know she was married.

Yet despite that, she 'knew nothing of such things'? She knew nothing of passion? Nothing of the pleasures one can feel?

He stared at the point she'd disappeared into the tree line. He cursed at himself. He'd not even thought about this possibility. When they...When he'd...he simply told himself he'd make it up to her later. He hadn't meant for their first time to be so...quick. He'd had time to...no...He didn't take the time. Now, he felt the bile rise in his stomach as he stared.

"Shit," he whispered before going after her.

[qoldenskies]

You talk a lot about Donnie's triggers when it comes to Raph and Leo, but what about Mikey? Is there anything specifically related to him that would freak Donnie out?

mikey gets brought up the least because he's the least physically imposing, and he very rarely got violent. his abuse was almost solely psychological, at least in the beginning, whereas raph was mostly verbal and leo was a mix of,, uh. everything lol (note that even before he smacked him, even before the closet, he was mentioned to be throwing things at him). most of mikey's abuse was caused by leo except for that one incident in the kitchen, so donnie tends to see leo as more of a threat than he does mikey when he's in a bad headspace. when mikey's alone, he doesn't think he's going to be hurt UNLESS he seriously seems to upset or anger him. (i think if donnie ever hurts mikey during an episode, he's going to take it a lot worse than if it were raph and leo. partially because he's smaller and younger, but also because of. right after the closet. yeah)

i actually think most of the things specifically about mikey were addressed in cw, though, because they were more emotional things-- the fear of being talked about when he wasn't around, for example. all of the food insecurity stems from him, too. leo was a nasty evil gaslighter but mikey was the one that just outright lied constantly, mostly in an effort to "protect donnie's feelings" (or at least to look like he was) and that's a big reason he finds that so uncomfortable. of course he's going to correlate hiding things to actually protect his feelings with talking behind his back.

[yamiiwaii]

gonna share my cannibalism alnst au here too for the masses

cannibalism outbreak among pets .... they start getting scared .... till runs away from urak trying to sneak meat into his food and bumps into ivan .... thinks ivan is normal turns out he's Not and now till is scared of him too .... ivan doesn't want them so he tries to be normal but it's so hard around till and the others

ivan gets introduced to it young, in the slums

hyuna gets introduced to it while with the rebels but she rarely indulges unless absolutely necessary

sua gets introduced to it by her "sister" as a form of fear mongering and control, she hates it and is disgusted by her urges so she tries not to indulge ever

till is scared of it, it makes him nauseous and he hates anyone who falls to their urges

mizi is intrigued by it and has tried to ask sua about it but that's a tough nut to crack

luka is mostly unaware of the problem i think ... he was raised to be pure and perfect so those around him condemned it for being dirty and lowly

i think till and mizi are part of the rebels still in this and they still stand for the same things they do in canon except it's more of a take back society from the aliens thing because they believe the aliens are the reason cannibalism is something so rampant among human children

while they're right *somewhat* it's moreso the aliens encourage it because that's normal among their species too but none of them ever force it or introduce it to their pets unless it's out of control like in till's case

there's a lot of taboo around it and many pets who are in stardom are trained to avoid questions related to it, some aren't even allowed to act in things with it as a plot point to avoid cancellation

ivan grows up to be someone who doesn't really Care about all that and considering he has slightly more freedom than the others unsha lets him act and answer whatever he wants because he's media trained so he has a Lot of scandals

ivan knows about the rebels and has refused to join them on multiple occasions but he keeps them as connections because sua, he never cared for their movement because he has complicated feelings around it but i think that changes once he meets till

ivan is very conflicted about the rebels and when he meets till and sees how Against it and passionate he is about getting rid of this issue he's like "fuck. i'm a freak. I HAVE TO STOP BEING A FREAK" he never tells till. i think a series of very odd things happen and then till finds out. shit like ivan smelling him all the time, ivan randomly drooling around him, ivan trying to bite him all the time, little things like that

and till thinks nothing of it, literally nobody does but then till walks in on ivan absolutely GORGING on some weird looking meat and he's like "????" but ivan plays it off and till lets it go. but then he accidentally eavesdrops on a conversation between sua and ivan about hiding urges and he starts getting suspicious

this, i imagine, is like right around when they get closer too. like till is letting ivan in and he's starting to develop feelings towards ivan and this is really important to him. he trusts ivan with every fiber of his being so when he starts noticing shit he gets a little anxious. every time he asks ivan about it ivan lies or dodges the questions, sua refuses to tell till anything either and mizi is no help so he starts an investigation by himself. he starts trying to bait ivan into slipping up somehow and i think eventually ivan Does.

they're having an argument, it's one worse than any they've ever had. nobody else is in the base and things are starting to get physical, till goes to hit ivan and ivan, in an attempt to stop him, just kinda grabs him and. bites a chunk out of his shoulder and swallows right in front of till.

till's horrified and still as a board, ivan is panicking trying to save face and explain but till can't hear him it's like stark quiet aside from ringing in his ears so he runs as fast as he can away from ivan and ivan runs after him. they're like, running through the base until till is able to lock himself in his room and figure out what the hell he's gonna do about his shoulder and ivan is like banging on his door pleading for him to open up and it's rough IT'S ROUGH. eventually the others come back and ivan leaves without saying anything to them but this definitely throws a massive wretch into their relationship and till avoids ivan like the PLAGUE

that's definitely the precursor to ivan trying to like, curb his urges so he starts forcing them down trying to replace them with literally anything else and it takes a huge toll on him. he gets paler and prone to sickness easier, he grows depressed because till is still refusing to see him and talk to him and it's starting to bleed into his work. unsha is Mad. Disappointed. so he takes things into his own hands after too many months of ivan refusing to indulge at least Once so he forces ivan to by placing him in a room full of flesh and meat and nothing else, this is his ultimatum. it's either the lives of worthless human pets or ivan's.

ofc ivan cracks cuz he's hungry as hell and it makes him feel better physically but mentally he sees himself as disgusting because now till will never look at him again, this is like. his greatest punishment.

meanwhile on till's side mizi is annoyed, she's tired of his pity party and she tells till as much because he looks like shit and it's dragging the team down. so she facilitates a meet up for these which is timed in the worst way possible because it's right after ivan's ultimatum. it goes about as well as one would expect .... till doesn't say anything, he's too scared to for a variety of reasons so ivan does all the talking and it doesn't really ... help like at all. but he keeps talking anyway and eventually till spills how he's feeling and they make up

[selfinflictedgunshotwound]

watched sagan hawke's 3dwiscr video and i think this is a very rare L for him in terms of what he got from the narrative. in general, when a story is about abuse, whether in implication only or directly stated, i side-eye anyone who says that themes of abuse are not inherent/important to it. i actually think it's kind of hilarious he picked this story, of all stories, to have the take that it's actually about projection or outright fictionalization based on a very small pool of genuine evidence bc so much of the forum posts are hearsay. but. y'know... a story where a main theme is that people ignore abuse being directly displayed to them. i'm not saying that personal interpretation and projection aren't also big themes present within the story but i just find it hilarious to hand wave anything about abuse in a story where the majority of the characters hand wave abuse and insist that people who DO see it are somehow sick in the head for picking up on it. it's odd, especially considering the author's other works are all laden with themes of child abuse. this "just so happens" to be one where the themes of child abuse aren't important and are only there for us to THINK the story is deeper than it actually is? i know it's all up to the person consuming the media to come up with their own view. there is no right answer. but why the fuck would i choose to consume a story that's about nothing. an idea of an idea. this is pretty much on the same level as that stupid theory people have of twin peaks and all of david's other work being about media creation to me lmao

[bardicbird]

if you like cuno but not cunoesse there’s no saving you. “you dont understand, one of these troubled children is actually fundamentally evil inside!” thats what you sound like.

[andiv3r]

The people getting mad that I ship stancest but not billford confuse me. One of these is worse*, sure, but it ain't stancest.

*Worse as in "would be more unhealthy if they were real", not worse as in "bad to ship".

[phantom-thieves-official]

At what I assume is the end of the Konoe arc and Ryuji hasn't been granted a single serious moment even though he obviously is the character the backstory mirrors, meanwhile everyone else got a moment with their respective mirrors.

[daeneryscel]

“alicent making homophobic remarks the night of laena’s funeral isn’t cool considering laenor was shown to be heavily grieving his sister and didn’t deserve to be attacked during it (not to mention it was an obvious ploy on alicent’s part to divert attention from her committing literal treason).”

“b-bUT WHAT ABOUT DAEMON AND RHAENYRA FUCKING-“

i’m not gonna lie i don’t particularly care that they had sex that night. was it disrespectful? for sure. did it harm anyone for them to do it? it, in fact, did not. two consenting adults having sex away from prying eyes and keeping to themselves < an entitled boy purposely calling a girl at her mother’s funeral (whom he had never interacted with before) a pig and ridiculing her grief. laena’s storyline was cut short because the writers decided she wasn’t important enough to make into a proper character that isn’t at the mercy of other characters (it’s something i’m forever going to be salty about, daemon and rhaenyra loved her with all their hearts and were absolutely devastated when she passed) but out of those two scenarios who do you think she would be more upset with?

the people who bring this up in retaliation cannot handle alicent taking any criticism whatsoever. in all honesty i wouldn’t even care if her fans would just say ‘yeah, it was shitty. don’t really care though.’ it would at least save me the time of reading think piece after think piece on why alicent deserved to get her lick back against rhaenyra for her lot in life (caused by otto and viserys) by focusing on her pain rather than her son’s. these are the same people who try to claim that most of rhaenyra’s children and step children secretly hate her, due to wanting ‘complex and nuanced relationships’ to occur (they actually also can’t handle that rhaenyra was a great mom all around to all of her kids, and that maybe they need to be focusing those feelings on the green kids with their parents instead). let’s be serious for just one moment: it makes more sense that the children who were neglected by one parent and abused by the other having complicated familial feelings than children who were (for the most part) raised in a relatively stable and loving environment.

[somekindofsentience]

yes mutuals i am doing super well don't worry about me

[agnesandhilda]

while I'm talking about this topic it's so fucked up that "teenagers hate their parents for no real reason" is such a prevalent cultural narrative

[obsidianstrawberrymilk]

The Canon Jiang Cheng tag is so fucking radioactive lmfao why are we doing abuse apologism now

[encantresse]

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"i feel like we're kindred spirits, yurikins and i. it's hard not to think otherwise. people like us fall through the cracks all the time. it's easy to feel like our lives don't matter... and they don't to some people. the nobility will never understand the sort of things we've gone through, and i daresay most won't even care enough to make the effort to. so it's a comfort to have a friend in yuri. i never though i'd find someone here who'd get it."

"i'd never pry, but i do hope they know i'll always be here for them if they want to talk. always having to carry things on your own is unbearable...especially the kinds of secrets i suspect we both share."

*more notes under the cut

the unsaid (but implied) things:

granted my support page is down at the moment, but there's a reason why yuri is attributed with the line, "in you, a mirror — one that shows a reflection i do not turn away from." :softsmile:

for all of dorothea's self-loathing, which is rooted in the exploitation and abuse she's experienced in life, yuri as a presence is incredibly validating to her. she's always been receptive and fond of them in their supports, but that holds especially true in toaverse. ESPECIALLY after everything they went through in happyland. will it take years for her to fully accept herself and come to terms with everything that’s happened???? yeah. but the conversation they had was a step forward in that direction :')

even though there's still so much she doesn't know outright about yuri, they have her full trust because of that "i'm just like you/you're just like me" barbie princess moment they had. the fact that yuri defended them both on east island and stepped in to take care of dorothea while she was shutting down emotionally earned them a loooooot of trust points. it was an incredibly vulnerable/triggering moment for her and honestly i think she would have broken down if yuri hadn’t been there :crylaugh: not to mention she's always seen herself in them through mannerisms/things said so this was just confirmation that yuri's the real deal in he rmind

i feel like i need to explain affection and interest here because she is evidently very fond of yuri but the points don’t fully reflect that asjhdfg. she adooooores yuri, but the 3/5 points here solely reflect the distance she feels. while she knows they've got a solid friendship going on, she does acknowledge that they could be a lot closer (and it's something she's hoping for in the future)

as for her interest, she's definitely invested in yuri on a personal level and wants to get to know them better!! however, here she's differentiating between types of interest. she’s interested in spending time with them because she enjoys their company vs. the usual interest she takes in other people which is more necessity-driven