#trick weekes when i get you...

[kirkwallguy]

this has a ton of asunder spoilers so just delete it if you care abt that but the other thing with Cole that pisses me off so much is that just by including him (and Fiona) they bring up a dozen questions about why Inquisition doesn't give a shit about Asunder but keeps bringing it up

Rhys and Evangeline? not there. the war? only about Anders, not the book. Cole dying? random accident and look the guy feels bad about leaving a 12 year old boy (hello anders/justice parallels) to starve to death in solitary confinement. we'll have this kid then go on to smooth over Cullen. anything involving the cure for Tranquility? locked exclusively to Cassandra's quest of all things, and she does literally nothing about it despite the fact that Fiona, the whole mage rebellion, Leliana, and Vivienne knew about it the entire time before the game even started.

the cure was disseminated from Montsimmard! the Circle that Vivienne was the First Enchanter of! and neither of the enchanters get any dialogue about it whatsoever.

the rebel mages even get mad at you if you choose to make anyone Tranquil (a choice locked to mages exclusively for some reason), but then nobody brings up that it can be reversed? Leliana just murders some of them for it? and then Cassandra does literally nothing with the information, there isn't even a mention in an epilogue slide? why do we have an Asunder character here if we don't actually care about anything about him? it's kind of the exact same with masked empire up to and including the white-washing (that briala is a different woman entirely. cole is half-chasind but given morrigan we couldn't expect anything else) but it's so grating because they keep having Cole say this fake deep stuff and tie him to Solas and Varric who have become the Misters Dragon Age but then just ignore the actually interesting stuff about him.

sorry that was too long I'm just constantly baffled by every choice Inquisition ever made

i never mind da book spoilers because i know deep down that whenever i say im going to read them im fully lying to myself

but literally it feels like inquisition is confusing in completely different ways depending on if you have and haven't read it. if you haven't read it you don't know who any of these people are or what's going on, but if you HAVE read it you're confused about why so much is contradicted. they wanted a middle ground sooo bad but they just made a mess. some of this stuff is still news to me i had no idea cold was half chasind wtf.

and yeah. having cole basically have anders' backstory but gone wrong and then be empathetic towards cullen is so crazy to me. recruiting the templars should have corrupted him! cullen could have been the templar he wanted to kill in his companion quest. just ANYTHING that matters.

[sysig]

Sims 2 has played Clinical Trial, it all went by the exact same beats

[danwhobrowses]

For anyone else who is gonna struggle surviving the next 3 weeks with the angsty and tense situation of Callowmoore here's a few things from the last 2 episodes that I feel were underrated and will assist in trying to keep me sane/emotionally stable: - Matching messed up hands built for holding - Fearne nervously playing with her hair as she approaches Ashton - Ashton wanted Fearne to be either the last thing they saw if they died or the first thing they saw when they succeeded - Fearne's admittance corroborates Ashley's 4SD revelation that Fearne is in love with someone in the party but doesn't know how to process the emotions - Fearne wanted Ashton to be happy, while Ashton wanted to feel whole so they would be worthy of the Hells - Ashton twice tried to lead a search for Fearne, and instantly clocking onto Chetney saying he followed Fearne - Fearne making herself look as radiant as possible before giving Ashton the cold shoulder - Ashton only rose to Chetney's provocations until he said 'You hurt Fearne' Use how you will

[taamlok]

people will be like i hate taash because they're sooo immature, unlike my babygirl pookie bear emmrich 😍 who told on them to his boss 🫡 because they called him a skull fucker death mage 😤 which is not nice 😡 and hurt his feelings 😢 he is 55 🥵

[dramas-vs-novels]

Have you ever been to a live-music bar like Gemini? Are they always like mini concerts?

I think Kirin is a special case, like, Jay says the place goes crazy when he's performing.

But also, I'm very very much an introvert and always have been. I've been forced to go to just normal drinking bars before, but I've never even thought of stepping foot inside a club. I can really only guess what they're like from what I've seen on TV.

[ceasarslegion]

The leftism leaving peoples bodies when you tell them that literal terrorist organizations arent the good guys just because theyre against a bad guy

[pizzleyanked]

you know what fucking felt horrible in veilguard though? that if you don't do taash's quest before fire and ice, which i chose not to do because the game grossly mishandled multiculturalism in their quest and to people like me that shit hurts, the writing has rook misgender them in the debriefing after the quest.

yeah, we're introducing the player to the fact that taash is nonbinary; it hadn't been done if you don't have that conversation with them. and i like that they arrive at a nonbinary identity without player input. but the authors could have written it differently: avoid the misgendering during the debrief and have taash tell rook in the conversation you can have right after the debrief.

but no! you didn't know it because you didn't do their quest! shitty party leader! you should feel bad!

[deus-ex-mona]

man. this song reminds me of physiology class

[hanalghilan]

thinking about wisdom spirits becoming pride demons and going completely fucking insane

[no1cutiepatootie]

??!!??!!!

[britneyshakespeare]

should i start reading russian avant-garde theater

[kiefbowl]

here's some more unsolicited adult advice as someone in her 30s who knows there are a lot of twenty somethings and teens that follow her: if you're trying to build a new habit you really want, and are struggling, you have to break it down to the smallest building block possible. If you're failing, you haven't thought small enough. I know it's possible to hear stories of people who just snapped into new life mode one day by "just deciding", but truly what's happening there is a confluence of events and experiences that force the brain into some sort of epiphany. You cannot will an epiphany. It'll never work. For most times of your life, you will need to build habits intentionally, and that means not working against yourself and to set micro goals. like laughably tiny goals. because once that easy tiny goal is met, you can build off it, tiny goal after tiny goal until you reach your big goal.

so for example, if you want to be a morning person that gets up at ass crack dawn so that you can work out, eat brekkie, shower, and get to work at a leisurely pace, and you're not that person because you will hit your snooze button 800 times, you have to get the big picture goal out of your head. think smaller. "I want to get up 15 minutes earlier than I normally do." If you can't do that, make it 5 minutes. "I want to cook breakfast every day" hell no too big. "I want to eat something, anything, before I leave the house" hell yeah, fantastic. When you go to the grocery store to make sure there are things in the house for breakfast, if you keep buying bagels and microwave sandwiches that you ignore, you gotta think smaller. SMALLER. What's something so easy to eat that you'll never say no to. Is it a yogurt? Is it a handful of grapes? Is it a hostess ho ho? is it hot cheetos? FORGET the big picture of the fantasy put-together woman preparing a full nutritious meal that you'd be proud to admit to. Think only of the smallest goal you can achieve. If you know you can't say no to an ice cream sandwich, put a ton of ice cream sandwiches in your freezer and have one for breakfast every day until it's so instilled in you that you gotta get up to eat something you can start diversifying.

It sounds like, from the lack of habit place, that must take forever. But really it doesn't take too long to form the habit once the discipline kicks in. the trick is that you have to give your brain something easy to become disciplined to. If it's too hard, think easier and smaller. No one has to know. Literally no one in the gd world has to know that for 4 weeks when you were 22 you had an ice cream sandwich for breakfast every day. who cares. If it gets you eating oatmeal with fresh fruit in a few months who cares. you did it, yay. smaller, easier. if you can't do it, think smaller and easier. smaller!! EASIER!!! You are not thinking smaller and easier enough. break your brain thinking how small and easy you can go. SMALLER. EVEN SMALLER, SIS.

[diabolocracy]

Dropping this rant here too why not. Copy-pasting from a youtube comment I left on . ... well. A youtube video lmao. Readmore'd cuz long.

haha… in canada the doctors just give you the prescription, don't say anything about any side effects, and when you inquire--at least in my experience--they just tell you "not to worry" about them.

i went to a gp to inquire about autism. he decided (because i was still grieving over my recently deceased, at the time, mother) that i was instead depressed. i left with a prescription for prozac. he did not go over any potential side effects. the medication did nothing but turn me into a frustrated zombie.

i went to a psychiatrist. my aunt came with me. she decided to switch me to a different psych med, i forget what it was. still no talk about potential side effects… the medication did nothing. i weaned myself off and ceased taking anything.

went to a nurse (because we no longer have gps) to inquire about adhd because an audhd friend said i should probably maybe get checked for it. "the psychiatrist you saw checked you for that" (she did not, in fact, checked me for that; it didn't come up. she diagnosed me with a personality disorder within five minutes of conversation. all we did was go over a checklist in her book. adhd, autism, none of that was ever mentioned, but ok, sure??) so they booked me an appointment with a different psyche for my "second opinion" (except, in their own words, it was just to confirm the first psyche's diagnosis… not exactly a "second opinion").

he prescribed me a new medication. this time i checked a leaflet. "may induce aggression." "don't take if you have a family history of glaucoma." i have anger issues (my aunt pressuring me to try this new medication got me so riled up i repeatedly slammed a cupboard door to vent my frustrations. one of the hinges broke so i just tore it the rest of the way off, lol…) and a family history of glaucoma. needless to say i did not take a single pill.

might i also add that that second psychiatrist told me explicitly that i could not have autism because i went to college. like. what? huh? i did work term under a guy that had autism… i'm pretty sure he took the same course in his younger years… i still wonder to this day where that man got his psyche license. a crackerjack box, maybe?

all of this because my brother suggested i get checked for autism. i have an aunt that thinks i might have a touch of the 'tism too. personally i don't care. i still haven't actually been properly checked, by the way!

added bonus: the first psyche saw me while i was zombified on prozac, lol. like i'm pretty sure she got the personality "disorder" right (schizoid) buuuuut… i'm also pretty sure being zooted on a needless medication that only further stunted my emotional response to anything didn't really help, you know? and because of her (and her shoddy notes) no one will give me a REAL second opinion.

this kind of got away from the main topic (informed consent of nasty side effects) lol. oh well.

[sageblus]

anyway unrelated but i might get to see TWO of my very favorite fucking people next week and i am so so fucking excited

[androidboy]

most notable times of being hit on by customers:

guy who tried to impress me with card tricks and failed every single one of them

old man who attempted to get my number when his wife walked away and slipped me his email address ending with “@ aol.com” when i said i don’t do that

cute gay couple that came back to tell me i was cute and then called the shop to ask me out

older professor who i talked to about folklore and told me he dressed as a wizard for recitals saying “this is really embarrassing but umm.. i’d love to get to know you more..” and gave me a receipt with his email address on it

dude in his 40s asking me on a movie date and me saying yes but then he kept starting text conversations with “ahoi hoi”

military guy who said it’d be hot if i killed him with a baseball bat

most notable time a customer did not ask me out:

a man who i knew had a wife and children getting really flustered and saying “um. ive been, uh.. idk if you remember me but um. i come in here a lot and ive uhhh haha umm ive been wanting to ask you for a couple weeks now.. um. have you read the green lantern issue i recommended??????”

[scientia-rex]

A lot of younger people have no idea what aging actually looks and feels like, and the reasons behind it. That ignorance is so dangerous. If you don’t want to “be old,” you aren’t talking about a number of years. I have patients in their late 80s who could still handily beat me in a race—one couple still runs marathons together, in their late 80s—and I lost someone who was in her early 60s to COPD last year. What you want is not youth, it is health.

If you want to still be able to enjoy doing things in your 60s and 70s and 80s and even 90s, what you want to do, right now, is quit smoking, get some activity on a regular basis (a couple of walks a week is WAY better for you than nothing; increasing from 1 hour a day of cardio to 1.5 will buy you very little), and eat some plants. That’s it. No magic to it. No secret weird tricks. Don’t poison yourself, move around so your body doesn’t forget how, and eat plants.

If you have trouble moving around now because of mobility limitations, bad news: you still need to move around, not because it’s immoral not to, but because that’s still the best advice we have. I highly recommend looking up the Sit and Be Fit series; it is freely available and has exercises that can be done in a chair, which are suitable for people with limited mobility or poor balance. POTS sufferers, I’m looking at you.

If you have trouble eating plants because of dietary issues (they cause gas, etc.) or just because they’re bitter (super taster with texture issues here!), bad news. You still want to find a way to get some plants into your body on a regular basis. I know. It sucks. The only way I can do it is restaurants—they can make salads taste like food. I can also tolerate some bagged salads. On bad weeks, the OCD with contamination focus gets so bad I just can’t. However, canned beans always seem “safe,” and they taste a bit like candy, so they’re a good fallback.

If you smoke and you have tried quitting a million times and you’re just not ready to, bad news. You still need to quit. Your body needs you to try and keep trying. Your brain needs it, too. Damaging small blood vessels racks up cumulative damage over time that your body can start trying to reverse as soon as you quit. I know it’s insanely, absurdly addictive. You still need to.

You cannot rules lawyer your way past your body’s basic needs. It needs food, sleep, activity, and the absence of poison. Those are both small things and big asks. You cannot sustain a routine based on punishment, so don’t punish your body. Find ways to include these things that are enjoyable and rewarding instead. Experiment. There is no reason not to experiment—you don’t have to know instantly what’s going to work for you and what won’t, you just need to be willing to try things and make changes when things aren’t working for you.

You will still age. Your body will stop making collagen and elastin. Tissues you can see and tissues you can’t see will both sag. Cushioning tissues under your skin will get thinner. You’ll bruise more easily. Skin will tear more easily. Accumulated sun damage will start to show more and more. Joints will begin to show arthritis. Tendons and ligaments will get weaker and get injured more easily, as will muscles. Bones will lose mass and get easier to break. You’ll get tired more easily.

But you know what makes the difference between being dead, or as good as, in your 60s vs your 90s? Activity, plants, and quitting smoking. And don’t do meth. Saw a 58-year-old guy this week who is going to have a heart attack if he doesn’t quit whatever stimulant he’s on. I pretended to believe it was just the cigarettes, and maybe it is, but meth and cocaine will kill you quicker. Stop poisoning yourself.

Baby steps; take it one step at a time; you don’t need to have everything figured out right now. But you do need to be working on figuring things out.