Let me walk memory lane of 2015 GF fandom with some Mystery trio.
I am still weirdly emotional about the key`s ok
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my mom has kept her old ass computer with the folder of music downloaded since the actual year 2000 which means it has such classics as gary moore's parisienne walkways and scorpions' wind of change coexisting with 3oh!3's set you free and cobra starship's fool like me
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I think my problem is when I find a guy attractive it's like "oh damn hes hot. fuck yeah that's cool." but when I find a women attractive I'm like "BEAUTIFUL GODDESS OH MY GOD I AM BUT A MERE PEASANT IN YOUR PRESENCE HOW AM I ALLOWED WITHIN THIS RADIUS OF YOUR MAJESTY YOU HAVE BEEN TOUCHED BY EVERY BEAUTY AND LOVE GODDESS ANY BEING HAS EVER WORSHIPPED YOUR GLORY AND KINDNESS TRANSCEND OUR PLANE OF EXISTANCE TO A POINT I CAN NO LONGER LOOK AT YOU FROM MY OWN UNWORTHINESS I-" .
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I always think Vic should be buff he's the kind of man who works out when his angry
Good point. He is often angry. I forget that he does a lot of actual working out and isn't just doing intense contortionist meditation all the time.
I tried so hard just now to find that panel where Vic is like.... In some kind of fully upside down pose, asleep. I could not for the life of me figure out where I had seen it. It's in the 80s question run.... Beyond that, I'm not sure.
Anyway it sent me down a deep dive of Vic's habit of "going inside". Here's a couple of images that are vaguely related to that.
When I do a reread of the 80s run, I think I'll compile a bunch of these. That's on my to-do list.
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prentice and sophie parallels... and something about tiergan with both of them. prentice tried to be the keeper of the lost cities and then he called swan song and tiergan lost him, and now someone else tiergan cares about is trying to do that exact same thing and ahhhhhhhh
poor tiergan watching people time and time again take massive risks because they think it's their duty!! seeing the same things happening over and over again aaaaa
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tbh when i hear some people talk about 'breaking cycles of abuse', it becomes clear pretty quickly who has come to understand that phrase to mean 'since i was a victim of abuse/neglect by my parents/caretaker/s i will do everything to be nothing like them' and that is all. its not a completely flawed way of thinking either - something that hurt you would very likely hurt someone else; through empathy we learn to understand not to hurt others the way we were hurt too.
but what 'breaking cycles' looks like is more complicated than just not being your parents/caretakers - it's about recognizing how the things that happened to you changed you and how you can heal so you don't hurt someone else in turn. the survival skills you learned in an unhealthy enviroment often translate to poor if not unhealthy interpersonal skills in an enviroment where things ARE safe.
its a difficult pill to swallow for a lot of survivors of abuse (trust me, i know) because we have a tendency to simply want our pain to be recognized. by painting yourself as "absolutely nothing like my abuser" you can abstain from recognizing your own harmful tendencies and live comfortably in the role of victim hood for the rest of your life. it can be tempting to do this especially when so many people will do their best to deny what you experienced - almost like leaning into a stuck door that just won't budge.
the problem with this is if you never recognize that being mistreated made it so you LACK a lot of what other people learned from a loving enviroment, you can hurt people pretty badly even when doing your best just not to replicate what your parents/caretakers got wrong.
this also hurts for victims because, when it comes down to it - it's not FAIR. you were hurt for no reason, and most of us will never hear an apology or even admittance from the person who did it - so why do YOU have to change? why do YOU, the person hurt unjustly, have to put in the work?
and i mean. that's what breaking a cycle is. it means pushing against what's fair and comfortable deliberately so that you can stop something that's been repeating. it's work. its not just recognition of pain, it's the purposeful healing and treatment of it. but thats scary, and it's not fun, so a lot of people fall right back into it. its a lot easier said than done.
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