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[zooophagous]

I wish people understood more that animals go through puberty just like people do, and that "teen" animals will have new and often unpleasant behaviors as they grow and try and figure out their place in the world.

Many of the animals I see being rehomed are right at the one to two year old mark, when maturity is still an ongoing process and their behaviors get more intense. Be patient with them! They DO grow out of it!

Aster was a holy terror until he was almost 3 and now he's the best cat I've ever owned. If you can't deal with these changes, adopt a mature animal instead of getting a puppy or kitten, because it's more likely than not they will have a turbulent teen phase.

[point-two-two]

Letting your business partner pretend you're abusing him so you can con the living daylights out of foreign diplomats that you kept waiting for nearly three hours is crazy. And to rub it in by planning a skit where you bring him iced coffee and he complains about it? Iconic showstopping never seen before this is EVEN BETTER than the little show they put on for Taewon which was one of my favorite jinjae moments truly I feel like I just received a surprise custom-made cake after ordering a custom-made cupcake

[soft-pine]

when i think about this scene from 15.15 it makes me want to chew glass and tear up the walls in rage.

AMARA: I wanted two things for you, Dean. I wanted you to see that your mother was just a person, that the myth you'd held onto for so long of a better life, a life where she lived, was just that, a myth. I wanted you to see that the real, complicated Mary was better than your childhood dream because she was real. That now is always better than then. That you could finally start to accept your life.

for the record i want to say i am a known amara-hater. don't like the non-con shit. don't like that she's doing what so many beings in spn do and narrativizing dean's life back at him while judging him because she drew the wrong conclusions. but i think fandom does have a tendency to take those claims at face value because that is easier than combing back through to check if it's correct or not. (see for example, rachel saying dean only calls cas when he needs him in 6.18. narrativizing, incorrectly. but i digress)

so let's talk about mary. because, through the seething rage, i think two main things about this claim. 1. dean does not have this mythos around mary and 2. mary has arguably more of that mythos around dean.

first off, we'll tackle the claim that it's a myth that if mary hadn't died, dean wouldn't have a better life. because that is absolute, utter, dogshit. OF COURSE HE'D HAVE A BETTER LIFE. while i will always maintain that clearly mary and john were far from stable before she died, her death was what speared john forward into hunting, into turning his kids into soldiers, into neglect and parentifying, and every other god forsaken thing he did. "a better life, a life where she lived, was just that, a myth" - girl, i DON'T CARE IF YOU'RE DIVINE, SHUT THE FUCK UP.

like please don't come here acting like dean grieving the future he could have had that didn't include him taking care of his younger brother alone in motel rooms for days while maybe actually being left as bait for the Kid-Eater is a character flaw on his part that he needs to learn better from.

next, amara claims dean needs to see the "real, complicated Mary."

but hasn't he? dean goes back in time and meets his mom in 4.03 and 5.13. and both times he treats her both as a competent hunter and a colleague. like to be clear, before that, i dont think he was wrong to be relying on a four-year-old's memory of what his mom was like because that's literally all he had access to. but dean actually did meet and interact with the whole, complex woman who was his mother long before amara decided to teach him a lesson with her as the homework. in both 4.03 and 5.13, dean tries to give mary advice to save her life but he doesn't belittle her experience hunting or her desire to leave and life a normal life. i don't know what more you want from him in terms of interacting with his mom as a whole, real, complex person?

this also applies wholly and completely to his interactions with her when she returns in s12. he apologizes for being nervous for her safety (AFTER SHE WAS JUST RESSURECTED) at first. mary says she wants to hunt, dean gets on board. mary says she needs space, dean asks clarifying questions to best support her request. he gets mad at her not for being who she is or needing what she needs but for lying to him for months and working with people who tortured him and sam.

in fact, s12 is what i would point to to indicate how well dean articulates and navigates the nuance of being hurt by someone's actions while still understanding and empathizing with why they did it and forgiving them. for example, he says this in 12.04

DEAN: This whole mom thing, it's... I mean, we get her back, and then she leaves. I hate it, but I get it. I do. I guess I'm just...still working through some of that crap. I'll try to be less of a dick about it.

[you're not a dick, dean, ilu]

in fact, dean's much maligned "how 'bout for once, you just try to be a mom?" isn't even about dean wanting anything particularly maternal from mary. it's about him not wanting her to ditch them to hunt alone and/or with the aforementioned torturers.

so circling back to amara's speech about expectations and myths. cause while her words do not apply to dean. amara's speech does remind me of something that happens upon mary's return in s12. these lines from 12.03:

DEAN: Mom, it's okay. All right? You're home now. MARY: No. I'm not. I miss John. I miss my boys. SAM: We're right here, mom. MARY: I know. In my head. But I'm still mourning them as I knew them. My baby Sam. My little boy Dean. Just feels like yesterday, we were together in heaven, and now...I'm her, and John is gone, and they're gone. And every moment I spend with you reminds me every moment I lost with them.

of course she has every right to grieve the time she lost with her kids. but someone in this room is having trouble really looking at the people in front of them because of their idealized memory of who they were compared to are and It Is Not Dean.

and i just think about dean's speech in 12.22. cause it wasn't dean that needed to see the real mary. it was mary, tucked away in her dream world where sam is a baby and dean is a little elementary schooler who likes pie and has never held a gun, who needed to see the real dean.

[millerflintstone]

Small rant

A boundary isn't something you expect someone to do or not do based on how whatever it is they're doing affects you. A boundary is something you'll do/not do based on how someone behaves. You don't even have to tell people about it specifically. That is a silent boundary.

For example, "if you call me during work hours and it's not urgent I will hang up on you and not talk to you until I'm done with work."

If the person continues to call you for non important crap while you're working just hang up on them or mute your phone/avoid the call. That's you enforcing your own boundary.

If you know the person will argue about how correct or not this is, you don't even have to tell them about the boundary or that you're going to enforce it.

You don't even have to pick up the phone. and if you feel obligated to, that's another layer of stuff I'm not addressing here.

You can't control other people's behavior. You can only control your own response to other people's behavior.

[quitesins]

Saiki K was low-key OCD representation

[dykedvonte]

The second fic idea is a what-if scenerio where Jimmy dies in the crash due to and altercation with Curly and how Curly would navigate being Captain once he has to notice the little things and how he and Anya's relationship develop as he adopts an identical view point to hers rather than just keeping the peace.

And maybe i will write it but only time will tell tbh but it's stuck in my brain dome for the time being.

[ct-hardcase]

Anyway, I'm always thinking about Finn and Rey learning to be friends and lovers and co-councilors, and needing to balance learning that they're allowed to love with Jedi nonattachment principles, or struggling with whether to implement those principles despite their love for one another.

What does it mean when you feel so strongly for someone it hurts, and simultaneously the responsibility for the whole Order is on your shoulders and needing to do what's best for it has to take priority in your lives?

Does it fuck Finn and Rey up, having worked their whole lives on survival mode, living (kind of) without that for maybe a year, maybe a few, and then needing to dedicate their lives to the galaxy, even if they do it gladly?

[ambrosiagourmet]

Rin holds people at arm's length because she knows how easily she can lose them. Kabru holds people at arm's length because he has a purpose that he is already prepared to die for. They both already know this about each other. And yet.

[wernerherzogs]

What would be your ideal Buddie fic??

sorry if it'a s cop out answer but there isn't just one... it depends on what i'm in a mood for on any given day! sometimes it's a 10k pwp (x), sometimes it's a porny piece doubling as a character study (x), sometimes it's a devastating canon divergence story that's pretty much Literature (x), sometimes it's a canon divergence that maybe shouldn't work, but does (x), sometimes it's a fun au (x), sometimes it's a perfectly sized slice of life oneshot (x). you know?

[violentdevotion]

my opinion on kids and the child hating discourse is sometimes my nephews and nieces are really loud while im napping and wake me up and it annoys me and they bug me while I'm doing something and want silence and they've broken so many of my things and they come into my room first thing in the morning and children crying in transport on long journeys are annoying but sometimes when I'm in a depressive spiral and don't want to leave my room someone will come in to talk to me and they compliment me when I do the most basic thing in the world because its impressive to them and they dedicate their arts and crafts to me and they'd come into my room because they were thinking of me first thing in the morning and they wanted to say hi and I remember that's the most basic form of love and little kids in the store i work at will light up when you compliment their clothes and are the most excited people in the world when you give them the reciept and also sitting in a cramped plane or bus for hours is uncomfortable and painful and the only reason I don't cry is because I have headphones a book and a sense of shame

[my-smial]

MORE JEAN POSTS aside from being controlled by, you know, the mafia, he is absolutely under control from being dependent on the Moriyamas to interact with the world! He does not know how much things cost! Like! Does he know he technically needs to file taxes on his scholarship?

[violentlyexplosive]

it's always so funny to me when i get a new follower and they have shit like "proship DNI!!11!1!1" in their bio or pinned post. like brother my blog is not a safe space for you (neither is the entirety of the real world, but I don't think you people are ready for that conversation. on account of being probably 12 years old. cus that's what you're acting like.)

"censorship is bad" should not be a radical take in the year 2024. stop trying to sanitise the internet into some uber-puritan, ultra-virtuous, squeaky clean space. like what are you, catholic? i beg of you- grow up.

[deadfish-archive]

Which horror jrpg fits Fish?

what a fantastic question! I had to sit & think on it for a bit… 🤔

these may not all fall under the jrpg umbrella, but I thought of a few games that might suit Fish based on their overall themes&visuals:

I don't really want to spoil any of these, so I'll stick w/ a brief summary for each (also I don't quite have the marbles currently to explain my thought process properly lol)

Stray Cat Crossing->

after helping walk a little girl home, a young woman finds herself transported to a surreal world of childhood fears & memories. (this one is really beautifully drawn [especially all the creature designs!!] & relatively short)

Gingiva->

an automaton factory girl with a turnkey for a head escapes from imprisonment under a cruel employer, fleeing through a bizarre, inhospitable landscape in search of her original head. (this one [& its predecessor Middens] has crazyyyyy collage-art visuals that stick w/ you & that I don't think I've ever really seen the like of elsewhere)

GOHOME->

a young girl tries to go home. (not an rpgmaker-esque game, but I still wanted to include it lol) (this one is insaaaaane & one of my most recent favs! iirc the developer made everything related to the game herself [including the music!!])

[zignifier]

Wrt LRB sometimes I'm so baffled by what people bother to ask me because my charitable assumption will be an image in my mind of the results of a search query using keywords in that question and what failures may have occurred in the transfer of information and I'll start talking like "What did you search for this? When I used [keywords] the results seemed pretty self-explanatory." Or like idk. Baseline I'll assume they've read some Bullshit that comes up when u search something. There are multiple things in this world if you use the most self-evident english search queries for you will just get misinformation. So maybe then I'll start talking as to counter those points instead and they're sooo lost and I'm like ??? and they're like I didn't bother to look it up I didn't search for any texts on this subject. And I'm like. How the fuck can you expect me to have a conversation about this then? We have to like. Have a baseline of implicit assumptions of understanding to talk about this how do you not CARE about that???

[communistkenobi]

because Vulcan emotional repression is social/cultural and not “biological” then like is pon farr just a physiological response to a mass social condition of constant total repression. like it’s a “biological” urge that they can measure & anticipate but that doesn’t mean that’s the natural or eternal state of Vulcans

[pookiebearmick]

galladrabbles - safe and sound by tonight alive

i've been thinking about @mickeym4ndy's post about mickey struggling with his trauma post canon a lot! i feel like this @galladrabbles prompt from @deathclassic works well with a more healed post canon mickey who still struggles with his past traumas when something triggers a response + comforting husband ian being a sweetie

Things have been going really well for Mickey and Ian over the past couple of years - they have their business, Ian’s looking into what requirements he needs to become an EMT again, they’re even looking into renting a house closer to the Southside so they can be more involved uncles.

It all seems to come to a halt when Colin calls, asking Mickey to get him out of some shitty deal he made with Uncle Ronnie. It sends Mickey’s defenses up, right back into Terry’s world.

“Hey, Mick,” Ian says softly, reminding. “We’re home. We’re safe. He’s gone. Terry’s gone.”