#thr's quality is... something

[daimiyamoto]

JONATHAN BAILEY

by Sharif Hamza, for The Hollywood Reporter (June 2025)

[satellite-starss]

LITERALLY the character ever

[harpoonsnotspoons]

(if its an eye for an eye then we all go blind)

[sweet-loverboy]

my single dorm, my senior year, 2024-2025

[misanthropicgardener]

i might finally play slay the princess because i keep hearing about it and it seems like something i would like but not something that would make me insane for months on end

[oceaneyesinla]

Rox? writing? in the year 2025???? A MIRACLE

of course, it's for my beloved Giyuu, because he's been on my mind something fierce lately. beware, this is fluffy AF, as is my style

cw: pregnancy, children

divider by @/cafekitsune

You always knew Giyuu would make a wonderful father. His quiet loyalty, his steadfast devotion both to his duty and to those he loves; qualities that made you fall for him as easy as breathing. A family had been a nebulous, fragile dream for so long - a whispered confession late at night, imagining a life neither of you were sure you would live to see.

Now, you're watching him sit patiently on the floor of the home you share, your daughter singing to herself as she ties messy ribbons into his hair, and you've never been more certain. After the battle with Muzan, you sat by his side as Urokodaki-san chopped his hair above his shoulders. It was a choice made partly by necessity and partly by a desire for change, a desire to cast off the past and step into the future.

As soon as your daughter was born, he started growing it out again. One sleep-deprived night, between feedings and soothing, he told you why. He told you about Tsutako and the patient way she taught him to care for first her hair, then his own. The warmth in his voice as he shared his cherished memories with you was like sunlight on an autumn day.

Your daughter has Giyuu wrapped around her finger, and he's never been happier. There's a satisfied little smile on his face as he hands her another ribbon, and her happy 'thank you, Papa!' leaves you no choice but to smile too.

You know when Giyuu notices your presence, because his eyes light up, clear like a river and deep like an ocean. Little Tsuki is quick to spot you as well, and she smiles brightly as she beckons you over; how could you ever do anything but whatever she asked?

As soon as you kneel next to them, Giyuu is reaching out, resting his hand on the swell of your stomach in silent greeting before lifting your hand to his lips, pressing a feather light kiss to your knuckles, "Welcome home, love. Did you find everything you wanted? It wasn't too heavy, was it?" His worry is endearing, especially when accompanied by his fingers lacing with yours and resting over your bump.

"It was nothing more than I could handle. I just needed to buy some extra supplies, to prepare for Nezuko and Kanao's arrival." Just like for your first delivery, the girls who had become your sisters would be by your side.

Tsuki looks away from her masterpiece when she hears their names, "Is Uncle Tanjiro coming, too?" She adores Tanjiro, and the feeling is mutual. In fact, she adores all of the little family they've built from the ruins of everything they lost, and you're just so grateful that she will have that, free from the horror and the trauma of having it all ripped away in an instant. One day, you will tell her about Tsutako and Sabito, Kanae, all the beloved friends lost too soon. For now, you'll enjoy her babbling about Uncle Sanemi and his little son Koto, and her uncle and aunts in the Uzui family.

"Yes, little one. They're coming to stay until after the baby comes." You may as well have told her they're bringing her weight in sweets along with them. You have to laugh as she dashes out of the room, her decoration of her papa forgotten as she lists aloud all the things she's desperate to tell your guests.

When you focus back on Giyuu, you can practically see the love radiating off him. He's still reserved, the same as he's been since you were children, but in the last few years, you've seen more and more of the boy you knew before Sabito died. Family life suits him, and you tell him as much.

"Only because that family is with you." His blunt honesty never fails to melt your heart and now is no exception.

You cradle his face in your hands, holding him like the most precious jewel, "You're the only one I would want by my side in this. The only one I've ever wanted by my side."

There's no need to say those three words - the look you share says everything.

[urautismdiagnosis-wistie]

THE OIL RIG: Chapter 1 "Octo-Alert" 2/4

click for higher quality, please enjoy and feel free to comment. A description of the events and typed out dialogue will be beneath the cut. I recommend reading it for a fuller experience as it provides additional context and corrected dislogue. Apologies if they sound out of character 🙏

Orange cat doesn't pay attention and accidentally locks in and activates pirate mode.

Part 1 < part 2 > part 3. part 4

TITLE: THE OIL RIG

Panel 1

Shellington and Captain Barnacles discuss the mysterious appearance of Jimmy and the sudden loss of nearly an entire species of cuttlefish and the ramifications it may have. Jimmy claims that he and many other kinds of cuttlefish were all swarmed together and that no one knew where they were going or could escape. Barnacles and shellington are out of focus, as kwazii is seperate and focusing on the images on the screen instead.

Shellington, distressed in regards to his research on migrations, storms, bacteria, and other possibilities for what may have caused the cuttlefish fish to disappear. : "There's nothing specifically harmful that I could find yet!"

Shellington, continuing: "A sudden loss like this can have devastating consequences captain!"

Shellington, more somber and softly: "We need to find the cause before things worsen."

Captain Barnacles, gingerly attempting to convey the difficulty of their mission with current communication system issues: "Truthfully, any clues for what may have caused the sudden disappearance of thr cuttlefish will be..., " he clears his throat and finished quietly, "hard to find as of now."

Meanwhile Kwazii, who is very much 100% zoned out as he looks up to the screen...realizes...

"Something feels..." "So...." "Familiar...."

Then it *clicks*

Inbetween the panels Barnacles continues guiding the crew through their concerns before they develop a plan-

Barnacles's dialogue addresses different concerns of the crew in bits and pieces.

"I hadn't even pressed the octo-alert earlier due to the comms issues."

....

" Splitting up like usual would be very dangerous!"

......

"Yes Peso-"

......

"Dashi, Tweak, have you been able to figure out- "

Kwazii is described within the comic, "Thus the cat locked in for the very THE VERY FIRST TIME. Huzzah! The orange feline has received the braincell!"

This he began PIRATE MATH 🗣🗣🗣

[cherryredstars]

Hello Cherry, I hope you are doing well and not tired of us requesting our delusion love of fictional men 💕

I have an idea that makes my heart explode with cuteness 🥰

Reader and Miguel are new parents of adorable twins! Though reader will do anything for her babies, momma needs a break. Miguel, the ever so doting husband and father, gives reader an all expense paid spa day. Miguel ensures his lovely wife he can handle the babies by himself and not to worry about anything…. Then chaos ensues ha ha ha!

Pairing : dad!Miguel O'Hara x mom!reader

Warnings: Fluff, SFW, Parenthood

Unedited

You instantly knew something was wrong.

Your fingers tapped against the chairs handles, brow arched as you stared at your silent phone. Despite having the ringer on, you haven’t had any notifications besides a random spam email. There wasn’t a single Are you enjoying yourself, mi vida? or Me and the kids miss you, mi amor text from Miguel. You tapped the screen of your phone, the device instantly lighting up. Glancing at the time, you mentally counted two hours. You’ve been gone for two hours and no text from Miguel.

Best case scenario, you only have to rebuild the kitchen.

You thinned your lips, leaning back in the chair and trying to relax. You close your eyes, taking a deep, calming breath as you try to focus on the feeling of the face mask slowly tightening around your face. You squirm slightly, taking another breath.

You groan as you tear your eyes open, giving an apologetic look to the esthetician tending to you. You record your phone, quickly calling your husband. The phone rings. Once. Twice. Thr-

“Hello?” There's a strained quality to his voice, and you smile knowingly.

“Hello, my love.” You reply, smiling at the technician as she lowers the chair to remove the face mask. You place your phone on speaker and rest it on your chest.

“Mi vida?” Miguel questions, a slight lift in his speech. “Are you okay? Are you enjoying yourself?”

“Of course.” You reply, closing your eyes as the employee starts gently scrubbing away at the mask. You pause as she starts around your mouth, making it easier for you to speak. “How are you and the twins?”

Miguel stays silent on the phone, but you can hear muffled noises in the background. You fight the urge to furrow your brows, keeping your face as still as possible. “Miguel?”

“Yes?” Miguel returns hurriedly, the sound in the background fading in and out.

“The twins? How are they?” You repeat, opening your eyes again as the last of the mask is washed away. The worker slowly massages your face, and your eyes flutter shut again.

“Um…” Miguel says absentmindedly, obviously preoccupied with something else. You hear a slight whooshing sound down the mic, and then a loud crash.

The technician stops what she’s doing, waits a beat, and starts to do a quick finishing up routine. Both you and her know your spa day is over.

“Baby?” You hum, smiling widely. “Do you need me to come home?”

The other end of the phone is silent once again, and your face scrunches up in concern. You open your mouth to speak, but Miguel’s defeated voice stops you.

“…please.”

[sunflowersandsapphires]

alrighty, i come to you for your thoughts on frank or matt, totally cool with either, with an emotional and sensitive reader, and maybe one of thr guys say something about a quirk of the reader, they meant it jokingly, but reader doesn't take it that way. they get defensive or try to maybe change that quirk, not wanting them to find them annoying cause of the people in their life, and the guys are so quick to apologize once they realize.

idk, i tend to be sensitive myself and always that people pleasing tendency to change myself if someone makes a slight comment, or cry over it 😭😂 so hearing an apology through them seems very helpful lol

Hello dear! I hope you’re having a good weekend.

And I HEAR YOU about being sensitive. I’m a sensitive girly myself, which is why I wrote the Reader in my Frank fic (When Skies are Gray) to be so sensitive 😂 I needed an outlet. But I can totally see this being a situation where Frank and Matt end up with their feet LODGED in their respect mouths.

This got LONG so I’m going to put it under a cut.

Matt

For Matt, I think he would genuinely be remarking on a quality he liked about you, not knowing he was treading on thin ice.

Like maybe he gets home late from work and you’re already bursting at the seams, excited to tell him every little detail about your day. The moment he steps through the door, you’re squealing and darting to kiss him hello. Immediately, he’s chuckling, happily accepting the tiny pecks you plant on his nose and cheeks.

He lets you eagerly tangle your hands together, tugging him inside and towards the couch as the words start pouring out of your mouth.

“Hi, Matty! How was your day? Did you win your case? Oh that reminds me! I picked up dinner for you! And the funniest thing happened on the way home!!”

You’re leaving room for him to respond, of course, but you can’t help the sheer giddiness you feel every time you’re in his presence. Matt loves it, of course. It makes him feel wanted, feel loved. But when he brushes a hand over your arm and gently cuts you off, it makes you freeze.

“I can’t wait to hear more about your day beautiful. Let me run and change first, then I’m all yours.” There’s a beautiful grin on his lips as he makes the offer, but it’s hard to focus on that when you suddenly can’t breathe.

Matt might not have meant anything by the comment, but many people before him had. Suggesting you were too much, too loud, too self-involved—seeing your excitement as a nuisance. Your mind immediately goes to that place, the defensive little corner you always felt pushed in when people picked on you. The echo chamber of self-doubt that suggested you fold yourself into something easier to swallow.

Your heart is lodged in your throat as he leaves to change, your lungs straining to take in oxygen around the obstacle. You shrink in on yourself instinctively, sitting on the edge of the couch like you don’t deserve to relax, to be comfortable in his home when you’ve taken up so much space already.

When Matt comes back, there’s a soft smile on his face. One that quickly falls when he registers your stuttering breaths and downward gaze. “What, what happened, sweetheart? What’s wrong?”

He sees right through your little fib of “Nothing,” dragging you into his lap with his amazing strength.

“If nothing’s wrong, you won’t mind telling me that funny story then, will you?” You shouldn’t be surprised that he can pick up on the root of the issue that easily, he reads your thoughts as if they’re transcribed just for him.

You duck into his neck bashfully. “You sure you want to hear it?”

Matt squeezes you tightly, hands splaying over your back and shoulder. “Of course I do! I love listening to you.”

After your story, he prods a bit further, investigating the cause of the sensitivity and assuring you that he loves the way you greet him when he comes home.

Rather than avoiding it entirely, I think Matt would honestly compliment your quirks even more going forward. I don’t think he’d have a single problem dating someone who was on the sensitive side. I actually think he’d love that about you!! (Even if it confused him at times)

I’ll probably reblog with Frank thoughts! But here’s this for now!

[odinsblog]

The underground shelter, which was revealed last year, prompted conspiracy theories on social media about wealthy tech moguls building doomsday bunkers.

Mark Zuckerberg is downplaying the massive 5,000-square-foot bunker beneath his Hawaiian compound that was revealed in WIRED last year and prompted conspiracy theories on social media about wealthy tech moguls building doomsday bunkers.

The billionaire Facebook co-founder pushed back when Bloomberg reporter Emily Chang, in a video published Tuesday that chronicled her visit to Zuckerberg’s Lake Tahoe property, asked him what he’s “worried about” — and if there’s something he knows “that we don’t” in regard to the bunker.

“No, I think that’s just, like, a little shelter,” he told Chang. “It’s a basement! It’s a basement.”

Zuckerberg said the “basic house” on Kauai is largely used for storage space and that he frequently works from there but admitted to the underground bunker there, referring to it as a “hurricane shelter or whatever.”

“I think it got, like, blown out of proportion, as if the whole ranch was some kind of doomsday bunker, which is just not true,” he added.

Back in February, Ron Hubbard, the CEO of Atlas Survival Shelters, and Robert Vicino, founder of underground survival shelter company Vivos, spoke to The Hollywood Reporter about how news of Zuckerberg’s bunker increased business for them.

Hubbard said that it had “caused a buying frenzy,” while Vicino said, “Now that Zuckerberg has let the cat out of the bag, that’s got other people who share his status or are near his status starting to think, ‘Oh God, if he’s doing that, maybe he knows something that I don’t, maybe I should seek this out myself.’”

Zuckerberg purchased the 1,400-acre estate, which is known as Koolau Ranch, in a series of deals beginning in 2014, WIRED reported in 2023. According to planning documents for the property reviewed by the outlet, the compound will have its own energy and food supplies.

Construction of the compound and purchase of the land was estimated to cost around $270 million. Zuckerberg told Chang that he and his wife, Priscilla Chan, use the property for ranching and that he wants to “create the highest quality beef in the world.”

Along with Zuckerberg, other bunker-having tech moguls allegedly include Bill Gates, with Vicino telling THR in 2016 that Gates “has huge shelters under every one of his homes.”

PayPal CEO Peter Thiel had similar plans for a bunker-like compound in New Zealand, but those were thwarted in 2022 after backlash from local conservationists, according to The Guardian.

Zuckerberg’s property spawned similar criticism from locals and Indigenous groups in Kauai, with one former laborer on the compound telling WIRED, “It’s crazy that a man not from Hawaii comes here and purchases a bunch of land that limits the locals [from potentially buying] land. But it’s already happening.”

(continue reading)

[jame7t]

Hey you’re like. Really good at interrupting serious parts of things with single words that release tension while adding humor to the work. Like the BADASS part of the sniffer server stream. Or the JOYOUS part of the creepypasta stream. Something I’ve noticed. Pretty beautiful honestly

I straight up think “analog horror” is a great & underutilized place for well crafted jokes other than ‘Fuck What if SKIPTY TOILET IN THR BACKROOMS’ and low quality parody stuff.

Lots of internet parody stuff kinda skirts by on just being Bad “Ironic” Reflections of things (I would know, and all creatives start somewhere! ), and I DO think analog horror deserves to be taken the piss out of, but I want someone to do it with a little more critical tact than “Here’s my photoshop warp tool: and now I’m gonna describe a scary kill”

Really want to see what someone does with a silly analog horror series. you can get the best of both worlds, right? Are you gonna get a punchline, or See a scary face?

Horror and humor have the same pacing, generally! And I absolutely love the gag of “long drawn out shot of something scary about to happen, but when the shot cuts:

I also think streams are kind of the perfect place for little analog interlude videos. They’re fun to make and people expect jokes when they come to my streams, so I put them thereeee

[slagzz]

Something else I noticed in this epsiode of Severance is how Burt serves as a stand-in for a psychopomp. He is death come to deliver Irving from living purgatory (Lumon and the sunless land of Keir where winter never changes to spring) and into a new life (the sun rising as the train departs). He used to drive people for severance to kill, he was not the maker of death but its conveyor.

Honestly I just feel this way because Burt was all dressed in black and the light in the station when Irving was leaving left it with a numinous quality I felt had to be intentional, the kidn Dylan didn't get because he's not leaving Keir.

Also is Irving's dog thr hound of heaven? Cerberus? Idk

[hungwy]

Maybe I'm already too Kantpilled but I don't understand Aristotle's problem with correlation of objects and perceptual faculties. Correlatives come into being with each other by his definition, so if we have perception, we have something being perceived (objects). If, say, an animal is annihilated in perception, it is the case that we only have no perception of any quality the animal only, for that is the proper correlative of the statement. An improper correlative would be to say all perception is annihilated (or, phrasing the incorrect statement positively, a perception of one animal is all of perception.)

But to then problematize that perceivable objects exist prior to perception seems weird. Those seem like unrelated statements! The correlative of a perceivable object is a faculty with an ability to form perceptions of a given perceivable object. Our ability to perceive also exists prior to the act of perception. The fact that perceivable objects can become perceived, and thr fact that our ability for perception is acted upon, seems besides the point. The fact that objects exist prior to perception is also besides the point.

Maybe an issue of translation? I'm at work. Maybe I'll still care to look this up later

[numinously-yours]

Free Tarot Reading; Pick a Card/Goddess: Your person's love language

For our second May reading, we are looking at your person's love language. It is up to you if you use a person you know or if you want to channel your future partner. The reading includes:

Your person's love language (Acts of Service, Physical Touch, Quality Time, Receiving/Giving Gifts, and Words of Affirmation)

How they show their love to others

How they best receive love from others

Two key words/themes of their love language

There are four groups to choose from, each associated with a different Roman or Greek Goddess.

Group 1: Minerva

Group 2: Vesta

Group 3: Philotes

Group 4: Pasithea

Choose your group and see your reading below. Feel free to reblog or reply with your group choice and your own love language! My love language is words of affirmations <3

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Group 1: Minerva

Love Language – Six of Pentacles rev.

Giving & Receiving Gifts

Ways they show love – Ace of Cups

As we connect the Ace of Cups with the love language receiving gifts, I can tell your person really loves giving. This might be obvious because of the name of the love language, but it’s like they can’t relax until they give the people they love something. There is definite creative energy so a lot of the gifts they enjoy giving others are self-created. They might paint, write poetry, crochet, etc. They often come up with an idea and think “This person would LOVE something like this” and they go for it.  This person could see something at the store, too, and have an intense need to buy it because they thought of someone when they saw it. For this person, the love is really coming from thinking of others’ joy rather than the physical gift.

Ways they receive love –The Hermit

Just as their gifts come from a place of understanding their loved ones, your person feels most loved when they can tell someone put thought into the gifts they give to them. Your person cares less about the monetary value of gifts and more about the sentiment. Maybe you know their favorite color so you wrote them a note with a pen that has that color ink. Maybe you bought them a book about Italy because they mentioned in passing that they always wanted to learn more or visit. The idea that someone is truly listening to them makes them feel more special than anything.

Group 2: Vesta

Love Language – Seven of Pentacles & The Star

Acts of Service

Ways they show love – Two of Pentacles rev.

If your person sees an opportunity to help, they do it. It never crosses their mind if they’re busy, supposed to be working on something for themselves, or if they don’t have the energy. When they see someone they love in need, they feel a sense of responsibility. They don’t want their loved ones to feel overwhelmed so they take the burden off their shoulders for them. I will say, they get a little over invested sometimes and other aspects of their life can be put on the backburner. They are never expectant of anything in return. They do it because it feels right.

Ways they receive love – Four of Wands rev. & The Hanged Man rev.

This part is interesting because they don’t necessarily need others to do things for them to feel appreciated. However, when someone does something without asking, knowing that it will make the day a little easier, it fills their heart with love. Because they overexert themselves for others, the idea that someone simply sees their stress without it being directly communicated takes a huge weight off their shoulders (that, sometimes, they don’t even realize they have).  Additionally, when someone straight up tells them to slow down and take time for themselves, they feel a sense of ease run through them. Again, it’s the idea of being seen and someone taking care of them. It is an act of service in and of itself to tell this person to take a breath.

Group 3: Philotes

Love Language – Two & Three of Wands

Quality Time

Ways they show love – Judgement & The World (20 & 21)

The word “quality” is the part of this love language that is really standing out. Both in these two cards and with the two & three of wands. The idea of investing in something, someone, or someplace is what radiates love through your person. Listening is a huge aspect of how your person shows their love to others. When they get with those they love, they make it a point to put down distractions and get into the heart of the conversation. They are happy to strategize with anyone who needs it. They are there to affirm when needed. Or they are there simply as a sounding board. This person wants to make the best of every interaction. They’re frequently thinking of how an experience will elevate their life and the life of who they’re with.  

Ways they receive love – The Emperor

This person feels most loved when someone makes a pointed effort to be present in their time together. Someone who is a reciprocal participant in the conversation or activity. They love someone who makes them think outside the box. It shows them in its own way that the person they’re talking to has taken information to heart. They also love someone who will create plans of actions with them. Not only is the planning session quality time, but you’re sketching out a specific time TO have quality interactions with them.  

Group 4: Pasithea

Love Language – Three of Swords

Words of Affirmation

Ways they show love – The World rev.

Your person shows their love by reminding others’ of the bright side of every situation. They have a way of bringing closure to negative thoughts. The feelings may not go away completely, but your person can always be relied on to be a reminder that life is wonderful, even when it feels most awful. Your person is a great cheerleader, too. If their loved ones have an idea, are starting a project, or have completed a goal they are there the whole way to encourage and then congratulate. They never let their loved ones go a day without knowing they’re loved and appreciated.

Ways they receive love – Two of Pentacles rev.

Your person is likely an overthinker and the way that they feel loved is when someone reminds them that everything is going to be okay. Simply hearing those words can slow down soo many of their racing thoughts. The song “Intrusive Thoughts” by Lola Young just came on my spotify at this portion and it feels like perfect timing. Even though this person is great at helping others see the bright side, sometimes they can’t do it for themselves. When someone else does this for them, they feel more at peace. If there is a cheerleader for them when they start a new project, that also helps them feel loved. Just knowing there is someone there to say “Hey, you’re doing great!” makes their days a bit brighter.

[whentherewerebicycles]

ok i forget what format i used when i did this reflective journaling/values check-in at six months so idk i'll just go for it. the core idea is: i once read some pedagogy writer (paolo freire? some essayist who was influenced by paolo freire?) who recommended that teachers set aside time every six months or so to reflect on their teaching practice and to think about whether they were teaching in ways that aligned with their core values as educators. i have always liked that idea (I love reflective journaling about Values) and thought that i might try adapting it for parenting. so every six months i want to just carve out some time to pause and think about what i'm doing and what i might want to do in the future. this is not going to be especially profound or anything i'm just thinking aloud through some thoughts and feelings!!

ok. some thoughts:

i think i am so far parenting in a very low-anxiety way. this is something i really wanted to prioritize due to my own upbringing lol. my mom is an extremely loving and caring parent but she is also a HIGH ANXIETY person and i feel like i experienced firsthand how much pressure that puts in the kid to manage the parent's worries/fears. in fact i continue to experience it in adulthood as i manage her anxieties over my own child lol. there are definitely a few things that have tripped me up in the past six months (like the speech imitation thing - more on that later!) but on the whole i think i am parenting in a way that assumes that my healthy, happy kid is going to be fine and everything is going to work out okay. even when he was pretty sick last week i was like, ah this sucks, poor guy, i want to make sure i get him the care he needs and i hate that he's miserable, but i did not feel panicky about it. I also feel like in general I’m not sweating the small stuff which was definitely another goal.

semi-relatedly: i feel like i continue to be pretty easygoing about differences in caretaking styles, whether at daycare or when he's with various members of my family or whatever. i want to continue to convey to him that routines can change and it's ok, and also that he is safe when he is with a safe person even if they do things differently than i might. i want him to be flexible and able to roll with stuff. also even though he's too young to pick up on it i am trying to get into the habit of responding that way to non-parenting related stuff when i'm with him too. if we're out somewhere and something goes wrong or i have to change plans i'm trying to model just like, being able to go with the flow and adapt. i think one personality quality i have a REALLY hard time with is rigidity... i have a hard time with people who get super worked up about little stuff, and conversely i really admire people who are adaptable and take setbacks or changes in stride. i think i value this even more because i used to be more rigid as a person and have put in a lot of work to become someone who is more adaptable. to me that ability to react calmly, even if the setback is kind of annoying or frustrating, is very much about having good emotional self-regulation strategies and being able to limit your own emotional spillover onto others. so i am consciously trying to model calm in front of him.

well i guess all of these are just going to branch off each other lol maybe that's a sign that a lot of these values or behaviors are closely interconnected... but the next thing is modeling calm when responding to emotional outbursts. this kid has BIG FEELINGS and, as liz noted recently, he feels them with his WHOLE BODY, which i think is just like a premonition of Toddlerhood To Come. he has started getting hugely, dramatically upset when he hurts himself by accident or when you take something away from him that he really wanted. everything i have read about managing the toddler years is like... you can't stop the big emotions or the temper tantrums, but the calmer you can be, the less emotional fuel you'll be throwing on the fire of your kid's big angry/sad/upset emotions. i know we are not in true toddler temper tantrum territory yet but it's good practice for me to work on being totally calm and relaxed when he's having a big feeling. i remember when he was really really little and would cry inconsolably at night before bed i would just practice being as zen as possible... like every night i would try to go into an even deeper state of zen than the night before as i rocked mine shrieking childe in my arms lol. he doesn't cry like that anymore (his huge feelings pass quickly at the moment and he's still fairly easy to redirect) but i think it will be valuable to keep practicing that sense of going into a place of calm as i deal with whatever the situation is (usually he is shrieking and shaking with rage because i took away something he was trying to jab into his eye, or because he TRIED TO PULL UP on something unstable and then he FELL OVER and CLONKED HIS PRECIOUS LITTLE BABY HEAD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!)

mm okay let's think through one that needs more work. as he gets older and more capable, it gets harder not to compare him to other babies, especially to liz's baby. the speech stuff really stressed me out for a while and when i made myself sit down and think through why that was, it was for the following reasons. FIRST, i was very verbally precocious as a child and my mom cites that all the time as Evidence of My Precocious Intelligence From a Young Age. being Intensely Verbal is a huge part of my identity obviously and i worry that if my (chill, happy, perfect in every way) child is not intensely verbal that will somehow mean something negative about him. SECOND, liz's baby has been imitating sounds for a long time, has more complex babbling, and has passed my baby in a handful of social milestones despite being six weeks younger, and sometimes this causes me to spiral out imagining a situation where my child struggles socially and/or in school whereas my beloved niece child (whom i love with my entire heart) thrives and is recognized by all for her great intelligence and grace, and this murky stew of feelings is further complicated by the knowledge that young boys are at risk of being written off by teachers as not good in school or not good students much earlier, and then i start feeling like ok so my baby must be Obviously Extra Precocious to ensure that he gets the same attention and care as girls in his class, and what if not hitting these milestones early ends up inadvertently condemning him to Falling Behind. hmm maybe i need to revise my earlier assessment of myself as not an anxious parent ahaha. but no, like, if i really look into my heart, i know what these fears are and where they stem from, and i also know that my kid is going to be totally fine, and most importantly of all, most CRUCIALLY of all, i know that worrying about it will change nothing and will just make me less able to be joyfully present with my child as he is. he is PERFECT. he could not be more perfect. he is so happy, so funny, such a little goofball, and also at other times so serious, so self-contained, so observant, and most of all he is just the happiest, healthiest, most delightful little human being who has a whole rich inner world within him. he IS fine and will BE fine. and it diminishes my joy in BOTH of these perfect babies who are so important to me if i compare them to each other instead of loving them exactly as they are. so moving forward, in this next six month stretch, i want to really commit to noticing when i am falling into a comparison pattern of thinking, and i want to gently release the worry. it's not for me to hold. it's not for me to try to control or change. and i want to instead shift to noticing and naming to myself things about him that are absolutely perfect in that moment. and in general i want to just remind myself that a core parenting value is: i never want him to be other than who he is. i never want to convey to him that i want him to be different or that i think he doesn't measure up in some way. there will be NO SHAME or if that is perhaps an inescapable aspect of the human condition there will be at least VERY LIMITED SHAME in this family. there will be UNCONDITIONAL LOVE and ACCEPTANCE and THE CONSCIOUS CHOICE TO FIND JOY IN EACH OTHER EXACTLY AS WE ARE. it takes all kinds to make a world. there is no perfect way to be. there is also no one perfect idealized way to be that will somehow insulate you from all discomfort or suffering or other people's damaging perceptions of you. that is the FALSE STORY that SHAME SELLS YOU and we are NOT BUYING IT in this family!!

[hizashi-lover193]

Answer to @ohio-gyatt-mega-sigma-rizzler Part one

Toji relationship headcannons

Toji isn't very caring. At least, not at first glance. He didn't show you that he cared about you in the typical way. He would go into buildings first to check if they were safe, he would stand in front of you if someone tried to argue with you or threaten you, and he wouldn't use his body to intimidate you. Toji would take you training all the time (he saw you as fragile and weak), and would push you almost to your limit. He always said that this training was so he didn't have to waste his time protecting you, but you knew better. Toji wasn't much of a cuddler. He would let you wrap his arms around him at night, but he almost never recipricated it. There was one night, after a particularly bad argument, that he showed a rare moment of care, putting an arm around your shoulders. It wasn't much, but it meant the world to you. He even inttroduced you to his son, something that you appreciated. Although his son was already a teenager, Toji wanted to protect Megumi as much as he could. In an extremely rare moment of letting his walls down, he confided in you that he was worried his protection wouldn't be enough, that his son would still get hurt.

Yuji relationship headcannons

Yuji was huge on public displays of affection. He would always at the very least have his arm around your shoulders. He would hold your hand, tuck you into his side, ruffle your hair, and full-on hug you and smell your scent. He was also really big on dates. He did't really have that much money, but he didn't need it to make you happy. Dates would usually consist of going to thr museum or park, getting something from a fast food place, or, sometimes, going to go see a movie. Sometimes, his sensei would donate money to let you both go to more expensive venues, like fancy dinners or the carnival. Yuji was also a huge cuddler. Every single night, you both cuddled against each other. You would have your head against his shoulder, and Yuji would have his face stuffed into the crook of your neck, your legs tangled together under the sheets. Yuji would buy you gifts whenever he had the funds. Teddy bears, chcolate, sweets, jewelry, you name it, he probably bought it for you at least once. His love languages consist of gift giving, quality time, and acts of service.

Gojo relationship headcannons

Gojo was rich. He was always giving you gifts or taking you to expensive places. He frequently bought you new stuffed animals, chocolate, other sweets like mochi, jewerly, clothing, shoes, and anything else he can think of that will make you happy. He personaly wasn't big on PDA, but he did it to make you happy. He would have an arm around your waist, a hand on the small of your back, or a hand on your shoulder while you walked. He would hold your hand, give you soft kisses on the cheek, or kiss your forehead. Dates would usually consist of going to expensive restaraunts, going to the carnival (he would beat you at the games every time, you were convinced he was cheating), going to the movies, or simply renting out a movie at home and ordering some food. Gojo also wasn't much of a cuddler, but, again, did it to make you happy. He would hold you close during the night, smelling your scnet and making sure you were comfortable. You would snuggle your head into Gojo's chest, arms wrapped around his slim frame as you slept peacefully.

Geto relationship headcannons

Geto is charming. Very charming. He's always flirting with you, telling you pick-up lines, and overall using his charming nature to try to fluster you. He's also very persuasive. He loves manipulating you into doing something for him or calming down. He called you easy to manipulate, weak-minded. He didn't mind it, though, as long as he was the one that was manipulating you. He didn't manipulate you out of hate or abuse, he was just a manipulative person by nature. Since you have issues controlling your emotions (anger issues, anxiety, depression, etc.), he's skilled at getting you to calm down or do something that you otherwise didn't have the energy or motivation to do. When you were panicked, angry, or depressed, Geto stayed calm and worked you through it. He knew that you had trouble with your emotions, and that's one of the reasons he loved you. Geto didn't display PDA. He just wasn't the type for it. So, whenever you wanted attention in front of others, he would simply deny it. However, he did display affection privately. He cuddled you, held you, let you playt with his hair, smelled your scent, and let you cuddle against him at night. He would joke with you about not being able to do jujutsu, but didn't really call you any names.

Megumi relationship headcannons

Megumi was another chacracter that wasn't really into PDA. He wasn't really into displaying affection at all. He just wasn't used to it, thanks to his father. Dates would consist of going to the library, going window-shopping, going for walks in neaby parks, or going to other quiet places like museums and lakes, especially at night. Although curses were more likely to come out during the night, you were never really afraid. You had Megumi to protect you, after all. Although Megumi wasn't into displaying affection, he did let you display your affection to him, both in public qnd in private. You would cling onto hi, hold his hand, play with his hair (which he loved), cuddle up to him at night, and plant little kisses on his collarbone. Megumi's love languages consist of acts of service and quality time. The two of you would simply sit and do your own things. Sometimes, you would do stuff together, like play a videogame, board game, or card game, do a school project, or other things along those lines. Yuji liked to thinrd-wheel on your dates a lot, and you both let him. It usually went very well. You and Yuji would usually convince Megumi to do things he usually wouldn't. You never pressured him; he usuallu wanted to do them anyways.