#presumed supportive

[confinesofmy]

soo crazy how after about a year and a half of leaning heavy on my family because my mom died and i was falling apart i am now pretty sick of the majority of them lol. like i finally fell in with them properly because the circumstances were right for it and uhhh turns out they're bad. can't stand em. lowkey. not good people, like for OTHER people they're not. but also me personally they're not good for me to be around. so now i know lol. 😵‍💫

[dysfunctionalcreature]

idk about yall but one of my most ever favorite aftg headcanons is that Andrew is really good with kids, and in the future when Aaron and Katelyn settle down and have kids, their kids will absolutely adore "Uncle Andrew", and he'll happily suffer through whatever sort of play the kids want to do with an as genuine and un-menacing smile on his face as he can manage, whenever he and Neil (and Kevin) come to visit

[eggoscrombled]

Okay but why did they have to make him actually suffocate for real tho

[danothan]

lemme complain abt a non-issue for a second, does anyone else feel like being a hater over flatline’s redesign?

she went from hot topic teenage anime girl swag

to millenial that would befriend you to sell essential oils

simone di meo when i get my hands on you.

[harbingersecho]

RVBtober 8+9 > fall + revelation "You know, sometimes, when somebody falls off a cliff in movies, he's actually just over the edge, hanging on a tree branch or something." "Nope. He's definitely dead."

... and he is. presumably.

(also if you ever decide to try and make a 2-page comic in 2 days even if half of it is just a paintover. don't do that. that's the devil talking)

[dkettchen]

They're doing twilight at cirque de soleil now

[liquidstar]

Between commissions I finally managed to finish this OC set of parent characters! If the looks aren't enough to show you who their kid is, the background colors match them ^_^ but of course more details below!

Name: Thuban

Name origin: The former pole star, before the north star (Polaris), it's name means "Large snake" and is referred to as the “Dragon's tail”

Pronouns: He/him

Age: N/A

Relation: Raised Polaris, though they're not related by blood and have a somewhat distant relationship, until he suddenly went MIA

Weapon: Spear (Same as Polaris's)

Ethos (Power): N/A

Flaw power is based on: N/A

Notes: Make no phallic jokes about the large snake thing and you'll be rewarded

Name: Ananke

Name origin: A moon of Jupiter, named for the mythological spirit of necessity, inevitably, and compulsion

Pronouns: She/her

Age: -

Relation: Bella's mother, she raised her to be a warrior

Weapon: Bardiche

Ethos (Power): Indomination (The ability to freeze the movement of objects and people, and lock them in place)

Flaw power is based on: Her strict enforcement of obedience through authoritarianism, and a lack of concern for the wishes of others

Notes: She believes in tough love. It's better in the long run to give your kid strength rather than affection.

Name: Rhea

Name origin: A moon of Saturn named after the Titan known as the mother of the gods

Pronouns: She/her

Age: 38

Relation: Saiph's mother, though she gave him up to the guild when he was very young

Weapon: None

Ethos (Power): None

Flaw power is based on: N/A

Notes: Was unable to take care of a baby at the time, and gave Saiph to the guild. She wishes she'd visited beyond that but it's probably too late now...

Name: Arche

Name origin: One of Jupiter's moons, it's name comes from the muse of new beginnings and is associated with springtime

Pronouns: He/him

Age: 7

Relation: Saiph's half-brother. Neither currently knows the other exists

Weapon: None

Ethos (Power): None

Flaw power is based on: N/A

Notes: He's just a little guy. He likes flowers and playing with toys. He wants to be a cool hero like his dad

Name: Poerava

Name origin: A star in Tucana, the Maori word for a black pearl of mystical beauty and perfection

Pronouns: She/her

Age: -

Relation: Al's mom. She mostly raised him on her own while her husband was with the knights.

Weapon: None

Ethos (Power): None

Flaw power is based on: N/A

Notes: Probably the best parent of the bunch if we're being real.

[five-thousand-loaves-of-bread]

this should go without saying but “everyone can have ability to self advocate” and “everyone can self advocate right this second” are two different concept.

i say this even thought it sounds obvious because! see parents of nonspeaking level 3 autistic kid (but also adults) w high support needs say their kid don’t have functional communication, that they worried abt their offspring’s future—what happens if they die and not able to be here to take care of them anymore? their offspring dont have functional communication, can’t tell you anyone mistreated them abused them right now, and no idea if they will able to develop it in future.

and late diagnosed, lower support needs, and/or level 1, mostly speaking autistics come in very strong (many attack parents bc see “parent of autistic kid?” immediately think “ableist autism mom!!!”), accuse parents of not presuming competence, accuse parents of abuse, accuse parents prioritizing words over behavioral communication, accuse parents not listening to offspring’s behaviors. say “your child is self advocating, they can, don’t say they can’t!” or say or imply their child don’t self advocate right now because parents not do enough.

i’m all for presume competence. presume competence so so important. but, presume competence means “everyone can learn with proper support and accommodations, even if they may not seem like it on surface.” not “everyone have hidden skills they possess right this second everyone can do everything right now or eventually in the future!”

yes, most behavior is communication! (most not all bc tics, severe apraxia, etc). but the truth is behavior only goes so far. you can only communicate so much with behavior. even if other people presume every behavior as communication, may still misinterpret.

yes! you can argue screaming meltdown is communicating is self advocating! but screaming even two words “too loud! too loud! is different than screaming noises. in first scenario you immediately know what trigger meltdown! you immediately know what stimuli to remove! but the latter, just screaming noises—is it the noise? if it clothes scratchy? is it wrong spoon wrong plate? is it being interrupted? is it too many feelings?

“you can show them picture options and let them point! that is still self advocacy!” yes, but needing someone to provide you pictures is hardly same as able to go to pictures AAC yourself and select spontaneously.

not to mention that… the ability to know what you want to communicate, then go to pictures (whether app or physical printed), recognize what the pictures are, know what picture correlate to what you want communicate, have the motor skills and visual skills to pick the picture out of all the other pictures, then hand it to someone—all very basic skills taken for granted by most late diagnosed low support level 1 mostly speaking autistics. most probably never ever struggled with it. most probably don’t even realize so many nonspeaking kids and adults struggle with this. not everyone have ability to do this!! giving a nonspeaking minimally speaking person communication is not as simple as handing someone an AAC board and they magically can communicate.

what if what you want to communicate is not in picture?

all of these facts has become a taboo thing to admit in autistic circles.

and like i’m even nervous to say “everyone can have the ability to self advocate” because it’s such a extreme definitive generalizing sentence. who am i to make such a generalizing statement? do i know every possible manifestation of every possible disability that affect visual/motor/communication/cognition/etc? NO!

because you don’t know, because you are never sure, 100% presume competence. you never know. give them the chance to learn. see if any environmental factors are limiting them. try as much as you can.

but presume competence shouldn’t be weaponzied… not “if your child/client/etc unable to do this, you’re definitely bad abusive incompetent not doing enough all your fault” without nuance. sometimes it is the parent/professional/etc’s fault. sometimes it’s not.

a randomly selected nondisabled person, able bodied and neurotypical. learning to ski. not olympian champion. the parents are abusive, not providing them with all the lessons all the best equipment all the support? the coach are incompetent, not believing the person, not presuming competence, not believing they can be olympian champion? the equipment not the best in the world (even if best, not enough!!)!

[proudfreakmetarusonikku]

the funny thing about fire emblem awakening is that monogamy and heterosexuality are enforced by the game mechanics but with how supports Work you kinda just end up seeing your army as one big poly couple. which was probably not intended but like it makes the game 1000% funnier. and it carries over to every future instalment bc they kept unlimited supports

[prettyboysdontlookatexplosions]

the discourse around taylor [checks notes, pointedly not contemplating how i am spending my one wild and precious life] hugging a football guy’s wife who hearted a trump post on insta has a lot of people saying variations on “she can be friends with trump supporters bc none of it really effects her” which is an example of one of my personal pet peeves, which is people wildly overestimating how salient politics as a concept is to the vast majority of people in the US at least. it is simply not true that only rich white straight people believe themselves to have the luxury of having friends on the opposite side of the political aisle. this is a philosophical viewpoint espoused by people all over the place demographically and a lot of it is because they just don’t think of politics as meaningfully important. which, again, is NOT always because political events don’t affect their lived! frequently they just like truly do not connect the dots the way that eg very online politically semi-curious people

[katabatiic]

YOUR CHARACTER IN FIVE QUOTES!

( repost, do not reblog. ) Tell us your favorite quotes from your character. Give us an idea of who they are by five things they’ve said. Then tag your friends.

"I, with this hand, I…took her life. That’s when it started. That’s when I started thinking about getting out."

- Legault & Matthew A Support

"You’ve gotten soft, Angel of Death. If someone held Nino hostage, you’d throw down your sword. You were the strongest assassin around. Now, you have a fatal chink in your armor. You’ve become human, but that makes you less perfect. Someday…you’ll die. No doubt trying to protect the girl."

- Legault & Jaffar A support

"No, child. This life is not for you. You’ll be much better off without me…" [...] "I’ll only say this once, Nino. If you’re around, you’ll only slow me down.  Lloyd and Linus will protect you, I’m sure. But I’m not as tough as they are. I don’t have their power or their courage. I wouldn’t be able to protect you…"

- Legault & Nino A Support

"Hm? Must be this thing called 'love', you know? Where are you going? I’m joking!! Get back here. Just let it go, all right? Come on, I like you. Even on the run, you’re true to your principles. You’re recklessly honest. That’s from someone who simply cannot do that…"

- Legault & Heath A Support

“……All right. I see. Nothing’s going to change. I knew that, and yet… I had to try. It’s a bad habit of mine.” /  “I knew this would happen. Nothing’s going to change. I knew it, and yet here I am. I couldn’t leave well enough alone… I’m a fool.”

- Vs. Lloyd OR Vs. Linus in Cog of Destiny

Mun Commentary Interlude: One of the things I see as core to Legault's character is his deep regret from killing Aesha (the woman mentioned in his Matthew support quote) transforming into this inner drive that I can best label as "whatever I do, I've learned that I have to live with myself afterward." This is why he admires Heath for sticking to his principles from the get-go instead of needing the guilt of going through with heinous orders to recognize how impossible it is to keep living the same way afterward. It's why he has to try to reach out to the Reeds, even knowing that he won't sway them. He wouldn't be able to live with himself if he didn't try. The Jaffar and Nino supports are there because I think it's interesting how he asserts to love is to be human, but to be human is a deadly weakness to an assassin—and how he so clearly has loved and continued to love [he loves the Reeds, he loves Nino, he loves what the Black Fang used to be, he loves Heath (a flirtatious exaggeration, but one grounded in genuine admiration whether romantic or not)], and so clearly considers himself weak. And because of that weakness, he doesn't see himself as fit to care for Nino, even if he cares about her.

in conclusion: LEGAULT i think about him

(tagging: @ everyone !! whoever wants to do this fun exercise! do it!!)

[connectingtolan]

one of the biggest pet peeves i have with "ai art" fans is that they talk about how much is getting the computer to do what you want

you know how else you can get art that looks like how you want?

commissioning REAL ARTISTS.

[sab-teraa]

Anyone who knows me, knows that I absolutely detest the secret child trope … but I think the ‘Good Bad Mother’ is most likely going to be the first ever show where I EAT this UPPPP

Like???????

[mariocki]

A very brief turn by Frazer Hines, as stable hand Jem, in Peter Diamond's pilot for a proposed adventure series Lochinvar (1968). There was little interest in the pilot or any subsequent series, and ultimately the sole filmed episode was never transmitted - it survived in the hands of director/producer Diamond until his family donated the film stock to Kaleidoscope a few years ago.

[demonzoro]

re: last rb abt etsy - can't stress enough that if you're boycotting something for palestine it's with the intent to withhold money from corporations who use their profit to fund genocide. do it now, not later. i understand for some people it's their form of income, but other than that, there's literally no reason you shldn't delete it... delete your account and stop giving your money to people who will fund a genocide NOW

[statementlou]

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