Always show gratitude for a gift, and always thank the gift giver for the gift.
Your uncle gets you socks for Christmas? Don't just say "meh" and toss them aside. Show gratitude and thank him.
Your aunt buys you something as a housewarming gift such as candles and a towel rack, but it doesn't match the color scheme you had in mind? Don't sneer and say "I wanted coral, not black!" while tossing it aside. Show gratitude and thank her for the effort she made.
Your in law baked something for you after you just had a baby, but it has mushrooms in it and you don't like mushrooms? Don't just tell them "yeah it was full of mushrooms so I just threw the whole thing away", at least try to show kindness and gratitude.
Gift giving is, ideally, an act of benevolence in which the gift giver should, ideally, ask for nothing in return. For many, gift giving brings a lot of joy to know they're helping and giving to someone they love and hopefully bringing joy to the person they love.
And, it comes at an expensive, literally and figuratively, to the gift giver. To sacrifice some of your own time, effort, and paycheck to buy or even make something for someone you love out of the hopes of making them happy or at the very least maintain a relationship with them, only for them to sneer or say "meh" or tell you they just threw it away is crushing and hurtful.
There are exceptions, such as if the gift itself is inappropriate and makes you uncomfortable, or the reason they're giving you the gift is inappropriate and makes you uncomfortable (such as maybe they have ulterior motives and are trying to be manipulative) then of course this is different and you are under no obligation to the gift giver to show gratitude.
But otherwise, if someone is just trying to make you happy at a personal expense to themselves, the least you can do is show some appreciation for their effort.
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This is the comfort for the yunli part because someone in the comments requested this!!
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Yunli (comfort)
After the man was punished, Yunli felt slightly bad for yanqing.
Yanqing most likely ignored her the whole day, Not even talking to her while training March, Yunli hates to admit but she's a bit worried, Is he truely alright?
She tried to talk to him 10 times and failed all ten.
Well the last she tried and then Yanqing broke down crying, Unable to explain.
They didn't talk for a whole week before Yanqing apologised for pushing her away and invited her for a small meal in the Aurum alley.
They ate silently, But Yunli could also feel that yanqing was still traumatized, even after the man was punished.
Yunli managed to get him talk, He didn't go into much detail and just told that it hurts.
Poor boy, he doesn't have many friends his age, Nor anyone to talk freely with without being anxious or scared.
Yunli wasn't great at comforting, The only way she comforts is by giving him her piece of Berrypheasant skewers. Yanqing stared at her, But started eating.
For the first time, They feel like friends.
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🎺🎺It's donnnnne!!! 🎺🎺 For the first time since ~February 2020, all of my credit cards are finally paid off again. Between getting hit hard with covid right at the beginning of the pandemic, then being unemployed for 8 months but not actually qualifying for unemployment, then going through a series of shitty jobs that didn't actually pay a living wage, for a long time it felt like I was going to be stuck in a debt loop forever. The light at the end of the tunnel only really appeared last year after I got a promotion and raise at my current spot, and even then it still took me another year of buckling down and putting most of my additional income directly into card payments. But it's fucking done. I know that this doesn't affect anyone else but it's such a fucking relief I'm sitting here crying while I try to get ready for work and I don't really have anyone to share it with so as usual I'm just yelling it into the blog void.
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