#snark talks

[snarkythewoecrow]

I’m not even sure why it feels relevant or important to say this, as I don’t really know if it even matters to anyone outside of maybe my own need just to put it out there, but I'm gonna tell you a little bit about me

So, I’m in my forties now and so that means when I was a kid growing up in the 80s and 90s, I didn’t have things that my own kids do now, not in the same way, meaning that there wasn’t the exposure and access to resources and information and representation for all things queer (no connection to the world at our fingertips)

Now, I got along okay, quietly exploring and experimenting with other girls a bit as a teen in my tiny town in the middle of nowhere, but being bisexual isn’t really the thing on my mind rn, more just a footnote

See, I had a strained relationship with my gender from so early on, yet I didn’t have any of the words to express this at the time, and it wasn’t until after trying my damnedest to be a woman, doing the shit that women were supposed to do, and then still having this sort of disconnect that I began to wonder what it was that didn’t fit within the puzzle—it became clear that the pieces I had might not all be from the same picture, after all, and it started me thinking

Spoiler alert, I’m still thinking, and it’s been years since that revelation, but that’s okay with me

Anyway, long story short, I was kid from a time without access to information and resources about gender and sexuality and all things queer or different--things that some want to silence and remove access to--and you know what? not being exposed to people from different walks of life, not having access to information and resources about what being trans is and could be, not having those discussions, and not having the words to describe and understand my own experiences as I had them, well, let's just say that not having all those things didn’t change my reality or help me in the least

Though, most importantly, it didn’t make me less trans, it just made me a depressed and confused little kid, instead, one that, looking back, needed a fucking hug and something or someone to turn to for information or validation

See, there was a moment that stands out now, when I was pretty young, maybe around ten or so, the discussion of breast cancer had become a big thing at the time, lots of media attention highlighting the subject, and there was this daring commercial they'd started airing

It had these women standing in a row, all topless and proud without breasts, a testament to survival, and you know, the only thing I can remember thinking at the time was, “oh, maybe that could happen to me,” except, it wasn’t said in fear, but rather hope along with a dash of confusion and guilt, cuz until that moment, I’d never thought something like removing your breasts possible

So, yeah, guess I’m saying that erasing the resources and sources of care and support, knowledge and representation--just cuz it makes you uncomfy--won’t stop those things and people you dislike from existing

Because we were always here, there aren’t suddenly more trans kids, pretty sure there are about the same amount as always, just back then, when I was growing up, we didn’t have the words to describe ourselves or a place to look for help, but that doesn't mean we weren't there

[mirellapryce]

I present to you a stupid thought. For all of episode 1 we have been both shown and told that Edwin is NOT the people person in the Agency. However right away in episode 2 when they're summoned by The Cat King, Edwin steps forward and insists he do the speaking in order to handle this diplomatically. It feels strange because while Charles might not be subtle as Edwin says about Shelby later, he is better at talking to people and working with them generally.

My stupid headcanon is that Edwin heard the word "King" and knew his anti-monarchy bestie would be his absolute WORST SELF so he stepped in before Charles could get himself in trouble.

[6ubble-gum]

Lord if I see any more "jin ling realizes jiang cheng is abusive and finds a REAL FAMILY with wei wuxian and lan wangji" fics I'm gonna puke. JC antis have the worst taste why do they hate existing love 😭

[batbabydamian]

Batman and Robin (2023) #17

Damian having nightmares and doubts, not talking to Bruce about it

Batman and Robin (2023) #19

Bruce having nightmare hallucinations and doubts, not talking to Damian about it

i love them they're so funny that's my emotionally constipated father son duo

[taviacoolcat]

there's something to be said about jeremy not just being an inherently 'sunshine' character as was previously headcanoned. it's still a fine descriptor for him, but i think the fact that he's not just a happy-go-lucky character who also happens to have a tragic backstory, and is instead a character who's backstory actively shaped him into someone who wants to be a better person (partly for redemption because of his unending guilt) and is something he still struggles with years later is much more compelling. as jean said, "it makes you more interesting. not your capacity for unkindness, but how fiercely you fight against it."

[prodigaldaughteralice]

I still can’t get over how fuckin harmless Josh’s Last Little Game is in Neo. Like. He’s being all smug and phrasing it as a game so it seems like he’s being a dick, but like

Shoka was set to be erased. he not only prevented that but returned her to life. And put her back within Shibuya’s RG.

He says it’s “hide and seek”, and Rindo has to find her, but notably he does not provide a time limit, or consequences to not finding her besides just… not finding her.

nor did he in any way make it difficult for Shoka to contact Rindo, seeing as she apparently immediately made new accounts and sent him two friend requests.

he just did something nice and phrased it like he was being all enigmatic, but… there was no punishment here. No real downside. He just did something nice.

[singingcicadas]

idw Ratchet is someone who follows orders and respects authority. He might follow his conscience in spur-of-the-moment decisions that allows him the leeway/initiative to act on his own (e.g. setting up clinic on Dead End, breaking cover to save Verity and Hunter, going to look for Drift, voting against Rodimus in mtmte) but he's never openly defied the orders of an acting leader. Regardless if he doesn't agree with said order and thinks it's stupid. Or wrong.

Even when Ratchet thinks Rodimus' treatment of Drift is unfair, he never speaks up against Rodimus during the actual issue of the exile verdict. He only offers Drift silent support by helping him up on the way out, because Rodimus is the captain and you don't argue with the captain. Yes he thinks Rodimus is a crap captain and acts condesending towards him all the time but when it comes to rank and orders there's no ambiguity.

Voting against Rodimus in the crisis act is a legitimate expression of disapproval, made anonymously in private. He doesn't care about Rodimus knowing his vote, but in public it stays anonymous. He does tell Rodimus off about what he did to Drift, but again, he makes sure it's a private one-on-one appointment. He also doesn't make Rodimus formally revoke Drift's exile or sanction his search, he resigns his position as CMO and quietly leaves to look for Drift himself as a personal commitment.

Common stereotype of what Ratchet is not:

Medic ethics and commitment to patients comes first, factions be damned. I don't care if he's a Decepticon, he's my patient.

No he's not actually like that? When Megatron's in custody he's all lets dissect him awwwww why can't we dissect him why does mass murderers still get rights that's so stupid can't I just torture him a little?

Like he spent the whole war patching up Decepticon-inflicted wounds and witnessing Decepticon-inflicted deaths. He's not a saint. He has as much good reason to hate Megatron and his faction as any other Autobot.

In fact he was pretty eager to ask Optimus about what he's going to decide as Megatron's punishment after he heard about Optimus frying Megatron on the voltage harness.

Optimus has his heart on clemency. Ratchet's the one hoping for execution or something equally nasty. Even though their opinions doesn't line up, Ratchet's still 100% supportive of Optimus' decision.

He repairs Megatron only because of Bumblebee's orders, and makes his unwillingness known.

Later in mtmte Ratchet does save Megatron's life of his own volition and repairs him again, but that's after he's lived with Megatron on the same ship for six months (again something that he considers to be a colossally bad idea but is forced to live with because of orders) and got to know him as a person. Not because of bleeding heart syndrome.

Also Ratchet's not just a grouch all the time. He can be blunt but also knows when to be respectful as appropriate to the occasion. He reprimands Wheeljack for being disrespectful to Bumblebee because leaders should be treated like leaders.

The guy's been CMO since Nominus Prime, essentially the highest-ranking of his profession on the planet; you can't get to that type of position and hold it through consecutive leaders for millions of years without considerable interpersonal skills and knowledge of social protocol.

Prowl does have Ratchet on his little blacklist but the stuff on there really just refers to Ratchet saving Verity and Hunter back in Infilitration. I read it as more of a testament to Prowl's pettiness than Ratchet actually being a problem.

[the-very-rubiest]

"Did he leave over creative differences? Was there a falling out?" You guys need to breathe. Sure, maybe there was some headbutting behind the scenes but there's an obvious explanation here. Like yeah sure maybe there was some drama but to put it very bluntly, none of it can hold a candle to the fact that continuing tour life could probably eventually have killed him very dead.

[snarkythewoecrow]

goal met, not saying what the number reflects, but it had been set by past!me, and funny enough I hit it a few hours ago, on the ides of march and my step son's birthday and on the day I finished drafting the first chapter of my own book

I'd been so worried about feeling lost after reaching it, but serendipity is strange bitch and along with my darling muse, who I loathe and love, I suddenly have a new goal to aim for, not a number, but seeing what kinda sandbox I can build for myself

Vampires, bitches! That's all you'll get, but it's good shit, trust me

[love-toxin]

somehow im working less shifts this year and yet the holiday retail season feels more like a knife to my throat than usual 😭 pray for me lovelies to get through this last shift today before i can finally conk out for the holidays

[boinin]

For Tabiori fans, the latest EpiNagi chapter also gave crumbs:

Karasu is enamoured by simple things, such as the beauty of a butterfly leaving its crysallis.

It's also been confirmed that he reveres those whose talents and natural gifts exceed his own.

Off pitch, Karasu must have been smiling as he witnessed Hiori going through his own butterfly-chyrsallis development in round 4 of the NEL.

This is supported by their brief interaction early on in BM v PXG.

[darkwingsnark]

If I wasn't so busy, I'd probably try to come up with an idea out of spite.

But outside of the initial confusion, I thought it was funny. This all came from the same man that openly talks about his wife's boobs in front of us. I think I would have been well within my right to UNO REVERSE the situation.

[mercutiotakethewheel]

Kendra, inwardly: Omg I am so scared right now. I’m going to die here. This freakyass magical creatures about to do me in. And could do so easily, which I am imagining very vividly right now. Those are huge teeth. I am fighting god to hold it together right now. I don’t want to die. Why am I here? Just to suffer, every night I close my eyes and—

Kendra, outwardly: I cast vicious mockery.

[koipalm]

For sy attendant au - what are SQQ attitude and feelings towards SY, if you don't mind me asking?

Because what I read so far hadn't painted him in good light. Like sure - he wants to survive and SY is an key asset in that, but the way he goes around it is... questionable.

so i answered this ask about it but i just realized that i dont think i tagged it with anything so. MY BAD thats my bad

the long and short of it is that sqq is definitely not a good person in this au lol. granted theres less of the overt child abuse because sy is able to stop some of that but sy still is very much a servant to him. one of the better things about this au is that sqq really just sees sy as a means to an end.. there is some attachment to him but sqq really does not really see sy as someone with his own agenda outside of like. living comfortably. its kind of good in a way that like sqq will grant sy a general amount of mobility around the sect because of sy's vague position and he doesnt reeaally care what shen yuan is doing if its not actively doing work for the peak or sqq.

sqq really sees sy as more of like. a political pawn? in a way. like he keeps sy close for appearances around the sect and he does in some way feel like hes doing charity work because by extension of working for him sy is granted a fair amount of power and status. but he doesnt care what shen yuan does in his free time or for fun. sqq is not the worst person of all in this au but he is definitely someone who isnt afraid of using others to help himself. that and like. its definitely a pat on the back for him of being able to say "well you were sent here to take my place and instead of killing you as was my right i HELPED you and i even gave you your own place on this peak and look at you now. youre mingling with some of the best and the brightest that the cultivation world has to offer" like nevermind that he isnt interested in helping sy with his own cultivation lawl

ok that wasnt short at all sorry but sqq is using sy but he also feels like hes helping him a bit. its a pretty unequal give and take so they definitely have an unhealthy relationship. that being said i think sy goes out of his way to misunderstand sqq a lot because he allows his hate of sqq to shape how he sees his actions.. so he doesnt put a lot of effort into actually examining how sqq differs from the book. also now that ive had a lot of time to think on this au i dont really think that sy's end goal in all of this would be to LEAVE as much as it would be he would want an actual firm position and leverage over sqq so he didnt feel so unstable. that and he does feel indebted to sqq. he could probably handle being around the guy if sqq didnt have so much say over his life

[defectivegembrain]

"Everyone should like small talk and do it well and if you don't you're not trying hard enough" Okay listen sweetie that's a cognitive distortion, that's black and white thinking, you're being so rigid and inflexible. You can't expect everyone to follow your little rules, now can you? The whole world can't cater to you. Sometimes people don't like things you like or they find things hard when you don't, and it's not nice to force your own views on them, is it? Fill out this worksheet on appropriate social behaviour, and you'll get a lovely gold star sticker! Come on, no avoidance behaviours now!

[radfemsiren]

While we are speaking about men with large online female fan bases being rapists, add Cody Ko to that list.

Men who make their entire online presence about being “one of the good ones,” and pander relentlessly to their female audience are such red flags, I’m surprised Kurtis Conner wasn’t the first one of that group to be outed as a rapist.