#tznius

[violapeeps-blog]

Modest Person: I dress modest as a choice! I do it for my own personal reasons or for faith, but it's my choice. It's more than just dressing this way, to me modesty is-

Everyone: Oh mY gOsH! WhO's MaKiNg yOu Do ThAt? I fEel sO bAd fOr YoU!!!!

Modest Person: Oh-It's actually my choice

Everyone: I jUsT fEeL SoOoO bAd? WaNt To bOrrOw My ClOtheS? I wOn'T teLL.

Vs.

Influencer: *wears a modest outfit in a pic*

Everyone: Omg! What a cute trend! Long skirts are sooo cute!

[gay-jewish-bucky]

Does anyone have non-Orthodox sources on covering your hair as an unmarried Jew? I want to learn more about taking on that mitzvah, but don't feel that these available sources properly reflect the opinions, reasoning, and experiences of those of us in liberal Jewish communities.

[koshercosplay]

hey. Any good easy to be tznuis Purim costume ideas? Love your blog.

YES I have many, you have come to the right place anon <3

kuzco from the emperor's new groove is a good one, in that it's totally tznius without changing anything and is also INSTANTLY recognizable (and fun)

terra from teen titans (besides being one of the characters of all time) is a good one that's pretty simple to adjust to being tznius. I don't feel comfortable in crop tops so I just,,, didn't wear one when I cosplayed her. slap on a flairy yellow skirt and you're good to go!

princess leia! jewish icon! I cosplayed her to the renfaire a bunch of years ago and it was a blast

I cosplayed her with shorts, but luz noceda from the owl house would be pretty easy, wear a long sleeve shirt and a denim skirt instead!

some other ideas:

cruella deville is super easy, wear a black dress with a higher neckline!

I've thought for YEARS that the thirteenth doctor's look would be a super simple tznius cosplay with a long swishy skirt since her pants are already so wide

hope some of these ideas help you anon! I currently do wear pants but I remember how difficult (and often annoying) it was to find good, recognizable, and fun cosplays that were still tznius.

happy cosplaying! ❤️

[modestly-trying]

Do any of you guys have modest swimwear recommendations (i really only need a top/shirt but im open to any recommendations)

[laineystein]

Respect. It’s so simple. 💁🏻‍♀️

[disgruntled-detectives]

I’ve had half a drink and I’m feeling it so now I’m overthinking.

I’m converting reform and thinking about dressing more tznius and covering my hair as a married woman. But like. Is that weird? Also I absolutely still will be wearing pants. I’m more comfortable in pants.

And then I also wonder..am I called to this because I’m fat and wanna hide behind more modest clothing? Like. I don’t know. I know fat women find a lot of freedom in dressing more scantily. But I just…I like covering up. But. Is that cause low self esteem? I don’t know!

But then again, I LOVE covering my hair and have since I was a kid. I remember as a kid keeping my hair in a towel far longer than necessary because I liked it. I love my hair and I also love making it feel special. And I’m autistic and love the sensation. I love wearing hats and beanies because I love something on my head.

I’m not Jewish yet, so….cultural appropriation? But like. I know wearing scarf in your hair isn’t exclusive to one culture. But still. Is it??

Then there’s the feminist side of me. I will not dress for men. I’ve always valued dressing for myself. And this is something I want. But…what if it’s not? I have the same feelings around makeup.

My feelings are super complicated, yo.

[shadowycoffeebean]

would fursuits be considered tznuis

[tiredfemininity]

I'm surprised how little I see detrans people who find comfort in religion.

I didn't detransition because of my faith, but to me, my femininity is something I couldn't find comfort in without my faith. When I had just detransitioned, I saw myself falling back into the teenage desire of oversexualising myself in my femininity.

That's when I discovered how much I love modesty.

I covered my hair, and my femininity became about autonomy and choice.

I put on a long skirt, and my femininity became about being incognito.

Nobody needs to know what my hair and body looks like.

Religious modesty saved me from oversexualising myself for the male gaze as an attempt to seek validation in my newly found role as a woman.

[isadora-b-l-e]

liberals when someone’s definition of sexual liberation and empowerment involves modesty

[gay-jewish-bucky]

If certain things fall into place, I'm planning on starting to cover my hair by Passover 👀

[sheksface]

[modestly-trying]

It’s always interesting when people try to decide why others are modest for them. Like no I’m not modest cause I think my body needs to be hidden or is dirty or because men say so and I have to listen to men I live in a highly antisemitic environment as in my father has outright said hitler is right type of antisemitic (while he’s never physically violent this is still a very not fun environment) because of this environment I don’t get to really do the things I need to do to move forward in converting I had to stop going to services I don’t get to celebrate holidays there’s no lighting candles for me or Seder or anything else I get to read my books and say prayers and blessing when I’m by myself I can occasionally catch services when they are streamed but I don’t get a lot of privacy so that can be tricky to but you know what I can do I can control how I dress I can consciously think about God and the day I get to move forward with converting every single day while I get dressed things like clothes shopping become ways for me to connect with God and to think/remember the people and community I want to join Modesty isn’t always done for one reason and I wish people would not reduce it to one reason or say it’s only ever done for misogynistic reasons

[greenflower21]

Ok but What if I go to a Con dressed as FRUM C3PO?

[esthersurkis]

I was bored at the bus and then I painted this.

[laineystein]

what do you consider modest? like what do you cover that you consider to be modest?

My personal standard of modesty is obviously not wearing pants, covering my shoulders and collarbones, and doing my best to cover my knees and elbows. To be honest, I’m not great at covering my elbows and a lot of the time my knees are just barely covered. But these are the things that keep me tznius (when I’m in a situation that calls for it).

[jellyfishfem]

I love dressing tznius

Not really in the I Obey Religion way but in the I was Traumatized By Men So Much I Dislike Men So Much I Want Them To See As Little Of Me As Possible way. Maybe this is because of my ex, the trauma and all. I don’t know. I wish I could hide behind a huge white blanket everywhere I go, with only two holes for my eyes. Like a ghost. I do not want men to perceive me. I want them to leave me alone. I am minding my business, so should you be minding yours. I don’t want them to try to converse with me. They are not allowed to see me. I just want to be left alone. I am tired.