#triggery

[angelbvn]

it’s so cold :(

[not-poignant]

Happy New Year! My question is for Arden in Falling Falling Starz. Does he compartmentalise when he practices Judo? I’ve never done Judo but I’ve done Jiujitsu and there is a lot of touching in that sport that I would think falls into his hard limit touching.

There is a ton of grappling in judo!

But it doesn't trigger Arden. First, he's very competent at it, so he's actually confident he can throw just about anyone that comes at him, and when he's putting himself in positions to be thrown it's specifically with newbies / people he's educating so he can control the situation.

Second, he started learning before he was molested/assaulted, so his associations with the dojo, and that kind of touch/pressure/movement, were already firmly in place as something safe and fun.

Third, it's non-sexual!

Fourth, triggers aren't logical. This one should probably have gone first, because it's the most important one. Triggers aren't logical. As an example, I have a C-PTSD and PTSD from a lot of different things, and as an example of a hit-and-miss trigger around surgical trauma, I can't watch any reality TV about medical stuff or surgeries but I can watch medical dramas if they're fictional and handle people talking about medical stuff they've gone through. I don't know why reality TV is the hard line, and I don't need to, and no one else needs to, that's where the trigger manifests (that and in real hospitals). You'd assume, using your logic, that because there's a lot of exposure to medical stuff and graphic surgical depiction in fictional TV on the subject, or in friends talking about it in detail, I'd find it equally as triggery but I don't not only find it less triggery, I don't find it triggery at all. That part of my brain simply doesn't wake up, and has zoned it into the safe zone.

Triggers don't have to be consistent - in fact it's more realistic if they're not.

Judo is a non-sexual sport that was brought into Arden's life before he was hurt by his brother, where Arden is very competent and knows what he's doing. Despite the proximity and physical closeness, judo helped Arden to feel safe and protected, especially in the chaotic aftermath of what happened to him. And also: triggers do not give the smallest shit about being consistent and/or logical. Like, sometimes, they do! And sometimes it's just...they do not care.

[matoitech]

the undine part of the new dunmeshi ep has a RLY cool style its much more studio triggery and i love how its animated

[aceyanaheim]

kishimoto: tehee isnt it funny they're girls so they diet and care about being skinny isnt that funny im so funny. ( 😬🙄💩)

me was a girl child in the 2000s: nah that's disordered eating/diet culture dressed as "girl children told they need to be pretty" fam.

[f4y3w00d5]

jdsjfgdjsgfsghdf i dont wanna eat lunch ewww

[ofviolentdeath]

Characters::Chance and Berk Word Count::826

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The conversation with Robbie had left Chance...shaken? He wasn't even sure if that was the right word. There was still this pulling in his chest, this dull ache and he had been startled to find wetness on his cheeks when he left the house.

Hell, he had barely said more than two words to his mom or Az on his way out, still too busy trying to process things.

Of all of the kids, Robbie had been the one he hadn't expected to want him out of his life and he wasn't sure how to handle that. Giving him that choice to say for sure what he wanted hadn't been easy either. Especially since Chance hadn't even offered Berk that same opportunity.

Berk.

The thought barely entered his head before he was standing in front of his son's door, unsure if he should even really be there. It had always been a part of their agreement, that Chance wouldn't just show up unannounced so long as Berk kept to their set schedule.

It wasn't enough to keep him from slowly reaching out and knocking on the door, two sharp taps, careful only to use his knuckles instead of his clenched fist.

His dad was the last person Berk had been expecting and he glanced over his shoulder before slipping outside and closing the door. Luke wasn't there but that didn't mean Berk wanted Chance inside of his home if he could help it.

"What are you doing here?"

He sounded...tired? He looked like he hadn't been sleeping and Chance couldn't help but frown at that.

"Robbie does not want me around now that he knows everything." The words were slow, careful. He half expected Berk to tell him that was a good thing. Jack would have said worse.

Ah. That made sense to some degree, but it didn't explain why he was here.

"That doesn't answer the question."

Chance was silent, weighing the words. "If I had given you the choice, would you have gone no contact with me like Jack?" he finally asked, the words much quieter than he expected them to come out.

There had been a time, once, where Robbie's words wouldn't have bothered him, but whatever Cam had done to him all those years ago had shaken something loose that he didn't know how to tape back down.

Berk regarded him for a moment before he sighed and open the door, disappearing inside. He left the door open but when when his father didn't follow him, he sighed and called out over his shoulder.

"Are you going to come in and close the door or are you just going to stand there?"

The invitation felt weird but Chance took it, closing the door behind him but not venturing far beyond that. He had never actually seen the inside of Berk's place before and he was trying his best to be respectful of it.

When Berk reappeared, he had two open bottles of beer in his hands and he offered one to his father before dropping down on his favorite chair.

He nodded his thanks as he accepted the drink and perched on the very edge of the threadbare couch. Despite how it looked, it was shockingly comfortable.

"So. You want to know if I would go no contact if you let me?"

A part of him had dreamed of being asked that but it was funny how the answer on the tip of his tongue wasn't the one Berk had always dreamed of giving.

"No. Maybe once, when it was all still fresh but..." Berk trailed off and shook his head before taking a drink of his beer. "You're not a good person, I don't think you could be, but you did your best. It wasn't great, but seeing how you've been trying to make sure we're all okay in the wake of mom breaking, it's something. Even if I had been no contact when it all happened, I think I would have given you a chance in light of this."

"For the record, I don't think Robbie'll hate you forever."

Part of him wanted to ask why, to understand, but he knew it wouldn't help. Chance could have it explained to him in every possible way and he would still never understand the emotional aspect of it.

He nodded though, took a drink of his own beer, and watched his son as if seeing him for the first time.

"You deserved better too. You're right. I did try. But that doesn't mean it was enough."

Berk had certainly turned out better than he should have, all things considered, but Chance was proud of him.

"I hope Robbie gets the chance to get to where you are someday."

Chance set the beer bottle aside and stood, one hand gripping Ber's shoulder for a moment before he was simply gone, the open bottle the only physical proof he had been there at all.

[daincrediblegg]

the one thing I think I hate the most about my course schedule this semester is that like. I spend 4 days of my week in the worst most brain-rottingly "the professor just shares her own opinions about the subject matter and expects you to take it as gospel with no student conversation on the materials presented" (which is never. NEVER. how a theory class should ever be run) and I have to do that in the middle of the fucking day which means I don't have anywhere to go at the end of all that to decompress and get into a better mood, so instead I have to spend my 3 days off each week recovering from that, and by the time I feel myself again, I gotta go back and do it all over again.

[rackartyg]

is the tweet about astarion being a romantic cringe and ooc? yes. however i just can’t enjoy mocking it, even in private, because i know the tweeter got harassed so bad over it they privated their account. it’s just not fun complaining then

[not-poignant]

Good evening! I've been binge reading game theory and have noticed a lot of the chapters have a "please take care of yourself" disclaimer. What do you mean by that? I've never seen it in fic context, so I guess I'm just curious :) Also I'm in love with these idiots and I want only good things for them- thank you for writing them 🥺💕

Hi anon!

I used to use this one a lot more but basically some of the content I write can be thought of as pretty problematic - I write unhealthy relationships, I write abusive dynamics, and I write 'rape intended to be hot.'

Some people find these things triggery because they have post-trauma. It might be that they can read everything else but a particular chapter sets them off, or they might forget that they have the choice to look after themselves after difficult chapters. In these cases, people may find that they have a really bad day / evening / several days when they encounter this content and sort of forget that they might need limited or careful exposure on some themes.

I put these reminders in (I tend to use it only on some of the most 'problematic' chapters these days) so that people will remember that sometimes I write content that can be triggering, and to either read when they're in a decent headspace to, or to just...take care of themselves.

If you're not one of those people then the warnings don't apply to you and you don't have to worry about it! :D The warnings won't apply to most people, tbh, just like my 'kissing' trigger warning doesn't apply to most people when I use it these days.

But I've had a lot of people over the years express gratitude for the reminders, so I still do it.

(Also it's so awesome that you've been reading Game Theory!! They do get good things, but they do get an awful lot of whump too lol).

[terresdebrume]

Summary:

“Jamie. I’m actually asking this time. Why would you consider seeing him?”

[...]

Jamie looks at him for a long time—at least if feels like fucking forever—his hands visibly twisting under the cotton of his singlet as he progressively hunches in lower and lower. Roy’s starting to wonder if he should attempt a hug, when Jamie mumbles something he doesn’t quite catch.

“What?”

Jamie visibly tries—and fails—to summon some kind of annoyance.

“Jesus,” he says anyway, no heat at all behind the word, “get your fucking ears checked, mate. I said I want me dad.”

OR: Roy learns that James is in rehab and has invited Jamie to go see him. He has opinions about this, but then so does Jamie.

Read on AO3

[geekyfifi]

Having to block people because people can't tag properly 🤬

[spongebobheritageposts]

date of origin: January 6th, 2024

your own. personal. spongebob.

someone who can't breathe air.

someone who's square.

[not-poignant]

That new chapter of Underline the Blue!!!!! I am so so sad for poor Nate but I cannot wait to watch the breakdown before the comfort. Your writing just hits everything so perfectly - it’s hard to capture that loss of self that happens in emotionally/psychologically abusive relationships. It’s a bit of a tough read at times - Nate’s inner monologue inspires a lot of “oh yikes that was Me” - but it’s so obviously written with sensitivity and care that I gobble it up immediately. This is the first work I’ve read maybe ever that tackles a relationship where having ptsd or c-ptsd and enacting abuse upon your partner aren’t mutually exclusive things. Nate’s going to have a very hard road untangling that I’m sure, it’s not easy to parse. This is all very rambling but I just wanted to gush about how much I love this whole premise and what you’re doing with Nate and Janusz’s relationship. Also I hope that Christian gets hit by a truck <3

Nate's story is definitely one of those stories where folks have to take care of themselves while reading, because I think it's going to hit a lot closer to home for some folks (like yourself, anon), and therefore runs the risk of being a lot more triggery than some of my other stories.

It's good to practice self-care while reading, such as knowing that if you're likely to be hit hard by a particular story, making sure you know what you're going to do after reading - maybe watching a short video you love, or immediately eating something, or drinking something to stay grounded. Those of us who love reading angst and hurt/comfort can sometimes drop the self-care part of the process, and honestly sometimes it's really not necessary because these genres can be invigorating in their own ways! But that can make it extra heavy when it does get to us personally <333

I'm glad you're enjoying the story! And it's really important to me to explore like... /thinks/ how having a mental illness doesn't exempt you from abusive behaviour. This is particularly important to me as someone with PTSD/C-PTSD, and also as someone who has known folks with these disorders who have also been horrendously abusive, where the mental illness is still very real, but so is the inexcusable horrific abuse.

So yeah, I figure it's time to write that story, and I'm glad I'm getting to.

Christian does really need to be hit by a truck though, he's the worst. <3

[rincewind87]

I'm apparently as social as a frightened cat.

My wife brought a friend home.

I briefly emerged for the promise of food and drink.

Now I will hide in the basement for the remainder of the friend's visit.

"Do you mind sleeping on the couch?"

You couldn't pay me to come upstairs.

I emerge periodically while the visitor is here.

Sometimes I am invisible. Sometimes I end up as the center of attention.

Also, yes, I am eating off a plate of lunch meat. I can't eat cheese or wheat. The only snacks left are meat.

I am a cat. I told you.

[1mnobodywhoareyou]

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[koushirouizumi]

{Major Implied} #TheBeginningSpoilers #The Beginning Spoilers

('The Beginning' initial rambling under 'read more') {Note: This is some of my reaction BEFORE Seeing} [So please note I Will Add Additional Contexts I got later but for the most part...]

THIS IS THE CLIP I was Referring to in advance {WARNING FOR} MAJOR RUI-INVOLVED The Beginning Spoilers (I was talking to a mutual who gave me a run-down review)

(If you can't tell, I was Venting at concepts like infertile parents being treated/handled as a potential) Negative

Further Reading: Koushiro's + Izumi Family's Timeline {Notes} in Hikarigaoka

*I mention something towards end but I was mis-remembering what it was called and it's more like 'premature birth' that leads to "early" death... {And yes we've even had this happen in my ancestors' pasts too, notably on my Grandpa-married-to-J E W I S H-grandma ends' end. Grandpa E.'s youngest sibling {not even a year old} passed that way, along with the child of a cousin + their fam much later on, and they (both) have dedicated spots in our familys' plot, also very near where my J e w i s h Grandma is now buried. ... So I Have Feelings on Such Issues, Too.}