#this is a great representation of our relationship in a nutshell

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I was showing my partner the song “HOT TO GO!” by Chappell Roan and explaining how happy I am to have found another great queer artist that makes me feel things.

All my partner could say was “wait…what does ‘hot to go’ mean?”

Happy Pride!

[historic-old-guard-lover]

The emperor has to be god-king Andy. Also like since nicky and Joe obv have to have the lovers why not have andy and quyhn kissing as the empress.

Another related ask (potentially by the same person):

Also since the fool is a journey's beginning I'd almost want to pick Nile for it. As well there are four characters who commonly have swords (or an axe but close enough) and cards have four corners. So one sword each corner, nicky, joe, andy, and quyhn.

So. Someone has good ideas. Here’s the post that prompted these asks. This made me pull out my tarot deck and go through the cards. Below the cut is a break down of the entire tarot deck. There will be an explanation of the (standard) interpretation of the cards, good then less good, and then my associated headcannon (or more than one if I couldn’t decide). The source is my experience with tarot. I’m trying to minimize repeats, but historic and modern Old Guard members are counted separately. Enjoy.

The Major Arcana (aka the cards most people have heard about)

0. The Fool - the seeker. Naivety. Courage. Living in the moment. Journey’s beginning. All paths available. Folly. Apathy.

Nile. Anon convinced me. Though Booker has got the folly, apathy, and madness down, Nile is ultimately the beginning. She’s naïve but headstrong, and quite frankly a perfect match.

I. The Magician - the trickster. Power, skill, talent. Mastery, self-control, willpower. Subtlety. Divine connection and inspiration. Self-reliant.

Modern Nicky. Definitely Nicky. Just. He’s a formerly very religious man who just says these things. Also sniper.

II. The High Priestess - the moon goddess. Intuition, wisdom, foresight, divination, prophecy. Enlightenment, understanding, intelligence, education. Pride, emotional instability, unforgiving.

Historic Quynh. Her name means “night-blooming flower”, which is very moon goddess vibes to me. Also, I’d say over 500 years in a box turns understanding and enlightenment into emotional instability and unforgiveness.

III. The Empress - the queen. Feminine power, matriarch, mother. Fertility, pleasure, beauty. Success, evolution, movement. Marriage, wealth. Overattachment, domestic upheaval, delay.

Quynh. The counterpart to Andy’s emperor card.

Nile. Let’s be honest, she’s going to take over from Andy some day.

IV. The Emperor - the king. Masculine power, patriarch, father. Authority, leadership, proficiency. Wealth, stability, effectiveness. Perseverance, logic, endurance, experience. Lack of ability, weak character, immature, rebellious.

Modern Andy. She is the leader who’s short-comings effect her entire team. And who doesn’t love a little gender bending? (and her film look is already soft butch)

V. The Hierophant - the religious leader. Tradition, convention, ritual symbolism. Ceremony, religion, morality, philosophy. Mercy, goodness, forgiveness, humility, vulnerability, Impotence, Religious tyranny.

Historic Nicky. I mean, former priest (enough said).

Historic Andy. “I was once worshipped as a god” (enough said).

VI. The Lovers - the lovers. Love, attraction. Compatibility, harmony, choice.  Triumph over trials, vacillation. Entanglement, enmeshment. Infidelity, moral lapse, vice, separation, quarrels, inadequacy, failing tests.

Andromaquynh. *peeks out from behind barricade* I know that most people would just put Kaysanova as this card, but look at all the negatives it is associated with. Sounds a lot more like our immortal wives can really cover the gamut. They have the range....I am a sucker for Kaysanova, though. Even though the beginning of their relationship is rocky, I’d like to think it’s been fairly constant over the years. But let’s reverse the uhaul lesbians and fickle gay men tropes! Sorry, Book of Nile fans. That ship just isn’t established enough for this, I’d say. Maybe one day?

VII. The Chariot - the journey. Ordeal, obstacles, competition. High stakes, ambition, discipline. Conquest, victory, greatness. Right action prevails, overwhelming odds, sudden defeat.

Merrick and/or Dr. Kozak. I mean, this is literally their characters in a nutshell. Merrick is the journey/ordeal for the old guard. He is driven by his ambition, thinks he’s won over impossible odds, and then has a sudden defeat.

VIII. Justice - the balance. Equilibrium, equality, symmetry, harmony. Integrity, honor, fairness, neutrality, moderation. Vindication, self-righteousness, bigotry, prejudice, favoritism.

Nile. This is the woman with a sword card. She brings a balance to the team, she clearly moderates conflict, and I’d love to see BLM art of her in this style. Just sayin.

IX. The Hermit - the seeker-sage. Wisdom, inspiration, contemplation, discretion, understanding. Safety, protection, spiritual quest. Seeking truth and justice. Self-denial, timidity, fear.

Historic Joe. The idealized warrior poet? Definitely just a form of the hermit. Helps explain why a Magrebhi trader/artist fought at the Siege of Jerusalem: spiritual quest. I also like the idea of Joe having a secret reserved side.

X. The Wheel of Fortune - cycles of life. Destiney, evolution and progress, advancement. Manifestation, unexpected events. Success, sudden luck. Ups and downs.

Modern Quynh. There is nothing that better encapsulates her storyline than the wheel of fortune. One day you’re roaming the world with your immortal wife. The next, you’re drowning for over 500 years. The next you’re in Booker’s shitty Paris apartment.

XI. Strength - fortitude. Resilience, courage, resolve, confidence. Integrity, moral victory, endurance. Energy, action, vitality. Power, force, violence. Abuse of power, disgrace, impotence.

Lykon. Do I love this character beyong measure and reason? Maybe so. We have so little to go on about him, however, that the only things we do know bely his strengths. Also, he becomes ultimately the weakest when he dies and encapsulates both “extremes” of the card.

XII. The Hanged Man - the tested. Delay, sacrifice, abandonment, rejection. Betrayal. Reversals, restrained or bound, limbo, trials. Falseness.

Booker. If the fact that his first death was by hanging didn’t convince you? Read that description again. His character arc is literally working through being the hanged man.

XIII. Death - the loss or parting. Alteration, transformation, transition. Boredom, depression, stagnation, failure or disaster. Bereavement, recovery, immobility.

Lykon. He literally represents the fear of death to the remaining immortals. It is HE that they invoke when they discuss it. Also, I’m still mourning my favorite underdeveloped character.

XIV. Temperance - the moderation. Self-control, economy, patience, coordination. Consolidation, harmony, friendship, recuperation. Unfulfilled desires, discord, stubbornness, hostility, clashing of interests. Time, seasons, and climate.

A Safehouse. I don’t think any of the people really capture the tempered essence of this card, the constancy throughout all seasons of life. An actual physical building that rises and falls with (regular) humanity, though, seems to do the trick.

XV. The Devil - the arcane. Magic, strange occurrences, prophecy, fate. Catastrophe, downfall, negative attitude, Temptations, sins, obsessions. Enslavement, bondage, misplaced loyalty, violence, fatality.

Honestly? I’m so torn. I feel like a major commentary of the movie is that our demons are the way people react more so than the people themselves. Maybe the armored van?

XVI. The Tower - the House of God. Disruption, expulsion from an earthly paradise, divine wrath. Punishment (of pride), loss, destructive rivalry, plans ruined. Need to start again, bankruptcy.

The Iron Coffin. While this doesn’t capture the religious undertones quite right, the coffin is the Tower for Andromaquynh, It is (divine? or very human?) wrath brought on by pride since the two probably thought that they would be fine. It is loss and painful new beginnings.

XVII. The Star - the bright promise. Hope, faith, light of the spirit. Recovery, symbols of immortality. Gifts, good prospects, new dawn, frustrated expectations.

Nile. The new immortal, enough said.

Historic Andy/Lykon. In a way, the first immortal would also be a great choice of representation.

XVIII, The Moon - the hidden forces. Twilight, illusion, deception, trickery. Dishonesty, danger, uncertainty, terror. Developments, particularly somewhat concealed. Errors, powerful feelings.

Copley. I know, I know. “He’s the moon when I’m lost in darkness” and all that jazz. But look at this card’s interpretation and notice it’s pretty negative. Copley’s entire role is to pull the strings behind the scenes. He makes headway on problems in secrets, he lies and deceives everyone in the film at some point.

XIX. The Sun - the work’s rewards. Daylight, co-creation, union “of male and female”. Peace, joy, pleasure, love, contentment. Accomplishment, achievement, success. 

Joe. Not only is he the sun, he also fits this card perfectly. He is creation and happiness. Enough said.

XX Judgement - the rebirth. Judgement, sentence. Rejuvenation, renewal, resurrection, call to the new from the old, rehabilitation. Creation, promotion.

Historic Booker. I feel like his backstory with his family helped highlight the theme of rebirth for the Old Guard. They must be willing to give up what they have left behind to move forward. Also, there’s the more literal play as well since Booker was a conscripted criminal.

XXI The World - the long journey. Perfection, completion, conclusion. Power through intelligence and wisdom. The universe and the material world.

A group photo, of course! Beyond that? Who knows.

Historic Andy? She’s seen so much of it. Like just her eyes portray the history of the world.

The Minor Arcana (aka the rest of the cards)

Since most people are only familiar with the major arcana,  I’ll just briefly explain it. The minor arcana are actually the majority of a tarot deck. There are four suits associated with the four elements. Each suit has ten number cards and four court/face cards (traditionally modelled either based on one person or different interpretations of similar costuming). Each number or face has its own meaning, each suit has its own meaning, and their combination mostly explains what the card should be interpreted as. Quite frankly, the minor arcana are vastly underrated in popular understandings of tarot.

Suit of Wands - fire. Spontaneity, action, passion, adrenaline, life force, stroke of genius.

Guns? It’d be a bit of a niche take, but I associate guns with fires.

Staffs? More traditional in shape.

Suit of Coins - earth. Solid growth, material interests, possessions, profit, business, labor, slow and considerate.

Historic currency. Enough said.

Suit of Cups - water. Heartfelt involvements, imagination, spirituality, love, friendship, family.

Fountains around the world. Enough said.

Suit of Swords - air. Worry, trouble, boundaries, objectivity, the power of truth.

Obviously, their weapons of choice. I would go into more detail about who best represents each number, but I don’t want to bore you.

Court of Kings - mature men. Leaders, authority, status-quo, taking responsibility.

Again, most tarot is very gendered. But members in tuxes?

Court of Queens - mature women. Reflective and active, concerned with security/foundations, supportive, focused.

Members in dresses/gowns/anything that glitters?

Court of Knights/Cavaliers - young men. Dynamic, adventurous, intensive, revolutionary.

Tactical gear. Or historical armor. But it’s easier to do tactical gear right than accidentally draw a 15th century helmet on a 14th century suit of armor.

Court of Knaves/Pages - younger women, teenagers, and children. Students, apprentices, trainees, messengers, new opportunities.

Casual clothes.

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EMMERDALE SPOILERS: AARON’S HEARTBROKEN SAYS ACTOR DANNY MILLER

Aaron Dingle takes on ‘cousin’ Mandy when she takes advantage of  the Dingle clan. With Robron coming to an emotional end, Emmerdale actor Danny Miller talks about his new feud and filming Robron’s final scenes…

You’d think with all the turmoil going on in Robron’s lives at the moment the last thing Aaron Dingle would want to do is get embroiled in someone else’s drama – think again! His new nemesis is none other than Mandy Dingle!

Since arriving back in the village, Mandy has been sponging off Aaron’s nearest and dearest – Chas and Paddy, Marlon and Uncle Zak. But when Chas discovers a bag full of stolen casino chips, Aaron steps in. Actor Danny Miller explains more…

“Aaron takes an instant disliking to Mandy when she comes back,” Danny says. “When he finds out from Chas that she’s nicked this bag of casino chips, he wants to knock her down a peg or two, because she’s been asking Paddy, Marlon and Zak for money and the whole time, she has this money in her pocket. Aaron decides to give her a taste of her own medicine, taking the chips off her and takes them to a friend who works in a casino to cash in the chips.”

“Aaron is trying to have as much as fun as he can with Robert. They enjoy having some money in their pocket, especially as they don’t have long left together…”

Given the troubled times ahead for Aaron and Robert, could Aaron be adding to their worries by making an enemy of Mandy. Will she break the Dingle code and retaliate?

“Aaron doesn’t really care that Mandy is experienced in these kind of situation, or if she knows the right people in these situations,” adds Danny. “If anything he’s testing how far he can push her. He doesn’t like his family being mugged off and for that reason he decides to teach her a lesson.

“The pub is closed so Chas is struggling for money, Zak needs a few quid, so in his head the logic is he’s going to nick it, give Mandy a share, pay everyone else in the family, and keep some for him and Robert. He knows she can’t go to the police about it because she’d be dobbing herself in.”

Meeting at the scrapyard, Aaron gives Mandy a dressing down for how she’s treated the family. When he reveals that he’s taking a commission, Mandy goes berserk. A heated argument leads to Aaron ‘accidentally’ dropping the bag of money into the fire pit. Mandy and Vinny are distraught, but is all as it seems? Who has Mandy stolen the money from and will that in turn bring trouble to the Dingle’s door?

“As you can imagine £18,000 cash going in the fire, nobody is going to be best pleased,” quips Danny. “But she’s fuming because she needs the money for something unbeknown to Aaron.

“Aaron just thinks she’s ripping off his family, even though she is family, and he wants to knock her down a peg or two. You can’t come back to the village and think you run this family. he really gives it to her.

“As far as the Dingles are concerned its just the casino that’s out of pocket – but then again I don’t know who owns the casino…”

For Danny, this is the first time he’s got to work with Lisa Riley, who plays Mandy and it seems the two have plenty in common.

“She’s brilliant,” he enthuses. “Someone said she’s the female version of Danny Miller. We got off on the right foot from the start and it bodes well for the future because I love working with her and her character. Aaron and Mandy seem to play off each other really well. I’m a big fan of Lisa’s. Thought she was brilliant in Three Girls and when I went over to Scott and Bailey, the production team sent me her episode to get a feel for the show, and she was brilliant in that.

“I feel very blessed I get to work with Lisa Riley. Her enthusiasm and joy for the job is amazing. I can’t believe I’m getting to work with her. She won’t thank me for saying this but I used to watch her as a kid on You’ve Been Framed, and now we’re actually friends!”

With Robert Sugden’s departure hurtling towards us and the end of the #Robron era, does this mean we’ll see more of Aaron with other members of the Dingle clan?

“Definitely,” Danny exclaims. “Often, because of Robert and Aaron’s partnership, they seem to be inseparable on screen and in their stories which is great for me and Ryan, but we also like to spread your wings and do other things and have our own sense of individuality on the show. I don’t know what’s coming up for the Dingles but I’ll be back working with Jeff Hordley again. Cain and Aaron have always worked really well together, there’s a hidden love there for each other, so working with Jeff again will be incredible. I’m looking forward to him having a bit of rebellion and seeing how Aaron’s life unfold a bit now that he’s lost his one true love.

So how is Aaron feeling in general with Robert’s potential prison sentence looming? Is he is as worst state as the Robron fans?

“He’s heartbroken,” Danny sympathises. “He knows the core of his family will just be ripped away from him. It’s almost inevitable that Robert’s going to prison but we don’t know how long it will be for at this point. He knows he’s going to lose the love of his life but he’s also going to lose him to the worse possible way, which is behind bars.

“Aaron’s been there and done that and we all saw how terribly wrong that went, the mistakes that he made and the impact it had on his family. He’s worried Robert may go down that same route and what it might mean for the relationship. Does he wait for Robert; does Robert wait for him. He’s confused and desperate to cling on to as much love and happiness as he can whilst he’s here.

“In a nutshell, he’s utterly devastated but he’s putting on the bravest of faces to try and not show Robert he’s going to struggle while he’s inside. He’s grabbing every minute with Robert while he can.”

The Robron fandom is a powerful force, with many friendships formed, fundraising for charity, brilliant fan art, fan fiction, etc so the news of the end of an era was always going to be hard. So what’s Danny made of the fan reaction since Ryan’s departure was announced?

“I’d honestly say that for the first time, it’s split down the middle 50/50,” Danny says. “People are angry and upset that the couple are coming to an end and they don’t understand that it’s a decision that every actor should take at some point – to go out there and spread their wings and unfortunately with that you lose the character. And then other people are excited to see what Ryan gets up to and thanking the couple for the stories they’ve told over the past four or five years. That’s the most important thing to the fans, the representation of the couple and the representation of them being two best mates who just happen to be madly in love with each other. As the old saying goes ‘love is love’ and it doesn’t matter who it is with.

“They’ve had some great stories together – breaking up, getting back together, doing stupid things, one night stands, and all that kind of stuff and I think people will miss that and I’ll miss that because I’m also losing a friend as well as my co-star. It’s quite a sad time really but I’m excited for Ryan. I think he’ll do really well and he might be back in a couple of years or that might be it for Ryan at Emmerdale and he’ll go off and do amazing things. Time will tell but all we can do now is tell a story to the best of our abilities to keep a little bit of a surprise even though people know he’s leaving.

Most fans are already dreading the inevitable final scene but imagine being Ryan and Danny! Will those final Robron scenes be weird to film?

“We’ve done a lot of the goodbye, upset ones, and there was real raw emotion in there for both Ryan and myself,” admits Danny. “There was a very emotional scene when I speak to him for the first time when he’s in prison, and at that point I realised it was real and this is actually happening and there were some genuine tears. We’ve been very close Ryan and I over the past four years. It won’t be the same without him but the show goes on and we’ll have to wait and see what happens to Aaron…

After losing Kelvin Fletcher (Andy Sugden), Adam Thomas (Adam Barton), and now Ryan Hawley, Danny’s yet to find a new bromance but its his on-screen sister who he is closest to now.

He explains: “I’m very close to Isobel Steele (Liv Flaherty) and her family and vice versa. I’m often round at her house, we’ve got a really solid friendship there.

When I saw Isobel in the audition I instantly knew she’s going to be a superstar, and we need her, we have to have her here before she gets older and goes off to do more amazing things. Kate Oates, then producer, was in total agreement. Kate said: ‘You need to guide Isobel in the right way and help her out.’ But, I would never tell her what to do but just say this is my advice from my experience and this is what I did wrong. This girl’s got the head and shoulders of an older woman, she’s very clever and talented. All I ever wanted to do is push her on and give her the confidence to express herself and show how good she really is. Now, she’s not afraid to suggest extra little lines or ways to develop a scene. If I’ve had anything to do with it I’m very proud of her, but she’s done it herself, she’s very switched on.

“Also, Lucy Pargeter and Dominic Brunt are my go-to’s – Jeff Hordley and Mark Charnock as well. Those I work the most and closest with. I came in to Emmerdale when I was a kid and every one of them looked after me and mentored and nurtured me in to the business and in to the job. I can’t thank them enough for it.”

Interview by  The Emmerdaily

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Crier’s War (Crier’s War #1) by Nina Varela - Giveaway & Review!

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-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Quick Stats: Overall: 5/5 Stars Characters: 4.5/5 Setting: 5/5 Writing: 5/5 Plot and Themes: 4.5/5 Awesomeness Factor: 4.5/5 Review in a Nutshell: The second I heard this book was LGBTQ+, I put it on my TBR, but I never expected to love with the writing, world, and characters as much as I did.

“Justice was a god, and Ayla didn’t believe in such childish things. She believed in blood.”

-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- // Content Warning: Violence, Death, War Themes, Murder, Mental Illness // Release Date: 10/1/2019 Publisher: HarperTeen Page Count: 448 Premise: The Automae, once created to be the playthings of humans, now rule Rabu, with humans as their servants. Ayla’s family was killed by the Automae when she was a child, and now she serves the House of the Sovereign waiting for her chance to get her revenge and take away his family. Crier is the Sovereign’s daughter, Made to be his heir, but after her betrothal to Scyre Kinok, she realizes that there is much about her kingdom, their history, and herself, that she doesn’t know.

“‘Humanity is how you act, my lady,’ said Jezen. ‘Not how you were Made.’”

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- Writing & Setting -

This book does not feel like a debut novel. The writing style is lyrical, but not overly so. It has a distinct voice, with each perspective differing slightly, making it clear who you’re reading. The writing is easy to read and get absorbed into, while also having a beautiful, almost atmospheric feeling to it. But the world is really where Nina Varela’s effort shows. This is a fantasy world, with a mix of sci-fi, historical, and dystopian elements thrown in. The politics and the history of this world is very intricately crafted, and is crucial to the plot. And while the Automae are very similar to androids and robots from sci-fi, they have unique aspects that make them feel purely original and allows them to fit into this fantasy world beautifully.

“‘Fever and fervor,’ said Junn. ‘There is very little difference, in the end.’”

- Plot -

This book deals heavily with unraveling the truth behind this kingdom’s history and traversing the dangerous political world that history has led to. Because of that, there’s a lot to learn in the beginning. Thankfully, there is a rough timeline of events as everyone believes them to have happened, which helps a lot to understand how this kingdom became the way it is, as well as how it ties into our main characters. However, the first 50-100 pages is a little slow because of everything you have to learn. After that, the book picks up drastically as more is revealed and surprising twists are thrown our way.

“If longing is madness, then none of us are sane.”

(me looking @ stan twitter & tumblr)

- Characters -

Okay, let’s talk about our two main characters, Crier and Ayla. Ayla is strong and determined, she’s lived through a lot and is desperate to have her revenge. I really enjoyed her character because she is clearly flawed, but you still find yourself rooting for her, even when she makes decisions you might disagree with. Then there's Crier. Let’s make one thing clear: I would die for Crier. She is such a great character. She’s slightly naive, but ultimately an optimistic and caring person despite all of the awfulness surrounding her. I just adored her perspective, and her as a character. I also loved her relationship with Ayla. They were just so perfect together!! And this is true enemies to lovers (especially from Ayla’s perspective), so expect all of that fun angst! Ayla and Crier aren’t the only characters in this book. There’s Benjy, Ayla’s best friend, and a good character despite how the fact that he occasionally gets brushed aside. Then there’s Kinok. Kinok is such a fascinating character. I don’t know- I love reading about smart political characters and he is definitely one of them.

"It was never really a choice, was it? Wanting her. Killing her."

this angst is killing me and i love it so much

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- Conclusion -

Pros- Two amazing protagonists, LGBTQ+ rep, fascinating world and history, good writing Cons- Some points can be a little slow Overall- 5/5 stars. Crier’s War is a compelling LGBTQ+ fantasy, with a rich world and beautiful writing. If you’re looking for good representation, an intricately built world, and an amazing enemies-to-lovers relationship, you have to pick up this book

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Of Fire and Stars (Of Fire and Stars #1) by Audrey Coulthurst

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I was thinking about AOT and the first chapter: Eren was crying, probably about what he experienced or will experience before the story ends and the memories will be stored in the attacking titan. That's how Kruger knew about saving Armin and Mikasa before it even happened. However in Eren's dream there is also a moment with possibly Mikasa saying "see you later Eren". I know people disagree on which Eren it's about (Kruger or Jaeger) but actually I was thinking that since (1/2)

it’s the only memory he gets from that dream, maybe it’s a sign that eremika is really going to be plot relevant. Why would he remember Mikasa in particular (and not Armin for example), assuming these memories were really about him and Mikasa? I’m so sorry if this doesn’t make a lot of sense, I love your snk posts so I wanted your opinion. Have a great weekend!

Hello anon! I am happy you enjoy my posts! And don’t worry, your ask makes sense, but since my answer is gonna be pretty long I’ll break it into two parts:

1) Firstly I will address the scene you mentioned and some theories about it.

2) Then I will talk a little bit of Eremika.

1) I agree with you that this scene

and this scene

are both linked to a common plot point which has to do with some worldbuilding elements like the paths among Eldians, the origin of the Founding Titan, the Attack Titan and the truth about Ymir. Until these details remain unknown it is difficult to come up with a perfect explanation for these panels.

You mentioned two theories in your ask:

a) The girl Eren sees in the beginning is Mikasa.

In this case Eren is definately seeing his future and probably him separating from Mikasa since the girl’s words sound like a goodbye. If it’s so then we are inside a time paradox. I have seen people reading the time paradox as a negative loop i.e. a situation where our characters keep struggling, but are never able to overcome tragedy and so Eren keeps living again and again the same experiences in the hope of finally breaking the cycle. People who believe in this theory seem to think that we will either get a bad ending (so the end will be like the beginning with Eren waking up under the tree and the story starting once again without a solution) or, alternatively, we may have an ending where the cycle is finally broken and our characters are finally free to go on and to create a new world.

I would like to propose an alternative (definately crack) theory: the time paradox may actually be a “virtuous” loop i.e. the events we assisted, despite their violence and sadness, are actually necessary to arrive to a positive ending and Eren’s final decision will be to actually accept everything that happened to him and to “send his will back in time” to influence the past events and to be sure that everything goes as it is supposed to go (i.e. as we have seen in the series). Basically I am proposing a time paradox like the one we get in the third book of Harry Potter where the characters going back in time and interfering with the past don’t actually change it, but are used to explain details the protagonists saw the first time and couldn’t understand (like the person saving Harry from the Dementors who turned out to be Harry himself).

Thematically it would be interesting for Eren’s character because he, despite fighting for freedom, is a character who has been enslaved since when his father gave him the titan power. He didn’t choose to become the Attack Titan, so in a sense he has been negated freedom since the very beginning because he isn’t given the chance to personally make that very first choice which kicked off the whole plot. For him to eventually accept what happened and to influence past events so that things go exactly as they went in order to ensure a positive outcome would be a nice touch imo. It would make the whole story a consequence of Eren’s choice and he would regain the agency Grisha took away from him back then.

b) The girl Eren sees is actually a girl important for Eren Kruger.

This theory has its own good points. First of all it’s obvious that Isayama wants us to associate Eren to Kruger:

The fact that Eren used the name Kruger as his alias in Marley and their two designs as children being similar, not to count them having the same name, are all details meant to draw the reader’s attention to the connection between these two characters. If so then we can assume that this connection will be important both thematically (meaning that Eren and Kruger will be characters made to compare and contrast each other) and plot-wise. If their link is relevant plot-wise then it may not be too far-fetched to imagine that, because of some unknown worldbuilding elements (aka Eldian paths or something), the two of them share a special mental connection. This unique mental connection may explain why Kruger mentioned Mikasa and Armin despite not knowing them and why Eren got to see one of Kruger’s memories despite having still to receive the Attack Titan.

Even if this theory were correct, though, this wouldn’t change the fact that the scene Eren saw may be relevant to Eremika:

After all it’s Eren himself who associates the girl to Mikasa and this means that, in the case the girl is someone important to Eren Kruger, their relationship will most likely foil Eremika and this girl may become a parallel to Mikasa like Kruger is to Eren.

In short there is no doubt that the scene in chapter one will be, one way or another, relevant to Eremika and that Eren and Mikasa’s relationship will be (and already is) relevant for the story.

Now I’ll try to answer the second part of your ask.

2) I think that the most interesting thing of Eremika as a ship is that it has been set up to be solved only when Mikasa is able to make herself independent from Eren instead than when the two characters come together:

It’s interesting that we get to see this scene from Mikasa’s POV because we can contrast it with the dream Eren had. At the beginning of the series we have Mikasa looking at Eren with adoration and at the same time we have Eren having a vision of a girl he associates with Mikasa saying goodbye to him. It may very well have been an effective representation of Mikasa’s arc in a nutshell: the very beginning against the very end.

The root of Mikasa’s character is that she is a child who lost her family and who is terrified from the prospective of losing it again and to remain alone:

When she sees both her parents die she doesn’t even have the instinct to run for her life and lets herself get caught without opposing resistance because she has no idea how to live without her family. Then Eren comes into the scene and Mikasa clings to him:

Mikasa’s clinging to Eren becomes even worse after she loses her adoptive family. Let’s also notice that for her to help Eren out was also Carla’s last wish:

It is because of all these circumstances that we see her doing things like this in the beginning:

However, the narrative keeps challenging her on this aspect to the point that I wouldn’t be surprised if, by rereading Mikasa’s arc at the end of the series, it would turn out that the whole story was preparing her to say goodbye to Eren (and possibly to Armin):

After all Mikasa has been now tricked twice into thinking that she was losing a member of the costitutive group representative of her happy childhood. To me these two occurrences seemed rehearsals to what will be Mikasa’s final trial. Moreover, she is even told that both Armin and Eren won’t live long:

It’s as if the narrative is warning her that she has to move on and to become more independent because one’s life isn’t reduced to the family nucleus one is born in, but a person can forge new relationships and find warmth and happiness even outside it.

In short Mikasa’s story starts with her being totally unable to face a traumatic loss and it is possible that it will end with her having become strong enough to actually let go. It would be a beautiful way to end her arc imo because it would tie it back to her original trauma (her family being killed) and would solve it together with her relationship with Eren who firstly taught her that she could keep on living even without her loved ones.

What about Eren?

It seems to me that Eren is ironically doing to his friends what Mikasa did to him in the beginning:

Mikasa in the beginning was constantly trying to protect Eren to the point of objectifying him to an extent and of trying to control him. Now, in the last chapter we have seen how protecting the people he cares about is still a pretty strong motivation of Eren’s character:

However, he is doing it by dismissing their opinions and their feelings and by isolating himself in the process:

It’s interesting that we see Eren in front of a mirror this chapter because the place each one of EMA is at tells us something about their current state of mind.

So we have Armin in front of an enemy trying to communicate without receiving any answer exactly like any chance of dialogue with Marley has now been lost:

Then we have Mikasa who is at Sasha’s grave, but isn’t actually looking at it (she is behind the grave and not in front of it) as if she couldn’t force herself to truly face the consequences of what Eren did:

She touches her scarf instead and repeats Eren’s mantra despite Sasha’s death basically proving it wrong. They won. Sasha still died.

Finally we have Eren alone, in front of a mirror:

He isn’t seeing neither his enemies (like Armin) nor his comrades (like Mikasa), but is seeing only himself. Again, I don’t mean that he doesn’t care about others, he does, but he has assumed a self-centred prospective: he wants to protect his friends and family and will fight against whoever wants to hurt them disreguarding both who they are and what his loved ones think about the matter.

Back in Trost Mikasa was so desperate to protect Eren that she would have disreguarded her duty as a soldier in order to keep him safe and would have indirectly sacrificed others’ lives she could have saved with her strength for this reason.

In that situation it was Eren himself who woke Mikasa up and urged her to do the right thing. Now I think Eren needs a headbutt as well and it might be Mikasa the one to deliver it (since I think Armin will leave the other two). However, she will be able to do so only if she is ready to actually enter into an open conflict with Eren.

I don’t know if I was of any help! Thank you for the ask and sorry I took a while to answer it! And have a great week!

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Maintaining long lasting relationships

There is a lot of advice literature available on that topic. And there is a lot of demand. When I studied Psychology, I learned about love and relationships as well. I thought (with a smile): “Ok, great, once I am finished, I will mount my shingle and offer relationship advice and become rich”. In fact I as expecting to find the holy grail and passing it on to you for lots of money. Well, you now can read it for free in this Blog :-)

In the beginning I was a little bit disappointed because they hints I got were not quite new and some of them appeared rather to be “blah blah blah”, instead of hard scientific facts. On the other hand I then realised that the scientific models I learned about to some extent can be seen as the botton line. So if you incorporate the following advice into the processes of your relationship, you might have an edge over those who do not.

What is a relationship? What are essential ingredients?

There are several approaches to that question. I give you the cognitive one: A relationship is a mental model comprising representations of you, your partner and the relationship.

That sounds impractical scientific but it points you to the aspects to take care of. It’s a about the following questions:

How do I perceive (the quality of) our relationship?

What’s my attitude towards it?

Do you think you are doing alright?

How does your partner perceive (the quality of) your relationship?

What’s his/her attitude towards it?

Does he/she think that he/she is doing alright?

All that sounds very simple. That’s the good news. The sometimes bad news is that those aspects are crucial for a working relationship:

Only if you and your partner agree that the relationship is important for both of you and you want to maintain it, it has chances to last.

You can work on your attitude. To some extent you can influence your partners attitute (how about flowers?) - but a lot depends also on how your partner manages emotions and attitudes. To some extent that’s a black box with an undefined outcome.

Then there is the part about whether you are doing alright and the same for your partner. This is something you need to work on bitaterally. Issues arise if you find no consensus, for instance if you think everything you do is in order while your parner suffers, because he/she lacks something etc.

Achieving consensus.

The secret about long lasting relationships in a nutshell is ...

...to be able to talk together about specific aspects of your relationship and your relationship as a whole.

This means that both of you must be able and willing to view your relationship from a meta-level (helicopter perspective) and critically analyse pressing issues.

All that sounds very simple but can become quite tricky when addressing emotionally loaded topics. Some of them are faith, money, lodging. This list is of course incomplete.

Typically that won’t work off the cuff - you will need some practice and develop kind of a reflecting-our-relationship-culture. When you both want to achieve it, you have good chances. You can identify timing and places, when and where reflection works best. You can develop rituals how to do it. You can ask someone to mediate you (if you can agree on a person you both trust in). You can use means like mind-mapping and techniques to better illustrate your common point of view.

What you need to accomplish is to jointly reflect your partnership.

My partner and I had issues with that but found our way over the years. We jointly crafted mind-maps about scenarios leading to escalation (in the sense of fighting) and thought of ways how to deescalate then. When we found ourselves in such a situation, we picked our mind-maps and searched for a solution. If we forgot about it, we jointly decided to do better next time. We are currently in the 17th year and will marry next May. Just as a side note.

So if both of you

Care about the relationship

Are willing to contribute to make it long lasting

Are open to develop a cultur of reflection enabling you to sort out even emotionally loaded topics

then you are on a good way.

All the best for you and your beloved ones!

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Supervising Artistic Research Doctorates

I just took part in this excellent event by the Orpheus Institute: Feed-back, Feed-forward: Approaches to artistic feedback in doctoral supervision. This session has close relations to two other large EU projects on Artistic Research which are well-worth a look for their thought-provoking and supportive documentation: ADIE (Artistic Doctorates in Europe), and Advancing Supervision for Artistic Research Doctorates. Here are some brief notes on things I picked up today and yesterday. Please excuse the fragmentary nature of the bullet-point format; much of this is paraphrased—simply what I was able to type (furiously) while listening—but hopefully it is an accurate and useful representation.

Simon Waters discussed his approach to supervision with excellent advice especially in terms of practical advice about the relationship between candidate and supervisor. 

The importance of having significant discussion with the candidate before they apply. This helps in several areas (and might head-off some complications down the line): to establish both the direction and viability of the project, and the skills of the candidate in relation to that project; begins a relationship of trust between supervisor(s) and candidate, knowing they will spend 3+ years in close contact.

The importance for the student of learning how to ‘play’, to be creatively playful as a mode of thinking and research.

the value of the supervisor challenging the student in a productive way.

Importance of the supervisor establishing distance from the way they were taught, or their own PhD experience. All students are individual and the supervisor should be reflective and self-critical about how their own experience shapes how they see candidates (and their projects). This isn’t to abandon your own experience, simply to be critical and not make assumptions.

This self-criticality also extends to tools/skills the student has to develop so they can be reflective in and around their practice: ethnographies of the self, self-observation etc.

My favourite phrase from this was the idea of ‘supervising the unknown’, in being present with the candidate on a journey that is necessarily contingent and emergent. This idea is picked up below in the Wesseling session.

Janneke Wesseling’s talk was on ‘Explicating the Intuitive’, and was especially useful for my own thinking on how artists navigate the PhD with its requirements for intuition to be explained (usually) through words of some sort. I took a solid four pages of notes on this session, which I summarise below to present the themes (roughly): though I haven’t yet read it, this paper by Wesseling might cover some of the same ground.

the importance of intuition as central to practice, developed over years of embodied training.

research is driven by intuition and personal vision

Key to ‘objectifying the subjective’, especially through writing, and dialogue with peers.

note that this is distinct from ‘objectivity’ as discussed in relation to scientistic research. Rather ‘objectifying’ is about putting the research into the modality of objecthood, placing it on the table for all to see and engage with play with.

which leads to the importance of artists being able to discuss what it is they are doing. That the ‘public dimension of research is its core business’.

which is not a reference to impact, but a reference to making research transferrable and part of discourse.

Wesseling cites Brian Massumi’s  ’The Thinking-Feeling of What Happens' for its discussion of art and philosophy speaking to each other, being ‘part of the same ripple pool’

The importance of staying true to the hunch that begins the research, which usually arises through practice [and must be explore through practice].

HOW TO EXPLICATE THIS INTUITION

Wesseling draws significantly on new-materialist around the breaking of the subject/object divide. Karen Barad’s ‘intra-action’ is especially important here around the ideas of knowing as direct engagement with material (see Barad New Materialism: Interviews & Cartographies, ed. By Rick Dolphijn and Iris van der Tuin (Ann Arbor: Open Humanities Press, 2012))

also, Bruno Latour on the theory/practice divide as a unity fractured by the blow of a powerful hammer.

Phrasing the research question is main tool in explicating

The biggest challenge is to find the question, but no serious research is possible without it 

Research is a way of asking questions. 

Often the central question is only truly revealed at the END of project, but the question evolves and adapts across project 

The initial question just needs to be productive enough to start.

Wesseling leans on Whitehead’s notion of question as a productive limit or constraint, a ground for action. Also, Stengers (in Thinking with Whitehead) 'we must limit ourselves to the problem that has been raised, and trust our problem'.

Whitehead’s concept of the ‘foothold of the mind’, and trusting the foothold to continuously ground the research as it develops. That this footholding is the condition of experimentation.

The candidate, when trying to come up with a question begins in the phase that is mainly felt, not fully understood: ’this feels important!'. It’s key to follow that intuition and build on it, find footholds with concentrated attention and detailed specific investigation.

Heloisa Amaral presented a very useful workshop on the DasArts Feedback Method, developed by philosopher Karim Bennamar together with staff and students from the performing arts school DasArts (Amsterdam), As Amaral says: “This encourages feedback givers to address an issue without judgement and from different positions, as well as to more clearly and creatively justify this positioning in relation to the needs of the artist receiving feedback. Furthermore, the Method places great focus on the responsibility of feedback-receivers in formulating what they need, what they are looking for, and what they are struggling with. In a nutshell, it is about learning to ask the ‘right’ questions in order to get the ‘right’ questions back.” A key insight that I found useful here was in using specific language and response formulations to create distance from simply expressing opinion, and usefully focussing the feedback.

The exercises include:

1) affirmative feedback: ‘what works for me is X'

2) perspectives feedback, speak from someone else’s shoes. For example, ‘as X I need Y’, e.g. ‘as an audience I need more context’ etc.

3) open questions, make you think through a specific position, not about yes/no answers. Possibly generating new avenues of thought: making them think about something without telling them what to do.

4) concept-reflection and methodology. Placing concepts in the space and allowing free reflection and exploration on these concepts

5) tips and tricks: specific advice with emphasis on being precise, e.g. 'why book X useful might be useful for your question/practice'

Finally, Vida Midgelow’s workshop on ‘Creative practice in/as Feedback’. As Midgelow says, the session “shares findings and proposals arising from research undertaken by ‘Artistic Doctorate in Europe’. This will be interwoven with light, collaborative and playful activities that aim to develop self-reflection, challenging us to move beyond traditional models of direct critical feedback, toward more expansive and creative modalities.” The website above offers several excellent resources, but key points for me in this session included:

Thinking of the feedback process as slow, of allowing, listening, waiting.

Moving from ‘what is a thing’ to 'entering the experience of a thing'.

Challenging the idea of ‘supervision’ into something that embraces complexity and attunement. 

taking ideas of supervision from other domains. The idea of supervision as ‘assistance’ or as ‘seconding’ (from psychotherapy). Tim Ingold’s idea of the meshwork of interaction and exchange. Ideas from Dance Movement Psychotherapy of  reflective conversations, transitional awareness, somatic engagement.

Coming to language from experience, avoiding naming too quickly, and allowing instead the emergence of thick description: ‘attending-to’, ‘noticing what you notice’. Narrativising experience not to critique it but to open it up: how do we pay attention to the how-ness of ourselves in any situation?

starting from looking for the ‘miraculous moment’ in the work, which might not be obvious to anyone else.

This is at best a snapshot, but I encourage readers to consider these ideas/positions/prompts and seek out the more expansive documentation linked above. The Advancing Supervision for Artistic Research Doctorates project has a conference in Summer 2021 that is worth keeping an eye on for developments and resources.

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How Kundalini Reiki Incredible Useful Ideas

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What Happens During A Reiki Session

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Reiki And Chakra Clearing

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30 Things I Discovered Prior To Turning 30 (About Life & Marketing).

As an online marketer, I make sure you have actually heard it at some time or another: people ages 18-34 are the "essential market."

They're the movers-and-shakers. The ones in-the-know. The ones with loan to invest. They're the ones you wish to know and like your brand name, let alone buy from it.

Well, good friends, today is my 30th birthday, my golden birthday, in truth ... and, while my beautiful brand name colleagues are going to roll their eyes and hate me for saying this, that implies my remaining days of importance are limited.

Marketing By Nature

Ok, yes, that was a little bit of an exaggeration, but after 3 decades in this skin, I have actually discovered that sort of drama is simply a part of my brand.

I've also discovered numerous other unexpected lessons that have actually shown to be beneficial in both my personal life and my life as a marketer and material specialist.

You see, I've only been in this industry expertly for about nine years, however, in that time, I've found many parallels in between being a good online marketer and, honestly, just being a good person.

In a nutshell, both boil down to:

Being able to understand and interact with other individuals well

Accepting your genuine self

If you can master these areas, you'll likely not just be a better individual but a better marketer-- but I'm getting ahead of myself.

I've invested the previous 4 years of my work life (and frankly some quite powerful years of my twenties) helping my colleagues at IMPACT, factors, and sponsors, find out how to much better refine their voices and share their stories.

I've always motivated them to share lessons huge and little from their experiences, however I haven't constantly had the possibility to practice what I preach.

Indulge me for a few minutes.

Taking a page out of Taylor Swift's book (minus those chapters about Kanye and John Mayer), here are 30 lessons I discovered marketing and life prior to turning 30. Some of these may seem apparent or irrelevant, however that does not make them any less real or worth duplicating.

1. Pretty Doesn't Mean Perfect.

Whether you're talking style or marketing imaginative, design does not top function. A style requires to always solve an issue and attain the goal you set for it.

Much like an unsightly hat can still keep your head warm, an unsightly site or graphic can still deliver results. Just take a look at Craig's List or Reddit. They might not be the most impressive or sophisticated designs, however nobody can argue with their effectiveness.

2. Do not Do It Simply Since It's Trendy.

This is another lesson about individual style I have actually discovered for many years, however it calls unquestionably real for marketers also.

Just since something is popular does not suggest it's best for you.

Everyone and business is different situations, requirements, and objectives to think about. Prior to you begin a brand-new strategy, tool, (or that set of skinny jeans, for that matter), consider what you're trying to accomplish and your audience.

If the pattern will not move you towards accomplishing what you desire (or make you look your finest), skip it.

3. Individuals Do Not Always Know What They Desired.

Despite what they may think, individuals do not constantly know what they really desire. They'll declare something, then do another, and that's no different when it comes to buying habits.

Time and time once again, we've surveyed people to inquire their preferences, just to see their habits not echo it. There are so numerous unconscious things that motivate us as people, particularly in the heat of a minute.

That being said, trust actions and user screening. Action speaks louder than words.

4. You Still Required to Listen.

There are times to use tough information and deal with individuals's unconscious behavior and there are times to take their word.

Just put, don't manipulate individuals.

In many instances, it's much better to offer individuals what they understand they desire, so they know you are listening and care about what they think. Individuals simply desire to be heard. Showing they were builds trust and, in turn, a better relationship.

That being stated ...

5. Don't Take Trust for Granted.

As soon as you've made somebody's trust, do not abuse it. Without trust, nobody will wish to work, purchase, or likely even be around you.

It's that simple.

6. Absolutely Nothing Lasts Permanently.

This is something I've had a hard time pertaining to terms with as I lost some liked ones in the last few years, but expertly, it's simply a truth.

EFFECT Partner, keynote speaker, author, and all-around amazing guy, Marcus Sheridan preaches that when it concerns material and marketing, the concepts behind why we do things will never alter, however the how (tools, practices, and so on) always will.

That being said, no material you develop is most likely ever truly evergreen. It will constantly require to be upgraded with brand-new data, examples, etc to showcase how things are done today. Exact same goes for your site.

7. Represent Something.

Modern buyers gravitate towards brands that represent a cause and share the very same worths and issues they do. It helps guide their options and makes them feel a little bit better about their purchase, understanding they supported a good cause.

Strong values and knowing what you believe undoubtedly also assist you in your personal life. They can help you discover the right task or friends and perhaps even assist them find you.

8. Variety & & Inclusion Are Strengths.

What do I mean? More than anything, variety, addition, and representation. In a lot of areas of my life, I have always been a minority, an outlier even ... but I've constantly attempted to bear in mind that this isn't a bad thing.

Diversity and inclusion whether it remains in gender, race, religious beliefs, sexual orientation, or otherwise, are always a good idea.

They bring more perspectives and concepts to the table and better allow you to reach a broader audience. They make individuals feel welcome.

Numerous may not want this (as I experience first hand) or perhaps shy away from resolving it, however as marketers and humans, our goal is to get in touch with other individuals. The very best method to do that is by making them seem like they belong.

9. Commitment Is Invaluable.

Discovering people who will stand by you or your brand through anything are rare. When you do, treasure them and treat them right.

10. It's OK to Program Your Defects.

We reside in a society where whatever and everyone is so airbrushed, finding things that aren't is a breath of fresh air.

It's an indication that you're genuine and honest; that you're not trying to fool anyone into thinking something that isn't true.

This openness, again, constructs trust and, frankly, makes you more human and pleasant. Do not hesitate to reveal your genuine face to everybody you meet.

11. Always Admit When You're Wrong.

In a comparable vein to showing flaws, if you're wrong or slip up, own it. Trying to hide a shortcoming will only make you look even worse in the eyes of those around you.

12. Start With What You Have.

If the plastic bag of plastic bags in my work locker does not inform you, I'm big on resourcefulness. Why waste loan and time when you have something you can recycle?

The same can be said about content. Considering trying video or Pinterest? Don't start from scratch. Take some of your best carrying out existing material and reimage it for the medium and audience.

13. Do not Simply Be a Yes (Wo)Man.

As William Wrigley Jr. when stated, if two men agree, one of them is unnecessary.

Simply put, varying opinions and perspectives are essential. Do not be afraid to disagree if you have useful factors to. Speak up!

14. Be Honest.

Say what you mean and indicate what you say. Lying or purposefully misspeaking about what you think or desire will never result in a great result long term.

15. Technology Isn't Foolproof.

My whole task, like much of yours I'm sure, lies behind a computer screen. And while technology can make life substantially simpler and more hassle-free, it isn't sure-fire.

When the web is down, it's like all the cages were exposed at the zoo around here! Strategy appropriately.

16. Fulfilling People In Individual Still Matters.

Similarly, meeting people practically is easier than ever thanks to technology, however it still can't top event face to face.

The experience of shaking somebody's hand, providing a hug, or having the ability to share area with them is an entire various type of bonding. So, go to occasions. If you work remotely, visit your office. This real-life face time is unrivaled.

17. There's a Time to Be Clever And There's a Time to Be Clear.

I'm a writer; wordplay is my jam-- but you need to know when it is appropriate.

When it pertains to communication, never compromise the clearness of your message just to sound clever. It does not matter how terrific what you're stating is if nobody can comprehend it.

18. The Law of Reducing Returns Is Genuine.

A few years back, we increased our content output anticipating increased traffic, however we didn't see it. Our audience, in reality, informed us they couldn't keep up and numbers plateaued and even dropped.

The reality exists are limitations to everything. You can only consume numerous cookies. You can just stroll many miles. Markets get saturated. People reach critical mass with just how much content they have the ability to take in and you require to keep your eye on this.

That stated ...

19. Quality Always Tops Amount.

Would you rather be in a room with 10 complete strangers or in a room with two of your friends? How about releasing 10 terrible short articles that get lost in cyberspace or 2 that you're happy of and Google ranks on the first page?

In practically every scenario, quality is more important than quantity.

20. Free Does Not Mean Great.

Do not get me incorrect-- I'm the queen of giveaways, but do not underestimate your audience and believe they'll complete a type or take anything you offer them simply because it's totally free.

People still want and demand quality, and you ought to too.

21. Emotion Doesn't Make You Weak.

I was never ever a psychological individual till a little over 3 years earlier. I had never even cried at a movie, however my world came crashing down when my cousin died all of a sudden and the pain seeped into every element of my life.

I cried more than I've ever cried in my life and in front of associates I 'd never want to see my weakness-- but that's the important things. Gradually, I have actually begun to discover it's not a weak point.

Emotion is human.

Being able to show, capture, comprehend, and express real emotion in way that can touch others is a powerful ability as a marketer and a person. In both cases, it makes individuals feel closer to you; it helps bond them to you and it shows them you understand them on a much deeper level.

So ...

22. It's OKAY to Get Personal.

Again, people wish to be around and do organisation with other individuals. When you get individual and are vulnerable about your experiences, you are more capitivating.

23. Forgive Yourself for "Failing."

Whether it was a relationship or a project folded, often things don't go as prepared. Actually, things practically never ever go as prepared. Dust yourself off and attempt again. You only stopped working if you didn't find out anything from it.

24. Don't Propose After the First Date.

Mentioning stopped working relationships, regard the natural development of human interaction whether it be expert or individual.

Simply like you would not propose after a very first date when someone is simply learning more about you, do not go in for the hard sell after a very first meeting.

In neither of these scenarios is the person likely looking to seal the offer, so sluggish it down.

25. Produce Excellent Memories.

Individuals love to talk about "the great times." As a brand, you must be creating excellent memories like these for your buyers and as a person, do it for your soul.

26. You Can't Make Everyone Pleased.

There's constantly going to be a critic or someone who disagrees with what you do or say so don't set out to attempt to make everybody pleased. Concentrate on those who actually matter-- your audience; your enjoyed ones.

27. Be Yourself.

They say replica is the greatest form of flattery, but it also means that you're just one of many. Welcome what makes you or your brand name special and different or you'll get lost in the crowd.

Plus, people can always sense when you're trying to be something you're not and absolutely nothing is a bigger turn-off.

28. Take Dangers.

Threats can be scary, however only since they can be life-altering. So, take the leap. I'm not stating be reckless, but if an opportunity or concept will not ruin everything you have actually worked for, offer it a shot.

If it does not work out, remember # 23.

29. Discomfort Is Great.

If a scenario makes you uncomfortable, it's most likely just because it's something you've never ever experienced prior to. It's an opportunity to grow and discover. Embrace it.

30. You Never Ever Stop Knowing.

Like much of you, when I was maturing, 30 appeared ancient.

When I hit that age, I would be an old female. I would have seen everything, experienced whatever, and discovered whatever. I would have whatever determine-- however that, undoubtedly, was unreasonable.

Whether it pertains to work or life, there is always something new to be discovered and enhanced.

Both digital marketing and life are constantly changing and I certainly do not know nearly everything about either of them. I do know that as I keep discovering and developing in both arenas, I will be thrilled and honored to share my lessons with all of you.

Here's to formally being thirty, wordy, and thriving.

This content was originally published here.

[beingsecure]

Enriched & Enlightened #PSOSMatIIITH

Being Master’s student in the field of information security at IGDTUW, My main focus of interest is “Right of BEing SECure”. To work in the same direction of an applied domain of security and privacy, the first name comes to one’s mind is Social media. It's natural as you can see your friends, family members, and relatives etc. face many security and privacy issue on such social networking platforms. Being Information security student, it’s my moral duty to learn and use skills to build up such system which can give an essence of being secure.

For the same cause, I was fortunate to join summer school on Privacy and Security in Online Social Media at IIITH organized by Precog research under the supervision of PK sir.

#PSOSMatIIITH was not only hash tag on social media, it was like a shower of knowledge in every desirable dimension in the field on online social networks(OSN), which results in a rainbow of different aspects of security, privacy, and sociology in the context of OSNs.

The journey began in the way that my Guide Prof. Rishabh Kaushal told us about this summer school on PSOSM and boost up students to join it to explore eternity of different issue of OSNs. As I was already familiar with PK sir’s work as being his NPTEL student for #PSOSM course, so I decided to join #PSOSMatIIITH. Along with me, there were 14 more students from my college IGDTUW, who joined this summer school with same enthusiasm from 3rd JULY 2017 to 7th July 2017.

This summer school made happen so many things to me first time like my first flight and first ever time being in Hyderabad that too in IIIT.

#DAY0- After letting feet in IIITH on 2nd JULY 2017- there is ‘technical issue solving session’ by PreCog’s http://precog.iiitd.edu.in/ mentors team which had reached one day before us to help us at max. Almost all queries were solved by mentors and everything was setup for the beginning of summer school.

#DAY1-

Breakfast at IIITH mess was yummy, and I was totally in flavor of #PSOSMatIIITH after getting #PSOSMatIIITH kit ;)

The introduction of summer school: PK sir explained us – WHY we are here, what should be our aim and how should we gain max out of this summer school.

Dr. Vasudev Verma sparked the wisdom to do great in summer school by calling us “SOCIAL MEDIA Soldier”, whose fight is against unwanted elements over different OSNs.

Mr. ROB Sherman (DP officer at FACEBOOK), gave his talk about dedicated efforts of Facebook in direction of “making privacy personal”. QA session was mind blowing as new ideas were there on the desk. After his talk, there was a short break, which was intended to have interaction with speakers. PK Sir’s was the main emphasis was on everyone should get interact with as many intellectuals as possible.  Interaction with Mr. ROB was awesome.

After then, Dr. Krishna Gummadi’s talk was on “Targeted advertising on social Media: Transparency, control, fairness, and privacy.

Now it was the time of getting our hands dirty in lab session under potential mentor Divyansh (Research Associate at IIITD).We have dedicated mentors also for the full day. Every mentor including Anupma, Srishti, Neetu, and Kushagra was so helping that it seriously made life easy at #PSOSMatIIITH.

Next lab session was with Kushagra (Research Associate at IIITD).Mentors were helping everyone for small to big issue. We were gaining hacks from their experience of years, which they gained by hard work in OSNs.

3rd talk on the same day was by Dr. Manish Gupta on “Social Network Analysis”.

In this way, the Full day was caricatured by #PSOSM team as most worthy day.

Another Best thing about summer school was the perfect management of food with exact timings by the administration, special Thanks to Pooja ma’am and prof. Suryakanth v. Gangashetty.

I explained DAY1 in this much detail because I can’t cut it short.

#DAY2: Next day I was full of Zeal and joy to learn more. The day started with Kushagra’   Discussion on various Twitter and Facebook API endpoints, Rate limits & Data Collection from Twitter and Graph API as lab session.

Dr.Vasudev was once again on the floor. We were honored to get light on “Social networks- Noise and signals”.

I was amazed to see what real people were doing in the real world, how they think, how they select problem, how they contribute to making a better online society, how they present their work so elegantly so beautifully. They love to take our question. They just love to satisfy our query. People were getting light on their ideas, getting correct direction and it was feeling to be at the right place with right brains at right time.

After prof. Anupma Joshi's Talk on “Security, privacy, and social Media”, we moved to lab session by Divyansh.

Now PK sir was there to boost up us by collecting manual word cloud of the day, 75+ participants with different grasping of same content were speaking up their point of view on the same platform.

Finally, one more Perfect day added in Hyderabad Diary @PSOSMatIIITH.

#Day3: Day of Ideation -

The third day embedded with Lecture by Dr. Niloy Ganguly on “Computational journalism” and Lab session by Anupma (Ph.D. student at IIITD).

Now it was Ideation session was lunch, yesterday PK sir asked us to prepare our idea to present on the single slide over projector as team/individual project related to online social networks. More than 20 teams presented their ideas in front of all of us. Everyone got direction from PK on their project for this betterment. Our team including four members Astha, Chhavi, Himani and me. We presented our idea on “Scoring false/spam accounts over social media platforms”.

Here I would like to mention one more thing which touched our heart that was supporting staff at IIITH was awesome. They are quite helpful 24*7. They were abided to help us as much as they can in every possible manner. I really want to put my vote of thanks to organizing summer school at IIITH. Seems like Research is in its air.

In nutshell, Ideation session was awesome full of enjoyment with ultimate discussion between presenters and audience, plus added humor by PK sir: D

Finally, one more remarkable day added in Hyderabad Diary @PSOSMatIIITH.

#Day4:

Day started by Dr. Saiket Guha from Microsoft, “An OUT OF THE BOX talk”, most needed one as beginner researcher.

After then, lab session by Srishti (Ph.D. student at IIITD) on Adjusting Visualization Parameters and Basics of Social Network Analysis. Which was like a cherry on the cake of #PSOSMatIIITH learning for the beautiful representation of data.

There was one more talk by Dr.Amitava das, which was exclusively on the relationship of sociology & psychology and online social media. This led towards open challenges and way to think beyond fixed route.

 After class, it was the time when left brain met with the right brain. it was time to get colored in color of Hyderabad. There was a cultural fest organized by famous state artists. They sang beautiful Tamil and Telugu songs plus English ones too.

Finally, one more significant day added in Hyderabad Diary @PSOSMatIIITH.

#DAY5:

D-Day came-

People say time flies, but I must say time spent at #PSOSMatIIITH will remain in the core of the heart and root of the mind.

Now it was time for most awaited talk i.e.; PK sir’s talk. He told about his super exciting projects, works, and publication. He reflected hard work done in collaboration with his student army. His impression is like Research is to see what everybody else has seen, and think what nobody has thought.

Now it was Groufie/selfie time, yes … you got it right “Certification time”. Everyone was getting the certificate of participation in #PSOSMatIIITH from PK sir.

There are few clicks from snapshot of time-

Looking at the photograph urges me to enter in that moment anyhow and re-live those 5 days at PSOSM summer school at IIITH. I tried to put my experience in words which were never ever sufficient to defined place and role of this summer school in my life. It gave me a chance to meet with wonderful persons like Deeksha(My roomie for 5 days in Parul Nivas, IIITH), Sanchit, Alok, Arvind, Ph.D. scholar Lalit and much more. At last, I greatly appreciate IIITD, IIITH, Precog members & our mentors. I am very thankful towards Rishabh sir for guiding us to join PSOSMatIIITH. I am also grateful towards my family and my friends sp. Chhavi and Himani to support me for being in such worthy summer school #PSOSMatIIITH.

At last but not least

PK Sir,

Any Infinite loop of “Thank you” will not be sufficient to convey my humble gratitude towards you. I am blessed to noticed by you, to heard by you and to be guided by you. Thank you so much for organizing such great Life changing #PSOSM at IIITH.

Keep Inspiring, Keep Guiding! 

Congratulations to you and your team!

-With sincere gratitude ~ Vasundhara Ghose

[cameronsaunders95]

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[yourgodmoments]

Christ’s Foot Soldiers - part 2

Last time we looked at how to increase our ability to facilitate other people’s entry into the kingdom of God by accepting Christ as their Savior - in short, to be better evangelizers. We also examined how to use those enhancements to introduce the gospel to those who don’t feel that they need saving.

Well, what if you approach someone who says that they want to hear what you have to say? ‘Hallelujah,’ is what you’ll probably say to yourself. Still, you don’t want to pass over the spiritual necessities they need to absorb in their heart to consummate their readiness and desire for salvation.

Whoever you’re approaching, keep your gospel-telling conversational, not a fire-and-brimstone monologue. Ask questions that give them openings to tell you what their pre-conceived beliefs are. Lead them to feel that they came to the gospel understanding on their own. That is when people are ready to believe. God can strip their egos later…

Previously, we concentrated on how better to deliver the gospel. Now, let’s spend a little time with the message itself. We might want to open with what it is that we all need saving from:

So whoever knows the right thing to do and fails to do it, for him it is sin. Jas. 4:17 ESV

“…for there is no one who does not sin…” 1 Kin. 8:46 NKJV

For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord. Rm. 6:23 CSB

Simple. It’s death! And, we are all found guilty of practicing sin, which leads to it.

Next, we can talk to them about what is drawing their attention to salvation:

He has also planted eternity [a sense of divine purpose] in the human heart [a mysterious longing which nothing under the sun can satisfy, except God]… Eccl. 3:11 AMP

God Himself is clamoring for their attention, because He loves them and wants to spend eternity with them. And He has a plan for that: salvation through Jesus Christ. It is through the blood of Christ that saves us, and the power of the Holy Spirit that brings Jesus to reside in us, when we accept Him as Savior and Lord over our lives.

Jesus came to save us from our sins. In fact, much of His earthly ministry consisted of saving the sinful in His proximity, hanging out with the outcasts.

The veracity of His divinity as the Son of God was demonstrated in His miraculous deeds, His irrefutable gospel, His sinless life, and through His resurrection.

Through Christ, we connect with God the Father, as well as the Holy Spirit, so that we have the Divine Dream Team Triumvirate living within us, caring for us and pointing us in the right way.

Christ died for you, just as much as He died for me and for everybody else. When that happened, Jesus removed all barriers between you and God by becoming your God-connection.

And [at once] the veil [of the Holy of Holies] of the temple was torn in two from top to bottom… Mt. 27:51 AMP

Therefore, believers, since we have confidence and full freedom to enter the Holy Place [the place where God dwells] by [means of] the blood of Jesus… Heb. 10:19 AMP

Thus, you get to know and have a relationship with the all-powerful, all-knowing, ever-present, eternal and changeless holy Creator of the universe. That may sound overwhelming, but there are surefire ways to have that happen.

First, God wrote the Bible through the prophets and the apostles, by way of the Holy Spirit. It tells us most of what we need to know about how He feels and what He’s like:

“The LORD, the LORD God, compassionate and gracious, slow to anger, and abounding in lovingkindness and truth (faithfulness); keeping mercy and lovingkindness for thousands, forgiving iniquity and transgression and sin…” Ex. 34:5 – 7. AMP

The other way to know God intimately, is to know His Son, Jesus, who is an exact replica of His Father, one with Him and yet separate in a way in which in our finite understanding, do not fully fathom:

He (Jesus) is the exact living image [the essential manifestation] of the unseen God [the visible representation of the invisible], the firstborn [the preeminent one, the sovereign, and the originator of all creation. Col. 1:15 AMP

“If you had known Me, you would have known My Father also; and from now on you know Him and have seen Him.” Jn. 14:7 NKJV

Sounds great, huh? God put together this whole arrangement: Himself, His Son and the Holy Spirit, to handle a major problem: to reconcile His children who were lost to Him.

God created a perfect world, a perfect man and wife, and left us a set of perfect commandments to follow, to live a perfect life and stay in right relationship with Him.

But, because the members of humankind want to be masters of their own destinies, to be their own gods, they rebelled against God – beginning with Adam and Eve. That is called ‘sin,’ and as we saw in the beginning, the practice of sin brings death, death in the form of an eternal separation from God and His children.

In His infinite love for all of humankind, God put into action a plan that would save us from our sins. He sent His Son as a Spirit to be born of a virgin and grow to be Jesus the Savior. God worked through Him to bring you the gospel message that you are hearing. Broken down into a nutshell, it is this:

“For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life. For God did not send His Son into the world to condemn the world, but that through Him might be saved.” Jn. 3:16, 17. NKJV

And this is the reason:

“…to open their eyes so that they may turn from darkness to light and from the dominion of Satan to God, that they may receive forgiveness of sins and an inheritance among those who have been sanctified by faith in Me.” Acts 26:18 NASB

Did it work?

And although you were at one time estranged and alienated and hostile-minded [toward Him}, participating in evil things, yet Christ has now reconciled you [to God] in His physical body through death, in order to present you before the Father holy and blameless and beyond reproach _ [and He will do this] if you continue in the faith, well-grounded and steadfast, and not shifting away from the confident hope [that is a result] of the gospel that you have heard… Col. 1:21 – 23. AMP

Perfectly!

It is a gift from God, not something that you can earn. Jesus acquired this gift for you with His life on the cross, taking all the punishment that God would have laid upon all of humanity born throughout time, wiping out all our sins – past, present and future, by exchanging that sinless life for all the lives that would be snuffed out from the ravages of sin.

God’s gift works individually when that person comes to Christ and repents of their sins (i.e. acknowledges he or she is a sinner, exhibits true remorse with the intent to do their best not to repeat them), and to accept Jesus as who He is and what He’s done, and make Him the Lord of their life. Immediately, the sinless righteousness of Christ is transferred to them; and when God looks at him or her, He only sees that righteousness. Their price has been paid for an eternity in paradise…

…the dust returns to the earth as it once was, and the spirit returns to God who gave it. Eccl. 12:7 CSB

…I saw a new heaven and a new earth…I also saw the holy city, the new Jerusalem, coming down out of heaven from God…”Look, God’s dwelling is with humanity, and he will live with them. They will be his peoples, and God himself will be with them and will be their God. He will wipe away every tear from their eyes. Death will be no more; grief, crying, and pain will be no more…” Rv. 21:1 – 4. CSB

Now, talking to you, my fellow evangelizers: all these scriptures are very apropos in their sequence, but I really put them in for you, to empower you with your truth. Remember, this might be your hearer’s first time for the gospel, so be careful not to overwhelm.

Well, at this juncture, it would be good to dive right in: ‘You’ve seen the vital importance of the salvation of your soul and how to get saved. Will you accept Jesus now? Let’s kneel together and I will lead you through prayer and your salvation will be secure.’

(Time for that sinners’ prayer):

Dear God in heaven, I am a sinner, unable to save myself. I am truly sorry and will do my best not to repeat my sins. But I know that I cannot do it myself. I believe that Jesus is your Son and that He died on the cross for me and was resurrected to pay for all my sins. Please make your Son the Lord of my life, that I may receive your forgiveness and by your Holy Spirit, I ask for Jesus to take residence within me. Thank you for opening heaven so that I may live in eternity with you. In Jesus’ name I pray, amen.

Or something similar. Please, at this juncture, do not let this newbie out into the world. Either follow up with them or connect them to a church.

Be happy. The angels are rejoicing!

I know what you’re thinking, ‘What if they ask me theological questions that I have no answer for?’ We’ll handle that next time…

Goodnight and God bless.

[dorothydelgadillo]

30 Things I Learned Before Turning 30 (About Life & Marketing)

As a marketer, I’m sure you’ve heard it at some point or another: people ages 18-34 are the “key demographic.”

They’re the movers-and-shakers. The ones in-the-know. The ones with money to spend. They’re the ones you want to know and love your brand, let alone buy from it.

Well, friends, today is my 30th birthday, my golden birthday, in fact...and, while my lovely brand teammates are going to roll their eyes and hate me for saying this, that means my remaining days of relevance are limited.

Marketing By Nature

Ok, yes, that was a bit of an exaggeration, but after three decades in this skin, I’ve learned that kind of drama is just a part of my brand.

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I’ve also learned many other unexpected lessons that have proven to be useful in both my personal life and my life as a marketer and content professional.

You see, I’ve only been in this industry professionally for about nine years, but, in that time, I’ve discovered many parallels between being a good marketer and, honestly, just being a good person.

In a nutshell, both come down to:

Being able to understand and communicate with other people well

Accepting your authentic self

If you can master these areas, you’ll likely not only be a happier person but a happier marketer -- but I’m getting ahead of myself.

I’ve spent the past four years of my work life (and frankly some pretty formidable years of my twenties) helping my teammates at IMPACT, contributors, and sponsors, learn how to better hone their voices and share their stories.

I’ve always encouraged them to share lessons big and small from their experiences, but I haven’t always had the chance to practice what I preach.

So, indulge me for a few minutes.

Taking a page out of Taylor Swift’s book (minus those chapters about Kanye and John Mayer), here are 30 lessons I learned about marketing and life before turning 30. Some of these may seem obvious or insignificant, but that doesn’t make them any less true or worth repeating.

1. Pretty Doesn’t Mean Perfect.

Whether you’re talking fashion or marketing creative, style does not top function. A design needs to always solve a problem and achieve the goal you set for it.

Just like an ugly hat can still keep your head warm, an ugly website or graphic can still deliver results. Just look at Craig’s List or Reddit. They may not be the most impressive or sophisticated designs, but no one can argue with their effectiveness.

2. Don’t Do It Just Because It’s Trendy.

This is another lesson about personal style I’ve learned over the years, but it rings undeniably true for marketers as well.

Just because something is popular doesn’t mean it’s right for you.

Every person and business is different circumstances, needs, and goals to consider. So, before you start a new strategy, tool, (or that pair of skinny jeans, for that matter), consider what you’re trying to achieve and your audience.

If the trend won’t move you towards achieving what you want (or make you look your best), skip it.

3. People Don’t Always Know What They Want.

Despite what they may think, people don’t always know what they truly want. They’ll claim one thing, then do another, and that’s no different when it comes to buying behavior.

Time and time again, we’ve surveyed people to ask them their preferences, only to see their behavior not echo it. There are so many unconscious things that motivate us as people, especially in the heat of a moment.

That being said, trust actions and user testing. Action speaks louder than words.

4. But You Still Need to Listen.

There are times to use hard data and cater to people’s unconscious behavior and there are times to take their word.

Simply put, don’t manipulate people.

In many instances, it’s better to give people what they know they want, so they know you are listening and care about what they think. People just want to be heard. Showing they were builds trust and, in turn, a better relationship.

That being said…

5. Don’t Take Trust for Granted.

Once you’ve earned someone’s trust, don’t abuse it. Without trust, no one will want to work, buy, or likely even be around you.

It’s that simple.

6. Nothing Lasts Forever.

This is something I’ve had a hard time coming to terms with as I lost some loved ones in recent years, but professionally, it’s just a fact.

IMPACT Partner, keynote speaker, author, and all-around amazing guy, Marcus Sheridan preaches that when it comes to content and marketing, the principles behind why we do things will never change, but the how (tools, practices, etc.) always will.

That being said, no content you create is likely ever truly evergreen. It will always need to be updated with new data, examples, etc to showcase how things are done right now. Same goes for your website.

7. Stand for Something.

Modern buyers gravitate towards brands that stand for a cause and share the same values and concerns they do. It helps guide their choices and makes them feel a little bit better about their purchase, knowing they supported a good cause.

Strong values and knowing what you believe obviously also guide you in your personal life. They can help you find the right job or friends and maybe even help them find you.

8. Diversity & Inclusion Are Strengths.

What do I stand for? More than anything, diversity, inclusion, and representation. In most areas of my life, I have always been a minority, an outlier even… but I’ve always tried to remember that this isn’t a bad thing.

Diversity and inclusion whether it is in gender, race, religion, sexual orientation, or otherwise, are always a good idea.

They bring more perspectives and ideas to the table and better enable you to reach a wider audience. They make people feel welcome.

Many may not want this (as I experience first hand) or even shy away from addressing it, but as marketers and human beings, our goal is to connect with other people. The best way to do that is by making them feel like they belong.

9. Loyalty Is Priceless.

Finding people who will stand by you or your brand through anything are rare. When you do, treasure them and treat them right.

10. It’s OK to Show Your Flaws.

We live in a society where everything and everyone is so airbrushed, finding things that aren’t is a breath of fresh air.

It’s a sign that you’re genuine and honest; that you’re not trying to trick anyone into believing something that isn’t true.

This transparency, again, builds trust and, frankly, makes you more human and likable. Don’t be afraid to show your real face to everyone you meet.

11. Always Admit When You’re Wrong.

In a similar vein to showing flaws, if you’re wrong or make a mistake, own it. Trying to hide a shortcoming will only make you look worse in the eyes of those around you.

12. Start With What You Have.

If the plastic bag of plastic bags in my work locker doesn’t tell you, I’m big on resourcefulness. Why waste money and time when you have something you can reuse?

The same can be said about content. Thinking about trying video or Pinterest? Don’t start from scratch. Take some of your best performing existing content and reimage it for the medium and audience.

13. Don’t Just Be a Yes (Wo)Man.

As William Wrigley Jr. once said, if two men agree, one of them is unnecessary.

In other words, differing opinions and points of view are important. Don’t be afraid to disagree if you have practical reasons to. Speak up!

14. Be Honest.

Say what you mean and mean what you say. Lying or knowingly misspeaking about what you believe or want will never result in a good outcome long term.

15. Technology Isn’t Foolproof.

My entire job, like many of yours I’m sure, lies behind a computer screen. And while technology can make life significantly easier and more convenient, it isn’t foolproof.

When the internet is down, it’s like all the cages were left open at the zoo around here! Plan accordingly.

16. Meeting People In Person Still Matters.

Similarly, meeting people virtually is easier than ever thanks to technology, but it still can’t top gathering in person.

The experience of shaking someone’s hand, giving them a hug, or being able to share space with them is a whole different type of bonding. So, go to events. If you work remotely, visit your office. This real-life face time is unmatched.

17. There’s a Time to Be Clever And There’s a Time to Be Clear.

I’m a writer; wordplay is my jam -- but you need to know when it is appropriate.

When it comes to communication, never sacrifice the clarity of your message just to sound clever. It doesn’t matter how great what you’re saying is if no one can understand it.

18. The Law of Diminishing Returns Is Real.

A few years ago, we increased our content output expecting increased traffic, but we didn’t see it. Our audience, in fact, told us they couldn’t keep up and numbers plateaued and even dropped.  

The fact is there are limits to everything. You can only eat so many cookies. You can only walk so many miles. Markets get saturated. People reach critical mass with how much content they’re able to consume and you need to keep your eye on this.

That said...

19. Quality Always Tops Quantity.

Would you rather be in a room with 10 strangers or in a room with two of your best friends? How about publishing 10 terrible articles that get lost in cyberspace or two that you’re proud of and Google ranks on the first page?

In almost every situation, quality is more important than quantity.

20. Free Doesn’t Mean Good.

Don’t get me wrong -- I’m the queen of freebies, but don’t underestimate your audience and think they’ll fill out a form or take anything you give them just because it’s free.

People still want and demand quality, and you should too.

21. Emotion Doesn't Make You Weak.

I was never an emotional person until a little over three years ago. I had never even cried at a movie, but my world came crashing down when my cousin passed away unexpectedly and the pain seeped into every aspect of my life.

I cried more than I’ve ever cried in my life and in front of colleagues I’d never want to see my weakness -- but that’s the thing. Over time, I’ve begun to learn it’s not a weakness.

Emotion is human.

Being able to show, capture, understand, and express real emotion in way that can touch others is a powerful skill as a marketer and a person. In both cases, it makes people feel closer to you; it helps bond them to you and it shows them you understand them on a deeper level.

So...

22. It's OK to Get Personal.

Again, people want to be around and do business with other people. When you get personal and are vulnerable about your experiences, you are more endearing.

23. Forgive Yourself for “Failing.”

Whether it was a relationship or a campaign gone bust, sometimes things don’t go as planned. Actually, things almost never go as planned. Dust yourself off and try again. You only failed if you didn’t learn anything from it.

24. Don’t Propose After the First Date.

Speaking of failed relationships, respect the natural progression of human interaction whether it be professional or personal.

Just like you wouldn’t propose after a first date when someone is just getting to know you, don’t go in for the hard sell after a first meeting.

In neither of these situations is the person likely looking to seal the deal, so slow it down.

25. Create Good Memories.

People love to talk about “the good times.” As a brand, you should be creating good memories like these for your buyers and as a person, do it for your soul.

26. You Can’t Make Everyone Happy.

There’s always going to be a critic or someone who disagrees with what you do or say so don’t set out to try to make everyone happy. Focus on those who actually matter -- your audience; your loved ones.

27. Be Yourself.

They say imitation is the highest form of flattery, but it also means that you’re just one of many. Embrace what makes you or your brand unique and different or you’ll get lost in the crowd.

Plus, people can always sense when you’re trying to be something you’re not and nothing is a bigger turn-off.

28. Take Risks.

Risks can be scary, but only because they can be life-changing. So, take the leap. I’m not saying be reckless, but if an opportunity or idea won’t destroy everything you’ve worked for, give it a shot.

If it doesn’t work out, remember #23.

29. Discomfort Is Good.

If a situation makes you uncomfortable, it’s likely just because it’s something you’ve never experienced before. It’s an opportunity to grow and discover. Embrace it.

30. You Never Stop Learning.

Like many of you, when I was growing up, 30 seemed ancient.

When I hit that age, I would be an old woman. I would have seen everything, experienced everything, and learned everything. I would have everything figure out -- but that, obviously, was absurd.

Whether it comes to work or life, there is always something new to be uncovered and improved.

Both digital marketing and life are always changing and I certainly do not know nearly everything about either of them. But I do know that as I keep learning and evolving in both arenas, I will be excited and honored to share my lessons with all of you.

Here’s to officially being thirty, wordy, and thriving.

from Web Developers World https://www.impactbnd.com/blog/30-things-i-learned-before-turning-30-about-life-marketing

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Caitsbooks Reviews: Small Town Hearts (ARC) by Lillie Vale

I received an ARC via Netgalley in exchange for an honest review. All quotes are taken from the ARC, and all opinions are my own. Overall: 5/5 Stars Characters: 5/5 Setting: 5/5 Writing: 5/5 Plot and Themes: 5/5 Awesomeness Factor: 5/5 Review in a Nutshell: Small Town Hearts is a fantastic read, with something for everyone, from an adorable romance to a great portrayal of the ups and downs of friendships.

"This was the summer that everything had come undone, unspooling our lives like the wickedest of storms. Now there was only the calm, the after.”

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"We get to come back from our mistakes. We have to believe that’s possible.”

- Premise - Small Town Hearts follows Babe, who lives in the lighthouse of her small town that attracts a fair share of tourists and visitors during the summer months. When she meets Levi, an artist, she must remind herself of a very important rule: never fall for a summer boy. But when she finds her friendship with her two best friends crumbling, and her ex-girlfriend back in town, falling for the wrong boy may just save her summer.

"Oar’s Rest held on to memories. Every first kiss, every last kiss. Every tragedy, every miracle. It was greedy for them.”

- Writing & Setting - Lillie Vale’s writing style is amazing. Her voice is the perfect blend of the humor and wit that’s now a must for lighthearted contemporary romance, and the elegant prose of heavier, sometimes denser reads. It sets the tone for this fun, adorable, yet grounded story. It also helps to vividly portray the town of Oars Rest, which is probably one of my favorite aspects of this book. I grew up in a small beach town that can get touristy, and the entire time I was reading this book, I kept seeing my hometown. Lillie Vale’s portrayal of Oars Rest made me remember why I love my town so much.

"I could be the captain and get us through these rough waves.”

- Plot - There are a lot of things going on in this book, but it never feels heavy. There is constant action, angst, and drama stirred by the various relationships (romantic, platonic, and familial) and the unique events of an Oars Rest summer. No moment is dull, there is always something interesting happening, and always something you’re waiting for, dreading, or anticipating.

"Whatever was good about us, we’re choking it to death. Our roots are too tangled. We need to have space to breathe.”

- Characters - Not only was the setting crazy relatable for me, but also the characters. Babe is such a fascinating protagonist, with flaws that hit home a little too hard, and so many great strengths. Her character growth over the course of this book is amazing! Meanwhile, her best friend, Penny, was equally grounded. I want to go on about her more but I don’t want to give anything away, but let’s just say she struck a nerve with me. That was one thing I really adored with this book. There were no cliche mean girls in this book, which is something that you see in YA contemporary too often. Instead, you’re given down-to-earth, scarily realistic characters that will remind you of people you know in your life, both for better and worse. The romance in this book is absolutely adorable, and Levi is such a great love interest. Also, I was so happy to see a bi main character fall in love with someone of the opposite gender and no one calls her straight or minimizes her sexuality! Honestly, everything with the LGBTQ+ rep in this book was amazing. I was so happy with how her ex-girlfriend was handled. She was still in the closet while they dated and broke up, and I loved that she was never blamed for not wanting to come out and that Babe respected her privacy and protected her secret even if led to more issues for her. It was just really great.

"We were beginnings and middles, but we weren’t endings. They were still up there in the clouds somewhere, waiting for us to catch up.”

- Conclusion - Pros- Great LGBTQ+ representation, amazing setting, relatable and realistic characters Cons- ??? Overall- 5/5 stars. Small Town Hearts should be added to everyone’s TBR. It’s adorable, fun, yet full of heart and depth. This is a book you can’t miss!

"Because the strength of a lighthouse is from its being alone. From being a beacon of light in the darkness, a finger showing you which way is home.”

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Couples Inpatient Drug Rehab Georgia Addiction Treatment

Couples Rehabs Georgia

Addiction is an illness that will do whatever it can to sustain itself. That’s why people managing dependency find themselves attracted to each other, developing relationships along with romantic partnerships on the premises of common experiences. A couples rehab in Georgia can help you as well as your partner in getting assistance for dependency, and proceeding therapy. Looking for recovery tests these bonds as well as asks you to re-evaluate those relationships for your brand-new sober way of life.

One choice for receiving help with each other is to participate in the specific very same rehabilitation program. A range of Couples Georgia therapy facilities and centers utilize this choice for pairs who have a strong partnership as well as are just as committed to healing. Motivation is a crucial aspect to having pairs in therapy with each other. As summarized by the Drug abuse as well as Mental Health and wellness Providers Monitoring (SAMHSA), an individual’s motivation to change and also recoup from substance abuse is an essential element in treatment, which makes the specific more than likely to finish therapy with the emphasis as well as the commitment that is required to keep lasting healing.

Georgia Couples Rehab

The Method of Couples Rehab

Intervention

Detox

Inpatient Rehab

Outpatient Rehab

Aftercare/case management

Who Should Engage in an Intervention?

When deciding whom to include in the intervention, ask on your own the important concerns:

Does the individual have a true rate of interest in the welfare of my relative?

Does my member of the family concern he or she?

Does the individual have any type of impact over the decisions my family member makes?

Does the individual have anything with which to haggle? Do they offer cash, shelter or otherwise allow my relative, consisting of their relationship?

Does this person have the stamina as well as perseverance to execute should my member of the family choose not to seek aid?

Staging An Intervention

Who do you think should be there?

Where do you assume it should be done?

A member of the family or buddy is commonly the first person to propose a treatment. Anytime an individual displays indications of dependency, it deserves thinking about whether or not to propose a treatment. According to the National Institute of Substance Abuse, as many as 6 in 10 people may be struggling with a mix of important abuse as well as mental illness. Called twin diagnoses, several people are unaware or unwilling to approve that they may be self-medicating to treat a detected problem.

What Happens During Couples Detox?

Medicine detoxification, or detoxification, is the initial step in a thorough rehabilitation program that provides all the devices required for recovery. Detox can prevent unpleasant or deadly repercussions resulting from the sudden cessation of usage as well as aiding the client in ending up being abstinent from drugs.

Withdrawal signs and symptoms are mild for some yet much more severe for others. Couples may have:

Sweating

Excessive yawning

Anxiety

Agitation

Muscle aches

Increasing watering of the eyes

A runny nose

Insomnia

Although these symptoms aren’t life-threatening, they can be quite uncomfortable, which is why it’s beneficial for these patients to receive psychiatric and medical care while detoxing from drugs. 

What Takes place Throughout Detox?

Keep in mind, detoxification is only the first step. It is extremely important to those addicted to narcotics, alcohol, benzos, or multi-substance chemical reliances, yet not a treatment in itself.

The single goal during this moment duration is to get rid of the physical presence of the medicines from your body and allow it to change away from dependency. From here, our group might advise the collegiate residential or standard property program.

In some cases, intensive outpatient treatment will certainly be a choice, however, this is rarely ideal or possible to the majority of people who go into the program via detox. You will need much more one-on-one treatment before this can happen.

What is an Inpatient Rehab Program for Couples?

To start with, what is inpatient drug rehab? Inpatient therapy centers (furthermore called home treatment centers) provide an extremely organized, tracked setting in a home-like setup that supplies couples harmony as they start their long-term healing relationship. This makes sure that patients do not have availability to medications or alcohol while in the program. Additionally, they can get full-time help throughout their recovery.

Typically, partner inpatient medicine rehab consists of a resident living on the centers on a fulltime (yet momentary) basis. Pairs work together with therapists, specialists, as well as assistance team on various elements of their healing. They are appointed to an area, join meetings as well as teams, meetings with other couples, and also monitor regular getaways with the team and also different other residents. The significant emphasis of an inpatient recovery program is to get rid of the addicted individual from the natural environments which just trigger as well as strengthen their product use problem. Once they are removed from such an environment, their emphasis can remain on their healing.

Georgia couples inpatient drug rehab is commonly the first step after sub-acute detoxing. However, not every person will undergo the detoxification stage of treatment. Great deals of people will absolutely start with an inpatient drug therapy program.

Benefits of Inpatients Couples Treatment

Structured Setting Couples Residential therapy programs offer clients little downtime. Staying active keeps recovering individuals from considering medicines or attempting to learn methods to get them.

Round-The-Clock Assistance Throughout the very early days of recovery, the danger of regression is high. The 24/7 expert support offered in an inpatient program can supply very helpful assurance.

Alcohol as well as Drug-Free Area In a family program, customers stay at the facility throughout of their therapy. There’s no accessibility to medicines or alcohol at a rehabilitation center, that makes inpatient therapy the safest alternative throughout the difficult days of early recuperation.

Interacting socially Every customer at an inpatient recovery is managing equivalent battles. Rehabilitation centers can be an exceptional resource of brand-new relationships and likewise much-needed social assistance.

Sustenance A well-balanced diet program can play a necessary obligation in your recuperation campaigns. Beneficial food can assist consumers to handle the physical obstacles of withdrawal and likewise give them a whole lot extra power for recovery.

Evidence-Based and also Various Treatment Along with usual evidence-based therapies such as cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), inpatient rehab supplies a series of alternative treatment types. Many individuals find that yoga workout, representation, as well as likewise massage supply a dependable method to take care of tension throughout recovery.

Couples Outpatient Treatment Programs

Unlike a Couples inpatient program, which requires individuals to move right into a center for a particular amount of time, a Georgia couples outpatient program enables individuals to stay at the house and also in their areas while they work with their addiction problems. Some programs have actually a set schedule, in which couples who enlist are anticipated to appear in teams with other people sometimes that cannot be differed. Other programs have an appointment-based system that could accommodate problems such as work as well as childcare.

The major benefits of couples outpatient treatment involve comfort. For people that do not intend to vacate their residences and also abandon their duties in order to manage addiction, an outpatient program can be a great alternative. They can get real genuine aid, without dealing with the preconception as well as a headache that can include inpatient treatment.

An outpatient program can additionally be a cost-saver. 

An outpatient program features no charges including room and board. That could indicate that these centers are dramatically less expensive than their inpatient equivalents.

Benefits of Couples Outpatient Treatment

Couples outpatient programs are usually considered a less extreme kind of dependency therapy care. There are no ongoing guidance solutions entailed with these programs, and there are no medical professionals readily available when a crisis strikes in the middle of the night. Therefore, these are programs that are usually recommended for those that have:

Been via inpatient care before and also need a treatment touchup

New cases of addiction, with behaviors that are not firm and repaired

Close sober companions that can assist in a dilemma

Good psychological health, aside from addiction

Couples outpatient treatment can be provided in various settings:

In a health center clinic.

In a neighborhood psychological health and wellness facility.

At a neighborhood health division.

At a therapist’s workplace.

By telephone.

A lot of Georgia couples outpatient programs last for a number of months. In some cases, individuals who complete these programs maintain restorative contact with a professional for an added set of months. This is essential work that can aid them to avoid a relapse when it could appear. In many cases, people find that they need to head in for an additional set of intense outpatient counseling throughout their follow-up work.

Sober Living for Couples

Georgia Couples finishing dependency therapy or those in an outpatient program go into sober living houses. Yet what are these houses and also what can one do for your relationship? In a nutshell, a sober setting can assist couples to remain strong in recuperation through assistance from those that are walking a course like your own.

In these houses, couples in recovery cohabit and support each other as everybody ends up being used to living a sober life. These centers are a safe place for individuals new to recovery or those returning on course to concentrate on the basics of everyday living. Patients leaving rehab that aren’t prepared to survive on their own benefit a lot from living in a shared, sober residence.

Everybody in a Georgia sober living house has duties, such as everyday duties, tasks outside of the house, college participation, or other demands. Each resident likewise has the obligation of paying a rental fee as well as their share of energies.

There are house rules for sober residents and everyone have to follow them. If one participant of the house stops working to do so, the policies normally need them to leave the facility. While this appears severe, the security of these houses consists of safety from enabling behaviors.

Discovering a Georgia couples drug rehab for you and your partner can be achieved by calling our couples rehabs 24/7 helpline. The very best couples rehabilitation centers in Georgia offer a no-cost insurance coverage assessment over the phone and let you and your partner understand what type of protection you have for addiction treatment.

Georgia State Drug Facts

In 2016, there were 918 opioid-related overdose deaths­­­ in Georgia—a rate of 8.8 deaths per 100,000 persons—compared to the national rate of 13.3 per 100,000 persons

Source: https://www.drugabuse.gov/drugs-abuse/opioids/opioid-summaries-by-state/georgia-opioid-summary

In Georgia from June of 2016 to May of 2017, the total number of opioid doses prescribed to Georgia patients surpassed 541 million. To put that in perspective, that is approximately 54 doses for every man, woman and child in Georgia.

Georgia is also among the top 11 states with the most opioid overdose deaths, and 55 Georgia counties have an overdose rate higher than the national average.

Source: https://law.georgia.gov/opioid-abuse

Significant increases in drug overdose death rates from 2014 to 2015 were primarily seen in the Northeast and South Census Regions. States with statistically significant increases in drug overdose death rates from 2014 to 2015 included Connecticut, Florida, Illinois, Kentucky, Louisiana, Maine, Maryland, Massachusetts, Michigan, New Hampshire, New Jersey, New York, North Carolina, Ohio, Pennsylvania, Rhode Island, Tennessee, Washington, and West Virginia. source: https://www.cdc.gov/drugoverdose/data/statedeaths.html

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Couples Inpatient Drug Rehab Georgia Addiction Treatment

Couples Rehabs Georgia

Addiction is an illness that will do whatever it can to sustain itself. That’s why people managing dependency find themselves attracted to each other, developing relationships along with romantic partnerships on the premises of common experiences. A couples rehab in Georgia can help you as well as your partner in getting assistance for dependency, and proceeding therapy. Looking for recovery tests these bonds as well as asks you to re-evaluate those relationships for your brand-new sober way of life.

One choice for receiving help with each other is to participate in the specific very same rehabilitation program. A range of Couples Georgia therapy facilities and centers utilize this choice for pairs who have a strong partnership as well as are just as committed to healing. Motivation is a crucial aspect to having pairs in therapy with each other. As summarized by the Drug abuse as well as Mental Health and wellness Providers Monitoring (SAMHSA), an individual’s motivation to change and also recoup from substance abuse is an essential element in treatment, which makes the specific more than likely to finish therapy with the emphasis as well as the commitment that is required to keep lasting healing.

Georgia Couples Rehab

The Method of Couples Rehab

Intervention

Detox

Inpatient Rehab

Outpatient Rehab

Aftercare/case management

Who Should Engage in an Intervention?

When deciding whom to include in the intervention, ask on your own the important concerns:

Does the individual have a true rate of interest in the welfare of my relative?

Does my member of the family concern he or she?

Does the individual have any type of impact over the decisions my family member makes?

Does the individual have anything with which to haggle? Do they offer cash, shelter or otherwise allow my relative, consisting of their relationship?

Does this person have the stamina as well as perseverance to execute should my member of the family choose not to seek aid?

Staging An Intervention

Who do you think should be there?

Where do you assume it should be done?

A member of the family or buddy is commonly the first person to propose a treatment. Anytime an individual displays indications of dependency, it deserves thinking about whether or not to propose a treatment. According to the National Institute of Substance Abuse, as many as 6 in 10 people may be struggling with a mix of important abuse as well as mental illness. Called twin diagnoses, several people are unaware or unwilling to approve that they may be self-medicating to treat a detected problem.

What Happens During Couples Detox?

Medicine detoxification, or detoxification, is the initial step in a thorough rehabilitation program that provides all the devices required for recovery. Detox can prevent unpleasant or deadly repercussions resulting from the sudden cessation of usage as well as aiding the client in ending up being abstinent from drugs.

Withdrawal signs and symptoms are mild for some yet much more severe for others. Couples may have:

Sweating

Excessive yawning

Anxiety

Agitation

Muscle aches

Increasing watering of the eyes

A runny nose

Insomnia

Although these symptoms aren’t life-threatening, they can be quite uncomfortable, which is why it’s beneficial for these patients to receive psychiatric and medical care while detoxing from drugs. 

What Takes place Throughout Detox?

Keep in mind, detoxification is only the first step. It is extremely important to those addicted to narcotics, alcohol, benzos, or multi-substance chemical reliances, yet not a treatment in itself.

The single goal during this moment duration is to get rid of the physical presence of the medicines from your body and allow it to change away from dependency. From here, our group might advise the collegiate residential or standard property program.

In some cases, intensive outpatient treatment will certainly be a choice, however, this is rarely ideal or possible to the majority of people who go into the program via detox. You will need much more one-on-one treatment before this can happen.

What is an Inpatient Rehab Program for Couples?

To start with, what is inpatient drug rehab? Inpatient therapy centers (furthermore called home treatment centers) provide an extremely organized, tracked setting in a home-like setup that supplies couples harmony as they start their long-term healing relationship. This makes sure that patients do not have availability to medications or alcohol while in the program. Additionally, they can get full-time help throughout their recovery.

Typically, partner inpatient medicine rehab consists of a resident living on the centers on a fulltime (yet momentary) basis. Pairs work together with therapists, specialists, as well as assistance team on various elements of their healing. They are appointed to an area, join meetings as well as teams, meetings with other couples, and also monitor regular getaways with the team and also different other residents. The significant emphasis of an inpatient recovery program is to get rid of the addicted individual from the natural environments which just trigger as well as strengthen their product use problem. Once they are removed from such an environment, their emphasis can remain on their healing.

Georgia couples inpatient drug rehab is commonly the first step after sub-acute detoxing. However, not every person will undergo the detoxification stage of treatment. Great deals of people will absolutely start with an inpatient drug therapy program.

Benefits of Inpatients Couples Treatment

Structured Setting Couples Residential therapy programs offer clients little downtime. Staying active keeps recovering individuals from considering medicines or attempting to learn methods to get them.

Round-The-Clock Assistance Throughout the very early days of recovery, the danger of regression is high. The 24/7 expert support offered in an inpatient program can supply very helpful assurance.

Alcohol as well as Drug-Free Area In a family program, customers stay at the facility throughout of their therapy. There’s no accessibility to medicines or alcohol at a rehabilitation center, that makes inpatient therapy the safest alternative throughout the difficult days of early recuperation.

Interacting socially Every customer at an inpatient recovery is managing equivalent battles. Rehabilitation centers can be an exceptional resource of brand-new relationships and likewise much-needed social assistance.

Sustenance A well-balanced diet program can play a necessary obligation in your recuperation campaigns. Beneficial food can assist consumers to handle the physical obstacles of withdrawal and likewise give them a whole lot extra power for recovery.

Evidence-Based and also Various Treatment Along with usual evidence-based therapies such as cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), inpatient rehab supplies a series of alternative treatment types. Many individuals find that yoga workout, representation, as well as likewise massage supply a dependable method to take care of tension throughout recovery.

Couples Outpatient Treatment Programs

Unlike a Couples inpatient program, which requires individuals to move right into a center for a particular amount of time, a Georgia couples outpatient program enables individuals to stay at the house and also in their areas while they work with their addiction problems. Some programs have actually a set schedule, in which couples who enlist are anticipated to appear in teams with other people sometimes that cannot be differed. Other programs have an appointment-based system that could accommodate problems such as work as well as childcare.

The major benefits of couples outpatient treatment involve comfort. For people that do not intend to vacate their residences and also abandon their duties in order to manage addiction, an outpatient program can be a great alternative. They can get real genuine aid, without dealing with the preconception as well as a headache that can include inpatient treatment.

An outpatient program can additionally be a cost-saver. 

An outpatient program features no charges including room and board. That could indicate that these centers are dramatically less expensive than their inpatient equivalents.

Benefits of Couples Outpatient Treatment

Couples outpatient programs are usually considered a less extreme kind of dependency therapy care. There are no ongoing guidance solutions entailed with these programs, and there are no medical professionals readily available when a crisis strikes in the middle of the night. Therefore, these are programs that are usually recommended for those that have:

Been via inpatient care before and also need a treatment touchup

New cases of addiction, with behaviors that are not firm and repaired

Close sober companions that can assist in a dilemma

Good psychological health, aside from addiction

Couples outpatient treatment can be provided in various settings:

In a health center clinic.

In a neighborhood psychological health and wellness facility.

At a neighborhood health division.

At a therapist’s workplace.

By telephone.

A lot of Georgia couples outpatient programs last for a number of months. In some cases, individuals who complete these programs maintain restorative contact with a professional for an added set of months. This is essential work that can aid them to avoid a relapse when it could appear. In many cases, people find that they need to head in for an additional set of intense outpatient counseling throughout their follow-up work.

Sober Living for Couples

Georgia Couples finishing dependency therapy or those in an outpatient program go into sober living houses. Yet what are these houses and also what can one do for your relationship? In a nutshell, a sober setting can assist couples to remain strong in recuperation through assistance from those that are walking a course like your own.

In these houses, couples in recovery cohabit and support each other as everybody ends up being used to living a sober life. These centers are a safe place for individuals new to recovery or those returning on course to concentrate on the basics of everyday living. Patients leaving rehab that aren’t prepared to survive on their own benefit a lot from living in a shared, sober residence.

Everybody in a Georgia sober living house has duties, such as everyday duties, tasks outside of the house, college participation, or other demands. Each resident likewise has the obligation of paying a rental fee as well as their share of energies.

There are house rules for sober residents and everyone have to follow them. If one participant of the house stops working to do so, the policies normally need them to leave the facility. While this appears severe, the security of these houses consists of safety from enabling behaviors.

Discovering a Georgia couples drug rehab for you and your partner can be achieved by calling our couples rehabs 24/7 helpline. The very best couples rehabilitation centers in Georgia offer a no-cost insurance coverage assessment over the phone and let you and your partner understand what type of protection you have for addiction treatment.

Georgia State Drug Facts

In 2016, there were 918 opioid-related overdose deaths­­­ in Georgia—a rate of 8.8 deaths per 100,000 persons—compared to the national rate of 13.3 per 100,000 persons

Source: https://www.drugabuse.gov/drugs-abuse/opioids/opioid-summaries-by-state/georgia-opioid-summary

In Georgia from June of 2016 to May of 2017, the total number of opioid doses prescribed to Georgia patients surpassed 541 million. To put that in perspective, that is approximately 54 doses for every man, woman and child in Georgia.

Georgia is also among the top 11 states with the most opioid overdose deaths, and 55 Georgia counties have an overdose rate higher than the national average.

Source: https://law.georgia.gov/opioid-abuse

Significant increases in drug overdose death rates from 2014 to 2015 were primarily seen in the Northeast and South Census Regions. States with statistically significant increases in drug overdose death rates from 2014 to 2015 included Connecticut, Florida, Illinois, Kentucky, Louisiana, Maine, Maryland, Massachusetts, Michigan, New Hampshire, New Jersey, New York, North Carolina, Ohio, Pennsylvania, Rhode Island, Tennessee, Washington, and West Virginia. source: https://www.cdc.gov/drugoverdose/data/statedeaths.html

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