#usingyourvoice

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I may appear quiet natured but underneath all of that I am pretty expressive. Growing up and going into young adulthood I was more concerned with what others thought because of what I saw and was taught directly and indirectly. I used my writing as a tool, it was much easier to express myself that way. People who took the time to actually get to know me knew that I had a lot to say and more depth. I realized silencing myself was doing more harm than good. When you don’t express yourself, that leaves room for anger to come out in unpleasant ways to say the least. When I question my path and if I should not present myself a certain way out of concern of what others think, I get reminders to speak as authentically as I can and be unapologetic about it. If you have been following my post on Instagram, I’ve been doing posts about the archetypes and this reminds me of the prostitute archetype. Do not sell yourself for the approval of others or to not step on people toes. People are going to say and feel regardless. #usingyourvoice #speakup #authenticity #beyourself #loveunapologetically https://www.instagram.com/p/CFChAw9pZ9d/?igshid=bzyf7pu38a10

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Model of Resilience

My Books Cerebral Palsy: ‘A Story’ and ‘Spirituality, Healing and Me’ together with my blog, are resilience. I didn’t give in or up.

Instead, I found an acceptance, an understanding, and came through a tumultuous life to participate in a journey of self-discovery; to get to know me, to come face to face with a disability I didn’t know I had.

But the model of resilience, doesn’t come without its price. But it’s a price worth taking if the opportunity arises. However the opportunity arises, you have to be ready to recognise its signs, however those signs manifest.

From a small age, (and I apologise if I have said it before), I was always tied to something bigger. I grew up feeling protected without knowing what that protection was. I believed my time would come, and that I would find out about my diagnosis; I was sure about that.

You need to know and work with your truth, be resilient and continue to work with your truth, no matter what. You can’t sway from your truth, because the moment you do, you may loose your resilience and as a consequence can fail to bounce back.

I had invested too much energy into myself to give up. I am honest, I say what I feel, I write about my experiences, what I know and what I see. What I write about improves my mental health and improves my quality of life.

Without writing about my experiences, without bringing my ‘back story’ to life through writing my books, I would still struggle to comprehend, struggled to understand anything about me, my disability, or my life.

If you’re looking for more info, or fancy grabbing your copy, check out this link – https://linktr.ee/Ilana_Estelle

For more inspirational, life-changing blogs, please check out my site https://www.thecpdiary.com

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Write a Book, D*** It....

Write a Book, D*** It….

Words have always been my muse, my vice, my addiction. They have been my RX, my therapy, my refuge. I have inscribed thoughts and brought visions to life, first on scribbled paper, and later on carefully crafted tech platforms, as a way of not only being a beacon of light to those struggling in the dark around me, but first in a desperate attempt to both remember who I was, and more importantly…

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There is power in your voice. What are you standing for? #speakupspeakout #standingtall #tacklinginequalities #usingyourvoice #blackspeaker #reimagining #expressingemotions #sharingthepassion #curiosityismycompass #collectiveconsciousness #mindfulleadership https://www.instagram.com/p/Ck2fOJ5DmiR/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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It’s your voice

“Stop minimizing their disrespect. It’s costing you peace.” – Unknown

This quote is spot on. Yes, we’re all born with a voice. If you don’t use your voice, someone will use your voice for you and can take advantage. If you are in touch with someone who is disrespectful, it is also important to speak out.

As a child I had no voice, and although I didn’t generally say a lot, if I was blamed for something that wasn’t my fault, I would often go back in and have my say.

Where like me you have found your voice, not everyone will appreciate you have found it; instead they may feel threatened, particularly if they haven’t found theirs. But if you have found your voice that’s not something you should concern yourself with, but it is something others need to resolve for themselves.

Instead, they may choose to distance themselves because they may not like the fact you have found your voice. If they’re not keen, you can always wish them well and move on with your life. Everyone has a right to find their voice.

From my own experiences, finding your voice not only gives you clarity on a life lived, but finding your voice is your truth, and it brings about the peace and the freedom to choose how you live your life. In a world where others are mostly vying to be the same so they fit in, it makes you unique.

If you would like to check out my books to see how they can help you with your healing, both books are available to purchase, just follow the links… https://linktr.ee/Ilana_Estelle

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Footnote to Yesterday’s Disclosure

As a footnote to yesterday’s disclosure, I would like to address an elephant in the room. It had actually been ASKED of me way back during my original court proceedings, in several different ways, why I chose my first husband; and that, in essence, what did I expect to get for marrying a black guy from the ghetto? This whole racist shame blame was one of the reasons I stayed married, and tried…