#good manners

[hadeth]

عَنِ ابْنِ عَبَّاسٍ، قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم لِلأَشَجِّ أَشَجِّ عَبْدِ الْقَيْسِ ‏"‏ إِنَّ فِيكَ خَصْلَتَيْنِ يُحِبُّهُمَا اللَّهُ الْحِلْمُ وَالأَنَاةُ ‏"‏ ‏.‏ صحيح مسلم حديث ١٧

Ibn Abbas narrated that the Messenger of Allah said to Ashajj, of the tribe of 'Abdul-Qais: "You possess two qualities which are liked by Allah: insight and deliberateness." Sahih Muslim 17c In-book reference : Book 1, Hadith 25

أَمَّا الْأَشَجُّ فَاسْمُهُ الْمُنْذِرُ بْنُ عَائِذٍ بِالذَّالِ الْمُعْجَمَةِ الْعَصَرِيُّ بِفَتْحِ الْعَيْنِ وَالصَّادِ الْمُهْمَلَتَيْنِ هذا هو الصحيح المشهور الذى قاله بن عبد البر والاكثرون أو الكثيرون وقال ابن الكلبي اسمه المنذر بن الْحَارِثِ بْنُ زِيَادِ بْنِ عَصَرِ بْنِ عَوْفٍ وَقِيلَ اسْمُهُ الْمُنْذِرُ بْنُ عَامِرٍ وَقِيلَ الْمُنْذِرُ بن عبيد وقيل اسمه عائذ بن الْمُنْذِرِ وَقِيلَ عَبْدُ اللَّهِ بْنُ عَوْفٍ وَأَمَّا الحلم فهو العقل وأما الأناة فهي التثبت وَتَرْكُ الْعَجَلَةِ وَهِيَ مَقْصُورَةٌ وَسَبَبُ قَوْلِ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ ذَلِكَ لَهُ مَا جَاءَ فِي حَدِيثِ الْوَفْدِ أَنَّهُمْ لَمَّا وَصَلُوا الْمَدِينَةَ بَادَرُوا إِلَى النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ وَأَقَامَ الْأَشَجُّ عِنْدَ رِحَالِهِمْ فَجَمَعَهَا وَعَقَلَ نَاقَتَهُ وَلَبِسَ أَحْسَنَ ثِيَابِهِ ثُمَّ أَقْبَلَ إِلَى النبى صلى الله عليه وسلم فقربه النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ وَأَجْلَسَهُ إِلَى جَانِبِهِ ثُمَّ قَالَ لَهُمُ النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ تُبَايِعُونَ عَلَى أَنْفُسِكُمْ وَقَوْمِكُمْ فَقَالَ الْقَوْمُ نَعَمْ فَقَالَ الْأَشَجُّ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ إِنَّكَ لَمْ تُزَاوِلِ الرَّجُلَ عَنْ شَيْءٍ أَشَدَّ عَلَيْهِ مِنْ دِينِهِ نُبَايِعُكَ عَلَى أَنْفُسِنَا وَنُرْسِلُ مَنْ يَدْعُوهُمْ فَمَنِ اتَّبَعَنَا كَانَ مِنَّا وَمَنْ أَبَى قَاتَلْنَاهُ قَالَ صَدَقْتَ إِنَّ فِيكَ خَصْلَتَيْنِ الْحَدِيثَ قَالَ الْقَاضِي عِيَاضٌ فَالْأَنَاةُ تَرَبُّصُهُ حَتَّى نَظَرَ فِي مَصَالِحِهِ وَلَمْ يَعْجَلْ وَالْحِلْمُ هَذَا الْقَوْلُ الَّذِي قَالَهُ الدَّالُّ عَلَى صِحَّةِ عَقْلِهِ وَجَوْدَةِ نَظَرِهِ لِلْعَوَاقِبِ قُلْتُ وَلَا يُخَالِفُ هَذَا مَا جَاءَ فِي مُسْنَدِ أَبِي يَعْلَى وَغَيْرِهِ أَنَّهُ لَمَّا قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ لِلْأَشَجِّ إِنَّ فِيكَ خَصْلَتَيْنِ الْحَدِيثَ قَالَ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ كَانَا فِيَّ أَمْ حَدَثَا قَالَ بَلْ قَدِيمٌ قَالَ قُلْتُ الْحَمْدُ لِلَّهِ الَّذِي جَبَلَنِي عَلَى خُلُقَيْنِ يُحِبُّهُمَا.. شرح النووي على مسلم

ثُمَّ أخبَرَ النَّبيُّ صلَّى اللهُ عليه وسلَّمَ أشَجَّ عبدِ القيسِ -واسمُه المُنذِرُ بنُ عائذٍ العَصَريِّ رَضيَ اللهُ عنه- أنَّ فيه خَصلتَينِ يُحِبُّهما اللهُ ورسولُه: هُما الحِلمُ، أيِ: العقلُ مع الصَّبرِ، والأناةُ: وهي الرِّفقُ والتَّثبُّتُ في الأمورِ، فأثْنى رَسولُ اللهِ صلَّى اللهُ عليه وسلَّمَ عليه بالحِلمِ والأناةِ، وأخبَرَ بحُبِّ اللهِ ورسولِه لهُما. وهذه الصِّفاتُ الخُلُقيَّةُ قد تَكونُ جِبلِّيَّةً فِطريَّةً، وقد تَكونُ مُكتسَبةً بالمِرانِ والمُمارَسةِ. الدرر السنية

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[dailymanners]

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And not to detract from how this affects disabled people, but this also applies to cyclists and people pushing strollers.

I personally have found electric scooters to be useful as someone who doesn't own a car, but you have to keep in mind that you're not the only person who needs to use the sidewalks and/or cycle paths, and it's not so easy for everyone to just go around if the path is blocked.

And this doesn't just apply to electric scooters, this also applies to how many people park their cars blocking sidewalks and/or cycle paths.

[elitadream]

Mario taking off his cap when standing before Peach is a detail that I often see mentioned to showcase his gallantry towards her, and I couldn't agree more.

But with that said-

Him offering his arm for her to take is something we need to talk about more, PLEASE.

[ladyhawke]

AS BOAS MANEIRAS (2017) – dir. Juliana Rojas & Marco Dutra

[pratchettquotes]

"Come and sit where I can see you. That's good manners. And let me tell you right now that I ain't at all afraid of you."

The tall, black-robed figure walked across the floor and sat down on a handy barrel, leaning its scythe against the wall. Then it pushed back its hood.

Granny folded her arms and stared calmly at the visitor, meeting his gaze eye-to-socket.

I AM IMPRESSED.

"I have faith."

REALLY? IN WHAT PARTICULAR DEITY?

"Oh, none of them."

THEN FAITH IN WHAT?

"Just faith, you know. In general."

Death leaned forward. The candlelight raised new shadows on his skull.

COURAGE IS EASY BY CANDLELIGHT. YOUR FAITH, I SUSPECT, IS IN THE FLAME.

Death grinned.

Granny leaned forward, and blew out the candle. Then she folded her arms again and stared fiercely ahead of her.

After some length of time a voice said, ALL RIGHT. YOU'VE MADE YOUR POINT.

Terry Pratchett, Maskerade

[mansorus]

[ksbbb]

PSA:

OK so I feel that this needs to be said again and I am not talking to everyone. Please don’t think I’m talking to my followers or most of my mutuals on here, but I do think it’s something that should be addressed again. If you don’t like a story, you are under no obligation to read it, and you can easily click out of it or completely find a way to never read my stories again.

Just because you don’t like Theo, doesn’t mean you should be coming onto a story and trashing him as a character and in doing so, trash me as a writer in my story because of some issues you have with the way Jeff Davis wrote a character.

We all write stories for free, and in our own personal time for fun. I understand everyone’s story is not for every single individual, and I think it’s important that we understand to be a productive member of society and not trash people on the website because you feel some type of way about a character.

I will not be taking my story scenting down. Thank you.

Thank you for coming to my ted talk .

I am a Theo Stan until the day I die 

Here’s the story in case other people would rather read it and don’t worry I did delete those comments.



[preppyandpreppy]

[barefoot-a-pregnant]

What has the husband taken into account about his wife?

Thats the tile from a german website, that I found years ago! *laugh* I will try my best to get it to you in english, because I know not many speak german here. Please forgive mistakes, as english isn't my first language. "Never forget that your Wife is a Lady too. Don't allow yourself to be inconsiderated forwards her; you woudn't be inconsiderated forwards another woman. * Don't hurt her feelings with swear language *Don't made yourself the house Tyran, that everybody fears *Don't let yourself go slop. Groom yourself. *Don't carry the trouble of the workface into your home. *Please your wife sometimes with a little present or special attention. Don't forget her birthday or namesday; even so your wedding date; and think hard and thoughtful about her presents. It will look bad, when you just give her money to buy her presents, so that you don't have to trouble yourself. Go on a Date once a while, because your wife will love the change of scenery and attention. Don't always look at your wife as housewife and housekeeper, but as a companion and comrade too. Don't make fun about her Hobbys, especially if these are intellectual or artistic nature; but try to share them or at least respect them. Don't allow yourself an unpleasant Comment about her or her comments in the seight of others. Always remember your kids, even the adult ones, to respect and reverence her. Do for her, what you would do to other woman too. Stand up to greet her; pick something up, when it falls down; give the better seat to her; help her into her clothes; let she going first (except when you enter an restaurant); always be as thoughtful forwards her as you were before marriage. Trust your wife in therms of money and never let she guessing about your financial situation.

Measure your household money adapted to your circumstances; never let her beg for it. The same goes for her private needs; that will her and you save tons of unpleasentries. The love between husband and wife will get polished trough good manners. If the Housewife is working outside...

Today it will happend, that the married couple or even the wife alone will provides the income. Than it isn't good, that the woman have the burden of the household all alone. This will damage her health in short time. The husband, in such times, will try his best to lessen her burden. In the war- and after war times many couples were exemplary in doing these.

Note:

*Being in a heated state should never be an excusion for bad behaviour *"Whatever Thing, talk about it to your wife; and if she's small, bend over to her." (Talk to her on her "eyelevel" and not from above.) *Misunderstood woman are often ignorant woman *Talking badly about your husband to others is the first step to cheating *Ongoing needles made more pain, than one serious wound (just don't nag and nag. If something is wrong, name it clear and loud.) Quelle: Erinnerungswerkstadt Norderstedt (Found it in the book: "Der gute Ton" from Konstanze von Franken. 1953)

[mrsrhettbutler]

Victor headed for the atrium, doubling back at the sight of the coat check. His eyes trailed over the jackets and shawls that had already been checked in, landing on a black wool trench on the left, with a high collar and black leather trim.

Victor flagged the check. "I lost my ticket," he said, "but I'm here to claim my coat." He nodded at the trench.

The kid wavered. "I...I'm sorry...I can't return a coat without a valid claim."

..."I can break your bones without lifting a finger," Victor said smoothly. "Would you like me to show you?"

The kid's nostrils flared in panic as he shook his head.

...Victor shrugged on the coat, finding a $20 bill in one pocket. "Thank you," he said, tucking the bill in the glass tip jar

[dailymanners]

When boarding buses, or any sort of public transportation where you have to walk past a driver to board, always smile at and greet the driver as you're boarding.

It doesn't waste anyone's time, yours or the drivers, to smile and greet the driver, as chances are you probably have to pay or scan your pass which is going to take a second or two, about the amount of time it takes to smile and greet the driver.

When we don't look at or acknowledge the driver at all, this can make the driver feel dehumanized to not be acknowledged by other human beings all day. Being a bus driver is a difficult job, they have to do customer service AND deal with traffic all day. Bus drivers also face a lot of burn out because they are often treated poorly. The least you can do is humanize them by smiling at them and greeting them.

[laces-and-pearls]

Never confuse etiquette and manners.

Bad etiquette is using your dinner fork on your salad.

Bad manners is pointing out that someone used their dinner fork on their salad.

Manners will always trump etiquette.

[mynameisnotthathard]

[trishstark]

A word on etiquette and good manners:

Don't be ashamed of wanting to study and learn them. Today we say they're superficial and stupid, but they're not. We put them down, and yet it's capital to know the etiquette of a foreign country if you want to be polite.

These rules (some are outdated of course), were written and published to make sure you knew how to behave according to your surroudings, to not offend people around you. To be able to adapt to every situation in your life.

Learning good manners and etiquette should be one of your priorities if you don't know them yet. And there's plenty of them in our modern world, on the internet, at work, etc.

Learn them and you will feel much more confident in many many situations.

I wish finishing schools were still a thing sometimes...

[preppyandpreppy]