#undisciplining

[whetstonefires]

Madam Yu is so much of a character in so little space, it's fantastic, and it's funny to me being also in the Scum Villain fandom because. She is very much set up on the same character framework as Shen Jiu. She's that same Kind Of A Guy.

But ofc her trauma foundation is in being a proud woman in a world that does not value womanhood, and without the social skills to get anyone to forgive her for it. So she's less violently fucked up than he is.

But like him, she's all twisted up around the sensation that her suffering is her own fault for being the wrong sort of person. Which is an unutterably fucking corrosive mindset.

And I really think that she doesn't in the least believe that her husband loved or had an affair with Cangse Sanren. She's humiliated that other people believe it, and furious that he's encouraged them to, but she doesn't think it's true.

What she thinks is that Jiang Fengmian liked Cangse Sanren. As a person.

And of course, he doesn't like her. Because who could? Yu Ziyuan is not the sort of person people like.

And then Jiang Cheng, her son who takes after her, is basically just an extension of herself. So obviously, his father doesn't like him, either.

And she says this. Out loud, in front of him. While having honestly a really embarrassing meltdown.

I'm sure one of the things driving it is worry, because as she'd just acknowledged even though she's now blaming her husband about it they have to send either Jiang Cheng or Jiang Yanli into the hands of the Wen or face reprisals, which she doesn't want to face either, and obviously Jiang Yanli would be toast.

But if your response to worrying about your kid is to make fun of him, yell at him, shame him, and shout that his father doesn't love him in a weird tantrum before storming out and going to your room where he isn't allowed, you are failing as a parent on such a fantastic variety of levels idk where to start.

[skywalkr-nberrie]

Throughout her career as Queen and later as a Republic Senator, Padmé became desensitized to romantic advances. Her life's work was surrounded by people who were fake, two-faced, manipulative, and full of loud bravado. Nobody was sincere, and anyone who approached her always had ulterior motives, whether seeking to benefit from her high status or gain importance by association.

What's often overlooked, however, is that Padmé also harbored similar reservations about the Jedi. While she deeply respected and admired the Jedi, she found their mannerisms, etiquette, and stoicism unsettling at times:

Padmé's discomfort with the Jedi endures, unaffected by her numerous encounters. This lingering unease is consistently reflected in her thoughts, as recorded in the Queen Amidala Journal and other Star Wars novels.

Padmé admits they’re brave, wise, and respected beings but she can’t fathom them the way they are in nature. She finds them rather irritating 😂

As we see here^^ Padmé also finds their lack of emotional repression quite obnoxious as well. So much that she’d made a vow that if she were to ever become Chancellor, she’d have every Jedi demonstrate at least “one emotion” a year.

{When the topic comes to companionship, trust, and seeking aid, Padmé has enough professionalism to know that the Jedi are people she can always rely on. She heavily respects them and trusts them no matter what. But outside the professionalism, she doesn’t mesh well at all with them because her ideals, values, and beliefs are like night and day with theirs.}

This understanding of Padmé's perspective sheds light on why she fell deeply in love with Anakin. She famously declares him the only Jedi she could ever love, and it's clear why. Despite the odds against them – his Jedi vows, her senatorial duties – Anakin proves his devotion, showing Padmé the depth of his love and desire. Passionate and hopeless romantics, Padmé and Anakin share a profound connection. Much like kindred spirits. Anakin's all-consuming passion resonates deeply with Padmé. His patience, vulnerability, and unwavering commitment ultimately capture Padmé's heart, making him her soulmate.

[eliounora]

financial struggles are annoying because there's not much you can do to earn more. like even if I work harder at my job, I won't get any bonuses or raises, I'll just be paid my low ass salary no matter what I do. like boy I wish meritocracy was real

[sailorgundam308]

The reason I dont study art as much as I should is cause I get crazy frustrated whenever I do CAUSE I CANT DO THE SHIT I SEE IN MY HEAD WHYYY argh

but eh. gotta get a grip.

[lemonduckisnowawake]

You know. Something I noticed about myself is that I enjoy learning to like something. In other words, sometimes I "force" myself to like something or sit through it until I start to actually genuinely enjoy the piece of media. Because, sometimes, it's less about "forcing" and really about training yourself to the direction and way you care about being. I care about seeing better females written in fiction, for example? Then I'll force myself to sit through a story that is well-done, even if it doesn't grip me immediately or even at all. And sometimes, it'll be something I enjoy fondly, sometimes it'll end up consuming my life and give me a new genre to suffer and die over, which is actually the worst. BUT THE POINT

[theexodvs]

If you feel a compulsion to discuss sex with coworkers who are not already discussing it, and do not attempt to change the subject or walk away when they discuss it, you are a pig.

If you feel a compulsion to touch coworkers more intimately than a handshake, and find excuses to reciprocate when they touch you more intimately, you are a pig.

If you feel a compulsion to seek intimate relationships with coworkers, and don't turn them down firmly but politely when they approach you for the same, you are a pig.

If you feel a compulsion to do any of these things, you will not cultivate the reputation necessary to deflect accusations of sexual harassment in the workplace. And you should be ashamed of yourself.

[angels444yuri]

you will NEVER catch me forcing myself to do anything ever. if i'm not feeling it today then oh well 😙

[absintheanflare]

when (if, realistically, depending on my computer since it is.. old) i do stream i hope i get to make friends through it before i probably end up giving up on it (again)

[itspileofgoodthings]

I should have realized this before but 😭😭😭 Davy is the undisciplined heart 😭😭😭 and Agnes is the disciplined heart 😭😭😭 and I just 😭😭😭

[saiintvalentiine]

i gotta read my pages for the day brb

[transmechanicus]

Kind of hard to ask as anon

But you doing ok?

Need to vent?

Hi very kind and thoughtful of you to ask, i am doing mmmmm suboptimal but i do not need to vent to a person per se, so much as i need to say absolutely insane shit in my tags and have everyone pretend not to see <3

[blissle-a]

Aonunete fluff<3

[rolandkaros]

everyone talking about sincaraz final being too early for them and the universe has smiled upon me for once because its at 10 am. but of course you can never get too cocky because i have a class at 10 am. so im gonna need aryna and madi to take forever and also the doubles final to take forever so i can watch at least some of sincaraz.

[howifeltabouthim]

They say that self-control is a finite resource and it seemed to Ivy that after her sixteenth birthday, she'd already used up her lifetime's worth of moderation and discipline and henceforth could never deny herself a single thing, not even a cup of coffee.

Susie Yang, from White Ivy

[saltuary]

headcanon . If Faramir is especially fond of a person, truly at ease, or deeply amused – look closely. He has a rare, secret smile, the kind that scrunches his nose.

[toasteaa]

I miss being a musician so bad guys it hurts me to not be in a group playing music anymore I NEED to be in an orchestra except I CAN'T because orchestras DON'T HAVE SAXOPHONISTS O(-(